tl:dr an ldr girl I'm seeing texts me everyday that she loves me but won't commit to see me. How to do untangle my mistakes without coming off as a whiny bitch?

I'm (27M) relatively inexperienced in dating and new to the seduction game. I got married straight out of college to my highschool sweetheart, we were together a few years and eventually we divorced when I was 25, and I've only had a couple girlfriends since then. After a few years of serious dating frustration I decided to seek advice from dating coaches and the like to improve my chances with women and also reduce the stress of dating.

Unfortunately, I've realized that I've made a lot of mistakes with one of the women I've been seeing and I was hoping I could get some advice on how to untangle my mess. I met this woman (31F) about 6 months ago a wedding and we hit it off well. I got her number and we started contacting each other and made plans to see each other again.

Where I went wrong: She's pretty fucking hot and I'm probably a solid 6 or 7. As a result, I began acting weak and needy because I believed the BS for so long that I thought I could talk my way into a relationship with her. I made myself extremely available to her and have waited on her beck and call. She's been able to sense this weakness and as a result has jerked me around a bit. The times we have seen each other she gave me "maybes" in the beginning but at last minute finally granted me the "yes". When we make phone dates she's regularly late and often blows me off last minute. I haven't placed value on my time so neither has she.

My dilemma: I've grown frustrated because even though she reaches out and texts me EVERYDAY, it's been months since we've seen each other but I can't get her to commit to a definite date. After doing extensive reading and listening from dating coaches and even this subreddit I know how I should handle flaky women:

Remove your attention until they agree to a definite date. Then when do they reach out, try to set a date. If they flake, tell them to call you when their schedule clears up. The next time they reach out, assume they're reaching out because they want to see you.

This presents a problem for me because she texts me everyday and I've unfortunately fed that habit up until this point. Last time we saw each other we exchanged "I love you"s and she'll just text me out of the blue "love you" and I feel compelled to respond because I don't want any drama. I've surrendered my power and she has me exactly where she wants me: she gets validation of my attention without putting in the effort of seeing me.

My question: How do I go about pulling back my attention from her and creating distance without coming off as passive aggressive or revealing my frustration? I'm not interested in creating a bunch of drama and whining that I don't get to see her. I want to express and abundance mentality and let her come to me. How should I handle it when she texts me everyday but still won't set a definite date with me?

PS: I will be posting this in multiple subs because I want a lot of advice. Don't @ me bitching about it.