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[–]stevenmarkryan 8 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
You should have made a definite date on the spot. And not coffee. But that's done. Just CALL HER, ask when she's available and lock in a time and place.
[–]Zoidberg22 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
In this case I don't know if there's attraction there, where sometimes I can tell during an interaction, here it's tepid at best. Has dilated pupils though but unlike other girls I haven't hugged her despite doing light kino. Also she isn't that girly but isn't manly if you know what I mean. I just said let's grab a coffee. And this was before an exam by the way. Should I change it? I'm fine with a slow burn here, and imagine she is of that mind.
[–]Moderatorrecyclablebanthas 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This isn't about framing.
It's once again about "How do I ask someone out."
The answer is that you're still making this too complicated.
Don't you have your own routine, man?!
Next time you're going to go to coffee, just text her a few hours before and invite her to join you.
Next time you're going to go to the damn library, invite her to join you.
Next time you do something that college students do regularly, like freaking EAT, text her a short time before, or a day before.
[–]Zoidberg22 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thanks. Just that wondering if coffee is too simple despite it being low pressure.
Also scared of her flaking, and scared of escalating if it gets to that point. I've read that you should only text for logistics and never text more than 2 days before setting something up.
And, how do you text a girl who you want to have plans with but can't think of anywhere to take her, with also saying it's a hangout, not a date right?
As well, I'm worried that if I don't do heavy kino or kiss a girl at the end of a hangout/date she'll leave me. Is that true?
[–]Moderatorrecyclablebanthas 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
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Too simple?
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Dude.
Why
do you have to make things to complicated?
Why would you think that simple is bad? It's not. You don't need a freaking Rube Goldberg machine to set up a meet.
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Also scared of her flaking, and scared of escalating if it gets to that point.
So just don't try, right?
Or try and you won't have to wonder "what would have happened if I had tried?"
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I've read that you should only text for logistics
Texting for logistics is just a guideline. If she texts you or something reminds you of her, there's theoretically nothing wrong with pinging someone.
The trick is, don't just text if you're bored or looking for validation about if she's interested.
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and never text more than 2 days before setting something up.
Too. complicated. This is a bullshit rule and you honestly need to stop reading all this stuff. You are enough now.
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You are fixated on calling the meet something like a hangout or a date. Fucking waste of time. Maybe you don't need to call it anything.
Maybe you can just say, "Hey, I'm going to blahblahblah for coffee.... you're welcome to join me!" Notice how I didn't need to call it shit?
Also, how to text when you want to have plans? I literally just did that. You fucking know how to do this, too. You can understand the concept of saying that you're planning to do something and she can join you. Stop insulting your own intelligence.
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As well, I'm worried that if I don't do heavy kino or kiss a girl at the end of a hangout/date she'll leave me.
I'm not even going to answer this. It's like you forget everything I answer after an hour anyway.
[–]Steve_Savage 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you have her number you're 50% there. Just do something simple like "Sup Girl". "Thinking you, me, coffee." It shows confidence and masculinity. Don't do "gee I really like you maybe we could have coffee sometime plzzzz"
[–]throwaway14304190 -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Why coffee?
[–]Zoidberg22 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I barely know her
[–]throwaway14304190 -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You think she'd be excited to have coffee? I'd imagine that's something a certain group of people say to here, I'll let you decide if you want to be apart of that group.
I guess. Don't know if she's attracted at all. Just don't know what else to invite her to that's low pressure
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