I have no problem establishing a more personal relationship with people, but I have a problem meeting them.

Levithos · 2013-05-26T12:51:45+00:00

You remind me of me when I was younger. You're smart with an IQ possibly in the top 10% of the entire statw you're in. But there was a man who told me something that sticks with me to this day. He was a homeless man that would be near the bus stop I used everyday after school. He noticed I would be by myself all the time. When he asked why, I basically said what you said. Then he looks me in the eyes and says "so you're so smart?! What's my name? What's my story? You don't know, you can't know cause you didn't ask. Never tried to get to know anyone." This has stayed with me for the past 15 years. What was his story? What was that girl's story, or the guy walking down the street? Thing is, if you only look for intellectual conversation, stay in academia. I'll tell you, it gets boring. Theory, theory, theory, nothing gets past theory. Now talk to someone that looks down on their luck. They may not have an IQ as high as yours, but they'll know things you don't because of their experiences. I think that's the point of making connections: sharing experiences.

pacg · 2013-05-26T12:47:29+00:00

Look at small talk as an opportunity to test your conversational prowess. Small talk is the opportunity to demonstarate to another person that you're safe. You should also be mindful of how your sarcastic tendencies play on people, how you may be perceived. Don't stop being sarcastic, but refine it. Use it strategically and appropriately. For instance, you know when someone you meet is sensitive, so don't hit him or her with sarcasm. They'll likely interpret it as aggression, judgment, and disapproval.

2013-05-26T13:40:22+00:00

"I get frustrated by boring and/or stupid people"...

don't be a dick and give real introverts who are also smart a bad name...

based on your description of yourself, you tone of voice in your post, I can already tell that you are kind of an ass. even as an introvert getting a phd myself, I don't think I want to talk to you. Doesn't matter how smart YOU think you are.

so to answer your question, yes there is. Stop being a douche and actually want to meet people. It seems like you think you are too good for everyone else.

Endoss · 2013-05-26T14:01:21+00:00

You sound like you think you're better than everyone because you're smart and that 'regular' people arent good enough to talk with you.

I used to have this mindset when I was a high schooler but now I get that I'm not as smart as I thought I was and thinking of others as beneath you because they're not as smart as you makes you look like a total faggot.

Who cares if someone's not as smart as you? I have friends that are dumb, friends much smarter than me, friends that grew up here, friends that grew up elsewhere. I have a variety of friends and I don't exclude any of them just because of one quality they may or may not have. They're fun to be around. Friends are about an emotional connection and above average intelligence isn't required in order to have that.

Title	I have no problem establishing a more personal relationship with people, but I have a problem meeting them.
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Date	May 26, 2013 11:00 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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