So, I've been at this for a while. I've read most the important posts on r/seduction and have read a few books. I've taken action by being more socially leading, working on areas of self-improvement, approaching more women et c. I find it easy to pick up and date girls that I'm attracted to but consider a 6-8 (all things considered, not just looks). I can recognize their attraction and things seem to flow, no games really and I generally have a good time.

The girls I have a hard time with are the ones that I think are 9s or 10s. It seems like it is hard to keep them around, or I fuck things up, or I don't build enough attraction for whatever reason. While I try to stay confident and cool, I think that I may sub communicate that I am insecure because I find them much more attractive than me.

How can I work to the point where I can consistently pulling 9s and 10s (again, not just looks)? The best solution I can think of is to keep investing in myself; stay in shape, dress well, and most importantly gain more confidence by getting good at my job and hobbies, and keep taking shots with 9s and 10s. What solutions can you guys think of? Can you point to me to any books or articles that might help?