So 2 major problems I've been having lately are online girls that when I get the number they say "let's get to know each other on here more first". Another is when a date goes really well and things get physical, the next day or so I get a text saying "Hey we moved to fast I need some time to process". I know the first is because I haven't built up enough attraction and the latter is because I haven't built up enough comfort. What I'm wondering is how to respond to these when they do come up.