I am seeking wisdom and I need help

I am an 18 year old black guy and I need help getting girls. So let me to explain A lot of people know me and bacon to be funny and from what I hear people actually like having me around,But one of the biggest problems I face is that when I try to get Girls to like me it always falls through. A couple things you should know about me. I’m a bigger guy but recently I’ve been getting my life together and I’m gonna try to build muscle and lose weight so that’s good Secondly when I am interested. In someone I tend to go a 110% and I don’t really allow the feelings to go and it seems to push them away which is understandable. What can I do to control my Expectations? Third of All i find it difficult to keep a conversation going with a girl so what can I do to keep the conversation interesting and going? Fourth of all how do I attract women and make them come to me? The clothes I wear don’t really stand out and my shoes aren’t really Jordans or anything

In terms of looks I remember smoke people saying I am not ugly but I am also not good looking. But yeah any advice would be great to have and I am Really interested in hearing your thoughts on what I should do

[–]codewizbambam 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Sounds a bit like you're still trying to play roles to get girls, or at least try to hard. Play the following role when trying to get a girl: the real you. Girls do not react well if you are trying to make them like you. They react to seeing your real character. Thats basically how females really evaluate your attractiveness, they do that when you show your real character to them. If you're trying to play roles, or trying to execute techniques with an agenda, you turn them off. If you show your real self and who you are, even if you show vulnerability, it's usually a turn on. Again, if you try to consciously think "what can I now do to make that girl like me" you're basically already headed for turning her off.

I repeat, don't follow a conscious agenda, don't play roles. Instead, don't hide the real you, and if you go that route, character and some charme go a long way. An important step is oftentimes to learn how to show real vulnerability without being ashamed. If you approach girls and try to pretend that you're Mr. I-got-it-all-handled-perfectly, at some point she will start to think you're probably a scary psychopath or so.

Learn to drop all masks and all agendas, and they will deem you much more attractive.

Title	I am seeking wisdom and I need help
Author	dekamaster898
Upvotes	0
Comments	1
Date	May 6, 2019 5:17 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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