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Women don't like NiceGuys(TM) with a subversive agenda. Being a White Knight is not something to be proud of.
/r/seduction27/10/19 03:59 PM
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Thanks for clarifying. That doesn't change my point, though, because the person you originally commented under was discussing their own rating of themselves, not the possible rating that a woman might give them on a dating site. The image you linked is not related to how people rate themselves, and still doesn't have anything to do with actual attractiveness and averages. You have no reason at all to think the person typing that couldn't be considered attractive. good try though Not sure why you…
/r/seduction23/08/18 04:40 PM
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You've just directly contradicted yourself, so which is it? > 1-10 scale gets abused too much and everyone rates 6-9 ​ but then immediately ​ >that's not what women believe...women nailed the 80/20 rule perfectly ​ You said people rate too highly then pointed to an image indicating people rate too low. ​ Is there an actual source on that image? Is it based purely on swipes or engagement, and how did they control for the amount of effort that men or women put into their dating profiles, as well a…
/r/seduction23/08/18 05:39 AM
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It's literally impossible for "most people" to be below average.
/r/seduction22/08/18 11:06 PM
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NOTE: I did not contribute to this article in any way, so all credit to the original author(s). I stumbled across it on accident and, while it is quite lengthy, it makes some great points.
/r/seduction17/12/17 06:51 PM
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I wouldn't normally recommend touching someone if you don't already have their attention, especially with headphones in. If you can walk up to her and get her attention from the front that's a bit different. Ultimately, you had opportunities to make something happen, and you let them pass. Lesson learned.
/r/seduction16/12/17 07:01 PM
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Only you're losing that game, because u/__manbeast__ is demonstrating at least a shred of personal responsibility, and you are showing every single hallmark of incel behavior that he isn't at all.
/r/seduction16/12/17 06:01 PM
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All that failure and you lack the self-awareness to think that maybe, if you did actually practice that much, the problem is you? It's really about whether you have the right genetics or not. Literally go anywhere there are humans and you'll clearly see that this is wildly untrue. You can't be "good" with women Yes you can, and you're proving this point. It's all about preselection based on genetics that you're born with. It's fucking bullshit. You come here from r/incels? This is also obviously…
/r/seduction16/12/17 05:56 PM
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Keep in mind that work and school are bettering yourself, even if not directly related to seduction. I'd never suggest quitting school or your job just for the sake of more personal time, for all the reasons you already laid out. Things cost money; keep the job. You're tasting adult life now and having trouble adjusting, which is completely normal. The thing is, this is reality for the rest of life for the vast majority of people. You'll graduate and have less "school" soon, but at that point wo…
/r/seduction26/11/17 10:14 PM
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Does some sort of sacrifice need to be made to leave time for myself Yes. Welcome to life, my friend. How can I find the time I need to improve myself without dodging my responsibilities? See above. Nobody "finds" time; it passes the same way for all of us. People make time for their priorities. You're a very busy uni student which isn't uncommon at all, but it's not about to get any easier. Life is a constant balance of all manner of different responsibilities, so you need to decide when and wh…
/r/seduction26/11/17 09:44 PM
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It just takes practice. As you do it more you'll realize that there aren't any "real" consequences to rejection, and it will become easier to learn in the way that you want. Give it some time.
/r/seduction26/11/17 09:40 PM
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Without telling us what "displayed neediness" actually meant, it's hard to give any solid answer. Generally, give space and invite out again and escalate.
/r/seduction26/11/17 09:16 PM
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Assume attraction and invite her out if that's what you want. That'll answer your question right away.
/r/seduction26/11/17 09:07 PM
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Good luck mate.
/r/seduction26/11/17 04:40 PM
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we should go for drinks sometime Offers no value and doesn't really warrant a response. "Drinks" can happen anywhere and "sometime" isn't a time. Next time you're inviting someone out, invite them to something specific. The plan you made for Sunday sounds better. There could be any number of reasons she hit you with that but frankly, they're irrelevant. Tell her the truth and take whatever answer you get. Ultimately, if you lay out your desires and intent, you've succeeded, regardless of her res…
/r/seduction26/11/17 03:29 PM
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This thread wasn't for you.
/r/seduction26/11/17 12:24 AM
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Yes.
/r/seduction25/11/17 09:45 PM
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Go do something fun and interactive and give it some time.
/r/seduction25/11/17 08:42 PM
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Depending on where you were, I might have passed on getting in a car with a strange chick and three guys too. Even if she was genuinely just picking you up, there's no sense in fretting about it. If you want to, invite her out another time. If it doesn't happen, there are always more and nobody has a %100 rate.
/r/seduction25/11/17 08:41 PM
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"Fit" is not the same as "not overweight" or "really ripped". Fitness should primarily be about your health and effectiveness, and the good looks happen to be a pleasant side-effect unless you're actually intent on being a bodybuilder, for example. Every human, not just people interested in seduction, should care about their fitness. That doesn't mean everyone should hit big weights at the gym, but at least do some form(s) of physical activity whether it's climbing, cycling, lifting, organized s…
/r/seduction25/11/17 03:42 PM
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www.google.com
/r/seduction25/11/17 03:32 PM
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Go out with the people who will join you and don't put too much effort into people who don't. Some people are genuinely busy, as life goes, but there's no sense in persistently asking the same people to join you if they persistently turn you down.
/r/seduction25/11/17 03:32 PM
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Sidebar. Sleep more than you study Study more than you party Party as hard as you possibly can
/r/seduction25/11/17 02:18 AM
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"Hi".
/r/seduction25/11/17 02:16 AM
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Edit the post to clarify exactly what you're asking about. Simply posting a movie quote without any context or explanation is pretty useless.
/r/seduction24/11/17 09:51 PM
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...and?
/r/seduction24/11/17 09:19 PM
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...What?
/r/seduction24/11/17 07:26 PM
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What do you guys think I should reply with? If you genuinely are ok with being just friends and staying that way, you can invite her out with a group another time. Next time, rather than asking if she'd "be interested in meeting up in the future?", actually make a specific, interactive plan and invite her to join you.
/r/seduction24/11/17 07:25 PM
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Like u/abstractpickupartist said, frats and sororities have events that you must attend. Not only this, but you should be working your way up the hierarchy of your fraternity as best you can. Growing up... The past already happened and therefore the only thing about it that matters is what you can learn. Nothing that girls used to call you is relevant anymore at all. It's more complicated It's not. Many of us went through this because we all had childhoods. Again, the only way to improve this is…
/r/seduction18/11/17 03:07 PM
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Unless you're in a strangely small frat at a bizarrely religious school, you'll get the practice you need in no time. Feelings of anxiety are completely normal if you haven't had any experience before, but you simply need to suffer through that initial discomfort and practice anyway. It will be uncomfortable the first handful of times, but don't let physiological sensations stop you from making intentional decisions for improvement. Stay social, make the focus having a great time and not a speci…
/r/seduction18/11/17 03:07 AM
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Sounds like you just fear rejection and you're convincing yourself otherwise in an incredibly roundabout way. Step out of that comfort zone and start going after what you want.
/r/seduction13/11/17 11:11 PM
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I mean, if you aren't actually interested in seeing that girl again, it's not a problem to be aloof in that case because it wouldn't be fake. Again though, if you would have actually asked her out when she was giving you all that attention and you just never did at all, that would be your fault. Learn to build the tension and release rather than just letting it fall away, if you're actually interested.
/r/seduction13/11/17 09:51 PM
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Many of the leading PUA's and coaches are your age or older. Don't let social conditioning be your excuse; you're already defying society's general expectations by traveling around the world. This really is all in your head. Think about it this way; you get to be the guy who doesn't count. That can be a wonderful thing if you aren't purposefully looking for a long-term, settled-down relationship. Plenty of women would love to have a secret weekend with a mysterious, traveling lover that they kno…
/r/seduction13/11/17 08:28 PM
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Agree and Amplify is the general rule. Taking improv classes can also help.
/r/seduction13/11/17 08:24 PM
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You're fine; don't put too much stock into massive over-generalizations like that. If you like being with her and want the relationship, keep enjoying it and have fun. There's no need to worry about who she's dated previously unless something legitimate can be learned from it.
/r/seduction13/11/17 08:24 PM
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it's that I am way too aloof/uncaring on purpose because I don't want to look desperate or like I need them Being aloof/uncaring is most effective if it's real, not faked for some result or another. Girls like guys who are aloof because they actually have other options, not guys who simply pretend otherwise. people thought I was LITERALLY GAY This isn't "blowing them off to not look like a loser"; it's completely and purposefully (whether or not you're aware) hiding from your own masculinity and…
/r/seduction13/11/17 08:10 PM
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You never need an "excuse" to talk to somebody; just talk to them. Like u/recyclablebanthas said, if you can't think of anything to think about you either aren't curious about her, which will turn her off right away, or you just aren't listening. I imagine you don't have this problem with your friends, so treat it like that.
/r/seduction13/11/17 07:50 PM
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u/SnapSocialGuru AND u/recyclablebanthas in the same thread is a great time for all.
/r/seduction13/11/17 03:59 PM
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It's completely about values. Secrets don't need to be shared unless there's a valuable reason for doing so, and shouldn't be the core of your character anyway.
/r/seduction11/11/17 06:19 PM
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Vulnerability isn't about sharing things for the sake of sharing things, especially in the way Mark writes. It's about being authentic with your values, boundaries, and desires and not letting the (often imaginary) opinions of others stop you. It plays into the concept of Polarizing, especially. For example, if you feel shame about smoking (not sure why you would), you don't have to broadcast it just for the sake of appearing vulnerable. Likewise with your virginity; you don't have to bring that…
/r/seduction06/11/17 09:23 PM
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Is the rest of your life in order? If you're basing your idea of success on the validation of women, which is entirely beyond your control, you'll almost always feel unworthy. If, however, you find your success in all the other areas of your life that you control, you'll have a much better way to gauge what you're actually worth. If you're struggling with mental health, get help. If you're bored, take up new hobbies. If you don't have solid friends, find some. If you aren't satisfied with work, …
/r/seduction06/11/17 09:09 PM
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It's almost never said outright and normally follows simple escalation. One thing to note, though, especially if you aren't wanting to cheat: Rather than that, I wish to acquire a skillset that I did not have much chance to develop well enough This is best done with a consistent partner. Honestly, start experimenting more with your current partner if you want to try and learn new things. Many one night stands are totally sub-par and lack all the understanding and communication that you and your …
/r/seduction05/11/17 10:46 PM
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I do disagree with your belief that science say's self love doesn't work Nowhere in my post did I say anything like that, and I even outlined that I agreed with the core of the message on several occasions. I pointed out specific instances where I thought OP was wrong, quoted them in my post, and responded clearly. If my wording was the issue, any point could have been addressed directly in the same way. I'm alright with you making your own assumptions, but at this point you're intentionally mis…
/r/seduction04/11/17 08:59 PM
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Realize your perception is colored with pessimist tinted glasses. No. I'll start by saying my perception is colered by a degree with specific research experience in the field of positive psychology, the very subject being discussed. My dissent is not founded in pessimism but evidence-based science. And you assume he is saying... I didn't assume; I read what he wrote. The only person making assumptions about other perspectives so far is you. with putting in that effort, your mental state will bec…
/r/seduction04/11/17 08:19 PM
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I have no problem with the acceptance of having negative emotions, but I absolutely have a problem with the harmful and incorrect misinformation that doing so, with no other effort whatsoever, will somehow magically turn around a poor lifestyle and/or mental illness.
/r/seduction04/11/17 04:43 PM
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the true concept of it is not widely understood. As it's primarily subjective, this makes sense. If what we’re feeling or thinking is naturally arising, why is it wrong? Cancer is naturally occurring. AIDS is naturally occurring. Flesh burning away when one sticks their hand into a fire is naturally occurring. "Natural = good" is just a stupid idea, on its head. Perhaps that's not the point you're going for, but I wanted to clarify. we can control our actions, but that’s about it Exactly, and th…
/r/seduction04/11/17 12:45 AM
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Excellent contribution.
/r/seduction01/11/17 06:19 AM
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But my anxiety kicked in and I started thinking about how I have nothing to say Imaginary problem. All you have to do is say hello or comment on anything going on around you. Simply, "Hi, I'm u/p0r1x" would suffice. They talk too; they'll help carry a conversation if you're out to have fun.
/r/seduction01/11/17 03:57 AM
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Occasional fluff is good if it's something funny or relevant to something that happened to the both of you on your first date. Otherwise, set the plan, hit her up the day before to confirm, then enjoy the next date. If you reach the point where you're making conversation for its own sake, it's time to stop.
/r/seduction01/11/17 03:55 AM
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You don't. You invite her out to another setting. At best, you can stick to light, social touches like high fives, arm taps, etc, but trying to actually escalate in a classroom or study session (unless it's a "study session") is silly.
/r/seduction01/11/17 03:53 AM
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If your focus is on a girl who's already taken, you aren't meeting enough women. Perhaps she should be in the friendzone for you and you can use her to meet her single friends.
/r/seduction01/11/17 03:49 AM
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Excellent, as always.
/r/seduction01/11/17 03:48 AM
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Invest more in yourself. If your standards are that low, you're likely trying to fill a hole in your life that could be corrected otherwise. Don't use women to replace good hobbies, a healthy social circle, fulfilling career, etc. It's easier to have higher standards for women when you're happy with the rest of your life and don't need female validation to be happy.
/r/seduction01/11/17 03:47 AM
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Ultimately, your success should be seen as the fact that you stepped up and took action, and regardless of the outcome, you can learn something. This is always better than doing nothing for fear of rejection because ultimately, her response is beyond your control.
/r/seduction31/10/17 11:06 PM
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It's way better to be authentic and approach, even if you're nervous, than it is to simply not approach at all. Great work and good luck.
/r/seduction31/10/17 10:08 PM
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Use your intuition/gut feeling to distinguish mental gibberish from actual truth. No. We know that intuition/"gut feeling" is a terrible method of reaching conclusions that are actually true, on a purely psychological level, and this shouldn't be the primary method of coming to such conclusions. Self love is whatever your natural state is and accepting/embracing it. I disagree. If my natural state is misery, I'm not about to embrace it. Real self love, IMO, would be recognizing, accepting, but t…
/r/seduction31/10/17 12:59 AM
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Nothing, unless you're confident you can get a quick hookup and know that it's nothing more.
/r/seduction30/10/17 08:48 PM
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...it's just another data-mining dating app, though.
/r/seduction30/10/17 05:46 PM
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Sounds like she (easily) played you for a free drink if you're telling the truth, and you responded in about the worst, most unreasonable, and selfish way possible. Rather than responding with online rants of "fuck women", perhaps you could take some responsibility for the mistakes you made and move forward having learned something. Or, you can continue acting like a middle-schooler who thinks that the world owes him something and that he's better than everybody else, in which case you'll only h…
/r/seduction30/10/17 01:10 PM
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You sound like a dumb, selfish, and oblivious child. Women don't owe you shit simply for rocking up and buying them a drink they didn't ask for. Fuck women No, fuck idiots like you who give the rest of us a bad name with this asinine behavior.
/r/seduction29/10/17 10:11 PM
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Sounds like a completely normal reaction to a normal occurrence. does it make me a scumbag Not necessarily, but it's another very good reason not to get involved.
/r/seduction29/10/17 10:08 PM
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Bud, if it's easier for you to talk to strangers on campus than your own friends and their friends, your social circle is shit. Time to get some women involved.
/r/seduction24/10/17 03:24 AM
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I don't have many friends on campus Start here. This can totally change college for you and should be more important than approaching females for the sake of approaching females. If you aren't in any clubs or organizations, it's time to get involved. Start participating in class, start spending time around campus engaging with people, and have some fun. In fact, my advice would be to stop cold approaches altogether until you have a solid social circle. Having real, genuine friends is way more im…
/r/seduction24/10/17 03:15 AM
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Confidence only comes from competence, which is attractive. It's really simple.
/r/seduction18/08/17 07:24 PM
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r/shitpost
/r/PussyPassDenied06/08/17 03:28 AM
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If the delivery was on point, sure. Just making an example.
/r/seduction02/08/17 07:55 PM
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due to my fault Yes, but that can be worked on. I don't think she understood anything She did. Has this happened to anyone else? All of us, brother. Your first couple experiences will be hard, but you'll quickly realize that they, especially just a kiss, are not a big deal at all. I struggled through my first few dates too, then got to the point where I literally can't remember the last time I went out on a date with a girl and didn't kiss her the first time. Own your masculinity and never apolo…
/r/seduction02/08/17 05:17 PM
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Dude, just saying that isn't rude, especially if you're literally just stating a fact. If you said something like, "I see your alcoholic ass in here every week, you filthy bar rat", your response might be different. Simply telling a girl you've seen her before isn't rude and if she takes it that way you've dodged a bullet.
/r/seduction02/08/17 05:02 PM
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The only time you should ever try befriending a girl first is when you genuinely and only want to be friends. Like people have already pointed out, the "friendship>ask out>date>fall in love>crazy sex" strategy only works in shitty rom-coms. In the real world, men who hide their intent, lie about what they want, and wait for the woman to lead don't often get what they want.
/r/seduction02/08/17 04:56 PM
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OP won't approach and refuses to take advice despite posting several times a week, if not a day, about the same topics over and over.
/r/seduction28/06/17 05:58 PM
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And how have those gone, considering you're still posting?
/r/seduction26/06/17 05:40 PM
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Nah, you should just continue not doing anything and posting on the internet instead. Every time I come back I hope that you've made any progress, and every time I see you post I'm disappointed.
/r/seduction26/06/17 05:33 PM
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Watch this video. James Marshall covers it excellently.
/r/seduction12/06/17 03:35 PM
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Sidebar.
/r/seduction10/06/17 07:40 PM
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I always recommend being more direct
/r/seduction10/06/17 02:59 AM
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I just mean you need to read the sidebar. This question is so broad that it's hard to actually give you any actionable advice. Unless you get more specific, there's not much else to say.
/r/seduction10/06/17 02:09 AM
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Sidebar. Your personality can be used to your advantage regardless of what it is, and there isn't a formula for one type of personality or another. In regards to meeting people, do the things you like doing and meet people while you do them. If you don't have any social hobbies, browse some of the countless threads on that subject and try some things out.
/r/seduction09/06/17 07:39 PM
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Don't go on askreddit *for seduction advice. The sub can be quite fun sometimes, otherwise.
/r/seduction09/06/17 07:36 PM
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You do, and that's normal. You're learning a skill, and just like every other skill humans learn, it takes practice and you'll be bad at it for a while. If you want to become confident, you have to put in the work, suffer through the awkward stage, and know that you will come out better on the other side if you keep it up.
/r/seduction06/06/17 07:12 PM
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How are you meeting women? What do you do when you're around them? When you meet women that you only see in a friendly way, what happens that leads to "rejection"? Are you going out of your way to make friends and purposefully being turned down or are you just not really making friends?
/r/seduction06/06/17 05:01 PM
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Read it again.
/r/seduction06/06/17 05:00 PM
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Goddammit now this shitpost is going to represent this community on other subs. I can't believe you've done this. There are other girls out there. Talk to them and stop trying to rebound a girl who just lost her boyfriend of 7 years.
/r/seduction05/06/17 06:01 PM
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Get her out in person as soon as possible. Intentions are set through actions, not messaging.
/r/seduction03/06/17 11:21 PM
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what aspects of the game should I keep Everything except hooking up with other women. Relationships are work, so don't let yourself settle in or become less interesting and fun than the guy she originally started dating, and hopefully she'll do likewise.
/r/seduction03/06/17 11:18 PM
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It literally is, though.
/r/seduction02/06/17 08:08 PM
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Not being funny =/= "didn't get it", bud.
/r/seduction02/06/17 06:35 PM
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If you were going for humor the subtledy was missed since people will unironically give advice like that.
/r/seduction02/06/17 06:13 PM
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You desperately need to stop coming to the internet to make every single possible decision for you. It's really sad to watch. Start trying and learning like a human person who can think for himself. You've been asking the internet how do to this for months and denying all the advice you've been given; obviously coming to the internet even more isn't going to work better for you. I really hope to see you posting FR's one day rather than more and more of these tired, increasingly sad posts.
/r/seduction02/06/17 06:03 PM
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It's not, actually, and the way you wrote it makes you sound like an overly try-hard alpha douchebag rather than someone trying to help out a beginner. I mean, "bang out a tune"? Really?
/r/seduction02/06/17 05:59 PM
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The core of this advice isn't terrible, but the way you said it sucks.
/r/seduction02/06/17 05:52 PM
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"Download my FREE AYE GURL STARTER BUNDLE"
/r/seduction30/05/17 08:00 PM
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It's just sensationalist marketing.
/r/seduction30/05/17 04:56 PM
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Goodness, I hate the fact that marketing like this works. Ridiculously click-baitey, nonsense formatting, magical phrasing, magic-bullets, random CAPITALIZATION, lackluster or outright wrong advice, etc. It's not good. The tips, as far as I can tell through all the bullshit and relentless blogging gaps, boil down to: Maintain eye contact and use the triangular gaze Speak lower and (hilariously so, to the point of cringiness) slower Repeat 1 & 2 (weren't feeling that creative?) Whisper in her ear…
/r/seduction30/05/17 04:56 PM
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Confidence comes from competence, not vice versa. If you want to be more confident around more attractive women in social settings, you have to purposefully practice meeting and engaging with more attractive women in social settings until you are confident. You can't wait around to become confident and then go put the practice in. Why does this happen It's a natural human response to most situations wherein you lack competence. Like learning to drive, you will naturally be nervous when you start…
/r/seduction30/05/17 04:57 AM
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This is about as broad and useless a question as "How do I find myself?". Sidebar, then come back with a specific question.
/r/seduction30/05/17 04:50 AM
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Bullshit. Don't fall for the cult-level hype. Edit: downvoting us because you disagree doesn't make you right.
/r/seduction30/05/17 04:46 AM
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Goodness, I hate the fact that marketing like this works. Ridiculously click-baitey, nonsense formatting, magical phrasing, magic-bullets, random CAPITALIZATION, lackluster or outright wrong advice, etc. It's not good. The tips, as far as I can tell through all the bullshit and relentless blogging gaps, boil down to: Maintain eye contact and use the triangular gaze Speak lower and (hilariously so, to the point of cringiness) slower Repeat 1 & 2 (weren't feeling that creative?) Whisper in her ear…
/r/seduction30/05/17 04:45 AM
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See a therapist about it, then. Confidence comes from competence, which comes from actually working on yourself. If you aren't willing to do that and you're just going to complain, you won't get any pity from me.
/r/seduction28/05/17 06:47 PM
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If your primary method for "seducing a woman" actually involves the position of a television, you're fucking doing it wrong.
/r/seduction28/05/17 04:01 AM
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You look fine. Stop being a child.
/r/seduction28/05/17 04:00 AM
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I'm done. I've already told you too many times and I'm done gratifying your prolific grabs for attention. You say you're a thinking person; start fucking thinking.
/r/seduction28/05/17 03:54 AM
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No. If you hadn't continuously deleted your posts so you could repost them or paid attention the dozens of times clear and actionable advice was given, you'd remember.
/r/seduction27/05/17 10:53 PM
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The problem is you've been given endless pointers on how to be better and you refuse to acknowledge or act on any of them. You're still posting, after all.
/r/seduction27/05/17 08:45 PM
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it's more about reading for the future, is there anything wrong with that? Yes, everything is wrong with that and I've explained this too many times to continue. If you want to learn to drive you'll eventually have to get behind the wheel and drive; you can't spend all your time "reading for the future" and expect to somehow get any better.
/r/seduction27/05/17 06:06 PM
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Part of the reluctance of act is getting rid of conditioning The problem is that the only way to get rid of this is by acting, not by spending even more time on the internet.
/r/seduction27/05/17 05:58 PM
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I don't get the part about making myself worse. How have I? Well, rather than practicing a skill and improving yourself, you continue to post the same nonsense over and over, you refuse to listen to any advice, and you refuse to act. While many of the other beginners in this sub are getting dates, girlfriends, casual flings, etc., you are purposefully digging yourself deeper into a hole of your made-up excuses. That's how you're making yourself worse. I don't know how to engage with women If you…
/r/seduction27/05/17 05:03 PM
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You're looking at this from a potentially very poisonous mindset. Don't fall into that trap. Why do some women like to get men's hopes up like that just to shoot them down? You made this problem happen, and you aren't seeing anything from her perspective. You have to take responsibility for the incredibly uncomfortable interaction that you caused, the fact that you got your hopes up, and the fact that her "shooting you down" is mostly in your head, not a malicious action of hers. I even stopped …
/r/seduction27/05/17 05:00 PM
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I don't know whether eye contact from girls is a sign of disinterest when they look at me for more than a passing glance. Like virtually everything else you post, you've been corrected about this too many times to even continue. Stop your bullshit. You're overthinking continues to look like trolling. I don't know if my lack of experience hurts me that much. Your lack of experience doesn't hurt you at all; what hurts you is your complete and absolute unwillingness to listen to any advice at all a…
/r/seduction27/05/17 06:37 AM
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girls sometimes don't like being talked to by average guys like me. This is true for every person in the world. Nobody garners the interest of every person they encounter, and this is still just another bullshit excuse. Do you actually want to stop mentally masturbating or are you going to keep commenting this bullshit even when I'm actually trying to help you? Honestly bud, I'm trying here, but every time I come back to be generous with you, you give me more reasons to disengage. I think my utt…
/r/seduction27/05/17 02:08 AM
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Is this a joke?
/r/seduction27/05/17 02:04 AM
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You sound like a robot because you're trying to make everything formulaic rather than acting like a thinking human being. society doesn't look fondly upon cold approaches You are wrong and this is not an opinion. I've told you this countless times and I don't know why you are so unwilling to listen in a thread where you are pretending to care about how much bullshit you're making up. "Cold approach" isn't even a real thing; it's a constructed term for the sake of discussion in this community. Re…
/r/seduction26/05/17 07:46 PM
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If those are your goals,sure. You sound like a robot. Cold approaching is nothing more than living your life like a human and inviting other people into it while you do it.
/r/seduction26/05/17 05:58 PM
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This is why you need to stop making threads and start living in the real world. It's like you don't know how to be a person. The goal of cold approaching depends entirely on you. You need to figure out your goals and act accordingly. If you're just approaching for the sake of approaching it makes sense it's going nowhere for you.
/r/seduction26/05/17 05:54 PM
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If you're going to continue deleting your comments I won't continue. If you aren't doing anything interesting with your life, it's going to be hard to get women involved. Get some social hobbies together, make more friends, etc. Women aren't going to just give you their number and attention simply because you ask. There has to be a reason, especially if you're cold approaching.
/r/seduction26/05/17 05:43 PM
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Getting number doesn't mean anything and that shouldn't be your goal. You need to actually be doing things with your life and bringing girls along for the ride, and you need to be handling your social circle better by the sound of it.
/r/seduction26/05/17 05:25 PM
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You're literally still making up excuses in your thread asking how to stop making excuses. "say yes" to what? What are you inviting girls to do and how often are you actually doing it?
/r/seduction26/05/17 05:14 PM
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last few weeks Bullshit. Bud, you've been posting the same tired threads relentlessly, using multiple dummy accounts, for months. Your post history would be an absolute disaster if you didn' constantly delete the threads. On one hand, I really do hope you're becoming self-aware and realizing how absolutely ridiculous your excuse-making has been. On the other hand, you've been so stubborn and overwhelmingly unwilling to listen to any advice at all that I'm not holding my breath and I'd bet you'll…
/r/seduction26/05/17 05:09 PM
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OP is notorious for prolific posts like this in both subs.
/r/seduction26/05/17 05:07 PM
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If you're just going to purposefully misinterpret things I say into wrong-headed negativity and continue to reject advice when it's given so that you can stay in your comfortable bubble and not take any action with women, there's nothing more to be said. I'll save my time for folks who are actually willing to take responsibility rather than relentlessly play the victim.
/r/seduction22/05/17 02:27 PM
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some men don't have a lot of chances with women Nonsense. The amount of women in the world doesn't change man-to-man. Men make chances with women or they make excuses. It's as simple as this. if we're going by just trial and error at some point there is a real possibility of running out of chances This isn't real. This is like suggesting that you can't learn to play piano by sitting down at the piano because your fingers might fall off after you press the keys a certain number of times. It's com…
/r/seduction22/05/17 05:41 AM
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Stop acting like a child. I wanna fuck her and I know she's into me Get together and fuck, then. Why on earth would you put the brakes on if you know you're both into each other? There's a difference between being overbearing and being artificially avoidant for the sake of some childish games.
/r/seduction18/05/17 03:43 AM
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Dude, the fact that you're still trying to play artificial games shows that you absolutely do care. If you want to invite her over, invite her over. Escalate, rinse, repeat. No need to continue pretending to be aloof for the sake of your own ego.
/r/seduction18/05/17 03:22 AM
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I'm so non-needy Obviously not. I don't care Obviously you do. other non-worthy guys If you're being this silly and judgemental, chances are your poisonous mindset is having a negative effect on your interactions. If you haven't read "How to Win Friends and Influence People" yet, I recommend you start with that and apply practice accordingly.
/r/seduction17/05/17 01:55 PM
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Social Freedom. You're stuck with some negative mindsets that are perfectly natural but also can only change with deliberate practice. You have to force yourself to do this, knowing that it will likely be uncomfortable and awkward at the beginning.
/r/seduction17/05/17 01:52 PM
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Set it up when you want, but if she gets the idea that your schedule revolves around her, she might lose attraction. You need to continue living your life and doing the other things you're already doing.
/r/seduction17/05/17 01:50 PM
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The only person getting "exposed" was the fucking drama queen you won't have to deal with anymore. Unless you're both very young, her behavior is absolutely pathetic.
/r/seduction17/05/17 01:48 PM
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What don't you believe about a highschooler kissing some girls at parties?
/r/seduction17/05/17 01:45 PM
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He kissed some of them at parties, by the sound of it.
/r/seduction17/05/17 01:43 PM
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One easy jumping-off point is simply asking "why?", no matter what their response. It will throw off her auto-response script and force her to actually think about what's going on and tell you about it. Most people just say "good" or "fine" without any thought at all and if you ask something like "what's making today good for you?" they might end up with a great story to tell you or even realize their own bullshit and you can flow from there. Showing that you're actually curious about who she re…
/r/seduction16/05/17 05:12 PM
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Loved the story. It's always fun looking back on those moments. I wouldn't call it a "huge conspiracy", though, because most people aren't doing it on purpose. We certainly have to understand what advice to consider and what to brush off, but if we act like people who give us bad advice are doing it on purpose we'll end up on the far end of the spectrum and remain equally as socially inept.
/r/seduction16/05/17 05:05 PM
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Practice and paying attention. Just like any other skill, you have to actually do it, you'll likely be bad at it when you start, but it will improve accordingly based on how much work you put in. Like /u/therondagon said, start with anybody, not just girls you're into, and go from there. If your friend rocks some really clean shoes, tell him. If a girl you know does her hair up a different way, tell her (pay attention to things like this, even with girls who are just friends/coworkers, because i…
/r/seduction15/05/17 03:19 PM
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You're pretty much preaching to the choir (heh) in this sub. I was raised up that way and personally got to experience the bullshit associated with those ideas for too long. It's desperately hurtful.
/r/seduction15/05/17 03:11 PM
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Sounds like you need to focus on getting a social life first. 19 isn't "older", but there's no reason to act some way or another. If you want to approach girls, approach girls.
/r/seduction14/05/17 09:55 PM
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You're coming off really needy. Either move on (legitimately, this means not using "moving on" as a tactic to actually try to get her attention) or talk to her about your confusion. The "beta move" here is doing exactly what you say you plan to do and pretending you aren't bothered, pretending to flirt with her friends like some kind of childish game, and hoping that she initiates something again. Don't do any of that.
/r/seduction14/05/17 09:52 PM
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This is something you should talk to her about, not us. If you've been very happy together for years, you should be able to have honest conversations about the future.
/r/seduction14/05/17 09:46 PM
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We're getting downvoted because these folks don't recognize OP after he deleted his other accounts.
/r/seduction14/05/17 06:29 PM
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Must suck to live wherever you do.
/r/seduction14/05/17 06:28 PM
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learn, evaluate, and try to assess problems Of course. This sounds almost like trial and error, which is the most effective way of learning. just approaching women is not the answer when you're not really attractive There's a whole lot you can do to develop yourself, sure. This is why my comment, directed specifically to OP, not you or anyone else, mentioned taking "any action", not just approaching women. OP is a prolific poster known for using a handful of alt accounts (now deleted) to post th…
/r/seduction14/05/17 03:20 PM
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Sure, but if you've had as much experience with OP as I've had, you'd understand when it becomes a problem.
/r/seduction14/05/17 05:56 AM
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Perhaps unlike you, I'm aware of vanity and can easily detect that quality in other people. Don't be a dick. I can detect vanity perfectly well. Based on this comment and your post history, I can comfortably say I can read people much better than you can. Don't project your lack of experience onto me as though you're enlightened in some way. Perhaps you live around a bunch of very vain women while I live around a bunch of excellent ones, or perhaps you are worse at reading people than you think.…
/r/seduction14/05/17 05:49 AM
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I don't approach girls is your real problem. You're still fucking posting rather than taking any action.
/r/seduction14/05/17 05:01 AM
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What the fuck are you talking about? Women who jog are "profoundly vain and entitled"?
/r/seduction14/05/17 05:00 AM
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I do agree that happens, but not every time. Plenty of these relationships end purely logistically. I think I disagree more with your phrasing than anything else, and that's just personal. You did raise some good points, especially for people who are very inexperienced and needy.
/r/seduction13/05/17 06:20 PM
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spending a lot of time together see each other frequently spending quality time together I think our central disagreement is based on this. You're still describing a different type of relationship altogether, and even if you don't admit this, they are distinct and different. FWB relationships, for many of us, are not simply just the first phase in a normal, committed, loving relationship. If this is the only perspective you allow yourself to see, I understand why you'd view it the way you do, bu…
/r/seduction13/05/17 05:42 PM
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I have decided that there is no use just being on the sideline and complaining about all the 'Chads' get the girls so easily. Fuck ya. The "chads" are guys like you who just decide to take action and responsibility. Based on how you described yourself, I already have a bunch of advice I could give you for general development. I'll finish with that but address some of your specifics first. Bystanders might think that I am a creep, and call the police on me. Even if they don't call the police, the…
/r/seduction13/05/17 05:30 PM
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I can see where you're coming from, but I don't agree with you at all. You might be interested in seeing this video. Casual, no strings attached relationships are just bad, early stage relationships with poor emotional awareness and poor communication. Demonstrably, empirically not true. This is flat-out wrong and it's the start of your article. Perhaps with people who are very young and very inexperienced, but healthy adults at different places in their lives do this all the time, and you're ei…
/r/seduction13/05/17 04:28 PM
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How much do you escalate with these girls? Are you making your sexual intent clear? It could simply be that you met some girls you didn't really click with, and the only way around that is meeting more girls. It could also be that you aren't escalating/showing your sexual intent, which is why they're turning into friends rather than lovers. That's pretty easy to solve; just escalate. It could also be that you, for whatever reasons, aren't very fun on your dates. That's pretty hard to tell withou…
/r/seduction13/05/17 02:08 AM
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Thanks, but I disagree with your implication that one must have "captivating, stellar interpersonal skills" in order to avoid social media.
/r/seduction13/05/17 02:01 AM
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Don't pretend that you have to be a social genius to talk to women just so you can market your material. Men and women have been fucking for thousands of years without Snapchat.
/r/seduction13/05/17 01:09 AM
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Unless your standards are really low, it would be pretty lucky to get a girlfriend you really connect with after only meeting four girls, so don't get too down on yourself. Keep meeting and entertaining more women. It would help us give better advice if you told us what types of dates you went on, what you did, and what they said when they eventually turned you down. Without any more specifics, it's simply too broad to give you any actionable advice.
/r/seduction12/05/17 06:51 PM
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Having huge followings can help, but it's absolutely not necessary. I don't even have a smartphone and I have plenty of women around. Social media can be icing on a cake, but if you have your shit together and meet women in the real world, you don't even need to have it.
/r/seduction12/05/17 05:23 PM
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Too much baggage to deal with. Time to move on. Religious conditioning can be incredibly damaging to someone's mental health and sexuality. This doesn't sound like something you're really willing to deal with, and you'll be better off seeing other girls. If you really like this girl as a person, nothing is stopping you from being her friend (which is all you'd be anyway, really). travel out of this god-forsaken part of the Earth Sounds like that might honestly be good for you.
/r/seduction11/05/17 12:43 PM
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Does the woman not share the same feelings that I have for her? Almost certainly not. Honestly, if you've been holding feelings for this girl for five years and only just now told her over facebook, it's very likely that your conversations have reeked of desperation. Has she lost interest If she even had it to begin with, almost certainly yes. How do I resolve this problem? Start meeting more girls in person and getting out of your social comfort zone with all kinds of people, friends and strang…
/r/seduction10/05/17 05:42 AM
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Practice breathing properly using your full diaphragm and speaking more slowly so you can focus on proper annunciation. It might feel uncomfortable to speak up at first, but with practice, it will become a habit and you'll be having better conversations.
/r/seduction10/05/17 05:38 AM
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I'm pretty sure I actually helped you with this on multiple alt accounts already. I'm done answering the same questions over and over.
/r/seduction09/05/17 11:44 PM
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You don't know what to say because all you do is post instead of practice.
/r/seduction09/05/17 05:49 PM
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Didn't approach because gym I'm unwilling to approach and I'd rather just continue posting My last three approaches were all in the gym, and all of them went well. is it needed for cold approaches? What's needed for cold approaches is actually doing anything.
/r/seduction09/05/17 02:23 PM
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Depending on how small "small town" actually is, it might be harder. Many things still apply. Get involved in social activities that you enjoy, host events if you can, get on meetup.com, go to local events, etc.
/r/seduction09/05/17 02:18 PM
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Read the sidebar. Assume attraction.
/r/seduction07/05/17 09:19 PM
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University is a magical place and your social development will never be easier as long as you put in the slightest amount of effort. Get involved in clubs/sports/music/government/etc. Whatever social hobbies you enjoy, embrace them and engage with other people. Talk to people in your classes. If you live in dorms, gather up friends for studying sessions and food runs. Go to parties. Go to more parties. Study on campus, rather than at home. This provides you the opportunity to be around even more…
/r/seduction07/05/17 04:26 PM
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Awesome work. You took the risk and it paid off. Keep it up.
/r/seduction07/05/17 04:21 PM
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How many times and using how many accounts are you going to ask this question?
/r/seduction07/05/17 04:17 AM
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You know what you need to do and you claim you want it. I can't force you to take the action you still need to take. Good luck.
/r/seduction07/05/17 04:16 AM
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I only put up with you in case somebody else reads these threads at this point. Do you have any idea what you're talking about or what your goal is? I want to get more touchy kino hasn't happened at all kino hasn't progressed past incidental touch kino is light touching in this case What on earth are you trying to improve? Why do you ask how to do more kino if you are going to respond that you're afraid and unwilling to do more kino? What do you want?
/r/seduction07/05/17 03:42 AM
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hasn't progressed past incidental touch Exactly. You haven't practiced.
/r/seduction07/05/17 03:09 AM
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I did read the post, as I've read your dozens of other, nearly identical posts. I have practiced kino hasn't happened at all Pick one. You haven't practiced if it hasn't ever happened.
/r/seduction06/05/17 10:56 PM
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Wouldn't Dennis' account mention The Implication as Step 0?
/r/seduction06/05/17 05:06 PM
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"She Comes First".
/r/seduction06/05/17 05:04 PM
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"Everyone in this seduction sub is interested in sex" Did you click the wrong subreddit, bud?
/r/seduction06/05/17 04:58 PM
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Lay off them after you've banged, move on to the next girl, be nice to her, but move on. No. OP is asking how to set up FWB's and booty calls. Dropping them isn't how to get there. You can still be the leader of the interaction without being their boyfriend, and if you want something more than a hookup, you shouldn't be disappearing for "6 months" (wft?) and then chatting for a bit.
/r/seduction06/05/17 04:57 PM
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The answer is always the same. You have to actually practice. If you had been practicing rather than posting from multiple accounts over the last month or two you might not still be asking the same questions.
/r/seduction06/05/17 04:48 PM
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I don't recommend reading them. You can get a good understanding of why they're popular from any number of sources explaining the romance novel character archetypes. If you want new perceptions about sex and women's desires, read a book like "My Secret Garden" by Nancy Friday. It's a collection of real female sexual fantasies collected from anonymous interviews and surveys and it will blow your fucking mind. 50 Shades simply isn't a very good series and there are much better books worth your tim…
/r/seduction06/05/17 04:37 PM
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Confident comes from competence, it isn't just a magical energy that you have or don't have. You have to build it through practice. Your whole post boils down to just that. Why do I fall into that pattern over and over again? It's the pattern you practice and humans are creatures of habit. You have to break it, it will be uncomfortable, and you have to keep doing it until you build new habits.
/r/seduction06/05/17 04:31 PM
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this is not made up shit bro Except nearly everything you just said is factually incorrect.
/r/seduction06/05/17 02:36 AM
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I like how he went from "I'm 11 inches taller because I played basketball" to "unhealthy habits are unhealthy" as if the latter conclusion supports the former claim. Common sense from a guy who "likes to use logic".
/r/seduction06/05/17 12:19 AM
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I like to use logic This is outright adorable considering the things you said above. You've drifted entirely off your original claim. If you "like to use logic", surely you understand why shifting the goalposts in a desperate attempt to cover up your stupidity isn't convincing, especially after failing to source your other claims and calling a legitimate citation "delusional" because it isn't what you want to hear. Furthermore, all the way back to your original claim, 6'4" is demonstrably not th…
/r/seduction06/05/17 12:15 AM
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"Scientific study" isn't a source. This is, though, and I'd love to see you tell someone who's 5'5" that playing more basketball will help them grow 11 inches.
/r/seduction05/05/17 06:04 PM
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Maybe you should have attended your classes too. They might have prevented you from humiliating yourself by suggesting that playing basketball makes people taller. Fucking idiot.
/r/seduction05/05/17 03:17 PM
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Good for you, kid. I'm sure you put a lot of work and effort into achieving that height. That must have taken some serious willpower. I pity anybody who uses phrases like "beta males" unironically.
/r/seduction05/05/17 03:09 PM
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"How are you a person of a natural height" What was going through your mind when you decided to post this?
/r/seduction05/05/17 12:46 PM
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but i have to forcefully accept my personality which i cannot change Bullshit. Personality is the thing you can change the most. natural way of behaving Right now. Behavior changes. Literally brainless insects can modify their behavior. You can change yours. You're just making up excuses that are demonstrably, factually incorrect. I can't become interesting Bullshit. I simply have to wait Bullshit. I'm not good at joking Because you haven't practiced correctly. flirting is also impossible for me…
/r/seduction05/05/17 02:24 AM
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Oh man.
/r/seduction04/05/17 03:39 PM
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You could go for it, but your chances are very slim so don't expect much. Personally, I recommend this as a lesson learned and you should approach other girls.
/r/seduction04/05/17 03:38 PM
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people say that you should accept who you are I think these people are dumb, or at best, misguided. If you aren't happy with who you are, you absolutely shouldn't accept it. Working to develop yourself is one of the most important and enduring parts of life. You should only accept the things that you absolutely can't change, and you should take responsibility for the improvement of everything else. I'm am not interesting for other girls So become interesting. You understand that simply "acceptin…
/r/seduction04/05/17 03:36 PM
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/thread.
/r/seduction04/05/17 03:29 PM
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See other girls and don't worry about her until she moves over.
/r/seduction03/05/17 10:17 PM
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you have to keep it flowing No you don't. Now what? Invite her to do something specific. "You should come visit" doesn't deserve a response better than "I should". What did you expect? If you keep trying to text with her the convo is boring So don't keep trying to text with her. Invite her out in person and then get off the phone. How do you handle people (who are interested but cold) with who you really want to stay in touch with but make it hard sometines? Stop acting like a kid. If you want t…
/r/seduction03/05/17 10:11 PM
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They can date anyone and enjoy it. Well, this is outright not true. That's okay, but most times they build up their self-esteem on the feedback they get from men. Sometimes, because they absolutely do get a lot of validation from men, but often times beautiful women can end up feeling very lonely and unsatisfied. Other women are threatened by them, and most men only compliment them on things they were born with rather than what makes them interesting and human. Beautiful women are still human be…
/r/seduction03/05/17 10:06 PM
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If you're looking for ideas that arouse women and make them horny, read a book like "My Secret Garden" by Nancy Friday. It's outright just a huge collection of women's sexual fantasies collected from surveys and interviews. It goes a long way to show that women are outrageously sexual creatures in a much more clear way than you'll get from a romance novel. If you haven't read or seen the Fifty Shades series, it might be worth a watch if you're very curious, but you can gather the necessary info …
/r/seduction03/05/17 07:06 PM
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You add no value. Fuck off.
/r/seduction03/05/17 06:52 PM
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/u/recyclablebanthas nailed it. It's important to remember that there is no one-size-fits-all formula for human relations, and being "playful" depends a whole lot on who you are and who the girls are that you're dealing with.
/r/seduction03/05/17 06:49 PM
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If you're not meeting women that you think are interesting enough for a relationship, you either need to meet more women or think about what your goals are. There's nothing wrong with staying actively single at this point in your life. One point I want to touch on, though. every time I get in contact with girls Im sexual attracted to, they feel like a trap and I back up What do you mean by "trap" here? Are you afraid that being sexual automatically puts you in a relationship? This simply isn't t…
/r/seduction03/05/17 06:47 PM
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He literally just gave the examples.
/r/seduction03/05/17 06:01 PM
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/u/Woujo basically nailed it. I'll elaborate on a couple things. Lifting and losing weight also means getting your diet and health in order. Women will be much more attracted to you if you get healthier, and it will do wonders for virtually every other aspect of your life. This should be your main focus for a while. As you get into good shape, get your style together. Get yourself some well-fitting clothes, shave the hair, and keep up good hygiene. These are not simply shallow symbols of appeara…
/r/seduction03/05/17 02:33 PM
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Exactly. Pushing harder and investing even more when somebody is "playing hard to get" only works in rom-coms. In reality, it shows that you're much more invested and kills attraction very quickly.
/r/seduction03/05/17 02:24 PM
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Sure it does, but being comfortable won't get you results.
/r/seduction02/05/17 05:28 PM
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Why bother to comment, then?
/r/seduction02/05/17 05:06 PM
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The thing is, the word "date" doesn't exist in Swiss German. I almost never use the actual word, "date". You don't have to either. Inviting her out for something fun and interactive where the two of you get to know each other doesn't have to have a specific title. If she's assuming you're spending time as friends, it's because you aren't physically escalating and using your actions to make your intent clear. This is universal. If you act like her friend, she'll respond accordingly. Is there a wa…
/r/seduction02/05/17 05:05 PM
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Talk to her. Worrying about how to get her to glance in your direction is silly and needy. If you're into her, go introduce yourself.
/r/seduction02/05/17 04:56 PM
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You really need to work on your writing. It's hard to read an article that is a grammatical mess.
/r/seduction02/05/17 04:54 PM
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Girls will be much less impressed about MMA specifically than they will be about your passion. Girls love guys who are very passionate and experienced in something, and it doesn't matter nearly as much what that thing is. Don't make appearance your main focus. Maintain good hygiene, wear well-fitting clothes, and you're good to go. Please don't be that kid who is constantly bragging about how good you are or how much you love MMA just to get the attention. I know you're not being arrogant with t…
/r/seduction02/05/17 03:34 PM
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r/askseddit is the place for these. That depends largely on the girl and a whole host of other factors ranging from size, style, body language, vocal tonality, etc. Very direct. This doesn't mean you should tell her outright, straight away, but you should certainly show her by the way you act around her.
/r/seduction02/05/17 03:21 PM
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very focused on basketball and my classes This is good and you should only change it if you're absolutely overloading yourself. Your own goals and development should always be the priority. That said, part of your development involves your relationships, so you certainly should learn to cut up some time in your schedule for socializing. Pro ballers still have friends. You can definitely meet people if you're taking summer classes. The good thing about that is you'll all be in similar situations,…
/r/seduction02/05/17 03:19 PM
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Improv absolutely will help, as well as outright practice. Listen to good comedians and take not of things like timing, tonality, etc. Finally, good wit comes from being a good listener and making jokes that are relevant to the people and context you're in.
/r/seduction02/05/17 04:28 AM
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Work on yourself and work on your approaches. You can't control other people's responses but you can improve your own game and continue meeting more people.
/r/seduction02/05/17 04:26 AM
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Assume attraction. This is sidebar 101.
/r/seduction02/05/17 04:08 AM
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I'll try to give you non-satirical advice. First of all, if you're going to approach a girl just because she thinks you're cute, you aren't meeting enough women. Start meeting more. Your standards shouldn't be this low. That said, if you want to give it a shot, absolutely do not do the thing you said you were thinking about doing. Just introduce yourself, invite her out for something fun and interactive, and escalate. This is sidebar 101, btw, so go through it.
/r/seduction02/05/17 04:07 AM
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You need to become a guy that girls want to go on dates with, and this takes a lot of personal development. If girls aren't hanging out with you, it's because the other options they have available are more appealing.
/r/seduction02/05/17 04:03 AM
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Statistically, absolutely not.
/r/seduction02/05/17 04:02 AM
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mixed signs Assume Attraction and lead. I get pissed over little things Confront this insecurity and challenge it. There is no reason to worry about things like this. I haven't shown that much interest and I've been too emotionally invested You're inexperienced and insecure, which is fine, but you need to recognize that it needs work. If you want something to happen with this girl, you need to make it happen, and school isn't the place to do it. Bring her out for something interactive and fun wh…
/r/seduction02/05/17 03:31 AM
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Don't make this into a bigger deal than it is. If you really want I could sell you some kind of nonsense program and take your money, but it's much more simple and you don't need to die. Confidence is a result of competence, and all it takes is consistent regular practice. If you want to be confident approaching girls, approach a lot of girls. If you want to be confident in bed, fuck a lot of girls. It's like driving. Kids don't wait until they're confident to start learning how to drive. They s…
/r/seduction01/05/17 06:20 PM
3

Well man, bitterness certainly isn't a great place to come from if you want to bring girls into your life. The good news is, you're only 17, and in the grand scheme of things, this means you basically haven't even begun to scratch the surface. I don't mean this as an insult at all, so don't take this the wrong way: You and virtually everyone your age haven't the faintest idea how the world works. This is great because it means you're free to try new things, fail terribly, and learn with basicall…
/r/seduction30/04/17 11:20 PM
3

Like /u/Green-Fork mentioned, you should ask yourself why you care about these things and what your goals are in regards to girls. Do you want a girlfriend to fill a perceived hole in your current life? Are you just bored? Do you fee like it's just an appropriate thing to do? Are you interested in anyone in particular? It's hard for us to help in any meaningful way with virtually no context. I'd be happy to help if you can throw out any specific questions, though. If it means anything to you, on…
/r/seduction30/04/17 10:43 PM
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Depends entirely on you. Do what you like to do and meet girls while you do it. If you don't have any social hobbies that allow you to meet girls, start trying things out. The places you mentioned are good. If you're sick of the bar scene but have time to go out in the evening, try social dancing. It's an excellent way to meet women, practice kino, and learn a skill that doesn't involve drinking.
/r/seduction30/04/17 04:41 PM
6

Excellent work. More people need this mindset to recognize success being your courage rather than her response.
/r/seduction29/04/17 11:32 PM
1

If you're driving while filming his video, you shouldn't be.
/r/seduction29/04/17 11:30 PM
1

this is NOT how it goes down For you.
/r/seduction29/04/17 11:29 PM
2

Excellent reminder that many people need from time to time.
/r/seduction29/04/17 07:07 PM
1

Like I said, she may very well just be busy. Don't count her out just yet for not responding to a text within some very short amount of time. That's very needy. If she was actually receptive, as in she agreed to meet when you asked her in person before getting the number, you shouldn't be overthinking.
/r/seduction29/04/17 07:05 PM
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Chill out. She may very well just be busy. Worst case scenario she simply isn't interested, and there's nothing you can do about that. She doesn't owe you anything; you're strangers.
/r/seduction29/04/17 07:01 PM
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You don't have to actively show disinterest unless they're very forward. All you have to do is not actively show interest. Don't agree to plans with them, don't be flirty, don't isolate. If they're especially forward, just tell them outright.
/r/seduction29/04/17 03:27 AM
2

Stop framing it as a "rejection", first of all. Realize that many girls simply won't be interested and that's fine. They're not personally attacking you by not being interested, and "rejection" makes it sound like they're purposefully trying to hurt you. Like everything else, this changes with personal improvement and more practice. If you don't have any sense of abundance, it might matter more to you when a girl isn't interested. This can be changed by seeing more girls. When it comes to compar…
/r/seduction28/04/17 03:58 PM
2

Agree. Agree. OP said "off-limits" and I said "harder to approach logistically". I could have elaborated, but I'm not wrong.
/r/seduction27/04/17 07:15 PM
1

None of these things have anything to do with her. This might be fine for making smalltalk purely for the sake of making smalltalk, but it won't keep a girl interested long. Each point is basically going back to talking about yourself. If you want to spark a girl's emotions, show that you're curious about her. Keeping a conversation going is even easier and drastically more meaningful if you're actually interested in who she is rather than simply finding things in the location to keep your mouth…
/r/seduction27/04/17 03:59 PM
2

/r/askseddit. No. They're just people. They might be harder to approach logistically, but they're still just people going about their lives.
/r/seduction27/04/17 03:54 PM
1

You're overthinking this way too much. Remember, most of the people in the world don't even know you exist, much less care about it. She's not analyzing your schedule in some way that relates to her routine activities. She might not even remember you by the time you posted this. Get out there for a good time and escalate if you see her again. If you live literally next door you shouldn't even go for the number before pulling her home.
/r/seduction27/04/17 01:38 PM
15

Assume Attraction.
/r/seduction27/04/17 01:22 PM
2

cold or distanced Try "busy" or "living your life". If she doesn't even maintain conversations anyway, you're not being dishonest for not constantly trying to make texting happen. She knows you're still honest and into her if you make that clear by inviting her out in person.
/r/seduction26/04/17 09:29 PM
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because I'm beta Negatively label yourself like that and you'll make sure it stays true. You're not "beta" for being inexperienced. she's more likely than not taken Why not find out? As you said, you have nothing to lose. Next time you see her, simply introduce yourself. You don't need any magic lines or routines. "Hi, I see you here all the time, I'm /u/fa9cmy6w34i6y98ctrqc" would work just fine.
/r/seduction26/04/17 09:25 PM
3

If you're in the city regularly, that changes things. In that case, you can definitely give it another shot, but you should drop the random texting and set up a time to meet. If you're in the city at specific points regardless, all you need to do is let her know when you'll be out and invite her for something fun after your other obligations, perhaps even lead into crashing with her and working up to FWB's that way.
/r/seduction26/04/17 09:09 PM
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2 hours away from her That's pretty damn far to go for a girl you've only seen one time. if I respond to her "hi" with "hey" she did not answer Of course she didn't. If you're just going to say "hey" you may as well not say anything. How would you handle this situation? I'd drop her altogether and continue seeing girls in my own city that I can meet in person, which is exactly what you should be doing.
/r/seduction26/04/17 08:56 PM
1

"The Alabaster Girl" by Zan Perrion is one of my new favorites. Much less structured theory and a whole lot more about the mindsets and experiences of the author and developing a profound love for women (who deserve it).
/r/seduction26/04/17 05:09 PM
1

Keep the kino up and continue having fun. Go for the kiss again and if she turns it down again, move on.
/r/seduction26/04/17 03:09 PM
2

OP asked for book recommendations and this guy posted a book. Am I missing something?
/r/seduction26/04/17 03:06 PM
2

I can be perfectly calm while making sound points about OP's poor handling of criticism. Attempting to attack people personally and belittling them simply for disagreeing is silly behavior and I stand behind what I've said. I can see that others agree with me as well.
/r/seduction26/04/17 02:34 AM
2

I'm a huge fan of James Marshall, Zan Perrion, and Mark Manson. Their material is all founded in becoming better men and developing a sincere appreciation for women, no matter what your goals are.
/r/seduction26/04/17 12:25 AM
9

TROPICAL BIRD LANDING INTENSIFIES
/r/seduction26/04/17 12:17 AM
2

I got it from everything he said after that sentence. Had he ended his comment without including the unwarranted, pretentious rant based on nothing, I would have no problem with it.
/r/seduction25/04/17 11:47 PM
1

to many guys are judgemental limiting believes look at the negativity it's just a sign of frustration and a lack of self-esteem don't take advice from people like that it's the blind leading the blind None of this is justified and I'm happy to call out someone for spreading bullshit like this around in the sub. It's unwarranted condescension and I'm not ashamed to call it what it is. When I see someone acting like this, I'll call them out, and I don't need to be including answers to other questi…
/r/seduction25/04/17 11:46 PM
7

Honestly, this is social behavior 101 stuff.
/r/seduction25/04/17 06:37 PM
9

Textbook fallacies and poor argumentation style. If you're going to defend low-quality material, you'd better have more than bullshit to support yourself. You sound like a flat-earther telling somebody that everyone else is just too dumb to understand your conspiracy theories. Goodness.
/r/seduction25/04/17 06:13 PM
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Literally, the first one is walking up and touching her shoulder from behind? Is this satire?
/r/seduction25/04/17 06:06 PM
2

Very interesting that both accounts responded to me in separate threads within minutes. EDIT: Deleted the account. /u/anotherthrowawayad22, you need some serious help.
/r/seduction25/04/17 06:04 PM
1

OP's tips on "how to get rid of a girl": Be a shit person too insecure to give basic respect to other people. Great FR, kid.
/r/seduction25/04/17 05:34 PM
2

OP is likely another alt account for the prolific troll, /u/anotherthrowawayad22. The account is a day old and has posted 4 times since /u/anotherthrowawayad22 stopped posting in the same subs with similar questions.
/r/seduction25/04/17 05:29 PM
6

Fucking excellent response, man.
/r/seduction25/04/17 04:41 AM
2

I've corrected you on this so many times. Obviously you're unwilling to listen, so sure, everybody is taken and you shouldn't do anything at all.
/r/seduction22/04/17 11:15 PM
1

Probably is. You should probably keep posting about it.
/r/seduction22/04/17 09:55 PM
3

I feel as if that's what's holding me back The fact that you're still fucking posting is what's holding you back. You are still making up imaginary excuses to not take action, to the point where you've even run out of things to pretend to post about so that you can continue to recycle old posts even fucking more.
/r/seduction22/04/17 08:54 PM
0

too much too soon IMO, yes. There are plenty of other ways to kino that aren't "couple signals".
/r/seduction21/04/17 04:44 PM
3

I mean to show girls through your actions what you want. If you are interested in a girl, make it clear. Escalate, be physical, use your body language/eye contact to make that known, even if doing so might feel a bit uncomfortable at first. Often times "niceguys" might really be interested in a girl but act completely friendly in an attempt to slowly win her over without putting themselves out there. Showing the girl your real intent would involve putting yourself out there from the start. I als…
/r/seduction21/04/17 03:47 PM
6

I told her that I'm not interested in her anymore She always wanted to hang out with me but only as friends So guys can u tell me what the fuck is going on? Sure. Here's what I think happened. You told her that you aren't interested in her anymore. Then she told you she wants to hang out as friends. Honestly, what are you even confused about? But if she wasn interested she wouldnt have chat with me for that long i guess (she even contacts me and starts the Conversations). Sure she would. Girls h…
/r/seduction21/04/17 02:50 AM
4

You should actually never approach anyone or do anything and continue to spam the subs instead.
/r/seduction21/04/17 02:40 AM
1

restaurant Boring. movies Terrible. Do you two escalate at the parties or do you just like hanging around her? You need to include this bit. If you want to invite her out, invite her out for something interactive, fun, and mobile. Why would she skip a party, where she knows her chances of a good time are pretty high, to go sit awkwardly next to you in a movie theater? Think about her perspective here. Restaurants are bad first dates unless you're just getting drinks or maybe dessert before doing…
/r/seduction20/04/17 09:23 PM
3

Don't ask, invite. If you make plans and invite girls along, their response doesn't matter. You've shown up as the man and done your job. Go have a blast with your friends, regardless of whether or not they join you. If you are having trouble actually getting girls out, you need to make yourself a man that girls want to come out with. Think about their perspective. Why would they want to come out with you? Who are your friends and what are you doing? Would she have fun? Does she know you or them…
/r/seduction20/04/17 09:15 PM
6

If you want to find women who really click with you, you have to polarize, and this might mean "stepping on some toes". If you're having trouble adopting a masculine energy, start spending more time with men. Being president of a fraternity is one thing, but if you're still not able to stand up for yourself, take risks, and lead, you need some practice. My biggest sticking point at the start of this year was this same thing, and it's been a slow but very rewarding process. You have to start smal…
/r/seduction20/04/17 09:11 PM
1

It is possible, because the rest of your life is almost certainly going to be even busier and more stressful forever and people manage to do it. You can't expect time to just appear for your hobbies and personal growth; you have to make the time. If you really are passionate about programming and making games, make the time you need to work on that while managing school. That's certainly a great and productive hobby to have, so you absolutely should take it seriously. I have to deal with my pare…
/r/seduction20/04/17 08:49 PM
3

If you want to make yourself look like an asshole, sure, take that line.
/r/seduction20/04/17 06:06 PM
1

Dude comes off like an idiot who is pretending not to care as much as he very obviously does about the attention he craves. Don't emulate any of this.
/r/seduction20/04/17 06:06 PM
0

First of all, this is much more readable than most of your posts, so thank you. I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. The point here is that it was a recognition of failure with women, despite having slept with 10 or whatever at that point, What do you consider to be the failure? I take guys like RSD with a grain of salt. I really do like some of their material, but remember, they're making their living with their videos and I wouldn't be surprised if some of them were a bit more…
/r/seduction20/04/17 03:27 PM
3

I would take her to the usual dinner and a movie Stop right there. Don't ever do this for a first date. Remove that option from your mind. It's terrible. Do something that you might both enjoy that is both interactive and mobile. Things like: hiking bowling coffee and a walk through a park making food for a picnic exploring cool locations nearby These dates allow you to actually interact, get to know each other, and kino. It means that you'll be having fun together creating your own entertainmen…
/r/seduction20/04/17 12:34 PM
1

Right of the bat, it's "whose" not "who's". The articles I managed to glance through were full of other grammar and spelling mistakes that should have been fixed with a cursory review. It looks sloppy and unedited. Also, and maybe this is just me, but the moment you use the word "cuck" unironically, I'm done. I can't take you seriously. Finally, many people simply don't put up with the redpill bullshit. It's a childish and stupid mindset founded in insecurity, negative views of women, and a dras…
/r/seduction20/04/17 12:28 PM
1

You're in too deep, bro. You are drastically more invested than she is and likely ever was, which doesn't bode well for you. On top of that, she's entering an entirely new world and will be forced to grow up and adapt very quickly. I wanna come out to her, but I don't know how. Dude, this isn't "coming out", and this isn't a romantic comedy movie. You're being dramatic. Trust me. I'm a hopeless romantic and I adore women, but I also understand the practicalities and pragmatics of how reality wor…
/r/seduction18/04/17 05:43 PM
2

Biking has helped my calves so much more than I expected.
/r/seduction18/04/17 03:45 PM
9

We rarely see anything like this here. Congratulations, that's awesome.
/r/seduction18/04/17 03:40 PM
1

Disengage. He's not worth the effort.
/r/seduction17/04/17 07:18 PM
1

You just cut/paste this answer from another thread. Are you kidding me?
/r/seduction17/04/17 06:01 PM
1

And there's your problem. If you don't polarize at all, you may meet more generic women and maybe even some who can become interested "on some level" in the things you like, but you'll have a much harder time meeting girls who really click with you.
/r/seduction17/04/17 04:08 PM
1

Are you screening and polarizing at all? Are you trying to meet women who are into that or just meeting women in general?
/r/seduction17/04/17 04:00 PM
15

I wrote this post earlier about social dancing and we had a great discussion. It's changed the game for me.
/r/seduction17/04/17 03:56 PM
3

Only if you don't want any women who like the same things as you. I've met some really attractive girls who are totally into fantasy. There's no reason to think that you can't find any wherever you are.
/r/seduction17/04/17 03:56 PM
1

Other than approaching And there's your problem. You aren't willing to improve yourself, you aren't willing to approach, and you aren't even willing to listen to the answers of the same questions you already asked several times a week ago.
/r/seduction17/04/17 03:54 PM
1

You could answer all of these simple questions for yourself in one hour by actually doing literally anything that we've told you.
/r/seduction17/04/17 03:44 PM
2

it's about moderation Considering the number of posts you've made this week alone, "moderation" isn't a word you have the right to use.
/r/seduction17/04/17 03:37 PM
1

Yes, it is. "Hello" doesn't have to mentally destroy you. You've created an imaginary world in which simply speaking to other human beings is some kind of life or death situation, when in reality, you're just speaking to human beings.
/r/seduction17/04/17 03:31 PM
1

Chill, man. You've made "AA" into this huge obstacle that it simply isn't. Approaching women is just a person talking to another person. Billions of people do this all day, every day, and have done so forever.
/r/seduction17/04/17 03:09 PM
1

Nope. You said, But some people are a lost cause when it comes to pickup. I know because I am one. Which is setting up a false foundation to avoid taking responsibility. This is blaming something you perceive as outside your control. Then, you said, But that's simply not true, broseph. in regards to nobody being a lost cause, again creating a false idea that you or anyone else isn't able to take responsibility and improve themselves. Again, you're blaming an imaginary circumstance that you see o…
/r/seduction17/04/17 02:29 PM
1

I can function without the internet telling me what to do Then stop posting and start functioning. The fact that I can't remember how many times I've said this exact same goddamn thing gives me no reason to believe that you can. It's just that since a newbie at seduction that's why I ask all these questions No. I've helped countless "newbies at seduction" and nobody, not one of them, has ever come close to being as prolific and offensively unwilling to accept advice and take action as you. Usual…
/r/seduction16/04/17 09:24 PM
1

My bad.
/r/seduction16/04/17 09:20 PM
1

You may be physically healthy, but you continue to illustrate that you have no self-esteem and little to no ability to think for yourself or hardly even function without the internet telling you what to do. These aren't the marks of a mentally healthy person.
/r/seduction16/04/17 09:20 PM
1

No, I want you to stop worrying about girls until you're mentally stable enough to invite them into a healthy life. I don't have reason to believe you have that, yet, and your results will be shit until you do. I want you to stop posting relentless and silly questions that could be learned from one single approach, and I want you to stop reading seduction material altogether. Start spending some time working on yourself.
/r/seduction16/04/17 08:26 PM
1

It's not a marketing gimmick if he isn't trying to sell you bullshit. You are the only reason you are failing. You are purposefully choosing to fail, and instead of taking responsibility like an adult, you are purposefully choosing to blame your failures on some outside force or some bullshit nonsense about how you were "never meant to". This is like watching a morbidly obese kid complain about his genetics while eating a bucket of ice cream and pounding back sodas. Your brain isn't stopping you…
/r/seduction16/04/17 08:26 PM
1

I've been friendly It's hard to imagine what that means considering all the posts you make. what's the issue? The issue is "being friendly" doesn't just turn into a casual, sexual relationship by magic or asking endless, meaningless questions on the internet. Based on everything you've posted (and still, for no reason) and continue to post, I can tell you simply don't have the ability to pull that off. You apparently aren't capable of even saying "hello" to a stranger without posting 20 goddamn …
/r/seduction16/04/17 06:02 PM
1

Not even anything casual? You're certainly not ready for this. I've figured myself out Obviously, glaringly not true. You posted yesterday about whether or not you should engage or befriend a girl. You don't even know how to be friendly without the internet telling you. You don't know yourself as well as you think you do, and it's very clear to outside observers that you aren't mentally or emotionally healthy. You literally just posted again about how you're incapable of cold approaching. You ar…
/r/seduction16/04/17 03:31 PM
1

thor 3 Boring what you study You already know. Boring. tell me in depth detail from start to end about how to deal with the group Dude, people aren't robots. This is context-dependent and there is no magic formula for you to deal with the group. If you're curious about her, demonstrate that. Rather than asking very generic, surface-level questions, try to find out who she really is. Find out if she's worth your time. If the only time you see her is with the group, try to isolate as soon as you c…
/r/seduction16/04/17 03:26 PM
10

I'm with /u/Woujo on this one. You made it sound like she was clearly into you even while your friend was there. You totally could have pulled had you simply maintained subtle kino while your friend was entertaining her and eventually whispered to her an invitation to leave. Sounds like she would have enjoyed that and it would have demonstrated you taking even more control. Trust me. Subtle kino and body connection will drive her crazy even if she's listening to another guy run his mouth trying …
/r/seduction16/04/17 03:23 PM
1

Bud, I'm with /u/Woujo on this one. I've even told you before that your priority should be getting yourself together before trying to bring girls into your life, despite all the advice I've given you in that regard. The overwhelming majority of my advice has been to stop posting and take action, and you're still posting. You are not in a mentally or emotionally healthy enough place to engage with women in the way that you want. If you really care about yourself and want women in your life, you n…
/r/seduction16/04/17 03:17 PM
2

You are overthinking, without dispute. There is no mathematical formula for human interactions.
/r/seduction13/04/17 08:52 PM
2

You're a human, and if you aren't a psychopath or sociopath, you're going to experience emotions. That's perfectly normal. More experiences will help. It's easy to get emotionally invested in one girl if she's the only girl you're talking to or seeing. If you're actively seeing several and engaging women in your day-to-day, it will take more to get invested.
/r/seduction13/04/17 06:06 PM
3

exact mathematical formula No. Don't be ridiculous. Anyone who tells you there is such a thing in any area of human interaction is trying to sell you bullshit. You're overthinking this so drastically it's hard to give you any reasonable advice.
/r/seduction13/04/17 06:04 PM
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Those are quite different and may very well be true. If a girl says "we're not having sex" while you're out together, hopefully escalating already, it means she's currently thinking about having sex with you and depending on how she says it is either being forward or putting up an ASD until isolation. It's another thing entirely for a dating profile bio to include that, because they aren't mentioning anything specific to you or an interaction with you.
/r/seduction13/04/17 06:01 PM
1

Context helps. Have you ever spoken to her? Do you know anything about her? If you want to invite her out, invite her out. Do not invite her to a movie. Movie dates are the worst first dates. I can't stress enough how much you should never do this. You should be inviting her out for something fun, interactive, and mobile. If you've never even spoken to her, grabbing a coffee and exploring a park is a good start because it's low pressure and you can let it be as short or as long as you want. Shou…
/r/seduction13/04/17 05:59 PM
1

God damn that was clever. I agree with /u/kingofthefall, though. You can't "let her go" with the underlying intent of actually getting her back. You have to legitimately let her go, especially if this has been going on for a long time. That said, there is also the option of seeing other girls and actually keeping the "Chloe" as a friend if you're emotionally mature enough to do so. Women can be excellent friends and it's silly to imagine that every one of them can or should be into us just becau…
/r/seduction13/04/17 03:41 PM
1

Nothing wrong with that.
/r/seduction10/04/17 02:53 PM
1

I've told you already. You should talk to girls, yes, but based on everything you've done and said up to this point, you sound desperately insecure and needy, which doesn't speak well to any future relationships with other people, guys and girls alike. You can still practice with girls, but my best advice is to get yourself together before trying to add even more people to your life. You've said before that you don't even have regular friends; that should absolutely be a priority over any casual…
/r/seduction10/04/17 02:37 PM
1

Sorry man, I just don't think that's actually true. You made somewhere near 20 posts in various subs about one girl whose number you got from a class assignment before you even spoke to her. You have demonstrated such overwhelming levels of insecurity in every thread, including your threads in r/Tinder, that I don't think you're ready for that yet. If you come back with an FR that proves me wrong rather than another several posts that prove me right, I'll be thrilled.
/r/seduction10/04/17 02:16 PM
1

My best advice is for you to get yourself together before you try to bring girls into your life. Practice is good, but you have some serious personal work to do.
/r/seduction10/04/17 03:58 AM
1

I agree with you, but OP has made it very clear that he isn't ready for a Tinder. I don't think he's ready for anything casual either. Your advice isn't wrong, it's just wrong for this guy.
/r/seduction10/04/17 03:52 AM
1

Nothing wrong with that, but if that's your goal, you could have told us 6 comments ago without being vague and bullshitting around for no reason.
/r/seduction10/04/17 03:33 AM
2

Tinder isn't the magic box you think it is, especially for OP.
/r/seduction10/04/17 03:33 AM
-2

MY GOD. It's like you're begging to be taken for a troll.
/r/seduction10/04/17 01:40 AM
0

That's not an end goal. Numbers mean nothing. What is your end goal? Do you want a monogamous relationship? Do you want multiple casual girls to hook up with? What and why?
/r/seduction10/04/17 01:02 AM
-9

Stop posting and try it.
/r/seduction09/04/17 04:52 PM
1

God dammit You're still posting. Do you really have this much hate for yourself? You should do what I've told you countless times. You are literally creating excuses to hate yourself more out of thin air by fretting details that universally don't matter. Stop posting and talk to girls.
/r/seduction09/04/17 12:26 AM
1

Stop asking if it's fine. It's always fine. We all know you haven't done it before; you've said that countless times. You're making excuses up or trolling. Stop posting and do something.
/r/seduction08/04/17 10:32 PM
1

It's not.
/r/seduction08/04/17 09:18 PM
1

I'm in a quiet zone BS excuse.
/r/seduction08/04/17 09:17 PM
1

I don't believe you because you're still fucking posting and still making up nonsense excuses to not take action.
/r/seduction08/04/17 07:00 PM
2

If this keeps happening the way you've described, you aren't hitting it off as well as you think you are. It's hard to give you actual advice without knowing more about what you are doing when you're meeting these girls.
/r/seduction08/04/17 06:18 PM
4

Best way around that is to take control of your health. Getting your diet together isn't only going to drastically improve your game with girls, but it's also important to your most fundamental health as a human being.
/r/seduction08/04/17 06:16 PM
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There is none. You're still manufacturing imaginary excuses to continue your stubborn refusal to improve yourself and get happier. Frankly, I'm only continuing to comment in hopes that other people might read this and actually take action to improve themselves.
/r/seduction08/04/17 06:13 PM
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Don't feed it.
/r/seduction08/04/17 05:45 PM
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Stop posting and talk to a girl.
/r/seduction08/04/17 05:44 PM
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You do disregard advice because you're still posting. You disregard advice because you're still overthinking literally everything. You're disregarding advice by posting silly threads based on overthinking minute, nearly meaningless details rather than coming back with threads along the lines of "Approached X people this week: Here's what I learned". 5 girls a day isn't aggressive at all. Depending on where you are, 5 girls an hour isn't aggressive. Approaching on the subway is fine. Stop coming …
/r/seduction07/04/17 03:15 AM
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I will no longer respond to you if you keep posting useless threads, disregarding all advice, and refusing to take any action of your own. Until you come back having approached and spoken to at least five girls without making countless useless threads about each of them, I will not waste any more time on you and I hope others don't as well.
/r/seduction07/04/17 02:59 AM
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Formatting, friend. Unfortunately, emotions aren't always easy to control. Having abundance certainly helps, but even the professionals get attached now and again. If you haven't read "The Game", it covers that aspect very well. Do you want to fall for her? Do you want a relationship with her? Do you want to not be invested so you can see other girls? Without knowing your actual goal it's hard to give you further advice.
/r/seduction06/04/17 05:30 PM
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1 and 2 go together, but it's better for her to catch you first. If you're a total beginner, it might feel really uncomfortable to start holding eye contact, but trust me, the results speak for themselves. Don't just sit and stare at them forever; all you need to do when they catch you looking is hold the eye contact for a couple seconds more, give them a slight smile, then you can break or approach.
/r/seduction06/04/17 12:27 PM
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I don't recommend either of those. My go-to recommendations are: Both of Mark Manson's books (virtually all of his content, blog included, is fantastic) "The Alabaster Girl" by Zan Perrion "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie Those are an excellent start. I prefer them to the typical PUA material because they are focused on becoming better men rather than learning scripted gimmicks and hijinks like Magic Bullets or manipulating people like Greene's books.
/r/seduction06/04/17 12:09 PM
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Come back after you've approached five more girls.
/r/seduction06/04/17 03:24 AM
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Alright now you're just being a dick. I'm sorry I wasted so much of my time trying to help you. If you'd rather wallow in pathetic self-pity and loneliness, be my guest, but you have to understand that this is entirely your fault. You hate yourself because of your choices. You don't have women in your life because of your decisions and your purposeful, active ignorance. If you want to bring people into your life, being a pathetic pile of self-pity online and being an ass to people who legitimate…
/r/seduction06/04/17 02:19 AM
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Sure, kid.
/r/seduction05/04/17 11:15 PM
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Good work! She won't be. Nobody ever gets to a point where every girl anywhere is into them.
/r/seduction05/04/17 10:34 PM
1

Read your own word back to yourself and thin about what "wallowing" means. I can't continue with you.
/r/seduction05/04/17 08:12 PM
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You're choosing to stay that way by refusing to work on improving yourself. You're choosing to post this nonsense and wallow rather than taking steps to grow. At this point I think you should see a therapist before doing anything else.
/r/seduction05/04/17 07:52 PM
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Don't tell me what is and isn't a good way to invite someone out until you actually fucking do it. I've seen more girls this week than you have in months and I didn't spend money doing it. You're not disregarding advice because you're introverted; you're disregarding advice because you're a coward. Introverts get laid all the time. You're still making up fake excuses for your failures because you aren't willing to take responsibility.
/r/seduction05/04/17 07:45 PM
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I don't believe you. You've been given help and you refuse to act on it. You've been told how to invite girls out. You just don't do it. You've been given more help than anyone else on this sub and you continue to do the least with it.
/r/seduction05/04/17 07:27 PM
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All of that is bullshit. You're not better at talking to girls if you can't talk to them. Your incessant posts and false beliefs make it clear. If you want to keep making excuses, fine, but you'll never improve and never change. I hope one day to see you posting field reports of actual action, but keep posting like you do now and you'll get no pity.
/r/seduction05/04/17 06:59 PM
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If you want to continue believing things that are factually not true, that's your problem. Your life will be worse for doing so. You're lying to yourself and us by saying you've taken and used the advice because you've talked to one girl and made several posts about it without doing anything else, and you continue to post the same bullshit falsehoods and excuses regardless of how often you are corrected. I'm a broke college student too, and I literally don't have time to see all the girls that w…
/r/seduction05/04/17 06:18 PM
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Could just be making conversation. Asking about somebody's SO is a very generic, easy way to make smalltalk. You're probably reading into this too much.
/r/seduction05/04/17 05:23 PM
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most are taken Demonstrably, indisputably not true. You're wrong. You're wrong about almost everything you think. approaching a random one is weird to me You've said before that you're totally comfortable with it. Interesting. it seems creepy It isn't. Guess it'll be a lonely summer again for me. :( It absolutely will be, and the only person responsible for that is you. At this point, you'll get no pity. Other people are willing to change and improve themselves, and those people will be having g…
/r/seduction05/04/17 05:18 PM
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If you showed up you didn't lose. Go talk to more girls.
/r/seduction05/04/17 03:43 PM
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Stop posting and go practice.
/r/seduction05/04/17 03:23 PM
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You've been reading bullshit. You're wrong. Stop posting and go practice.
/r/seduction05/04/17 03:01 PM
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That's called being afraid of getting rejected. First of all, don't pretend like the whole room is watching you. Most people won't even notice you are there until you approach them. Furthermore, you're not a "leftover" for being bold about your intent and approaching women. If girls are actually watching you show up as a man and do your job by owning your masculine energy, chances are they'll be more interested in you rather than less. If you talk to a girl and it turns out she's with a guy alre…
/r/seduction05/04/17 02:52 PM
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More proof that you continue to disregard the huge amounts of free advice you're given. You have no reason whatsoever to think they won't like you. The only person who continues to stop you is you. Stop posting and go practice with girls.
/r/seduction05/04/17 02:45 PM
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Fucking chill. You don't know anything about this woman or her marriage. If it's as perfect and idyllic as you seem to believe, she won't be interested in OP and all is well. For all you know, she could be in a shitty marriage. Don't pretend like you know her life and get to be her moral arbiter.
/r/seduction05/04/17 02:34 PM
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If you read or listened to my advice, you wouldn't be wondering about being creepy and you wouldn't still be posting because you would have actually gone out and practiced this with multiple girls.
/r/seduction05/04/17 02:30 PM
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Much better than your last post. Still not sure why every sentence is spaced out so far; it does make it harder to read.
/r/seduction05/04/17 02:06 PM
1

That's not really a stereotype; it's a medical diagnosis.
/r/seduction05/04/17 02:03 PM
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Makes sense.
/r/seduction05/04/17 01:52 PM
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OP is this you? Video, especially the thumbnail, looks very creepy. The lighting (or lack thereof) needs to be different because it's completely distracting from the material. This type of lighting would be great for a webcam-style conspiracy theory video, but not a dating video.
/r/seduction05/04/17 01:51 PM
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God damn what on earth did you copy/paste EDIT: You're not despicable for having feelings for a woman. Also damn I want to know what you do for income. Anyway. Without any other context on the relationship the two of you have, it's much too broad to give you any worthwhile advice. Remember that you having feelings for her doesn't mean she's automatically into you, and if she's at all happy in her marriage there's almost nothing you can do to turn her around for your own sake.
/r/seduction05/04/17 01:44 PM
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Do you know what "escalate" means? What do you think it's going to do? Do you think you can touch a girl's elbow and she'll jump into the air yelling, "PLEASE HAVE SEX WITH ME NOW"? You can spam the subs with unnecessary posts and ask the same damn simple questions endlessly but if you don't actually get into the real world and practice with girls you will never improve yourself. Stop commenting until you've actually met some girls and tried these overwhelmingly simple things. If you actually ev…
/r/seduction05/04/17 01:41 PM
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I've already answered this specific question for you. Stop posting and start actually taking action with girls.
/r/seduction05/04/17 01:37 PM
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I recently wrote this post about social dancing. I've nearly graduated already and I can't believe I didn't take it up sooner. It's fantastic. Don't overthink it. If you're a college kid, you've got an entire campus full of girls to meet. Just go talk to them.
/r/seduction05/04/17 01:36 PM
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You still have to invite them out and escalate.
/r/seduction05/04/17 01:33 PM
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Touch them. Escalate. Invite them out. Get to know who they really are. Your options are wide open.
/r/seduction05/04/17 01:27 PM
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Look at his history.
/r/seduction04/04/17 09:39 PM
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Stop spamming.
/r/seduction04/04/17 09:14 PM
2

Read "How to Win Friends and Influence People" and apply it.
/r/seduction04/04/17 08:19 PM
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You're overthinking. Introduce yourself like you would anywhere else. Show interest in them and what they're presenting, if they are.
/r/seduction04/04/17 08:18 PM
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I'm not being "judgemental" or "black white"; I'm being honestly critical of what I think is simply bad advice. If you can't handle that, don't post. I didn't even mention "Models". I can make women chase without pretending to be interesting and using childish manipulation tactics. Judging from your answer, I doubt you have ever dated a true total ten or any model type of woman. Only one of us being judgemental here, and it's you. The difference between you and me here is that I'm being critical…
/r/seduction04/04/17 06:02 PM
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You can meet girls naturally too. If there honestly aren't any girls in all these activities you do, you can still find simple places to meet them. Do you ever go shopping for anything? There are likely women in the stores. Talk to them. Do you ever go to coffee shops? There are probably women there, and you can talk to them. Do you ever go out for the night to a venue like a bar or dance studio? There are definitely women there, and you can talk to them. Don't overthink it. Women are just peopl…
/r/seduction04/04/17 05:38 PM
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Sounds like you're already fucking awesome, your problem is you took shit advice. Being an interesting man won't make women just fall into your lap out of nowhere. It's your job as the man to show up and bring them into your life. Start meeting women and having fun with them.
/r/seduction04/04/17 05:03 PM
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Sidebar, "Models", "The Alabaster Girl", this speech, and this one. While working through the material, start talking to people. Talk to everyone, not just girls you're interested. Becoming more social and bringing women into your life takes practice.
/r/seduction04/04/17 04:58 PM
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Jedi Moves Secret Psychology Keep Your Power This is just...bad. This might be interesting to an edgy teen with no experience whatsoever, but we're living in the real world. Your entire post is a list of cheesy, childish games and gimmicks topped off with: But if you are a confident man, these tactics are the equivalent of a nuclear weapon. If you are a confident man, you won't be using such simplistic and silly "jedi moves" in poor attempts to manipulate women by pretending to be interesting. T…
/r/seduction04/04/17 04:56 PM
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Post in-thread so others can see the advice. That's what this sub is for.
/r/seduction04/04/17 04:02 AM
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Keeping in mind that his "courses" are part of his site subscription (for $4) is important, because normally when people hear about online "courses" they think of typical PUA courses that are hundreds of dollars. Mark's material is excellent, and I can't recommend it highly enough.
/r/seduction04/04/17 04:01 AM
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Literally go outside and do anything. Half the world isn't just hiding from you. Chicks do virtually anything you'd go out and do. Don't be silly.
/r/seduction02/04/17 09:29 PM
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I still went without her Good. Make plans and invite girls along, don't rely on them to enjoy your life. You've been doing well by the sound of things. Invite her out again for another clear plan and stop snapping her in the meantime. If she flakes again, continue talking to other girls.
/r/seduction02/04/17 07:38 PM
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not who I am You choose to stay that way. You're actively choosing to stifle your own improvement by refusing to listen to advice when it's given even when you ask for it several times a day.
/r/seduction02/04/17 07:36 PM
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You're overthinking this. If neither of you have even spoken to her, there is no "competition". I want more thoughtful answers No, you want cheat codes that will magically prevent rejection and abate any anxiety you may feel. Answers like the one you mentioned are grounded in reality without overthinking things. She's just some girl in a class. Talking to her isn't even a noteworthy event in the scope of life. If she's always with her friends, talk to them as well. Sit by them, introduce yoursel…
/r/seduction02/04/17 07:33 PM
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If you need me to walk you through every possible question you have, step-by-step, message me for coaching, otherwise, I can't waste my time on these questions anymore. If you want to practice and learn, you could start following the astonishing wealth of advice already here and already given to you. Want to improve? I know one simple trick: Talk to more girls.
/r/seduction02/04/17 07:25 PM
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You read that in a thread without more context. "Texting buddies" almost never leads to anything else without great game in person and otherwise. You aren't on that level yet. Talk to more girls.
/r/seduction02/04/17 07:16 PM
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You are incredibly needy and based on the strings of other unnecessary posts you've made I can already tell this isn't going to go well for you. You can text her if you want, but you're already being needy about it, so I can't tell you to expect anything. Talk to more girls.
/r/seduction02/04/17 06:55 PM
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You answered your own question in your own post. Abundance comes from talking to more girls.
/r/seduction02/04/17 06:52 PM
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Motivation and happiness fluctuate quite normally. Being relentlessly happy and motivated is called Mania, and it isn't healthy. Don't beat yourself up for being a normal person. If you can, start your day with some time just for you. This might mean waking up earlier, but it's worth it. I start most mornings brewing my coffee, journaling, writing, and organizing my day, followed by exercise. Set up a routine that's enjoyable and productive for you.
/r/seduction02/04/17 06:51 PM
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I befriended those pricks I stopped my aggression You were going to fight "pricks" you "befriended" because they were having fun with a girl at a party? I'm confused at this point about what happened.
/r/seduction02/04/17 06:46 PM
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Talk to more girls and please stop spamming.
/r/seduction02/04/17 06:43 PM
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If I didn't have such a patience I would have gotten into a fight I hope this means you took control and stopped their aggression rather than your own. If you're willing to get in a fight just to kiss some chick, you need to get your shit together. Next time, engage the whole group. You should be on great terms with her friends, not nearly fighting them. You won't ever have to worry about situations like this if you can win her friends over because they'll practically push you into her arms them…
/r/seduction02/04/17 06:40 PM
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Just stopping by to say FUCK YA! Great work challenging yourself. Next time, dive in. Next time you meet a traveler, show her an awesome night and bathe yourself in that pressure. Who better to push your comfort zone than someone you'll never see again anyway?
/r/seduction02/04/17 05:38 PM
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All kinds of things. Hopefully, almost anything. Humans being social creatures doesn't make us incapable of enjoying anything without having other people around.
/r/seduction02/04/17 05:36 PM
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Confident people are perfectly comfortable enjoying something like that on their own because they aren't so overwhelmingly concerned with the opinions of strangers and aren't so hopelessly insecure that they constantly need validation from the company of others.
/r/seduction02/04/17 05:35 PM
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ITT: People who think that taking basic care of themselves and/or not being bored will make women just show up at their house. You still have to get out and meet women.
/r/seduction02/04/17 05:32 PM
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Do you also meet women?
/r/seduction02/04/17 05:29 PM
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Gotta get that forearm cardio
/r/seduction02/04/17 05:28 PM
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If we can land a man on the moon, you can stick your dick in someone’s vagina. Fucking excellent post.
/r/seduction02/04/17 05:26 PM
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It takes practice but it can be done. I played drums for about that long myself, so take it from me, you just gotta dive in. If you can accept that you'll be a beginner for a while but still let yourself have fun, you can learn very quickly and the results will surprise you.
/r/seduction31/03/17 10:31 PM
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Pro tip if you do decide to learn dancing: confidence is everything. Exactly. I could write an entire post relating dance to just this. I do way better with the girls at my Latin studio than the other guys even though they're much better dancers. I attribute this entirely to my confidence. I went in knowing that I'm a beginner, but I have no problem whatsoever grabbing girls and having a great time even if I'm not impressing them with any special moves.
/r/seduction31/03/17 10:29 PM
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I'm getting to the age where some of my friends are starting to get engaged and I can't wait to throw down on these dance floors when weddings start to happen. Bring on those bridesmaids.
/r/seduction31/03/17 10:26 PM
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I'm glad to hear this input. I've already had several girls, including girls in relationships, find me on my campus and ask to join me simply because they know I've been going dancing. I'm still very much a beginner and the effect it apparently has on women continues to astonish me. That said, /u/rom9 isn't entirely incorrect. At my Latin studio especially, even though I'm a much worse dancer, I do way better than most of the other guys with all the girls there because I do have better game in g…
/r/seduction31/03/17 10:25 PM
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With what do you disagree? I'm with /u/orisha on that example because I've seen the improvements in all manner of people in both regards. The great thing is that you can see the results of dancing much faster than working out in a gym. It's like learning anything else. Great dancers don't just walk into studios and magically know how to dance without any fear of being a beginner. Great dancers start out just like anybody else and practice.
/r/seduction31/03/17 10:20 PM
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Sorry to hear that's how your situation is, but most of the girls I've danced with are early 20's with me. Age may be a factor in certain locations, but people should get out and try before discounting anything.
/r/seduction31/03/17 05:48 PM
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Spot on. Thanks for the clarification
/r/seduction31/03/17 06:09 AM
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I don't know man free lesions doesn't sound great
/r/seduction31/03/17 01:48 AM
2

Fuck ya!
/r/seduction31/03/17 01:02 AM
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That's fine, bro. I think dancing is an excellent skill to have but if it's not your thing there's nothing wrong with that. If you're a musician you've already got other skills that are great and attractive as well.
/r/seduction30/03/17 10:14 PM
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Gotcha. Again though, I don't see how inviting someone out with you needs to be douchey. Are you worried that simply inviting someone to dance seems douchey or are you just doing it in a douchey way?
/r/seduction30/03/17 10:13 PM
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If you're at a social dancing venue, taking a girl to the floor is the point. How could that be douchey?
/r/seduction30/03/17 09:29 PM
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Trust me man, it's worth a shot especially if it's an actual class rather than just an open floor. If everyone is there to learn and you go to do that and have fun, nobody should be judging you for showing up. I haven't met anyone at the venues I've attended who was pretentious rather than excited to help beginners. That said, if private is better for you, that's great too.
/r/seduction30/03/17 09:28 PM
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That's a bummer. Even so, you can always try bringing someone and gathering some more of your friends to get people your age out there.
/r/seduction30/03/17 09:24 PM
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Those are two questions I can't answer because it depends on location entirely. My Latin studio is $5 and the country bar is free entry. Look up your local studios and they'll likely have different types of classes and lessons or just rock up and introduce yourself as a beginner. I haven't taken a single real lesson; I've learned from all the people I meet.
/r/seduction30/03/17 08:34 PM
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I much prefer this one by Liam McRae from TNL. He's drastically less creepy in appearance and application and explains a lot of mindsets that people need to understand.
/r/seduction30/03/17 06:05 PM
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I still respectfully disagree. Suggesting that professional help will "only benefit those who have...gotten their inner game and confidence in check" is like saying that personal training is only good for people who have already lost all their weight. That seems totally silly to me. Professional help would be one-on-one, rather than the "generalized approach method" that you seem to worry about, which is most of what you can get for free. I also know full-well that seduction is more than pickup …
/r/seduction19/03/17 07:40 PM
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There is plenty of excellent content available for free that is much more specifically informative than any amount of films made for pure entertainment. Not all instruction is bad, either. People pay for personal trainers in the gym; there's nothing wrong with someone paying for professional help in this regard. There are plenty of snake-oil salesmen, but there are also plenty of great coaches who actually know what they're talking about.
/r/seduction19/03/17 02:46 PM
2

You don't need to give hugs to just anyone you meet on campus. Solid handshakes, high-fives, etc. are good enough.
/r/seduction13/03/17 07:47 PM
1

Yes, and progress has been made. Do you think we should go back to Classic game or do you think some of the changes are good?
/r/seduction13/03/17 06:09 PM
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Depends. Are you hanging out at all or do you just mean when you're meeting random people? What's the vibe like? Where and how are you meeting?
/r/seduction13/03/17 05:06 PM
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Hugs don't seem creepy if you are vibing well and in a good mood. I hug people all the time. If you aren't comfortable with that, handshakes are fine, but if you're spending any amount of time with a girl and don't even hug her, you'll have a hard time getting anywhere else.
/r/seduction13/03/17 04:48 PM
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Not at fucking all. Read what I wrote and you quoted. The material needs updates. It's been tried and tested and there are better ways for most people imo.
/r/seduction13/03/17 04:45 PM
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Watch the video. You're still overthinking. I've mentioned examples in other comments to you.
/r/seduction13/03/17 04:44 PM
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Anything up to that point. Hugs, high-fives, arm touches, guiding her by her back, standing in close proximity, etc. Ideally if all these things are actually happening OP would have had a better shot when he went for the kiss anyway.
/r/seduction13/03/17 04:43 PM
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Yes.
/r/seduction13/03/17 04:41 PM
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second seduction method To what are you referring here? "Natural" game isn't really a specific method. How do i ask for her hand and spin her around, and then do the mutual hand caressing thing without coming off as unnatural? Where are you getting this? The best way to not come off as unnatural would be to just not do something like this at all. If this is a move that works for Mystery, that's great, but trying to force this into a conversation without knowing the context would almost certainly…
/r/seduction13/03/17 04:41 PM
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We hangout and she takes me around and I try to kiss her but she was sick and didn't want me to get sick (shit test I failed I realize) ▪️ Not completely a failure. You did great if you actually went to kiss her; plenty of guys can't even do that. Furthermore, some girls are actually honest and if she was particularly sick maybe she just honestly didn't want you to get sick. Regardless, pat yourself on the back for making the move at all. That said, a couple pointers. Maintain your frame. If you…
/r/seduction13/03/17 01:47 PM
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First of all, formatting. I'm still not entirely sure what you're asking. It sounds like you want some material on inner game, so here ya go. Both of Mark Manson's books James Marshall's presentations, particularly this one and this one. Liam McRae on Rapid Escalation Perhaps a book like "My Secret Garden" just for kicks if you want some serious insight into female sexuality
/r/seduction13/03/17 01:41 PM
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Personally, I'm not a fan of the Mystery Method. Much of the material is outdated and very specific to Mystery's personal style. If it works for him, great, but I don't think it should be applied by general guys. "Natural" game is much more applicable and honest in most situations. Some women might respond really well to negs and DHV's, but others respond very well to open, unapologetic displays of intent. Resolve the conflict by trying them out and doing what is congruent to you. Nobody has to …
/r/seduction13/03/17 01:33 PM
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You're overthinking too much again, bud. You're a man and she's a woman. The goal of sex is basically the entire point, whether it's in a committed relationship or a one-night-stand. If you're having trouble with escalation, watch this speech.
/r/seduction13/03/17 01:26 PM
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Watch this video. If you haven't been touching her already, you need to start. Usually, "creepy" is what happens when a guy starts trying to kino while simultaneously still trying somewhat to hide his sexual intent. You need to own it.
/r/seduction13/03/17 01:24 PM
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Sure, that might be a start. There's a whole lot more going on here, though, and if you really want to get better you'd be best served by a professional.
/r/seduction10/03/17 01:48 AM
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You'd be better seeing a therapist and dealing with this directly than posting to us here. There's no shame in taking care of your mental health.
/r/seduction10/03/17 01:34 AM
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Then offer a legitimate criticism or perhaps a counter instead of simply worthless negativity. Your comment is the very last thing you should be looking for if you're here for self improvement. It's fine to disagree but do it like an adult rather than an entitled and insure child.
/r/seduction09/03/17 01:05 AM
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Sure, but I'll take that after the fact. Once you achieve abundance you'll be dealing more with girls who are into you that you aren't into than friendzone problems.
/r/seduction08/03/17 09:24 PM
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"Live your own damn life and stop telling people how to think" Read your own words back to yourself and then take your negative, useless bullshit somewhere else. You clearly missed the point.
/r/seduction08/03/17 07:24 PM
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Why that? Why not, 1= into her and 0 = not into her? Give yourself the control.
/r/seduction08/03/17 07:23 PM
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Anything physical like high fives, touching her arm or back when you make a joke or certain point, playfully pushing her, holding hands, etc.
/r/seduction07/03/17 03:01 PM
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It means read the Sidebar. "I want to fuck a girl" is about the most general and useless question without specific context because that's essentially the whole point of the sub.
/r/seduction07/03/17 03:00 PM
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Sidebar. Isolate and escalate. You don't just tell girls you want to get sexual, you show them with your actions. When you're with them, be physical, even on the smallest level. Escalate from there. I recommend this video all the time because he does a great job explaining this.
/r/seduction07/03/17 02:53 PM
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Look at guys like James Marshall and Liam McRae. They're both skinny and professional PUA's. Remember, physical attraction is much less important up-front to women than it is to men, and comes much more from how you present yourself through your outfits, confidence, body language, etc. That said, everyone should be exercising because it's one of the best things you can do for your health, but many women love lean, healthy guys.
/r/seduction07/03/17 02:34 PM
3

Isolate and escalate. Maybe nothing happens, maybe it does. At least that way you find out where she stands.
/r/seduction27/02/17 05:15 AM
1

You should simply accept that because it's true. Why do you need to watch a video to confirm it? I'm a little confused about your specific question. If you want to watch PUA's do well with girls, get on youtube and watch basically any video. The thing is they aren't posting all the times that they weren't having awesome moments; don't trick yourself into believing that real interactions are always super high-energy or "magical" movie moments.
/r/seduction27/02/17 04:49 AM
1

Depends entirely on context, man. Is this girl a close friend that you know well and see often? Is she just an acquaintance that you've known for a while but haven't made a move on? Has she given you any IOI's?
/r/seduction27/02/17 04:46 AM
1

Holy shit. Chill, bud. If it went fine you can delete your post and move on. Maybe just word it better next time.
/r/seduction23/02/17 06:09 AM
1

Honestly bud at this point I don't know how to help you. Your post made the interaction seem incredibly uncomfortable but you seem to think you did well. I can't give advice if you don't even know how it went.
/r/seduction22/02/17 09:30 PM
1

Based on what you wrote the approach still wasn't good. Why weren't you in a group in the first place?
/r/seduction22/02/17 02:06 PM
1

I thought you made them uncomfortable because everything you wrote indicates that. You should've mentioned the participation and laughter in the first place.
/r/seduction22/02/17 05:52 AM
1

$10 is not expensive for a full book, regardless of age. I understand being on a budget; I'm in uni as well. That said, if you want the material, it's well worth two cups of coffee. I can't stop you from pirating it so I'm not going to turn this into an argument.
/r/seduction21/02/17 09:22 PM
1

I use Amazon for my kindle. Have you never bought something online before?
/r/seduction21/02/17 08:25 PM
4

No. Buy the book. It's cheaper than dinner at a restaurant and will give you drastic returns.
/r/seduction21/02/17 08:16 PM
1

This is true, and I don't mean to suggest that anyone just drop women altogether, but for a senior in high school whose life is just about to get started, there are much more important things to focus on. I'd give completely different advice to someone who already has a good job and isn't in such a fundamentally influential period in their life.
/r/seduction21/02/17 07:08 PM
5

Sure, but again doing approaches for the sake of doing approaches should be lower on your priority list than just about everything else right now. Some of the choices you make after graduating will direct the rest of your life; those are more important right now.
/r/seduction21/02/17 07:07 PM
14

Read "Models" by Mark Manson. You have much more important things to worry about your senior year, so I'd suggest not making girls a priority. Frankly, if you get the rest of your shit together, the girls will show up as a side effect. Things that would be better priorities include: Academics Post-graduation plans Fitness/Health Sports/Clubs/Social hobbies etc. "Game" in high school is almost entirely based on social circle value. Don't worry about daygame-style approaches and focus on gathering…
/r/seduction21/02/17 06:25 PM
1

Watch this entire speech and really absorb the information. It takes practice, but honestly the greek scene is incredibly good for learning unless it's really small on your campus. I'm not even in a fraternity and I've learned quite a lot from sorority girls out here and had a blast at some social events.
/r/seduction21/02/17 02:32 PM
4

Don't take to pm if you can offer advice in-thread; that's the point of the sub.
/r/seduction21/02/17 02:31 PM
2

I don't even own a TV. If I ever have a girl over and we don't get straight to action, I nearly always invite them to bake something and drink wine with me. Getting brownies together takes little skill and while they're baking we'll drink wine and carry on conversation. In a couple instances I've even pushed my living room table to the wall and turned on music to dance with them.
/r/seduction21/02/17 02:28 PM
1

I walk over to two girls and plonk my laptop on the floor with them. “Hi I’m in this group now” Nope. That's very uncomfortable. Invite them into your group or at least try something more light and engaging if you're trying to join another. You clearly weren't invited and made them uncomfortable and you didn't seem to participate. If you're really inexperienced at approaching people, the fact that you did something could be good, but you have a lot to learn. If you haven't already, you need to r…
/r/seduction21/02/17 02:25 PM
5

There doesn't need to be some specific "line" or "close" to use; just go direct. Tell them you're late and invite them out, telling them you'll text/call to set up the plan. You're trying to make this too formulaic. If you want to sit down near the hot girls in class and invite them out, go for it. If you don't have time, that's fine too. I'm not sure what type of game you're running in the middle of class that would make a girl feel "slutty"; giving out a number isn't "slutty" nor does it reall…
/r/seduction21/02/17 02:22 PM
1

true opener Isn't real. You're making an obstacle out of nothing and it's holding you back. If you're curious about women, inviting them into your life shouldn't be a wall to climb.
/r/seduction20/02/17 06:54 PM
1

Yes.
/r/seduction20/02/17 05:00 PM
1

Proper therapy would be better. There is little legitimate support for alternative forms like hypnotherapy.
/r/seduction19/02/17 09:17 PM
9

This is vague, boring, cliche, and pretty bad.
/r/seduction19/02/17 09:12 PM
1

She invited you over; you know how she felt. Don't let her know you "want to have fun sexually" over text. It's difficult to do through text because it's a terrible medium of communication. Meet her in person and show her that you want to have fun sexually like a man. we all have to text so how do you go about having fun with it I don't really; I use it to get them out in person and then have actual fun with girls.
/r/seduction19/02/17 09:10 PM
2

Posts should be appreciated for their own merit, not necessarily who is posting them.
/r/seduction19/02/17 08:42 PM
2

Don't "let yourself bump into someone"; ride out and meet them. Dating apps are terrible substitutes for meeting real people. Most of the girls on there are just looking for validation and instagram followers. You don't have to be a "dominant guy" to make your intent clear with women. It just takes practice to push through this. I highly recommend watching this speech and this one for starters. Read "Models" if you haven't already.
/r/seduction14/02/17 02:38 PM
2

I like Liam McRae and James Marshall for this. They're obviously "natural" style primarily, but they mesh the inner game quite well with outer in a way that is real and honest rather than gimmicky and scripted as it was in the era of Mystery and the like. I've learned a lot from them.
/r/seduction14/02/17 05:55 AM
1

If you walk the same way every day all you have to do is say hello in or out of class. Show your curiosity. In regards to approaching any girl, the "idk if she has a boyfriend" excuse is bullshit. If you want to talk to her, go talk to her and find out.
/r/seduction08/02/17 07:08 PM
3

Are you in middle school?
/r/seduction24/01/17 05:51 PM
1

You can stay away from girls like that, sure. I was pretty specific about what I meant and didn't try to imply that all women everywhere are great.
/r/seduction11/01/17 06:16 PM
7

More context would certainly help. Are you dating? Is this just a casual hookup situation? Try building more tension when you're with her and don't release it with a kiss to early. Oftentimes guys will try to go hard-and-fast right away without letting the night play on a bit and slowly building up tension until she can't handle it anymore. This is tough to learn and definitely takes practice but it is incredibly fun to pull off.
/r/seduction11/01/17 02:43 PM
1

I also don't drink alcohol which makes things harder. It does make you much better, though. Relying on alcohol to be social is nothing more than a crutch, and you don't have to drink to enjoy the nightlife or talk to women. It all comes down to practice, and even though you might think this is harder initially you'll get better faster by challenging yourself sober. Not to mention that the sex will be much better once you start pulling.
/r/seduction11/01/17 03:39 AM
1

And for the sake of this sub, let's just suppose I only want to sleep with her. Don't give me that; tell us what you want. It's fine to be on this sub looking for advice on getting a satisfying, monogamous relationship too. If you do just want to sleep with her that's fine, but expect her to blow up your phone afterwards and cause drama. If she has very limited access to your life otherwise, you can gauge whether or not this would be worth it.
/r/seduction11/01/17 03:36 AM
2

Curious why you titled this "college bar tips" if you're asking for social skills and chances with women. Don't be fooled into thinking that the only social scene in college is at the bars. College is the social scene. All of it. What else do you do? Are you in any clubs? On any teams? Do you work on/near campus?
/r/seduction11/01/17 03:34 AM
4

At 16 you should be much more focused on developing yourself than meeting more girls. It'll pay off drastically in the future. "Serious relationships" at 16 barely exist, honestly. Also, don't call girls "sluts" for wanting to get laid. They're in a perfectly natural, experimental phase of life and sex is awesome. So long as they're doing it safely, they shouldn't be labeled and judged for getting what they are biologically driven to want.
/r/seduction11/01/17 03:29 AM
1

Probably activities that don't take place in school.
/r/seduction11/01/17 03:26 AM
7

I find it works better to be more direct. "Let's get coffee (here), does (this time) work?" usually gets effective results where as "we should (do this) sometime" gets a lot of flakes.
/r/seduction11/01/17 03:25 AM
1

Do you just want to sleep with this girl? Why would you put up with that type of behavior? Do you brag to her about how many girls you're seeing or something? Personally, I don't put up with shit like that. There's a reason for the adage "don't stick it in crazy". Unless you want a lot of drama and clinginess, find someone better.
/r/seduction11/01/17 03:23 AM
1

Lots of bots on tinder are tagged as attending "New York University" for some reason.
/r/seduction11/01/17 03:20 AM
1

Don't base your goals or development on a new year. You should already have goals and be working towards them regardless of what a calendar says.
/r/seduction09/01/17 06:43 PM
1

If you want to be a jaded redpiller, go on ahead, but you aren't doing yourself or any others any good. It isn't advice; it's just empty complaining. Do you have anything productive or relevant to add to the thread?
/r/seduction20/12/16 09:04 PM
1

It takes practice and calibration to read her signals. You don't always have to get all the way to sex, but the intent should be clear.
/r/seduction20/12/16 05:08 PM
1

I think I understand what you're saying, and I agree. I think I was just using the term in the logistical context of the relationship rather than to describe whatever her true physical desire may be, so I think we're talking about two sides of the same coin.
/r/seduction20/12/16 04:38 PM
1

I don't entirely disagree. My point is that we had the connection going, and I was completely stuck moving forward physically. Even considering the long-term, that does happen at some point, correct? My problem wasn't just not escalating all the way to sex, it was not escalating at all in a way that demonstrated that this was an emotionally as well as physically intimate relationship, even after we had built a good connection. How would you describe that process differently from your perspective…
/r/seduction20/12/16 04:32 PM
2

This is awesome
/r/seduction20/12/16 04:22 PM
1

Keep at it, bro. There are plenty of others so long as you go out and find them.
/r/seduction20/12/16 04:20 PM
1

Honestly man, it really sucked for a couple days but I had a few things going for me. First of all, we were only seeing each other for about 2 months, so it wasn't a proper LTR. I also got myself back out there right away; I hooked up with someone else three days after it happened. The shitty part about breakups is that we're emotional animals, as much as we'd like to be cold, calculated PUA machines. I gave myself a few days and acknowledged the pain I was feeling but told myself that I'd get r…
/r/seduction20/12/16 04:19 PM
2

Think of something fun to do, invite her to join you, and escalate. Don't count on just her, though. You should be seeing other girls as well even if it means going out of your way to meet people.
/r/seduction20/12/16 04:14 AM
1

Being healthy doesn't take "genetic gifts". If you don't think the advice applies to you, that's fine, but there are plenty of short guys out there getting laid while you complain. What types of advice do you think "everyone else" will benefit from?
/r/seduction20/12/16 03:59 AM
6

Thanks for the perspective, it's definitely more to think about.
/r/seduction20/12/16 03:39 AM
2

Steadfastly disagree. I won't pretend that looks and health don't play a role in fundamental biology because obviously they're important. The thing is, there are still plenty of tall, fit guys who aren't bold enough to make moves. Hell, I talked to tall, really attractive guy yesterday who wanted to kill himself because he didn't know how to talk to girls. "Be attractive, don't be unattractive" is a buzzphrase mostly used by people who aren't willing to take responsibility for the things that th…
/r/seduction20/12/16 03:26 AM
1

Watch the presentation and practice. I've got a long way to go myself, but you have to start working with wherever you're at.
/r/seduction19/12/16 11:54 PM
5

Glad to hear a woman sharing this view. Thanks for the input.
/r/seduction19/12/16 11:43 PM
1

You can still have something more if you get out and meet more girls.
/r/seduction19/12/16 11:42 PM
12

Great point. He briefly touches on this in the video too. How you respond to her cues and boundaries if she lays them out is so much more important than how you get there in the first place.
/r/seduction19/12/16 11:22 PM
1

You don't "bring up fucking" in a logistical way; you express your intent physically. I'd recommend watching the presentation if you haven't yet; he covers this thoroughly. If she's giving you mixed signals but responds well when you start heating things up physically, you'll learn really quickly where her head is at.
/r/seduction19/12/16 11:21 PM
1

If it wasn't clear from the post, we had already connected on that level. I don't mean that everyone should be trying to fuck on the very first time out, but the physical intent can still be present. In the case of my example, we had already shared that emotional/mental connection and had great conversations and I wasn't adding the sexuality to the relationship past that point. You can have excellent conversations with somebody and still make time for sex as well, especially if you've been seein…
/r/seduction19/12/16 11:18 PM
2

If you're home with your family and the girls are home with their families it can certainly be tough. I'm lucky enough to still be in my own place. Occasionally I've taken care of some houses and pets for family friends and used those houses when I was still back home.
/r/seduction19/12/16 11:16 PM
1

Again, this is all calibrated based on your goals and the context. Every person in either end of the interaction is different, and if you're both clearly looking for a relationship the escalation can work differently. I don't mean that sex should be the only goal right out of the gate, but in the case of my example we had already established the emotional connection that could have led to a relationship but I didn't move forward physically at all even though she was responding well.
/r/seduction19/12/16 11:14 PM
0

Wouldn't recommend The Art of Seduction but I'd certainly recommend The Game. Many of the tools presented in that book are outdated but it's a fascinating story and a great read into some of PUA history. Neil gets into some of the other lifestyle aspects associated with pickup and covers some of the bad ways it can go and I enjoyed reading it.
/r/seduction19/12/16 05:31 PM
6

I think you should get out more. There are plenty of attractive girls nearby that don't have herpes, and that's not something that I'd ever want to mess with.
/r/seduction19/12/16 05:22 PM
2

Depends on who you are and how you handle people. You don't have to go to crazy ragers to be social; even awkward band and drama kids throw parties. I didn't drink until after getting to university and I managed to have a blast in high school.
/r/seduction17/12/16 11:53 PM
2

Like I said, you need to be social with everybody. Play sports, do music, whatever social hobbies you engage in should be getting you friends and connections everywhere. If you have the means, throw your own.
/r/seduction17/12/16 10:41 PM
1

Everywhere. Obviously you need to learn to be calibrated and reasonable, but you need to make your intent clear.
/r/seduction17/12/16 07:03 PM
2

Escalation is physical. Jokes alone won't do it; do you expect her to hear a joke and grab your dick? Watch this video
/r/seduction17/12/16 06:29 PM
15

You're in high school. You should worry so much more about your own personal development than anything else right now and trust me, the girls will come. If you don't exercise, start right now. You don't have to immediately jump into a full weight-training regimen, but start doing something to get active. If you already do or you play sports and whatnot, keep stepping it up and getting better. Eat better as well. Taking care of your physical health will improve every single other aspect of your l…
/r/seduction17/12/16 06:27 PM
3

I think we're just looking at it from different timelines. I think the most attractive quality a girl can have during the moment you approach her might be interest/investment back to you, but as soon as I've opened her up her interest means little. I want to know who she is as a person and there are so many more attractive characteristics than simply being interested in me. Where are you getting the "Factors of Attraction"? Is that a particular book or something? I'm also curious about your scal…
/r/seduction17/12/16 06:19 PM
30

Go out and meet them. How much "seeking" are you doing in this game?
/r/seduction17/12/16 05:49 PM
27

I'd like to respectfully disagree. While it's true that you should be screening for girls with interest, I don't think that interest alone really means anything other than an open door. It's only important if you are coming from scarcity and don't know or talk to a lot of girls. I'm not under any obligation to show interest in someone simply for showing interest in me. I don't know what relativity has to do with this at all. I show interest in girls that earn it. I know some strikingly attractiv…
/r/seduction17/12/16 05:48 PM
1

You're taking yourself and "game" too seriously, bud. I know ripped guys who don't get any respect because they aren't interesting, developed men. They might occasionally be able to pull chicks just for being ripped, but the girls they deal with are low on the totem pole. Don't get me wrong, being in great shape doesn't hurt, but women are much less visual when it comes to attraction than men and they are much more socially and emotionally attuned.
/r/seduction14/11/16 06:19 AM
25

Basically, remember that people aren't robots and be genuine in your application of the tips in books like this. If you're focusing more on how you're going to get something from somebody rather than how you're going to improve yourself and your interactions, that is when it can get manipulative.
/r/seduction14/11/16 06:12 AM
3

You're being direct in the same way that showing up to her house uninvited with flowers and saying "I love you" is being direct. Leading her to make a move is much less cliche, isn't boring, and shows that you aren't going to put her on a pedestal. u/ThrowawayPUA's explanation is pretty spot-on.
/r/seduction31/10/16 08:55 PM
9

Ya, say "you" like every other beta guy who wants to show that he's desperate for attention. If you're coming from a position of confidence and abundance, this is far too lazy and cliche of a response.
/r/seduction31/10/16 05:05 PM
2

Thanks for the post. Your timing is incredible; just last night I had the tough conversation after I pushed a girl away by becoming too needy. I've done well on my development in other regards but I'm still working on my responses to my own emotions.
/r/seduction27/09/16 12:49 PM
2

I just found this out the hard way. Changing my habitual reactions is my next challenge.
/r/seduction27/09/16 12:31 PM
6

Liam Mcrae does a pretty solid video on that here. I'd also highly recommend James Marshall's Three Pillars video. These are long presentations so you can listen to them while doing chores or play the audio the way you would any podcast but they have some excellent advice on intent and how to project that intent.
/r/seduction19/08/16 01:23 PM
3

Yes. Read "Models" three or four times now and just started "No More Mr. Nice Guy". They're both good.
/r/seduction22/06/16 05:25 AM
2

I can sympathize with this mindset. I'd highly recommend picking up No More Mr. Nice Guy. This post is a fairly good summary to give you an idea. I'm still working through the book myself; classes just wrapped up so I can finally really tackle my reading list. anything is better than being alone though I disagree. If you're hanging around genuinely shitty people, I think you'd be better off alone for a while. In that regard, you could work on self-improvement and get yourself to the point where …
/r/seduction17/06/16 05:35 PM
2

doing nice things for the girl in hopes that she recognizes them as a great guy and they pick up on their interest. And there's the problem. Genuinely compassionate acts should come from a place of security so that they are freely given without hoping that they are recognized or reciprocated at all. I absolutely agree that media has a huge role in influencing the ridiculous cultural ideas we have about dating and romance, but honestly it doesn't take long to demonstrate to a "nice guy" how obvio…
/r/seduction17/06/16 05:28 PM
1

I think some people are downvoting you because they may not get the point of your post. This sub is about self-improvement and growth in the social areas and others. If you came through to just pander to the victim mentality of people who need help without actually offering them any help, it wouldn't surprise me that people would downvote that. The mentality here isn't about looking down on nice guys; it's about helping them. Simply feeding a victim mentality and then moving on isn't helping the…
/r/seduction17/06/16 05:22 PM
1

I owe you a proper response tomorrow. I don't know know why you're being downvoted; I know it's not always black and white.
/r/seduction17/06/16 07:13 AM
89

You sound like you're still a "nice guy". a lot of women do take advantage of NICE guys How so? Often times "nice guys" will do "nice" things with the intent of getting something in return, rather than simply giving out of compassion (i.e. actually being nice). If the girl then doesn't give them back what they secretly wanted, the "nice guy" will assume he's being "taken advantage of". Explain how this actually happens where the woman is entirely at fault. friend-zone them and use them for their…
/r/seduction16/06/16 04:16 PM
3

I did this last quarter and blew it with a really cool chick. Luckily I learned my lesson and this quarter is going much better. I've only texted girls to set up the dates and saved all the good conversation and fun for the dates in person. It's working much better.
/r/seduction09/04/16 06:04 AM
3

Great FR man. You're setting the standard high and inspired me to write one up in the morning! Props to you for not becoming their daytime activity pal despite the Swedes.
/r/seduction09/04/16 06:02 AM
17

"Nice shoes" "good, you?"
/r/seduction18/03/16 05:14 PM
-1

OK, little buddy :)
/r/seduction14/03/16 04:03 PM
-2

He could've written a comment worded like that, instead of riding through on his high horse. We don't need insecure asshole filling the comment section.
/r/seduction14/03/16 03:28 PM
2

If you're so damn good you'd know how to actually offer constructive teaching rather than coming off like an insecure asshole. Competent, confident people don't need to run around bragging about how great they are. If you can take the effort to write an ego-padding, useless comment, how much more effort would it have been to write one single bit of clear, constructive advice?
/r/seduction14/03/16 03:16 PM
1

I still go on and offer detailed advice to people's questions. This post was for my own cynical humor, not intended to be an encyclopedia of perfect advice. You are the one who needs to get off the high horse if you can't understand that obvious point and feel like building straw men out of it. Stop taking yourself so seriously, friend.
/r/seduction10/01/16 05:39 PM
1

Eh, not even almost on the same level. Making a million dollars is more complicated in every regard than asking a girl on a date.
/r/seduction09/01/16 11:06 PM
1

Mark Manson is not a "just be yourself" teacher. The whole point of "Models" is becoming better constantly, not simply "just be yourself and whatever happens happens" like some others I think you're referring to. I absolutely agree that the "just be who you are" style of advice is pointless if it isn't followed by "as long as who you are is really good at what you do and always improving". You've missed his point and completely distorted these ideas if you try to compare them to going in the gym…
/r/seduction09/01/16 11:01 PM
1

Nobody is going to have success with something as blatantly bad and creepy as the line you mentioned. That's not what direct is, and you're mistaken if you think so. Mystery developed a system of performance for people who are woefully insecure (like himself) to hide the fact that they aren't truly confident in themselves. Sure, you may get some short term success with "game", the Mystery Method, Magic Bullets, or other PUA techniques, but it almost certainly will lead to long term falling-apart…
/r/seduction09/01/16 09:29 PM
1

I do still get on and answer questions. I enjoy helping people out.
/r/seduction09/01/16 06:57 PM
2

I know and I do still hop on every now and then to answer people's questions. Sometimes I just get in the mood for some cynical humor.
/r/seduction09/01/16 06:50 PM
6

(Sigh) Read "Models" by Mark Manson if this is a real post and you're actually serious about getting better. Furthermore, if any of this is serious or real, FUCK YOU if you're drunk driving. Goodness I'd love to help you out but if you have such reckless disregard for your own life and the lives of others you don't deserve it. I hope that bit was an exaggeration.
/r/seduction07/01/16 03:30 AM
1

Great
/r/seduction30/12/15 02:36 AM
1

Post the link to the actual article next time so that ripoff websites don't get revenue for other people's work. It's one of the top posts of all time.
/r/seduction29/12/15 09:30 PM
1

Great, you're my winggirl now.
/r/seduction13/12/15 05:40 PM
2

Holy shit is that Sasha Daygame? Damn good video. Anyone talking about how it's unrealistic is missing the entire point. It's a video with a message, not a hyper-realistic depiction of proper daygame seduction. Sasha has infield videos for that.
/r/seduction09/12/15 05:18 AM
14

I think that we read things like this here pretty often and become desensitized. And yet, I know plenty of beautiful (I'm talking stunning) women who can't even remember the last time a guy even just approached them and got a phone number. Even a simple cold approach (simple to us in this community, that is) is something that many girls have never experienced. We can't trick ourselves into thinking that everybody else is also reading seduction material, in the same way that a bike enthusiast cou…
/r/seduction28/10/15 01:54 PM
56

Could sound cliche, but how many times have you actually said that to a girl? How many times has anyone actually done this? Girls want their lives to have the occasional rom-com scene.
/r/seduction28/10/15 01:08 PM
7

Awesome post that doesn't link to a site or ebook? We need more of these
/r/seduction26/10/15 12:18 PM
1

Are you writing this from your garage in your Lamborghini while you count the number of hills in your Hollywood account?
/r/seduction22/10/15 03:34 PM
27

Hey I'm a super attractive and really confident guy but I want to know what this girl meant when she brushed by me in class. Plz help P. S. Did I mention that I'm really confident and really attractive but also how do I tell if a girl likes me
/r/seduction21/09/15 07:37 PM
3

You don't have much confidence if you let rejections hurt you. There are a million reasons for a girl to reject you and almost none of them have anything to do with you. Read "Models" by Mark Manson.
/r/seduction11/09/15 03:48 PM
4

Even then, assume she likes you and act on it. You'll find out quickly if she's just being friendly.
/r/seduction11/09/15 01:39 PM
5

Absolutely. I simply didn't want to dive into that topic in this post since there are already a number of great posts covering it.
/r/seduction10/09/15 08:05 AM
1

The rope is a little more sturdy but more importantly to me is that you can use trees/objects that are further apart
/r/seduction20/08/15 07:44 PM
3

Real men hopefully understand that 10 creamers and 5 sugars is a terribly unhealthy way to consume coffee
/r/seduction20/08/15 03:48 PM
1

IMO "that dress looks nice on you" still compliments the dress. "You look nice in that dress" compliments the girl.
/r/seduction16/08/15 06:11 PM
3

/thread
/r/seduction11/08/15 02:44 PM
1

Never read that book but I'm well aware that I didn't invent this idea. How is that book? I read "the game" way back and it was ok
/r/seduction08/08/15 02:41 PM
1

I really appreciate it! It wasn't the most well-written post either; I've got a long way to go. If there's any way I can give you some more value, let me know!
/r/seduction03/08/15 02:04 PM
1

Just an example actually it doesn't happen to me. That doesn't sound fun though, work through it!
/r/seduction03/08/15 03:48 AM
1

You're not being a dick; you're right. The message of my post could be phrased better and I'll update it in the future when I'm more awake and coherent. People are watching, but they will forget you in minutes unless you've done something absolutely ridiculous. Even then, the opinions of strangers should be worth less to you than sand
/r/seduction02/08/15 09:34 PM
1

Love the cake bit
/r/seduction28/07/15 01:53 PM
1

Absolutely. I started with H outer game just like most people. Not all of it is bad or unnecessary. You still need to learn how to approach people and talk to strangers; my post was more focused on the script side of outer game theory.
/r/seduction28/07/15 01:53 PM
1

Be confident and assume attraction. Rather than saying, "hey can I get your number" as if it's a big deal (which it isnt), just take out your phone, look her in the eye, and tell her to put her number in. Use some tact, obviously, but it really isn't as big of a deal as people think.
/r/seduction07/07/15 10:39 PM
2

If your entire idea of fun stuff is drinking, you haven't been outside much. Frankly, I've had way more fun and made way better memories sober. Plus, sober sex is always better than drunk sex.
/r/seduction28/06/15 03:18 PM
1

Start by dropping video games for a while and replacing that time with something social. I used to be a huge gamer and I cut it back all year and now the only time I play is when I'm with some old friends, and I allow it since it's a social event. Invest in some new hobbies, preferably social ones that would put you around the type of girls you want to meet. Cut back on TV too. I limit myself to one show at a time, most recently once weekly Game of Thrones. Rather than watching more pickup video…
/r/seduction22/06/15 05:30 AM
1

Ask her to hang out in a group then for starters. If you just hang out one-on-one all the time it's not very cool to your girlfriend unless your girlfriend also knows her and knows you're not cheating. Go out with a group and have fun! Keep this up. Focus on having a good time, being a good listener, and focus more on staying flirty/physical with your girlfriend and just friendly and conversational with the other girl. Talk to her in classes, study, etc. as long as your girlfriend becomes her fr…
/r/seduction17/06/15 07:26 PM
5

Felt really nervous the first time I tried this but she went craaaaazy. It doesn't work out its all girls though. Learn to read them
/r/seduction10/06/15 12:35 AM
5

Why have a long-term relationship with somebody who isn't fully compatible with you? Being vegan is a way bigger deal than you seem to think.
/r/seduction19/05/15 11:47 PM
1

That's the type of confidence that will take you places in all areas of life. Well done.
/r/seduction19/05/15 02:59 PM
4

This is the perfect response
/r/seduction19/05/15 02:57 PM
1

It means you're not actually confident if you're asking this and acting like that. They can smell it from a mile away. Also, people are way too worried about themselves to care about how you look if you don't even approach. Double-takes happen in movies. In real life, you have to approach.
/r/seduction18/05/15 01:32 PM
2

I don't mean to say it never happens, but often these stories are exaggerated.
/r/seduction15/05/15 08:47 PM
6

"and then I banged her in my lambo with my 12 inch dick" OK bud glad you had fun
/r/seduction15/05/15 04:52 PM
4

Sounds like a story I overheard by a running-start student at my uni. I don't want to deny it all, but it really does sound like a 16 year old trying to sound like he knows what the adult life is like
/r/seduction15/05/15 04:15 PM
23

Exactly. Treat them just like you'd treat a bro. Hang out, have fun, etc. Don't expect more from them and you'll actually end up better off than all her orbiters
/r/seduction10/05/15 09:10 PM
7

One of the problems with the idea of being a friend to a female is that so many people associate it with the "nice guy" who's stuck in the friendzone and begging to get out. In that case, it's an issue and most of these benefits won't be fully realized. A confident man can be friends with a woman without desiring more, and in that regard it's easy to still command respect. Viewing the friendship as a positive asset rather than a hole to escape changes the dynamics entirely.
/r/seduction10/05/15 08:13 PM
2

Being assertive isn't white-knighting. Neither is being dominant. Getting what you want doesn't have to involve treating people poorly, and I'm sorry if you feel that way
/r/seduction14/04/15 01:15 AM
6

I was just about to post something similar. Too often (largely to the fault of media) people confuse attraction with love and feel like it justifies a relationship. Don't make that mistake
/r/seduction13/04/15 08:41 PM
7

What's your problem with the post? Or the sub? I don't even visit here much so I'd love to hear your opinion
/r/seduction13/04/15 05:35 AM
1

You can be a bad boy! Being a "bad boy" isn't the same as being an asshole- it's just typically associated with that front that "nice guys" usually switch to as simply a different mask to cover their insecurities. If you're legitimately a "bad boy" type, that's great. The way your comment read made it seem like your "game" is pretending to be busy, pretending to not be interested, etc. Those things are ultimately doing you more harm than good. If you're actually busy, fine. If you're not interes…
/r/seduction13/04/15 02:19 AM
7

You can have the attitude of not-giving-a-fuck and still treat people with respect. If you're just generally mean to people, it's a problem. I don't mean to say that anyone with the "bad boy" image like you mentioned is an asshole; my main point is that it's possible for both the typical "nice guy" and "bad boy" to be nothing more than fronts for people underneath. If that's the image you like but you still understand how to treat people well, that's great!
/r/seduction13/04/15 12:02 AM
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He respects whatever her reason is. Smart, dominant leaders understand that leading doesn't mean getting your way in every instance; it's taking the initiative first. If she offers a better solution, lead her to lead you.
/r/seduction12/04/15 11:58 PM
10

Great example. Sums it up very well
/r/seduction12/04/15 09:55 PM
7

If this is your advice you just missed the entire point. Be someone interesting and intriguing; don't just pretend like you're busy or pretend like you're a bad boy just to seem intriguing. That is still a front. If you are a rocker and you're actually into that look, great, but don't put it on just to appear like a "bad boy" just so you can be nice to "intrigue" them. If that's the case you're still just pretending because you feel insecure about who you really are. Do what you like and you'll …
/r/seduction12/04/15 09:54 PM
3

I hate how shallow the world is. Everybody says they only think about personality but God damn when I started working out EVERYONE treated me differently
/r/seduction20/01/15 11:01 PM
31

Exactly. Or the classic "how can I lie about my deeply seeded insecurities so that this one girl will bang me every night but also never get emotionally involved?"
/r/seduction10/01/15 04:22 PM
56

This is the first post in a while that was genuinely intriguing and exciting! I'd love to try this
/r/seduction10/01/15 07:30 AM
2

You misspelled "easiest mode ever"
/r/seduction07/01/15 06:34 PM
1

At first I was going to comment on waiting too long to make the move but damn that line saved you
/r/seduction05/01/15 11:33 PM
7

Either you're a sad middle-schooler trolling for attention because your parents don't love you or you're retarded. Either way I don't need to waste any more time on you. Have fun coming up with an equally retarded reply so that you can have the last word to make yourself feel good. I'll be genuinely proud if you don't.
/r/seduction05/01/15 01:53 AM
2

Stop
/r/seduction05/01/15 01:40 AM
5

Start acting like you believe your hobbies Are interesting. They are! No hobbies are inherently boring unless you make then feel or look boring to the girls you're around.
/r/seduction01/01/15 06:38 PM
1

Great job staying positive and not dwelling on any mistakes. Sounds like you did great: keep it up!
/r/seduction01/01/15 06:32 PM
22

Obesity 100%. If she can't even take care of herself then she probably isn't a person worth my time. Also basic evolution.
/r/seduction21/12/14 01:30 AM
1

If you strictly want to manipulate a woman into bed with you for a night, sure. Otherwise, why would you ever put her interests above yours?
/r/seduction16/12/14 05:37 AM
2

"if you enjoyed this post then stop reading my comment now before I carefully explain how much of a fucking idiot you are" 8/8 this is what I came here to say.
/r/seduction12/12/14 09:13 AM
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Either you don't know how to read or you're misinterpreting all of my words for no reason. Good luck to you sir, I'm done here. Have fun commenting on this so you can have the last word. I'll be genuinely proud of you if you don't.
/r/seduction03/12/14 09:59 PM
1

I was referring to the use of phrases like "hey ur hot" and all that you listed. Stop being a child. And yes, by definition, acting more like a woman is not manly. I'm not saying it's wrong or right, but it isn't manly. Calm yourself down and don't be a SJW.
/r/seduction03/12/14 06:47 PM
1

If it works for you great. Being a confident MAN, however, is not doing what all of the BOYS are doing, like you mentioned.
/r/seduction03/12/14 05:48 PM
4

This is a bad idea. Be a man and tell her you find her attractive. All these gimmicks and flim-flams are not the actions of a confident man. Be a confident man and go take what you want. You'll get rejected; that's part of the process. It is better to polarize then to get rejected less because you pretend to be gay to cover your insecurity. A confident man can have fun without masking who he is.
/r/seduction03/12/14 04:32 PM
2

This is terrible advice. You will only improve if you spend time with people better than you. Stop being a jealous, insecure keyboard warrior and spend time out of your comfort zone to become awesome.
/r/seduction29/11/14 05:38 PM
1

Intention. If you're not capable of looking at yourself from an outside perspective, that needs to be fixed.
/r/seduction23/11/14 02:36 PM
3

Shrek out of ten
/r/seduction28/10/14 06:21 AM
0

You must be new here. Just say hi! It is literally never easier to interact with beautiful women than it is in college.
/r/seduction27/10/14 05:39 AM
1

Practice, man. Practice. Work in the field. Also learn to accept yourself and disregard social pressure. Practice going out of your comfort zone. Spend time intentionally seeing the positive side of everything and more positive things will come into your life. Pretty soon you'll love yourself and women love a man who loves himself. You're great man! 19 y/o here, feel free to message me if you want better details
/r/seduction21/10/14 02:04 AM
1

Remember reactions don't have everything to do with you. Don't take rejection personally, see it as the possibility that she was in a bad mood or had a long day etc.
/r/seduction09/10/14 03:34 PM
1

sounds sweet man. Any chance you get, take leadership. Doesn't have to even be the whole crowd, just lead any way you can and talk to everybody! Just be there to have a great time and it will rub off
/r/seduction05/10/14 09:21 PM
1

Festivals are the 2+2 of pickup. Nothing is easier. Just being there will give you what you need. One extra shred of confidence and initiative will get you those ladies
/r/seduction02/10/14 02:58 PM
3

Well done! Haircuts and working out will help I guarantee but nevertheless the confidence is awesome!
/r/seduction11/04/14 02:16 AM
2

it's not a workplace. if she was HIS tutor it'd be an issue. if he screws this up, however, he just has one less student. hardly a problem
/r/seduction04/04/14 01:49 AM
1

if i weren't a student spending so much time calculating i'd be giving you gold for that
/r/seduction04/04/14 01:48 AM
2

18 here. I got involved by this sub first. Read all the top posts. I'd then highly recommend reading "the game" for starters. Also, and this is personal taste, the podcast "Art of Charm" has been super helpful. Practice makes perfect!
/r/seduction14/02/14 02:55 PM
1

Select target. Being mind and attention to the soles of your feet and walk over without letting yourself think about anything other than the feeling of your feet in your shoes. Arrive, open, and continue from there. You can do it buddy!
/r/seduction11/02/14 06:07 PM
1

How many of the people you are socializing with normally are female? I used to be pretty popular as well, but only with guys. I didn't have any good female friends that were simply, truly friends. I'd suggest making sure you have women in your social circle that are strictly friends. Flirt with them, have fun around them, but don't try to seduce them. Instead, learn from them and let them act as wing-women! They surely have more female friends of their own, and the best way to meet girls is to b…
/r/seduction04/12/13 04:34 PM
75

Every comment on here makes a good point. My personal advice is along the practice line. If you practice flirting with everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, it will be second nature and you'll treat a lady of interest more like a real person than some goddess on a pedestal. I'm not saying you need to try to seduce everyone, but if you aren't comfortable bantering with that old lady on the bus, the cashier at the store, the girl giving you your coffee, etc, you won't be comfortable flirting with someone…
/r/seduction04/12/13 05:11 AM
1

Of course! I look forward to seeing what you put together as well! Good luck
/r/seduction29/11/13 04:29 AM
1

Their book is entirely science-based, actually. The team (collectively) sent hundreds of thousands of text messages over a year, kept all of them, went through them and statistically looked at what works and what doesn't. I haven't read the book personally as I'm also a broke college student content on reading countless free articles instead, but that sounds pretty scientific.
/r/seduction29/11/13 04:15 AM
3

Thank you for remaining positive and not raging. The book is not free, but the site (along with many other sites everywhere) is full of articles independent of the book. There are thousands of free articles online you should read and look through if you haven't done so already. If your goal is that specific, you're going to have more trouble finding related info, but it wouldn't hurt to look.
/r/seduction29/11/13 12:42 AM
7

I am not trying to be a dick, but honestly you should take an English class. I couldn't understand most of what that little paragraph was trying to say.
/r/seduction28/11/13 11:54 PM
13

Art of Charm did this already, over the course of a year and hundreds of thousands of texts. I'm not involved in any way, simply a listener of their podcast, but I figure if anyone is interested in this they could just check it out. It's called the "txt book" and they have a site called "howtotextgirls.com".
/r/seduction28/11/13 04:23 PM
1

Here's what I've learned. 1. Confidence. You should know this, anything you read will emphasize this. Learn it. (Not arrogance, however) 2. Kino, establish quickly that you are looking for more than friends. Don't assault anyone, but don't be afraid of physical contact. 3. If they friendzone you, drop them and move on. Treat them like you would any acquaintance. Chasing is incredibly unattractive. 4. Be social and flirty with EVERYONE, not just women of interest. Not only will this give you prac…
/r/seduction26/11/13 05:40 AM
2

I see anime and video games and cringe. Not that those things are inherently bad, but the stereotype stands. Spend more time outside, reading books (not comic books/graphic novels), and talking to people.
/r/seduction17/11/13 08:35 PM
1

If that is all you care to do and/or discuss, and you think you need to "fool" girls into thinking you're interested, you need to seriously re-evaluate your life. If that was a serious post I'm almost shocked.
/r/seduction17/11/13 08:55 AM
4

No scissor-hugs. Both arms are either over or under, not one of each. I prefer under because then she feels my muscular shape and I can gently grab her back, one hand on lower one on upper, and as the hug finishes (when she starts to open up) you can gently stroke your hand across her back as you draw away. They may not tell you right there, but I've never hugged a girl that didn't LOVE that.
/r/seduction01/10/13 03:59 AM
4

Sound advice but you truly earned my upvote with the sleepy hair-stroke bit.
/r/seduction28/05/13 05:40 AM
4

18/m senior studying seduction for college. This sub has changed my life and not just with girls.
/r/seduction16/03/13 02:06 PM
3

As somebody older and more experienced than both of you, I offer this advice: Personal, live, face-to-face interaction ALWAYS trumps anything online or text-based. Always. If you have only met someone online but think they're cute, find them in the real world and meet them. If they live far away or some such, meet someone else. It is easy to communicate behind the mask of the Internet or text messaging, but easy doesn't get people anywhere. I would highly recommend training your personal interac…
/r/seduction23/02/13 07:02 AM
3

Same age here. I am a moderately good-looking guy, I have a large social circle (through practice and the daily grind), and I am very involved at my school, so people know who I am. Yet, there are still times I feel down about myself. When this happens, I talk to more people, usually girls. Girls are better listeners and advice givers, and they don't think it's weak or "gay" (as high-schoolers use the term) for a man to have emotions. Just talk to people. Be honest to someone close to you about …
/r/seduction12/12/12 05:28 AM
1

Be careful of the seasons. We're currently still in boyfriend season, but as march rolls around we enter breakup season. Springtime is the single party-er season, so them would be theoretically the best time for success before boyfriend season resumes next year
/r/seduction08/12/12 03:11 PM
1

Just talk to girls. As many as you can.
/r/seduction03/12/12 05:39 AM
1

This deserves upvotes to the sky
/r/seduction29/11/12 06:14 AM
2

Good work, man. I'm glad to see things are going well. Keep posting your successes/failures to keep learning and help others learn. Best of luck out there.
/r/seduction27/11/12 02:24 PM
2

From recent personal experience my advice is this: stay alpha. Keep sedditing and be interesting and outcome independent. Don't assume she's never going to leave. Put in the effort necessary to keep her around. Stay the same guy that she became attracted to in the first place.
/r/seduction25/11/12 12:59 AM
1

Well said.
/r/seduction25/11/12 12:54 AM
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Nobody should be "flaming" you for saying this. Everybody makes mistakes, and here is an acceptable place to display them so you can best learn. The fact that you recognize your mistakes is a sign of improvement.
/r/seduction23/11/12 05:06 PM
1

My apologies. Thank you
/r/seduction20/11/12 02:26 AM
1

I have exactly the same problem! Go for her.
/r/seduction29/10/12 07:17 AM
3

Absolutely. Young guys, heed these words.
/r/seduction13/10/12 04:43 PM
1

Wise words. I am a senior this year, and last year I decided to stop being so anti-social (I'd only talk to my existing close friends) and start talking to every one. I had multiple girls after me, got asked to prom by the prom Queen and had a thing with her all summer long, and now I'm doing even better. I am captain of our drumline, which gets me close to the cheerleaders. I talk to eveyone in my classes and such, and im getting to know girls that i ised to be afraid of talking to. I am a pret…
/r/seduction19/09/12 12:59 PM
5

raises glass with vigor and toasts "To Men"!
/r/seduction16/09/12 07:23 PM
9

I'm awesome because I'm good-looking, talented, outgoing, fit, and chivalrous.
/r/seduction16/09/12 02:59 PM
2

Great work. I appreciate your ( I trust ) accurate ratings- it seems like every time someone on seddit does their first field report they always meet HB9's. It gets boring to see. Well done on all accounts.
/r/seduction12/09/12 04:42 AM
1

Well I mean that's how long we've sorta known each other.... But ya this is what I feared. Haha thanks though! I'll get out and game some more ASAP
/r/seduction21/06/12 07:23 PM
1

Oh thanks for the heads-up ill move it over. Also only about 6 months
/r/seduction21/06/12 06:38 PM
1

If you're using canvas it doesn't show up unless it's landscape
/r/seduction21/06/12 02:25 PM
1

Sure! Press the little arrow menu at the bottom of the screen
/r/seduction21/06/12 02:23 PM
16

Thanks much! I had guessed that- and thanks for the sidebar tip; I'm using Alien blue so had to mess with some buttons to find it but got to it and will read through it well. Thanks for a good reply that didn't just shut down the new guy😄
/r/seduction20/06/12 06:01 PM
17

Sorry, but as a total reddit noob I aww unaware as to the meaning of "hb6/7 - please clarify. Also well done.
/r/seduction20/06/12 05:38 PM
1

Beautiful start sir.
/r/seduction20/06/12 04:45 PM
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