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t1mman/r/seduction06/03/17 04:17 PM
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t1mman/r/seduction04/04/18 10:58 PM
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Fuck it, do it, think later.
/r/seduction07/06/19 05:56 PM
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"The only constant is change" Get use to it!
/r/seduction07/06/19 04:16 PM
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ALWAYS salute when someone look at you in the eyes. Either smile, nod, say "hey", whatever. No matter if it's a gal or a guy, that's called being social. That's being polite even! Don't be rude man! ;)
/r/seduction07/06/19 04:15 PM
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Some times you have to weed out the attention whore and the princesses to find the gem. But, just like when people where mining for gold you had a period where the ratio of gold was good, but now it's mostly rocks! Still, there is some gold to be found!
/r/seduction07/06/19 03:28 PM
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Life is too short to waist on stale relations. I consider 3 types of relationships: -Pure friend, like brother and sister. You like the person but has no sexual attraction -Friends with attraction: A friend that you feel attracted to, gets you going, in a "might as well" type of feeling -The total "head over heels": you see her in your head, you feel the butterflies, you can't stay away from her when you are with her. It's not just sexual (part of it is, tought), it's the feeling you want to kee…
/r/seduction07/06/19 03:12 PM
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First off, Fock Sign of Interest, don't wait on a signal to make a move. Make proposal, don't take the negative personally. You ask (verbal or non-verbal) questions and you listen to (verbal or non-verbal) answers. That's it, and as long as you don't force yourself there is nothing wrong with that! ​ That being said, she IS showing massive interests in you. That doesn't mean she wants to marry you and make you kids, it just means she want to know more about you. Show her who you are, be curious …
/r/seduction07/06/19 03:06 PM
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Being social and being able to create rapport is part of life, it's a set of "skill" necessary to go further.
/r/seduction30/05/18 07:58 PM
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If it gets you going, you can believe it. The way I see it, escalation in itself is asking if it's ok in a non-verbal way, you don't need IOI because you are taking a chance anyway.
/r/seduction30/05/18 06:40 PM
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Let's say you lead a fulfilling life (might even be your case), would you answer right away when you are at work? With friends? When you are training? No! That's what you are trying to emulate. Event better: Lead a fulfilling life, you won't have to emulate one!
/r/seduction30/05/18 06:34 PM
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Ok, I didn't read past the "high school" much. Still, I think you should stop being so serious about life. Be a kid, be curious, take chances, have fun, fail and get back up. Seduction is just a part of life, and it should be fun. Don't suck the fun out of it!
/r/seduction18/05/18 04:06 PM
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Dude, you are seeing way more than what it is. "Hey, let's get out of here" is plenty enough, and the question is implied. Don't jump on that feminazy propaganda! Escalation is all about asking non-verbal question, and is part of a "safe" seduction path. As long as you listen and don't force it, no sane woman could and would accuse you of rape.
/r/seduction18/05/18 03:36 PM
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IMHO: If you don't trust her judgement, don't trust her with others, don't trust her to say "no", it's the beginning of the end. She can push someone away, she can act with her morals and do what is right. Do you trust yourself to make her wana do that? Do you act in a way that you are not the "replaceable servant" or do you act in a way that you know you can be the answer to those "needs"? Do you act like the "prize"? You don't understand why she does that because you don't want to understand, …
/r/seduction08/05/18 04:37 PM
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YES! Depression first! Always! You need to focus on yourself, on on how to make YOUR OWN SELF happy, without relaying on others. Our brain is made a certain way, and if you give it what it needs, he WILL REWARD you. Goal seeking, exercises, healthy eating (with the occasional cheat day!), good sleep and you'll thank your self for making this choice. Good thing, by realizing you make the right choice, your brain will also reward you! That's a win-win situation! A good articles on what makes us ha…
/r/seduction08/05/18 04:10 PM
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3 texts, no answers, don't write anything more... Rule of thumb, MAX 2 text without a reply. More than that, it appear as needy AF, even more if they are all questions (like those!) It's ok to ask questions, but if you can make affirmation, it will make her invest more. She is not "answering your questions" then, she is taking part in a conversation.
/r/seduction08/05/18 04:01 PM
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If you don't kiss after the second date, the next one isn't a date, it's a night out with a friend. She must've had a massive interest if she asked you for a third date, but your lack of balls probably turned her off. You can try to go for another "meet", but don't expect much. About physical escalation, let me copy-paste myself here: Physical Escalation is all about asking non-verbal questions and, consequently, listening for non-verbal answer. Escalating means going "steps". See, when you go t…
/r/seduction07/05/18 07:46 PM
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There are treatments, either with medications or / and cognitive therapy (or both). You should consult a specialist, someone that could truly help you not some people on the webz... You can get lucky because of your looks, but if you want to have the real fun, you have to be able to act socially. Without proper care and professional help, you will have a hard time both in seduction and in life. We, as a species where able to achieve greatness by being social. A great book talks about the advance…
/r/seduction07/05/18 07:31 PM
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Success is about learning from your mistake and not being afraid to make them. If you only make mistakes and repeat the same pattern, that just being stupid!
/r/seduction07/05/18 05:58 PM
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It depends on so many factors and 7 is such a small sampling that nothing can really be concluded with this. One more thing, the ratio of Male to Female was not 2:1, If you have a bigger selection, you "up your standard". The other sides lowers them (like you did, none of them really interested you but still, you selected 7 of them). In order to get a "back" from them, you have to be on the "upper" scale of the selection. I don't know anything from your interaction, but drifting away when people…
/r/seduction07/05/18 05:49 PM
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I've been telling it; We've been getting laid for thousands of years, well before PUA even existed, people just need to be social, have a balanced life and we'll continue to populate this blue marble for years to come! I think most people here with "issue" are not related to seduction, but they lack a lot of social intelligence. Almost as if they where on the "light" spectrum of the autism disorder. Not able to read social cues, to socialise, to look folks in the eyes, those type of things.
/r/seduction07/05/18 04:40 PM
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Going silent for a week before a date is not a good idea! Girls needs attention, they crave it! I'm not saying hitting her every hour, but at least send a text on Wednesday and see how it goes. 5+ days before setting up a date is long! It could be OK for the 3rd-4th date, but for a first one, it's looong! IMHO: hit her Wed. or Thurs. with a "Hey, hope your week is going well" sort of text. Not too investing but it tells her you are thinking about her, in a non-threatening way.
/r/seduction07/05/18 03:28 PM
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Those are two seperate subject, and I think you are mistaking correlation for causality. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Correlation_does_not_imply_causation You should see them as two separate subjects.
/r/seduction05/05/18 04:56 PM
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she found another D, the "window" for a horny chix like this is pretty short. The "opening" gets narrower over time, and she will most likely start swiping back for a new D.
/r/seduction05/05/18 04:50 PM
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You might be getting on the "plan B" pile too. I don't know, didn't see your profile, don't know your area though! But one thing is for sure, most of the time, you get results in par with the effort you put in.
/r/seduction04/05/18 09:15 PM
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Aren't those available right next to the condoms? Are you really asking this here instead of just lifting your lazy ass out of your room and going to the store to look? If you don't have the reflex to get out, search a little, there's a long path to go!
/r/seduction04/05/18 03:26 PM
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90% of tinder is the pics (a small part of this 90% is the bio), you have the remaining 10% is left for the opener and the timing. And the pics are all about being able to sell yourself. It's all about talking to the subconscious and gives cue they will look for. There's a lot of articles written on this already, but to summarize: Good pictures quality, show social intelligence, show good health, good hygiene, show some passions. Aim at a specific audience for better results.
/r/seduction04/05/18 02:48 PM
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RUN! Jokes asides, while part of the jealousy is, indeed, good for the self esteem (you're enough of a "prize" so that she knows you're one for others as well), it kind of put a "hit" to the mind (but I don't trust him enough to be able to say "NO" to a blowjob). Most people go into a relationship expecting the other to make them happy, and put the pressure on them causing expectations, jealousy, causing them to be mad because their needs are not met but the source of the issue remain the same: …
/r/seduction04/05/18 02:40 PM
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https://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/10-simple-ways-you-can-stop-yourself-from-overthinking.html
/r/seduction03/05/18 08:31 PM
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https://gomakemeasandwich.files.wordpress.com/2014/04/missing-the-point.png
/r/seduction03/05/18 08:17 PM
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For one thing, all those pictures sucks, and they all sucks equally. People are aware that we might not look exactly the same in picture than in real life. If gives an idea. That's it. People are all aware of that. Now, go on with your date, have fun, and stop overthinking every details that are not worth stressing with.
/r/seduction03/05/18 07:46 PM
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I hope you find someone fast! Sucks to spend dough where you don't need to! Back to the questions, some girls (most, even) likes honesty. It takes a lot of balls to appear vulnerable to someone and tell the truth "Can't go to my place, I used to have an apartment but I let it to my ex, now I'm crashing at my mom's because I still pay the rent there!" would probably pay more than lying your ass out of a situation and keeping up with it (if you get to see the girls more than once).
/r/seduction03/05/18 07:43 PM
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Dude, you're posting the same 2 freaking posts twice a day, people are answering you in those posts, I don't know what kind of validation you are looking for but you won't get it here.
/r/seduction03/05/18 07:37 PM
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Well... that sux! In here, we can "break the lease" as long as we find someone else to take over. Did that a couple of time! Someone want's the place a couple of months before the lease is due, the landlord gets the same money, everyone is happy!
/r/seduction03/05/18 07:27 PM
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it's fine, don't bother.
/r/seduction03/05/18 07:26 PM
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Some times it's just not the right time, and it WILL fade. That's sort of life! You can try to keep it up, but, most likely, the "attraction window" is closing and there is nothing you can do about it! Either you wait and you hope, or you just move on and try to keep something alive. She won't get invested with you because she is invested in her finals, and that's all for the better!
/r/seduction03/05/18 06:48 PM
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Wait? Are you still paying your part of the rent?
/r/seduction03/05/18 06:29 PM
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You don't need to keep an ongoing conversation, but just keep something alive. Like "Hey, nice morning here, the sun makes me happy, have a nice day [insert name]". I've read someone here that really covers it: Attention to girls is like sex for guys, they crave it! (They crave sex too, but that's not the point!). Give her just enough so that she craves more! Or she'll find it somewhere else!
/r/seduction03/05/18 06:06 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dZpZa4sI1io Don't stare, look and move away. If she sees you, smile and go see her (if she smiled back).
/r/seduction03/05/18 06:01 PM
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Did you go silent for days before the date?
/r/seduction03/05/18 02:57 PM
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People have life outside of your interaction with! When someone wants space, you give them. They'll come back if they want.
/r/seduction03/05/18 02:54 PM
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Fix your life first. Get back to school, find something that drives you and focus on this.
/r/seduction03/05/18 02:41 PM
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I've got a saying, treat a girl like a princess, she'll see you as a servant. And Princess don't fuck the servant, they fuck the prince.
/r/seduction03/05/18 02:39 PM
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I've seen butt ugly dude with total babes. The life you live will have more impact, the confidence you show will have more impact. Furthermore, you live with yourself, so the face you see each time you look in the mirror is so familiar that you see little imperfections that no one sees. there are things you can't change, and things you can. Maybe these dark circles are a result of something or maybe your face is just made this way. What you can do is either change what you can or accept what you…
/r/seduction03/05/18 01:12 PM
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Didn't you write the exact same thing yesterday? In all honesty and I don't mean to offend you, but did you ever tested to see if you are on the autistic spectrum? You can read more about the subject here: https://www.autismspeaks.org/what-autism/diagnosis/dsm-5-diagnostic-criteria There are treatment for this, and it is a spectrum, so it can range from light to severe, just consider that knowing if you are on the spectrum could help you deal with it, hence helping you trough your life. Now, if …
/r/seduction03/05/18 12:14 PM
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Whatever you do, don't turn up at work, you'll creep her out... You can try to rearrange a date, shit, sometimes, do happen. We all have life of our own, and some times meeting people you don't really know for a drink / date is just not a priority.
/r/seduction02/05/18 07:54 PM
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If you want the scientist approach of that phenomenon, it's called "Mirror neurons". Some scientist has studied the field and could help better summarize the concept, one good article I found googling about it: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-mirror-neuron-revolut/
/r/seduction02/05/18 07:32 PM
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Most of this is answer while talking with the person. She'll tell you real fast if she has a BF, she'll mention her boyfriend, even more if you are flirting. Intelligence, humor, you get the vibe of the person when you talk to them. The way someone talks tells a lot about them, the subject they talk about, the way they interact, all of this will show you if they are a dumbfuck or if they are at least smart. Now, I assume you don't need to know if she is a marine biologist, just "overall intellig…
/r/seduction02/05/18 06:49 PM
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Copy Paste from another post I made: There is probably two mindset, two school of toughs in the "seduction" scene. The OP's nonsense old PUA "lie, cheat, steal" mindset, and the newer, more current "seduction is fun and being honest is the best way", following mindset like Mark Manson, following path of great mind like Paul Ekman and other scientific advances on the science of humans and interactions. The old PUA mindset is built around tactics, routine, around faking some sort of life and emula…
/r/seduction02/05/18 04:23 PM
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Are you really asking "the internetz" if you would bang a chix or not? Dude, get out! NOW!
/r/seduction02/05/18 03:40 PM
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Physical Escalation is all about asking non-verbal questions and, consequently, listening for non-verbal answer. Escalating means going "steps". See, when you go this way it gauges the interests, builds the attraction and the momentum. Instead of going "all in" at the first attempt, you "play" with it, even pulling from times to times. Let's say you start real easy, and real "safe". You start by sitting close(r), getting "in her bubble" sort of speak. Close enough that, for example, your knee mi…
/r/seduction02/05/18 03:03 PM
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Two Words: Physical Escalation. Learn it, do it, get laid.
/r/seduction02/05/18 12:09 PM
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Exclusivity is not asked, it's given.
/r/seduction01/05/18 07:57 PM
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There is probably two mindset, two school of toughs in the "seduction" scene. The OP's nonsense old PUA "lie, cheat, steal" mindset, and the newer, more current "seduction is fun and being honest is the best way", following mindset like Mark Manson, following path of great mind like Paul Ekman and other scientific advances on the science of humans and interactions. The old PUA mindset is built around tactics, routine, around faking some sort of life and emulating what is attractive. The new sedu…
/r/seduction01/05/18 07:55 PM
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Sleep is at least half the work in workout. Don't oversee it. It'll help you achieve better results, be more focused, have a clear mind and be more efficient.
/r/seduction01/05/18 04:57 PM
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IMHO: you tried something when you didn't have "attraction". She knows you as a friend, as a brother. She likes you but not this way.
/r/seduction01/05/18 04:55 PM
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If you are playing XBox instead of getting in shape or sleeping, yes it will. How can you expect a girl to want your D if you can't run a staircase without being out of breath! How can you expect her to feel safe and protected if your not able to stand straight, how can she expect anything from a child playing vidya games instead of having real tangible goals? BTW: I do game, but I also play music, do a couple of marathons a year, get out, eat well, have a career. Gaming is fine if it's part of …
/r/seduction01/05/18 04:50 PM
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"Built the field and they will come!" I keep telling folks in here that all of the tactics and what not are just to "fake" a well balanced, fulfilling life. This is another testimonial toward it!
/r/seduction01/05/18 04:45 PM
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There is nothing to be awkward about. You asked something, she said no, that's it. If you offer tea to someone and the person refuses, you don't take it personally won't you? She might not like tea, she might not be thirsty, she might already have tea, she might not like this particular sort of tea, honestly, the reason doesn't matter. You should feel proud of what you did, not bad! You had the guts to ask her out, to show your intentions, to look vulnerable. It takes a lot of confidence to be v…
/r/seduction01/05/18 03:53 PM
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Well, nothing that would cause a blocking! Well, now you know she might be nuts! Good save! :D
/r/seduction01/05/18 03:25 PM
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Yes, you just have to wait! But don't stress over it, do something for a while, she'll answer when she is ready. People are mostly polite so it's a question of time (and having it!) Pleasure is mine! Keep me posted! Edit: She blocked you? What did you write?
/r/seduction01/05/18 03:13 PM
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In my experience, all those "guru" has their magic phrases and shit, and it's all snake oil! I consider texting mostly as "setting up logistics for a date". Yes, you can converse, have a little back and forth but don't expect her to get her panties wet because of it. You are new to this, so this might help you not go too far in the wrong path: All of those techniques and routine and shit are there to emulate aspect of life that are attractive. Having a good and well balanced life will pay a gazi…
/r/seduction01/05/18 03:08 PM
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What you've been is history. What she sees is who you are in this moment, in the "now". It doesn't matter who you where, you don't have to be anyone you don't want and there is nothing holding you back to someone you don't want to be. One nice trick to deal with fears and anxiety, change the word "afraid/anxious" to "excited". THe body feels about the same both ways, it's just how we treat, we define the reaction that changes everything. Don't be afraid to talk to someone, be excited you might f…
/r/seduction01/05/18 01:13 AM
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Why aren't you confident? You already know she is into you, you only need to act like it!
/r/seduction30/04/18 11:03 PM
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Ain't no magic pills in life, you're getting laid not by a mere message, but by a situation that you built up. Forget about scripting your life and learn to adapt.
/r/seduction30/04/18 08:11 PM
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I'd go back on the "night" just for the form, but from what I understand, attraction is already there. Be confident, offer a specific time and activity and you should be fine!
/r/seduction30/04/18 07:40 PM
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Back when I was studying martial arts, the teacher was always showing a couple techniques around a concept. The technique were around the the sole purpose of making you understand a key concept you could apply everywhere, nonobstant of the situation. Technique and routine have the same functions: Understanding a concept. When you understand life in this aspect, you stop looking for "the latest technique or routine", because you understand the background to it. Most (if not all) of the so called …
/r/seduction30/04/18 04:52 PM
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KISS (Keep It Simple Stupid): Don't overthink, ask her if she is free on night "X" and propose something. You are not asking to marry her, you are just looking to know her better, see if SHE fits YOUR way of life.
/r/seduction30/04/18 03:27 PM
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NO! If she is not invested, move on.
/r/seduction30/04/18 03:22 PM
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The answer should always be "Your mom"! That's it! Jokes aside, I don't see that whole "shit test" thing as "shit test". It's just people asking questions and other people answering if they want to. The thing that truly matters is, are you trying to "prove your worthiness" to someone or exchanging, chatting, having a conversation? If you are trying to prove yourself, the problem starts there! You'll see shit tests everywhere and you'll try "not to fall" instead of being "mindful" and having a re…
/r/seduction30/04/18 02:41 PM
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There is only one way to resolve this, and it's "fighting trough it". You can go by steps but eventually you only go by trying. Find her particularly cute, the more reason to talk to her. Doesn't matter if you stutter, if you have nothing to say, as long as you fight your fears. Then, in no time, you'll be talking to a cute girl the same way you talk to anyone, and since you know it's as easy as anyone, you won't be afraid to escalade cause if she take "a step back", you'll know there are plenty…
/r/seduction27/04/18 07:53 PM
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The only thing that matters: "she texted me that she had fun and we should go out again." A date is not a script, people are not following special orders and waiting for you to tell your line. In life there is no "one size fits all", and people are all "specialist" of this and that, but every situation is different. Listen and adapt, that's it. Go out again, have fun and that's it.
/r/seduction27/04/18 07:05 PM
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Are you shy (afraid to talk to people) or introverted (like to be alone)? Usually intro/extro vertion is a spectrum, not an "all one". So you maximise on the "extroverted" part of your personality to meet people and embrace the independent side when you are alone. You can also mix your introverted activities with social gathering, like reading / book club, sports club, competitions, those sort of things. There is nothing wrong by being introverted, being "happy with yourself" and able to have "a…
/r/seduction27/04/18 06:47 PM
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Thing is, so much emphasis seems to be put on "openers", but it matter so little it's laughable the number of time invested in those things! Most of the time, just talking about something in the moment is plenty to get the conversation going. Things like *Hey, how's your night going? *Wow, the line is something here (while waiting in line) *So, how's the food/band/drinks/music here? *You really look like the [insert thing here] type! Talking about the weather even works, because you are not look…
/r/seduction27/04/18 02:58 PM
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IMHO: You are a "nice guy" and you are hot enough that she wants you but, being the "nice guy", you don't take the lead (SHE kissed you, meaning she took the chance?) When she tells you "she don't know what she wants", she want you to take the lead, to be assertive, take decisions, make choice. She wants you to have balls and be a man. Don't be afraid to put yourself first, forget about others and forget about the judgment of others. The lack of decision is a total turn off, the idea of having a…
/r/seduction27/04/18 01:39 PM
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Woman ARE more complicated than just that. Just look a little bit around you: Many ugly bastards are with total babes. That's because they are not attracted solely on looks like (most) men are.
/r/seduction26/04/18 04:41 PM
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It never is "your" girl.
/r/seduction25/04/18 08:00 PM
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There's no "one size fits all" in life, so that "let's be friend" shit would most likely back fire. The "silent treatment" is also, IMHO, quite lame... The whole concept of "gaming" should be understood as "this shit is not serious, don't get so fucking serious and lose up, relaxe and be fun a little". You seem so up in your head, in all the lingo and concept that you seem to forget that dating and seduction is supposed to be fun, be taken lightly. This girl is, first and foremost, a human, with…
/r/seduction25/04/18 06:52 PM
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Referal link, Audible is free for 30 days even without this referal.
/r/seduction25/04/18 04:30 PM
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I was in a LDR when I was young (20ish), LDR worked great! Until she got back!! Jokes asides, you'll have plenty opportunities to do something with the gals around you, at least make it a "break until you get back" but don't expect more.
/r/seduction25/04/18 04:03 PM
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There are two categories of mating potentials for woman: -The "I want your gene" type: See, when you display a source of good genes (proper to her), she'll want to propagate your gene because you will produce better offspring's. Being in shape, having a good face symmetry, being successful, showing leadership, those kind of things will make her want to sleep with you in the "right and now". Now, the clues of good genes are not necessarily valid nor universal, so someone with a nice car could tri…
/r/seduction25/04/18 02:28 PM
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"However, she rejected me." That stops there. Move on and either consider her as a friend or stop hanging out with her. The reason WHY she did that doesn't matter. Someone says "no" to a cup of tea, you don't try again and again until the person say yes. You move on with your life.
/r/seduction25/04/18 02:13 PM
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Damn, stop overthinking men! She told you she liked your shirt, if you see her again, say hi and start talking, that's it! Between now and then, stop over analyzing a little!
/r/seduction25/04/18 02:10 PM
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It's all about the stabilizer! ;) I only do free weight and free muscles (like pull ups, push ups, those kinda shit) only adding a weight vest from times to times and it's doing wonders! Better even, it costs a lot less to have a couple of free weight than buying that huge machines or paying a membership to the gym. Membership has the social aspect tough! But so has a running club!
/r/seduction25/04/18 02:07 PM
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You just have a drink, sit close and let nature do it's thing! I think I should do a post on physical escalation... It's been the issue so many times it could help a lot of folks here! If you think it's awkward, you can do something "around your place" (get something to eat, see a show, go hiking, get ice cream, just see what's there to do around your place). Then, after, invite her home for a drink. Now, what you are really asking is "do you feel safe and comfortable around be to be alone with …
/r/seduction25/04/18 01:49 PM
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Why don't you try something? You're not gonna get stab because you've sat next to her, nor because you got closer. You are in college, try some shit out for crying out loud!
/r/seduction24/04/18 08:14 PM
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Listening to music, tasting a drink, eating something, netflix and chill, gotta show you something, etc, etc. Find any interest you have, tell her you want to show her, if she feels comfortable enough, she'll get there! You don't have to have an exhaustive list, even "wanna get a drink to my place?" is enough most of the time! So it doesn't matter if it's cliché. BTW: The girl won't feel slutty by getting to your place after 1 date. The only thing that matter is if she feels comfortable. Sex for…
/r/seduction24/04/18 06:13 PM
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We've been gating laid for thousands of years, this reddit is full of people overthinking every aspect, most of the time you just need to be social and let your instinct do the talking. People in social circles have the tendency to have the similar interests, so creating rapport with someone is easy. The rest, people gets closer naturally, get comfortable, do shit together and hook up.
/r/seduction24/04/18 06:03 PM
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Thinking out loud a little bit here, but how can you really say woman are more interested when you are with your GF? Maybe it's partly a perception and party "social proofing" there, maybe the gals are just more confortable with you because you are not a potential "guy that hits on me, again...". Many guys can't have girls as friends, and maybe that's partly the issue here! Personally, I have a couple of girl friends, I see them as friends and nothing more, and it's pretty fun to have gals in yo…
/r/seduction24/04/18 04:55 PM
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They are all good until it get serious! Then, the shit hits the fan! I've heard Tony Robbins once talk about the woman energy vs. the man energy, it did make sens! Woman are emotional, driven by how they feel and Man are goal / results driven, they wana fix things, get results. When a woman talks about her problems, she wants to connect on the emotional level. The man energy makes guys looks for a pragmatic solution, and that drives a lot of woman crazy like shit! BTW: We both have Woman and man…
/r/seduction24/04/18 02:18 PM
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Being in shape doesn't impact only your physical aspect, but your mind as well. Our brain works better, is better balanced. So, maybe your "attitude" toward life in general and the "goal seeking instinct" woken with the work out. I'm not a gym guy, I do running (marathons, races, and shit) and when I started getting result, my whole life changed. Confidence raised (making podium gives a hell of a boost!), I started seeking more and more goals, defining my self, putting myself first (the boost in…
/r/seduction24/04/18 12:47 PM
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Learn to live with yourself, being independent and answering your own need. The problem with many dudes here: They focus on getting laid and once they have someone in their life, they start living, but they live according to the values of another person. I know, I did! Until I realized I wasn't myself, I was the person she wanted me to be. Then I woke, started to be honest with my own self and answering my own need, started doing what I wanted and having the life I wanted. Find out what motivate…
/r/seduction24/04/18 12:39 PM
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What do you have to lose? Tell her you where busy, and you wana hang out. Worst case she won't answer. BTW: Help yourself, take a decision and stick with it.
/r/seduction23/04/18 07:31 PM
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" if I had other company I might have had a more miserable time” She means, she had a good time BECAUSE of you, if it was someone else, she would've had. That's positive. "Yeah, I guess I'm not the worst to hang out with! Next time let's do [insert a better activity here] instead!" Like "let's go hiking instead!" After, tunnel this toward a specific date, like "talking about hiking, I know a great spot, you free tomorrow night?"
/r/seduction23/04/18 07:25 PM
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Well, we've been gating laid for thousand of years, some times you can let nature do it's wounder and stop overthinking every aspect. Don't get me wrong, I love to know the how and what, I'm a big fan of "understanding the reasons", but not every one is. And, in the end, what truly matters is the results, not so how you get there!
/r/seduction23/04/18 06:29 PM
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Some people are jerks, most people aren't tough. But some are. Some people react like "jerks" because of how you approach them. If you are just being friendly, present yourself well, are clean / groomed, basicaly if you're not a filthy scum, most people will react friendly. We are social by nature and no one in his right mind will treat anyone like shit. Your job is : - Filter the jerks, the scums and the bitches. -Find out if you are "compatible". And that's not just you, that's not just her, t…
/r/seduction23/04/18 04:45 PM
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Are you looking to "prove yourself", and trying to connect when you get social? If so that might be the foundation of your issue. See, it's not about "connecting with everyone", but rather "finding the one that you connect with". That's the first step to focus on. I don't think we connect with everyone, most even won't connect, depending on the mindset, on a series of conscious and unconscious factors, on the time of day, on this and that. Some people you'll find yourself conversing naturally an…
/r/seduction23/04/18 03:53 PM
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She's not invested, don't waste your time.
/r/seduction23/04/18 03:02 PM
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Good! BTW: I'm not saying it's ok to lie (that's not my style!), just that if you would, you would get some results. Lies can only go so far! And, IMHO, if you have to lie out to make your life interesting, you should focus on fixing your life, the results would be immensely better.
/r/seduction20/04/18 08:14 PM
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Well, what I'm saying is that what you wear, how you smell, how you present yourself, how you groom will have more impact than just the face symmetry in the "before". If you go out looking like you haven't showered since 3 days ago, looking like a fat slub even if your face is appealing, no woman will take a look, appart from judging you!
/r/seduction20/04/18 07:56 PM
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No, I don't think so! Having a nice, well fitted suit might attract more girls than being just "handsome". Being able to show social skills, for example, being in good shape, dressing, grooming will likely have more impact than having just an handsome face. Some dude lies to get the lay, and it will work most of the time! Just try it, invent yourself a life, go somewhere you never went, dress and groom, look confident, present yourself like you have it going, you'll see how it goes! Now, you wou…
/r/seduction20/04/18 07:46 PM
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By "bait" I exactly mean that, the "fish" bites on a bait considering it's appeal from well before it takes the real bite. For example, if you are looking for a girl that is in good shape, you need to be in a minimum of shape. If you look for girls that are "well presented", you need to be well presented. The more well you live your life, the more balanced it is, the better "bait" you are for them. And this appends well before you even talk to any of them. The "bait" part is done day after day, …
/r/seduction20/04/18 07:18 PM
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Well, let's say you go fishing the trout, you're gonna use specific equipment, bait made for the trout, possibly even adapt the bait to the environment and the surrounding. If it doesn't bite, you change and adapt what you are using, retry after. If your current "bait" is not attracting the type of "fish" you are trying to catch, there's only one thing you can do: Change the bait, adapt it and make it so that is appealing to the "school of fish". Don't blame the fish, blame the bait! PS: Only pa…
/r/seduction20/04/18 06:54 PM
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I don't see this as a problem! There's plenty to go around and, in a sense, I wouldn't bang just any girls that wants my D either! Why would I expect them to want my D just because I want their V! PS: Good chances are, if you are leading a fulfilling, balanced life and she sticks around, she does want the D! ;)
/r/seduction20/04/18 06:11 PM
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I don't consider it "gaming", I just like to meet people, and in those people, there's gals, and in those gals there's some gals I like to bang.
/r/seduction20/04/18 04:57 PM
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Or get pregnant just to live off your alimony after.
/r/seduction20/04/18 04:55 PM
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Hey [insert name], how's your day going so far?
/r/seduction20/04/18 04:19 PM
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You are a clerk working in a place where the traditions are really different than north americans. Do your job and forget about seduction, or it might cost you your job. BTW: You should learn about the culture there, I'm not sure a clerk should be looking girls in the eyes... Might be a "faux pas" there...
/r/seduction20/04/18 03:31 PM
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Texting is a tool to setup real life interaction. Focus on her, be curious about her, who she is, how she got there, what makes her who she is, etc. Forget yourself, you already know yourself and it's not about you, it's not about being entertaining, it's not about you proving yourself worthy, your job is getting you know her, see if she fits you, her job is to know you, let her do her work.
/r/seduction19/04/18 02:24 PM
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Mark Manson's books are great, No More Mr Nice Guy is a good one too! -I've just listened to "algorithms to live by" and it was magnificent! many good materials in there, even more if you are more or less geek, or are in IT. -You are not your brain is a good step in the right direction for your mental health. -Emotional intelligence by Paul Ekman is a great introduction to, well, emotional intelligence! And it's not just for "detecting" emotion onto others, but being aware of your own current st…
/r/seduction18/04/18 06:17 PM
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Had one that tought I forgot because I didn't talked to her for a couple of days. Made me realized she might be dependent!
/r/seduction18/04/18 04:50 PM
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Ripped is not the only factor to play a major role, it's part of a sum. If you live a well balanced fulfilling life, if you eat well, exercise enough (in my case, I like running mostly),have a career, a good mindset chances are plenty of gals will be drawn toward you. The main problem you will face is that most of them will think they have no chances with you. So, you have to take the lead, make your intentions known. You don't need to pay anything nor be paid anything though. I see this more as…
/r/seduction17/04/18 07:46 PM
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Be social with the people in your surrounding, engage in conversation, be interested in people, the rest will follow.
/r/seduction17/04/18 04:24 PM
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Some people will be jerks, but unless you are rude, impolite, a jerk yourself, most will be polite, and talk to you. A balanced life is the best you can do, if your eating crap, you don't exercise, live an unbalanced life, yeah, you'll get gas but, honestly, if you live a life around other people, at work, at school, wherever, it's not really that different. You talk to people around at the office, at school, in classes, you ask what's the good thing where you eat, you go on around being social …
/r/seduction17/04/18 04:01 PM
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"It's ok to be afraid, but you don't have to be a coward" "Courage is not the absence of fear, it's doing it anyway" BTW: We, as a human species, has been able to achieve great things by being social, it's in our DNA. People who don't socialise are the exception, not the rule.
/r/seduction17/04/18 03:27 PM
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"Experience and knowledge is always a win for me!" BTW: Forget about shit test, it's a friendly tease, don't get so serious about this! It's all about being friendly, fun, and light minded.
/r/seduction17/04/18 03:21 PM
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"Perfection is the enemy of good" Relax, talk about anything, music, temperature, the place, the settings, what you drink, what she drinks, how's her day been going so far. The goal is not to entertain her, but to connect with her. Get HER to talk, be curions about HER, what SHE likes, who SHE is. Be interested and listen instead of waiting for your time to talk. Actively listen, repeat what she say and rephrase, ask a related question, etc. Don't take yourself too seriously, be light, caring, f…
/r/seduction17/04/18 03:18 PM
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Thing is, you need to find stuff you like to do, enjoy yourself there THEN, the social aspect will kick in. You talk to people around you (like we've been doing as humans for thousands of years), you 'll socialise, and people will see you as having a good time, and gravitate around you naturally instead of seeing you as "searching for friends" and retract.
/r/seduction17/04/18 03:10 PM
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It's not a marathon, it's not training for the finals, it's just talking to people. We've been doing this for thousands of years, and that's how we evolved as a species. No one will bite your head off because you said "hi", and if someone reacts like a jerk, it's not because you did something bad, it's because the person you talked to is a jerk. Nothing more.
/r/seduction17/04/18 02:59 PM
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The day you change the meaning of the word, from "being anxious" to "being excited", you change everything.
/r/seduction17/04/18 02:54 PM
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Similar to what is used to put two players of the same level together. With Tinder, it is allegedly used to put people that are most likely to match together.
/r/seduction17/04/18 02:50 PM
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Isn't the ELO rating linked with the account?
/r/seduction16/04/18 04:49 PM
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Exactly! Many folks are looking for the magic pill, the magic text, the magic moves, the "one size fits all" solution to all their problems. Each situation is different, and the best quality you can aim for is being able to adapt and being socially aware of the situation, listening to what the others are saying, both verbally and non-verbally and adapting to the other. The irony in this, while those folks are stressing out on doing the perfect thing, waiting to say the perfect thing they miss ou…
/r/seduction12/04/18 04:58 PM
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You are doing good, actually many "tactics" tries to emulate this pattern, IE: not answering right away. Having a good, fulfilling life (like you have) does it naturally (since it's what they try to emulate). If she doesn't understand that you go to class, hit the gym, etc, etc, she is really clingy...
/r/seduction12/04/18 04:53 PM
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You got nothing to gain, all to lose by sending more than the original reply / follow up. Forget her and move on if she doesn't respond. Just understand it might not be you, she has a life of her own, meet other folks, change mind over things, and on, and on. A good line you can use tough: "Just saw your doppelganger!" , only use if it's been a while and if it's not the third text without reply.
/r/seduction12/04/18 04:47 PM
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Well, you have to give some "signs of life" from times to times, but the way she reacts, it feels like she's a little dependent... That could raise some flags there!
/r/seduction12/04/18 04:30 PM
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https://imgur.com/gallery/RgJlv
/r/seduction12/04/18 04:26 PM
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IMHO: Being fun is better than being funny. We "listen" to the entertainment, we connect with the ones that laugh at the same things.
/r/seduction11/04/18 08:18 PM
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You can't force a tree to get strong, you help it with proper guidance, and it will grow strong by itself. Relationships are not asked for, they are built. Continue to see her, it will built naturally. Just continue having fun, let things grow by themselves.
/r/seduction11/04/18 08:06 PM
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There's no need for IOI's, he's already kissed her. Now it's time for escalation! IOI shows interests, she already did. Escalate is for getting things further. Make a proper setup, invite her home to see a movie, play some games, listen to music or have a meal, something like this.
/r/seduction11/04/18 08:01 PM
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5'5 is short, 5'8 is just bellow average. I've had many girls taller than me, I'm 5'9 and wearing Converse (so no cheating!), height was never an issue for me. Won't be for you if you don't bother!
/r/seduction10/04/18 06:07 PM
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Some times (well, many times) people just mean what they tell you. You might've done something wrong but, most likely, she might've realized it was, indeed, unprofessional to act this way. The best thing you can do is, take it like she told you and move on. Plenty of girls out there, don't stick on the one that say "no". Not worth your time!
/r/seduction10/04/18 05:04 PM
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Didn't see the video, but from what I can understand, from the tittle, it's pretty much what many self improvement book talk about. Those from Mark Manson (the 2 books), No More Mr Nice Guy, plenty more I've got also put an emphasis in the "being honest" mindset. Even 7 deadly sins, by Corey Taylor is using this concept. BTW: Being honest also include being honest with you. Many of us are driven by what is to be expected of us, or by what the society tells us we should or shouldn't do. Being hon…
/r/seduction10/04/18 12:26 PM
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Lips can be thick or thin, for example. That's look and that's subjective. Eye colors preference is a question of looks and is subjective. Some girls like beard, some don't, some guys like curly hair, some like thin nose, some likes more cheekbones, and on, and on. Some people likes latinos, some like asian, some like caucasian, etc, etc. A face is not solely constituted of symmetry and taste is highly subjective. That's the definition of subjective: based on or influenced by personal feelings, …
/r/seduction10/04/18 12:01 AM
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Compliance is about her putting in some effort. Doesn't have to be sexual, you can ask her for about anything, just to put in the mindset. "Push-pull" is about letting her do a little bit of work. When you escalate, you "pull" from times to times to make her "push". If she doesn't, she won't "push" more in bed (and you have your answer)
/r/seduction09/04/18 04:39 PM
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You should read that: https://www.lehmiller.com/blog/2013/9/23/what-would-happen-if-you-asked-100-female-strangers-for-sex Also, every person is different, there's no "one size fits all", don't look for a formula, know as much as you can and learn to adapt to what is going on. That's "social intelligence", ie; knowing when it's ok to ask for a number or ask to "wana get out of here?" The main advantage of going out alone is to do the fck you want! Some night I stayed with the same folks, some ti…
/r/seduction09/04/18 04:14 PM
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You go on and believe that!
/r/seduction09/04/18 03:20 PM
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"hot" is a highly subjective criteria. Some woman I find hot AF, and not my friend. Some it's the opposite. So, Yes! Hot woman gets rejected. All but the narcissistic ones have self-esteem issues. Furthermore, when you live with yourself, you learn to "spot" your defects. When, days in, days out, you see the same face in the mirror, you begin seeing spots and blemishes and bumps no one else sees. Hot girls sees that as well, and many has some level of self-esteem issues. You'd be surprised how m…
/r/seduction09/04/18 03:17 PM
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What? Why would you fight / get hurt? I don't get how you go from your impulse, to fighting, to using a condom to getting to jail?! BTW: A good fight is the one you don't have. The best and smartest fighters are the one that don't throw a fist.
/r/seduction09/04/18 02:41 PM
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IMHO: Sex is taboo if you make it a taboo. If you talk about it like anything else, it won't be that much of a taboo! We just need to be "socially aware" when it could be weird to talk about that. Like at work or at certain events.
/r/seduction07/04/18 02:21 PM
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Personally I won't on a first date, but once you get to know the person, that's another situation. Also, I won't put my nose up there if it isn't "fresh and clean"!
/r/seduction06/04/18 10:41 PM
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You do you! Not everyone has the same vibe, the same personality. If hugging feels right for you, do it. If not, don't! There's no "one size fits all" in life!
/r/seduction06/04/18 08:14 PM
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Do not feed the troll!
/r/seduction06/04/18 04:54 PM
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IMHO: You should change your perspective. Dating is not about proving yourself to a gal, it's about getting to know each other and finding if you are right for each others. She might not be your type in the mindset, she might have annoying habits, she might be a crazy nutcase, etc, etc. Firts date are to find out who she is, and look out for red flags. You might end up being the one not wanting a second date!
/r/seduction06/04/18 04:53 PM
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If you've been playing for a while, using all of your body, being mindful (ie: In the moment) and all, she won't mind if you last only 3 mins. Thrusting like a rabbit with your dick inside her is only part of the fun! We have fingers, mouths, breathing, smelling, biting, a thong. Your dick is one of the tool, not the only one!
/r/seduction06/04/18 04:50 PM
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Copy-pasta from a former reply, applies here also: "It's normal to be a afraid, you don't have to be a coward." It's stressful to escalate, you never know how she will react, and most of the time, when you look back, you see all the freaking sings she sent you and you feel like you missed out. Until one day you realized that the gutt feeling before you make a move is what's making it all worthwhile, you learn to tame it, you even crave it! But, for this, you have to make attempts. It's better to…
/r/seduction06/04/18 04:31 PM
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Woman are people, you talk to woman just as you would any other person. Being social is a primary skill for mankind, that's how we got this far. Don't over think it. Basic "fishing for interaction" question are plenty. "How's your day going so far?" is enough to get something going. If she is into chatting with you, she'll answer and turn toward you you have your answer! Conversation is not about proving you are worthy of her time, it's not about convincing her, you don't have to be exceptional,…
/r/seduction06/04/18 04:29 PM
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"You can be afraid, you don't have to be a coward" Confidence is not the lack of fear, confidence is acting anyway. Confidence is not "knowing you'd win", is doing it anyway, it's taming the fear and learning to appreciate and even, crave it.
/r/seduction06/04/18 02:21 PM
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"It's normal to be a afraid, you don't have to be a coward." It's stressful to escalate, you never know how she will react, and most of the time, when you look back, you see all the freaking sings she sent you and you feel like you missed out. Until one day you realized that the gutt feeling before you make a move is what's making it all worthwhile, you learn to tame it, you even crave it! But, for this, you have to make attempts. It's better to have tried and failed! That's how you learn! It's …
/r/seduction06/04/18 12:45 PM
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Sex is not meant to be serious, dating is not meant to be serious, heck, life is not meant to be that serious. Don't suck the fun out of this! Chill, relax, escalate and explore (but not without her consent!)
/r/seduction05/04/18 08:09 PM
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Don't break any steps here, before you can "ask her out", you first need to find out if she is "open for chat". You NEED to be social FIRST and she NEEDS to be open to SOCIALIZING. Nothing more. "Hey, how are you?" is enough to gauge this, and you look at the non-verbal answer. She looks at you, turns toward you, she is "open for socializing" (nothing more you know, at that stage). Next step, don't overthink it. Talk about what is appending right now (or what you've done in a near past). Brings …
/r/seduction05/04/18 08:07 PM
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Look in this articles, I didn't investigate further tough! http://uk.businessinsider.com/tinder-secret-success-rate-photos-right-swipe-percentage-2017-3 Even more info there: https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/5pcxch/api_users_you_can_see_the_swipe_rates_on_you_and/
/r/seduction05/04/18 04:24 PM
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From what I can recall (it's been a while since I've tinder'd!), the score calculate your "selection" as well as your matches. So, being "Pickier" will help your score and the app will provide you with results closer to your taste. I think there is a way to hack the system and get the score (per photo) sent to their server, but I don't know how just yet! EDIT: Seems like I might be wrong: http://tinderellaworldwide.com/whats-the-best-tinder-hack-heres-10/ Probably keeping a balanced swiping help…
/r/seduction05/04/18 12:25 PM
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IMHO: Do / go somewhere you wana do. You'll meet people by being social in the environnement. Like, if you go see a show, an event, something that entertain you, of sort. The main goal is to be social with everyone, cultivate this mindset. Then, if someone attracts you, well, add seduction!
/r/seduction05/04/18 12:31 AM
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We are not all the same, not built around the same conditions, not living the same lives, not living in the same place, don't expect people to have the same results as you because we are each different. The question is, and still remain: Do you have an app to recommend. Your answer is "No". You've made it clear. Nothing is more to be added! Now, you might wana have the last word on this, do so if it is your personality. I will not add further comment to yours. (BTW, quite a weird comment coming …
/r/seduction05/04/18 12:28 AM
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Please don't grow this out of proportion. You gave your opinion, that's ok! But I'm not asking for opinion, I'm asking for apps recommendations. You have any? Go ahead. You don't? Well, have a nice day!
/r/seduction05/04/18 12:18 AM
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With all due respect, this is not relevant to the question. I know pretty well how dating apps and online dating works, I'm not asking this, I'm asking if anyone knows of a "new king of apps". Thanks anyway for your input. Things might've changed since 2 years, but back then, I did have good results (because I put some effort into the profile).
/r/seduction04/04/18 11:59 PM
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Not sure I get what you are saying, but let me reiterate: take some risk, if it fails, you'll meet other woman. Be confident, believe in abundance.
/r/seduction23/03/18 08:18 PM
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When you see a specific girl as being "the one" without even having been in some sort of couple, that's that!
/r/seduction23/03/18 07:15 PM
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If you start by being social at first, you see posture turning towards you if they are "open to chat", and away if they are not, for example. There's an whole world of study of non-verbal and emotional intelligence, if you lack in Emotional intelligence, you should look to improve this area. That whole IOIs is, IMHO, just PUA mumbo jumbo... No girls would want to hump you just by looks, you have to talk to them, make them understand you are not a "threat" before they do.
/r/seduction23/03/18 07:14 PM
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See this as a good cue that she might be crazy, would you really want to waste your time with someone so f*cking serious and so up of themselves? Be thankful she didn't end up in your life! IMHO: People should try to be social first, and see if the person is open for an interaction. For all you know, she might've just left a fight with her friend / boss / college and you append to jump into her when she wasn't receptive. First step is being social and open and looking for the "non-verbal answer"…
/r/seduction23/03/18 06:23 PM
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Context? From what I can understand, it was playful banter. Could've replied "You jelly? :P" and troll her back jokingly. Teasing and banter and those so called shit test are not about "testing" one another, it's about being playful, light, making jokes and not taking this shit too serious! Don't suck the fun out of life and just go with the flow!
/r/seduction23/03/18 06:09 PM
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You got oneitis, my friend! Don't worry, you'll get plenty of woman on your lifetime, if it doesn't work with this one there are so many more, an abundance of young and beautiful ladies for you to gaze upon! Truth is, things that are worth in life are worth taking a risk for. If you only play it safe, you'll only experience the safe, boring security. The ones that takes risks are the one with the biggest payoff!
/r/seduction23/03/18 06:02 PM
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This whole PUA industrie is build around this idea... Aimed at shy and introverted guys, indeed and propagating the idea that's it's "fearful" to be social, to talk to people and those shit. I think most people don't realize it's normal to be social, to talk to people around and almost everyone wants to talk and chat and be social. Even more in social spots, like party, bars and clubs, events, shows, etc.
/r/seduction23/03/18 05:56 PM
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How old are you? 16? Just take some chance and try shit out. Forget about this place and learn by trial. Try shit, make mistake, try some other shit, make other mistake. Forget here, here is like trying to learn to swim by reading a book. Just jump on the water for crying out loud!
/r/seduction23/03/18 05:48 PM
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Thing is, you have no control over your genetics, like telling someone that he is tall! Yeah, ok, thanks I guess... Hey girls, you have a nice face symmetry... good for you! A compliment should be on something you can achieve, you "worked" on it, in some manner. On a piece of clothing, an accessories, on something she put an effort to do. Not all girls "know" they are pretty, most are not narcissist princess and have the same questioning as most of us do. Beauty and taste is, well, a matter of t…
/r/seduction23/03/18 04:00 PM
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Well, many people mistakes being confident with being narcissistic, they get into the "girls only like bad boys and jerks" and don't understand that the qualities they find attractive are the qualities of a leader, a free thinker that doesn't stop at "what will others think if I do this and that". So, many people will see this kind of behavior and try to mimic it without thinking and understanding that if they do, without proper social values, without the proper emotional intelligence involved, …
/r/seduction22/03/18 08:06 PM
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One thing to consider, he is a "star", so he as all of that "social proof" covered up. Before you go on and act like this, take the time to read the social cues and "read the room", or you'll end up with a sexual misconduct charges in no time!
/r/seduction22/03/18 04:53 PM
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I see tinder as a game, some way to pass up some times and test tings out for fun. Until you get to meet someone, it's nothing relevant, nothing tangible. At most, it's a tool to meet gals IRL, nothing more.
/r/seduction21/03/18 08:29 PM
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What I learned a while ago: Conversation is not about yourself, it's about the other. Ask question, listen (for real) and be genuinely interested and you'll be talking for hours without actually making the talking part! Couple of techniques that could help: Funneling: Go further into (or out) of focus. Like Music > Specific style > Specific band > specific member of the band. Or, the other way around. Be "On the moment", exploit what is going on, be mindful. There is music around, activities, dr…
/r/seduction21/03/18 07:51 PM
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You just do it. Just like a hand shake, just like a fist bump, just like anything! Some times it feels weird, some times it doesn't.
/r/seduction21/03/18 07:35 PM
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I go by the "3 strikes, you're out" mindset. Something CAN append once, and be out of her control. Twice even (and for most, I'd stop at twice). But three times, I think the "universe" is trying to tell you something! Move on to the next one!
/r/seduction21/03/18 06:20 PM
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Sightseeing is an easy and cheap one, anything that gets your heatrate somewhat faster will be good. You can do "multiple dates at once" also by combining 2 or 3 activities. Ending near your place to "invite her for a drink" after. Like some hiking, getting something to eat after. You can even invite her to cook @ home with you, use her as your co-chef (and test / get her into a compliance mindset)
/r/seduction21/03/18 04:50 PM
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Sexual innuendo or sex jokes are fun when the atmosphere is right, when it's not taken seriously and when it's the right mindset. Taken the wrong way and in the wrong manner it could be considered "sexual misconduct". You can thread this line if you want, but if you don't know the difference between the two, you might end up where you don't wanna go! RSD's are a company, they want to sell you their products so they put up things so that you will buy them. Don't take all of it for cash!! Many of …
/r/seduction16/03/18 06:44 PM
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Take this as "training" opportunities. You don't react the same way in training (with gals you're not that much into) as in "race day", but the training will built you the reflexes you need to "rise" above the rest of the "racers". You'll also grow your social circle just by being honest (you can easily say, politely, to someone you just don't fancy her as more than a friend).
/r/seduction15/03/18 10:07 PM
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Eye contact is important in human interaction, even more in seduction and "buildup".
/r/seduction15/03/18 08:14 PM
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99% of the escalation is non-verbal. Don't expect any "sexual innuendos" to get the desired effect before any real sexual intercourse with a woman, unless it is "backed up" by a good sexual vibe.
/r/seduction15/03/18 08:10 PM
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Many girls does want one night stand or no commitment, but they do want it with "higher gene pool" (IE: Being smarter or healthier than most). You don't need to manipulate a girl for that, but to show that you have those qualities and that you are confident enough to go on to the "next one" if she's not up for it.
/r/seduction15/03/18 06:12 PM
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That's a mix of "uncontrolled hormones" and "scarcity vs abundance" mindset. You'll learn to deal with your hormones as you grow, and you'll understand abundance as you try and don't fall on the "FOMO" mindset. You won't fear "missing out" if you understand the quantity of good / better potential out there. Just don't go into the other spectrum and don't act on the pretext that "better might be coming". Now, if you hook up with someone, it doesn't mean you'll marry her right there! You can try (…
/r/seduction15/03/18 03:17 PM
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What's keeping you from hitting the gym? Why do you "wana" do all those things but aren't doing them? Start with doing instead of wanting! You're 19, rather young! Your current "job" is to try shit out and learn what you want or don't want. Get into "extra scholar activities", join a club, do something more competitive, focus on exploring the world around you. Your focus with expand and you'll have many more interests. In the end, it's all about leading a well balanced and fulfilled life. Reject…
/r/seduction09/03/18 08:58 PM
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Nohting could explain it better than "No More Mr. Nice Guy". Get the book, either paper or audio. Great materials in there! (To summarize, it's about being confident and a leader and going for your own values instead of "twisting" for others.)
/r/seduction09/03/18 08:43 PM
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/r/seduction09/03/18 08:38 PM
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"How about we do something out of here, let's keep contacts, I know this place [insert local place here] I wana take you later on"
/r/seduction09/03/18 08:34 PM
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Don't worry, if she doesn't want to bone you, you can make her "high five" you all you want, she just won't! The compliance is just so that you are not perceived as her "servant", and it can be done as easily as asking for her to pass the salt or to ask for "a hand" from times to times instead of "doing everything" and making everything "readily available for her". If she is down for a drink with you, she'll say "ok" no matter if you ask her or if you states your intentions. Humanity is built ar…
/r/seduction09/03/18 08:23 PM
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Yep! Move on, get your dick wet on some other pussy! Plenty of em out there! Don't waste your time there! Didn't work once, won't work twice without a major change IMHO.
/r/seduction09/03/18 07:59 PM
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I don't see the so-called opener as anything more than "fishing for interest". You see, we don't "click" with everyone, some people we connect instantly, some gets on our nerve. Some are easy to deal with, some are a PITA just hearing them breath! When you "open" someone, you try something and see how they react. It doesn't mean to be anything exceptional, you can talk about the weather or anything for all we care, you just need to be aware of the reaction. If she is open to you, she'll move and…
/r/seduction09/03/18 07:44 PM
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Start by doing a litlle introspection and try to find where / what is wrong. Question yourself about what life you are living, how you can improve as a person. Someone said to read "Models" by Mark Manson, that's also a good start. You can find it in audiobook format if you want. Just don't expect it to be a sort of "magic pill" where you do something and all is ok, you need to put on the work.
/r/seduction09/03/18 06:26 PM
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Show genuine interest in her, get to know her and how she got where she is / how she is
/r/seduction09/03/18 06:22 PM
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You can offer a choice, "I have a restaurant close to my place if you want, but I can also show you my talent as a cook! I do prefer home cook meals TBH!" Leave her an alternative, if she doesn't feel safe being alone with you, she'll feel "threaten" and you'll have to work twice as hard to overcome the mindset created. Subconsciously, offering the alternative makes you appear "safer" and she'll more likely go to your place.
/r/seduction09/03/18 05:54 PM
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That's not how you get your dick wet young padawan!! If it hasn't appended, you're doing something wrong. You either play the victim card and blame the universe or you get some backbone, take action, take charge and fix your fucking life. Your choice!
/r/seduction09/03/18 05:50 PM
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Balance your life, find a sport to do, an activity to try out of your studies, get social, go to events, try new shit and you'll set your mind of living a fulfilling life. Not only will you be better balanced as a person, you'll meet more people this way and you'll grow a lot!
/r/seduction09/03/18 05:44 PM
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While I do agree with the "human as animals" concept, there is one "Basic concept" that can be understood; all of that "DMV" is only emulating one thing: Leading a good, balanced and fulfilling life. For example, the concept of not answering text right away is emulating that you do something of your life and you are not standing by your phone waiting for her to text you back. You don't answer a text right away when you are busy having a life, keeping in shape, working on your career, being at me…
/r/seduction09/03/18 05:26 PM
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Being attractive is not about the genetic. It's about acting in an attractive manner. Groom yourself, be presentable, be open, act confident, take (sensible) risks. There's a difference between being an introvert / loner / asocial and "doing what you feel like and not giving a f*ck what people think of it (still, while being polite, honest and respectful) and it's all in the mindset.
/r/seduction09/03/18 05:12 PM
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Emotionnal inteligence can be learnd. You can train using things like the training tool from Paul Ekman (a well renoun scientist on this area) https://www.paulekman.com/micro-expressions-training-tools/ Another "hint", seduction is a mix of being able to listen (to non-verbal cue, mostly), but also "ask questions" (in a non-verbal way) and listen for answers (and accepting them). That's the whole concept behind "escalating". Like sitting close to someone (asking) and seeing if she stays close, m…
/r/seduction09/03/18 05:08 PM
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I might be wrong here, but what I read is that you suffer from a lack of empathy... You should try to understand how she is feeling right now. Try to visualise how you would feel if you’d lost someone close to you and try to put yourself in her shoes.
/r/seduction05/06/17 04:12 PM
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Strike a conversation about anything, the weather, the traffic, the mood, whatever, and forget about the crowd. People are usually not aware of anything going on around them. When you open a conversation with a stranger, see it as a sub context way to ask if they wana chat up. They will either abide by answering you or moving closer or refuse the offer by moving away from you. Don’t overthing this, you are not asking her to move in with you, just opening a conversation.
/r/seduction31/05/17 08:00 PM
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Why does it matter? You where removing her anyway! You won’t see her again! Life is meant to test things, try shit out and make mistake, learn from them (if you can) and that’s it. Don’t be afraid to make mistake, be afraid of not trying at all!
/r/seduction31/05/17 07:49 PM
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It’s important to be aware of the social norm, and building your style around. That’s it!
/r/seduction31/05/17 02:56 PM
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A more polite way would be to present your hand. Also, don’t look at things in life in what you can or cannot do. Do it as a test of if It would work. Nothing defines you in a club, no one there know who you where yesterday. It doesn’t matter what you where, it only matters what you are. You can decide to go dancing in the middle of the dance floor like you are John Travolta for all that matters. What you where is only define in your head. Don’t get stuck by the past.
/r/seduction31/05/17 02:41 PM
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Maybe it’s me, developing a relationship feels kinda serious / building expectation. The mindset I used is more in the area of getting to know someone, learning if she fits your “scale of value” with no pressure and enjoying life and activities together. A relationship will built by itself if she fits your values, there’s no point of focusing on this point!
/r/seduction31/05/17 02:21 PM
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I hate it when people send me voice note over text.... If you have something to tell me, fucking call me... And I don't like to be called either... always in a bad moment, send me a text and we can settup a meet...
/r/seduction31/05/17 02:08 PM
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Sometimes life just gets in the way and you have to make the best with what you got. It's pretty much what I beleive. Had a couple of FWB over time, some of them I stopped seing, some of them that wanted something serious / exclusive too soon and one of them I grew to be in a LTR with. Enjoy the time you spend with her, focus on the moment, being mindful and see how it goes, without any expectation. If you grow to get close together, so be it. If not, well, nothing is wrong with having a good ti…
/r/seduction31/05/17 02:00 PM
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Nothing can really be told without seeing your profile… Tinder and Online Dating is like online selling. If the product (IE: You) is presented well enough, the potential buyer (IE: The gals) will click and wana know more. So, the question you must ask is, Is my presentation well enough so that women would be tempted to “buy it”? And a big concept into the art of persuasion: Don’t look on how YOU would like to be sold to. Look how THEY would like to be sold to. Guys are easy to sold to, as far a …
/r/seduction31/05/17 01:18 PM
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I'd go with "Yeah, I'm a white canva, waiting to get painted on!" sort of thing. Or like "Yeah, so much experience I have yet to live" mindset.
/r/seduction31/05/17 01:11 PM
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There's two things; flirting with the eyes is not a glare or a stare, you look at the person, you smile a little, almost shy-like and you look away for a glimpse, and come back. It's not a glare nor a stare, it's a peak. eye contact is like any other type of non-verbal rapport building technique. You have to mimic the other's pattern in order to create rapport. If the other is holding eye contact, while smiling or looking pleased/enjoyed, it's what some would call an IOI. I would rather call it …
/r/seduction31/05/17 12:12 AM
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Good advice! And I should add “Emotion Revealed” by Dr Paul Ekman as a good read in this area.
/r/seduction30/05/17 07:30 PM
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Holding eye contact when you are not in a conversation could be interpreted in a seduction attempt or a challenge / confrontation way. Usually when you look someone in the eyes and you don’t smile in a certain way, it will be the latter.
/r/seduction30/05/17 07:28 PM
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What are you curious about in life ? What kind of question do you ask about your favorite things, what kind of question would you ask your hero or anyone that inspires you? Would you like to see/read a biography about him/her? What would interest you to know? Be genuinely curious about other humans, the path they took, their childhood, why they chose a subject to study, what they like, what they want to achieve, and on, and on!!
/r/seduction30/05/17 07:15 PM
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You don’t! You set up logistics to get a date over text.
/r/seduction30/05/17 03:43 PM
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You can aim to be an entertainer and tell the best stories, in the end, chix fucks the ones that they connect to, that have rapport with them. The “clown” is entertaining for the length of the story!
/r/seduction30/05/17 01:04 PM
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I see teasing as playing games with someone, in a light and fun way. Just like you would do to a child; you wouldn’t try to hurt a child, right!! Push and pull is kind of “asking non-verbal questions and waiting for an answer” mixed with physical escalation, sort of! Let’s say you get inside her “bubble”, that’s a “push” and you have to look for the “answer”. Does she lean in, does she stay where she is, does she move out? Just like if you’d ask “Is it ok if I get close to you?” non-verbally and…
/r/seduction30/05/17 01:02 PM
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I’m not sure how this would qualify as teasing, could you enlighten me?
/r/seduction29/05/17 06:56 PM
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In short, you let her space to invest. In long, it’s all about being confident and willing to “lose”, in some way, to fail, of sort. When you “let go” of the constant push, and that you are confident enough to let the other the choice of coming back to you (or not, if she’s not into you after all). You can read all sort of method in the PUA realm, but it’s all to emulate this. The fact that you are confident enough so that if it doesn’t work with her, you’ll find another one worthy of your time,…
/r/seduction29/05/17 05:30 PM
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Feels like you are taking all of this too seriously. Forget about negging and shit test, have fun, tease her in a fun, playful and light way and be confident enough so that you don’t seem to mold her every opinion.
/r/seduction29/05/17 03:47 PM
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IMHO : You are not « throwing » anything away, you are getting experience, trying things, living !! From what I can understand, there is a lot of “push” in that day, not much of “pull”. You where clearly into her, and you invested a lot into her and it doesn’t seem she has a lot invested on her part.
/r/seduction29/05/17 03:41 PM
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Well, looks like you understood all my reply in the wrong way. I assume you can read them again and invite you to do so! Hint: I’m not saying I don’t like sex (that’s quite the opposite, actually!).
/r/seduction15/05/17 08:22 PM
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Your points are valid, and I believe It’s not about saying it’s right or wrong, it’s about understanding the others and understanding what makes them different. You can’t sell something (like your own self) by force feeding your own values. You need first to understand and accept the difference and adapt to it. You need to pace before you lead.
/r/seduction15/05/17 08:04 PM
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People do settle for what they have also. Look at the number of people that will keep a bad job and do shit they hate 8 hours a day weeks after weeks, months after months, years after years. Only a minority gets good at sex, only a small percentage of guys will give her a good hard fuck. Men have it easy, even if we suck at it, most of the time we’ll cum and have a good fucking hormonal cocktail and be all happy and shit. Most girl won’t. And most girls has grown with a religious background wher…
/r/seduction15/05/17 07:55 PM
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You can look at them to make you feel lesser, or you can look at them to find how you can make yourself better. It’s up to you.
/r/seduction15/05/17 06:04 PM
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Those kind of bitches go on in life because some dudes are so desperate for a fuck that they let them whatever they want and still chase them... Forget that bitch and move on!
/r/seduction15/05/17 06:01 PM
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Well, you can believe what you want and you are entitled to your opinion, that’s what fun about life is! But in reality, some people will value sex as much as watching a sports team competing. People are different in much aspect. “Asexual” is a known sexual orientation. If you consider that this concept is on a spectrum, going from asexual to sexual addicted, you can understand that part of the global population is on the lower half. Just like some people are totally asocial, and some need the i…
/r/seduction15/05/17 05:06 PM
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Get this book https://www.amazon.ca/Emotional-Life-Your-Brain-Live/dp/0452298881 (there is an audio version) It'll answer a part of your question. People don't remember the person you where yesterday as long as you are consistent with your change. What you were yesterday is now in the past. Nothing holds you to it except your own self. We are made to better our self, our brain are even made to reward us when we do.
/r/seduction15/05/17 04:24 PM
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You don’t need to try something to know if you want it or not. I don’t need to try having sex with a dude to know I don’t want it. I don’t have to try everything just because someone else has done it. I can spend hours learning a song at the guitar, learning every singles notes and training, again and again. I like playing drums, singing, getting good over all those things but I have no interest in learning the stats of a sports team, I have no interest in spending a minutes watching an hockey g…
/r/seduction15/05/17 04:09 PM
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Life is simple, you get what you are willing to fail at, when you are willing to fail at escalating, you get good because you try some shit out and learn from it. If you wait for a “guide” to be foulproof and not fail, you’ll get squat! Niet, nothing (or not much). Frat partys, young folks getting drunk and shit is probably the easiest place to try shit out. Just have a drink, have a blast and show interests in the people around you. STOP LIVING IN YOUR FUCKING HEAD, START LIVING IN THE MOMENT.
/r/seduction15/05/17 03:45 PM
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Being confident is partly not being afraid to appear as vulnerable. You have to be strong as shit to talk about dark phases you had, and it’s part of how you’ve become the person you are today. I’d say don’t be ashamed of the path you’ve taken, be even less ashamed of the mistake you’ve made and even less ashamed that you’ve learned from them. These are high values and praised qualities!
/r/seduction15/05/17 03:34 PM
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We all live with different values, prioritise and scale things up or down depending on our views or life. Some people don’t put sex in an high value, and as long as both of the entity of the couple are aware and having similar scale, I think it could work. I think it’s more important to find someone with a similar scale than try to adapt someone to yours / adapt to another one.
/r/seduction15/05/17 03:06 PM
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Rest still applies, don't make a deal out of it, it's not!
/r/seduction15/05/17 03:05 PM
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Don’t wana sound like captain’ Hindsight, but I assume you had the opportunity to tell her when you learned she was 23. Don’t make a big deal out of this, just tell her when you have an occasion, that’s it!
/r/seduction15/05/17 02:55 PM
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Well, there's probably a couple of way to help you acheive it, many can be found using google and let me explain how I changed mine. I think what got me out of the scarcity mindset is a mix of understanding my worth (understanding the feeling of inadequacy was rooted in a mix of perfectionism and some sort of gas-lighting) and learning to "let go", being willing to lose, to fail. When you are willing to lose (and that means, in a sense, being imperfect) you understand that what you "lost" is one…
/r/seduction12/05/17 11:34 PM
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Many of what you wrote makes a lot of sense. You seem to grasp the foundation for this, and understand that being obsessed over logistics and end up thinking more about “how to play” and forgetting to play! You are relatively young, and having dated 4 different girls over 7 months is good. Sometimes tough, you need to search more and refocus in order to succeed. From what I can read, if you refocus your mindset a little, it could help. If feels like you are trying to “prove your worth” to those …
/r/seduction12/05/17 07:15 PM
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Don’t wait for approval, do the fuck you want with your life. Try shit out, get out of your comfort zone and live the life YOU want.
/r/seduction11/05/17 04:08 PM
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Right from the start, hugs and kisses (on the cheeks) when you meet. Lead her to a spot where you can stay in her “bubble”, that is, not touching but within 2 feet of distance. Take larger stance so that “accidental” touch are prone to append, notice jewellery, tattoos and TOUCH THEM. Non intrusive touch is used to gauge the feedback. Shoulder, arms, knees. You touch and look for her non-verbal reaction. See all of this as asking non-verbal questions and perusing further when the answer is posit…
/r/seduction10/05/17 08:30 PM
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If your life sucks, fix your life, don’t try to cheat your way...
/r/seduction10/05/17 07:59 PM
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Totally agree, still there is some things to learn from movies like Fight Club, for instance! I did like the “Crazy, Stupid Love” and got nice tricks from it, like “wana get out of here” kinda sentence.
/r/seduction10/05/17 07:50 PM
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Transform whatever question you have into an affirmation. Instead of asking her how was her day, tell her something about yours. Like “Ouch... tough day at the office!!” or something related to what you already build rapport on, something you lived together and connected on.
/r/seduction10/05/17 07:47 PM
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I totally agree with you and believe we have the same intent: Answering the “why”. As for answering the “how”, I think addressing the “why” could help direct someone on the right path (building real confidence) and I think it is enough. While I do like to help people here, I think sometimes those people needs to put in the extra work to get the issue fixed or learn how to do it.
/r/seduction10/05/17 07:43 PM
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Being polite and gentleman is not something everyone can do, it takes confidences and enough value to reply in this way. Most people will try to protect their ego by being rude or trying to hide behind a mask. Confidence is born in your willingness to appear vulnerable to others. Fake confidence is built around trying to appear strong (er).
/r/seduction10/05/17 07:27 PM
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A lot of what I used was based on the science of persuasion, rapport building and things like that. Getting into story in my head turns you into an “entertainer”. Don’t get me wrong, people love to be entertained, but we mostly connect with the ones that create rapports with us. The ones we relates to. The ones that understands us! Many times, people gets so focused on them, on how they are perceived, on what they say, how they say it, they forget the most important aspect of rapport: Listen and…
/r/seduction09/05/17 06:09 PM
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Someone is showing you the forest and you focus on the first tree you see... You need to look further in many of the answers you got.
/r/seduction09/05/17 01:34 PM
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You want others to define what life would be fun? Experiment and find out by yourself! Why comply to the mass by doing what the mass does because it is intended as the “official fun”. I have fun running marathon, most people would find it painful. If I’d waited for the approval of others to find what I like to do, I’d be doing what everyone else does. Do you define yourself as “one of the mass” or as a specific mind? I stayed single by choice for about 2 years, had a blast during it. I’m not gon…
/r/seduction08/05/17 08:24 PM
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About your social interactions; are you more of the type to let people talk or to talk about you/your experiences?
/r/seduction08/05/17 08:04 PM
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Believe in abundance, forget about her, you can find another gal to bang.
/r/seduction08/05/17 08:01 PM
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Let me summarize it real simply: -Be social. -Show your intentions. What that means is, be social with your surroundings, and when you want, flirt with the person you are talking to. Most likely, social proof will provide a secure enough environment for most woman to feel at ease for flirting (which is a prerequisite, flirting without the security will make you come out as a freak/pervert). Forget about the rest, the human mind is a beautiful machine, it will adapt to the challenge you give it.
/r/seduction08/05/17 07:57 PM
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Feild of vision Taking chances That's it mostly!
/r/seduction08/05/17 07:36 PM
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I don’t get those kinds of posts. Why does it matter what others do? Why would anyone think it needs the reassurance from others that you live the “right” type of life? Yeah, life is built around the majority. The majority live a family lifestyle so the biggest sales potential is related to this life style. Does it mean we all need to live like this?
/r/seduction08/05/17 07:26 PM
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You know what you need to do when you are confused about a girl? Simple, clarify!! Take a chance; ask her out, that’s exactly what you did! Girls like guys that have balls and that take chances, not being afraid to fall. Good job! One thing tough, making her decide when it’s right puts her “in control”. Not that it’s good or bad, but most people can’t decide what cereal there having for breakfast, that’s why the confident leader types gives something specific. “Let’s do [this] [someday] night, t…
/r/seduction05/05/17 07:59 PM
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Yeah! Move on!! Don't get all needy and creepy over a gal!!
/r/seduction04/05/17 01:18 PM
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Funny thing about the numerical concept, for some, a bimbo with fake tits and short skirts make her more desirable (she could be a 7 and rise to a 9 for those reasons) and for me (and many others), it would decrease it (dropping that 7 to a 4-5, seing her as skank level low value whore type of woman). That’s probably why the HB1-9 system is flawed from the start. Anyway, if you wana bang her, don’t fool around, she is clearly an easy “target”. Ask her to Netflix and chill, offer her to grab a dr…
/r/seduction28/04/17 07:32 PM
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You can built strong rapport and make her feel connected, safe with friendly type of conversation. You can always add seduction / flirt in the mix, and you’ll get a lot better result when you do.
/r/seduction28/04/17 07:26 PM
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Good question and thank you for making me think about it. Many flirts, men and woman, but what is flirting? I think it could be summed with this: Flirting is using subtext to show sexual intent. By using non-verbal message, using double sense, innuendos, you rise the excitement because it is never obvious that you (or she) is into you. It creates and built tension by making it somewhat risky to go too far. How you do it? Well, that goes in par with the definition, doesn’t it? In order to “build”…
/r/seduction28/04/17 04:03 PM
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What's the risk? Do it if you want! Try and take a chance. Life is about exactly this, being able to take chances.
/r/seduction27/04/17 09:51 PM
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That was meant as a reply to eyeznmind_like_hawk. Some times you can't, you had to try before and that's it. You either learn from it and move on or live with the regret.
/r/seduction27/04/17 08:09 PM
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Read this: https://www.amazon.ca/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319 And this: https://www.amazon.ca/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive/dp/0062457713/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1493323357&sr=1-1&keywords=the+subtle+art+of+not+giving+a+fck
/r/seduction27/04/17 08:02 PM
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If you don’t wana seem to rehearsed, don’t say rehearsed things. You’re in college; you know what people do in college? They meet new people, they expand their social circle. You already have a point of rapport you can use: You are attending the same college. Don’t overthink opening, they are really not that important. You could just say “Hey, how’s your day going so far” and it will suffice. What you are doing is not getting her at any cost, you are just checking out if she is receptive. If she…
/r/seduction27/04/17 07:51 PM
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Rejection is not inevitable; it’s just part of the equation. Just understand that you get only what you are willing to fail at, and the best things in life are worth the risk. One thing is for sure, you will only regret the thing you didn’t do! So, try, fail, get up, try again.
/r/seduction27/04/17 07:43 PM
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If she enjoys your company it doesn’t mean she wants to suck your dick. Humans act friendly with each other’s and it doesn’t mean we go around fucking everyone we smile at… We even flirt with people we fancy just for the fun of it. Doesn’t mean we’ll go all the way and cheat on our SO. We each have our limits on this, and we each have different morals on the subject. You probably did the first part right, up to the point you validated if she was into you and even to the point she told you she ha…
/r/seduction27/04/17 07:15 PM
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I don’t know in what context you had her contact, but from what I can see, you never had her from the start. Honestly, if you aim to get in jail or to get your ass beaten up this is the perfect route to take… Let me give you a small advice, take whatever you do / tell, and imagine some huge gay dude would be doing this to you, in a jail cell. How would you feel about it? How would you perceive the persistence he uses if he did the same to you? Well, that’s how many woman feels if you are too agg…
/r/seduction27/04/17 06:25 PM
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Selifes are bad, it tells that you don’t have a social life enough to get pictures out of it, that you don’t do anything interesting enough to take pictures of it, those sort of things. Take a picture when you do whatever makes you athletic.
/r/seduction27/04/17 04:30 PM
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"Hey, hope your day is going well, had a great time last night [insert something related to the date, that she can relate to]!!"
/r/seduction27/04/17 04:27 PM
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Read this: https://www.amazon.ca/You-Are-Not-Your-Brain/dp/1583334831 And learn mindfulness.
/r/seduction27/04/17 04:24 PM
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This dude gets it! Listen to him! I could only add one thing: Maybe you are so caught up in that RSD shit, focusing so much on what to say, what to do, how to do it, all that shit clouds your head and you forget the most important thing: Listen and act accordingly. By listen I mean verbally and non-verbally. When you listen, for real, when you have an interest in what the person has to say, you don’t over or under do shit, you pace with them.
/r/seduction27/04/17 04:20 PM
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For Christ’s sake... ask her out already.... Grow a fucking pair and take a fucking chance... How many of you guys need a fucking contract to be sure she’s into you, do you need her to get a fucking shirt, printed with “I WANT YOUR D monument4allursins!!” on it? Fuck... man, take a fucking hint once in a while and take a fucking chance without having the certainty once in a while. LIVE A LITTLE!!
/r/seduction27/04/17 04:15 PM
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I don’t see how it would be creepy, unless you act creepy / needy around her. If it was a bro you’d chat with, how would you react? I assume you’d just be happy to see a budy there, have a drink with him and chat about random shit or about your week / ask him about his. Act the same way with her, with the addition of seduction aspect if you wana bang her. You have many “excuse” to get her to your place if you want to.
/r/seduction27/04/17 04:01 PM
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Most people don’t know what they want, it’s not a male/female thing. That doesn’t mean you do know either, and honestly it feels kind of narcissistic to think so. What it seems is that you are trying to force feed someone something they don’t want. This kind of text could get you a rape accusation BTW... You might wana tone it down a little TBH!! Persuasion works when you “convince” people that you have what they want, and make them want it, not by forcing it down their throats. High pressure se…
/r/seduction27/04/17 03:54 PM
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Grow a pair, ask her out, you'll know.
/r/seduction26/04/17 08:22 PM
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Feeling of inadequacy is a big issue for many people; it can be build by perfectionism, which seems to be your case. You can look into fixing this issue (google can help you), learn to fail, to be imperfect, aim for excellence rather than perfection, and take things lightly. It seems also that you are aware of your unrealistic thoughts. This is a good thing because you can learn to dissociate yourself from these “message” sent by your brain and reject them. You can learn mindfulness for this mat…
/r/seduction26/04/17 07:59 PM
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Don’t over think this; it might as well have slipped her mind. Doesn’t matter if she sees you running with anyone either. If you wana spend time with her, just ask her out, doesn’t matter if it’s obvious. If you are after a woman at work, you clearly don’t apply the “Don’t shit where you eat” moto. So just be straightforward and ask her out, you’ll know for sure.
/r/seduction26/04/17 06:22 PM
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Well, I think your best bet would be to look into cognitive behavioral therapy then. I am pretty sure only specialist would be able to help you with this. You could also try to broaden your interests. What you see as a curse could be turned into a blessing if you try to focus on learning the psychological aspects of humans, There is a couple of areas what could spike your interests like Neuro Science, psychology, behavioral science, the science of persuasion, etc. You can read on emotional intel…
/r/seduction26/04/17 02:37 PM
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Going out alone is awkward only if you make it awkward. Most people think it takes balls to do it. When you do, people think you have balls, that's it. If, for whatever reason, someone asks you why you are out alone, tell them you felt like going out and having a drink, that you are new in town and those shit (well, actually, it's only the true!), you have a whole lot of subjects there, like "what's fun around here!" "looks like you know the place, how's the [...]?" "What's the best spot for [..…
/r/seduction25/04/17 07:06 PM
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That's perfectly understandable, we don't like anyone, and unless you look into purely sexual encounters, and even then, I don't think it's worth it to invest time if you don't even connect on another level. You should try to change your demographics if you don't like the woman there. You can meet woman in many type of events, clubs, classes, etc. Woman are, indeed, more emotional than males, doesn't mean they are purely emotionnal, just that you have to connect in some more levels than only the…
/r/seduction25/04/17 06:34 PM
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Don't take yourself so seriously, and stop finding excuses. If you feel you are "unworthy", look into fixing that feeling of inadequacy. And don't suck the fun out of all of this, seduction is meant to be light and fun. Heck, life itself is meant to be light and fun.
/r/seduction25/04/17 04:35 PM
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Maybe you should try to see girls as human first, and try to see them as any other guys. A problem with many guys is not understanding this. They see girls as only "potential mates" instead of being social with their surrounding, no matter what the genre. I think the right way is, be social (with anyone) then, if the person socialise back to you, and you find that she is attractive, you add seduction.
/r/seduction25/04/17 04:07 PM
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First off, a big characteristic of asperger's (or anything in the autism spectrum) is based around not looking at the other's eyes. Mostly because it creates massive anxiety. If you are able to look into the eyes of the people interacting to you, you will feel a lot more warm, a lot more approachable. I advise you to look into cognitive behavioral therapy. ( a lot of info could be found on google, you can put in the work!) Secondly, I think that whole "making people laugh" is overrated. You don'…
/r/seduction25/04/17 02:18 PM
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That's the difference between taking the control vs. putting up with it. It's perfectly normal to have female friends, in which you have no romantic/sexual interest.
/r/seduction25/04/17 12:44 AM
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I get that you don’t want to genuinely hurt people and that’s a good thing. You can still be a gentleman, and have some manners. There’s a massive difference between “It just doesn’t click for me, you know! We don’t have control over this” and just being mean and insulting to others. I’m pretty sure “I’m in an open relationship” said early will make many back off from all of this! I used the “I’m not really to settle down and be exclusive” a couple of times myself in the past. Worked quite well …
/r/seduction24/04/17 08:23 PM
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Most of the dudes that ends up in friend zone are just so fucking afraid to take a risk. They don’t have the balls to get close, to touch her, to make innuendos, to put their arms around them, all that shit. They don’t take the risk so they don’t have the goodies. That’s it! Life is balanced! You get what you are willing to fail at, and what you value as worth talking a risk for.
/r/seduction24/04/17 08:17 PM
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Some people just like to flirt, if it’s at the office it’s mostly for fun. If you wana be sure, just invite her to do something out of work. You’ll know for sure. There is no real way of telling without risking a little bit!
/r/seduction24/04/17 08:09 PM
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This is up to you, from the experience I had, it’s better to tell it like it is ( like :”You’re great but I just don’t feel it), I think it’s better on the conscience. Unless you are good enough to make her believe it’s “her decision” somehow.
/r/seduction24/04/17 08:07 PM
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This will be “told” by reading the social queues, by being aware of the social norm in your current settings. There is no “list” per say, you just “read the crowd” and you know.
/r/seduction24/04/17 08:01 PM
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Well, the question is mostly “are you?”. If you are attracted to her, just take a chance and you’ll see. If you are not, flirt for fun. If she is doing it for fun, and you try to go further than she wants, she’ll let you know!
/r/seduction24/04/17 07:58 PM
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Did you lied to get out of it or do you have a girlfriend?
/r/seduction24/04/17 07:56 PM
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Then, find activities that attract woman as well, and socialise with them.
/r/seduction21/04/17 07:32 PM
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That “I lost massive value” mindset really feels like you are having somewhat of a feeling of inadequacy. You should look into that! You shouldn’t base your interaction on how much values you can provide but on how you can get to know them, having a genuine curiosity, genuine interest in who they really are.
/r/seduction21/04/17 03:59 PM
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There is no such thing as “Text game”. Most people see texting as entertainment. Many people see flirting as just fun stuff (with no intention to go further). Flirting over text is just a mix of those two things. I’ve had a couple of real interesting exchanges over chat, text and tinder only to have a “flat line” once I met them. Don’t expect much out of it unless you intent to meet them. That is why most advice with “Text gaming” is to keep it to the basic and for setting up dates. You can stil…
/r/seduction21/04/17 03:52 PM
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How old are you? 9 ? You really can’t come up with commonalities with potential female friends? You don’t read, don’t cook, and don’t do any sports? Get out of your cave and socialise, get some activities, go to classes, start learning shit.
/r/seduction21/04/17 03:41 PM
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Have you considered that they might really had plans? There is nothing wrong by being social with people in your surroundings, nothing wrong with flirting even and I don’t see this as a rejection, just as what it clearly states: They must leave, they have plans. If you see her again, just go ahead and talk to her again, there is no rejections stated in your previous interaction. Saying something that you acknowledge seeing her before will help IMHO.
/r/seduction21/04/17 03:37 PM
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Holding hands is mostly showing that you are interested in something serious. It’s a clear signal that you want a LTR out of this and not just “fool around”.
/r/seduction21/04/17 03:33 PM
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IOI stands for Indicator Of Interest. It’s like the person is telling you “Hey, come talk to me” in a non-verbal way. You could google image “glare” and see for yourself. (hint: It’s mostly linked to anger and negative emotions) You can look up the work of Dr. Paul Ekman for more information about the subject. BTW: I don’t know if it’s intentional, but deleting a post is a dick move...
/r/seduction19/04/17 12:48 PM
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Live a well balanced, fulfilling life. I assume there is festivals, activities, clubs, things to do, find things you like that are most susceptible to attract woman, give it your best, take chances, have fun and don’t take all of this so fucking seriously...
/r/seduction18/04/17 08:15 PM
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For all that I know, she could’ve been glaring as well as having some so called “IOI”. Without the rest of the face you can’t know anything for sure. And nothing is keeping you from lifting your ass up, getting by her side and saying “hi”. IOI’s are kinda the “likes” of real life. You can have the best post, the most like, the most upvotes. In the end, it doesn’t mean anything and it’s all “empty mojo” for your ego.
/r/seduction18/04/17 08:11 PM
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It mostly doesn’t mean anything until you have your dick in her pussy. And it doesn’t mean anyone wants anything serious after a date, even if you fuck her, even if you fuck her more than once, even if you have multiple date. The fact that she sent these out means mostly one thing, you made her feel secure enough while showing something she wants. Doesn’t mean she wants to fuck you, but it’s a good step in the direction! A damn good step! I’d say that you have more chance of ending up banging he…
/r/seduction18/04/17 08:04 PM
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Well, Fear of Missing out is common, and quite understandable. You might want to prioritise what you want out of your current situation and invest in it. You had goals in seduction, you need goals in your relationship as well (if you want to continue on this path). We need goals in order to grow, and our brain is made so that it reward us for setting up and accomplishing goals. If you are “secure” and feel you have nothing to fight for, you will get lazy.
/r/seduction18/04/17 07:47 PM
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I think what you need to do is chill the fuck down with all of this. You are seeing her as the woman of your dream and you don’t even know her... You are suffering oneitis and feel you must succeed at all cost, you must prove to her you are worthy and all that shit. Realise there is plenty of fish in the sea, get an abundance mindset and flip the pressure around: You are not proving to her that you are worthy, you are getting to know her to see if she is. And don’t mistake lust for love.
/r/seduction18/04/17 07:42 PM
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You just state your intentions straightforward. Ask for a number, ask to have a drink, what’s there to lose?
/r/seduction13/04/17 04:19 PM
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You need to be aware of the “location/occasion” aspect and use it. It is an easy foundation for rapport. Wherever you are, there is a subject, a story of why you both are there. (just wrote that above). I don’t consider bar “cold approach”, since you do have an occasion why you are there. Anything along the lines of this mindset is good to get you started. Another good thing to aim for is to get the other do the talking. Have a genuine interest in what she is saying and you’ll find plenty of sub…
/r/seduction13/04/17 02:52 PM
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You already have the reason to be there and to strike a conversation. Anything like “How long have you been doing this?” is enough. That is easy rapport for you! Get talking about that swing dancing!! You need to be aware of the “location/occasion” aspect and use it. It is an easy foundation for rapport. Wherever you are, there is a subject, a story of why you both are there.
/r/seduction13/04/17 02:41 PM
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From what I understand, it’s not about having the need (we each would have those 6 needs), it’s about in what priority we put each other. For example, if you value Growth above, there is a good chance you don’t value certainty as much, since to grow you need to challenge yourself and love the instability. If you need certainty upmost, you can’t put growth as high. I think it is necessary to ask yourself in what order you put them in order to know yourself. Then, knowing your “scale”, you can see…
/r/seduction12/04/17 08:29 PM
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You offer a drink to someone, like a beer. The person doesn’t like the drink you’ve offered. What would you do after when you meet the person again?
/r/seduction12/04/17 06:28 PM
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Yes and no.
/r/seduction12/04/17 06:26 PM
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-Have a genuine interest in the people you talk to. -Don’t be afraid to escalate, ask non-verbal questions and listen to the non-verbal answers. -Take chances, risks things, have guts -Don’t take all of this too seriously, it’s meant to be fun, have fun!
/r/seduction12/04/17 06:26 PM
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FYI: The 3 second rules is to help you not get into your mind, not because it’s weird to talk to her after a while, because it’s not! If you are able to brace yourself and get you moving after realising you’re into your head, it’s all good too.
/r/seduction12/04/17 06:18 PM
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Why would it generate less things to talk about? You are mostly at the same spot, in the same city, sharing the same type of settings, having the same weather, at the same time of day, at the same time of year, there’s a shit load of rapport you can create (and, not talking about non-verbal rapport even).
/r/seduction12/04/17 06:10 PM
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Do you need her to hold your dick in her mouth and have her balls in her hand to understand that she wants the D? Most of topics here are about one issue: Unable to make a decision and to take a chance. Just fucking try something, for crying out loud! If you don’t have the balls to take the chance, you just don’t deserve the goodies. That’s it.
/r/seduction12/04/17 06:03 PM
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Thing is, many guys gets clingy before knowing her. They create this princess persona in their head and get crazy (with the help of the hormonal cocktail). You get to know someone after months and years, not after dating a couple of times!
/r/seduction12/04/17 05:36 PM
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Yeah, I’d hit on you!! ;)
/r/seduction12/04/17 05:33 PM
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Sitting at the bar is the international signal for “hit me up, I wana chat”. The closer you are to the bar, the more you want to be talked to. Get a drink, sit a the bar, talk with the staff and I’m pretty sure you’ll be hit on in no time. Sitting at the bar is the international signal for “hit me up, I wana chat”. The closer you are to the bar, the more you want to be talked to. Get a drink, sit a the bar, talk with the staff and I’m pretty sure you’ll be hit on in no time.
/r/seduction12/04/17 05:30 PM
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I don’t get why people here put so much effort in cold approach... The gain is minimum while the effort is massive; you could get way better results by having a normal life, with passions, with goals, with objectives where you go out to learn shit, to do some class, to go to shows, etc. Maybe the reason why so many think it’s creepy is because it is creepy to go around, on the street, at the mall, at the campus to pick up chix... You can get a lot of interaction by having a real purpose! At leas…
/r/seduction12/04/17 05:28 PM
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It might not be the same type of meditation, if you are doing mindfulness; the goal is to put yourself in the “viewer” perspective of your emotions/brain message, without judging them. This video explains it pretty nicely: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7xAeJKgupPI What it enables is to understand that the message you are sent by your brain when facing your old time crush is nothing but message and you don’t have to act on them. You put yourself at some distance and are able to act without bein…
/r/seduction12/04/17 04:10 PM
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Dude, you sound like a dick !
/r/seduction12/04/17 03:36 PM
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Funny, saw an episode of Bob’s Burger a couple of days ago, the dude thought the girl was totally into him and didn’t realised she was “riding” him for answers in test and things like that!!
/r/seduction12/04/17 01:20 PM
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I'm gonna copy-paste what I wrote earlier: Why you shouldn’t take this personally: Thing is, you don’t love all types of woman, some has better chances because they are healthy, they have good face symmetry and are not full of themselves. But, even then, some dudes are totally into fit gals, some are more into higher fat to height ratio, some are into big butts, some are into small tight butts, some will only see the cleavage, some are into a body curve, some will get high at a flat stomach, etc…
/r/seduction11/04/17 06:28 PM
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Everything that would get her heart pumpin’ is good, hiking, sightseeing, getting out for a ride, things like that. Your idea is good; just walk to the ice-cream spot instead of just driving there. There’s a good chance that if she feels secure enough to get back to your house to watch a movie, she feels good enough to bang.
/r/seduction11/04/17 06:01 PM
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Very good point, indeed!
/r/seduction11/04/17 05:31 PM
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Why you shouldn’t take this personally: Thing is, you don’t love all types of woman, some has better chances because they are healthy, they have good face symmetry and are not full of themselves. But, even then, some dudes are totally into fit gals, some are more into higher fat to height ratio, some are into big butts, some are into small tight butts, some will only see the cleavage, some are into a body curve, some will get high at a flat stomach, etc, etc. So, basically, you probably like a t…
/r/seduction11/04/17 04:05 PM
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There’s probably treatment for this type of issues, but the irony is that the dude that has it probably won’t look for a cure by himself!!
/r/seduction11/04/17 12:36 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/63czp1/would_you_rather_smash_or_be_in_a_relationship/ That's the same question bro...! Same anwers applies.
/r/seduction10/04/17 08:27 PM
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That’s why it’s important to be social first, and to gauge the response of the other. You can see the non-verbal response to any person you talk to. BTW: when you do/say something to a girl, try to imagine how YOU would react if some big homo dude, twice your size, would say the exact same thing, the exact same way.
/r/seduction10/04/17 08:13 PM
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Yeah! Asking question and being able to find answers is not only the key to survival, but to being able to push further, to evolve not only as a person but as a specie! Some times thought, you just have to try and fail, and to take chances. In the end, you are getting better only at the things you are willing to fail at. If you are waiting for the perfect answer, you will wait all your life!
/r/seduction10/04/17 07:39 PM
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Well, my point of view is; she hurt herself by assuming something. Some people feel so insecure that they must have exclusive relationships even in the dating status. Neediness is a turn off not only for woman IMHO! You probably dodged the bullet on this one!!
/r/seduction10/04/17 07:36 PM
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This dude probably have question about putting his pants in the morning...
/r/seduction10/04/17 07:21 PM
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The source doesn’t change many things. You could’ve met her at a club, in a class, you could’ve helped her with a spare tire by the road on a rainy night, what matter is if you don’t rush into a relationship out of scarcity but get to know her and see if she is compatible with your scale of values. I feel like you are rushing into this a little, you haven’t even banged her and you are already thinking of a LTR with her. Be curious about who she is, learn about her and have fun, dating is all abo…
/r/seduction10/04/17 07:15 PM
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You can shake hand, can't you?
/r/seduction10/04/17 05:23 PM
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Furthermore, much research on emotional intelligence and the connection between body and brain is showing that the emotion is a «Two way » ride. Telling your face to make a genuine (Duchene) smile, for instance, for a period of time and your body will start feeling genuinely happy, your hormones will reflect the forced pose and gives you the right felling. Putting a power pose for a while (like you stated) will rise your level of testosterones and lessen your level of cortisol. Great research ha…
/r/seduction10/04/17 05:22 PM
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felt like the same, until I started paying real good attention and being really interested in what they were saying. most of the time, people gives you 2-3 subject in one sentence/answer. If you'd ask "What's the occasion?" to someone at a pub, for example, and they reply "Just felt I could chill out with my friend" could turn into "Your friend? How long you know her/how did you meet..", "You need to chill? Big week at work? " or things like that and funnel in/out of a subject. One good trick to…
/r/seduction07/04/17 10:33 PM
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No, it’s not! You shouldn’t look to attract everyone, but to attract the one that are most likely to be compatible with your type. Find where you belong, there is all type of gathering for all type of people.
/r/seduction07/04/17 07:37 PM
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Making her feel secure doesn’t mean commit to her, it means she understand that you are not a creep-psycho that will rape her and kill her. That’s about it. For many, just having social value, being clean, well groomed, dressed well enough will do it, Showing her subconscious that you live a healthy balanced life is mostly enough.
/r/seduction07/04/17 07:21 PM
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Sex is part of life, just as everything else, it is healthy to think about sex and be a sexual being as much as eating, drinking, being active, etc. What we need is balance between all of our needs and have control on fulfilling them. Most girls like their man to be sexual around them, as long as they feel secure enough with him. That’s the most important part; Make her feel “secure” and she will want you to be sexual.
/r/seduction07/04/17 07:07 PM
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Maybe you shouldn’t focus on “not being boring” but rather getting to know people. The pressure is not on you to entertain people around you! People have story to tell, experiences, knowledge, you could try to see how you can get to know them. Being an entertainer is good for people to be entertained, not so much to connect with!
/r/seduction07/04/17 06:28 PM
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You already answered your question: Cynical and introverted is a type. If you want to be (or to attract) different style, you can look into the work of Richard J Davidson, he has quite a good knowledge of the subject!
/r/seduction07/04/17 06:25 PM
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Magic pills doesn’t exists, anyone trying to sell it to you is selling you snake oil.
/r/seduction07/04/17 05:22 PM
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The source for a feeling of inadequacy could be in a number of sources. For me it was mostly being perfectionist and being gas lighted for a while. You could google those two if you feel it applies to you. Better knowing yourself is the first step toward fixing it. What helped me a lot is “turning the table”, forgetting about proving myself (and understanding my worth) and, instead, being genuinely interested if the other was compatible with me and accepting that anyone has different tastes. She…
/r/seduction07/04/17 05:18 PM
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Maybe you are trying too hard! Do you feel like you must prove your worth to everyone? Do you feel inadequate?
/r/seduction07/04/17 02:53 PM
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How old are you? BTW: Saying she is 19 doesn’t make her 19!!
/r/seduction07/04/17 02:38 PM
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That’s actually a good quality, you want to act according to the environment. Being the life of the party is good at a party, in class or in more serious settings, it’s annoying and disruptive. If you’re able to be social and to “read” the mood of the person you are talking to, you’ll be above most of the other people around. Be attentive and genuinely interested in the person you are talking to, that’s about it.
/r/seduction07/04/17 02:21 PM
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She told you she is busy, she just might be. Just ask her if she is free Saturday, cause you’re weekend is getting booked and see how it goes. Now, I do believe that, even when you are busy, you can make times for some things that you value. She might value more the times with her friends or to do something else than dating, she might have different taste in man than what you can offer her, and keep polite, and all of this is hers to decide. Don’t take it personally if she doesn’t make time for …
/r/seduction07/04/17 02:11 PM
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Yes if you don’t make it a big deal. No if you do make it a big deal. People are directed on whatever you focus on. If you are insecure with something, it will show and people will focus on it (or you will pay attention to the few one focusing on it). If you are confident, people won’t even bother!
/r/seduction06/04/17 08:07 PM
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You could try canceling on her first, like “Hey, sorry, told you I could do something Friday, something came up so I won’t make it! Have a great night!” This might get you a response. Depending on it, you could try “Well, I’m free [other day, 2-3 day max], I could show you a great spot for [a bite/a drink/a view] if you promise to behave!! :D”
/r/seduction06/04/17 08:05 PM
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Try turning the table around. Go not to prove you are worthy to her, but to see if she is interesting enough for you. If you don’t have many social skills, you are trying to jump steps. I don’t know how old you are, nor is what you do for living, but having 0 friends not something good. Don’t expect to pick up chix magically if you’re not used to socializing the least. So I think you should focus on having a social circle, training yourself to have a conversation. The types of people that drives…
/r/seduction06/04/17 07:55 PM
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Socialmedia are tools, you can use it right or wrong. You probably know what's best for you!
/r/seduction04/04/17 08:05 PM
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Why don’t you tell her, honestly, that you are not ready to settle down or have an exclusive relationship. Be a man!
/r/seduction04/04/17 08:02 PM
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Just realised people have been answering your questions over and over again (me included) and giving you advices for every mundane things you are asking yourself, what you need to do is close the fucking computer, get out of your head and live a little. You are overthinking so much, I’m wondering if you don’t stay away from a shower because you’re overthinking it and you’re afraid to slip on the fucking soap. You need to get out of your fucking head and if you can’t do it by yourself, seek a the…
/r/seduction04/04/17 07:44 PM
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Let me reiterate: In life, you get what you are willing to risk for. If you don’t think it’s worth the risk to put a hand on someone, don’t do it! Just don’t expect to have the same benefits as someone who does take the risk. Don’t expect either to be treated like a man when you are acting like a child, waiting for permissions, afraid of taking small risks.
/r/seduction04/04/17 06:47 PM
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Well, do you think the benefit is worth the risk or not? That’s basically up to you! Life is made this way, it’s balanced and will give you what you are willing to take risk for. If you live your life in the safe side, not talking risk, maybe you’ll “manage” to live an “ok life”, if you are lucky! If you are willing to take chances, take risk, ready to fall and rise up again, you will have a lot more! So, are you willing to take a small risk of putting your hand on a forearm/elbow when you talk …
/r/seduction04/04/17 06:11 PM
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This! She won’t cut your fingers if you touch her forearm, she won’t scream for her life if you touch her shoulder. What you doing with kino is asking non-verbal questions and looking for non-verbal answers. “Is it ok if I enter your safe space?” is what you are asking by standing close to her. She will answer with either “yes” by staying there or “no” by moving away. You escalate by going further, touching her hand, shaking her hand, putting a hand on her forearm/elbow and, again, listening for…
/r/seduction04/04/17 04:12 PM
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Furthermore, asking for a date is rather open... try to keep it precise, specific. Like “I’m taking you to place X on Thursday night, how’s 8 sounds for you?”
/r/seduction04/04/17 03:42 PM
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There is no “one size fits all” for the right time for anything in life. What I think could matter is if you “rush” into a relationship. I did when I was younger for the same reason as you: Wanted to settle down. So, I got with someone “serious” , someone with goals, with a career, and all that and settle down without taking the time to check for the most important part: Can I have fun with this gal? Do we share the same “scale of value”? The same Interests? We shared the “goal” of building a fa…
/r/seduction04/04/17 03:25 PM
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Improving yourself for yourself will have the “side effective” of growing your attraction. Even if you don’t do it for others, it will affect others. If you go into “self improvement” with the goal of improving yourself for others, you might fail at self improvement, but the other way around will work. You still can go to the gym to be better, to get in better shape, and it will improve your overall state (being able to take a walk in the park without being exhausted, for example), and unless yo…
/r/seduction04/04/17 03:04 PM
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Truth is, attraction is mostly based on “living a fulfilling, balanced life”. Doing so would attract more than solely face symmetry or, so called genetics (which is, mostly, showing that you live a healthy and balanced life)
/r/seduction04/04/17 02:48 PM
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I’d really like some development on this, if you’d care to!
/r/seduction04/04/17 02:45 PM
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Humans are not robots you know? We don’t act purely on logics!
/r/seduction04/04/17 02:43 PM
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I don’t think people assume, just that they tell you it is an opportunity to act in a non-stressful environment. Personally, I’d like better getting out and meeting someone, even if it doesn’t click, but that’s me, and I like meeting new people, learning about them and being “social”. That just might not be your cup of tea and you have every right to focus on doing what makes you happy and not waste time on what doesn’t. You can see everything as “assumption” or as “suggestions”, it’s up to you.
/r/seduction04/04/17 02:42 PM
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So, improving yourself has nothing to do with how you present yourself, your self-confidence, what you aim for, setting up goals, for example? Cause how I see it, these are all related! Not anyone in the self-improvement industry is helpful, but improving yourself will affect every aspect of your life.
/r/seduction04/04/17 02:39 PM
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Well, isn’t it the perfect opportunity to “train” yourself, test things out? I’d go to the date, try things I’m not “comfortable” to do naturally, then use the “sandwich” method to say you don’t feel the vibe, the connection. The sandwich method is to use something positive, then the “meat” and end on a positive note. Like “Hey, listen, you’re a great person, I had fun with you but there’s some things in life we don’t control, and I just don’t feel the vibe, the connection between us. You know h…
/r/seduction04/04/17 02:27 PM
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You only succeed at the things you are willing to fail at.
/r/seduction31/03/17 06:46 PM
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I don't know how you got to this conclusion, this is in no way what I meant. What I'm saying is "dont wait for IOIs to make a move and don't wait for the perfect signal, just go already."
/r/seduction31/03/17 06:25 PM
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The Ben Franklin Theory was a subject in the book “how to influence people and make friends” (or some other science of persuasion book, not sure which), I do understand the concept (and use it when needed). I think the key element in my reply is to “detach” yourself from the girls when you do. Hence the “could be used” as in “a tool to your learning curve”, and as long as you don’t invest in the woman more than she is invested. What I’m trying to say, in comparison is, let’s say you have a car t…
/r/seduction31/03/17 06:21 PM
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Those kind of girls could be use to test shit out also, you don’t “care” that much about them, so you can take things lightly and have fun. Enjoy their company when they are around, no strings attached, test your “texting” and shit. Test your escalation; don’t take all of this too seriously. Have fun when it happens, don’t think of it too much!
/r/seduction31/03/17 05:58 PM
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That’s good if you bump into her, but waiting for her, looking her schedule and that sort of shit is damn close to stalking. The goal of this is not to “get a yes”, but to know if she is interested or not. You have a way to contact her; I’d say go ahead and use this matter, unless you do really bump into her. Good chances you won’t for the weekend, so you might as well use the momentum to text her and ask her out for Monday or Tuesday night. I’d go something like “Hey, it was a pleasure bumping …
/r/seduction31/03/17 05:51 PM
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Let her decide for the matter of her friend. Your job is to ask her out. That’s it.
/r/seduction31/03/17 04:22 PM
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When it works, it’s because your already qualified, making her feel safe. Either by the way you look, the way you talk, by being already made “social proofed”, or things like that. Most woman needs to feel safe before they can be seduced, they are facing genuine threat and need to be reassured you are not a psycho rapper that will make her pregnant (that is mostly done subconsciously, BTW).
/r/seduction31/03/17 04:20 PM
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She might be looking for another “branch” to hold on before she jumps trees. She’s not ready yet to make the jump because she is not secure enough. That is the behaviour of an highly insecure and needy woman. Neediness is not a turn off solely for woman, RUUUUNNNNN!
/r/seduction31/03/17 04:16 PM
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It means she is listening to you, nothing more. She might have been waiting for something more, like asking her out, but the only way to know for sure is to ask her out. Don’t over think (either the asking and the answer!), you wana know if she wants to do something out of work, not to marry her!
/r/seduction31/03/17 04:13 PM
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Great advice! Forget about PUA, don’t watch porn and try to find ways to live a fulfilling life. Find a class, join a club, go to the gym, be social and it will provide you the foundation to meet people in a natural setup.
/r/seduction31/03/17 04:01 PM
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You already a source for rapport, the class you are attending. You can take this occasion to open to anyone, anything related to the class is fine, talking about a move you found challenging, asking if she is doing since a long time, talking about the music, the setup, etc. That’s not even a “cold approach”; it’s just being social and having an interest in the people around you! It’s totally ok to talk to people, we, as a species, have evolved by doing so!
/r/seduction31/03/17 03:58 PM
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This applies to many venues, getting cleaned, groomed, style of the venue. Feeling the place, spotting and approaching, hands on waist (escalate to ass if you want). Those would apply to any kind of show/event. The key elements are also to TRY shit, ask non-verbal questions and listen to non-verbal answers.
/r/seduction31/03/17 03:51 PM
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Hahah! I have never seen anyone grind at a metal show!! That would be a first!! The rest would apply tough. You’ll find more woman to rock events than metal events, unless it’s some popular band like A7X, metallica, things like that! Hard rock works too, if you can manage the style!
/r/seduction31/03/17 03:49 PM
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Things like “I was a total nerd in middle school, with glasses and all!”, like laughing where you grew up, “Yeah, I’m a Canadian, that means I’m gonna say sorry after we’ve banged”, or any other tings some would find limiting, you just “steer into the curve”.
/r/seduction31/03/17 03:39 PM
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Age of sexual consent in Canada is 16 btw... If you have any doubt, don’t hesitate to ask!
/r/seduction31/03/17 03:16 PM
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Playing, fidgeting with hair, uncovering the neck, these are non-verbal signs of comfort. She feels secure enough to “uncover” herself to you. She might not be conscious of it thought. She even might “change her mind” if she feels threatens somehow and retract her state.
/r/seduction31/03/17 03:14 PM
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FUCK IOIs, Fuck waiting for a sign, fuck all that crap! You find her attractive? You take a chance and go talk to her to see if she wana talk. Man-Boy waits for IOIs and the “perfect moment”, man have balls and take risks.
/r/seduction31/03/17 03:11 PM
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Face symmetry is part of the attraction, not the sum of it. If you groom, dress well enough (and is aware of the social settings for the right clothes), are clean , you will rise your “attraction level” no matter what your face symmetry is. If you want to know the maths about your face, google face symmetry analyser. You have to be ready accept the number it gives you thought. Take time to take a nice clean picture, upload it and you’ll have an idea. Most likely, what you are feeling is related …
/r/seduction31/03/17 03:08 PM
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First off, forget all of this number bullshit. She might be a 9 for you, and a 7 for someone else, just as much as you might be a 5 by some folks on Reddit and higher by some others. Furthermore, girls are not exclusively attracted by face symmetry. Some are more attracted by social intelligence, some by physical fitness, some by confidence and assertiveness. A guy with a face symmetry of 8-9 doesn’t mean he’ll have the guts and the charisma to achieve any goals in life. That being said, you sho…
/r/seduction31/03/17 02:59 PM
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When someone is attracted to someone else, his subconscious pulls him toward the object of attraction. In a bar, for example, the glass will go closer and closer, you will mirror the other person without being totally aware of it, you will make accidental touch, basically, everything in the concept of NLP’s match and mirror is based on natural behavior, all those things happend naturally when you have rapport with a person and you feel attracter to her. NLP’s match and mirror mimics non-verbal c…
/r/seduction31/03/17 02:39 PM
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Thing is, with Tinder (or any texting), you have to built some kind of rapport, make her feel secure enough to wana go out with you (if your profile is well built, it helps a lot BTW). Girls in dating apps faces real threat, unless this threat is dealt with, she will not agree on a date. Doesn’t mean you have to text her days in, days out, but a small convo is necessary in this setup. Just enough to built rapport (and see if she is a bitch or not, and if she is worthy of your time or not).
/r/seduction31/03/17 01:43 PM
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I’d answer with a really concrete and well explained writing here, but since you deleted your post, I won’t... If you don’t want to contribute to the others, I will not help you.
/r/seduction31/03/17 12:35 PM
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Totally agree, there is a bit more (a lot more even), but the foundation is that you still need to attract in order to rise above, you still need to get matches on those that sees your profile. Being selective is a waaayyy better tactic than swiping to all, the irony is that it’s the kind of behavior we all should do in real life as well, having an abundance mindset, being selective and not falling for any girls that want to “lay” for us. Most of PUA is built around the numbers game, around the …
/r/seduction31/03/17 12:32 PM
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A big part of the non-verbal communication is done by the subconscious. Most people “connect” this way, they chat about this and that, rapport is built by their shared interest and the body reacts and help build rapport. When the other person turns you on, your subconscious will start to flirt with the other. Most of this happens naturally.
/r/seduction30/03/17 08:09 PM
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We? I'd say forget that girl! I don't know where you two met, if you where with friends or what, but that "We" is clearly a sign that she is not interested.
/r/seduction30/03/17 07:58 PM
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Tinder works like mostly everything: You need to show that you have an attractive lifestyle. Most guys will swipe one anything, put 3-4 lame ass pictures and leave the bio empty or load it with bland list and lame ass descriptions. Put pictures of you doing some shit, write a witty bio and you’ll put yourself above the rest.
/r/seduction30/03/17 07:53 PM
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Feels like you are playing in a “win-lose” mindset, like if you don’t “call her out”’ you somehow lose. I tend to see it in a “playful win-win” mindset. What you get, early on, is if they wana play or not. Some do, some don’t. Being playful would’ve mean you get into a “tease” with that whole “I don’t have a phone” thing, like answering something like “Wow! You don’t have a phone? You use smoke signals or what? Must be of Indian background” and play along. If she’s too full of herself to play al…
/r/seduction30/03/17 07:34 PM
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Join a class, a sport team, a club, go to events, get out of your cave and talk to people around settings you enjoy.
/r/seduction30/03/17 04:26 PM
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Feels like you lack goals in your everyday life. You had one (get a girlfriend) and once you’ve achieved it, you got back where you where. You need to look for constant improvement, bettering yourself every way you can. If you need challenge, let me give you this one: Chances are, the current girlfriend you have falled for you because of who you where in your peak, the “new you” you’ve developed. Now, if you go back to being a goalless sedentary sloth, chances are she’ll grow out of the relation…
/r/seduction30/03/17 04:22 PM
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Those mindsets are good as long as they are realist, as long as you have reasons to think you are enough, or that you are awesome. And as long as you don’t think you “achieved” the “higher level of greatness” in life and you aim for constant improvement. You also have to be realist and aware of what is truly happening. Some nights do sucks, they are not all awesome. What they are, tough, is a great learning experience, as long as you are willing to improve. There is a nuance between knowing you …
/r/seduction30/03/17 03:39 PM
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Money or success is not just about money and success. When you succeed in life, it shows that you have social intelligence that you can manage to be a part of society. The fact that someone succeed is part of his personality, just as much as any other part, just like being in shape and keeping in shape means you can push yourself, you are not a sloth, that you can keep up with gaols, etc. I’m attracted by gals in good shape not because I’m superficious, but because I know goddamn well that a fat…
/r/seduction30/03/17 02:58 PM
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I think you should look into therapy, some disorders are treatable, some can be lessen. Only a qualified therapist will help you on such a serious matter tough. Behavioral therapy could help, maybe it will need the help of medication.
/r/seduction30/03/17 02:15 PM
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Behavioral therapy can help lessen the effect, at least. You can read the work of Dr Richard Davidson on the subject.
/r/seduction30/03/17 02:10 PM
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You’re thinking waaaayyyyy too much of this. Just something like “Hey, how are you today?” is plenty. You are not auditioning for the role of your life, you are just gauging if the girl is interested in talking to you and get the conversation going. Openers are way overrated. I think it prove the mindset that you must “prove” yourself, show that you are an interesting person. Turns the table around, fish to see if she is interesting, worthy of your time.
/r/seduction30/03/17 02:06 PM
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Please understand that flirting is part of normal social interaction. Some people does it more than others but it doesn’t mean, in any way, that if someone flirts with you, that she wants your dick in any way. Play along if you want, but it’s mostly playful flirt with no intentions. If she does want more, she will make some opening. The morals are up to you, if you can live with the risk or screwing a relationship with someone you say days after days at work, it’s up to you. Just remember that t…
/r/seduction30/03/17 01:58 PM
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If you asked a question, and she didn’t answer, I don’t think you can do any more. You could try something since it’s mostly lost, like somewhat of an inside statement to get her curiosity going, like “I think I saw your doppelganger just now” or something with an inside, like something you talked about like “I can’t get [song’s name you talked about] out of my head now!”. Just don’t expect anything!
/r/seduction30/03/17 01:53 PM
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You should read "No More M. Nice Guy". Pretty sure that applies to you!
/r/seduction30/03/17 01:50 PM
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The goal of not texting right away is to emulate that you have a life. Like, for example, you don’t text back right away when someone texts you because you are at the gym, at work, studying, you’re with a couple of bros having a drink, because you have a well balanced fulfilling life. Not texting for a whole week feels like you don’t have interest.
/r/seduction30/03/17 01:38 PM
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What could help a lot is to learn to live in the moment, focus on what’s appending in the “now”, learn to realize when you go into your head and just focus on something that can bring you back in the present moment, like your breathing for instance, or the way the ground feel when you walk, or the music playing, or the color of something, like the drink you are having. You can try mindfulness meditation, which is exactly what you will learn to do. I use the app “HeadSpace”, free to try for a wee…
/r/seduction30/03/17 01:32 PM
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Why does it bother you what other likes? Do you need others to approval of others so much that if someone doesn’t like the same thing as you, it makes you feel like you shouldn’t like the things you like?
/r/seduction29/03/17 08:21 PM
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You should be curious about the people you talk to, we all have huge amount of stories and are willing to share, so if you are curious of the person, want to really know her better, ask question, see how they react, talk about their projects, their dreams, be genuinely interested. Just a small “how’s your day going?” can start the conversation. The spotlight should be on them, not you. You are not there to entertain (but if someone is interested in you, you should open up) but to connect, exchan…
/r/seduction29/03/17 06:37 PM
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More guys should follow this route; we should look for flags before feeling the urge to spread our seeds to anyone. They are not all worth it, just as much as not all guys are worth it for them. Quality IS better than quantity! Also, I agrees, horses loving chix are mostly crazy!!
/r/seduction29/03/17 06:33 PM
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Girls (and boys) cheat because they have a need that is unfulfilled. If the person is honest with him/her to begin with, they ask for their need to be fulfilled or they end up the relationship. That doesn’t mean you should look to be the “fulfiller” of the void in another relationship, but that’s up to you!
/r/seduction28/03/17 06:36 PM
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Magic pills don’t work. Just understand that you get the reward related to the risk you are willing to take. Happy hour is meant to be light, fun, be social and live on the moment. Don’t take it all to seriously and have some fun.
/r/seduction28/03/17 05:21 PM
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She stood you up, and then resumes on texting and snapchatting you without any “sorry for the other night”? And you are asking how you should act? Are you a doormat or a man?
/r/seduction28/03/17 05:19 PM
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Try to focus on the breathing, pacing the peoples' breathing speed and intensity.
/r/seduction28/03/17 02:47 PM
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Just don’t make a move, and if she does, be honest and polite. You can connect with someone, and not be into someone romantically. You can tell her with the “sandwich” method if it gets to hot. Something like “Hey, you are great, I really enjoy your company and some things in life you just feel or you don’t, I enjoy you as a friend and I don’t feel more than this, you know how it is! Some things you can’t control! This is one of them! I really enjoy spending time with you and hope you wana hang …
/r/seduction28/03/17 02:44 PM
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They have a life...!
/r/seduction28/03/17 02:32 PM
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You don’t need a specific mindset to get out of your comfort zone; you just need to either have a good enough reward (carrot) or a bad enough loss (stick) to do it. If you can’t see the reward, try to see the stick. I personally needed to see the loss in order to change, because I had part of the reward. Maybe you need to understand that, when you don’t take chance yourself, you will end up with either the narcissistic control freak or the “rest”, and the real good woman will always be taken by …
/r/seduction28/03/17 02:17 PM
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With all due respect, I can of get the vibe of OP. I used to be afraid to try anyting, waiting for the “perfect moment”, unwilling to take a risk. Until I realised life is about talking risk, taking a leap of faith and trying shit out. The best things in life are worth fighting for, they are worth taking the risks, the challenge. The reward for doing so is tremendous. OP just needs to understand this.
/r/seduction28/03/17 01:57 PM
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Some things you just have to try, be willing to fail, correct when you do. Life is about trying shit out, not being always sure about everything. Try, listen, calibrate.
/r/seduction28/03/17 01:50 PM
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I don’t get it. If you are good at reading body language, act accordingly to the message given! You have the awareness, just match the social settings.
/r/seduction28/03/17 01:48 PM
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Move closer, into her “bubble”. She will either move closer, stay where she is or move out. This is her answer. When she says a non-verbal yes, it means she feels secure enough for you to be/stay there. You push further every time you “ask”, like “accidental touch”, like putting your harm in the top of her seat, like touching her forearm, and on, and on.
/r/seduction28/03/17 01:09 PM
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We only succeed at the thing we are willing to fail at. The question is, are you willing to fail? About eye contact, there is some known technique in NLP that is called “Pace and leading”, it should be used for eye contact. That means you must keep the same type of eye contact as the other person (it helps create rapports, like match and mirror), and when the person is “paced”, you could try to lead into stronger eye contact. But if you are chasing the eyes, the person is not comfortable enough …
/r/seduction28/03/17 12:59 PM
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You could use non verbal question and see her non-verbal answers. You could also just ask her out, if she is interested she’ll say yes.
/r/seduction28/03/17 12:48 PM
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Ok, read the thing, so, before I continue further, please understand that my view is biased, I am well aware of it. The article didn’t add to my idea, feels like a classical PUA mindset and, ironically, if you apply the “alpha/beta” concept so highly acclaimed by the PUA scene, she would end up with mostly beta (their definitions of the Alpha doesn’t realy abide to the dude, waiting for her to drain her laptop to talk to her... waiting patiently like a little puppy, does it?), it also portrait t…
/r/seduction27/03/17 07:33 PM
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Leading a fulfilling life, with activities, social events, gathering, etc will help you get a social circle. Get out, do something with your life, join a class (the classes at gym are loaded with gals!), join a club, go out to shows, get out of your cave and see people.
/r/seduction27/03/17 03:41 PM
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No one here can tell you for sure, you’ll have to find out by yourself. There is some non-verbal signs that shows if she is interested but if she is shy, she might show fear and translate it to non-verbal shows of “flight” feeling. Try, try again and see how it turns out.
/r/seduction27/03/17 03:40 PM
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A Lambo could be fun for a week end, but for the day to day, where would you put the groceries, the kids, the shit you have to do on a daily basis? That’s why people get sedans! It can be fun (if you have the budget) but the selling point is mostly it can be practical. The “fun guy” at party is fun for one night, but get him on a team for work, you’ll want him to shut the fuck up and do some work, don’t you? You don’t want to connect with him, you want him to entertain you for a short period and…
/r/seduction27/03/17 02:03 PM
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/r/seduction24/03/17 05:45 PM
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There is no secret, nothing more than doing it. It’s that simple. Force yourself, do it, get out of your head, find a way to snap out of it and take a fucking leap of faith. What’s the worst that could append? She won’t cut your fucking hands, worst case scenario, what would append? Can you face it? Then risk it! You can’t face it? Well, don’t do it then. And settle for the rest.
/r/seduction24/03/17 05:24 PM
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Well put! You should be social and curious on the outcome, with no preconceived or aimed results. Furthermore, please understand that before you can think of seduction with a woman, you must first make her feel “secure”. For this matter, I tend to think in “friendly approach” at first, and see the reaction before thinking of going for more. Now, making her feel safe doesn’t mean being a “yes man”, a “good boy” or anything. It means showing mental, physical and social health and not showing lack …
/r/seduction24/03/17 04:07 PM
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You know what kind of dudes waits for an IOIs to do a move? Child-man, the little boy who grew up physically but didn’t take any chance in his life so he need aircraft signaller to make a move. The type of man that asks himself “Is she serious when she tells me to take her and fuck her or is she playing with me?”, the kind that waits for the perfect moment that never occurs and blames the settings, the music, the place, the others around him, the phases of the moon instead of taking responsibili…
/r/seduction24/03/17 02:33 PM
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If she is in or not yet out, this text will draw her out. What you could try, and I’m really not sure about this one is state that your plan changed for Saturday, something came up, but to compensate, tell her you are free tonight or Sunday. Something like “Hey, something came up for Saturday, can’t make it but I can make up for it tonight, it’s last minute I know but I know this spot, I have to show you!” If you can’t tonight, change it for Sunday or something. It’ll give you an excuse to fish …
/r/seduction24/03/17 01:08 PM
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You talk to anyone around, being social and having social value is good in many facets of your life. We are a “social species”, we need each others to rise, to survive even. A social skill is at the very foundation of our evolution. Furthermore, if you only talk to those who spark your interest, you will end up not talking to anyone when you are in a relationship. Unless you wana be the type of guy that forget his social life, his friends and family once he is in a relationship, I would advise t…
/r/seduction24/03/17 12:58 PM
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Spanish fly?!
/r/seduction24/03/17 12:54 PM
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You’ve made your choice then and should accept it and move on. You will be able to find reason to act how you act, human brain is made this way. It seems like you want this answer, so I’ll give it to you: Just wait ‘till the end of the semester, don’t take any risk, any chances at all, that how we get hurt, and we fail, by trying. Now, if you want the answer you need as opposed to the answer you want, re-read what I’ve already written.
/r/seduction24/03/17 12:10 PM
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Thing to think about: Feeling nervous feels just about the same as feeling excited. What mostly differentiate the two is the word you put to the feeling.
/r/seduction23/03/17 08:30 PM
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Front: Non-verbal leading Back: Non-verbal following.
/r/seduction23/03/17 08:20 PM
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What you are telling with mirror selfies is that you lack activities to take pictures, you lack friends to take those pictures. Lack of social life and lack of activities is unattractive, yes. Being attractive, even more for a man, is less “face symmetry” and more “leading an attractive life”, it’s more being healthy mentally, physically and socially. If you can show mental, physical and social health on your picture it’s gonna help a lot, furthermore, showing lack of health in those area will l…
/r/seduction23/03/17 08:18 PM
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It’s awkward if you make it awkward. If you’re confident in yourself and don’t take an answer personally, there’s nothing to be awkward, or to be ashamed. You wanted to ask for a date, got enough balls to ask her and got your answer instead of waiting like a puppy for the “perfect moment” and what not. That’s how I see this.
/r/seduction23/03/17 08:12 PM
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Extra points: To help create rapport, you can repeat part of what they say before continuing on. For example, if they say “Yeah, I play softball”, you can reply with “Oh, you play softball, how long have you been playing?”. Not only does it help with rapport building, it also help pay close attention to what the other is saying and it gives you more time to come up with follow up.
/r/seduction23/03/17 08:01 PM
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Why would it be awkward if she said no? You could look at it this way: What you want to find out is if she wants to go on a date or not, just like if you’d ask a friend if he wants a beer or not. Does it matter if she would say no? Does she have to like beer at any expenses? No, she doesn’t! She has the right to her taste just like you do. In other words, you could change the focus to “Is she gonna say yes to a date (or a beer)” to “Does she want a date (or a beer)” (the nuance is subtle, but it…
/r/seduction23/03/17 07:54 PM
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Honestly, feels bland, tasteless, and overly serious. It’s also negative, so don’t expect it to put a good, light and fun vibe. If you want a nice way to put it, I used -#SmartIsSexy In my profile. Also, try to write a short story, not a list or a suit of words describing you. The bio is a great way to set you apart from the lame and lifeless folks out there. If you like cooking, don’t say you like cooking, say “I’m Gordon Ramsey, less the screaming.” For example. There is plenty of way to be mo…
/r/seduction23/03/17 07:27 PM
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Where do you think you stand in the spectrum of intro/extroversion? Where would you like to stand in the same spectrum? You could learn the art of conversation but you have to have the desire to talk to people. Like anything, it’s a skill that is learn by 20% theory and 80% practice. If you hate talking to people, the 80% will feel like a pain in the ass! There is a lot of books on the subject, I think the most important things could be resume to this: *LISTEN *, for real! Have a genuine interes…
/r/seduction23/03/17 07:16 PM
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it's probably the source for many of your issues, I assume if you find the source for this feeling, you will feel a lot more to your potential. I know that perfectionism might be one cause for a feeling of inadequacy. Might be your case (if you are), you could look into that. Another thing to do and understand is that every one is free to have is taste, so it means you should let her decide if you are worthy or not. We don't have the same taste in women, women don't have all the same taste in me…
/r/seduction23/03/17 01:02 AM
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Would you tell it's because you feel somewhat inadequate?
/r/seduction22/03/17 10:17 PM
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Can you socialize with people? This is the same as approaching. If you can’t, you should focus on that, being able to talk to people around, chat about this and that, have a conversation with a random person.
/r/seduction22/03/17 08:29 PM
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The difference is the sexual intent. Furthermore, you shouldn’t put sexual intent before knowing you are “good to do so”, ie: That the protection/fear barrier is crossed.
/r/seduction22/03/17 08:09 PM
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I’m curious on what makes you genetically unfit, and if you can change the focus to something else.
/r/seduction22/03/17 07:14 PM
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Kudos on realising you can act on the most important aspect: Being fat. By balancing your life you balanced a shit load of things, like your hormonal level and, mostly, your confidence level. You have stopped being a victim and you chose to take action, take your life in your hand. Talking about taking “your life in your hand”, I don’t think masturbating too often will do you any good. You see, this particular organ is sensitive to stimuli and might result in hardening it and you would need more…
/r/seduction22/03/17 06:22 PM
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You should look into scarcity vs. Abundance mindset. What you are facing now is “scarcity”, or oneitis. There is no such thing as the “one in a million” thing. You don’t know this girl, never went out with her and you have no reason to believe she is the wholly grail of your love life. There is a shit load of girl, there is a shitload of opportunities. You just have to let go of your limiting mindset, your narrow point of focus and look around. She isn’t that special, get over her and move on. A…
/r/seduction22/03/17 05:54 PM
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Do you want a restraining order? Because that’s how you get a restraining order!! Forget about the girl, it’s not “hard to get”, you are harassing her to a point she is most likely frighten by you. Don’t try to “save” this, to rescape this shit, it’s over, finished, dead. Move on, there is plenty other fish in the sea.
/r/seduction22/03/17 05:21 PM
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I see a whole pragmatic approach to what should be felt in the moment. Script doesn’t work (most of the time) because it feel canned, made up, it rarely apply in the moment. You can learn technique, memorise script in the hope that they will apply, but what this is is only trying to “emulate” someone with wit, to a certain point. All this technical stuff end up only trying to emulate what qualities we all look for in other humans. I’m gonna copy/paste something I wrote to another post, I think i…
/r/seduction22/03/17 04:16 PM
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Thing is, if you lead a well balanced, fulfilling life, you don’tanswer right away because you can’t, you’re at the gym, at work, out with friends, whatever. Most technique you see about texting is only trying to emulate this. So, you can either do that; Fake that you have a life, that you do shit by waiting and not answering right away or you can do shit you like, have a life, have hobbies, have friend and just do it because it is your life.
/r/seduction22/03/17 01:56 PM
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My vision is: You should be able to talk to someone even if it you don’t want to peruse further, have no interest in her. Doing so makes you a “social being”, enable to engage with his surrounding, using whatever life gives him. Furthermore, talking only to those that sparks your interests create a barrier, the intent you are looking for before engaging someone is at the source of what some call “approach anxiety”. I think it’s healthier to talk to the people around you, flirt even if you are li…
/r/seduction22/03/17 12:43 PM
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Grow a pair, take a chance, be a man and do whatever you feel ike doing. Stop over thinking all of this. You are in a college for crying out loud, it is the perfect moment to try shit out, to learn to take chances, to learn to take a leap of faith. Don’t expect the perfect moment, CREATE it.
/r/seduction21/03/17 08:23 PM
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Isn’t it overthinking to go further than acknowledging the current moment, like saying “going for a swim?” and be genuinely curious about the answer. It’s not about “picking up” a chix, it’s not about asking her to mary you, it’s about acknowledging the moment, that’s it.
/r/seduction21/03/17 08:17 PM
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The problem is that true seduction is inherently manipulative I assume your premise for thinking this is that woman doesn’t like it as much as men do? When you understand that they do want it, they do like it as much as you could (if not, more), you don’t feel like you must manipulate anyone. You just seek for someone who’s need you can fulfill. The only thing that you need to be aware after that is that you can’t fulfil the need of everyone. People have taste, you need to know if you fit the “c…
/r/seduction21/03/17 06:22 PM
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Interestingly, I think it’s the sort of things you do naturally when you are confident, not looking for validation. I tend to think that most of the so called techniques are mostly “emulating” the result of having confidence and having a well balanced life: -Send negative message and don’t be a “yes man” agreeing with her every idea or have an opinion, and be confident enough to share it even if it is different -Don’t answer her text right away or have a life, you work, you go to the gym, you se…
/r/seduction21/03/17 05:13 PM
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Many of the issues guys are facing are most likely related to the fear of “taking a chance”. I know, I used to do it! Waiting for the perfect moment (instead of creating it), wishing for a safety net (instead of taking a leap of faith) and wanting some sort of sign when, in fact, it is never “enough”. Then, you start to realise it’s all about this, it’s all about taking chances, having a risk and facing that risk no matter what. So, you start to create the moment and you don’t wait anymore. You …
/r/seduction20/03/17 08:10 PM
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That, I totally agree with (I also think that the whole alpha/beta is overrated) ! Just pointing out that Woman like that meant “Indecisive woman”!
/r/seduction20/03/17 06:26 PM
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Who put sand in your vagina?
/r/seduction20/03/17 06:10 PM
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Humans (both male and female) are mostly indecisive. They like to follow without being told to follow. Just like the lemmings, or any other herd for that matter! Some people like to lead, some people likes to do go their way but most people are following someone else. There are numerous ways to “lead” people, to be decisive and to make the herd move, like suggestions, like the “fake choice”, like many ways. If you want to know more about the subject, you should look into behavioral science and t…
/r/seduction20/03/17 06:09 PM
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Look at the context... He is answering a question about indecisive woman.
/r/seduction20/03/17 06:04 PM
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There is a lot of things that can be said, let’s say I find it “childish” to ask for permission. There is ways to do it in a better way, like saying something like “I’d kiss you right now”, and being more affirmative, literally asking “can I kiss you?” feels likes it lacks confidence. I assume you would know that anything lacking confidence translate in being less attractive!
/r/seduction20/03/17 05:57 PM
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FUCK IOIs, FUCK signs, FUCK all this nonsense. This is all bullcrap only for the boy-man to use. And, even then, I’m pretty sure a gal would hold a fucking sign and those kind of boy-man would be like “Is it for me? I know it says my name but still, I wana be sure and shit”. This is because you are, as a boy-man, waiting for “permission” to breath, to look, to wipe your @ss... What a boy-man does is wait, leave the control of its life to whatever has more guts than him to make a decision. Man ta…
/r/seduction20/03/17 05:33 PM
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You are in college, for crying out loud, just socialise already... Forget about intent, intent is for later. Intent is for when you are with the girl, one on one, not when you are in a group setting. You have to isolate her first or you’ll make a show for the group. You don’t want to entertain the group, do you?
/r/seduction20/03/17 05:20 PM
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Thing is, if you tell someone you’re out alone cause you felt like going out and did it, most people will find you « courageous » and say something along the line of « Yeah, I wish I had the gut to go out alone, like you ». Shows confidence and balls.
/r/seduction20/03/17 04:05 PM
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Don’t worry; she’ll move her head out of the way if she doesn’t want to kiss you. As long as you don’t keep her from doing so, hold her in a manner she can’t move out or push you, and she doesn’t, I would assume it holds for “consent”. Also, some things in life are worth taking a risk. This is a small risk in my mind!
/r/seduction20/03/17 02:53 PM
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I think part of the problem might be because you focus on proving yourself worthy for them instead of trying to find if they are worthy of you. You don’t know those guys, dating is mostly about getting to know someone, not trying to prove ourselves. Furthermore, if you send the “dependant” vibe, it will be frightening. We are all emancipated adult, responsible for our own demise, our own happiness and if you put the pressure on someone else to provide for your own need, healthy and balanced guys…
/r/seduction17/03/17 07:44 PM
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Trying to be mysterious is kinda gay, so it goes with it!!
/r/seduction17/03/17 07:38 PM
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I don’t know how to put it, so I’ll just say it as this: It feels like you are somewhat giving the vibe that you are needy, dependant, that your life seems empty without someone in it. It is ot healthy to want to move heaven for a guy you’ve spent just 3 dates with, you should be more cautious and learn to get to know someone better before feeling like you must commit to them. Am I wrong to think that you feel like you want to “prove” to the guys you are worthy of their time, and to shower them …
/r/seduction17/03/17 07:23 PM
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I think most of what is perceived as “testing” is more likely to a “broken sarcasm detector” than the other really testing. The only thing that matters is how you perceive it and if you are full of yourself or not. You take it lightly, with a funny vibe and it’s only a joke! You take it personally, too seriously and it’s a shit test…! If she is offended by you taking it lightly, you can safely assume she is not worth your time! Life is too short to waste it with stuck up bitches with large ego!
/r/seduction17/03/17 07:13 PM
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What I understand: You are getting into college, from india, into a “meet and greet” event to help all the students socialise, grow their circle, meet new people and, instead, you want to stick to a girl you don’t even know that might be with her parents? IMHO: You’ll have plenty of occasions to meet with her during your studies. And if it is not with her, it’s gonna be another one. If you do meet her on this event, don’t expect her to be “receptive” to anything seductive! You don’t want a dude …
/r/seduction17/03/17 07:03 PM
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What did change my mindset in all of this is the perception of things. The first point is to understand that no one likes everyone, just like some gals like white wine, some likes beer, some likes mixed drinks. Personally I do like many of those, some I don’t! So if you come up to me with, lets says, porto wine, I’ll say no ‘cause I don’t like it! I have every right to have the taste I have, just as anyone don’t have to like the same things I do. With this in mind, you are just asking a “non ver…
/r/seduction17/03/17 05:40 PM
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You don’t need to hide anything. You should be confident enough to stand up for your choice. You are dating, not engaged, after all! You don’t stop your life because you have a date with one woman, and she doesn’t expect you to do so, unless she is some sort of narcissistic princess. In which case, you’ll have a good way to find out and ditch the bullet. You can safely explain that you are monogamous, once in an exclusive relationship. She knows dating and seeing each other is not an exclusive r…
/r/seduction17/03/17 05:18 PM
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What’s wrong with seeing more than one woman at the time? I don’t expect my dates to be exclusive unless she’s kind of psycho-jealous type. If she is, well, it’s a good thing it has come up early so you can end it up right away! It’s in the dating period, and if you get to know each other are well enough to get exclusive, it will be because you both feel like it, not because one “asked you to”. It’s totally fine to see other people, to have female friend and if a woman doesn’t accept that, she i…
/r/seduction17/03/17 05:14 PM
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The journey from being a child to being a grown man is mostly about taking chances, taking risks, taking “leap of faith”, you have to understand that the best things in life comes to those who are willing to take a risk, to work for it, the things that are worth fighting for! You can live your life in security and comfort, not taking chances (or not many) if you want, just don’t expect it to be that good! Some people will stay “man-child” all their life, waiting for “it” to append. Some will gro…
/r/seduction17/03/17 04:20 PM
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Find a place you like for the place, enjoy the environment and have fun in it. Entertain yourself, go dance, sit at the bar and chat up with the staff. Say “hello” to the doorman, ask how his night is, make contact where you are, find reasons to be there. People goe out to have a beer and socialize. Focus on this, on being in the moment, the space you are in, so when a gal goes right besides you to order a drink, you are in the right mindset and have the right attitude to say something that is r…
/r/seduction17/03/17 03:16 PM
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This is how I see the situation: Let’s say you’d brew beer, you know you’re good at it and you like the things you produce because you know it’s good. One day, you invite a gal to your place and ask her if she want to taste it. Thing is, she doesn’t drink beer, doesn’t like it! She’s more a special fruity mixology type of gal. But, being open minded, she says she’ll try it anyway, see if your brew makes an exception. After 1 or 2 sips, she says she doesn’t like beer, Do you take it personally? D…
/r/seduction17/03/17 02:51 PM
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Flirting is a normal part of life, some people do it more than others. You just have to put your foot down if you think it goes too far for your taste.
/r/seduction17/03/17 02:19 PM
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This guy! This guy gets it!! I could not have stated this better! Kudos to you my friend!
/r/seduction17/03/17 02:17 PM
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Please understand that flirting and chatting is a normal part of life. It a fun game that we play for the fun of it, doesn’t mean that if you flirt with a gal (or that if a gal flirts with you), either of you wants to end up f*cking your brains out. That’s why it’s called “gaming”. It’s supposed to be fun and taken lightly, just like you can play a game of football without trying to win the superbowl. Just like you can play a game of call of duty without wanting to compete in the world league, y…
/r/seduction17/03/17 02:10 PM
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You grow into a man by learning how to take chances. If you don’t, you’ll stay a “Man-child” for your entire life. Taking risk, challenge, taking a leap of faith, that’s all about making you a grown, confident man. Just f*cking do it already!
/r/seduction17/03/17 01:48 PM
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First, I do believe you have every reason to think the way you do. I’d probably do the same being in your shoes!! What you are talking about, as far as the evolution aspect is well thought and truth, I totally abide to it. Still, I don’t understand how you can conclude to a rise in the number of braindamaged SJW’s or Feminists. I am tempted to think that we are alike in the age and in the reading aspect, I’ve lived about the same numbers of years on this planet, and I’ve read numerous articles c…
/r/seduction17/03/17 12:55 PM
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I'd be curious to know how many gals you did approach and how you did it to come to this conclusion...
/r/seduction16/03/17 08:18 PM
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A lot of people seem rather afraid to try shit out, take a risk and do something. It seems like those people forget that life is about trying, experimenting, and growing. Ironically, it all revolves around the same issue: not being able to take chances, waiting for the perfect moment, for the security, for the lack of risk. When you are waiting for your “friends” to call you and invite you to a night out, you wait on your friend, you are dependant, when you wait on the weather to be ok to go out…
/r/seduction16/03/17 07:32 PM
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You are not obligated to marry someone because you banged! If she asked, you can answer honestly and not hide from what you really want, those who wants a serious relationship before they have sex will ask for it. IMHO: It’s better to be honest and have nothing than to lie to have sex. But that’s my values.
/r/seduction16/03/17 06:46 PM
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You should propose something for this weekend, something specific with a specific time and date.
/r/seduction16/03/17 12:46 PM
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Before SB? Sorry I don’t quite get that! If you ask for a date, not just to “hang out”, she’ll know it’s for a date, and act / respond accordingly.
/r/seduction16/03/17 12:28 PM
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You add seduction when you can, and it doesn’t mean you have to keep contact with anyone, just being social in the moment, so you’d be able to “play your cards right”. BTW: When you talk to girls only for seduction matters, you mostly turn out like the guys that has “no life” when he is in a relationship. Because you are setting you mind to associate talking with seduction exclusively, you feel like “cheating” just for having a social life.
/r/seduction16/03/17 12:26 PM
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Be confident in yourself, try things out and be mindful (instead of in your head), you’ll be fine!
/r/seduction16/03/17 12:21 PM
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IMHO; you should act social first. This way it doesn’t matter if they are dating. You can ask latter if they are, but you shouldn’t refrain yourself from talking to anyone because it might not lead to sex. It is totally normal to socialise, it’s totally normal to flirt even when you are in a relationship, as long as you don’t go over cross the line you’ve established (some are ok with open couples). If, at some point, you wana ask if they are dating, ask the guy. You can go in a way like you’d s…
/r/seduction15/03/17 08:11 PM
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We, as human, are made to achieve goals. Once we achieve them we must get new goals. There are different types of gaols, the main idea is to push further once you’ve reach one. For example, let’s say you start running. So, first goal is to do a mile without stopping. Simple goal, you reach it within not much time! Next, what do you do? You don’t just sit on your ass and do nothing, do you? No, you set to run it faster or run further, like a 5k. The initial goal is reached, yes, doesn’t mean you …
/r/seduction15/03/17 07:28 PM
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That’s one good advice! Most people are too concentrated to “what they are gonna say next” to realise the multitude of subject the person is giving you when they are answering a question. Just listen, be genuinely curious about the other, their path, the reason they are where / what they are and you’ll have more subject to talk about than you can spare!
/r/seduction15/03/17 07:13 PM
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Sorry mate but that’s one bad advice! You DO initiate, you DO set the right mood, you DO set a date directly. Furthermore, you don’t ask if she is interested. Well, not verbally! You take a chance and you ask non-verbal questions; get into her bubble, sit by her side, get close and listen for her non-verbal answers, does she stay close, does she moves out, further, etc.
/r/seduction15/03/17 07:04 PM
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Get out, join clubs, join classes, go to social events. You are going for school, most of the time, they attend event to help people socialise. Attend those events and talk to the people around, be curious about their stories, their path.
/r/seduction15/03/17 07:01 PM
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That’s what escalation is all about. You ask non-verbal question and listen to non-verbal answers. When she is willing, you push a little further. For example, when you kiss, you push a little further, hug her real close so that she can “feel” you (if you catch my drift), you go from “innocent” touching (like the hips) to more and more “personal” (like the ass cheek), without skipping steps. Sometimes you step back, put your hands back on her hips. Then you go back on the cheeks, and “adventure”…
/r/seduction15/03/17 06:56 PM
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Why don’t you let her decide if she finds you attractive or not? Couple of things to consider: *We don’t have the same taste. * Some dudes likes ass, some like tities. Even those who likes asses more than tities could like either the “in shape sporty type” like you posted (my case, actually) and some likes the “Kim Kardashian large ass type”. Some does’ t see anything past the big pair of boobs, so they don’t care if she has a larger body. It’s the same for gals! Some likes dudes in shape, some …
/r/seduction15/03/17 05:14 PM
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Try this: "Yeah, thanks but no thanks! I got plenty of friends alreay! Have fun!"
/r/seduction15/03/17 03:10 PM
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Ask the other already, chose the best option out of the two. Don't wait after one, that's oneitis... It doesn't matter if you invite 3-4 girls for the same night, as long as you don't wait on the day of the date to tell them you can't (that's just being rude!).
/r/seduction15/03/17 03:09 PM
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If you are a perfectionist, you should look to change that, it will give you no good! Most likely the cause for self depreciation and for being constantly deceived and most likely many other causes. I think it’s part of the root of the problem (from what I can read). What helped me a lot is understand the nuance between aiming for perfection (which you never really get) and aiming for excellence (which you are basically getting most of the time, as far as you are giving the best of you). There’s…
/r/seduction15/03/17 02:10 PM
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Thing is, the lack of sexual experience is most likely the result of something else, not the cause. If you find and fix the cause, it will result in a balanced and healthy life, including sexual experience. This is what I took from the book, lead a good, healthy, balanced and fulfilling life, people will revolve around you (including woman) and you will have more possibilities. Improvement is a constant change mindset. It’s about doing the best you can, bettering yourself in every way you can. F…
/r/seduction15/03/17 12:52 PM
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Personally I don’t like restaurant dates, going for a walk, sightseeing, going for a drink are better alternatives IMHO, and diner date is more of a 3-4th date thing. You have to understand that she must feel safe / secure enough to meet you at your place from the start. You could propose with the option to meet at a more “public” spot if she wants. Doesn’t mean she won’t, just that she might (and don’t take it personally if she’d rather stick to a more public spot to meet up)
/r/seduction14/03/17 06:58 PM
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Option 4: Do something closer to your place.
/r/seduction14/03/17 06:43 PM
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Yes, it does depend on the activity, and most of your activities has to relate to what you want and like. But, you still have to adapt some things to get you better “demographics”. I think the key here is keeping things balanced between what you want and extend your reach to include some activities prone to meeting more people.
/r/seduction14/03/17 06:38 PM
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Don’t worry, I don’t take it personally! ;) Here’s a list of those I found interesting. Some are more a “study” of persuasion than a “how-to”, nonetheless, it is very interesting! Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion Contagious by Jonah Berger How To Win Friends And Influence People There are a couple of good ones by Tony Robins on the subject, most of them are available in audio book, so you can listen to them while you are driving, or while training, or whenever you want!
/r/seduction14/03/17 06:08 PM
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I’m in my late 30’s, I’m more in shape than many guys in their 20’s, so that whole “less muscle” thing is probably an excuse to not hit the gym or be active... You can continue on blaming the age if you want, it will still be just this, an excuse! Irony is, the level of testosterone is directly linked to your health, to the level of sleep and to your eating habits. Low testosterone level means less sex drive, lower confidence, higher level of cortisol (the stress hormone) , etc, etc. If you want…
/r/seduction14/03/17 05:39 PM
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I’m more of “Mark Manson” / self-help/ inner growth school of thought than any “PUA” related mindset! So, no, I’m far far away from being a RSD fanboy!! Most sales and persuasion techniques are about understanding the view of the potential “buyer” and acting accordingly instead of trying to “force feed” something that might not be for the potential buyer. This way, you get less “resistance” because you are basically “agreeing” with the person and, since it’s from her mindset, she won’t be prone …
/r/seduction14/03/17 05:21 PM
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What do you mean by "overt touching" and why is it a no? You can get close, into her bubble; you can touch in a non-threatening manner, lower back, shoulders, and legs touching. You can put your arm around her, things like that.
/r/seduction14/03/17 04:21 PM
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What's keeping you from experimenting with her?
/r/seduction14/03/17 04:16 PM
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PUA got me to self-help which got me to psychology and neuro-science. Understanding how we work as human gave me a lot of help, helped me understand my “low self esteem” was due to a lot of things, like my perfectionism and the fact that I let myself be gas-lighted by numerous exes. I also started understanding that we, as human, are a social species. That got me to talking to people around me, discovering that the “introverted” persona was only a mask and that I like it a lot to be social, out …
/r/seduction14/03/17 04:01 PM
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I think there is a different mindset in all of this. You could continue on playing the “numbers games” and approach anyone you want and push in that direction Or You could focus on leading a well balanced, fulfilling life. Having passions, goals, taking classes, joining clubs, being social and focusing on overall success. When you do this, people will revolve around you, girls included. Focus on giving the best and bettering yourself. Focus on finding passions, setting up goals and achieving the…
/r/seduction14/03/17 03:41 PM
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Height doesn’t matter that much, unless you focus on it. Focus on being in shape, and on being the best you can be.
/r/seduction14/03/17 03:05 PM
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Looks like you are focusing a lot on “shit test”. A good idea would be to change your mindset regarding this. Most of the time, it’s only teasing, playing, not taking all of this too seriously. It’s called “gaming” because it’s meant to be fun, light, playful. If someone is literally trying to diss you, she doesn’t deserve your time. If, on the other hand, she is playfully teasing you, you have to take it lightly and have a little fun. A lot of the “old” PUA mindset seems to forget that we (male…
/r/seduction14/03/17 02:48 PM
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Funny thing, the best salesmen are the one that will make you believe it all came from “you”, the buyer. Different mindset I guess!
/r/seduction14/03/17 12:53 PM
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What I’m reading (and I might be wrong) is : I think I hooked her up, and I’m afraid that if I don’t entertain her well enough, I’ll lose her and she’ll be with someone else (Or, you can translate this with “being needy”). Unless you are already in a relationship with her, keeping conversation over snapchat, txt or whatever will do nothing more than to put you in the spot of the “Friend/entertainment” spot. I don’t know when she is coming back, I think the only good thing you could do is tell he…
/r/seduction13/03/17 08:18 PM
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I’d say it depends on the “scene” you are, the “demographics”. If, you’re at some sort of Latino joint, black and Hispanics will be the preferred type, If your are at a high end club, it’s gonna be the “more successful looking” ones, If you are at a running club, you’ll see ladies revolving around the one more shape, the better ones. So, I’d say the ones that adapts the best to the environment.
/r/seduction13/03/17 08:09 PM
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My pleasure! You can try “HeadSpace” if you want to have some sort of support to get you going!
/r/seduction13/03/17 07:59 PM
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Live the moment, focus on what you are experiencing, what you are making her experience, the breath, the skin, the heat of the moment. When you feel yourself drifting, just get back in the moment, focus on your breathing for example, or on the feeling of your skin touching hers, on the visual stimuli, on anything that brings you back to the “here and now”. (It’s called mindfulness, if you want to seek more information)
/r/seduction13/03/17 07:58 PM
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Have fun, play with her, if you see her later continue the fun, if you don’t no biggies! You don’t have to put your dck into every woman that takes your hand, you *can** flirt just for the fun of it. You can tease for the fun of it. She might’ve only wanted to dance a little with you, being mindful and seize the moment and that’s it. You could just go with the flow and be independent, fun and playful.
/r/seduction09/03/17 09:21 PM
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With all due respect, it’s kind of normal to grow from a kid to being more “adult” in those years... Still, keep up the good work! Never forget that life is about constant improvement, not about reaching a stage. Find ways to better yourself and give the best of you.
/r/seduction09/03/17 09:16 PM
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It’s painful and awkward if you make it painful and awkward. YOU get closer and YOU go in for a kiss, kids and boy-child wait for the perfect moment and perfect setup. A real man take chances, a real man setup the right mood. Don’t be a boy-child! BTW: Hugs and kisses are always a good mood. There is most likely always a “delay” when you leave when she is waiting for a kiss. Use this. BTW2 : You don’t need to wait until the end, until you part ways.
/r/seduction09/03/17 09:08 PM
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It’s painful and awkward if you make it painful and awkward. YOU get closer and YOU go in for a kiss, kids and boy-child wait for the perfect moment and perfect setup. A real man take chances, a real man setup the right mood. Don’t be a boy-child!
/r/seduction09/03/17 09:07 PM
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Confident poses are more relaxed, comfortable than “stuck up”, taking larger stance, more space, pushing the sky with your head, breathing from the torso, etc. It is natural and relaxed, not forced and stuck up. Research has found that posture has effect on testosterone and cortisol level, even when forcing it. You shold always keep a good posture. Look for power poses if you want, there is some good info on the subject.
/r/seduction09/03/17 08:54 PM
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Just live a fun, fulfilling life and girls will gravitate around your life style. Be social, try to better yourself, find activities and have fun. If a girl sparks your interest, flirt with her and see if she flirts back, don’t take it personally if she doesn’t and move on!
/r/seduction09/03/17 06:07 PM
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1-2 times a week is totally healthy (if you don't have any sexual encounters), even more if you stay away from porn. The porn industry is built around addiction and easy stimuli. Now, I’m not saying never watch porn, but be aware that the more you watch it, the more your brain is being used to easy stimuli for the release of brain chemicals, it must be treated the same way as alcohol and recreational drugs. Doesn’t hurt to have a drink or smoke something, but if you need any of this, you do have…
/r/seduction09/03/17 05:02 PM
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What do you mean by “teasing”? Innuendos are good for this, double sense and things like that, you mostly have to be wit enough to catch the moment or the subject and direct it where you’d make a double sense.
/r/seduction09/03/17 04:57 PM
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Abstract questions will get you abstract answers. Ask for something specific; a time, a place, and you’ll get a concrete answer. Your method is also pretty weird! Schedule for the week end gets loaded in the week, not hours before. You should ask like the day before or two days max. Something like “Hey, I’m free tomorrow/Friday/saterday, let’s [insert activity here]”
/r/seduction09/03/17 04:48 PM
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Do you create some sort of rapport? Do you think she feel safe with you? Do you enter her “bubble”? Do you touch her?
/r/seduction09/03/17 04:42 PM
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Doesn’t matter if she is into you or not, that’s why you wana find out. IOI fishing is for approval seeking, for trying to find the answer before taking a leap of faith and waiting for the perfect moment, and all of them are excuse you tell yourself NOT to talk to someone. Instead of fishing for approval, you can think of it as “question asking”. Rather than hoping for a “yes”, you are focusing on whether she is interested or not to talk to you. And the answer is nothing personal, just like some…
/r/seduction09/03/17 03:19 PM
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“Hey, how are you ?” or something really basic is good enough. You could add something like “you have such a radiant smile! I wanted to know where it came from”! or a compliment on something she was not “born with” and on which she has somewhat of a control.
/r/seduction09/03/17 03:15 PM
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(Copy paste from what I worte above, still relevant) Thing is, your 10% is most likely not the same as my 10%. Some folks likes boobs before all and some like ass. Some dudes likes tight ass, some likes “Kim Kardashian” fat ass, some likes blond, some wouldn’t stand them. There is no perfection and no informality in this. You either want to bang her, or you don’t.
/r/seduction08/03/17 08:48 PM
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Thing is, your 10% is most likely not the same as my 10%. Some folks likes boobs before all and some like ass. Some dudes likes tight ass, some likes “Kim Kardashian” fat ass, some likes blond, some wouldn’t stand them. There is no perfection and no informality in this. You either want to bang her, or you don’t.
/r/seduction08/03/17 08:48 PM
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That’s “needing validation” for you!!
/r/seduction08/03/17 08:44 PM
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Well, it’s kind of reading non-verbal signals, it can never be totally accurate and it depends on the context. You can “use” it in a way that you want to send the “message” to the other person and will most likely be perceived on the sub-conscious level, like any non-verbal message, like any technique related close or far to NLP or like many social queues you could send. It is an IOI in the sense that it means she is somewhat interested to what you are “doing” with your mouth. But, again, in dep…
/r/seduction08/03/17 07:25 PM
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When the eyes goes trough the triangle, it usually is a sign of attraction.
/r/seduction08/03/17 06:33 PM
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" Legend has it that Colonel Sanders heard 1009 "no"s before he heard his first "yes" " It doesn't matter how many no's you get, the only thing that matters is the "Yes'"
/r/seduction08/03/17 04:48 PM
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The "triangle" usually is, depending on the situation. -One eye -the other eye -The lips -Rince and repeat
/r/seduction08/03/17 03:38 PM
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Dude, it’s not a videogame, you are not “maxing” out things, you can always get better at something! Being attractive is not only about physical beauty. Look around you and see how many “not so attractive” dudes have stunning partners. Attraction is manly about having the different type of intelligence; mainly “social intelligence/awareness” will give more results than appearance or “traditional” intelligence (QI). I’ve posted a link about attraction, seek in my history and read it.
/r/seduction08/03/17 03:32 PM
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Invest your time in someone who has, at least, as much interest in it as you. It’s either “fuck yes” or not at all. You should text her and end it up also... No point waiting on her, and no point on making her “wonder” on her side.
/r/seduction07/03/17 09:23 PM
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I think you might be submerged in feminazy propaganda. You confuse and overthink the touching part. Groping is when you start grabbing her in private parts when you didn’t have “clearance”, without proper escalation. You don’t go from shaking hands to grabbing pussy, that’s just common knowledge and common social norms. You built your way to there. You can touch someone in the forearm, you can touch someone’s shoulder to talk to her, if she goes all berserk because of that, she is crazy. If she …
/r/seduction07/03/17 05:05 PM
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There’s a number of things you could do, it depends where you are in life, but before you can go into a real relationship, I think your goal should be to know if you are right for each other’s or if you are “adapting” to be with her (or she is, to be with you). If you have goals in your everyday’s life, try to integrate her. If you don’t, you should start there! You could go the “traditional route”, like living together, building your “nest”, founding family but I don’t recommend it unless you k…
/r/seduction07/03/17 04:54 PM
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It is not because you are asking for permission non-verbally, kinda like when you cross the street, you can either wait for the light or you can look both sides and get going. And, this is the most important part, you are listening for the answer and not forcing in any way. By doing it gradually, listening for the “answer” and not forcing your way, it will not be “rapey” in any way. There is nothing wrong by touching someone, it is not rapey, nor considered an assault in any way, again, as long …
/r/seduction07/03/17 01:46 PM
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Nope, french canadian, eh!
/r/seduction07/03/17 01:40 PM
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Yeah, dorm dudes with bad lightnings and bad mic posting shitload of "advices"!!
/r/seduction06/03/17 09:05 PM
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Life is meant to expand, push boundaries, and go further. Our brain is made so that it reward yourself for setting up goals, working towards them and accomplishing them. What you need to do is setup further goals. I’m gonna take running as an example for this: First you setup your goals to run a mile without stopping. Every times you train toward your goals, you are happier, you get rewards in the form of brain chemicals and, when you achieve your goals, you get another dose of chemicals. Thing …
/r/seduction06/03/17 08:52 PM
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Why so serious?!
/r/seduction06/03/17 07:33 PM
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Did she propose to cook dinner or you opposed to her? Cooking is a great way for compliance, making her your “sous-chef”, showing her things, getting real close and personal did it many times and it’s a gold mine! But, since you don’t cook, it’s kind of pointless! If she did propose it, play along, be the “sous chef”, show that you are eagered to learn and that she could show you! You can reverse the settings after by making drinks and letting her help you, asking her to get the glasses, the ice…
/r/seduction06/03/17 07:03 PM
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"Oh, by cat I meant "your pussy" and by feed, I meant "fuck you right in it" Jokes appart, you can be straightforward: Let's get out of here and grab a drink at my place!"
/r/seduction06/03/17 06:57 PM
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You should read "No More Mr. Nice Guy", if you are trying to be all lovey-dovey, I'm pretty sure it will answer many of your conscerns.
/r/seduction06/03/17 06:25 PM
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Actually, alcoohol at a good level (0.04 to 0.08) will lessen inhibitions while keeping most of your judgement. The higher the content, the lower the judgment gets. It is a “crotch” method, but it can help loosen up!
/r/seduction06/03/17 04:50 PM
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“Just be yourself” should be “Just try to be your best self” You must accept your limitation, like having brown eyes or being some height. You *must push your limits * where you can, constant evolution, constantly bettering yourself in any way you can. You’re not gonna grow an inch no matter what you do, but eating fast food and playing MMORPG all week end is just being a sloth. BTW: Intro-extroversion is a spectrum. You might like some things by yourself while having social needs.
/r/seduction06/03/17 04:24 PM
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I used to be a lot like this when I was younger. Numerous gals where evidently into me but being too chicken to try anything, I have “lost many” this way. You can put it any way you want, I know that I was just too much of a wimp to take a risk, looking for “evidence” and what not before taking a chance. With time, I realised a couple of things: -Man take chances, boy and child-boy wait for the perfect moment, the permission...! I grew some balls, taken chances, and realised the other things: -W…
/r/seduction06/03/17 04:15 PM
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I meant for “their” answers, not yours! But you do get the point, the idea of not texting back “always” ritght away (because you sometimes can, just not *all the time) is to send this exact message; “I have a life, a career, social activities, gym, I can’t be always answering you right away because life IS going on around me!”. You should understand that a girl that answers right away should send the same signal: signs of Borderline Personality Disorder.
/r/seduction06/03/17 02:09 PM
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That is absurd... you can’t attract all woman, anyone who tells you that is either trying to sell you a magic pill or some snake oil bullshit. Not all people likes all the things. Just like you might not like something everyone likes. Attraction is based on taste, some gals like certain types, some others, just like man have different tastes in woman. For example, some prefer fit gals and don’t care about boobs size. Some are the opposites, they are attracted by bigger boob size and don’t care t…
/r/seduction03/03/17 08:26 PM
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You can tell her, like a man, that you are not interested. You can use the “sandwich method” to make it go smoother. As long as you are clear, you’ll be mostly fine. Something like “Look [name], you seems like a nice person and all but, You know, for those things, it clicks or it doesn’t, and for me it just doesn’t” we can’t control that, I’m sure you understand that!! I wish you the best still, because I think good things append to good people!”
/r/seduction03/03/17 08:03 PM
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If your self esteem issues are based on confidence: Goal settings, challenge yourself in multiple areas. It will develop your “meta confidence”; you will start to understand that, even if you lack the confidence when you start something, you will gain it over practice and time. If it is based on self-depreciation, read things like “You are not your brain” https://www.amazon.ca/You-Are-Not-Your-Brain/dp/1583334831 Learn to dissociate your “negative self thought” from your true self, things like m…
/r/seduction03/03/17 07:53 PM
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semantics here, but isn’t being frustrated just another way of saying you are angry you are not getting what you think you need? How long are you waiting after the text for an answer? You can be the hottest dude alive, woman don’t look for only looks, they look for more, and, at first, they look for lack of potential risk. This is why neediness sis a turn off for (most) woman, if you are needy, you look like you don’t have a social life, professional life or anything for that matter. You look li…
/r/seduction03/03/17 06:59 PM
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Focus on what SHE is looking for, why SHE does, on HER, not you. People wana talk about themselves more than anything, just get them going!
/r/seduction03/03/17 05:10 PM
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Do you have examples of those conversations? Kinda hard to see the issue when we don’t see the issue!
/r/seduction03/03/17 04:27 PM
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That's what the feminazy would like for you to think, they are agresivly emasculating man in every way they can for the sake of their "cause". I know the feeling, I was in the same mindset for a long time (and, TBH, it was an easy way to chicken out of situations). Real life is far from this, far far far from this! Woman are sexual, and they will show it as long as they feel "secure/safe" with you. When they do, you can bet you're ass that she'll fuck your brain out!!
/r/seduction02/03/17 10:39 PM
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We, as human, use a “mapping” of the world and filters the reality trough it. Once you’ve “mapped” someone, it is rather hard to change this perception. It’s not “undoable”, but it’s harder. Depending on the situation it could be easy (she knows, for example, that you just got out of a relationship) or surprising for her (if she thinks you have no interest in her, then suddenly show her interest) in a good manner. So, yeah, it does matter, but don’t let this be your excuse not to!
/r/seduction02/03/17 08:26 PM
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How old are you? You wana make her a paper with a “Do you like me? Yes/no” and pass along the class behinds the teacher’s back? Grow up a little and grow yourself a pair of balls! A man doesn’t ask a woman directly how she feels about him, he does so in a non-verbal manner. That’s what this “kino escalation” is. Get close, into her bubble, see how she reacts (This is her non-verbal answer BTW), she stays in, that’s a “yes”’ she moves out, that’s a “no”. Escalate and go further every steps in a t…
/r/seduction02/03/17 08:21 PM
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“Yeah, cause if you do, I’ll spank you!! ;) “
/r/seduction02/03/17 06:36 PM
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having a life besides dating isn’t flaking, it’s just having a life besides dating.
/r/seduction02/03/17 06:35 PM
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I’m not saying you were evasive, I’m saying it looks evasive, big distinction here! She was waiting for you to say / do something, you didn’t get the non-verbal queue, she used a verbal one. You need to take a chance, a leap of faith, the “silence” in these types of situation are a good occasion to move in, change location, say something, it’s kind of a blank card that you can fill in the way you want. She is basically letting you lead the interaction because, a) if she’d wanted to lead the inte…
/r/seduction02/03/17 06:31 PM
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Get yourself a Milf, she won’t care about the experience, she’ll devour the fresh meat like a pro and you’ll learn from it! Kidding aside, the main problem with “late virgin”, IMHO, is that they don’t take chances, they don’t go in for the kiss until “the perfect moment”, they don’t touch the girl until she “gets close”, they think the pussy is gonna wrap itself around his dick magically. Let me be clear: IT DOESN’T You don’t wait for a girl to get close to touch her, you move your ass over by h…
/r/seduction02/03/17 06:17 PM
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Usually, the person talking is less prone to always look into the eyes of the other and the one listening is more prone to looking at the eyes of the talker. You should adapt to the type of “stare” the other person is using. If the person is somewhat shy, staring constantly at her will feel uncomfortable and aggressive. If she is confident enough to hold your eye contact, always looking anywhere but her eyes will look like lack of confidence or evasive. So, you match and mirror the other person,…
/r/seduction02/03/17 04:34 PM
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That's a good one!! ;)
/r/seduction02/03/17 04:14 PM
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Compliment should be taken as they are: A compliment! When you tell a friend he is good at something, do you expect him to return you another compliment, to “lessen his skill” or simply be thankful? If you want, you can play with it in a fun way, like “Yeah, I got good genes, we would make beautiful baby together!”, you can be thankful “Thanks, that’s sweet for you to say!” or play the cocky game, like stated in other posts. Be aware that the cocky doesn’t stick with all, some will see you as na…
/r/seduction02/03/17 02:25 PM
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What you refer as “Intelligence” (QI) is only a part of the sum, and while you need basic QI to be able to “manage”, it is not the most wanted type of intelligence in most of life’s aspect. Emotional intelligence (EI) and Social intelligence (SI) will serve you more and have a better value in every day’s life. Some social circles does value more QI than others, notably the philosophy clubs, astronomy clubs, sciences clubs but there are rarely many gals in those spots! I think a big part of the n…
/r/seduction02/03/17 01:58 PM
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We've all been hurt, we've all have experiences , some harder than others, I am aware of that, and unless you have a disorder, like autism (which might not be diagnosed, so I would advise to see a therapist to be sure), there is not much difference between you and the guy besides you in class, for example. If you are depressed, you should also seek a therapist and get this sorted out. As I stated earlier, depression shows, and subconsciously others are seeing signs of depression and this could b…
/r/seduction02/03/17 12:49 AM
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You tried all of this? I've sent you about 4-5 ways to be social and you only states something so blend, so lame that you have a "victim/loser mindset".. You're planting seeds and hoping for a three to grow and be able to pickup the fruits within an hour... If you want people to "invite you", ask them about their life outside of college, be interested in what they are, in the path they chose, don't expect people to get BFF with you because you've said "hi" at the start of a class... Stop being a…
/r/seduction01/03/17 11:44 PM
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Join a club, go to extracurricular events, there's always some sort of party going on, from the start of the sessions to the clubs and pubs that offers special nights for college students. Hit the gym, join a cycling club, a running club, do improv, right in the journal, open yourself up... I don't know what your major is, there is mostly a couples of known face in your classes, just ask for an eraser or a pencil, talk about the assignment, be social. Leading a well balanced, fulfilling life (li…
/r/seduction01/03/17 10:33 PM
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Goal settings is about expanding your limits, like growing just outside of your comfort zone. You don't aim for a marathon when you didn't run a mile. You start by a miles, then 5k, then 10k, then half, then the full blown marathon. This way you have the reward of reaching a new goal. You also can't be expect to lay the first chix you talk to! Just be realistic on your approach! You -might-lay the first chix you talk to, and you should be ready to adapt to any situation and go with the flow, but…
/r/seduction01/03/17 10:25 PM
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"Feeling depressed" shows in your posture, in your breathing, in the way you look around, in many more aspect than just in your head. If you don't have any friend, you need to start having a social life, you need to get out, get social and live a little. Join a class, join a club, do things.
/r/seduction01/03/17 08:12 PM
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Just focus on living a well, healthy, balanced and fulfilling life. People will start revolving around you when you do.
/r/seduction01/03/17 08:09 PM
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Start a band, go to shows, go in libraires, those kind of things.
/r/seduction01/03/17 08:02 PM
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If you're a teen, there is a boost of testosterone wiht your growth. This boost will lessen over time. To enable higher testosterone, you can do sports, eat and sleep well and the rest will even things out. A sedentary life still will eventually result in lower testosterone level after the teen boost.
/r/seduction01/03/17 07:57 PM
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The only thing that change your perspective is the goal you had. You were not happy nor enjoying the run because you focused on the "I want a girlfriend to bang" aspect. But if you'd focus on the road, on the constant evolution, on the constant growth, you'd taken a hole other trip. Kinda like having a trip from point A to point B and forgetting to enjoy the view while you go.
/r/seduction01/03/17 07:54 PM
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No sports will lower your testosterone level. Get active, the rest will balance itself out.
/r/seduction01/03/17 07:25 PM
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many guys seems to make all that kino bigger than it is. It is normal to human to touch each others. You should experiment with this and learn to be at ease with basic human touching. I'm not talking about grabbing her by the pussy, but there is nothing wrong with touching the forearm of someone you want to "fetch you a napkin", to put a hand on a shoulder to pass politely in a crowded place, to shake a hand, high five, touch an elbow, those sort of things are not intrusive, they are just normal…
/r/seduction01/03/17 07:00 PM
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Well, for one, why don’t you grow some balls and take responsibilities. Blaming others for not helping you enough? What is that? A joke? A troll? Then you continue, comparing yourself to those who succeed and trying to bring em down! Maybe they are not attractive but still, they get laid (and you don’t!). Maybe you should try to focus on what work and do that instead! Losers will always blame the others, winner will always ACT on what they can. Be a loser all you want, it won’t make you a winner…
/r/seduction28/02/17 08:58 PM
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Well, you DID meet her in an occasion or a place? Use this. “Hey, aren’t you the gal I’ve met once at [spot]? How are you?” Don't over think it!!
/r/seduction28/02/17 08:41 PM
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No, you need to be AWARE of the moment, and act about what is currently appending. Learn to use what is currently going on and improvise on this. Nothing stink more than a pre-cooked opener that lacks momentum. About the opener, don’t put so much importance on it. It doesn’t matter that much! What is important is to look for the non-verbal signs. You can bump to someone and just excuse yourself when going to order a drink, tell something about the music, talk about the weather, it doesn’t matter…
/r/seduction28/02/17 08:40 PM
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You already have a conversation? “Hey, aren’t you [name]? I remember you from [thing you had 2 years ago], what’s up with you? One question thought, what didn’t work 2 years ago on your date?
/r/seduction28/02/17 08:00 PM
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Anything that gets your (and her) heart pumping more is good, could be something like taking a walk, a hike, site seeing, things like that is a good way to start. Multiple advantages: You have the occasion to exchanges, multiples occasions to touch, get into her bubble and, one important fact is that physical stimuli is linked to emotional arousal. Your body doesn’t understand why your blood is pumping and gets your emotional state in the same mindset, IE: physical arousal is linked to emotional…
/r/seduction28/02/17 07:58 PM
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Not seeing their worth doesn't mean they are not worthy. Feels like the kind of things some coach potato would say when he sees someone healthy, in good shape in a club..."Lucky bastard, he gots the genetics.." when he doesn't realize the training the healthy person does, week long, days in-days out and the balanced diet... You can see others as competitions, or you can try to see them as "companions", as a source to better yourself, as a way to learn their ways, where they are better than you. …
/r/seduction24/02/17 08:54 PM
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Grow a pair, go to her, say somehting like "Hey, we are in <class name> together, how are you?" and see if she is willing to know you. That's it, that's all! What's the worst that could happen? She's gonna get a riffle and start gunning you down? She's a witch and she'll turn you into an hamster? None of that!! Worst case, she won't wana talk to you and she'll tell you either verbally or non-verbally. No one's gonna club you suddenly bro!
/r/seduction24/02/17 08:46 PM
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First off, why don't you let HER decide whether you're out of her league or not. I assume she knows it more than you do... The fact she is so much on instagram and like the attention this much is probably a big "narcissist bitch" flag, Fuck her if you want, but don't expect a relationship to be "two way" in any manner. If she finds you have something you can give her, she will suck the life out of it and leave you dry once you've given everything. That being said, she gets threaded by needy man …
/r/seduction24/02/17 08:31 PM
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have fun, don't take all of this too seriously, life is meant to experiment, have fun, and exchange. There's a tendency to try to be the "center event" in those things, and some people are good at it, but we rarely connect much with the "storyteller", he has his audience, we are part of it, he entertain us and that's fun! Most people connect trough rapport, and with the ones that can listen to us, have an interest in "who we are", the one we can share with and we have a feeling he is sharing as …
/r/seduction24/02/17 04:09 PM
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Do you think she isin the search for the "Magic pill"? Remember that persuasion is not about making understand the others "as you see it", but rather understanding how the others sees it and adapting to their views. I assume you do this because you want the best for your friend, so one way to start would be to try to understand what made her who she is, and what her vision is. This type of sub is aimed at men's understanding. There is a bunch of "pragmatic search for a solution" in many topics b…
/r/seduction24/02/17 03:51 PM
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I didn't mention them in the bio, just when the subject came, just didn't hide the fact that I did have children, like I didn't hide the fact I was divorced (well, separated, I still need to fill those things out!). Most guys our age anyway have had relationships that lasted a while and some sort of experience! For the bio, what works best is being fun, witty, stay away from the "lists", from what is negative, just find a way to describe yourself in a fun way. Add a "call to action" so that they…
/r/seduction23/02/17 07:46 PM
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I did use tinder a lot. Well, all he apps the that matters! Fun thing is, when I had my kids, I was testing things out on the apps, changing bio, pictures, things like that! It can be a nice tool if used well, like any other "online marketing tool" Thanks for the book, I'll listen to it! I've also listen to a number of Tony Robins' things, I like a lot of his work! It got me to the science of marketing, persuasions, NLP and those kind of things. Really an interesting subject!
/r/seduction23/02/17 06:41 PM
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Then it's a "no"! Don't bother, you asked a question in which she answered by her own need and values, don't take it personally and move on! There's plenty of fish in the sea my friend!! PS: Don't forget that we "distort" whatever we conceive as reality by our filter, our view of the world. The "maybe/lol/left" may be something different. For example, I have mistaken many times shows of "shyness" for indications of disinterest. You can always ask her out with a concrete offer. Worst case scenari…
/r/seduction23/02/17 06:18 PM
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I was in a similar situation about 2 years ago, the end of a 8 years LTR, late 30's, 2 kids part time every other week (don't know if it is your case!). All friends in a relationship or working weird shifts so I didn't have the 'ol crew like before! If I could give you the big lines of what I did or learned: -First, falled in another "serious relationship" right away... I wouldn't say I'd wish I didn't do it and, since it helped me "wake up", I don't think it's a mistake overall. The thing laste…
/r/seduction23/02/17 06:14 PM
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Maybe is not "no", it's maybe!! Offer something specific and you'll get a specific answer. "Chill sometimes" doesn't mean anything. You want to polarise her, see if she is interested to know you more and have a definite answer. It may be Yes or No, if it is No, you'll don't have to wonder and can move on to someone else. Ask something specific, invite her to a time and date, to a specific activity.
/r/seduction23/02/17 04:41 PM
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You are saying you asked her to chill in a sexual manners and she declined or that you should've asked in a more sexual manner?
/r/seduction23/02/17 04:33 PM
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Could be a number of things honestly and it’s hard to see the reason why just with parts of the history! One thing I know tough, no matter what her “friends” says, let HER decide by herself what SHE wants. Some friends are projecting what they would want without realising it’s not what SHE would want. As for the rest, some times we (as human) grow out of things, some times we see “Pattern” which we don’t want to repeat, some times we met someone who better fits our needs, and we want out of the …
/r/seduction22/02/17 07:52 PM
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It’s totally normal and acceptable to flirt with a woman. As long as you don’t push yourself and you’ve retreat once you knew she was in a relationship, you have nothing to be ashamed of. You can “defuse” with something like “I see that you have a good taste in woman my friend, I can’t say I don’t envy you!!” in a fun way, it will mostly flatter his ego.
/r/seduction22/02/17 07:05 PM
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/r/fPua could be interesting for her, but everything (for both men and woman) comes down to a couple of things: Leading a fulfilling, balanced and healthy life. Be social, eat, sleep, train well, have activities, passions, have some gaols, work on achieving them. The major difference is in the “chase / being chase” part. Most girls will like better the type of man that chase them, most guys will like the kind of girls that let them chase them. Only a minority of girls “chase”, so I wouldn’t focu…
/r/seduction22/02/17 06:44 PM
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Statistics and ratio are somewhat comforting, but they are still just numbers. If you flip a coin, you have a ½ chance of either side, right, we all know that! But no matter how many times you flip the coin, you still have a 50-50 chance the time you flip it. This is out of your control and you must accept it. What you control is flipping the coin. You get 0% chance if you don’t flip the damn coin. Inner game is this, flipping the coin. That, you have 100% control over it, some of it is subconsc…
/r/seduction22/02/17 06:33 PM
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With “inner game”, you don’t need techniques, you don’t need ways to open, you don’t need all that pragmatic bullcrap because you do it naturaly. I tend to think that all scripted and technical shit is sucking the fun out of seduction. It’s not about what you say, and it doesn’t really matters; it’s how you say and how you react to the world around you. Basicaly, how you listen to what’s appening. You don’t need a script because you listen and you hav a genuine interest, you ask questions, pay a…
/r/seduction22/02/17 05:18 PM
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I think many of the times a girl turns cold is because the guy as appeared as somewhat dependant to her. When it seems like the guy has the tendancy to change his life to accomodate her, to let go his activities to be with her, to change his life to revolve around her. When she texts, it looks like the guy is waiting for her text and answer too fast, just like if he had nothing else to do. An independant man will have activities, friends, passions, a career, things that will prevent him from beh…
/r/seduction22/02/17 05:03 PM
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When I was younger, about 25, my bro’s neighbour was a total MILF, 40ish, divorced, in shape, she knew her “attributes” and how to show them. They usually know what they want and you just need to play along, she’ll tease you, flirt with you and you only need to “go with the flow”. Don’t over think any of this, let your gut do the talking and that’s pretty much it. If you’re a good run, she’ll hook up with you a couple of times, and she won’t take it personal if you end up “serious” with any gals…
/r/seduction21/02/17 08:49 PM
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The test could help you refer you to the right specialist. I don’t think a family doctor is equipped for diagnosis at the level of the DSM, only a qualified therapist would help pinpoint the issue on this level, he would, however, be able to direct you to the right kind of specialist. Now, please understand that you could fill a questionnaire to go any way you want and have any prescription you want, the real issue is, do you want to get genuinely better or not. There IS some cases where the tre…
/r/seduction21/02/17 07:28 PM
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Do you want to get addicted? Cause that’s how you get addicted. Pills don’t fix the issue, unless you have a disorder (like autism) and even then, it “clouds” the issue. The most likely way to help is with behavioral therapy. Depending on your age, your life situation, your experience, the pills might not be the “easy fix” you are looking for. Some things in life you have to work for, some things in life are WORTH fighting for and will give you massive rewards (google “happy brain chemicals” for…
/r/seduction21/02/17 06:23 PM
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Most people are so much in their head, feeling inadequate that they don’t realise that others might feel inadequate as well. Only narcissistic doesn’t think like this, and that’s about 6% of the population. Reality is, high achieving people out there are high achieving because they have doubt.
/r/seduction21/02/17 06:16 PM
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Well, she’s not gonna scream if you get close and your shoulders/legs touches? Is she? I assume not!! She’s not gonna cut your hand if you touch her forearm does she? Worst thing she will probably do is just move out a little. This is a non-verbal interaction with you an another human being. You ask a question “is it ok if I get into your bubble” non-verbally and listen for the non-verbal answer, “no, it feel fine!” by not moving out or “Yeah, kind of does” if she does move out. The “escalation”…
/r/seduction21/02/17 04:17 PM
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Any cooking / tasting activity is good, but you have to involve her into it, for cooking make her your sous-chef, if you’re making drinks, make her get the glasses, things like that (it’s called compliance), show her how you want things by getting close, touching her and shit. Gaming could be fun, but I prefer the cooking aspect, more interactive and playful. If you are a musician, show her how to play, music is also an easy way to get close to her, all touchy and shit. BTW: When a girl get into…
/r/seduction21/02/17 04:11 PM
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Abstract question gives an abstract answer, ask something concrete if you want something concrete.
/r/seduction21/02/17 03:46 PM
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Try the audiobook then, when training, when comunting, when cooking, there's plenty of time you can listen to an audio book!
/r/seduction21/02/17 01:21 PM
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Worst case scenario, you touch her and she backs up, right? She’s not gonna cut your hand if you touch her forearm, if you enter her “bubble”, if you touch her lowerback when leaving/entering, if you take her hand, so just do it, try it and test it. Touching is a non-verbal question, you ask “is it ok if I touch you there”, and you listen to her non-verbal answer. See it as such it’ll help a lot! BTW: a non-verbal no, is a NO. Back up, retry later or something different.
/r/seduction20/02/17 09:30 PM
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"So, what have you been up to? ;) "
/r/seduction20/02/17 09:25 PM
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Our biggest source of communication is with real life interaction. It includes all the non-verbal conversation you have with people around you. Text is a great tool, it is optimally used to setup logistics, not to converse. You could use it for conversation once you have a real interaction going on.
/r/seduction20/02/17 09:24 PM
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“It’s not working for me so it never works”. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fallacy
/r/seduction20/02/17 09:11 PM
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Don’t need to talk that much, you need to listen actively, have a genuine interest and let them do the talking. Minimum work for maximum benefit! Example: -“So, how’s your day?” +”Well, hard day at work...” From there you have plenty of avenues: Where she works, what does she do, why it was hard, things like that. The key is to 1-Listen, 2-Have a genuine interest. -“Hard day at work, how come?” +”My boss is a PITA, asked me for rapport due for yesterday... again” -“Yeah, we all hate a boss that …
/r/seduction20/02/17 08:45 PM
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An opener is a way to initiate conversation. Don’t put so much emphasis over it. The most is stated in non-verbal: You say “hi”, it means “Hey, I find you interesting, care to chat?”. Does she turns toward you? Does she stops whatever she is doing to respond, that’s the non-verbal answer , she is saying “Hey, you caught my attention and seem interesting, let’s chat”. That’s it. The rest, people DO wana talk, and they wana talk about anything. The weather, the special, the food, how’s their day g…
/r/seduction20/02/17 08:31 PM
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Those type of issues has to be worked from inside, you can show her a door, she still has to go through it, by herself. Even worst, she might not even feel like she need to change. I wouldn’t mind dating a girl that is currently working on her issues (on the road to being better), but dating one that is damaged and don’t seek to better herself, that’s a lot of work, a lot of work I wouldn’t dare start! If you’ve raised the idea of her needing to treat this issue, I think it’s more than most peop…
/r/seduction20/02/17 08:19 PM
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Believe what you want, I have a lot of friend with pretty crappy results with Tinder and all apps likes things. I’m not saying it’s a good spot for the average guy with the average profile. I’m talking by experience. Maybe I was lucky, I thinks Tinder (and all those apps) is the same as “online selling”, if you propose the same “offer” than anyone else you’ll get no results. If you rise above the offer, you’ll get pretty good results. Now, I know I experimented with it a lot, even created a fake…
/r/seduction20/02/17 08:09 PM
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Been a while! I wrote my progressions, how I felt, what I did, where I pushed myself, those kind of things. Thinking back on dates and what I did that worked, and what didn’t quite work as I wanted. Ways to improve not only as pickup, per say, but I grew as a human overall. Ended up being a journal for everything, not just pickup.
/r/seduction20/02/17 07:48 PM
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Even if you are not interested, there is nothing wrong with chatting with people you don’t wana bang you know! You should develop the relaxed to respond to someone. Saying “Hey, how’s your day” to someone doesn’t mean you’re asking her in marriage. Just that you wana chat!
/r/seduction20/02/17 07:41 PM
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You need to change your mindset; it is totally normal to act social in society. There is nothing wrong in being social, in talking to people around you, in chatting with the staff when you are somewhere. People DO want to talk, about their day, about the weather, about mundane events, about anything really! We, as human, have evolved by being social. It is in out nature.
/r/seduction20/02/17 07:38 PM
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Actually, if you can master tinder, you can load your calendar pretty easily!! It’s a tool, and like any tool you can master it.
/r/seduction20/02/17 07:30 PM
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Humour shows wit, it’s the ability to analyse and listen well enough so that you catch whatever is going on and comment on it. I think if you are high on the “awareness scale”, and that you don’t take things too seriously you will joke naturally. A good trick for most improv guys is to repeat what the other is saying. It helps built momentum, creates some sort of rapport and leaves you for a little bit more time to come up with something. You can go to youtube, look out some improv dudes and see…
/r/seduction20/02/17 07:08 PM
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Spending time and time together growing closer together is the “normal way” IMHO, and when the time is right, you can say that you ARE exclusive to her, and see if she is willing to be with you. Now, the difference between saying you are exclusive to her and asking her if she want to be exclusive is in the sense of needyness. I’ve been asked to be exclusive, and what I head is “I NEED you to be exclusive to me”. The emphasis is on the “NEED”. When you GIVE your exclusivity to someone, the other …
/r/seduction20/02/17 05:24 PM
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Why did it end? You might need closure before being able to move on. You also need to change the scarcity mindset to an abundance one.
/r/seduction20/02/17 05:10 PM
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Confidence rises, standard rises as well. Confidence attracts woman (and men, for that matters) and the wheel continue to go your way. Last relationship I ended raised a couple of questions about me, about why I always ended up with the same type of self centered emotional dependant “princess”. So, I decided to stay single for a while. My state of independences (emotionally and financially) enabled me to do what I want, when I wanted (well, at least when I didn’t have my kids!). Got myself out t…
/r/seduction20/02/17 05:09 PM
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“Fear of missing out” can go both ways. You have the ones that will settle for those who are not worth it, and those who will aim for a perfection that doesn’t exist. You need balance in life.
/r/seduction20/02/17 04:44 PM
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One way to look at it could be to blame the other, tell yourself they are immature and shit, and it might be the case. Another way would be to look inward for any issue you might have. Thing is, woman needs to feel safe before they even can “open up”. If you are not making them feel safe or, even worst, feel somewhat frightened about you, they will dry up, and nothing you can do can make it change. If they ALL feel that way, there must be something in the way you act, you present yourself, you t…
/r/seduction20/02/17 03:48 PM
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You can ask her how she feels, and be « ok », you can also learn to read her and know how she feels, and get to a whole other level. You can train in emotional intelligence, get into Matching and mirroring, and learn how to put yourself in her shoes. Now, it doesn’t mean you should be sad when she is sad, angry when she is angry, but if you can manage to understand WHY, and show her you understand it’ll help a shit load. Woman and men aren’t that far away, but the “male” energy focus on fixing t…
/r/seduction20/02/17 02:30 PM
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Wanted to thank you for the “My psychological mbti type is ENTJ”, it lead me to search the thing and take the test! Always good to know who you are! On your problem, you should understand that it is totally normal to be social, it is also totally normal to flirt when you feel an attraction. You chatted with a gal and found out more about her. I think your error was on the fact that, even thought you found her “not worth it”, instead of moving on, you continued on. Dating and socialising is about…
/r/seduction17/02/17 08:14 PM
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Yeah... Oneitis with a chix that tells you you don’t try hard enough, it’s gonna end with you being her servant...
/r/seduction17/02/17 07:43 PM
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aren't you the dude that used to spam /r/fPUA?
/r/seduction17/02/17 06:51 PM
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That’s mostly what the book “No More Mr Nice Guy” is all about. Furthermore, I think that when you see relationship as “mutual”, it goes to another level, where you feel appreciated and you appreciate, where you feel the need to make the other happy and that she share the same feeling. To enable this type of mindset, you MUST know that you are worth it, you must believe in abundance and you must change the “I wana make her love me” mindset to “I wana know if SHE is worthy” mindset.
/r/seduction17/02/17 06:46 PM
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I don’t think its a numbers games as it is just being social, enjoying interactions with others. It seems similar from the external point of view, but inside it’s the difference between “interactions until it works” and “enjoying interaction while it works”. From what I can see, the interaction starts to change when he switch from “Wana have a date” from the start to more of a “I wana know you” mindset. Anyway, I don’t think its all about the analysis and the technique in the end; it’s about bei…
/r/seduction17/02/17 01:22 PM
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You’re free to believe it if you want, I’m still talking from experience.
/r/seduction16/02/17 09:11 PM
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Don’t put her on a pedestal, have a genuine interest in who she is and see where that leads you. There is NO secret formula, no “one size fits all”, dating is about learning about each others. And don’t go into oneitis mode. Seems you’re heading this way by the look of it!
/r/seduction16/02/17 08:55 PM
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No it’s not, it’s about having fun, not taking all of this too seriously, having a good time.
/r/seduction16/02/17 08:22 PM
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Nope! Being healthy, both mentally and physically will pay shitload more than height.
/r/seduction16/02/17 07:37 PM
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Bad link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/sexy-science/201702/when-you-shouldn-t-play-hard-get
/r/seduction16/02/17 05:20 PM
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Being afraid to be who you are is sort of a needy / nice guy thing IMHO... You like gaming, assume it. You’ll find someone that fit your life, what YOU enjoy. If a gal thinks gaming sucks, you don’t want her in your life. And, sex sells, it’s a common knowledge. Just look at the most viewed videos on youtube, look at shows, look at publicities, at life around you!! Just live a balanced life, where your passions are part of it (but not the whole deal), as well as work, socializing, self time, etc…
/r/seduction16/02/17 05:19 PM
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There is nothing wrong with flirting, even if you are in a relation. You just need to set your boundaries. The narcissistic princess don’t like it when you flirt with any other than them, those are a minority and are probably not worth a tought! That being said, people wants to know they “matter”, and that their existence is somewhat recognized. When you don’t remember someone, it can be hurtful for the other person, they will feel like “thrown out”, it directly affects the need of importance. W…
/r/seduction16/02/17 05:06 PM
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Don’t be so pragmatic, it sucks the fun out of dating. Have fun, be genuinely interested in her and see where it goes. There’s no pre written script, no timeline to follow, listen to verbal and non-verbal message and adapt.
/r/seduction16/02/17 04:52 PM
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Well, it’s still a movie and it certainly not an evidence, still: In fight club, the part in the movie the dudes has some “weekly missions” and they have to start a fight and lose it is probably closer to reality.
/r/seduction16/02/17 04:39 PM
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Well, it does work! You should be able to talk to girls just like any other guys, and ADD seduction in the mix if you are interested. You don’t remove anything! Human is a social animal, we need each other to survive, it is in our instinct.
/r/seduction16/02/17 04:12 PM
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What would be wrong to tell her exactly what you did with me? “Given for headache” is good enough. Girls are still humans; you can talk to them like you would for a friend, or any other guys. You ADD seductions aspect when you are interested in “more than friends”, you don’t have to remove social interaction from the mix!
/r/seduction16/02/17 04:09 PM
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You know what is interesting about this video: The dude is just acting like a normal person, and as soon as he seems to have more interest in the gals before he asks for a date, he gets results. People are “shocked” when you go and face them with a “decision” (wana go on a date?), when they feel more connexion, when they feel the other has a genuine interest in whatever they are doing, they open up. Doesn’t mean he gets a “yes” this way, just that people are polite and worth talking to. No PUA, …
/r/seduction16/02/17 03:47 PM
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Being on the “safe side” means being stale, lifeless, boring, life is meant to take risk, have experiences, have fun. Someone doesn’t like a hug, so what? You didn’t grab her by the pussy, you didn’t flash your dick at her, it’s a f*cking hug, that’s it.
/r/seduction16/02/17 03:35 PM
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It’s somewhat healthy to “define” yourself, like what you DO want in a relationship, your goals in life, those sort of things. But when someone asks you a question, you just answer the truth, even if it means looking “vulnerable”, or being somewhat offensive (as long as you don’t cross the line and act like a jerk!) Thinking of every possible answers is definitely over thinking. It also sucks the fun out of life by being too f*cking pragmatic. Live a little, challenge yourself and go with the fl…
/r/seduction16/02/17 03:30 PM
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Some woman doesn't kiss on the first date, she's like that, that's it! Go to a second date, you might "unlock the level" :P
/r/seduction16/02/17 03:23 PM
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You could try to take some random class, part time, to try things out and get your head around a subject.
/r/seduction16/02/17 01:20 PM
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Why aren't you at school?
/r/seduction15/02/17 09:18 PM
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Hey [name¸, you’re going at [university’s name] right?
/r/seduction15/02/17 08:55 PM
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A date is an occasion to learn about her, and her about you, that’s it. Have a genuine interest and don’t shower her with food/ gift. Things like talking a walk, going for a hike or anything that gets your heart (and hers) pumping are better scenario. A drink in a sport where you can talk is another nice scenario. The only thing that is important is that you have a genuine interest in her, pay attention to what she is saying (verbally and non-verbally) and act accordingly, Don’t wait for your “t…
/r/seduction15/02/17 08:48 PM
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You should socialise with anyone, you add seduction when you think she’s worth it. There’s nothing wrong with a man talking to a woman. There is nothing wrong with flirting with anyone, it’s a fun thing to do no matter if you are in a relationship or not. When you are (or she is), you just have to set boundaries along the line. Your job is to respect those boundaries and be a gentleman.
/r/seduction15/02/17 08:43 PM
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I’d rather have something mutual and fun that any « magic spay/pill » in the world. Something worth fighting for, something worth doing the extra mile, something better than the stale fast food mindset!
/r/seduction15/02/17 08:28 PM
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This!! Seduction is a game of push-pull, of non-verbal questions and listening to non-verbal answers, of adapting yourself to the current person and situation. Let’s say you play football with someone, you’re a Quarterback. Now, every play is different, every position is different, every time a new games is played, you have the choice of multiple receiver, at multiple distance. You have to be aware of what is appending, throw at the right distance/time and constantly adapt yourself to the other …
/r/seduction15/02/17 08:18 PM
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Courtship and chasing is what makes it fun! It’s called a game because it’s meant to be fun, enjoy yourselves doing it. As long as you understand that you both play on the “same team”! ;)
/r/seduction15/02/17 06:14 PM
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You can built rapport over the subconscious, it’s called Match and mirror, an NLP technique to enable you to create rapport with non-verbal communication. I think using the same type of eye contact as the other person is a good start. If she is the type to look elsewhere often, you you also. If she is the type to keep strong eye contact, you do also. You match what the other is doing, in a subtle way. This might help you maintaining eye contact, won’t feel as awkward since you are concentrated o…
/r/seduction15/02/17 06:10 PM
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You are having a conversation, Tinder (and texting) should be used to set basic rapport and set a date. On the second example, you set the pavement to a date (Mini cookoff could be cool), she expects you to lay an invitation, a date with a specific time and date: After she said she would win, you should’ve “cashed it”. (Let’s find out then! Friday night, my place, I’ll give you a challenge!). Instead, you go on and continue asking questions. Furthermore, your questions are somewhat unrelated. Wh…
/r/seduction15/02/17 05:00 PM
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Meditation can enable you to put a space between you and your emotions. Dissociate yourself from “brain message” and those sort of things. It can manage your reaction, calibrate them and act in a better way.
/r/seduction15/02/17 04:45 PM
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I used to have this kind of issue, and it was closely relate to an imposter syndrome, which was closely related to being perfectionist. Is it your case? Feeling like you have nothing interesting to say, that you are not “enough”, that you are boring, things like that can freeze you up and get you going in a spiral of thought.
/r/seduction15/02/17 04:42 PM
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My point is, it's not!
/r/seduction15/02/17 02:04 PM
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Seduction is a game, one you know the basic foundation, you PLAY it, as a game, as a FUN game where you play TOGETHER (as in the same team). And, as a game, there is no “one size fit all” formula. You have to feel the moment and act accordingly. On a dance floor (or anywhere, for that matter), you play, you push, you pull, you tease, you get teased, sometimes you grind, sometimes you look into her eyes with your hand behind her neck, get fucking close and then pull off. Just use basic common sen…
/r/seduction15/02/17 02:02 PM
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Height is a problem if you focus on it. One friend I know is like 5’2, has a stunning blonde taller than him as a wife. The dude has confidence for 5 thought! If you are in good shape and confident, height will never be an issue.
/r/seduction15/02/17 01:27 PM
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It could, if she have issue regarding sexuality. It could if she sees you as a threat. If could if she had issues with sexual predators. It could for a number of reasons. Doesn’t really matters TBH! Let’s reverse the situation, put yourself in the “receiving part”, and imagine if some huge gay dude saying the same things to you. I really don’t know how I could explain this further, its social conventions, basic social knowledge, even your friend thought said it as a joke (and probably didn’t thi…
/r/seduction15/02/17 12:35 AM
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Does she have a life? Is she narcissistic? Is she a princess? Is she healthy? Is she fun? Does she have the “victim” mindset? Those kind of things! You don’t necessarily see all of this over a single night, if it’s for a one time hookup, I might stick with the fun/healthy part and that’s it. If I see her more, I’d look for other things. If it gets serious, I’d look for more, and on, and on!
/r/seduction14/02/17 08:30 PM
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If you are interested, stop waiting for the epiphany, the enlightening, grow a pair and take a chance. (Damn, I’m starting to copy/paste my own replies...!)
/r/seduction14/02/17 08:22 PM
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This! If you are interested, stop waiting for the epiphany, the enlightenomg, grow a pair and take a chance.
/r/seduction14/02/17 08:21 PM
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Yeah, don’t do it. It’ll screw many lives and you should let them fix whatever they need to fix before doing it. I (unfortunately) talk from experience, you can feel like sheeeeet for doing something you shouldn’ t do. Furthermore, at work, you could start a fire you can’t control. Also, some people need another branch before they cut the one they are on (most likely because of a lack of self esteem) and you could end up having more to carry on your shoulders. And don’t forget that, those type o…
/r/seduction14/02/17 08:16 PM
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The best things in life appends to those who take risks, take chances. Don’t wait for the perfect moment, create it and take a leap of faith. BTW: If you ever ask yourself “should I kiss her?”, chances are she is already waiting. If you catch yourself thinking that, take it as a queue to kiss, not as a question!
/r/seduction14/02/17 07:51 PM
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There’s a difference between having confidence and being plain rude. This was the second. It’s all about being socially apt, being able to understand things you could say or not say and pushing the limit somehow. The difference between being sexy and being a pervert, between being outgoing and being a selfish asshole, those kinds of things are what I call “Social intelligence/awareness”. IMHO, in trying to be “selfless” and show you didn’t care, you showed the opposite. Kind of like calling some…
/r/seduction14/02/17 07:42 PM
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Human reflex to look where people look. Just walk around and look up the sky, you’ll see people looking up the sky.
/r/seduction14/02/17 07:33 PM
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I’m referring to the lack of interest in “chase”, in waiting to “bump into someone”, “never been a dominant man” and to “...or a girl being up front with me”. I used to be like this, waiting for a girl to make the first move; to be sure that she wants it, and shit and it got me decent relations, most ended with me being dominated (emotionally) and trying to be the “perfect guy” for a gal that wasn’t worth it. Then, I decided I was done with dominant control freak princesses, so I started to take…
/r/seduction14/02/17 04:30 PM
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Wtf, 1 week? This isn’t the Mc Donald’s and you’re not ordering a big mac you know? I don’t know on what this 1 week time line is based, but most changes in habits takes at least 21 days. Changes in your frame / mindset could take even longer. It’s not about having a deadline, it’s about constant improvement. One good start to know yourself would be to priories your “human needs” (based on the work of Tony Robbins), you could get an idea here: http://www.habitsforwellbeing.com/6-core-human-needs…
/r/seduction14/02/17 04:23 PM
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https://theblog.okcupid.com/race-and-attraction-2009-2014-107dcbb4f060#.dah7f83nj
/r/seduction14/02/17 04:15 PM
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Seduction is, yes, selling yourself, as well as many facets in life! Using selling techniques when buying stuff would help you get a better price, selling yourself when you are at a job interview, when you’re out with friends and thinking of what to do on a Friday night, etc, etc. Btw: Most of selling is all about listening, and understanding the other, not trying to convince or argue!!
/r/seduction14/02/17 03:23 PM
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Be a man and grow a pair. Don’t just wait for “it” to append, try things out, get out of your “comfort zone”, and take risks.
/r/seduction14/02/17 03:20 PM
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Interesting way to put it! Funny thing, issues encountered by “bad salesman” are about the same as “bad seducer”. They focus too much on the close (selling you the “box” they MUST sell you, or whatever “close” in the seduction world). While the good salesman / seducer would focus on connecting, creating rapport, and understanding the need of the potential buyer / lover, putting himself in the shoes of the other.
/r/seduction14/02/17 02:22 PM
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This is normal behavior for someone with emotional intelligence. IE: You are aware of the current state of the person and act accordingly.
/r/seduction13/02/17 09:21 PM
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Furthermore, physical arousal is linked to psychological arousal. You get the heart pumpin’ and the head will be more prone to associate you with the feeling of arousal. So, you’d be better with a date where you take a walk, go hiking, move around than sitting and doing “nothing”. A date is also an occasion to know someone else, so you’d be better in a spot where you can actually talk. A movie date is probably the worst idea... unless it’s an intended “Netflix and chill”.
/r/seduction13/02/17 09:11 PM
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Classic overthinking yes! People are too much focused on their own self most of the time to see what is appending around them! Also, don’t bother about the others. It’s a party, some people hook up at party! It’s meant to have some “interaction” like that. Just escalate a bit, when you feel like you’d need personal space, just tell something along the line “Let’s get out of here!” and get out, take a walk or something.
/r/seduction13/02/17 03:43 PM
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If you act weird, yes. Not if you are confident.
/r/seduction13/02/17 03:40 PM
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You be a man, enter the office, ask her and have your answer. Just say you where in the area and tough to drop by to ask her for a drink. Don’t over think it. Be balzy, be confident, woman likes that!
/r/seduction10/02/17 04:53 PM
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What? Don’t Ask her VERBALY, escalate and ask her NON-VERBALLY. Asking a girl to have sex will get her dry like a desert! Get closer/see how she react, touch her in a non-treatening place/see how she react, Find any excuse to touch her (dressing, jewel, tattoo), escalate like this in a timely manner.
/r/seduction10/02/17 04:51 PM
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Hahah! I DO like nice racks, and nice ass!! Still need more than that to get me going though! A girl talking like a trucker will cause a de-rection, just like a narcissistic princess!
/r/seduction10/02/17 04:48 PM
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Do you ask questions about her or you only talk about yourself?
/r/seduction10/02/17 04:41 PM
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Drop a note? With a yes/no she can circles like a kid? Just ask her out. “Hey, you look fun, wana grab a drink?” That’s it.
/r/seduction10/02/17 04:36 PM
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Most of attraction is build physically. By escalating, by entering her “cocoon”, by touching, by flirting, only minimal stuff like innuendo and double meaning is done with what you say, and still, you have to say in in a certain manner for it to work! I tend to think that going for a direct “you’re cute” rises her values and lowers yours. Men tend to focus on physical attractions and forgets that woman doesn’t work that way. When you go to a woman not only based on attraction but to find out if …
/r/seduction10/02/17 04:13 PM
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Most of attraction is build physically. By escalating, by entering her “cocoon”, by touching, by flirting, only minimal stuff like innuendo and double meaning is done with what you say, and still, you have to say in in a certain manner for it to work!
/r/seduction10/02/17 04:08 PM
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For starters, it’s not about the venue itself, but you and her in the venue. You are both in here; it’s a foundation to build rapport. In both examples it was intended to input her/your taste along the way, and mostly to show that you can exploit a subject more than the basic questions. It also serves the purpose of putting you (and her) in the “here and now” in a mindfulness kinda way. So, instead of going in your head you get your mind in the “here and now”. It also create a Truism, and sets y…
/r/seduction10/02/17 01:56 PM
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Being fit has an impact. Doesn't mean you must "buff up", any sports would do. Running, biking, swiming, an overall good health, not just "pumped up". If you want to build mass, you'd be better with some sort of HIIT (like crossfit, for example).
/r/seduction08/02/17 11:09 PM
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Lead a good life, healthy body and mind. Don’t be needy, be confident, don’t try to be perfect.
/r/seduction08/02/17 09:28 PM
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Yeah, forget what a woman tells you, most of the time, she knows squat!! You have a drive, use it!
/r/seduction08/02/17 09:25 PM
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You suffer from repeated oneitis my friend. Read about how to change your scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset.
/r/seduction08/02/17 09:21 PM
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Exactly, the "you are alone" type of answer is bad for a fist date, the kind of thing a girl would say "you’re a good boy, but...". Dating is about meeting people, getting first date, finding if you are right for each others. Of course she knows she’s not the only one and that if she IS, it’s from a needy “good guy”, which is only able to get control freak narcissist girls that will us you, if you are good enough to up her status.
/r/seduction08/02/17 09:18 PM
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Yes, it does matter! Answer something like "Of course I do, you're not that special quite yet!" with confidence and playfulness would be good. If she is full of herself, narcissist bitch, you’ll have shit-tested her instead and she’ll fucking leave.
/r/seduction08/02/17 09:14 PM
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No, it’s not! Done that a couple of times and it’s a pretty awesome date! You’re at your place, you get her involved in the process (shows your leadership, your teaching skills, girls love that!) and your bedroom is right there! It was usually my second or third date and I live far from the city, about 30 min ride.
/r/seduction08/02/17 08:52 PM
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Wow dude, a lot of the negative are positives! A girl talking about her ex, asking if you lost your virginity at 15 (trying to connect here), long hugs at the end (pretty sure you could’ve kissed her right there), post meet txt, those are all positive and shows of attraction. She tested you also on some point to see if you are a doormat or if you stand your ground. The lack of social media (doormat would run to create a facebook account, and tell her), telling you she is bitchy, those things are…
/r/seduction08/02/17 08:43 PM
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Let yourself go, lower your guard, forget your inhibitions and go with the flow. Live the moment and have fun. Stop over thinking everything! And if you bust too soon, rinse and repeat!! You can go at it more than one time you know!!
/r/seduction08/02/17 08:02 PM
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Well... Oneitis college kid once again! This sub is their refuge!! You know the difference between a boy and a man, the kids always ask questions, is unsure of everything and is afraid to take a chance. A Man takes chances, leaps of faith and risks something to get what he wants; he is excited to take a chance! Ask yourself, what is the worst that could happen? Be a man, grow a pair, just f*cking talk to her, she’s not gonna beat you with a club for saying Hi!
/r/seduction08/02/17 08:00 PM
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Or you could try this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_PZ_LyJfYe8 With Bluetooth, it’s a lot easier nowadays!
/r/seduction08/02/17 07:55 PM
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TL:DR! The same formula remain, you take a risk, take a chance, and you try something. Boys asks questions, man takes chances. Be a man.
/r/seduction08/02/17 07:26 PM
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Funny concept, being anxious feels about the same as being excited. The only thing that truly changes between those two is the word and the meaning.
/r/seduction06/02/17 09:18 PM
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Why would you say that? It reeks neediness IMHO... And you can “study” all you want, but seduction is like swimming, read about it all you want, you have to get into the pool and get wet. You got wet that night, learn whatever you need to learn, then move on. Nothing can be gained with rumination. The good you have to take from this: You’re still alive, you talked to 3 gals that evening, trying some shit, some didn’t work, some did. Change what doesn’t work, rince, repeat.
/r/seduction06/02/17 09:16 PM
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Why so serious? Don’t take it personally; it’s most likely just a joke! And if it isn’t you should take it as a joke! Self-mocking is mostly the best answer to that! Skid into the curve kinda mindset!
/r/seduction06/02/17 04:53 PM
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The problem with “interview questions” is that people asks them like the would fill a questionnaire and don’t listen to the answer... The two concepts you need to understand is “Location/occasion” and “Funneling”. Location/Occasion is all about the place you are at (music, scene, food, drinks, lightnings, decos, anything) and why they are there. Funneling is the direction of the subject. When you LISTEN to someone, you can direct the subject wider or narrower. Like at a live rock show, you can g…
/r/seduction06/02/17 04:25 PM
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I'll drink to that!! ;)
/r/seduction06/02/17 04:10 PM
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A lot of non verbal communication can be “listened to” when you are talking to someone. Her body turning toward you, le foot pointing toward you (instead of toward an “exit point”, moving in closer, making the same “movement” a little bit after, touching, leaning forward, etc. etc. Basically, her body telling she has “interest” in you. You can read about the body communications, there’s plenty of books out there!
/r/seduction06/02/17 04:09 PM
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From what I can understand, you are putting her on a pedestal and you haven’t even met her? That’s a bad case of oneitis you have!
/r/seduction03/02/17 06:56 PM
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I’m talking from experience here, and you can look for a LTR at the first date, but your vision will be narrowed to some aspect of the person and you will most likely miss some important aspect you might pay for later on, for the profit of “going into a relation”. I think that you should have fun in life, and the person by your side should enable you to live a fun and fulfilling life, not rid you of it.
/r/seduction03/02/17 06:53 PM
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It doesn't matter what you think you are, your vision is distorted. No one can view all your default but you, since you’ve been looking at it for as long as you can see! Truth is, people don’t see them! I don’t believe in the 1-10 scale because, in reality, in comes down to one thing, and one thing only: Do you want to bang her or not? Someone’s 10 is someone else’s 6, don’t base your interaction on this! Furthermore, girls don’t look for mostly face symmetry like males does, they look for a num…
/r/seduction02/02/17 09:26 PM
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Rule of thumb, when you ask yourself “is it too soon to [...]”, it’s not.
/r/seduction02/02/17 09:06 PM
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“Realistic” is what pessimist tell themselves to justify being pessimist. No “pessimist” will tell you he is pessimist! Now, change your mindset, forget your value, yourself worth, dating and seduction is not about thinking for the other, leave that job to them. What you want is to see if SHE is interesting TO YOU. Have genuine interest, have the guts to be yourself (not trying to appeal to her) and you’ll be fine! Your job is NOT to appraise yourself, your job is to learn about HER, be curious …
/r/seduction02/02/17 09:04 PM
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Well, 16 is kind of a good age to be immature, for the slutty part tough, the average age of first sexual encounter is 17-18yo in the US, they might not be that slutty after all!
/r/seduction02/02/17 07:41 PM
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Well, think again! https://rewire.news/article/2014/03/25/golden-age-teen-sexual-responsibilty/
/r/seduction02/02/17 07:29 PM
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Dude, life expectancy is like 72, 22 is not old! IMHO, being “old” is more a state of mind. You have dudes in their 20’s that are already “old”, scarcity mindset, living with fear, not able to push further and you have dudes in their 70’s keeping in shape, learning, living with abundance, etc. That being said, you should put up concrete goals and challenge yourself, you’ll feel alive and unstoppable in no time!
/r/seduction02/02/17 06:40 PM
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Couldn’t say it better! Furthermore, girls are attracted to those who lives well, who succeed. The “success” for a teen is not the same than the one of an adult, and taking shortcuts to achieve a certain standing (like working on a shop instead of finding a vocation and studying) will eventually cause a lost. Concentrate on building your future and trying things out, learn about who you truly are and experiment.
/r/seduction02/02/17 06:31 PM
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Of course you are bitter against woman, it shows! What I’m trying to tell you is that you should focus on your good aspect and work with that, not on your bad aspect and be bitter about it. BTW: not all woman are the same, some doesn’t care if you are not tall, I know a small red head dude that has a stunning blond as a wife, made 3 children with her. The dude has confidence coming out of his ears so height is NOT an issue for him, he jokes about it even.
/r/seduction02/02/17 06:15 PM
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You need to learn acceptances, accept who you are and move on. Hatred, rumination and the likes will get you nowhere.
/r/seduction02/02/17 05:05 PM
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Romance doesn’t give you LTR, having a mutual genuine interest does and having mutual scale of value does. You can’t know that in the first dates, you have to work your way through it and take a chance.
/r/seduction02/02/17 04:55 PM
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Everyone is entitled to their taste, their criteria. If height is important to a gal, there’s no reason to deny her right to it. Just like you might not like a fat chix.
/r/seduction02/02/17 02:11 PM
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Yes, you should!
/r/seduction02/02/17 02:07 PM
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I don’t know which is worst, sending her the picture or the way you reacted after, kinda like a dog with his tail between his leg. “It’s just blood, don’t act like such a pussy” could’ve worked better than the “excuse me mylady, I’m such a monster” and treat her like a princess.
/r/seduction02/02/17 02:05 PM
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"Well, might append later if you're good enough!"
/r/seduction02/02/17 01:59 PM
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Numbers are numbers, they mean squat! Success is achieved by achieving your goals, nothing more. The most successful people in many areas are not the one with the highest percentage, but the one that kept going no matter what until they achieved their goals.
/r/seduction02/02/17 01:44 PM
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60km is nothing, barely more than a marathon! Invite her over!
/r/seduction02/02/17 01:37 PM
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Read No More Mr Nice Guy
/r/seduction01/02/17 09:03 PM
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Look for Rapport building, NLP pace and lead and Match and mirror.
/r/seduction01/02/17 05:22 PM
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You can tell a woman she is sexy, and get some result. You can make her FEEL sexy, and escalate, and you’ll have her wanting to hop you like a rabbit!
/r/seduction01/02/17 04:58 PM
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Escalate. Ask (non-verbal) questions and listen to the (non-verbal) answers. Like, you put a hand on her lap and look how she respond
/r/seduction01/02/17 04:50 PM
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Grab her by the pussy!
/r/seduction01/02/17 04:45 PM
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I don’t know if you are referring to the so called “k-close”, IMHO, any kind of “close” mindset is bad, it puts the focus on something to “achieve”, a level you must get to. I tend to see everything “open minded”. Listen (verbal and non-verbal), ask (mostly non-verbal) and see where it goes, with no apprehension on where I wana go. Kissing is part of the escalation, and in the vast majority of the timed I kissed a girl, when ended up banging not long after. So, don’t look for a “close” and adapt…
/r/seduction01/02/17 04:21 PM
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Start by reading “no more Mr Nice Guy”, it’s a great book! Put your wants and your need first. Don’t be afraid of losing her, if she doesn’t understand you, she doesn’t deserve you. Don’t act like you want to please her by any means. Do so if she feels like she want to please you. Act independent, free, able to be alone. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. Those kind of things.
/r/seduction01/02/17 03:34 PM
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In a playful way, introduce it, yes! “Yeah, kinda dirty, you seem rather prude, you sure you can handle the pressure?”
/r/seduction01/02/17 03:30 PM
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I used the sandwich method a couple of times. You start by something nice, a compliment, then you put the “meat”, then you end on a good note. Something along the lines of “Hey, I had fun with you, you are a good person, but I’m not into anything serious, and it doesn’t click for me, some things you can’t control eh! I’m sure you will find what you are looking for, you are a nice girl and nice things appends to nice people”
/r/seduction01/02/17 02:56 PM
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Try this next time: “Hey [name], I found you interesting earlier!” and try to put something you talked about, like “ still can’t believe you major in [x], you don’t fit the type!”. After a couple of back-forth like this (2-3 is enough) you can ask her out, specific date, time and place and see where it goes. Don’t rid her pleasure of “not being sure you like-like her”, seduction is a game, if she is certain you want her, she won’t enjoy the game! She has to work a little for her candy!
/r/seduction01/02/17 02:44 PM
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Well, for staters, congrats on the work you put on yourself, not all people can reach a point of awakening! You should be proud of this. One week is a short time, seduction and self growth is a marathon, not a spint. It’s a 5 course meal you prepare days in advanced, not a snake from the fast food joint (you catch my drift, right!), don’t put that much pressure on yourself!! The Alpha/Beta concept is widely oversold... Some “beta” will be “alpha” given the right circumstances, and vice-versa! Th…
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:18 PM
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How did you "find her"?
/r/seduction31/01/17 07:50 PM
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This!! Use non-verbal communication and listen to non-verbal answers.
/r/seduction31/01/17 07:36 PM
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Some like to see it as a game because they can “play” people around. The old PUA mindset is mostly this, playing girls around, using tactics and deceptions to get girls in bed with them. I see it more like a way to tell it should be fun, taken lightly, like playing a game WITH someone (not AGAINST someone) in order to get to know her and get her to know you.
/r/seduction31/01/17 07:10 PM
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I think it’s more a matter of having settled up things in life. Financial stability, living at your own place (no more dorms or roommates), you have more experiences and knowledge overall, you have a decent car, know how to dress, etc.
/r/seduction31/01/17 07:04 PM
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Propose something concrete with a date and a time. Most people like to be told what to do, both males and females.
/r/seduction31/01/17 06:55 PM
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Care to share a little bit of txt interaction? They give you the number, and it is the right one, might be something wrong later on.
/r/seduction31/01/17 05:28 PM
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Why are you trying to be “nice” to them? I assume you try to act “nicer” and that might be the source of that! You should act like your self, and focus on getting to know her, if she is right for you, not to “prove you are right for her”. She’ll be the one to do that. Just be interested in knowing her, and let her know you. Don’t be nice because you want to know her (convert contract, see/read No More Mr Nice Guy for some knowledge on this), be nice if you are a nice person.
/r/seduction31/01/17 05:08 PM
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A big problem with texting, phoning and the “distance” stuff is that many gets over invested without knowing the person. Thing is, without having dealt with someone in real life, you don’t know if it “clicks” or not. I assume you invested a lot more into all of this that she had. Many women don’t really hate the texting and shit because they feel “safe” this way, and are entertained. Now, about 2,. I think a big part of the issue is that you are taking all of this a little too seriously, that’s …
/r/seduction30/01/17 07:54 PM
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Exactly, and furthermore, I’ve read an article stating that the majority falls into the categories that let things happen to them, being prone to some sort of high level nostalgia mindset. They are living a victim/scarcity mindset, ruminating over the past, not able to move further. We really can’t say what proportions of “Nostalgic vs. Proactive” mindset is in general population, but they stated a ratio of 75%/25%. That gives an idea!!
/r/seduction30/01/17 05:20 PM
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Don’t bet your savings on this! Mostly, a “no” girl is this way because you are perceived as either a “risk” or a source of insecurity. Before seduction can occur, you must make a woman feel safe, secure around you. This is done subconsciously so she might not even know why she feels secure/insecure around you, but she will try to protect herself in any manner. Not only is it a waste of time, but it’s also in the verge of being considered “rape” in many legal systems. You work with the maybe and…
/r/seduction30/01/17 05:04 PM
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You still have her? Post a print of other pics, cause I do have to say, she doesn't look good on the thumbnail... I'm not into the number scale (you either wants to fuck her or you don't and you shouldn’t cared what others think for approval) but attraction is still based on some concept (showing physical, mental and social health) in which she doesn’t seem to have. Also, talking about “history”, you’re seems to be a lot about tinder and why you hate it and what not. It might not be the case, st…
/r/seduction30/01/17 04:57 PM
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Good question, and I think you can use the same method to build rapport, and add some attraction factors into it. I’m not sure if being too sexual too rapidly is really helpful. The whole seduction process, the playfulness, the push-pull, everything contribute to having a better relation afterward. It contributes to having a higher level of “happy brain chemicals”, making it better sex and, if you want, stronger foundations for your relations.
/r/seduction30/01/17 04:24 PM
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Read diagonaly, overall, great article! A lot of the subject is covered in the book “No More M. Nice Guy”, as well as other books and I like the way you state it. One thing everyone must understand is “No single human will ever appeal to everyone.” This is true on many level and anyone that tries to sell you that “Work for anyone, have any woman you want” mumbo-jumbo should be treated as the pile of crap it is.
/r/seduction30/01/17 03:58 PM
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Look down, I’ve answered OP about that. Also, the fact that you are most likely well established, have a career, a car, a place, better income, better knowledge than younger dudes actually helps a lot. Experience pays in every aspect. Being in shape helps a lot, having style also does.
/r/seduction27/01/17 08:57 PM
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You have a foundation, what you need is something that put you apart. A step in some genre, make it musician, sportive, preppy, something that will make you “glow” from the crowd. Also, you can accessories a little. Like a necklace of some sort, a watch, a wrist band, something. After you’ve decided on a style you’d like, you can google “urban [style] fashion” for ideas.
/r/seduction27/01/17 08:45 PM
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oneitis, lose the scarcity mindset... Move on, let her be. Also, some criticism is constructive. Like someone telling you that you lack ambition, it might be because of your mindset in the face of your recovery. You should take the time to look at yourself, how you face this situation, do you have a victim mindset or a fighter mindset? Is it always “too hard”, are you always complaining? There might be cues there that could help you better yourself.
/r/seduction27/01/17 07:42 PM
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Not relevant, but a change in the mindset: You’re not gaming someone, you’re gaming WITH someone. We are not male against female in seduction, we are in THE SAME TEAM.
/r/seduction27/01/17 07:23 PM
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When you talk to someone, you should try to have a genuine interest in them and “funnel” with their answer. For example, if you talk about the music, you can funnel to a larger subject, like the style of music they play, “You’re into electro? What’s your best artist?” or funnel into smaller details “Hey, what do you like about this song? Is it more the grove or the transitions?” You can do that with every subjects, outward “You’re in the dorm, where are you coming from?” or inward “You’re in the…
/r/seduction27/01/17 07:09 PM
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Let me correct you, “Stop trying to impress people!” , that’s it.
/r/seduction27/01/17 06:14 PM
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Grab her by the pussy!
/r/seduction27/01/17 06:12 PM
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There is a “spectrum” between being a dick and being “needy”. You can act according to other’s opinion (which is being needy), act according to YOUR needs and values, while respecting the others around you or act like a narcissist, pushy bastard. You should read No More Mr. Nice Guy, it’s pretty much about this.
/r/seduction27/01/17 06:11 PM
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I understand the feeling, and that’s a scarcity mindset, I used to have it so I can relate. What you have to learn is to have an abundance mindset. There IS plenty of woman out there, you MIGHT end up ok with this one and if you don’t, you’ll meet another one that will fit you more. Dating is not about making HER believe you are everything she wants, but rather learning if SHE is right FOR YOU.
/r/seduction27/01/17 01:50 PM
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I don’t know how to put it, but if you lack career wise, you have to put it in passions, activities, goals, etc. Also, you might take the time to think how you could get better in your career. A big part of seduction is related to leading a fulfilling life. I feel a big part of it is portrayed in the work you do. In your 30’s you should not have a “student job”, you should have goals that push you further. And it’s not just for attraction, but for self worth also. Humans are made to push them se…
/r/seduction27/01/17 01:44 PM
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Had the same issue, friends and family where either already in couple or had weird schedule. Ended up going out alone most of the time. First thing to do is to get to know the spot you enjoy and the place that makes you feel comfortable (and adapt your style to it). They are many advantages of being solo in this; the amount of confidence people will see in you; many times I was told “I wouldn’t have the guts to go out alone like you do!”, you end up talking to people around, getting to know the …
/r/seduction27/01/17 01:35 PM
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How what was done? Not sure what you are asking or saying here.
/r/seduction27/01/17 01:34 PM
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oneitis...
/r/seduction26/01/17 09:19 PM
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Got back in the game in my late 30’s, hooked up with gals from 25 to 42 for the 2 years I was available. Age doesn’t matter that much!
/r/seduction26/01/17 09:18 PM
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I don’t believe in the “I’m the prize” mindset. I think you should just go see if the girl is interesting TO YOU, and see if she is interested BY YOU. It’s not a question of higher/lower level, but rather being mutual and sharing the envy to peruse further. I think seeing woman as lesser is just as wrong as seing them as above. We are equals looking to connect. That’s it. And you should give everyone the right to have their own choice, their own taste. You have the right to be attracted or not a…
/r/seduction26/01/17 09:16 PM
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From my experience, and my situation, texting can be used to converse as well as to build basic rapport. Some find it comforting to a level and you can also use it to filter out some basic things, like the low life succubae, the gold diggers, the crazies (to a certain level) in there. Only thing is, if you have time you can’t meet them, if you’re living further away, things like that. I have my kids every other week, so the week I did have them, I was “playing” tinder, had a lot of fun testing a…
/r/seduction26/01/17 08:09 PM
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Are you looking for justification why you shouldn’t approach?
/r/seduction26/01/17 05:25 PM
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Forget about the compliments for now, you need to have a conversation, make her feel secure and built rapport before you do that. Just be genuinely curious about them, what’s their major, where they’re from, those kind of things and listen to what they are saying. By listening, I mean really listen to what they are saying, it will enable you to funnel to any subject you want. You can also try to cold guess those things, it’ll be more amusing. Like “What’s your major? O no, let me try to guess, y…
/r/seduction26/01/17 05:18 PM
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This! All the oneitis post by some college guys is kind of getting old also...
/r/seduction25/01/17 09:15 PM
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Your family and friends and people around you have their values, their goals, you have yours., nothing wrong in playing the field and having fun! Be honest with yourself and with the people around you, and be confident enough to stand by it. That’s about it!
/r/seduction25/01/17 09:01 PM
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good advise, you could go along the lines of "Well, I'll take this as a no, and do something else! Have fun!"
/r/seduction25/01/17 08:43 PM
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You having oneitis bro, it would be more profitable to tell her to hit you up when she get back in the area or that you’ll be in her area in X time and wana hang out and move on to something more viable. Oh, and when she’s back in town, don’t just act like a “friend”, escalate, court her, touch, make moves.
/r/seduction25/01/17 08:29 PM
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Leading a fun, fulfilling life will attract people around you. You where there to have fun, enjoy the night with your friend, that’s it! That’s why you need to find things and place you enjoy at first, and let the fun float you over the rest.
/r/seduction25/01/17 07:11 PM
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Logics and conscience doesn’t cut it for love. You have to built rapport, connect with someone, touch, escalate, etc.
/r/seduction25/01/17 07:07 PM
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"Hey, see you later!" and move on. If you see her later, you can go talk to her or not, up to you.
/r/seduction25/01/17 07:03 PM
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Not sure what you mean by “get serious”... I got many one times, some FWB and one of them is my current girlfriend. I know not anyone has the “ease” with this platform, you have to do a little more work than just upload pics, leave the bio empty and hope for the best. Most of the time, it doesn’t work for guys that just want the “fast food” approach. In the end, what is important is to have something working for you, if online / tinder is not working FOR YOU, don’t waste your time on it and that…
/r/seduction25/01/17 02:15 PM
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Little life advice: You will ALWAYS sell yourself, in many aspect. Knowing sales technique will greatly enhance many aspects of your life. Chad used a couple of selling tactics, Jimmy was just a standing poll for the fundraiser.
/r/seduction24/01/17 09:26 PM
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Well, I haven't watch the video, just wana congratulate you on not being a video of a frat boy in a frat room with poor audio and poor ligthings! Looks professionnal! I'll listen to it later, just for that!
/r/seduction24/01/17 09:00 PM
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It’s what I call “social intelligence”. Being aware of the social norms, of how to dress well, to present yourself and have a styles that both defines you as unique but still blend in with the crowd.
/r/seduction24/01/17 08:53 PM
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I assume some part of the mindset you have is to see to far ahead. You’re not asking her to marry you, nor asking her anything at all. Approach is about one thing: Is she keen to knowing you, and is she interesting enough for you to invest whatever time you have. Not anything more. She’s not your type, she talks like a dude, doesn’t matter, you haven’t made an assumption, you “asked” and you got an “answer”. That’s it. There’s a number of ways to “abort”, and move on. From “Hey, I tought you whe…
/r/seduction24/01/17 06:36 PM
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IRL and online are different; if you can built a good profile, optimise your pictures and have a nice bio, you’ll be effective online. And, IRL isn’t that easy as you grow, the occasion has to be made for certain type of girls to meet. The bar/club could be effective, but most people there are, well, bar/club scene, full of dope-head, douche and douchette, and if you live in a smaller city, the demographics are not that good! Lots of “low periods” and you end up seeing a lot of similar faces whe…
/r/seduction24/01/17 06:19 PM
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Then, ask her out? Courage is not the lack of fear, it's being able to face it, and go ahead anyway.
/r/seduction24/01/17 03:53 PM
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I’ve been in situations that, after 2-3 dates, I wasn’t getting anywhere. So I slowly lost interest. The girls were still good people to chat with, but I would rather invest a date in a new prospect than to “waste my time”, unless it was something really interesting. 2-3 dates is still early in the beginning, so I don’t think that it’s adequate to ask / tell someone you feel distant, that sort of thing is more a “relationship question” than anything, you could ask this to a girl you are currentl…
/r/seduction24/01/17 03:42 PM
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People call it “the game” because it’s meant to be playful, have fun, enjoy meeting people, learning about them, having them learn about you, all that socializing thing and not take all of this seriously. And, just like a game, some you win, some you lose, and those you serves a learning purpose, and should not be dragged after. You play, you learn, you get better. And, one important aspect to understand about the idea of a game, the guys and the gals are ON THE SAME TEAM!! We (males) are not pl…
/r/seduction24/01/17 03:19 PM
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What is it today with colleges dudes that falls for for a girl they haven’t have one f*cking date with?
/r/seduction23/01/17 09:05 PM
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I’m not sure it’s the place for this, since it’s so specific... still, it feels like you’re needy AF with her, like you think she’s so over your league or something like that that even a coffee with her and you see her as your wife without knowing anything about her... People are attracted to independent, free minded people that lead a fulfilling life, and you act dependant, childish almost (from what we can see here, at least). Furthermore, before any woman can be seduced, they need to feel sec…
/r/seduction23/01/17 07:30 PM
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How long you’ve known this girl? What is the current status? How many dates / bang you’ve done? TBH, it reeks of neediness... don’t mistake neediness for love, nor don’t mistake lust for love, those are different things. Now, the thing is, you’re high on an hormonal cocktail that your brain is producing. You have to take it easy, let yourself go and live in the moment. Enjoy the time you have together, and build something by real, concrete interaction. Not the “made-believe” scenario you are mak…
/r/seduction23/01/17 06:08 PM
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Positive affirmation are somewhat “empty” if they are not concrete. Confidence is “subject specific”. For example, if you were confident in driving a small car with automatic gearbox and I’d ask you to drive a large manual pickup, you might not be so confident. What you CAN do is improve META confidence, the confidence that you WILL learn and grow. You do that by learning many things, understanding that you CAN learn new things and be good. Create small goals, achieve them and congratulate yours…
/r/seduction20/01/17 09:00 PM
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Let’s turn things around a little; imagine if a tall and large gay dude would start hitting on you, following you and asking questions. You’d say something like “Yeah, I’m not gay dude!” but he’d keep it up, saying things like “Yeah, you can’t know for sure until you tried”. How would you feel?
/r/seduction20/01/17 08:54 PM
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If you DO end up cooking her a meal, don’t just make a meal *for her, and let her stand there, waiting for you to do everything. Make her participate, requesting her help, that’s a good occasion to add compliance. Girls really like the “Chef/Sous-chef” dynamic in cooking at home.
/r/seduction20/01/17 08:23 PM
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I was curious about some things concerning and while I do like some of his approach, his style, his energy, some things are worth questioning. I’ve stumbled upon some topics that are worth taking a read at: https://www.google.ca/webhp?sourceid=chrome-instant&ion=1&espv=2&ie=UTF-8#q=rsd%20tyler%20net%20worth Don’t forget that PUA and this sort of things is a business, so some might employ tactics to get clients and some of those might be more in the range of “snake oil” than real human behavior. …
/r/seduction20/01/17 08:10 PM
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You didn’t get destroyed by the dude, SHE chose to leave with him. We have no control over other humans, so don’t blame anyone else for this. Now, please understand that anyone has taste, has reason why they chose one thing over the other. A dude can love sports coupe and another one can love pickup trucks, it doesn’t make one better than the other, just different offer. As long as you give your best and learn from your REAL mistake, and accept that some parts are NOT up to you, you’ll be alrigh…
/r/seduction20/01/17 06:11 PM
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They key here is « claim to be ». I’m rather older (late 30’s) and age was never an issue. It was an issue while playing Tinder, and I had the occasion to test it (Setted my age lower in facebook for some sweepstake) and I always told my real age to the gals I got, not one of them had an issue regarding the age. Even more if you are just into hook up. That being said, a big part of the PUA scene is outdated, I’d stay away from many of this if I were you. Some concepts are based on good ideas wit…
/r/seduction20/01/17 05:24 PM
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"One of my coworkers once made a comment that she wish all men would be so open as latinos in terms of showing attraction." If you read "Models"' that's the concept behind being vulnerable.
/r/seduction20/01/17 05:15 PM
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Usually, those who have interest offer an alternative date... I’d say, move on, plenty of fish in the sea!
/r/seduction20/01/17 04:27 PM
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Well, seeing the number of folks that hook up while they are dumbed down (alcohol / drugs), I would assume “being stupid” isn’t that big of a deal! Seduction is about connection, rapport, being social. The subject doesn’t really matters that much! Furthermore, this might sound elitist, but seduction and reproduction is about getting the best genes to our offspring to give them the best survival chances. The humans are a social animal, so being able to live in the social norms of the “tribe” is a…
/r/seduction20/01/17 03:49 PM
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Yeah, I think it was meant for another topic! That's what appends when you open to many windows at once!! ;)
/r/seduction20/01/17 02:32 PM
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Exactly! The only thing that keeps you from any situation to actually do something (like escalate) is you. Nothing is keeping you from moving your chair closer, taking her hand or anything for that matters. Seduction is about simple things: Getting to know some gals and see if she fits your scale of value, having a genuine interest and listening.
/r/seduction19/01/17 09:12 PM
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Then have a plan, it’s up to you... But consider it might not go according to those plans.
/r/seduction19/01/17 07:53 PM
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Get out of your scarcity mindset, and into an abundance one.
/r/seduction19/01/17 05:27 PM
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Don’t look for a plan, a step by step process, you’ll be too much in your head, in theory, if you screw one lousy step you’ll freak out. Human interaction is about one thing: Having a genuine interest in each others. Ask question on who she is, how she got there, listen to what she said, and you’ll most likely have nights chatting about everything without thinking about it. It’s about stop being IN your mind, and realising where you are, at the time and space you are. You must adapt depending on…
/r/seduction19/01/17 05:24 PM
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Quantity doesn’t matter, quality does! Why is your brother complaining? Why does it matter to him what the fuck you listen to? Tell him to get his narcissist comment and shove it up his arse. You don’t need validation by someone who tells you to listen to Drake to get girls! He seems soos needy and so much concern about his image and what people think of him, I hope you don’t share his lack of confidence!! That being said, it matters to some, not to others. It’s a question of values. Like some p…
/r/seduction19/01/17 05:07 PM
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I personally got into meditation after reading this book: https://www.amazon.ca/You-Are-Not-Your-Brain/dp/1583334831 Meditation will help you dissociate from your thought, put you in the space behind the water fall, sort of speak. I used to have a hard time getting out of my head because I use to “personalise” the thought. You have to learn that the voices in your head are not part of you, they are “suggestion”, not truth. And , like any suggestion, you have the choice to accept or reject them. …
/r/seduction19/01/17 03:49 PM
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Cold reading is your friend! "I bet you're a nurse", things like that
/r/seduction18/01/17 04:05 PM
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First thing, what kind of friends gets jealous when you get a girlfriend and all? (also, what kind of girlfriend gets jealous of your friends and shit?)? Needy, narcissist, dependant people! She wanted you because you where available, she was seeing her good puppy having a new master, didn’t want to lose all the attention you where giving her and got crazy! Now, a good friend could tell you some things, like if your GF is a needy narcissist and that your being played, but they don’t get all craz…
/r/seduction18/01/17 03:59 PM
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Good reply from /u/Zelkovan, in which I agree! When she’s all touching and groping and shit is not the time to “play it cool”, it’s time to play, to have fun, let yourself go, explore with her and have fun. What you are telling her by playing it cool is either you’re not interested or you’re stuck up. Women likes it when you act like you wana rip her shirt open, and act like you can’t control yourself and want her so f*cking bad. That’s a big turn on! What women (and people in general, for that …
/r/seduction18/01/17 02:34 PM
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I don’t know how you can relate to a number, considering some might have been on long term relationship, regulars FWB, demographics situations, and things like that! Furthermore, it’s a known fact that guys usually inflate their numbers! I think, the only thing that does matter is if you “learn” and grow, if you find ways to better yourself.
/r/seduction18/01/17 01:27 PM
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You're still fairly yong, don't bother! When you get laid, just be honest and tell her it's your first time, that's it. No big deal!
/r/seduction17/01/17 10:58 PM
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Emotional intelligence (or awareness) does not tell you WHY someone is showing an emotion, only that the person is showing the emotion. It could be a number of reasons, both conscious and subconscious. Heck, they might not even know themselves that they are, even less why they feel the way they feel!! Look at it from a curious mind, not a judging mind. BTW, a smile is usually a big show of interest. Contempt is demonstrated by a smirk, not a smile. Someone laughing at you would most likely show …
/r/seduction17/01/17 04:36 PM
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Don’t make assumptions, always ask and try things. You NEVER know what the others are thinking. Now, I’m not a fervent of “asking” verbally. I think it’s kind of a turn off, it make the escalation stop and diminish the tension. You can ask non-verbally and it will be a lot better. Actually, most of kino escalation is exactly that: asking non-verbally and listening for the answer. You put a hand on her lap, for example. Listen to the reaction, it is the non-verbal answer. That being said, for OP …
/r/seduction17/01/17 04:22 PM
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The point of reading a book is acquiring knowledge. Getting a point of vu that might be different from your own, understanding different mindset. Even if it’s something not going with your values, your mindset, you could always learn something.
/r/seduction17/01/17 04:05 PM
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Being always clear goes against the “push and pull” concept, where you show your interest but keeps it somewhat subtle. Creating a tension will make it a lot more fun for both you and her. You could do an indirect approach, then go direct, ask her name, things like that. That’s why it’s called “gaming”, it’s meant to be fun, to be playful. Being too direct kills the fun in it.
/r/seduction17/01/17 04:02 PM
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Glad I could help! Thanx for the update, it is greatly appreciated!
/r/seduction17/01/17 03:57 PM
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Big part of seduction is about being able to sell yourself. That being said, a good salesman will not try to sell something to someone that doesn’t want it. He will rather try to understand the need of the potential buyer and how he can fill the need with his offering. It’s counter-productive to try to sell a BMW to the person interested in a kia and vis verca. It’s also counterproductive to try to sell a sports coupe to someone looking for a 7 place SUV. Understanding how to sell yourself will …
/r/seduction17/01/17 03:24 PM
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How old are you?
/r/seduction17/01/17 02:28 PM
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Confidence is “subject specific”. Which means that it is linked to the subject you trained on. Like, for example, you can have a great confidence in driving a car, for example, but if you get into a manual gear, you will lack all the confidence you built because it was done with an automatic gear. What you can built, is “meta-confidence”, ie: The confidence that you will built confidence. You do that by learning new things, doing new things, challenging yourself in many aspects, many occasions. …
/r/seduction17/01/17 02:22 PM
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Here’s an idea: TALK TO HER! Be honest, confident, and state your concern with her. If you think she is worth it (and, from what I can read, she is), you could consider concealing, a non-monogamous relationship, you could consider a lot of things. What you shouldn’t do (and this is just an opinion) is lie and cheat. If she is a good person, she doesn’t deserve it. She deserve the truth and honesty and you deserve her the guts to tell her and to face whatever comes from that. With that, you will …
/r/seduction17/01/17 02:10 PM
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This is well explained. I will just add that it should be done not with the intention to “land” anything, but to “ask” if she’s ok with all of this, as well as a little “push-pull” to rise excitement. So, the goal is the answer (is she in or not), no matter what it is. That’s what polarizing is all about! And when the answer is “no”, you can just back a little and try something else later.
/r/seduction17/01/17 01:25 PM
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please provide a context on how, what was hapenning, etc.
/r/seduction17/01/17 01:13 PM
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Appearance wise, I think it’s always a question of if you are compatible. I don’t believe in the scale (HB#) concept, since a girl you consider a 8 could be another man’s 5. The only thing that matters is if she turns you on or not. A “binary” concept rather than a 1-10 scale. But that’s as far as attraction goes. As far as social class, you can probably “mix” to a certain degree, but there’s a good chance many of the activities, subject, matters of life will not be the same. There is some excep…
/r/seduction16/01/17 09:06 PM
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I was reading an article the other on how ¾ of people are living by a “victim” mindset, when they see someone succeed, it’s because he has stepped on someone else, stole it, or was born under the “right star”. When they see someone with a good (healthy) shape, they’ll say it’s the genetics and what not! They don’t understand the work that has to be done, the hours of training, working, the investments, the risks, they just don’t see this. So they apply the same mentality elsewhere; if it’s not w…
/r/seduction16/01/17 08:33 PM
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Well, this is a good example of the idea that most of what is said is non-verbal. Without the way, the context, the voice, the tone, it could backfire as well as be a good thing. Now I can only see a dude saying “Good girl” the same way he does to a dog!
/r/seduction16/01/17 03:55 PM
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Have fun! Don’t take all of this too seriously. Dating, heck, life itself should be fun! Have a genuine interest in her, listen when she is speaking instead of waiting for your time to talk! Don’t be afraid to polarize her, take her hand, put your hand on her lap, behind her back and listen to the non-verbal answer. You will see if she moves “in” (saying yes, continue) or “out” (no, I don’t like this). The answer is up to her, like when someone asks you if you want tea, you have every right to n…
/r/seduction13/01/17 09:20 PM
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Could be a number of reasons, it’s kind of hard to pin point one in particular... Could be a confidence issue, an escalation issue, a lack of rapport, a lack of making her feel secure, not understanding. But, then, I assume you are fairly young (since you talk to gils at school), and it might be just that you need to relax, have fun, and learn living altogether. Don’t be too hard on yourself, experiment and have fun. Don’t take all of this too seriously.
/r/seduction13/01/17 09:09 PM
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It is about self improvement, bettering yourself and living by some values, id’ say good values, but that’s up to my own scale of value. It’s rather real and honest at the most part. But like any book, you must use your criticism and your judgement. From what I can recall, there is some theological aspect in which I don’t abide, still, the main idea remain.
/r/seduction13/01/17 08:21 PM
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Yes, that's it! Small, concise book, easy read (or listen, if you’re into audio books)
/r/seduction13/01/17 08:10 PM
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Scarcity mindset! I’d rather go for a girl that will do her part in the process, that has an interest in me.
/r/seduction13/01/17 07:48 PM
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You should change the life you are trying to hide, be true to yourself and be honest with your values. I recommend reading the four agreements and self help book before going into the subject of seduction.
/r/seduction13/01/17 07:35 PM
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You can look at it as a “baggage”, that you have to carry, that slows you down and shit Or You can look at it as “experience”, that you tried things out, they didn’t work but you grew from it.
/r/seduction13/01/17 07:31 PM
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Yeah, shit appends bro! What you could do to prevent this is continue playing while you put in on, continue kissing, touching, tell her to touch you, it doesn’t need to stop the action!! Enjoy the moment!!
/r/seduction13/01/17 07:11 PM
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What is your goal here, on /r/seduction?
/r/seduction13/01/17 06:52 PM
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I used to be pragmatic AF, emotionally Wyse; it was like a freaking flat line... Kinda like a pro of emotional withholding! Nothing bothered me, but nothing made me f*cking happy as well... It’s not a good life to live! Emotions have their values, their messages, their meaning; they must be listened to and dealt with. You can look at Paul Ekman's work on this, his book on "Emotion Revealed" is real good, not only to detect emotions onto others, but in yourself as well, which is important because…
/r/seduction13/01/17 06:40 PM
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“I have never experienced something similar or even close to it I furthermore dont expect this to ever happen again.” This is a scarcity mindset, you should work on that first... Google “Abundance vs. Scarcity” for more information. I can relate to the girl, got a couple of times I had good times with a girl, good sex but it just didn’t click to go further. You can’t really control this, and going for da pussy is still enjoyable, but it was lacking something. Did 3-4 dates, then told them how I …
/r/seduction13/01/17 06:25 PM
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That could apply to many males as well. Don’t fall into misogyny; this is counterproductive in a seduction and the social aspect, at least. And, please remember that you will find whatever you focus on. If you focus on the weakness of any matter, you will find the weakness you crave, your attention will focus on what reinforce your mindset. Like, when you are pissed, you will focus on situations and elements that pisses you off, so that your subconscious is at ease, it doesn’t like to be wronged…
/r/seduction13/01/17 06:14 PM
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IMHO, cheating is about the lies, not the act. In this aspect, the cheating is done by the person “putting up with it”, since it is the one lying. We should be true to our self, to our values. Not doing so will end up destroying us.
/r/seduction13/01/17 05:23 PM
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Putting woman on a pedestal is wrong, dissing them is just as wrong. They are humans, and equals. Humans deserve respect when they act respectfully, no matter the gender.
/r/seduction13/01/17 05:14 PM
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When you say “not for the lack of trying”, do you mean you get to the point where you go in for a kiss and she “deny” you or you that you don’t know how to escalate, and wait for the “moment”? Those are different situations and require different approach! Hope I can help you!
/r/seduction13/01/17 05:11 PM
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Tips on rapport building, well there is a lot of books about rapport building, about how to influence rightfully, sales tactics and the likes. A lot of those books are using something related to pace and lead, match and mirror, concept coming from NLP. I also like the psychology approach, the “science” behind why it works things like that, the studies made, the psychology of persuasion, the concept of conscious vs. subconscious. It all depends on what you are aiming for, but I believe that the b…
/r/seduction13/01/17 03:34 PM
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Yes, you can. You have to learn to find your “demographics”, sort of speak. The best approach, IMHO, is to keep for “wider audience” and put accents of your own style. I’m a rocker/metalhead for instance, but still, I work in an office, so I won’t wear band’s t-shirt, my hair are longer than most but styled so that it’s “clean”, my tattoos are hidden under long sleeves, etc. I can easily blend with a more pop scene, as well as electro, rock or metal scene, following some adaptation, like not wea…
/r/seduction13/01/17 03:21 PM
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I read it (well, listened to it, god bless audiobooks!) and it’s a great book. From what I could understand, being vulnerable is about not being afraid to be who you are, to like the things you like, to take the path you chose to take, even if it means doing it alone. Polarizing is a great concept; it changes the whole idea of winning/failing when talking to someone. You are basically “asking a question” and looking for an answer. Like when are offered a tea, you have every right to accept or re…
/r/seduction12/01/17 09:24 PM
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Exactly, it’s not about being the best, it’s about being the best [you can be], about bettering yourself. Makes me think of the 4 agreements, one of which being “always give up your best”: as the author exmplain, you have to understand that “being your best” when you have a cold, have slept 5 hours in the last week is not the same as when you are well, fresh and reposed. You don’t have to be the “main event”, the entertainer. You can let this dude entertain you, enjoy the show and have a better …
/r/seduction12/01/17 08:33 PM
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I’m pretty sure that what attracted them was the confidence you shown by being proud of it, more than the pokemon go itself. It matters less what you use to talk to people than HOW you do it.
/r/seduction12/01/17 08:02 PM
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You should start by understanding the concept behind NLP, the “filter”, and start by the foundation, grow from there. Also one thing that got me to understand the concept better: It’s not about getting people to think like you, to convince them of your “way of tought”, but the opposite: Understanding how people feels, how they might think and understanding there filter by putting you in their point of view, understanding their map of the world. It’s all about understanding someone and directing …
/r/seduction12/01/17 06:45 PM
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Grab her by the pussy!
/r/seduction12/01/17 06:32 PM
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Badoo? Does anyone besides the poor, the fat and the uglies goes there?
/r/seduction12/01/17 06:29 PM
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Badoo? Does anyone besides the poor, the fat and the uglies goes there? Sorry, wrong post!! My bad!! That's what append when you have to many windows!!
/r/seduction12/01/17 06:28 PM
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The “popular” ones are the one more “socially aware”, and this is not a bat thing. Let me explain. I get that you don’t want to be “one of the sheep” to a certain point, but you HAVE to know the social aspects that surrounds you and adapt to it. Before you can be a “black sheep” and stand away from the crowd, you have to understand and be part of the crowd. A black sheep is still a sheep after all, and if you put chicken with the sheep, it can be the best looking more flamboyant rooster you can …
/r/seduction12/01/17 06:25 PM
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This! Also, before being sexual, a woman needs to feel secure (to her own level). Being sexual BEFORE she feels secure will make her dry. Also, don't write script (in your head or anywher). You can keep a vague idea of the subjects, on how you could funnel and this sort of idea, but script is lame and predictive!
/r/seduction12/01/17 05:20 PM
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Not all people like morning sex! Bad breath, crusty eyes, half awake, it’s not always good! The push and pull concept is mostly used with escalation, let your hand on her leg for a while, she reacts well and feel “secure”, you go inner tights and “listen” to her reaction, for example. That’s a push! You get up, go get a drink, or to the bathroom, and you come back, take her hand. That’s a pull, and another push. Do those things with rapport building and, most likely, you’ll get laid in the end o…
/r/seduction12/01/17 05:15 PM
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Could it be more of a “filter” than reality when you say “people seem uninterested”? Like you thinking that before even saying “Hey, how are you?” you think they are uninterested and “look for clues” to support your statement (because that’s how we work, as human! When we are pissed, we look for item that will reinforce our mindset, same goes as the opposite: When you are happy, you look for clues that reinforce your happiness!). Add to this one concept: You can monitor emotions on others (that’…
/r/seduction12/01/17 03:42 PM
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No, you are looking to get clicks for your youtube channel, been doing it on the fPua section as well.
/r/seduction11/01/17 06:59 PM
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aren't you tired of spamming everywhere?
/r/seduction11/01/17 06:40 PM
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Most guys are focusing on the “ends”, wana get laid, cum and be done with it! Well, many humans do this in every states of life... They focus too much on a destination, forgetting that the road to get there is to be enjoyed as well. When you learn to enjoy the road as well as the destination, the perspective changes all together. It’s no more “foreplay to get laid, cum and be done”, it’s having a good time with someone you enjoy having good time with. Being mindful, exploring her, what makes her…
/r/seduction11/01/17 06:36 PM
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My vision is : You’re not approaching to get a success, you are asking a question subconsciously: Are you interested into knowing more about me? So, you are not having success/failure, but rather an answer. And like when you ask something mundane, like “Do you have the time?”, you shouldn’t take the answer personally. Some people don’t have “watch”, some don’t want to bother telling you the time, some people are in a rush, etc. That being said, the second step should be to see if you connect wit…
/r/seduction11/01/17 05:13 PM
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What this guy said couldn’t be more truth! Basically, live a fulfilling life, learn to be happy with yourself and, ironically, people will start to revolve around you. Also, change your scarcity mindset and believe in abundance. You can google “abundance vs scarcity” for more on this. Don’t forget, life should be fun, enjoyable. It should be a mix of challenge and the accompanied reward. Your brain is made to make you happy by doing this, pushing yourself and rewarding yourself for doing so.
/r/seduction11/01/17 05:02 PM
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Things to know, putting your face and licking da pussy can also give you cold sore, ie: "herpes labialis".
/r/seduction11/01/17 04:54 PM
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"So, having a nice day/evening so far?"
/r/seduction11/01/17 04:44 PM
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Well, quick idea : If you don’t want to be perceived as « just another guy with a carefully crafted pickup line », don’t use one! Be confident and keep it simple! Confidence is partly about looking for an outcome, no matter what it is, to polarize her into knowing if she has some sort of interest. Might be the case, might not be the case. Opening are over-rated, some guys try to find clever ways, some just say something basic like “Hey, are are you doing?” and it’s enough. The key is LISTENING f…
/r/seduction11/01/17 04:40 PM
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Without knowing much, I’d say it most likely an escalation and push-pull issue. If done right, with a good timing, most girl will be eagered to hump you real good!! If not done or done too fast, she will dry up! So, only one question: do you escalate? (Well, another one: how old are you?)
/r/seduction11/01/17 03:43 PM
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I get that people usually over think texting, totally on par with you! IMHO, it should be used to set logistics more than anything! Now, different things works for different people and it’s not gender specific. I can recall nights when the bro would not decide where we’d go out and argue for what not until one (most likely I did) would say “Fuck, I’m going to spot A, join me or not, I don’t care”. People, in general, want to be “lead” without being pushed. I’m not saying to always use this formu…
/r/seduction11/01/17 02:46 PM
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A lot of men don’t understand how seduction works, how to interact with women and think women works “just as men”, with a sort of “on/off” switch. Reality is, they don’t! Humans gets angered when things doesn’t work the way they want it to, ie: The way they “feel is the right way” instead of learning how the “market” want to be attracted. So they force feed their way to anyone and get angry when people gets pissed at them because, guess what, they do the same! Until, one day, someone “gets you” …
/r/seduction11/01/17 02:38 PM
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The girl that is interested will either arrange her schedule or set an alternative [I can’t on Wednesday, how about Thursday?]. What you are saying with an open schedule is that you will accommodate her rather than lead her. It’s mostly about compliance and how she might perceive you as a “I’ll do anything to accommodate you / needy mindset” than anyting.
/r/seduction11/01/17 01:57 PM
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Date is meant exactly for this: Knowing more about someone. Ask her out. Also, txt is meant to set up logistics, chatting and learning about people over text is kind of a waste of time. It could help her feel secure, but that’s about it.
/r/seduction10/01/17 09:27 PM
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Pretty much the same thing I’m telling, There is a massive difference between a pseudo “nice guy” and a genuine nice person. These are two different issues to be dealt with in a different manner. A “nice guy” has to be more clear about what he does, and not expect person to read “between the line” when he does something or not get pissed because they don’t (please note that not only guys suffer from this syndrome, it’s not genre specific). A genuine nice person has to learn to detect the narciss…
/r/seduction10/01/17 08:17 PM
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Thanx! IIve already got an audiobook of it, I’ll listen to it next! I see a distinction between “nice guys” (from what I can understand) and genuine nice people. When you act out of goodness, kindness and compassion, you are a “genuine good person”. When you act to get something out, it’s just “egoism in disguise”. To paraphrase, let’s say you are out with a couple of friends, you get the first round just because it’s the normal thing to do among friend, or you buy rounds to make them taste shit…
/r/seduction10/01/17 05:25 PM
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Actually, a girl talking about her ex is mostly her being “vulnerable” to you, which is good. Most people are not aware of what they do, subconsciously, this might be a “deliver me from him” kinda call more than a “I’m already taken, don’t force anything” kinda call. About that “not showing signs”, you should understand that, 1st: Sometimes is not that she doesn’t show it, but rather that you don’t “understand” them. It could be as subtle as her foot pointing at you the entire date or something …
/r/seduction10/01/17 05:10 PM
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Let’s turn things around : How would you react if the girl you’ve fallen for, who was independent, fun, adventurous changed and got all clingy, dull, boring the second you’ve told her you’d want only to see her? You’d grow out of it! That’s it! I don’t know how you’ve been since the start of the relationship, but humans tend to go all the way to win someone over, then go lazy and wonder why it’s boring, go into routine, and shit... I assume you were doing things with her whom you both enjoyed? W…
/r/seduction09/01/17 09:06 PM
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From what I see, « escalation window » is the time frame between you shake her hand / kisses on her cheeks to when she is riding your d*ck. It’s a window calculated in minutes/hours. If she’s “incapacitated” for the moment, be a (real) gentleman, wish her well (Hey, have a nice trip, it’s always fun to [blah blah] / Ohh damn! Sucks to get [cold, flu, whatenot], hope you’ll get better soon [...] hit me up when you’re back [in town / on your feet] so we can [hang out/have a drink/whatever]” and th…
/r/seduction09/01/17 08:57 PM
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Bumble / happnd are good addition, but tinder is mostly the place to be!
/r/seduction09/01/17 08:38 PM
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(I’m writing this along my reading, so it might be as scattered as your post!! ) Thanks for the post, I am wondering something though : Are you (and the book, for that matter) talking about the « nice guys » or genuine nice guy? I tend to think that what differentiates mostly men from boys is the ability to take chance, risk things and take a leap of faith, kind of being confident in the way that confidence is not “knowing you won’t fail” but rather knowing you might fail but do it anyway, not b…
/r/seduction09/01/17 08:21 PM
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I hated meals date... unless it’s somewhat special and you can move around a bit. Like going to a food truck is fine, but sitting down for a meal, stuffing your face and waiting for what-not, eh!! Really not my kind of date! Go take a hike, a walk, do something more physical it’ll pay more. Body and mind are linked. You get the blood pumping by any mean, and she will be prone to be excited.
/r/seduction09/01/17 03:52 PM
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I’ve been told I was a “good guy”, still ended up banging though! I do think I am a genuinely good person, trying to help around as much as I can. I don’t remember being Friendzone, so I assume I add enough “mojo” to this as well. When I was younger, I did see some girls times after times in the hope that the “right moment” would present itself, not having the guts to make a move and not having confidence to “create” the moment and take a leap of faith, but they didn’t told me “let’s just be fri…
/r/seduction09/01/17 03:32 PM
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In my head, you don’t “ask” to be exclusive, you do it if you want to see only one person, but you shouldn’t pressure her into being that. For example, I was seeing a couple of girls for a while (been 2 years singles, fooling around and having fun). One of the “regular” got all insecure and asked me to be exclusive. Wasn’t the right time (long story short, she was in the process of separation with her ex, still living at the same place, etc.), wasn’t the right set and I wasn’t feeling I would ga…
/r/seduction09/01/17 03:18 PM
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Don’t be too hard on yourself, you are trying, taking notes and growing. It’s a long process so you can count every step you make, from the smallest. About being nervous: It’s normal to feel something in seduction, that’s the fun in it! If you where “bland”, emotionless, it would get boring really fast! What you feel can be named “Nervousness”, or “excitement”. If you change the name of what you are feeling to “I was excited to ask her number” the whole mindset will change! I don’t know what you…
/r/seduction23/12/16 02:47 PM
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Try this one: https://www.amazon.ca/You-Are-Not-Your-Brain/dp/1583334831 It helped me a lot, and at the same time I was starting to use Headspace, an app to learn mindfulness meditation. One good trick I did: AudioBooks while training. I train for marathon so that means I have a lot of time to listen to those kind of things, might as well use this time to grow! I've seen "Influence" recommended by someone else, it is a great book also! A lot of book on influence, selling tactics and the ilk are …
/r/seduction23/12/16 02:21 PM
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Assuming, like I would asume that you like cats because your name has some sort of "meow" sound into it. Nothing really tells me that and it might not be the case, but based on some futile info, I end up concluding you are a cat person. Like thinking a girl is disinterested and not that into you because she won't talk much but, in fact, she is shy AF and her thought are racing in her head. Those kind of things!
/r/seduction22/12/16 10:34 PM
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Chubby guy hitting on skinny girls, tips: Get fit. I don’t know how chubby you are, you need to adapt to your “Market” if you want results. No magic pills, no magic tricks, adapt the offer to the market, that’s it! Demographics is important, it’ll help built rapport faster, connect faster, be stronger when you are in some area you already enjoy. Your mindset will also be better, more at home, more at ease. Also, doing things you enjoy makes you more approachable.
/r/seduction22/12/16 09:29 PM
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That's a filter you have, asking for a number has no negative connotation.
/r/seduction22/12/16 09:22 PM
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Confidence is subject specific. For example, If you know how to drive a car and you have confidence in driving and learn only to drive an automatic, you’ll have a lot less confidence driving a manual gear. You’ll try it, stall a couple of times, find the sweet spot on one car and be going. And the more manual gearbox you experiment with, the more confident you get driving manuals. Where it gets fun is getting “meta-confidence”. Because you tried so many shit you have the confidence you’ll learn …
/r/seduction22/12/16 09:16 PM
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Why don’t you work and buy yourself the f*cking Nintendo Switch...
/r/seduction22/12/16 08:52 PM
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I’m more of a rock, metal, -core kind of guy, like electro from times to times, had a blast at places that are in the style. I don’t belong in latino night, nor rap/hiphop party, so I don’t go there! You have to focus on what you like, where you feel at home and where you enjoy yourself. Life is too short to waste nights doing things you don’t like!
/r/seduction22/12/16 08:44 PM
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Models is probably the best, most actual one out there. Something more general, out of the PUA mindset could also help you improve all together, since people are attracted by those who lead a good life. Being a good human all together and trying to best yourself will improve all facets of your life, seduction is a side effect of this. I liked the 4 agreements a lot, could be a good one to start as well.
/r/seduction22/12/16 08:37 PM
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I go by the 4 agreements: -Speak with integrity, out of truth and love. -Don’t take anything personally. -Don’t make assumptions. -Always give and do your best.
/r/seduction22/12/16 07:53 PM
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My vision on seduction is quite different, I think. And I tend to dissociate from PUA tactics, like “closing”, scripts and things like that. For once, it’s counterproductive to memorize script, it’s also cold and impersonal to focus on things like closing and seduction is all about being warm, open, connecting with each others. That being said, the “always closing” mindset is aimed at an ending, so you focus on this, losing your awareness and presence in the process. I always try to connect and …
/r/seduction22/12/16 07:48 PM
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Lead a good life, the rest will come by itself. When I ended my last serious relation, I decided to “get out of my shell”. For years I was defined as the shy, introverted, almost asocial guy (the girlfriend loved it, it was easier to “control” that way). Long story short, I started to get out. Not with the intent to meet someone, but to have fun. Going to show I liked, getting into club to chat to anyone, staff, people around, et,. met a lot of people this way, kinda “single serving friends” her…
/r/seduction22/12/16 06:30 PM
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I don’t think it’s the long hair, rather the « fashion sens » that doesn’t cuti t. Like the beard thing: You can let it grow crazy like a Neanderthal man (like a kid who wana show he can grow facial hair) or you can trim it, maintain it and look clean. If you have a decent look, maintain and groom your hair, it’ll go for most women. It’s about being socially aware of the “norm”, of what is socially acceptable and look like you have some kind of success in your life! You also need to understand, …
/r/seduction22/12/16 05:23 PM
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Don’t settle for less and adapt yourself to your “market”. Let’s say you are a car salesman. You will not have the same approach, or the same look, or the same standing when selling Kia then when you’re selling Audi, right? Look at your “aimed market” and mold yourself to attract this market. Aiming for sporty type when you are not fit is not gonna work, aiming for fashionista when you dress poorly will not gonna work, etc. You can’t force-feed anything!
/r/seduction21/12/16 06:32 PM
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We all have rapport with all, don’t forget it! We’re all humans for starter!! Do you show a genuine interest in the person? Like if I’m really interested in a girl and she tells me she just moved here, I wanna know MORE, like the reason why she moved, where she comes from, why she chose that place, and on, and on. Now, building rapport is a funny concept; what, 93% of what we say is not even stated with words. Yet, many of us will go “fishing for rapport” by talking, by trying to get the one thi…
/r/seduction21/12/16 05:39 PM
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You know, when you move around a crowd to go place you can put a hand on a shoulder to be more polite (instead of just pushing around and being a jerk!), you can “train” yourself to do this in public settings so it will feel more natural and you’ll be more prone to touch people around. You can do that sort of touch when asking her to “get you something” out of your reach (that’s also compliance). I think as long as your gentleman and polite, it’ll go well. Also, you can touch someone with more t…
/r/seduction21/12/16 05:19 PM
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Buy em diamonds, chix digs diamonds! You might end up in a threesome!! Jokes aside, have some genuine interests in them, what they do, what they like, ask them about them and listen. Most people wana talk about them and will like you for taking interest in their life instead of feeling just like “a friend of your girl” Also, some times, people can be jerks. Some people hate you out of many things, and it’s not “up to you”. If you are giving the best of you and treating others with respect and th…
/r/seduction21/12/16 04:50 PM
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Take your time, be in the “here and now” and try to focus on what you are doing now. ie: don’t go in your head overthinking everything. Don’t try to be perfect, have fun and LISTEN to the non-verbal cues. Touch, kiss, lick, feel your body with hers, moan, have fun and show it!
/r/seduction21/12/16 04:45 PM
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This is a speculation, but what do you think would’ve happened if you’ve gone for a kiss instead? Let’s say you’re dancing, escalating properly, feeling her body and yours closer, feeling her hands pushing you against her and yours pushing her against you. Now, you could go ahead and kiss her on the neck and continue the “flow” or, cut the flow you and her build up to a point and ask her for a kiss... (you can hear the sound of a record stopping here!). Unless you’ve whispered in her hear, with …
/r/seduction21/12/16 03:19 PM
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Yes, it does, posture is part of the body language, indeed, and it could be used to send a number of signals. Hence it must be used with the right intentions, with more non-verbal signals. Kind of “a square is a diamond but a diamond is not a square” sort of thing.
/r/seduction21/12/16 02:58 PM
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Body language =/= posture, those are different things. The importance of having a good body language: 93% of a message is done non-verbally. You can say the f*ck you want with words, if your body doesn’t reflect it, it will be as good as if you where telling something totally different. Furthermore, telling the same thing with different body language can mean different things. Going from a needy creep to a confident free minded gentleman.
/r/seduction20/12/16 09:15 PM
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At 18 you are not wasting anything, you are learning. Social skills are learned. Get someone to coach you a little bit, grow confidence, learn about social interaction and try shit out. Don’t be too hard on yourself and get going.
/r/seduction20/12/16 09:08 PM
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There is no “one rule fits all, but I can’t think of any situation where it would be better to ask than to “go” for a kiss. Still, I had some sort of success by saying something like “I don’t know how I can keep myself from kissing you right now!”.
/r/seduction20/12/16 08:34 PM
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Believe in abundance, forget scarcity. I’m not saying don’t invest yourself if you value a woman, if you share the same “scale of needs”, the same goals and TALK to her if you need to (the sex thing could be something to talk about), but don’t “settle” for someone who doesn’t fit you, doesn’t meet your need or in which you don’t meet their need. We only have but one life to live, you shouldn’t waste it settling for less because you’re afraid to take a chance and better yourself.
/r/seduction20/12/16 07:57 PM
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If you act like this with others, there’s a good chance he don’t think you have anything more for him. Kino, for women (and if I think of the times a girls kino’d me), is mostly touching at certain times. Like when you laugh, some sort of accidental touches (hands, legs), the good ol’ playing with your hair, revealing your neck, lips biting, things like that are signal of seduction and of interests. You could try that but chances are, if you are letting your “body talk”, you’re already doing man…
/r/seduction20/12/16 07:25 PM
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I think the key with kino is to “ask and listen” in non-verbal way. You are “asking” if it’s ok for you to move into her “bubble”, for say, where your knees or your arms can touch, and you’re “listening” by being aware if she stays close, moves in, or pull out, the way she “answer” non-verbally. You escalate then with a hand on the leg, for example or the lower back, or the leg touching in a semi-aware fashion. Sometimes you can get a bad reaction; you could retreat and try something else. When …
/r/seduction20/12/16 07:07 PM
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You don’t ask if someone has a crush on you, this is not a playground and you are not at school ;) Ask her out, for a drink, for a walk, for whatever you want. Just be specific, for the activity as well as for the time and place. Like “I wana show you this great hiking spot, you free next Saturday?” or whatever thing you have in common. What you are asking is “Do you want to be alone with me” in a polite, gentleman way. It also give a way out to the other person to refuse without hurting your fe…
/r/seduction20/12/16 06:29 PM
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Some guys mistake shyness for a lack of interest. Are you shy/acting shy around him?
/r/seduction20/12/16 05:16 PM
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I don’t like the “closing” mindset because it sets you on something to achieve. Thing is, you are dealing with a human; you must ASK And LISTEN, both verbally and non-verbally. Seduction is all about escalating, showing your intent and listening if other person wants to continue forward or not. Escalate and see the reaction, usually as soon as you have a physical touch, you can go in further by steps and listen to the non-verbal answer. She reciprocates, she moves in, get closer, gets shy, that’…
/r/seduction20/12/16 05:11 PM
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Why wouldn’t you want to talk with someone you see every day?
/r/seduction20/12/16 04:50 PM
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Yes, it is! Some things are better asked in a non-verbal manner. You don’t ask to put a hand on her laps, you do and you “listen” to the non-verbal response (Leaning in, moving out, gets shy, etc.). Basically, you show confidence by talking a leap of faith and “listen” to the reaction. Same goes for a kiss. If she responds, kiss you back, push forward, pull you it’s a non verbal yes. If she doesn’t, she’ll push you, pull back, turn her face, something like this, it’s a non-verbal no. As long as …
/r/seduction20/12/16 04:50 PM
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Trick 1: When your brain sends “insecurity” message, give it a name, other than yours and don’t take it as a truth, but rather as an opinion. Most of the time, the inner monologue pulling you down is wrong, you can tell “shut up [name]!” and go forward. Trick 2: Propose a time and place, she asked you to hang out, tell her you’re free Saturday (or whatever day), propose her to come over to your place. “Smoke and chill” is a massive signal, she not only want to do something with you, she want to …
/r/seduction16/12/16 09:28 PM
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My vision and you are free to share it or not, this entire “number close/kiss close/lay close” is counterproductive and it might be the cause of the “denial”. We have to keep in mind that it is human we deal with. There is no “one size fit all” formula in this, and we should focus on connecting and understanding the other. Many aspects of NLP, of rapport building and on seduction are badly understood and aimed at the wrong end. Like Pacing and leading, for example, is not to make someone else “f…
/r/seduction16/12/16 07:24 PM
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Going in the same way as OP, no one will be perfect, ever! Perfectionism is most likely the source for impostor syndrome and feeling of inadequacy. We should always focus on being the best person we can be and improve our self as much as we can. Being the best we can be means it’s dependent on the environment, on our current state, on many factors. Like the “best” me when I have the flu is not going to achieve the same as the “best” me when I’m well.
/r/seduction16/12/16 05:25 PM
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Was gonna reply, you explained it so rightfully it’s not really worth it to write the same thing! Many errors by OP, ranching of neediness, putting her in a pedestal, telling too early he likes her, with text. Text book example of what not to do! Most Guys “fall in love”, instantly. Most Women “grow” to love, over time. Men are genetically made to “plant the seed” ASAP and can “move on with their lifes”. Women need to analyse more, if they are “seeded”, they will be for a while, have to nurture …
/r/seduction16/12/16 05:09 PM
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That Push and pull for ya! She did it to you and hooked you up, now you’re doing it to her and she feels she wana get more into you! Seems like you could “rescue” this one by continuing the pattern, you can go and use the good ol’ “Two step forward, one step back” approach but don’t take it too seriously, too rigorously. It’s all fun and games so it’s about “playing” around. Be independent, be confident, and don’t focus on “getting her”, rather let her be and enjoy things you do together. If you…
/r/seduction16/12/16 03:15 PM
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One thing I learned in life is that when you are able to enjoy life by yourself, be independent from anyone, it changes your perspective on everything. Find activities you enjoy, push yourself to be the best in those activities and your social circle will grow around what you really enjoy in life! When you have fun in living, in the day to day, you don’t need someone by your side, but when it appends, it’s icing on the cake! You should also read “models” by Mark Mansion, it would help greatly!
/r/seduction16/12/16 02:08 PM
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Thing is, people make choices based on THEIR values, on THEIR OWN “scale of need”, and life goes to THEIR filters built from THEIR experiences. The only thing we can do, as human, is to give out best so it is the only question you should ask yourself: Did I give her the best of me or did I keep myself from being arm for whatever reason. The rest is up to the other to accept or refuse. And they are entitled to chose whichever they think best for THEM. You can make the best damn apple pie in the w…
/r/seduction16/12/16 01:38 PM
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Take a class, join a club (Sporting club, like bike or running has some fit babes!), get out, go into events, live show, happy hours, things like that.
/r/seduction15/12/16 09:23 PM
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You’re over thinking this. What you want is to show your interest and see if she reciprocates. Best way to do this: Make a move (polarize her). You’ll have your answer. Don’t ask her if she’s into you, take a f*cking chance, escalate, touch her, get in close and land a kiss. If she asks why you doing this, answer the truth, “‘cause I like you!” Little boys asks questions, play stupid games. Real man takes chances.
/r/seduction15/12/16 09:20 PM
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Do you have a hard time starting conversation or just maintaining them and integer some sort of sexual content? Starting conversation: I use the “location/occasion approach”, How do you know this place? What kind of drink/meal you like here? Are you here with friends? Having fun right now? Etc. Anything that brings you to the “here and now” state. You could extent to whatever she is wearing, plant a little emotions along the way to get things going. Maintaining conversation: The key here is to L…
/r/seduction13/12/16 06:42 PM
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Try headspace, it's an app that helps you learn to meditate. Helps a lot! Also, try to find a sport you enjoy, something that will help you push a little. Could be running, biking, crossfit, baseball, hockey, football, gym, whatever. It will help the mind greatly. There’s a couple of great books out there that could help you. You can start by “The Four Agreements”, it’s quite concise and can be read in no time. There are audiobook versions also available. But, please consider that on any book, y…
/r/seduction13/12/16 05:27 PM
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With all due respect, did you do something similar once in your life and ended up getting laid? You see, most women need to feel somewhat safe before doing anything. There’s a fine line between being gentleman and being a creep, this goes well beyond this line.
/r/seduction13/12/16 04:53 PM
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Are you “listening” to her (not only the word but the actions also) or more like “driver the conversation”? Do you usually built rapport before you move in?
/r/seduction13/12/16 04:43 PM
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Confidence goes a long way, the concept of beauty is “workable”, meaning that if you work out, live well, have a fun and fulfilling life, project confidence, etc, any “5” (based o fn facial symmetry) can be perceived as a lot more (7-8) with the right “setup”. That being said, the idea with kino escalation is both to try a certain level of intimacy and wait for reciprocity. What you are doing is asking (at the subconscious level) if the other person is ok with you moving into their “bubble” and,…
/r/seduction13/12/16 03:39 PM
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