I've read a fair bit of the background stuff on here and have stuck with it for about a year. I was a complete loser, I sat at home every night playing video games with no friends. I've gotten over that and really tried to improve myself. I've been gymming for about 9 months now, have been learning Mandarin, learning photography, joined Toastmasters and getting out hiking whenever I can. I'm actually pretty happy lol so I guess this sub has already helped my life a lot. I'm actually heading over to China for 2 months in June for an exchange/to travel. Sadly I'm in my final year of uni as well, so I've missed a huge opportunity for gaming (the seddit type).

The issue is, I'm still TERRIBLE with girls. I'm definitely more confident but fuck me I'm such a pussy. That being said I had terrible social anxiety a year ago, I freaked the fuck out whenever anyone talked to me, let alone a chick. Now I'm alright at conversing, but I'm still shit at making girls laugh, particularly foreigners. I struggle to have an exciting conversation. People say always make eye contact before you approach and stuff but I swear non-westernised asian chicks go out of their way to avoid eye contact if you look at them. This sucks cause I've got yellow fever haha. Anyway I'm rambling. I want to make the leap. Any tips from people who have been in a similar situation? How did you do it?