Hi r/seduction,

It’s weird trying to think of how to begin this. It’s probably not even that uncommon of a situation. I live in a new city (LA/South Bay), I’m about to turn 23, and I’m fucking fed up with my current lifestyle. I’ve put off dabbling in this for too long and as a result am pretty much back at ground zero. I have a lot of things going for me – decent job that I really enjoy, well paid and no loans (thanks mom and dad), I look good, I eat clean and work out, dress well, but the reality is that underneath all that I am a boring fucking loser. I have some friends my age from work and random meetings, but I don’t have a consistent social circle, I haven’t met people to go out with, and I don’t have anything cool going on in my life. I got to LA around three months ago and every day has turned into the same grind of work, coming home, cooking/eating, video games, some TV, random RSD videos, reading, working out/running, chores on weekend, repeat. Maybe some intermittent random parties every few weeks.

Anyway, I’m terrified of how little I’ve accomplished in the past year and am fucking putting my foot down now and committing to changing my lifestyle. Back when I turned 21 I was going out a lot, I would pull occasionally, I would have fun with my college buddies, there would be good nights and bad nights, and then I just kind of dropped off. I can’t even explain why – just laziness and relapsing into old bad habits. And I know at 21 I wanted to be way, way ahead of where I am now at almost 23. I live in the pickup capital of the world now and don’t want to waste any more time.