How to Gauge a Woman's Interest?

WIA20XX · 2018-08-11T16:29:38+00:00

You might be in the wrong place for "how to get a girlfriend" information. Dating subs would tell you some standard bullshit about trust and comfort, but not here.

The seduction advice is to make wishy washy girls chase you.

You make her chase by withdrawing and being hot and cold.

Not out of maliciousness or game playing. but mental self preservation.

This is standard female behavior, she can't make a decision, she needs more time , so confused, not ready...blah,blah,blah.

But you're waiting on her, possibly in vain.

And from the collective knowledge of the brotherhood, chicks that make you wait, are rarely worth it. The wait makes you think it's worth it, standard human psychology. Her being into you and then not, drives you to be more into her.

Now some of these chicks do this on purpose, but most don't. She does it, because she's looking out for number 1, herself.

To you?

This waiting is agony.

She can only make you feel this way, because you've given her the power to decide your fate.

The player, the pickup artist, doesn't give the power of his feelings over to some chick that he hasn't even banged. Now if this was your wife, mother of your children - that's a different scenario.

But some random chick?

On our side of things, the girl has to sell you on the idea of being her boyfriend.

And she should.

And as the boyfriend, you get sex and cuddling, maybe a few meals here and there, but..

You gotta hang out with her friends, go to special events, fix her car and computer, pay for a lot of stuff, deal with her moods, she's going to be unhappy about something, and all sorts of stuff you aren't thinking about.

On balance? You gotta do the math for yourself.

But She better drag you into it, instead of being on the fence.

And you only give in to being the boyfriend if your needs are getting met.

Right this second? Are your basic needs being met?

She is not fucking. No problem. No rush to sex.

But this chick isn't even trying to communicate what she really wants to you.

All us veterans respect the girl for her feelings and decisions, but we got to look out for ourselves.

I pray that I am wrong. I pray that this is just momentary for you.

So maybe this isn't the right sub for you.

But we sure as shit are not going to lie to you.

aPeiceOfShit · 2018-08-11T17:18:15+00:00

I think you're good. You just have to wait it out until she returns, then she will begin to think about you again and things will re-ignite.

BlueIncal · 2018-08-11T18:58:05+00:00

Concrete advice regarding social media, since you imply shes not a heavy texter. I used to be like that and so was my ex. You know whats a god sent for dealing with people like that? Snapchat. Because snapchat/instagram makes it feel a bit more genuine; She posts a pic/video, then you can respond to whatever is happening in said pic/video. This makes the start of the convo feel a lot more genuine instead of her picking up her phone and seein something along the lines of "hey whats up hope youre good" - this is much harder for her to engage herself in.

So respond to her snap/insta stories. Nothing long, not to deep, keep it playful.

Title	How to Gauge a Woman's Interest?
Author	anonymouspsy
Upvotes	3
Comments	3
Date	August 11, 2018 2:05 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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