How to detach your identity from outcome

lonewolf-chicago · 2017-01-24T00:24:43+00:00

Read the book, "No More Mr. Nice Guy" it helps. I do the same thing - but I don't get to worthless, I get pissed that people are like that. Below has helped.

Marcus Aurelius advice:

“Begin each day by telling yourself: Today I shall be meeting with interference, ingratitude, insolence, disloyalty, ill-will, and selfishness – all of them due to the offenders’ ignorance of what is good or evil. But for my part I have long perceived the nature of good and its nobility, the nature of evil and its meanness, and also the nature of the culprit himself, who is my brother (not in the physical sense, but as a fellow creature similarly endowed with reason and a share of the divine); therefore none of those things can injure me, for nobody can implicate me in what is degrading. Neither can I be angry with my brother or fall foul of him; for he and I were born to work together, like a man’s two hands, feet or eyelids, or the upper and lower rows of his teeth. To obstruct each other is against Nature’s law – and what is irritation or aversion but a form of obstruction.”

I stop at "offenders' ignorance" It helps. Everyday that I have driven to work and reminded myself of this, I had a good day, very fluid.

revente · 2017-01-24T02:12:47+00:00

This is not a direct answer but in a longer run nothing builds character as much as leading a rich life. Taking new hobbies, going fun events, meeting cool people, travelling etc.

This way you gain a broader perspective that there is much more to life than a negative opinion of a single asshole.

Title	How to detach your identity from outcome
Author	BillionMe
Upvotes	3
Comments	3
Date	January 23, 2017 9:20 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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