Hi all, Earlier this year i (m32) ended the relationship with my 'oneitis'. We were together for nearly 13 years. I did some Work on myself, got Back in shape and worked a bit on my Game. Why do i mention this? Because i think that my Natural Intuition on how its going got lost. I thought the relationship went great until the Point of No Return was far beyond me, and all i could do is end it.

After some Casual hookups at Parties i decided that thats nothing for me. Online Dating was the way to Go. 100 Matches, 15 dates, some good, some Bad experiences later, i finally found someone that i Like more than the others.

She, 26, is great. Good Sense of Humor, Same values and lifestyle as me. I dont want to Put her on a depestal, but i Like her. We Hit IT Off, went on 4 dates in little over a week, Had good times, nice Sex, All fine. Even met her sister - in a very Casual way, for Like 5 min only. I realize that i start making mistakes. at this Point they dont have any Impact and im quite certain that she is interested in me,too, but If i continue making them, they will. The mistakes im talking about are Feeling the need to justify a Lot (Without her giving me the vibes, Its coming from inside me), talking a Lot about the Future, being in a relationship etc., cant wait for her next Message (Just so i know everything is fine). We talked about taking it slow and having a time, Date by Date, with a potential relationship down the Line, and are both fine with it, but i feel Like Sometimes i give her needy vibes, which i instantly regret right after. Normally im Not that clingy, i never Had Problems of that Kind.

I realized about myself that, yes, i Like having Somebody around me, yes i do Like her, but this HAS TO STOP. Also i realized that i hate Dating, doesnt Matter If its online, day- or nightgame. Doing the Same stuff, telling the Same Stories, cracking the Same Jokes seems so superficial to me. I also dont want to Go on through another 100 Matches and Dates. I know that there are other wonderful women Out there, that would make a really good Match for me. But i dont want to be the one Who fucks Up whatever i have with this Girl.

Tldr: any Tipps on how how to Not be needy/clingy?