I met this girl online and when I called her the first time everything went smooth, almost zero anxiety so I was just able to be myself and we had a good time. A week later we spoke again and it started off well but then there was a moment of silence which really put the pressure on me and triggered my anxiety. The anxiety is not so much what bothers me but it’s how shitty and undesirable I feel when I get it. This is what changed the course of that conversation from me being my confident self to being unconfident and feeling unworthy because I had suffered anxiety mid-conversation. Ultimately it’s a shame of anxiety, which comes up especially in these situations where you need to appear confident to attract a woman.