Let’s say you see a group of girls sitting talking with each other, you approach them sit down and say “hey guys you look cute, what’s your names?” and their reaction is bad telling you: “None of your business, get lost”

Sure, you could argue they are unfriendly bitches, and that other girls might be more friendly (which is true) and that you skipped a bullet, but there is actually a good reason why they reacted badly, which is because the way you did that approach was intrusive and presumptuous.

Immediately asking for their names without first gauging their interest in a conversation is presumptuous because it assumes they wanted to engage with an stranger, even though they had not indicated or given you permission to do it first.

You can again obviously keep doing the other approaches that got you a bad reaction, but if you are a beginner who have some anxieties and tour goal is to just approach i na way that avoids those negative reactions, the best way is to do it the following way.

You should seek permission to engage with them in a conversation, for example:

“Hey, I don’t mean to interrupt your conversation because i know that you did not come here to speak with some random guy, and I respect that so I’ll be quick. The thing is i saw your friend here and i thought “oh man, she is just my type, and i thought i would regret it if i didn’t at least try to get to know who she is as a person, you feel me?”

Here is why this opener is more likely to be received well even if they are not interested:

1 - Acknowledges Boundaries:

By starting with “I don’t mean to interrupt,” you immediately show respect for their space and autonomy, making it clear you’re aware they didn’t come there expecting to meet a stranger. This reduces any sense of intrusion.

2 - Seeks Permission:

The phrasing “I’ll be quick” and the acknowledgment of their current activity subtly ask for consent or permission to continue the conversation. This shows social awareness and makes them more likely to listen.

3 - Expresses Honest Intentions:

By sharing why you approached, you make the interaction feel genuine and avoid confusion. Saying “you are just my type” shows vulnerability and confidence without being overwhelming, which can disarm potential defensiveness

4 - Frames It Casually:

Adding “you feel me?” makes it sound natural and conversational, rather than rehearsed or overly formal. This helps build rapport.

Even if they were not interested they would respond better because you showed respect and awareness of the social situation they were in which makes them feel understood right away and thus makes it more likely they would give a softer more polite reaction.

You can again obviously keep doing the other approaches that got you a bad reaction, but if you are a beginner who have some anxieties and tour goal is to just approach i na way that avoids those negative reactions, the best way is to do it this way.