I've been on a few dates recently and had some success with women. I'm having some fun with a girl I met, though it isn't anything serious.

What I'm saying is.. I know I'm coming across attractive enough to at least get women into bed. But.. I don't have any confidence with women until they show interest in me.

The success I've had has been when women have approached me (only once at salsa), and online -- where someone has agreed to go on a date with me.

When I see women randomly in the street or at work or wherever, if they don't stop at the sight of me, I assume they're not interested in being approached by me.. and at times maybe even repulsed by me.

That then leads me to question what's wrong with me. Is it my hair? Is it my style? Is it my complexion? Is it my height?

Thing is, I KNOW this is all bs. I know my physical appearance is a foot in the door at best, and that nobody knows if they're attracted to me until I've had a conversation with them. I know these things intellectually, but I don't register them emotionally.

I've struggled with an inferiority complex for the last 10 years and have only in the last 8 months started building confidence, so I imagine it could be a case of my emotions taking longer to catch up.

I'm 27, I've never had a GF, never had regular sex, dated a handful of women (mostly in the last few months). That could also play a part in my lack of confidence seducing women.

Thoughts? Anybody been in a similar situation? How did you overcome this?

I think the biggest problem is I don't have many positive experiences to reference.