How do I lead a Conversation away from the basic "how are you today"

Woujo · 2017-05-16T15:41:27+00:00

https://www.woujo.com/blog/2017/5/3/how-to-have-a-conversation-with-a-woman

bjlmag · 2017-05-16T17:12:36+00:00

One easy jumping-off point is simply asking "why?", no matter what their response. It will throw off her auto-response script and force her to actually think about what's going on and tell you about it. Most people just say "good" or "fine" without any thought at all and if you ask something like "what's making today good for you?" they might end up with a great story to tell you or even realize their own bullshit and you can flow from there.

Showing that you're actually curious about who she really is can give you virtually limitless conversation. One of the things that so many women love about characters like Christian Grey is how intensely into her they are. Show a girl that she's got your absolute attention, even if you've just met her, and your chances of having a great conversation skyrocket.

failatsomething · 2017-05-16T17:08:50+00:00

Say the words, "You know what's funny?"

Then you have to come up with something. Give it a shot.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-05-17T03:45:46+00:00

How do I lead a Conversation away from the basic "how are you today"

I don't wanna ask that everyday it's such a boring question.

You've got this all wrong. "How are you today?" is not boring.

What is boring is that most people don't know what to do with the answer they get. They don't pay attention when the other person answers, and they don't follow up well after that. Let's consider the following example.

Guy: How are you today?

Girl: Pretty good. You?

Guy: Not bad.

Now according to the model that this is a "boring question," guys don't make much of this answer they've received from the girl and at this point, they're trying to think of a "cool" question or subject to shift to, often furiously.

But ALL the guy in this example has to do it think a little more curiously. And really pay attention to everything the girl has just given him. All the guy has to do is dig deeper into WHY. Why was the girl's day "pretty good?" What happened that was good?

It's not a boring question. It's a standard entryway into a conversation, if you actually follow-up instead of changing the subject by going into interview mode and showing that you're not paying attention. To sum up:

Follow-up better.
"Boring" everyday questions are effing fine.
Dig deeper into the details of an answer. Try to get at why. Try to get at her motivations. Try to get at her emotions about something. Etc.

DaygameCoach · 2017-05-16T18:45:54+00:00

Read the sidebar help including "endless conversations." Also, "How do I talk to a woman?" is more of a topic for the beginner's board, /r/askseddit.

Title	How do I lead a Conversation away from the basic "how are you today"
Author	Neal_Armstrong
Upvotes	11
Comments	13
Date	May 16, 2017 3:40 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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