How to maintain frame? mindframe, books, podcast suggestions?

79trombones · 2017-12-03T16:20:08+00:00

Your frame is the outer projection of your inner beliefs. A person with a strong frame has a fixed sense of reality which draws in other people. A person with a weak frame allows their beliefs and actions to be molded by the will of others. Women are attracted to a man who has a strong sense of certainty about his beliefs and values. A woman will often challenge you in order to check if your frame holds strong or if it will falter and bend to her will. A woman thinks that if you cannot handle her alone, what chance do you have against the rest of the world?

Most women’s frames are formed via a combination of how they personally view themselves and the social narrative that they are taught from a young age. Thus if you find yourself operating within the frame of a woman who has bought into the standard social narrative, be ready for this woman to have the standard expectations that go along with it. These expectations can include paying for her dinners, taking her out to certain events, buying her an expensive engagement ring or house, in addition to any other actions whose sole purpose is to prove that you are deserving of her.

Do not misinterpret this and think that you should not be a giving, providing and loving person. If your actions truly come from an altruistic place, then there is nothing wrong with your generosity. The problem is that many men are fully convinced they are acting unselfishly, while in reality they want something in return. These men have bought into the false social contract that through performing certain actions or simply just being a “good guy,” that in return they deserve to be rewarded with affections, admiration or sex.

If you are in a relationship and operating within this provider frame, then be prepared to be lambasted when you do not meet some nonsensical expectation. This anger is often directed not at your immediate actions but at an underlying cause. While some women are by nature very materialistic and status obsessed, many other women just view these gifts, favors or expectations as external consolation prizes to compensate for their man not being himself of high enough value. They desire something flashy to show off to their girlfriends, because they cannot show off their actual man. Just like their men, these women choose to double down on the false social narrative that having a domesticated man who provides them with everything that they want will make them happy.

Both men and women together are being deceived by the same false paradigm. Men are confused by why, that even after continually sacrificing themselves to provide for their women, their women only seem more upset and less interested in them. On the flip side, women are confused by why they are still unsatisfied even after their men do and provide them with everything that they ask for. The reason for these misunderstandings is that women want to be with a man with a strong frame, which in turn makes them feel secure. If a man lacks boundaries, and can be easily manipulated or controlled by a woman to get what she wants, a woman feels emotionally betrayed.

From Book: Fundamentals of Female Dynamics

moh_man · 2017-11-27T19:10:51+00:00

What do you mean by frame?

Bessied · 2017-11-27T16:21:39+00:00

We need to balance the things in life to get success in personal and professional life. Specially you need to balance desire and stability to build a relationship.

Title	How to maintain frame? mindframe, books, podcast suggestions?
Author	moh_man
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Date	November 27, 2017 1:06 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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