I'm a 25-year-old guy and I have a question about women. I feel like I'm invisible to them. I work out regularly and have a ripped, well-shaped body. But I have another problem. I grew up surrounded only by guys — in high school, a technical school, and then a technical university.

I'm a very social person and can easily connect with other men, making friends quickly. But the problem appears with women, especially younger ones. With older women (40+), I have no problem talking. I'd say I'm quite talkative.

My main issue is fear of approaching and rejection. When I finally gather the courage to talk to a girl, I completely freeze up. If I do manage to speak, I feel boring — I only ask generic questions like “Where are you from?”, “What do you study?”, “When did you arrive?” (for example, if I'm at a party). I say a few sentences and then run out of things to say.

I’ve made out with around eight girls in clubs, but only because both they and I were drunk, and we didn’t talk much. At 25, I’ve decided this has to stop — I also want to enjoy myself and improve. I have a good body and I think my face isn’t bad either.

Do you recommend Tinder? Besides Tinder, I’d like to gain more real-life experience. Is approaching girls in shops, bookstores, cafés, or just out and about a good idea?

I’m worried that if I start approaching women like that, word will spread in my small town (15,000 people) that I’m desperate and hitting on everyone. What do you think? please share an advice? Is 25 year old to old to start?