I've been going through the growing pains of being new to this since September. I've been getting better but have still been shot down by countless girls... I was at a party over the weekend and a girl that I really liked was there (the first 'target' that I've had in a while that was from my social circle, instead of from cold approaching). She seemed like girlfriend material and was giving me (what my friends and I thought were strong IOI's). I've had oneitis problems before but the rejections didn't bother me too much. I wanted to make my move on her at this party... some other really hot girl there was super into me, but I wanted the other girl... And long story short, the girl I really liked ended up fucking one of my other friends in the bathroom and I was devastated by it (not one of my friends that knew I liked her). I've lost chicks to other guys tons of times, but I don't know why this ones bothering me so much