How do you handle when SHE'S nervous?

recyclablebanthas · 2018-08-20T03:20:58+00:00

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How do you handle when SHE'S nervous?

Depends on how or why she's getting nervous.

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I ask this because it seems to be a recurring theme for me. I can open and speak naturally to women but when I go for the close women tense up and turn clearly anxious.

This is too unclear as to what's happening, and when.

Which "closes" are you trying to go for when this happens? Number? Kiss? Sex?
When is this happening? Initial meeting? First date? Further on than this?

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This results in us calming things down and talking about her feelings. While I know I have to take initiative I don't want to do something that she might take too aggressive. So how do any of you ease her nerves near closing?

If you're talking about this happening right before attempts to escalate to sex, then there are a couple things to note:

It is possible that something is going wrong during your initial screening process and you're either choosing women with this sort of anxiety or reluctance to escalate, or......
Something you are doing might be making her tense up and it's possible you were not paying attention well enough, even if you are catching it soon after and calming things down. If you're really on it, then it is often possible to avoid the tensing up situation.

Could be either one of these situations, or a combination of both.

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Making her nervous is a good thing, it can mean she sees you as something bigger and better than herself.

Some things to consider about this idea:

The guy shouldn't need the girl to be in such a subordinate position, to feel comfortable with the situation. He should be able to stand on his own without the girl placing him on a pedestal. It doesn't end well when anyone puts someone else up on a pedestal. It's codependency and dysfunctional.
It's also a terrible idea to define it as "good" that a girl should be scared or intimidated by a guy she's on a date with.

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You need to build raport and escalate before making any big moves so when you go in for the kiss you know she'll respond the way you want.

True, it's important and helpful to have rapport, this means you're in touch with what she wants.

But this doesn't mean she'll necessarily want what you want, or that she'll want it when you want it. It just increases the chances you'll see when she does want, if she ends up wanting it.

Therealnickfever · 2018-08-20T04:34:53+00:00

its because your moving to fast for her, it's a nice way of saying too soon, too strong, women's biggest pet peve is pressure!

levelUpLA · 2018-08-20T16:38:49+00:00

Thats why the best pua's in the world get numbers for the date rather then trying to bang on first interaction. Idk why but for some reasons when its a date vs gaming her for 2 -3 hours on approach your more likely to sleep with them (btw not my state its on a bunch of pua forms and youtube videos from good guys more then 50+ lays from cold approach). In my experience this is also true which be caused most likely because shes with her friends vs just you alone... Get numbers and plan for dates!!! for ever 10 numbers you get, you should take about 1-2 out on a actual date and calibrate your game from there ...

tab13092 · 2018-08-22T18:08:57+00:00

Chances are, if you're repeatedly running in to this then you're probably moving things along faster then they're comfortable with.

My rule of thumb (which thus far has worked out for the most part for me) is to lead but focus first and foremost on comfort/connection. Generally, dude's are already thinking about how to get her undressed before they know a thing about her. While that's not wrong, you can't lead with that mindset or you'll move too fast.

I always focus on connection/comfort when going out on a first date rather then just getting physical right off the bat and just feel the vibe out through out the night.

Can honestly say that I have yet to have any sort of advances turned down, simply because I focus on them as a person and not as some sort of sexual object.

Best of luck.

Title	How do you handle when SHE'S nervous?
Author	ZombiesBeStylinOnMeh
Upvotes	5
Comments	4
Date	August 20, 2018 1:22 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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