Is it possible to talk too much?

MagnusRoundstone · 2017-12-10T01:34:30+00:00

Of course it is possible to talk to much.

stevenmarkryan · 2017-12-10T01:57:17+00:00

One you start chatting, she should be doing most of the talking. Ask good questions and LISTEN.
If you're having to put in a lot of effort, most of the time, it means she is not interested in you. Women will HELP you if they like you. They will ask about you, they will keep the conversation flowing.
If you're getting really short answers, having to carry the conversation etc, move on brother.

oyoungpadawan · 2017-12-10T03:57:56+00:00

As a man who talks way too much (I can't stand silences) I know this problem all too well. I am aware of the problem and still I talk too much. First I learned to tell more interesting stuff while still talking way too much, this made the problem even worse, you become ultimate friendzone material. You have to escalate and make your intentions clear! And try be comfortable around silences, fill the time with other things.

PM_ME_UR_SOCKS_GIRL · 2017-12-10T02:54:36+00:00

YES! I get told I don't talk enough, but no one really gives a fuck what a guy really has to say. Do more listening and people will find you more interesting instead of telling everyone your life story seeking validation.

Rindo3 · 2017-12-10T06:30:09+00:00

Yea, its possible to talk too much.

See, the problem before was that you weren't sure what to say, or, you didn't know how good what you did say, was. Thats where the insecurity came from before.

Now that you've practiced speaking to women, and have confidence in what you say and how you say it, you want to use your new ability all the time.

Don't. Save it until you need to use it.

Now that you know you can do it, you speak more often, and more than necessary. That too, shows a lack of confidence.

Begin to practice dialing in that ability now, so you will always know what to say, and when to say it. You will begin to have more success by doing less.

Once you have that down, you will discover different women require different amounts, and so-on-and-so-forth.

Speaking well, being enthusiastic, conveying interest, and having a strong vernacular are all seperate tools in the bag, my friend. Keep growing!

NoRiceForP · 2017-12-10T10:13:43+00:00

I'm actually by nature a shy person. But I've since learned to turn that into a positive thing! I have a much more quiet way of seducing. When talking with a girl I just ask a few questions every once a while to steer the conversation and let the girl do most of the talking. The trick is to be confident at the same time. Even though you are a bit quiet you are still smiling, giving eye contact, glancing at her lips, etc. I find it works just as well as the talkative way of seduction except the more quiet way of seduction comes so much more naturally.

ImJustSo · 2017-12-10T02:10:20+00:00

Try being aloof sometime. There's a time and place for everything.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-12-10T08:51:27+00:00

I try to ask questions to get them to talk about themselves a little more, but it always seems to end up with me doing the majority of the talking in the end.

Asking questions is fine. The missing ingredient here is following up well on a question.

You need never run out of topics. The girl is talking if she's answering questions, and if she's doing that, she's handing you information you could be following up on to come up with places to take the conversation.

Focus on getting at her motivations (why she did something) or her emotions (how she felt about something) and you'll be in good shape with your follow-ups.

airacarvalho · 2017-12-10T12:01:19+00:00

You're still having some self-couscious toughts about yourself. Yes, beeing silent is totally okay and normal. But actually you're doing great, don't put to much toughts on either you're talking too much or too little. You should continue testing the waters and improving what you said, like practicing eye contact, smiling etc. because that's the only thing you can be sure! You can't be sure if people are thinking that you're talking to much (they are probably not), but dude, you can ask them if you want to be sure. But if you do ask them, they will probably think "oh shit, this guy noticed I'm silent, shit shit, what sould I say?". That will probably happen, because just like your self, this person is trying to interact and is also thinking "Am I talking too much/too little?". Anyway, just keep your energy dude and keep practicing!

jacobj404 · 2017-12-10T13:48:54+00:00

at the start of an interaction you should be the one who is chatty setting up a high value frame of being the high value person in the interaction. once theyve started to invest let them while asking questions by qualifying and being flirty and when talking try dropping hints about whats cool about you. Todds manifesto on youtube covers this topic i believe

vabnag123 · 2017-12-10T05:04:18+00:00

Yes, absolutely.

danielson1987 · 2017-12-10T09:38:27+00:00

try it and see what happens

Title	Is it possible to talk too much?
Author	dular27
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Date	December 10, 2017 1:19 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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