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Yes. ​ LSD + public places in urban environments = tempting fate. Mixing LSD + weed = tempting fate. LSD + spending your trip with a person you are't super close = tempting fate. ​ OP is doing a lot of tempting fate.
/r/seduction09/01/20 07:23 PM
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You're asking for trouble with set and setting. ​ That said, sex on acid is a truly mind-melting experience.
/r/seduction09/01/20 02:51 PM
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It is true. If you chase women, they run. ​ (unless they're malfunctioning)
/r/seduction29/11/19 06:43 PM
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Always. ​ If she likes you, she'll kiss you back. If she doesn't, you won't waste more time/energy/money on a second date.
/r/seduction08/11/19 02:07 AM
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For sustainable long term attrition, there must be polarity between the two sexual energies (masculine and feminine). ​ Some men are predominantly feminine, some women are predominantly masculine. It sounds like you're feminine at your core (learn about the traits of each energy here: http://www.stevenmarkryan.com/masculine-and-feminine-the-sexual-energies/ ). If so, look for masculine women (confident, assertive, leaders, ambitious etc). ​ Whatever the case, don't pretend to be something you ar…
/r/seduction04/11/19 07:32 PM
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I thought so. I set you up. :) ​ Be direct and confident. ​ Assume she wants to go out - "Let's meet for a drink, when are you free?" not "Hi, I'm scared of rejection and also I don't do this often so maybe JUST IF YOU WANT TO, you and I could go do something that FRIENDS DO, like drink coffee together". ​ Better luck next time. Be bold. Trust me. You will have better results being direct that tip-toeing around.
/r/seduction25/10/19 06:05 PM
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Like what? Pretend I'm one o these girls and ask me out. What do you say?
/r/seduction25/10/19 04:54 PM
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I ask girls out regularly, often in a casual way, ​ What does this mean?
/r/seduction25/10/19 01:36 PM
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Dude, stop wasting your time. If she liked you, she would have kissed you. ​ The only other time this happens is with: ​ Highly-structured (massive pain-in-the-ass), control-freak, crazy women who cage their emotions in arbitrary rules to make them feel like they have some control in their lives... always a huge red flag or When you're Plan B - she's in an exclusive relationship, shopping around for an upgrade and telling herself it's not cheating ​ In all cases, don't waste your time. ​ p.s Liv…
/r/seduction11/10/19 09:51 PM
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To men, looks matter. To women, the don't. (how you make her FEEL does). ​ Men who say looks matter are almost always doing so to feel better about their miserable results with women.
/r/seduction24/09/19 05:14 PM
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"Hi guy, over the weekend my ex and I rekindled and plan on trying again. Soz"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/19 04:18 PM
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Never apologise for wanting her. ​ Carry on like nothing happened. Organise to meet up with her again. If she wants to see you, she'll make it easy. If not, she won't and you can move on.
/r/seduction14/09/19 11:42 AM
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Not when you strut like I do 🤣
/r/seduction03/09/19 07:10 PM
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Good-looking is one thing (how you look). ​ Attractive is another (how you make women FEEL). ​ Every women on the planet (unless something is broken) finds confidence attractive. You lack it. You are unattractive to women. Build up your confidence, create and awesome life for yourself, take some risks, fail, learn, grow, improve, pursue a clear mission/purpose, and the confidence will come.
/r/seduction01/09/19 02:50 PM
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🙏
/r/seduction21/08/19 12:55 PM
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YES. ​ Good learning opportunity here dude, take note. ​ The only reason you even asked this question is because you're scared of rejection or lack confidence. ​ You're asking for a sentence to the friendzone by acting like one. ​ Make your intentions clear. If you're thinking: "But what if she rejects me, won't it be awkward", you have already lost. ​ If you and I were in this same class, and I was into this woman, I'd have asked her out on day one "Hey, let's go for a drink next week. When are…
/r/seduction20/08/19 03:04 AM
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All good my dude, props for taking it on board. ​ You know what to do.
/r/seduction13/08/19 12:57 AM
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I mentioned the fear of being slut shamed. 99% of the women on tinder who say they are "just looking for friends" say this because they don't want to be seen as a slut OR end up with guys who are entitled. I get that, but don't go along with it. It's about best practices. You need to make sex ok. If you skirt around the topic like she does, she's more likely to feel like you WILL judge her as a slut if you do seduce her, than if you are upfront and make sex ok. If you're sexually attracted to a …
/r/seduction12/08/19 08:34 PM
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I have everything I could possibly want to attract the opposite sex, ​ No you don't. Nothing you mentioned has anything to do with attracting women. You will get nowhere if you think your looks count for shit, dude. Cold hard truth. ​ I'm an antisocial fuck ​ I'm a pussy. ​ I know if I had the confidence I could become very good at this ​ I just wanna make this experience to prove myself that I can do it ​ to become more confident around women ​ There's your answer. ​ Gain experience. Confidence…
/r/seduction12/08/19 07:48 PM
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She said she was only looking for friends and I said that was cool ​ Don't do this. You're on tinder. If she says she's only looking for friends, tell her "I'm not" and move on. She'll either start chasing after you OR she was serious. ​ Women say stuff like this because they don't want to be slut shamed OR because they want to see how desperate you are.
/r/seduction12/08/19 07:40 PM
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Unless your standards are incredibly low, or you are incredibly lucky, it will take dozens upon dozens of dates before you find a woman you really click with, who is also really into you.
/r/seduction06/08/19 01:38 AM
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Wait. ​ You have a date planned without knowing where you are meeting (if so you don't actually have a date tomorrow)? ​ Or are you meeting at hers or yours then don't know?
/r/seduction03/08/19 02:55 AM
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Indeed ;)
/r/seduction01/08/19 04:47 AM
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"You're not having sex with me tonight" how is that a shit test? ​ This weeds out needy/desperate/inexperienced guys very quickly as they'll either: ​ Get butthurt and start pleading for sex or trying to bargain or use logic and reason or Say "ok" and think she actually mean it, fail to seduce her and that's that (part of this is her wanting to know that you can't resist her, another part is her wanting to know you understand her) ​ How do you respond to that to "pass" the test to ultimately hav…
/r/seduction31/07/19 04:15 PM
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Yeah, it's a useful insight. All the best my man.
/r/seduction31/07/19 03:58 PM
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"Let's go for a walk" is great. If she's into you, she'll be happy to follow your lead all the way into your bedroom AND she won't ask a single question. She knows where you're going. Just don't TELL her and she won't feel like a slut. ​ I know it sounds too straightforward but "Let's go for a walk" is all you need. ​ If you want to be creative, go for it. If she likes you, ANY reason will do. I mean, ANY. During the date, tell her about something awesome at your place (nice view from the balcon…
/r/seduction30/07/19 11:55 PM
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Are you are the gym to lift or pick up? ​ See what I did there. ​ But really, think about it. ​ When I'm training, I'm training. ​ I have headphones in. I time my rests. And I don't want to be interrupted.
/r/seduction27/07/19 08:34 PM
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Just work on you, dude. Read books, find mentors, gain skills, challenge yourself, keep growing, hang around people who inspire you and pursue your mission/purpose. ​ A guy doing these things is very attractive.
/r/seduction27/07/19 05:34 PM
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Gotcha. Careful not to confuse "good looking" with "attractive". A below-average looking guy can be the most attractive man on earth to a woman (based on how he makes her feel, not how he looks). And an incredibly good looking guy can be incredibly unattractive to a woman (based on how he makes her feel). :)
/r/seduction26/07/19 09:31 PM
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I wasn't dissing the thread, I participated by adding the "CORRECT" answer. :) Don't overthink it. You don't need a magic trick or a strategy or to say anything. As you are walking close to one another, you literally reach your hand out and take hers. That's seriously it.
/r/seduction26/07/19 04:39 AM
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Doesn't sound fulfilling.
/r/seduction26/07/19 01:09 AM
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Dude, just take her hand. ​ It's really that simple. ​ Don't ask permission. Don't conjure up some stupid game like "let me read your palm herp derp". Don't tell her you want to. Just do it.
/r/seduction26/07/19 01:07 AM
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TL;DR - No, you're not. These are excuses you tell yourself to feel better about your poor results with women OR to keep you safe from even trying. ​ Stop it. ​ Yes, most women have preferences. Typically: tall, muscular, handsome etc. But none of that ACTUALLY matters. What it all boils down to is HOW YOU MAKE HER FEEL. ​ One more time. ​ The ONLY thing that matters is how you make her feel. ​ So please stop lying to yourself and finding excuses and things to blame. ​ Instead, work on YOU becau…
/r/seduction24/07/19 11:47 PM
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I'd be on red alert.
/r/seduction22/07/19 03:11 PM
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Thanks for sharing your thoughts :) Low self-esteem manifests in many ways, definitely among them is approval-seeking behavior. And for sure, in some cases people will go to great lengths to gain the approval of others who aren't providing it. Beyond that, often I think there's an element of avoiding potential pain and rejection too. Seeking someone or something you can't have means you can't be hurt..
/r/seduction22/07/19 02:20 PM
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You're overthinking it. ​ He thinks you're hot AF. ​ :)
/r/seduction21/07/19 11:26 PM
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Congrats on coming out of your shell and making someone's day.
/r/seduction21/07/19 07:10 PM
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Or you can do what I do and assume every girl isn’t only to find out after the fact that indeed she was. ​ Sounds like a winning strategy ;)
/r/seduction21/07/19 04:20 AM
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And an empowering one -- helps to mentally re-frame rejection and dead ends as an ABSOLUTELY necessary (unless you want to compromise) part of the process.
/r/seduction20/07/19 09:31 PM
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Always assume attraction until proven otherwise ;)
/r/seduction20/07/19 09:30 PM
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TL;DW - Most women won't be available or interested in you. That's just the way things are. Attraction is not a choice. ​ So, stop wasting your time with dead ends. ​ Expect to date dozens of women before you find one who blows you away, and expect most women to be uninterested or unavailable.
/r/seduction20/07/19 07:59 PM
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I date multiple women at the same time (video w/my reasoning here: Dating Multiple People (Until You're Exclusive). ​ The cream rises to the top. ​ But only after dating enough women. ​ It's poor use of my time/energy to date one woman at a time before I'm in an exclusive relationship. ​ Most women you date won't knock your socks off or be super compatible. Most won't be the woman of your dreams. Most are a pass. ​ You have to try a lot of women out before you find a great, compatible one. ​ So,…
/r/seduction20/07/19 06:32 PM
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TL;DW - Guy posts on reddit, pregnant wife has been sexting other men she met on tinder. He doesn't understand why. ​ After reading his post, it was very obvious what went wrong. ​ He turned into a super-pleaser, didn't stand up for himself, let her walk all over him, she tested, he failed, she tested, he failed (The dude got on a PLANE to buy her a COOKIE), she stopped feeling safe and comfortable (if she could walk all over him, how would he handle a threat or danger?) and began looking for an…
/r/seduction19/07/19 12:44 AM
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She's considering having sex with you. ​ Don't EXPECT it, but be aware. The thought has crossed her mind. ​ Hang out, have fun and pay attention to her indicators of interest. ​ I can tell you roughly what's gonna happen: ​ You arrive You smoke You talk shit She starts showing her interest, moves closer to you, is bumping into you, brushing against you, touching you arm, laughing at your jokes etc You think "Oh shit, fuck, what do I do" She keeps showing interest You either make a move, kiss her…
/r/seduction16/07/19 10:33 PM
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Anyone guilty of the following? ​ TL;DW: ​ You talked about yourself too much You tried too hard to impress her (clothes, wealth, bragging) You didn't make a move (always go for the kiss!) You failed too many tests You came on too strong You were a douchebag to service staff You begged for sex She just wanted a one night stand You acted like a needy, creepy, stalker after the date (buying flowers, gifts) You didn't give her any space to wonder (too much texting) (Bonus) She just wanted something…
/r/seduction13/07/19 11:24 PM
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Something related to her story...
/r/seduction13/07/19 04:43 PM
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Reply to a story. ​ It's actually this easy.
/r/seduction13/07/19 04:15 PM
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TL;DW - No, most don't. But neither do most men. Most PEOPLE don't know what they actually respond to. Most women say they want one thing (e.g. nice, spoils me, kind etc), but respond to something else. (confident, mysterious, ambitious).
/r/seduction12/07/19 11:57 PM
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Here's one I prepared earlier: https://youtu.be/ZBDzQSOwjL0 ​ Watch it. ​ TL;DW - She's not interested. NEXT.
/r/seduction12/07/19 11:47 PM
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TL;DW - Look where you want, just don't be a creep.
/r/seduction07/07/19 05:22 PM
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It's actually simple. ​ Do and say what you want to. ​ Not what you think other people want. ​ Simple as that.
/r/seduction05/07/19 09:27 PM
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Yes. Let's share notes. I'd like to learn how to express my feelings as eloquently as you. 😊
/r/seduction03/07/19 11:06 PM
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Thanks heaps for the help, mod. Much appreciated.
/r/seduction03/07/19 04:36 PM
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The people you surround yourself with have an ENORMOUS impact on you and how you show up in the world. ​ They have a HUGE influence on your standards and your thinking. Positivity and negativity are both INFECTIOUS. ​ If you have toxic people in your life, they are slowly poisoning you. It rubs off. What you're surrounded by shapes you. ​ Find people who hold themselves to a high standard, who will call you out on your bs, who will lift you up and propel you forward rather than hold you back and…
/r/seduction01/07/19 10:40 PM
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Cool, thanks for the tip, noted :)
/r/seduction01/07/19 10:26 PM
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Great post, I agree with everything you said.
/r/seduction30/06/19 06:10 PM
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Bail fast, but politely, when you're not into them.. value your time.
/r/seduction29/06/19 10:49 PM
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Sounds like a good interim step -- finding an excuse to approach. ​ Once you've done it enough, you won't need to think about it or have an excuse ;)
/r/seduction29/06/19 04:26 PM
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This is one of those questions that doesn't have a specific answer. ​ Just talk. I mean, every time will be different. Social skills and experience are the key here. ​ You just have to talk to enough people enough times that conversations flow. ​ Of course, as you speak, you will be paying attention to indicators of interest from her end too. ​ But look, if you're just starting out approaching, and you are completely stumped, why not ask for her opinion on something? Women loooove to share their…
/r/seduction29/06/19 04:24 PM
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Pro? Nah. Experienced? Yeah. ​ It's the subtle things that make all the difference ;)
/r/seduction29/06/19 04:18 PM
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For sure. A guy, who, in a non-creepy way, approaches a woman and tells her she's pretty is giving her a great compliment. ​ I do this often when I see cute women that I have no real interest in. Whether she has a cool dress, awesome hair, great nails or whatever. I love to see their faces light up. ​ But, in the context of seduction and approaching women I'm interested in, I'm not interested in making her day. I'm interested in finding out if shes interesting enough for me to want to spend more…
/r/seduction29/06/19 04:17 PM
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Spot on, dude. ​ When you approach, you've automatically given her a compliment on her appearance AND shown you are interested. ​ Most guys then fall into the trap of trying to prove how cool THEY are, instead of trying to screen HER and find out if SHE is someone they want to spend more time with.
/r/seduction29/06/19 04:10 PM
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What I think is what I said: ​ SHE ALREADY KNOWS :) ​ Guys, you really need to give women more credit than you are. If you approach, she KNOWS you find her attractive and are sexually interested. ​ The fact that you approached her is a compliment on her appearance. Telling her she looks nice is like saying "Hi, my name is bob. Hi my name is bob". She got it the first time. ​ A compliment won't end the world, it's just unnecessary. ​ If you are going to compliment, no generic shit like "You look …
/r/seduction29/06/19 04:07 PM
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Women are a lot smarter than some men realise. ​ If a man approaches a woman, SHE KNOWS HE IS INTERESTED. ​ SHE KNOWS, OK? ​ SHE KNOWS. ​ Women are not stupid. They know. ​ You job then is simple. Find out if she's interesting enough for you to want to spend more time with. If she is, ask for her number. Then, reach out in a few days and ask what evenings she's available to meet for a drink and set a definite date. ​ If it turns out she's boring, wrap things up with "Ok, it was nice to meet you"…
/r/seduction28/06/19 09:12 PM
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Thanks for sharing your thinking dude. It helps me to explain the gaps in your understanding :) ​ If a woman is giving her number out to men she has no interest in, she's either the most agreeable person on earth, in which case, she can just block/ignore them or she's stupid in which case she can also block/ignore them Women who are primarily feminine (which is MOST, but not all) want a masculine man. Masculine traits include leadership, risk taking, confidence, decisiveness. Asking for her numb…
/r/seduction28/06/19 09:00 PM
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No. This is a story guys tell themselves to avoid a direct rejection. ​ A confident guy will ask for her number. ​ If she's not interested, she can decline. "I have a boyfriend" is the usual line. If she's too agreeable and gives out her number, she can block or ignore him if he's a creep, texts too much or she's not interested. ​ Remember, feminine women (aka most of them) want a masculine man to SEDUCE THEM. They want a LEADER who is decisive and goes for what he wants. He must approach. He mu…
/r/seduction28/06/19 08:53 PM
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All good dude. Once again, well done. Most guys don't even have the courage to approach!
/r/seduction28/06/19 08:47 PM
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Congrats on the balls. First approach is always scary. Well done. ​ Some tips for next time: ​ Don't tell women you've just approached that they're cute, or that you wanted to approach, or anything about your interest. Just say hello and go from there. It puts SO much pressure on women when you say something like "You're cute", "I saw you and wanted to approach". Your ACTIONS have already demonstrated that you are attracted to her. Now, just find out if she's fun to talk to. Don't ever give wome…
/r/seduction28/06/19 07:08 PM
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Ok dude. ​ Here's the deal. ​ You can approach women who are with other people. It's OK. ​ Just approach her and start talking. (It doesn't matter if there are colleagues around).
/r/seduction28/06/19 04:17 PM
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This sounds like a mindset thing.. ​ You have a scarcity mindset and are fearful of rejection e.g. "Oh no, she likes me. I'd better not fuck up or I will blow the opportunity and there are no other women on earth who I'd be attracted to so this is my only chance oh god please help me plus also if I get rejected it means she doesn't like me which means I am not likable which means nobody will love me which means I don't deserve love which means I am a bad person omg help". ​ This fear of rejectio…
/r/seduction28/06/19 04:11 PM
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I didn't create the video to judge, but to share my observations :) ​ Unless you’re getting money out of them which I know people that do ​ This was unexpected. You have friends/acquaintances that basically have a sugar momma who strips?
/r/seduction27/06/19 09:27 PM
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Haha.
/r/seduction27/06/19 03:04 PM
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As I said in my video, you might not want to marry them, but strippers can be a lot of fun (and therein lies your answer - it's fun). ​ Women who are very sexual, open, experienced and a little wild are never boring.
/r/seduction27/06/19 02:00 PM
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Figure out your mission/purpose, then work relentlessly in its pursuit.
/r/seduction23/06/19 12:36 AM
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Truth, most women do not KNOW what attracts them to a guy, they just know how they FEEL about him. This is what counts. ​ Some women who are super self aware can articulate what attracts them to a guy, but this is pretty rare. Usually you'll get attempted answers which might sound reasonable, but are not true. ​ Don't listen to what women say, watch what they DO. You will learn far more by watching what women respond to, than what they think they want.
/r/seduction21/06/19 06:28 PM
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Well payed, sir.
/r/seduction18/06/19 03:51 AM
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Try again, may have been a delay in changing its visibility :)
/r/seduction17/06/19 08:13 PM
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I made a video about exactly this! It's not live yet but here's a private link: https://youtu.be/ZBDzQSOwjL0 ​ Regarding this specifically: ​ Being a pussy and asking a girl to hang out in a way that is obviously non-romantic is what a niceguy does... do you want to be her friend, or lover?
/r/seduction17/06/19 06:35 PM
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Have more. ​ Sorry for the obvious answer, but that's it.
/r/seduction15/06/19 07:38 PM
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Make it permanent. ​ Jettison everyone who doesn't lift you up. In the case of family/coworkers you can't ghost....minimise contact.
/r/seduction10/06/19 01:45 AM
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Took some courage to post, and some brains to pick up a book seeking to improve. Well done on both counts. ​ Real talk. You have some deep internal work to do. Keep reading and learning and growing and becoming a better person. Forget women for now. Focus on you. ​ Make sure you are surrounded with great quality people, too. Those close to you influence your thinking and your standards. ​ That said, regarding the courting process, 95% of the time the guy will be pursuing initially (usually for t…
/r/seduction09/06/19 08:45 PM
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ALWAYS meet at night. ALWAYS somewhere QUIET and SIMPLE. ALWAYS close to my apartment. USUALLY head to a few places on the one date e.g. Bar for a drink, then dinner, then pool. USUALLY 2-3 hours max, unless we end up back at my place.
/r/seduction08/06/19 08:41 PM
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Hence I said "ask positive stuff" so she'll be reliving positive emotions :)
/r/seduction05/06/19 07:15 PM
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I've invited plenty of women back to mine to vape, too.
/r/seduction05/06/19 07:14 PM
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Congrats. Hopefully not on the same night ;) ​ Next time, don't be such a wimp and say "I kinda want to take you on a date". ​ "Let's go for a drink this weekend or next. Which nights are you free?" Is much better. ​ Assume she wants to meet you. Conveys confidence.
/r/seduction05/06/19 05:56 PM
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Haha, it's always nice when things go smoothly. ​ Give her some space, see what happens and talk to other women. ​ p.s. Was any of her commentary related to the non-sex parts of seduction? e.g. comment on how well the date went, how quickly/seamlessly you ended up back at your place, how convenient it was that you had a bottle of wine etc?
/r/seduction05/06/19 05:54 PM
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Given he made a few missteps already, I'd suggest he doesn't contact her again for at LEAST a week. ​ She already knows he likes her. She already knows he wants to see her again. ​ See what she does.
/r/seduction05/06/19 05:48 PM
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​ ​ Monday night I asked her how her day was. ​ Don't be boring ;) ​ "are you clean?" ​ Maybe she had a rash. OR assumed you're a manslut since you gave it "good". ​ I told her I'd like to see her again. ​ Don't ask, tell. "Let's meet for a drink next week. What nights are you free?" ​ IMO, leave her. She'll reach out if she wants to meet again. As you said, she knows. And so far, you have over pursued a little. She needs time to wonder about you for her feelings to develop.
/r/seduction05/06/19 05:28 PM
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Two most important ones: ​ Tell me more? How did that make you feel? ​ Ask positive stuff like: ​ If I asked your friends what they like most about you, what would they say? When you were a kid, what did you want to do when you grew up? What do you do for fun? What are you passionate about? What is a special skill you have? What are your biggest dreams? ​ TBH, all this stuff should just flow if you're with someone and there's mutual attraction. ​ Let her talk most of the time. Listen and pay att…
/r/seduction05/06/19 03:49 PM
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Made a video + article about texting too much recently: https://youtu.be/fG2eBGeQKVY ​ TL;DR - Give women space to wonder, that's how their feelings develop. Use the phone to set dates, not to share your life stories.
/r/seduction05/06/19 03:37 PM
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Not as far as they know—stealth wealth ;) ​ But I am a person with the ambition, confidence, skills, traits and knowledge required to have solved the money problem. ​ I can't hide who I am, just what I have.
/r/seduction05/06/19 12:59 PM
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Appreciate the compliment but I'm average-looking at best. ​ Average height, too. 5' 10". ​ And skinny AF. Like, rail thin. ​ But put me in front of a high value woman and none of that matters.
/r/seduction04/06/19 11:24 PM
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Might want to work on your mindset, dude. You'll get nowhere looking for excuses instead of solutions. ​ And you're just plain wrong. ​ Here's one I prepared earlier: https://youtu.be/bAXBGwzI_oA (Do looks matter)
/r/seduction04/06/19 02:22 AM
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Did you open you mouth? Congratulations, now everything can change.
/r/seduction04/06/19 02:07 AM
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Accept that women are naturally hypergmous. Women want to feel safe and comfortable and a big part of that is knowing she is protected and provided for. ​ I actually recorded a new video on this yesterday, DM if you want a link when it goes live. ​ TBH, sounds like you are in your 20s and like I was, are very frugal. You'll miss some opportunities because of this. I did, but it was worth it. I retired in my early 30s. ​ Instead of worrying about spending, stay frugal while you're young and build…
/r/seduction03/06/19 11:15 PM
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THE most important concept to understand when it comes to attraction and seduction are the two sexual energies and why polarity between them is so important. Wish I'd know this stuff years ago. ​ Before that, I used to date masculine women (I'm also very masculine). No polarity = no good. ​ The accompanying article goes much deeper: http://www.stevenmarkryan.com/131-2/
/r/seduction01/06/19 04:57 PM
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Reply to a story or something dude, keep it simple.
/r/seduction31/05/19 11:28 PM
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(Apologies for poor video quality) ​ Feedback welcome.
/r/seduction31/05/19 10:15 PM
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Cheesy? Beta? ​ How about socially awkward?
/r/seduction30/05/19 07:34 PM
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I'm skinny as fuck but my life is jacked as fuck, so it's not a problem. ​ Keep fit for you, not for women.
/r/seduction30/05/19 07:33 PM
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They seek you out for advice above others. They value your time highly and feel lucky to know you. They speak very highly about you to others, when you are not around.
/r/seduction27/05/19 10:41 PM
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Good timing. I just published a video + article on exactly this thing: https://youtu.be/Ij2NPCCcn5o ​ If you have follow-up questions, let me know. Shit is easy once you get it, but hard to figure out at first.
/r/seduction27/05/19 12:12 AM
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I've dated a few stripper. Getting my attention is simple: ​ Be: ​ - Beautiful - Intelligent - Confident - Self aware - Growth minded - Very feminine - Positive - Good communicator ​ Don't be: ​ - Insecure - Needy - Masculine - Negative - Dishonest - Highly strung ​ And then put yourself in my orbit. I'll handle the rest.
/r/seduction26/05/19 11:57 PM
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Not buying it, dude. I addressed the "boundaries"/"respectful" argument in the accompanying article. This is a story guys tell themselves to feel better about a lack of confidence. I also covered this in the video. If it gets to the end of a date and it hasn't been the "right time", go for a goodnight kiss. If she is AT ALL interested in you (unless she's crazy and has ridiculous rules about when kissing is ok [in which case, she'll be a huge pain in the ass]) SHE WILL KISS YOU BACK. If she does…
/r/seduction26/05/19 11:20 PM
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Gracias mi amigo. Todos los videos tienen subtítulos en inglés si ayuda.
/r/seduction26/05/19 11:14 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. ​ My comments stand. Buying gifts, flowers etc for a girl you JUST started seeing IS needy and IS unnecessary. And while most women will say it's sweet, it sends a message of neediness (unless she is naive and/or needy/insecure herself). ​ Girls who are into you will appreciate anything you do for them ​ Appreciate, yes. I don't think a woman on earth hasn't appreciated getting flowers. Women who are into guys (enough) will also often forgive them for mistakes like this …
/r/seduction24/05/19 09:18 PM
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Truth? ​ Working 10-16 hours a day building an empire. ​ Outside that: restaurants, cafes, bars, business events and seminars, paying ZERO attention to women because there's more important shit to focus on, like learning from peers about how to get to the next level.
/r/seduction24/05/19 12:55 AM
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The hobbies you LOVE. ​ You'll meet women doing the same thing, and have something in common. ​ Crazy, I know.
/r/seduction24/05/19 12:47 AM
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Not sure if srs..
/r/seduction22/05/19 02:51 PM
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Build your personality, not your muscles. ​ Far more attractive ;)
/r/seduction21/05/19 06:38 PM
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*whips out crystal ball* ​ She'll take the lead if you don't know what you're doing. Reciprocate touching. Plan for sex but don't expect it. If/when it's appropriate, do the old "Hey, wanna meet my pet turtle" and head back to your place.
/r/seduction21/05/19 06:35 PM
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"Me too"
/r/seduction21/05/19 06:27 PM
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Just own it bro. You can't change it. ​ If you are confident in yourself, women will find that super attractive. ​ If you're chatting and flirting with a woman, don't be afraid to tell her you have a tiny dick with confidence. Just own it. For 99% of women, it's not going to be a deal breaker. They'll find the confidence attractive. Some may even take it as a chance to escalate "Show me" etc.
/r/seduction21/05/19 06:24 PM
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Stop trying to have interesting conversations (do that on your DATE) and just arrange a date. ​ It's very easy. ​ "Let's go for a drink. What nights are you available?" ​ Don't beat around the bush.
/r/seduction21/05/19 06:18 PM
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Get onto my bed and whenever I pull away a bit her hand is on my back or neck pulling me back in. At some point I tease that she needs to get the taxi, she agrees and we find her phone (I'm fine not f-closing but I shouldnt have stepped back as far as I did and just stopped kissing her briefly and lay next to her or something). ​ I wasn't there to witness, but there's a pretty good chance she didn't want to call a taxi my dude. ​ Pay attention to her actions, not her words. ​ I'm tying to think …
/r/seduction21/05/19 06:15 PM
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Damn dude... these are not dates. You're hanging out as friends. ​ You're suffering from niceguy syndrome. You probably think you're being 'respectful' but in reality, you're showing a lack of confidence and understanding. ​ I wrote and article + video on this very subject just a few days ago. Have a watch/read, it will be very helpful if you take it on board: ​ http://www.stevenmarkryan.com/kiss-me-you-idiot-dont-be-a-nice-guy/ ​ In short: be bold and go for what you want. Otherwise you'll end …
/r/seduction21/05/19 06:03 PM
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Here's one I prepared earlier: ​ https://www.instagram.com/p/Bw7C-RjgisZ/ ​ ;)
/r/seduction09/05/19 02:48 PM
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/r/seduction09/05/19 04:59 AM
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Very feminine core ​ That's it. ​ Years ago before I knew anything I would have described a bunch of other traits but no, this is it. I'm super masculine. The polarity created between a very feminine woman and my masculine core is magic. Nothing more attractive or seductive. ​ Reverse is also true. Masculine women turn me off so much it hurts.
/r/seduction09/05/19 12:39 AM
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It's quite simple. ​ See woman you are attracted to. Talk to her. Don't be boring. Get her number. Set a date. ​ That's all you need to do.
/r/seduction09/05/19 12:34 AM
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It's just experience. After a while it becomes glaringly obvious when a woman is ready to be kissed.
/r/seduction07/05/19 01:51 AM
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You don't imagine this scenario, you create it. ​ Since you're not there yet, here's a pro tip from a guy who... well... has met a woman or two. ​ When you go for the kiss, maintain eye contact, extend one hand and gently place it on her cheek or behind her head and slowly pull her toward your lips. ​ She'll melt.
/r/seduction07/05/19 01:50 AM
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No. No. No. NO. ​ The ONLY thing that matters is how you make her FEEL. ​ Anyone who tells you otherwise is either: ​ - Not good looking and trying to excuse their poor results with women or - Is good looking and and lying to themselves that their looks will solve their problems with women ​ Looks count for shit.
/r/seduction07/05/19 01:47 AM
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ALWAYS go for the kiss at the end of your first date if it hasn't happened sooner. You were lucky. ​ If she likes you, she will kiss you. If not, she'll turn her cheek and you'll know not to waste your time or money on more dates. ​ If you don't go for the kiss, it communicates: ​ - You're not confident - You're scared of rejection - You don't feel like you're good enough for her OR, worst of all - You're not interested in her ​ Women get SUPREMELY butthurt when they're into a guy and he doesn't…
/r/seduction07/05/19 01:43 AM
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When she's ready. ​ You'll know if you are paying attention to IOIs. ​ If you're unsure, slowly look at her lips, back into her eyes, back to her lips. ​ If she looks at your lips while you do this, she's thinking about kissing you. ​ DO IT.
/r/seduction07/05/19 01:39 AM
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Guys are visual. Women are emotional. ​ Looks are 90% of what's important to guys. Looks are 1% of what's important to women. ​ A good looking guy will no doubt get more attention initially, but how he makes a woman FEEL after that will determine 100% of how attracted she becomes.
/r/seduction29/04/19 09:19 PM
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Amazing comment. Equal parts wit and truth.
/r/seduction29/04/19 09:16 PM
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Pay attention to what women DO, not what they SAY.
/r/seduction18/01/19 06:14 AM
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The actual answer is approach, ask him on a definite date, go on said date.
/r/seduction18/01/19 06:08 AM
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This item is currently out of stock, and may also be defective.
/r/seduction14/01/19 02:38 PM
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Practically all the women I date know (or assume) I am dating other women at the same time. I don't rub it in their faces, but I'm always honest when asked directly or indirectly. I don't go into specifics though (a gentleman doesn't kiss and tell, after all). In regards to setting dates, I always ask "What evenings are you available?" so she can tell me and I can pick a night when I'm also free. When asked "What did you do last night?", I prefer "I met up with a friend" than "I went on a date w…
/r/seduction14/01/19 02:37 PM
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Try to imagine being an attractive woman. She already has a bunch of needy beta orbiters in her friendzone. And a bunch more guys trying to get into her pants. Most of them are clueless. So she gets texts/DMs like: "Hi", "Hey", "What's up?" "How are you?", "What's happening?", "How's your day?", "Hi, I saw you on Instagram", "You're cute". YAWN The attention is cool but she FEELS nothing but boredom. It's always the same shit. Nothing surprising, nothing different. Then one guy says something di…
/r/seduction14/01/19 02:15 PM
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You should be arranging dates and doing the talking in person. Are you doing this? Or are you just texting until they get bored and not even setting a date?
/r/seduction13/01/19 09:46 PM
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If I was a woman with a constant stream of boring guys bugging me, I would decide very quickly. You have an entitlement mentality. Women owe you nothing. If you add no value to their lives, and are boring, don't expect them to give you endless opportunities to prove yourself. You needed to hear that. I'm coming from a place of kindness and empathy. If you keep thinking like you currently do, you will have nothing but trouble with women, and LIFE in general. Take responsibility for who you are.
/r/seduction13/01/19 08:48 PM
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If you are boring, women figure this out pretty quickly (so don't be). It's not rude for them to be bored by a boring guy. It's to be expected.
/r/seduction13/01/19 05:42 PM
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Terrible idea. Go somewhere QUIET you can TALK and LISTEN and CONNECT. Save it for a later date.
/r/seduction13/01/19 04:04 PM
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Stop being boring. That's the solution.
/r/seduction13/01/19 04:01 PM
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100% agree OP hasn't read the book 10-15 times. p.s. Corey Wayne know more than this entire sub put together.
/r/seduction13/01/19 03:59 PM
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It's not them, it's you.
/r/seduction13/01/19 03:51 PM
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YES. Women are emotional beings. How you make her FEEL is what's important. If she's laughing, wondering etc she isn't going to be bored.
/r/seduction24/11/18 05:22 PM
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It's becuase you are BORING, dude. She's reaching out hoping you're not like every other boring guy, but you are like every other boring guy. Facts of life. Be interesting, and different.
/r/seduction24/11/18 12:34 AM
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Go read "3% Man" by Corey Wayne.
/r/seduction24/10/18 06:55 PM
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You're insecure and needy. Focus on creating a fantastic life and growing as a person. Along with a great life and growth comes confidence and abundance.
/r/seduction30/12/17 11:08 PM
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What women think and say they want in men, vs what they respond to, are VERY different.
/r/seduction26/12/17 05:21 AM
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It's not the guy's job to CONTROL "his" woman. She's an adult who can make her own intelligent decisions. Let her. Or you'll lose her. Every time.
/r/seduction26/12/17 04:50 AM
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No, an extremely secure guy would KNOW he is the shit and there is zero chance his partner would get sexually involved in another guy.
/r/seduction26/12/17 04:49 AM
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Women don't test consciously (99% of the time). They just do it. It's like a reflex. There's thousands of way they will test. "Wow, she has a nice dress". "The new guy at work is really funny". "A guy hit on me in the grocery store today" etc. It's all just a way for them to be sure you are the confident guy they think you are.
/r/seduction26/12/17 04:48 AM
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Please don't do this. Women KNOW if you are interested in them (unless you're a wimp and never ask them out). "Confessing" your interest is needy, beta behavior that will almost always scare them off ESPECIALLY since women fall in love slowly and emotionally and guys tend to fall in love instantly and visually. If you tell her you really like her, she's likely to wonder "what is wrong with this dude, I hardly know him, how could he possibly like me?". Confessions of love/interest will almost alw…
/r/seduction26/12/17 04:45 AM
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Appears you are as stuck in your thinking as a fundamentalist <insert religion here> so I'm out :)
/r/seduction23/12/17 04:44 AM
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Read 3% Man by Corey Wayne. This is covered in detail. Report back.
/r/seduction23/12/17 03:22 AM
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"Take it as a compliment" is all you need to say. Don't complicate it. p.s. Confess what? Tell me you don't mean what I think.
/r/seduction23/12/17 03:20 AM
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She says "Ha so you do this often to girls?!" I say "Mostly men, actually".
/r/seduction23/12/17 03:17 AM
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LET IT BE. You should be happy when guys are hitting on your girlfriend/partner. Let her decide where she draws the line (e.g. touching). You must love in such a a way that the other person feels FREE. This means trust. Only an insecure man who doesn't value himself highly will feel threatened by another man hitting on his partner. There's a direct correlation with how insecure a man is and how strongly he reacts to this shit e.g. if someone approaches their partner: Extremely insecure guy will …
/r/seduction23/12/17 03:14 AM
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Well, serious response: Don't be stupid. Invest the money and time you'd have spent recovering, in becoming a better person instead.
/r/seduction22/12/17 04:01 AM
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Wow. Was gonna write some stuff but /u/niyamthomas nailed it.
/r/seduction22/12/17 03:57 AM
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You will regret not saying hi. You will NOT regret saying hi, regardless of outcome. It's simple. DO IT.
/r/seduction22/12/17 03:54 AM
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Renounce your religion and/or move to a country more conducive to happiness :)
/r/seduction22/12/17 03:47 AM
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If I act like I don't really care about this chick, she would lost interest and leave. Wrong. It's like the cat analogy. The person who ignores the cat is almost always the one the cat ends up liking the most and seeking attention from. Don't be overly available, set dates a week in advance, don't text her all the fkn time, don't text her after a date saying "OMG I HAD SO MUCH FUN" "Can't wait to see you" etc, see her once a week until she is reaching out to you then set a date whenever she reac…
/r/seduction22/12/17 03:46 AM
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Guys are stupid, like, REALLY stupid. Just look at all the posts on this sub. Make it easy for him -- REALLY easy. Ask him out. If you want to kiss him, tell him and DO IT. If you want to sleep with him, tell him. Whatever it is, tell him with words. Guys are literally so dumb that most will not realise unless you spell it out.
/r/seduction22/12/17 03:41 AM
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I don't believe this is a serious post.
/r/seduction22/12/17 03:33 AM
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You are right, you're coming across as VERY needy. And, too much contact, too soon. And what the fuck is this: if you have the time Comes across like it is a GIFT is she can find the time to spend with you. Should be the other way around, my friend.
/r/seduction22/12/17 02:13 AM
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You over pursued, were too available, texted too much and scared her off with your weak, neediness. DO NOT CONTACT HER AGAIN. If/when she next reaches out, set a definite date. She'll either accept or decline. Go from there.
/r/seduction22/12/17 02:06 AM
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I'm 5'11', definitely in shape and muscular/toned. I've been told I'm handsome and I dress very well. Counts for nothing.
/r/seduction22/12/17 02:03 AM
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EZ. You set a definite date to meet up when she is available in a week and a bit.
/r/seduction22/12/17 02:02 AM
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FYI, most women will go WILD if you lead and do something "naughty" like escalating further in that situation. Try it next time.
/r/seduction21/12/17 06:30 AM
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In my experience, generally it's the compliments which are factually unlikely that are the true IOIs. e.g. if your dress sense is terrible (and you know it) and a girl says "Cool socks" or "I like your shirt" -- it's not the socks/shirt she likes, it's her way of saying she likes YOU.
/r/seduction21/12/17 06:21 AM
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Here's how you show your interest: When she contacts you, set up a definite date. When you contacts you again, set up a definite date. Repeat. Here's how to not be needy: Lay off the texting (which you are -- good) Be patient It can sometimes be weeks, even months before women reach out again. Don't push the issue. Let it unfold. Most of the time "not wanting a relationship" means "I don't want a relationship with YOU, right NOW" and her not so subtle hint "guys always fall for <her>" is a very …
/r/seduction21/12/17 12:40 AM
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Next time she makes eye contact, smile, approach, say hi, see what happens. EZ.
/r/seduction21/12/17 12:33 AM
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She likes you. Ask her out.
/r/seduction21/12/17 12:32 AM
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You should have made a definite date on the spot. And not coffee. But that's done. Just CALL HER, ask when she's available and lock in a time and place.
/r/seduction20/12/17 04:00 AM
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Move on, dude. "Got too boring" means you told her your whole life story, were in contact too often, were too available, weren't mysterious, treated her like a friend not a lover and probably came across as needy/weak. If you're a freak, own it and be proud. A confident man is not shy or ashamed about what he enjoys. NEXT.
/r/seduction18/12/17 11:56 PM
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When are you moving? ;)
/r/seduction18/12/17 05:23 AM
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When she reaches out, set the next date.
/r/seduction18/12/17 04:14 AM
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Get out of your head. It's literally as easy as putting one foot in front of another, making eye contact and saying "hi".
/r/seduction18/12/17 04:10 AM
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Learn from it.
/r/seduction18/12/17 04:05 AM
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You never know for sure, but most of the time, this is a big indicator of interest. If you suck at conversation, the only way to improve is to have more of them.
/r/seduction18/12/17 04:03 AM
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Good. Remember, it's the guy's job to be confident, be a leader and escalate.
/r/seduction18/12/17 04:01 AM
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I usually don't go for the make out at the first date That's your problem. If you don't go for the kiss and the girl likes you, she'll feel rejected and you'll be friend-zoned almost every time. If she likes you, she will kiss you. Great. If she doesn't, you'll get her cheek. Move on.
/r/seduction18/12/17 03:58 AM
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Lunch and movies are not dates -- they are what friends (or people in longterm relationships) do. Sounds like you're a beta orbiter and she just hangs out when she's hungry or bored. Sorry for truth bombs. Pro tip: If you're "dating" only do things a lover would do. That means, dinner/drinks at night that can lead to sex at her place or yours. Lunch, Coffee, Movies, Picnics etc are what friends do.
/r/seduction18/12/17 03:38 AM
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She's not interested.
/r/seduction18/12/17 03:33 AM
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The most efficient response I've seen on reddit.
/r/seduction18/12/17 03:33 AM
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Say hi to people everywhere and always have the goal of making their day.
/r/seduction17/12/17 05:33 AM
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There's a small handful of hyper-attractive traits to women (e.g. confidence) and heaps of barely-makes-a-difference-to-attraction traits (e.g. looks). Confidence > Looks, EVERY DAY OF THE WEEK. Next time a woman says some variation of "You are SO confident/How are you SO confident?" to you, notice her body language, expressions, see how much her feminine side comes out and feel her emotions. You will NEVER see the same level of impact associated with "You are SO attractive".
/r/seduction17/12/17 01:33 AM
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Rejection/failure are PREREQUISITES for success.
/r/seduction17/12/17 01:13 AM
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On the other side of fear is everything you want in life.
/r/seduction17/12/17 01:08 AM
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Oh dude, back off. You'll scare her away :) I wouldn't have contacted her again until she reached out. If it got to a week with no contact, I'd have called and set another date. You're coming across as a bit clingy, needy and overly available. Nip it in the bud before you find yourself in friendzone and DO NOT TEXT HER UNTIL SHE TEXTS YOU AGAIN.
/r/seduction16/12/17 02:00 AM
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As Corey Wayne says, dates should be a romantic, fun-filled opportunity for sex to happen. If you do things a friend does, you are her friend. Save the daytime stuff for when you are in a longterm romantic relationship, not when you are courting.
/r/seduction15/12/17 05:31 AM
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Yep, just rinse and repeat.
/r/seduction15/12/17 04:50 AM
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Do you only do things friends do? (lunches, coffee, movies etc) Yes? Then you're in the friend zone. Do you go on romantic dates (dinner, drinks etc)/have sexual relations? Yes? You are not in the friend zone. Unless you're dating and/or sleeping with this woman, you are currently IN the friend zone. I think your question should be "How to I leave the friend zone?".
/r/seduction15/12/17 04:05 AM
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Yeah, a TINY percentage of women (the ones who COMPLETELY lack self confidence) may find it harder to say yes in that situation but trust me...you don't want to date these women. Besides, MOST of the time when you approach/ask out a woman in a group setting, her friends will be able to tell/know if she likes you and if she does, THEY will help you too.
/r/seduction15/12/17 04:00 AM
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Good on ya. Your response was perfect. Rinse and repeat and you'll get even better. p.s It's only EVER awkward if you make it. "Take it as a compliment" plus a smile is all you need. Most women will appreciate the fact that you found them attractive. In fact, sometimes (in the right context) when I'm talking to a woman and she mentions her partner in conversation, I'll jokingly say something along the lines of "I can tell you're enjoying this so should I stop hitting on you straight away or keep…
/r/seduction15/12/17 03:56 AM
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Tell them you'll be bringing girls home regularly so they have a heads up. Then bring girls home regularly.
/r/seduction15/12/17 03:48 AM
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Be direct and confident. An attractive, confident guy knows what he wants and goes for it. A weak, needy guy who is unsure of himself will try the friendship route and proceed directly to friendzone while the direct confident guy is making her toes curl. If she's not interested, just tell her to take it as a compliment. EZ.
/r/seduction15/12/17 03:41 AM
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Build confidence by being fucking awesome, having a fucking awesome life and KNOWING it. That's it :)
/r/seduction15/12/17 03:36 AM
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In most cases, a deep voice will work in your favour.
/r/seduction15/12/17 03:32 AM
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Sorry for the directness but don't be a pussy. Ask her out next time you see her. Who gives a fuck if her friends are there? They'll be happy for her that a guy likes her enough to have the courage to ask her out when they're there. You know how weak and UN-confident you will come across asking her out via FB? I'll PM you some specific details..
/r/seduction15/12/17 03:14 AM
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Anyway, I think that's not my problem, maybe it's time to move on. Ding! We have a winner. :)
/r/seduction15/12/17 02:10 AM
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She may well be shit testing, wondering if you're still a needy bitch etc. And MAYBE even considering MAYBE if you MIGHT have potential but: She's in a relationship If she leaves him for you, she will do the same thing to you in the future As I said, there are billions of women out there This may come as a surprise but there are many women who will flirt with guys (or more) while they are in a relationship. Some do for validation, some are looking for plan B/C/D/E etc, some are naturally flirty,…
/r/seduction14/12/17 04:51 AM
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Slightly better is good :) But you really want to coming from a place absolute confidence and KNOWING that you, and your life are AWESOME.
/r/seduction14/12/17 04:44 AM
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First, congratulations on all the rejections. That's how your make progress. Second, So a little over a year ago, I got dumped by the only girl I could get to sleep with me in years and felt like shit. Wow, work on your mindset dude. That's a horrible way to look at it "the only girl I could get to sleep with me"....come on man! You should be a fucking stud who gives women the GIFT of getting to know -- and MAYBE sleeping with -- you IF THEY ARE LUCKY. If you want to meet more guys AND girls wit…
/r/seduction14/12/17 04:28 AM
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I'm here to help so sorry for the truth bombs. No sugar coating. You fucked up -- you rejected her by not making a move AND then proved you were insecure and needy by vomiting your feelings all over her AFTER she had moved on. Why are you hung up on this woman 2 years later? Your comments about deserving reek of neediness and your comments about her bf sucking reek of insecurity. Move on. There are literally billions of women out there. :) Don't take it personally, just saying what has to be sai…
/r/seduction14/12/17 04:20 AM
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Or... you could just approach women you are interested in -- regardless of where you happen to be at the time.
/r/seduction14/12/17 04:00 AM
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Sure it is. You can have dinner (order it from somewhere) and a few drinks on Skype ;)
/r/seduction14/12/17 03:43 AM
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Two possibilities: She's seeking validation (after being rejected) She likes you If you lived closer, I'd set up a definite date when she reached out, but she doesn't. If you don't think it can work logistically, don't ask her out. Sounds like this is where you're at. Unless you are ok with Skype dates ;) If you think it might work, ask her out on an in-person date and have her come to you. If she likes you, she WILL come.
/r/seduction14/12/17 01:37 AM
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People/relationships/attraction: 3% Man (game changer) Personality Plus Five Love Languages
/r/seduction14/12/17 01:18 AM
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:)
/r/seduction13/12/17 07:38 AM
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Every guy I know who has made it a MUST and invested the time, has produced the results.
/r/seduction13/12/17 03:29 AM
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Duuuuuude. She's trying SO hard. I really feel for her -- she'll feel like you rejected her. Learn from this. Don't hesitate. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
/r/seduction13/12/17 03:28 AM
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I remember you posting about her. ASK HER OUT DUDE.
/r/seduction13/12/17 03:24 AM
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Did you pull back when she started taking longer to reply? If you were too available, you probably killed attraction if there was any. If you haven't texted for a couple of days, good. Leave it a full week. If she reaches out before then, set up a definite date. If she doesn't, ask her out on a definite date after a week. She's not gonna fall for you over text messages so take her out. If she says no, she's not interested. If she says yes, she is. EZ.
/r/seduction13/12/17 03:23 AM
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Women experience the world very differently to men. Women are much more emotionally intelligent and aware than men. Women FEEL, men THINK. Women will automatically pick up on your attraction towards them in countless ways (WITHOUT thinking) whether it's the fact that you approached her, the way you are breathing, how you look at her, what you do, the things you say, your body language, how you touch etc. Most guys pretty much need to be told by the woman "I WANT YOU TO F*CK ME", or the guy will …
/r/seduction13/12/17 03:16 AM
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it'll be better than me being something I'm not I agree. Don't be someone you are not. But, work to BECOME the person you want to. Small steps.
/r/seduction13/12/17 03:04 AM
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The place I'm coming from when talking to a woman is to learn what she is like, if she's interesting and if she's worth me spending the time to get to know more. So just ask what you want to know. It will flow pretty naturally with practice. Find out what you have in common, what she's passionate about, where she grew up, what her future looks like, her hobbies, what music she likes, her family, her background, any unique skills, what her friends love about her, what she studies/does for work et…
/r/seduction13/12/17 01:52 AM
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Don't try, BE.
/r/seduction13/12/17 01:13 AM
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We've all been there. The fear of rejection NEVER leaves, you just have to act in spite of the fear :) So what if she rejects you and you see her again? She will help by giving you signs of interest, facilitating getting together etc. Pull right back on the text/snapping, too. Keep it to a bare minimum. Right now you are friend zoning yourself. Ask her out. Be direct but don't ask "Do you want to go on a date?". She will KNOW it's a date if you call and ask "When are you free to get together for…
/r/seduction13/12/17 01:09 AM
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Makes me very happy to read this. Good for you :) Be proud. p.s. If the time is right and her lips are unreachable, repreposition yourself OR literally tell her "Come here and kiss me now". It's your job to escalate physically.
/r/seduction13/12/17 12:55 AM
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Women pretty much always know dude.
/r/seduction13/12/17 12:47 AM
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If you let fear of rejection stop you, you will NEVER end up with the woman of your dreams. I can sense the fear in your post... you're justifying why she won't want to (it's busy, prob not in her best interest etc). BS! If she likes you, she will help you. And if she doesn't want to, of course it won't be weird. UNLESS you make it. If she doesn't want to go out, 99% of the time she'll tell you indirectly "I'm a bit busy", "Maybe another time", "I'm not looking for a relationship", "I have a boy…
/r/seduction12/12/17 06:08 AM
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You have to view these in aggregate. One or two things may be coincidence but if you are seeing a handful of them together pay attention. She will help if she's interested and give you more signs.
/r/seduction12/12/17 04:05 AM
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Just here to help :) I pick up every girl I hug and most of them I can pick up with one arm. The wet pantie giggles and stares I get after that prove you wrong. Lots of women initially respond positively to a physically strong/attractive guy - it's cute, funny, shows hard work, may make some feel comfortable and that you could protect them, shows good health but it counts for basically NOTHING when it comes to seduction and longterm attraction. In rare cases it can even hurt your appeal by conve…
/r/seduction12/12/17 04:01 AM
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You'll hear from her if/when she's ready. Most likely it will be an innocent/innocuous message e.g. "Hey, how are you?" or "Hey, do you want to study this week?". 99% chance she wants you to ask her out on a date, so DO IT. Plenty of fish in the sea so don't get hung up on her. I would not be pursuing her at this stage if you believe she is in a relationship -- it't just wrong. Let her come to you if/when she's ready.
/r/seduction12/12/17 02:04 AM
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If you approach a woman, she knows you are interested in her. They're smart, they pick up on this. Guys are idiots and we do not. Stay direct and get to the point. It shows confidence, purpose and direction.
/r/seduction12/12/17 01:11 AM
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This may not apply here, but I think there's a very high chance it does: Women who are unhappy in a relationship will usually start exploring other options while still with the guy they're thinking of leaving. If they find someone new who they feel can meet their needs better than their partner, they'll often break up with their boyfriend and start seeing this new guy very soon after OR will start seeing the new guy (or lots of new guys) while still with their boyfriend and will break up with th…
/r/seduction12/12/17 01:00 AM
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Except in rare cases for women with very, very specific "types", physique does not matter AT ALL. Your personality (including confidence, drive, ambition, purpose, humour etc) are what counts. Ask some women you know if they'd ever date a fat guy, for example. Half will say yes/they're open to it, the other half will say no. Then ask the women who said no, "What if he was incredibly confident, sure of himself, successful, funny etc?". Almost all will change their tune and say "Oh well if he had …
/r/seduction12/12/17 12:41 AM
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Do you want to study with her, or date her? Think about the answer, pick one, and pursue it. If you want to date her, just ask her out! Don't be a pussy. If you keep doing things a friend would do (including trying to slowly make her fall for you by hanging out a lot in non-romantic settings like studying), she'll automatically assume you're not interested in her.
/r/seduction12/12/17 12:35 AM
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You'll scare most women off by texting too much. It comes off as weak and needy. Let her reach out to you. When she does, set a date. Get to know her in person, not by text.
/r/seduction12/12/17 12:31 AM
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we began arguing, eventually we stopped talking we had a small argument I Said since When do you care we kept on fighting on and off Thread over.
/r/seduction12/12/17 12:29 AM
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CALL HER and ask her out.
/r/seduction12/12/17 12:26 AM
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So, you don't have her number?
/r/seduction12/12/17 12:25 AM
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Well done bud.
/r/seduction12/12/17 12:23 AM
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Need, need, need. Bad place to be coming from, bro :) You'll throw a weak/needy/controlling vibe out there and scare women away from you quickly. Get 3% Man by Corey Wayne and watch some of his videos.
/r/seduction12/12/17 12:20 AM
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If she's laughing more than she should be at anything (funny or not) it's almost always a strong sign of attraction. If she's initiating contact (hugs etc) she's practically screaming that she's interested in you AND that touching is ok.
/r/seduction12/12/17 12:18 AM
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I posted about this a few times recently. Short version: Puts herself in your orbit Finds an excuse to talk to you (e.g. asking for help/directions/lighter) Eye contact Exposing her neck Touching herself Playing with hair Bumping into you Lots of eye contact Leaning toward you Touching you Looking at your lips then back to your eyes (basically a huge "KISS ME" sign) Asking lots of Qs about you, carrying the conversation Laughing a lot at your not-that-funny jokes Lots more.
/r/seduction11/12/17 07:12 AM
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You're right. Sorry, I mixed up the details but my message is the same. Yes, she initiated that discussion but you should't have gone into it. I'd have told her "I'm just looking to hang out, have fun and see what happens". By saying serious OR casual is fine, you sound needy "I'll take anything I can get from you because I really like you and don't want to lose you" Just let it unfold. What she said about not being on the same page was either: A test of your potential neediness (to see your rea…
/r/seduction11/12/17 07:07 AM
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Don't EVER go on a date if you can't end up at her place or yours. She feels like you rejected her. She has lost major attraction because of that. THEN, you acted needy by trying to find out if she likes you, asking what page she's on etc. Don't. You are lucky you had something on (Day 4) and didn't see her. 90% sure that was a test to see if you're too available or would fall over yourself and reschedule your day to fit her in. Stop asking about the status of your relationship with her and just…
/r/seduction11/12/17 04:24 AM
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There's a reason he says to read it at least 10-15 times ;)
/r/seduction11/12/17 02:01 AM
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Are you getting bored, or is there simply no attraction between you and your dates?
/r/seduction11/12/17 01:12 AM
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When/if she is ready for a relationship, she will tell you either indirectly or directly. Until then, just hang out, have fun, hook up. Don't get hung up on the idea of a relationship -- it's needy. See what happens.
/r/seduction11/12/17 01:11 AM
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Probably shit testing you bro -- the aim is for her to see if you are confident, hold your ground and maintain your center while she rips into you. OR she's crazy.
/r/seduction11/12/17 01:09 AM
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Nailed it. OP, it's either a shit test to see if you're a needy/weak/jelly man or a subtle hint that you're not giving her what she needs and she's letting you know she has other options if you can't meet her needs :)
/r/seduction11/12/17 01:07 AM
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3% Man - Corey Wayne. Crushes everything else out.
/r/seduction11/12/17 01:03 AM
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She's interested (or at least, was). Don't complicate it. Call her, get straight to the point, ask when she's available and set a DEFINITE date (day, time and place) and get off the phone. She'll lose interest if you don't be the leader and understand her hints. If she won't make a definite date, she has lost interest.
/r/seduction10/12/17 11:29 PM
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Great. All the best. :)
/r/seduction10/12/17 10:34 PM
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:)
/r/seduction10/12/17 07:41 AM
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Best of luck. Make sure it's at night and you can end up at her place or yours after. If she's keen and you don't let it happen, she'll feel rejected.
/r/seduction10/12/17 05:34 AM
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Eh, if you want something enough (like the ability to own the heart of the woman of your dreams) you'll do what you need to make it happen which includes learning by experience and getting rejected 100s of times. It's part of the process. I'm an introvert. I'm on the spectrum too. I'm also human and have the same fear of rejection as anyone else. The difference is I have forced myself to learn and to act, in spite of fear, instead of cower because of it. It doesn't get easy, but it can become ha…
/r/seduction10/12/17 05:11 AM
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You did pretty well. Personally, I never verbally compliment women about their appearance (it can come off very needy, if they're cute, they already know AND hear it all the time) except in very rare circumstances in the right setting. The closest I really come to saying "you're cute" etc is like when I was out and saw two GORGEOUS women, dressed to kill at a bar. I saw them in the corner of my eye, turned to them, made eye contact with both and OVERTLY looked them both up and down, slowly, befo…
/r/seduction10/12/17 05:02 AM
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If she's miles away, where do you hope it will lead? I've had the distance thing come up plenty of times. I meet lots of woman at seminars and events when I am in other cities. Very rarely is it worth pursuing -- the logistics are almost insurmountable and there are plenty of wonderful women where you live so don't make life hard on yourself. If you're just looking for a quick fling, maybe a different story if you both know what you want going into it and neither is looking for more. In a case l…
/r/seduction10/12/17 04:35 AM
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Depends how much she likes you, if there's any other guys she has on her radar, how into them she is, if any of them have the balls to ask her out first and how much of a chance wants to give you. Some women will lose attraction very, very quickly if you don't do your job (ask for the number/set a date) when they show they're interested. Others will give you a bit more slack because they know guys are kinda stupid but the moral of the story is don't hesitate, don't f*ck around. If you like a wom…
/r/seduction10/12/17 04:27 AM
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It's all learning :) Next time, if you want a girl to know you like her: Approach (she will know you're into her as soon as you do this unless you do something dumb like asking for the time then leaving). Women have amazing radars. Guys are idiots, we have no clue, but women get it. Ask for her number (even if she's unsure after the approach, this will confirm you interest). Set a date If you do ONE of these 3 things, any woman on the planet will know you are interested in them. If you do all 3,…
/r/seduction10/12/17 04:20 AM
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And if he was leading a busy successful life, not texting you all the time and when you reach out, he'd chat for a few minutes then set the next date for later that week (giving you days to anticipate the next time you see him) what effect would it have on your attraction toward him? Would you be thinking about out him in the lead up to the date, wondering if he's really into you, wondering what he's doing etc? In most cases, this builds attraction even though it might seem counter intuitive. Wh…
/r/seduction10/12/17 03:20 AM
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If you have her number, call and set a date (go out for dinner somewhere quiet and affordable so you can talk and hear each other) and have another place nearby you can head to after (darts, bowling, mini golf etc) but don't tell her about the second place. If you don't have her number, set the date next time you see her and get her number then.
/r/seduction10/12/17 03:01 AM
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Hah, I like your cheeky idea of replying with "opposite of you". If she's showing signs of interest, she'll find it funny and realise you're teasing. If she's emotionally unstable it'll be good to find out now, not later. Or be even cockier and say "Girls who meet me for a drink on Wednesday, 7pm at <venue>. See you there." Don't talk too much online or you'll kill it before it starts.
/r/seduction10/12/17 02:29 AM
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Always assume attraction. It's the best place to come from (even though most of the time, it's not true). Side note: It helps SO much being able to recognise the signs of attraction women show too. You will exude confidence when you know a woman is into you. It becomes seamless.
/r/seduction10/12/17 02:25 AM
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she eventually started coming over to my end and talking to me when it was slow THIS is where she started pursuing you. Well done on keeping it cool. Don't blow it. Next time you see her, ask her out on a definite date. No coffee, no lunches, no movies. Go out for a drink, at night. Set an exact time, date and place. Nothing vague and no "call to confirm". She is CLEARLY into you. If you fail to act, it won't be long before she will lose attraction and/or feel rejected so go for it.
/r/seduction10/12/17 02:07 AM
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Well done. Sounds like you guys had a great connection from the start which always makes it seamless. Good for you.
/r/seduction10/12/17 02:01 AM
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One you start chatting, she should be doing most of the talking. Ask good questions and LISTEN. If you're having to put in a lot of effort, most of the time, it means she is not interested in you. Women will HELP you if they like you. They will ask about you, they will keep the conversation flowing. If you're getting really short answers, having to carry the conversation etc, move on brother.
/r/seduction10/12/17 01:57 AM
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This sometimes pisses women off [bring on the downvotes] but the truth is, most women don't understand what attracts them to men (even fewer men understand what attracts women to them). You may be the VERY rare exception to the rule but I'm going out on a limb here: You've pretty much friend zoned this guy and you don't even know. You may go on a few more dates, may sleep together but if he's too available, texting you all the time, telling you everything about him, acting needy and weak and doi…
/r/seduction10/12/17 01:54 AM
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I didn't want to talk to her on the bus, since if she rejected me for whatever reason, there would be nowhere for either of us to go and it would be fucking awkward. Wrong. Apart from the fact she was obviously interested in you, if a girl you approach isn't interest/says she has a boyfriend etc, all you've gotta do is smile and say "Take it as a compliment". No awkwardness. As for your approach anxiety, if she is really interested in you, 99% of the time, even if you're a bumbling nervous idiot…
/r/seduction10/12/17 01:41 AM
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Bro, don't tell women you like them. THEY KNOW. 99% sure you've been friend zoned, btw. Either she wasn't into you from the start, OR, she was but you didn't pick up on her signs and escalate/set up a date soon enough. Ask her out on a definite date (in the evening) and see what she says. If yes, great. If no, move on. AND, don't ask women if they're physically attracted to you. It makes you sound insecure/weak/needy -- massive turn off. IMO, your lack of confidence is your issue. Looks barely m…
/r/seduction10/12/17 01:13 AM
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I guess. Guys also do the bench thing to, so it's not a sign of interest. Subway one probably was but I'm clueless on that one. You've just gotta look at these things in context. From what you said, there's almost ZERO chance the gym was innocent. This is exactly what a woman who was interested in you -- but not extremely bold/confident/masculine -- will do. She'll put herself in your orbit and let you make the next move. IF you fail to do so, most of the time she will lose interest fast because…
/r/seduction10/12/17 12:12 AM
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Almost certainly an enormous, flashing sign saying "notice me and say hi".
/r/seduction10/12/17 12:04 AM
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In those situations, YOU were approached. Just make eye contact, say hi and start a conversation. EZ.
/r/seduction08/12/17 05:59 AM
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FEAR is the reason. The way to overcome it is to think about what this fear will cost you if not overcome (e.g. it will cost you the opportunity to have a girl of your dreams), then act in spite of your fears, over and over and over. If you don't, you'll end up in a feedback loop, spiralling downwards and losing confidence because your fear is getting the better of you. And see every rejection as one step closer to success. You get rejected by 100% of the women you don't approach. Pretty terribl…
/r/seduction08/12/17 04:14 AM
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I didn't want to make things uncomfortable for her I guess. It should never be uncomfortable. Ask for her number at the wedding. If she's interested, it'll be easy. If she isn't interested in you, she'll tell you no in a way that she hopes won't hurt your feelings e.g. "I have a boyfriend, I live out of town, I'm not looking for a relationship etc.". If so, tell her to take it as a compliment and everything's sweet.
/r/seduction08/12/17 04:07 AM
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She's not interested. Move on.
/r/seduction08/12/17 04:00 AM
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"No clue" is probably what everyone downvoting has.
/r/seduction08/12/17 03:45 AM
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Get the audiobook and put it on repeat for a few months.
/r/seduction08/12/17 03:44 AM
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It's easy. Make eye contact and smile. Be confident. Don't apologise for wanting her. Feminine energy wants the attention of masculine energy. If she's not into you, she'll either pretend you don't exist and not make eye contact, or quickly look away and never look back. If this happens, move on and know that you've given her a compliment. If she's interested (or occasionally, just very friendly) she'll make eye contact and smile back. When this happens, 90% of the time it's an invitation to app…
/r/seduction08/12/17 03:35 AM
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3% Man by Corey Wayne. All the answers are in there. Trust me.
/r/seduction08/12/17 03:23 AM
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Before you start dating, try to understand women, dating and attraction first. Google Corey Wayne.
/r/seduction08/12/17 03:21 AM
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From what you've said, she's showing signs of attraction. Have fun, make her laugh and if she shows signs of attraction (e.g. moves closer, bumps into you, starts touching etc it's your job to escalate. If she touches, it means touching is ok. If you hesitate for too long, she'll feel rejected and lose interest so be on the ball.
/r/seduction08/12/17 03:20 AM
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It's possible, but very unlikely, that she just wants to hang out. Much more likely that she is very attracted to you and now it's your job to take the lead. Call her in a few days, chat for no more than a few minutes then set up an evening date at least a few days in advance. If she's keen, she'll make it easy and you'll have a date lined up. If not, you'll know she isn't interested in you romantically. I'm going to be she is interested. BTW, learn what signs to look for to know if a woman is a…
/r/seduction08/12/17 03:15 AM
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Why the hell is this downvoted so much? You're bang on.
/r/seduction08/12/17 03:09 AM
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You might have blown it. Don't ever plan a date that can't end in her going back to your place, or you going back to hers. I'm willing to bet that she feels you rejected her and "no biggie" actually mean "BIGGIE -- I can't believe you rejected me, I'm upset and you're now in friendzone". You'll have a low chance of ever going out with her again BUT her level of attraction was obviously through the roof to begin with, so it may be salvageable. DON'T MESSAGE HER AGAIN. I repeat, DO NOT MESSAGE HER…
/r/seduction08/12/17 03:08 AM
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Man, where to start. Actually, I know. If you THINK a woman is interested in you, she probably is. You have probably consciously or subconsciously noticed subtle signs. Your hunch is usually right. Ok, now that that's out of the way. Here's some general ones. You have to look at these in conjunction with one another though. Not every glance and smile is a "I like you" but if you're seeing a few signs pointing in the same direction...: If she makes eye contact (especially more than once) If she s…
/r/seduction21/11/17 02:14 AM
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He's a confident, busy guy. Reach out. Call him. If he's interested in you, he will set a date (unless he has no idea about women in which case, ask him out yourself -- I doubt this is the case though as he's doing exactly what I would do). After your call, you'll know if he's interested on not because you'll be going on a date, or not. Guys reading this: this is exactly the right thing to do in the early stages of dating/attraction. Contact once a week, set one date a week, don't blow up her ph…
/r/seduction21/11/17 01:54 AM
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Focus on YOU. Build an awesome life, have a mission/purpose and pursue it with fervour. A guy who is focused on his mission/purpose and has a successful life radiates confidence and women are incredibly attracted to this. It will completely change where you're coming from, too. Knowing you are awesome vs thinking you don't have your shit together results in a very different inner experience and outer appearance. And finally, when you are AWESOME, you standards will skyrocket. In 6 months, 1 year…
/r/seduction21/11/17 01:40 AM
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A date should be fun-filled romantic opportunity for sex to happen (so no coffee, no lunches, no daytime stuff -- save that for when you're in love). Meet up for a drink at a QUIET, affordable bar. Ask lots of questions and LISTEN. Let her do 80% of the talking. If things are going well (if not, leave -- don't waste your time), move to a nearby place for dinner then finish up with something fun and physical like bowling, miniature golf, darts, pool etc. If she's into you and you ask good questio…
/r/seduction21/11/17 01:31 AM
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Oh man, have to be gentle here :) Coffee and a hike is not a date. It's what friends do. Do you want to be her friend or lover? Regarding dates themselves. I was going to write a long spiel but a better idea is for you to google "Corey Wayne Dates". You'll find all sorts of videos including how to set dates, what do to/not do etc.
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