How to ask questions without interviewing/interrogating?

ThrowawayPUA · 2014-10-12T23:14:48+00:00

Use direct statements to draw someone out.

Bad: Where do you work?
Good: I bet you have an interesting job.

This is a classic conversation strategy, the way I heard it, you are establishing a tone of familiarity, since people don't ask a lot of questions of their close friends, they tend to talk in direct statements.

But then it occurred to me, you can also use direct statements to express empathy and show that you are viewing things from their perspective. So in that way, you could say things like "it sounds like you had a good time" or whatever fits the context.

RPSigmaStigma · 2014-10-12T23:16:31+00:00

I have something I call stackable assumptions. Instead of asking direct questions, you state assumptions and let her confirm or refute them. For example:

Me: you eastern European girls drink a lot!

Her: I'm not eastern European, I'm Scandinavian! And I only drink when I'm out with friends!

Me: Scandinavian huh? You must love winter.

Her: teehee, I do actually. I get to wear all my fun coats and hats! :D

This works especially well to sexualize the conversation.

Me: I bet under that good girl persona you're a total freak, huh?

Her: maaayyybe... teehee

Me: yeah, i know your type. You're trouble haha

Her: something tells me you are too :P

HeisenHancho · 2014-10-12T23:07:07+00:00

Use things at the beginning of your question like "Wait...So?" or like "Huh, hey so like when_?"

Just variate your inflection to sound more casual.

Title	How to ask questions without interviewing/interrogating?
Author	sedditseddit
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Date	October 12, 2014 11:01 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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