How to reschedule this scenario

DaygameCode · 2024-05-31T16:58:36+00:00

Never say to women stuff like that”let me know when you are free” “text me when your schedule frees up” “let me know when you can hang out”… The hangout must be your initiative always. If you are ready to give up then give up but never leave the ball in her court because when women say they’ll let you know, they won’t let you know. Men are the ones to make things happen and women follow. Women don’t want to take the lead.

Women don’t think in terms of “_oh look i am free now, let me call this guy to tell him that i’m finally free, so that he plans a date_”. Women expect the guy to take the initiative and suggests fun plans that they don’t wanna miss out.

But women don’t like having to tell a guy “hey remember me? i am finally free, where were you thinking of taking me?”

It’s just not how women like typically flow with a guy. They’ll simply think if he is interested, he will call me. It doesn’t matter if the girl says she’ll let you know, their words mean nothing in this context.

SaaSWriters · 2024-05-31T17:31:29+00:00

She doesn’t want you.

First of all, using those weird words just shows that you don’t know what you’re doing.

Second, she doesn’t want to see you.

If you persist, she’ll either ghost, or you’ll end up back here sharing more drama.

Respect yourself.

Let her go.

Even if she comes back to you, let her go.

Judgy_hobby · 2024-05-31T19:25:39+00:00

Woman’s perspective : 1. Woman DO NOT like men who ignore us. We like attention. I’m not sure why so many give this advice but it’s very bad.
2. Her message is just stating that she is working. When I had a weekend job my messages were similar. 3. Not offering to reschedule by her also means nothing . Giving you the times that she is working is also giving you the times she is free. See if she wants to grab a drink after work? 4. The post that says , don’t ask her to reach out . True. Don’t ask her to. If you really want to be impressive, don’t ask her anything . Plan where you’re going and the entire date. Woman love it when men take charge. It’s the hottest thing a man can do.

norwegiandoggo · 2024-05-31T16:51:23+00:00

You can't reschedule if she's not interested in rescheduling. Her message shows you that she's not interested in that at this time.

The chances that any response or non-response will change her from disinterested to interested is small.

Best principles dictate you should act cool and unphased by rejection. And this is a rejection. So any reply you may send should indicate that you're cool and chill about it. And you're not trying to push for another meeting right away.

This is just a guess, and you will need to confirm with her to know for sure. But I think she isn't ready to have sex this early and she got a bit turned off by the prospect of you asking her this early. If so, That's okay - you may be wanting to move at different speeds. You could have navigated a bit better by proactively asking her how quickly or slowly she normally likes to take things when dating. Then you perhaps wouldn't have asked her to go home with her, and she wouldn't have to reject you.

The way I see it: this "how fast to go towards sex" thing is potentially the biggest problem between you and you aren't talking about it so it's not being solved.

You could try to ask her if she felt like you asked her to get home with her too soon. See if that can be worked out. If she says "yes it was too soon" you can then renegotiate a slower plan - showing you have respect for her preferences. This could provide a path towards another date. But again, she could just have lost interest to the point where you can't salvage the situation no matter what you say. Maybe it's one of those cases where you want casual sex and she wants a relationship. And if so, you're not a good match.

Unable-Mail125 · 2024-05-31T16:53:53+00:00

No don’t say that, you are asking for a flake. Ideally you would have already talked about meeting up again and doing xyz, and that includes knowing a rough idea of when she usually has work. But the problem now is shes become hesitant bcos sex is expected since thats where you left things. I would ask her if you can see her after work or alternatively ask which day works best. But i would suggest doing something other than going for drinks, so you can rebuild comfort with her.

Dandys3107 · 2024-06-01T11:35:10+00:00

"So, maybe we can meet earlier then?"

It feels like she may have lost that emotional high from your last meeting, therefore you need to bring it back quickly. Don't leave your relation unattended, especially in the beginning. Don't act relaxed and positive when she declines your invitation without reschedule. Either reignite your sexual attraction or be prepared for parting ways.

Title	How to reschedule this scenario
Author	Brilliant-Active9195
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	May 31, 2024 3:44 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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