how to not to desperate?

joazito · 2017-04-14T10:38:10+00:00

What traits? Why do they say that? And why don't you agree?

Jack__Knife · 2017-04-14T14:05:07+00:00

Guys need two things, female affection + sex. Nice guys: want affection before sex. That is their ineffective mating strategy. Bad boys : want sex before affection, hence their success.

Reverse your pattern to succeed.

Jack__Knife · 2017-04-14T17:16:33+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pz_-D0qZXL8

sanketvaria29 · 2017-04-21T16:15:59+00:00

Ok, I'll tell you something. First of all, remember life is hard and everything is to be earned friendship, love, money, affection, sex, relationship etc. and they need a lot of work. Now on your question, how to not appear desperate... Here are tips -

1) Set Standards - Don't just go after a girl merely because she appears beautiful. I know this is stereotyping, but a lot of beautiful women are pretty boring as they only talk about themselves. Yet, they get most attention. You must have your standards about what kind of girl do you want. Identify, what you will and what you will not tolerate in a relationship.

2) Have a personality - I am an Indian and sadly most Indian men lack any personality (Sorry, but this is the truth). To be better than them, you must be different in a good way obviously. So, focus on self improvement first. Most people in young age tend to think getting a girl would make them happy or a better person. No, it doesn't. Make sure, you're mature enough to handle complexities of dating and relationships (both sexual and non-sexual). People tend to think they're ready for one, but gradually realize that they weren't, it further leads to change in priorties and then to breakups.

3) Don't chase women - I don't mean to not approach women. But again, it is likely that a lot of guys are drooling over the girl you like, and this could be a confidence killer. Talk to women as if they are a regular person and not some heavenly angels. Don't think so much about impressing them. Just be confident, a bit of stylish. Stylish as in a style that suits you. Don't try to copy someone like a film actor or a celebrity. Have your own style. And never get too attached to someone. Having a factor like that could be used to make girls chase you. A little chasing should be from female side as well. But don't try too hard

4) Learn to move on if a girl doesn't give attention - These girls are NOT rude because of Indian culture or something. Indian girls do befriend people like anybody else. If a girls says No, let her go and be chill about it. They're rude because they don't see you the way you want to project yourself. Hence, there is a sort of incompatibility that must be addressed. Having your standards will help you to understand where the problem lies.

5) Find an excuse to talk to a new girl - When you approach a woman, don't just go for it randomly. You need some kind of excuse or to be precise a common topic for conversation. It could be anything Studies, projects, or anything. In India, you'll appear as a creep if you don't have something in common to start with. Gradually, become friends with them. I am socially awkward, but I used to help some girls in studies and then became friends with them. So, I have a lot of beautiful female friends and they respect me even though I am physically ugly.

6) Don't consciously look out for love or affection - This might sound a bit controversial. But what I mean is don't start conversation initially with this intention. When you project this thing at initial point, it appears like you are desperate. Just be in moment, and let conversations flow naturally for a while. Use this to get to know her and judge her as per your set standards. Once you get the excuse as in 5th point, your conversations and discussion flow naturally so tak it from their

7) Don't be too agreeable - Every individual as his own opinion. Yes, having different opinion could lead to arguments, but it is not a bad thing. Just don't be an asshole about it. If you have a different opinion about something than a girl, say it.

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Title	how to not to desperate?
Author	sanketvaria29
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Date	April 14, 2017 10:13 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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