How to approach girls

StructurePlane2144 · 2025-08-29T15:52:46+00:00

Cold approaching is 90% about vibes as opposed to context, you won’t really be able to “talk” your way into attracting a woman.

I say this to mean I’ve picked up women by simply asking them where they work and where they live.

Essentially if she’s attracted to you you can literally just have a normal conversation as you would any stranger.

The difference is you always want to have the intention of setting a next step I.e lunch or coffee (dinner is too formal).

If you really hit it off from a mutual interest like art then you can go an a gallery date, but this is only if you’re actually into the same thing.

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-08-29T17:44:59+00:00

Seduction is not about following social norms, or doing things because they are normal in a particular culture. You are missing the fundamental point of what seduction is about if you are thinking "yeah but doing this in x country is weird".

The main reason guys don't get laid or have problems with women is because they are always adapting to social norms, playing by the rules, being a good little boy who does not what he wants, but what's expected of him.

This type of guy has been conidtioned to follow the norms so much that when he says a guy breaking the norms and getting laid, he thinks "he is an asshole, im a nice guy, why do women like assholes, and not nice guys".

You are not a nice guy for following the social norms or the normal procedure of meeting women or making things happen, you are just a fake unauthetic scared boy afraid of consequences who thinks playing by the rules will get hiim rewarded with sex and love and if he doesn't play by the norms then he is scared that people will be mad at him, reprimand them, ostrasize him, and face backlash and discomfort.

So it's irrelevant what openers work because it's not about what works, it's about expressing your authentic self iven if it doesn't work. You say what you want to say because it comes from wihtin for being real and if she likes it great if not also great.

Now this doesn't mean that you can't improve you soccial skills to communicate yourself more effectively, hence why you can simply do it by expressing to her immediately first of all why are you approaching her, what is the reason why you begin talking to her, and add on to that why with her. So since you are trying to hit on her because you are attracted to her, that's what you say as the first line that comes out of your mouth as soon as you are in front of her.

"Hey, i know this is random, but i just saw you from over there and i thought you look cute, and i thought man im gonna regret it so much if i did not try to get to know you real quick"

This is how you can open anywhere, and the point of this line is not whteher it works, because not every woman has to like you or be interested reagardless of what you say, the point is to express authentically and with honesty why you are there talking to her without hiding anything, without pretending like you are just looking for directions, not just express yourself in a real way.

It's not a pick up line to get her to like you and want to date you, it's a way to start the conversation and set the frame of that conversation, so she knows what's up and can either engage with you or tell you no.

And if she leans into it and wants to listen cool, if not also cool, you don't insult her, you don't insinst, you don't ask her why, you don't demand axplanations from her, you just accept it gracefully, you thank her for listening, wish her a nice day, and move on to the next woman that you are interested in.

New_Banana3858 · 2025-08-29T19:33:38+00:00

my opener is you wouldn't believe what happened to me
and then drag out something silly like, a Cat pissed on me, when i was sitting on a bench outdoor.

Title	How to approach girls
Author	boiimtrying
Upvotes	3
Comments	5
Date	August 29, 2025 3:16 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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