Hey y'all, its my first time here on this forum so yeah lol

Basically what happened is I was dating this girl and she had really high interest at the beginning. After the first date, I made all the wrong moves such as texting her a lot, trying to get her to meet up after 2 days and shit. Clearly, she wasn't having it so she told me she was not looking for a relationship. I managed to convince her that I was not full of shit, and so she decided to meet me one last time before she went home (different country) for summer holidays. It was not a date, I just went in with the mindset that I will see her in person and make her remember how fun I was to be around. We were only together for like two hours but it honestly worked. When she was away, I was not texting her at all (To be honest it is because we do not know much about each other so I didn't know what to talk to her about). And she would react to my stories/posts, and after reacting she would send me a message because she was clearly trying to engage and all. I don't know how but I was texting her just enough to keep her interested (3-5 replies, just a bit funny teasing nothing else), but not too much as to become her "gay texting buddy". After she came back from her holidays and all, I hit her up, and we met a week later. She was gone for two months, so this basically felt like a first date to be honest, but I hooked up with her that night. Then I just texted her like it was great seeing you again, that's all. She initiated contact with me on her own later, and it was all fine. But over the course of the month, I repeated the same mistakes I made the first time around. And I basically fucked it all up, and now I feel like a dumbass who is full of shit. I felt like I came off too needy or desperate and she realizes I overthink and all that shit. Now its back to square one again boys LOL

Anyways, I am like its all good its all good. It is not like its the end of the world. I learnt a lot from this experience. It was my first time going on a date and all (I am 22, I KNOW I KNOW NEVER BEEN ON A DATE WHAT A GOOF YO), so I did not have much knowledge going in.

However, I started watching videos on youtube (Alpha male strategies and Corey Wayne), and I have noticed where I went wrong and right in the two-three times I have seen her, and overall the whole texting thing.

I know I can still get her back with dedication and effort. She is a great girl like 10/10 looks and smarts and I have no idea why she was even interested in me. Anyways, I got a whole plan now of how I am going to proceed forward which I am gonna mention down below. So if y'all can help me out to make the plan better to increase success rate, it would be f awesome!

So the plan:

  1. I am going no contact/pulling back for this whole month (got finals, then few parties with the boys, and then going for a 4 day trip baby fuck yeah). I do not know how useful this no contact / pulling back thing is because at our current state she does not really see me at the same value as she used to. Pulling back is all about making her think of me eventually which she honestly only will if my value is high enough for her to consider me. I'll be posting me having a good time and being productive all over social media, so she will check that shit and all and hopefully it will raise her interest y'all. Plus, even if this thing does not raise her interest, at least I'll be making myself look less desperate and needy considering the mistakes I have made in the past and all.
  2. I am not expecting her to text me first at all. Keeping my expectations and hopes low here. Even if she does react to my posts, or sends me a text here and there, I'll play it off cool, 2-3 replies (only answering, not gonna ask her questions) and bounce because your boy got shit to do wooo. I honestly tho don't expect her to hit me up at all. So, basically I'll initiate contact with her again, and be like hey its been a while and all. Hopefully get her to meet up just to catch up. No date nothing more nothing less. ITS ALL ABOUT GETTING HER INTEREST IN ME BACK AGAIN. I can handle seducing her a little bit, being a bit flirty and all in person. Its just over text where I fuck up. Luckily I have realized its best to avoid communication through text unless its about setting up date or logistics and shit.
  3. Being mysterious. This is a key one I feel like. Both of the guys I was watching mentioned this. And funny thing, she said that I was really mysterious too which I feel like kept her interested in me. HOWEVER, NOW SHE KNOWS I LIKE HER. LIKE SHE KNOWS THAT SHIT BRO, AND ITS GONNA BE HARD TO COMEBACK FROM HERE I FEEL LIKE. If she already knows what I want and think, she is gonna lose interest. This is why I am hoping one month of no contact will hopefully help in this situation. I am planning on trying to showcase I am not as much into her as she thinks which is best gonna be accomplished If i get to meet her next month. I'll see her and all, and then I'll not text her first for a week or so just to make her wonder where f this dude went. He apparently liked me a lot and now he booked away for a month saw me once and then dipped again. Then slowly slowly get her more interested by making her invest her thoughts and time into thinking about me feel me and shii WOOO
  4. Less contact through texting and all. THIS IS THE HARDEST ONE IN MY OPINION. My generation is all about that texting game, and I am good at teasing her and making her laugh and all over text once in a while. But she clearly uses it too much. I NEED HELP WITH THIS. How can I lower the amount of texting I have to do with her. Should I straight up ignore her messages for hours on end, or text her a few replies then go away for all day because i was busy with school and work, idk.

And also, how can I minimize my chances of making sure she doesnt decide to flake on me when I contact her after a month to see each other? I need help with this. What do i say to her and all.

And I don't want to just invest myself in her. I know shes cool and all and I would like to be with her if I do get to be in a relationship in the future. But I will be talking to other girls and shit through tinder and all just to experiment with this "less is more" approach. funny thing is i met her on tinder too LOL

Anyways, please give me your opinion on how I can improve this plan to increase my success chances with her. YO BOY OUT HERE STRUGGLING Y'ALL