How to start grinding with girls?

FecklessPhilanderer · 2012-10-01T19:28:16+00:00

The goal is to get her grinding on you, not grind on her.

Open

Hip bump and a slightly accusatory look (with a smile) [You should be able to do this easily if you're dancing 'alpha' and taking up space]
She bumps into you on a crowded floor, "Oy watch where you're going", slightly serious face into a smirky smile
Maintain eye contact and come up to her fairly close, smirk/hey/sexy eyes, she will grind up on you
Catch eye contact and hold out your hand, maybe spin her like the other guy says

Middle

Push/pull, have some fun, tease yourself and her
Lead her around, take her to a place with less traffic of people moving through etc. Isolate!
Don't be afraid to leave and re-engage, someone might sweep in but if you've done a good job she'll probably welcome your return
If you're feeling ballsy/slutty you can move towards a wall to 'lock in' and eventually have your back to the wall and get some dutty winding n shit (this shouldn't go on for very long before you just take her home)

End

Finish strong and on your terms, if you're getting bored, she probably will too, so do something exciting and get her outta there! Or lead her to a calmer area, near her friends if possible and give her a comforting version of 'I gotta catch up with my friends' by resting your hand on her lower back and giving her some eye contact loving and a nice smile.
Always get the # (if only for practice, but especially because she might not be around when you get back) and text her something funny you saw in the bar/outside/whatever with some callback humor if possible. When in doubt DGAF.

In order to VASTLY improve your overall chance, pre-open everyone you can. That means say whatsup (in some form) to everyone in your proximity, it's especially easy to just make a positive comment on articles of clothing. With pre-opening try not to get stuck, just comment, intro if possible and leave. You'll warm up this way, and also have familiar people on the floor = not a player/creeper.

2012-10-01T16:32:58+00:00

I just made a really long post about basically this here.

To sum it up, unless a girl knows she is hunting for a guy or wants to get sloppy, it's a bit of a crap shoot to just walk up and rub pelvis. If she is already eye fucking you, sure go for it. Most girls are at the club to dance and have fun with their friends. Meeting guys is not their primary goal. Try starting with eye contact, smile, then taking her hand or both hands. Spin her around and show that you're both having fun doing it. It's less threatening and gets you dancing with her. If you have her hand, you can start moving her around, and get her hands to touch you and close the gap.

Title	How to start grinding with girls?
Author	Kidcurry
Upvotes	7
Comments	4
Date	October 1, 2012 3:44 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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