So im some what of a shy guy, shy with those i dont know but open up easily after knowing them. Got extremely confident and more open when i started highschool but after a toxic relationship for near 5 yrs and constantly getting getting kicked out of school and being kind of distant from social activities due to those 2 things, i got unconfident and introverted again. Im trying to get back to how i was but better and its working out but I'm having a terrible time meeting girls. Im in the suburbs sadly and out of highschool now(19yrs old) so my social circles have left town and theres not much of a population of girls to meet just walking around(theres highschool girls but im not into hitting on them even though its not bad but its too easy imo cause of their innocent mindset so it doesnt appeal to me.)

Right now im trying to figure out how to meet some girls. Im awesome at talking to women, just not good at meeting new ones. Im ready and practicing just approaching girls at my community college but honestly i feel like i need some other place than that so i dont feel so repetitive. Got a mall 5 mins from me but, its the suburbs/small towns area so i dont wanna let it seem like im just out sarging... might just be over thinking it.

Anybody have tips on good locations for my age and what to do with my suburban area? Feel like its hard to meet people without going through social circles compared to in a city you just mingle easily

Also, anybody have any tips on how to better get my mind back into the game driven mindset i used to be? I mean my ex really fucked me up but shit i was fucking and messing with a fairshare of girls before and during our relationship(retaliated to cheating with my own cheating, instead of just walking away permenantly smh stupid highschool logic) so i know what im capable of. I just know my confidence and self esteem has been seriously impaired due to my relationship. And i being out of school so much and not being straight up single has made me lose some of my social skills.

Deep down I know how to act and what to say. I just dont know how to just get it out of me and get back into socialising freely with girls. Its almost like I feel scarred from my relationship to be honest, delt with a lot of shit nonstop and it was my first and only relationship that went on for way too long. Went from a guy who was pretty alpha in highschool to a really self concious worried guy and its not me but i guess im nervous as fuck to get hurt maybe? Idk. Thats for me to figure out but any advice or tips would be dope thanks