How do I get motivated for cold approaches? dates?

daygamer0911 · 2017-11-15T23:26:46+00:00

You don't you just fucking do it. Motivation is for the weak-minded.

AIRSKI · 2017-11-16T05:59:08+00:00

I think about cold approach like this. What if I just say hi? What if I don't? It's kinda simple, chances of you crossing paths with this stranger again are slim. If you see beauty or something intriguing about her go talk to her. It might become something more. Even if it doesn't become anything at least you learned you and her aren't compatible.

In my eyes that's better than staying awake at night over the regret of not at least saying hi

jamal256 · 2017-11-16T06:28:55+00:00

First you have to deal with your anxiety everything else will fall into place.

If you have any insecurities about your acne, teeth, etc. Make that your main priority to fix them.

Next be aware of irrational thoughts, you become what you think.

If you think you're a worthless piece of shit your going to act like a worthless piece of shit.

When you have anxiety your brain sometimes creates thoughts in your head that aren't true to keep you in your comfort zone, to combat this you need to reflect on your negative thoughts and test if they are actually true.

For example your flake, did she flake because she didn't like you or was it just something out of your control? She could of got a huge zit and didn't want you to see her.

You may be beating yourself up over that for no reason.

To address your oneitis, there are aprox 3.5 billion women in the world, if that girl isn't working out, I gaurantee there is another girl just like her that will like you for you. Just keep meeting more girls

Don't fap for 3+ days to boost motivation.

If all this doesn't work try some breathing exercises and try taking Ashwaganda to ease your anxiety temporarily to get some practice in.

Also just be honest about everything, your opinions, intentions, etc. If you want to fuck her, let her know that. Respectively of course.

moontripper1246 · 2017-11-16T02:16:09+00:00

I really don't understand you dude. I don't know how to help you. I've always been motivated to do those things. Don't get me wrong it's been hard and I've been chickenshit a lot throughout it all, but the underlying motivation was always there.

Maybe you just don't want to have sex as bad as I do.

Title	How do I get motivated for cold approaches? dates?
Author	LonelyBoy299
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	November 15, 2017 11:10 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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