How to be respectful and seductive at the same time?

SnooHesitations4922 · 2022-06-20T23:31:59+00:00

You respect her by being receptive to her needs. If she needs sex, give it to her. She will make herself obvious. You just need a smooth escalation. Try light kino while talking, if she pulls back give her her space, if she touches you back you can initiate heavier petting and if she seems into that and is returning it, ask her to your place or hers. Asking verbally for consent can get weird, but it can be effective if you twist it into accusing the girl of having dirty thoughts or wanting to seduce you, and as a gentleman you must comply...if breakfast is on her🤣

quiriviejita · 2022-06-21T23:11:03+00:00

Respect is relative and contextual.

I've been told my flirting style is very respectful. I've been told my flirting style is rude.

And in both cases I'm using only one style: mine.

So there is no such thing as a fit it all flirting style.

Respect is relative.

I'd say that if you are upfront, confident, smiling, and easy going you can almost say anything and make her laugh. And come off as a cool guy.

Also, try to read the room. If you are flirting/teasing her/letting her know that you are attracted to her in an open, public, well lit, full of people cafe that's way more respectful than flirting with her in a dark, lonely alley at midnight.

Respect is contextual.

So always read the room, she has to feel she's got nothing to lose if she keeps talking to you. She has to feel safe. If she's not feeling safe at all it won't matter how much game you have, she won't flirt back.

That being said, here are some examples of "respectful" and "disrespectful" teasing:

Respectful flirting

"Hey, I saw you from afar and thought you have a really cool style/tote bag/sneakers/hat/whatever (point at her)"

(This is a classic. Bear in mind that the more specific the comment, the better. Pick something she's wearing that you genuinely find interesting and make a comment about it. If you do this enough, you'd find out pretty soon that you are "attuned" to fashion, and the things you pick are really important to the girl you are talking to).

"Hey, I saw you sitting here alone and I was wondering... (pause, she'll be hooked) Would you like to be the mother of my children? (Smile and wink)"

In this example, even though you are being bold and direct, you are not disrespecting her. And the question asked is so over-the-top that she'll just laugh at the ocurrence and think you are funny.

[If she's eating/drinking something] "Oh, I'm so jealous of those french fries, they just touched your lips (smile, wink)

(You can also be jealous of the chair/bech she's sitting in)

"Hey, I saw you here and I was wondering... where are you from?" She'll tell you her place of origin. Then you can say "Oh, don't tell me that. I love women from (her place of origin). Actually I always fall in love with them (smile or laugh)".

(She'll laugh and think "Is it me or this guy is actually flirting with me?")

[After she tells you her name] "Oh, the last Lisa I was with was the best. She's got really smooth moves. The bar is really high for Lisas. Just sayin' (smile, wink)"

After you build the initial rapport, whatever teasing you do is gonna be respectful, but challenging.

Try to avoid any teasing about her body, her nationality or gender.

If you are being playful, don't touch any subjects she has little to no power to change (skin color, ethnicity, religion, social class, voice tone, etc.) Because those can be sensitive subjects.

Here are a few examples of "disrespectful teasing":

[After a few words and building some rapport] "Hey, you ARE funny, I thought you were just a dumb blonde".

[Hot approach] "Hey I saw you sitting here and wanted to say I'm really into girls like your type". She'll ask: "What is my type?". "You know, huge ass, huge tits. Like Kim Kardashian (smile)". If delivered with the right voice tone and body language, she'll laugh and feel complimented. Even if she doesn't think Kim Kardashian is beautiful she'll know you are comparing her with a universal sex symbol".

A succesful line I came up with two days ago: there was a girl standing in the sidewalk, pretty close from me. There were a lot of flies around everybody's head. So she initiates the conversation by saying:

"Please tell me the flies are as annoying to you as they are to me".

Suerounded by flies I said: "There are not so many here. I mean taking a shower is always a good idea".

She laughs.

"I DID TAKE A SHOWER BEFORE COMING!"

"Well, looks like they prefer to be around you"

"Why would you think that happens"

"Well, are you Argentinian? Yes? There you go. Argentinians suck!"

She laughed, I laughed and I knew game was on because right after that she asked me my name.

Anyways you can always back-track.

I tried repeating the Argentinian joke on another girl today. It didnt go well.

I was paying my bill in a restaurant. An Argentinian waitress was charging me with my credit card. When I typed down the card code she didnt look away. I called her out:

"Hey, you are supposed to look away when a client types his code".

"Oh, that's right, sorry". "I mean, now my financial information has been compromised (smile, wink)".

"Now I can make use of your code to buy stuff online".

"That's right, and besides, you are Argentinian".

She went dead serious in that moment and said

"That's not a funny joke. Do you really think that about Argentinians?".

I had to apologize: "No, I'd never think that. It was a joke. Though a bad one".

She was still serious, like she was not going to forgive me that easy. So I offered my hand, palm up and said: "Hey, can we make peace again? I really liked you and I don't want you to think I'm that rude".

We shaked hands and she said. "Ok, but be careful with those jokes".

Anyways, polarizing is not that bad. Next time I go to that place I'd tease her again and I think she will be still interested.

So, respect is subjective. And even when you hurt someone you can back-track, accept you made a mistake, and express your interest in that person.

Title	How to be respectful and seductive at the same time?
Author	ILikeDiscussion
Upvotes	1
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Date	June 20, 2022 10:20 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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