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Try it again now..... We've had other issues with posting though.
/r/seduction04/12/22 10:47 PM
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You're able to post a comment, which is a good sign. Still working on settings for posts being able to post. It's been blocked for weeks now and we've been making adjustments to try to remedy the situation. But whatever's been done to choke out the sub, it wasn't the mods. It was the Reddit admins.
/r/seduction20/11/22 12:35 AM
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We both work in it and I work in one of the major 5 companies. I told her half jokingly I could take her for lunch at my office and she was very excited about the idea. We added each other in a messaging app and while we dont text too much she is responsive/follows the conversation/asks questions about me too. I want to keep it chill and not text her too much, but would you say it’s ok if I leave a few days without texting? We agreed to meet on friday and she will confirm by Wednesday. You alrea…
/r/seduction07/11/22 03:26 PM
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And while women who wouldn't mind that exist, they are a minority. So should I give up on that and try to be more masculine, or not? What are my chances of having a role reversal relationship? Just going to be real here: You're barking up the wrong tree posting that here. Many of the guys here are in search of their more masculine side. They're going to tell you what you want is impossible, and that you just need to change yourself. You should try for what you want. There's a range of experience…
/r/seduction07/11/22 03:09 PM
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1 In your experience and best judgement, is there any difference in difficulty (easier/harder) to get a girl to walk 300m with you upstairs to your apartment vs get in your car for a short drive to your place? If you've had a good interaction up to that point, and she's going along with it, either one is fine. Even a moderate drive, depending on how well you've done. However, if your mindset on the matter is that you see the potential for difficulty in one choice versus the other, than you shoul…
/r/seduction07/11/22 02:30 PM
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Thats not I have an issue with, the problem is the quasi-paedophilic obsession with having sex with women who are as young as possible. Say you have two women that look exactly the same but one is 17 and one is 23. Men will prefer the 17 yo because youth itself is a selling point. See the proliferation of school girl porn. This was a point that you actually seemed more fixated on than the other person was. And to generalize like this to all men, is odd. To do this as you antagonize someone activ…
/r/seduction07/11/22 02:18 PM
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What the fuck? k write a formal complaint to [email protected] This is in breach of Rule 4: Temporary 4-day ban.
/r/seduction07/11/22 02:14 PM
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Thanks for pointing this out. I'll likely reference it in an announcement later. Assuming I can even post.
/r/seduction05/11/22 12:00 AM
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1 So to clarify, the low volume of posts being let through is intentional because most/all of the rest are rule breaking Some of them are things removed by Seddit mods because they're breaking Seddit's Rules. Or Reddit's rules for content. (Like don't advocate for violence, rape, etc.) 2 and/or put the sub at risk of a bored admin? But I fear that the recent lack of posts altogether is a Reddit action. Seddit mods can't do anything that widespread or extreme. We haven't done anything that could …
/r/seduction04/11/22 11:18 PM
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And yet it's a basic question that breaks the rules of the sub.
/r/seduction04/11/22 11:09 PM
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This is a venue for sharing tips about how to land a relationship or get laid. Not for something asking why you shouldn't give up because you saw a video. If you have something further, send a message to the mod team and I or someone else will be happy to discuss it further. This thread is not the venue for that.
/r/seduction04/11/22 11:06 PM
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1 Yeah.. very bizarre.. it's a huge sub and to just close it like that.. It's not closed, you knuckleheads. You're literally here now in it having a discussion. If it were closed, it would just be GONE, like AskSeddit is now. There might be something else going on but it's out of the hands of any of the Subreddit's mods. 2 We had a run recently of assholes posting incel bullshit, much of which was being removed like instantly. (I've seen a fair amount while I was going through the mod queue tryi…
/r/seduction04/11/22 10:57 PM
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1 Did the mods close the sub? Mods can't "close the sub." Reddit literally banned AskSeddit with no notice a few weeks ago. Think about it: if the sub were closed, you wouldn't be able to post this complaint/comment. However, if anyone is attempting to post something that breaks Seddit's Rules, it might just fail to post. I've seen some people attempting to post various NoFap, Black Pill, Incel stuff and it's getting rejected. If your account has bad karma, or it's new you'll also have issues. 2…
/r/seduction04/11/22 10:55 PM
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You tried to post something that breaks Seddit's Rules. That won't work.
/r/seduction04/11/22 10:49 PM
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I’m blaming pickup artists on this one. The fuck is wrong with these guys? Read the rules. This subreddit is not the venue for rants. The minimum bar any post must meet for inclusion here is offering advice for how to get laid or land a relationship. That post fits under neither of those categories.
/r/seduction03/11/22 03:17 PM
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1 What do you text a woman after you got her number at a club? Generally speaking, the ideal situation would be to hook up that night with someone you're meeting at the club. It's not exactly the venue for finding a serious relationship. 2 But sometimes logistics just don't work in your favor and you have to set it aside for later. In that case, you ought to text that night. Keep it short and sweet. Some part of your message should reference the time you spent hanging out with them or conversati…
/r/seduction02/11/22 06:50 AM
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Your comment was good for a permanent ban though.
/r/seduction02/11/22 06:38 AM
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This isn't a joke sub. 4 day temporary ban.
/r/seduction02/11/22 03:18 AM
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1 Anyone ever get threatened by a boyfriend of a girl they hooked up with? It's not uncommon to end up hooking up with a girl who's cheating. It's often tempting. However, it's simpler in life to just screen such people out because the potential drama can be more trouble than it's worth. 2 Got a note on my car this morning “I know where you live. Never contact her again.” I didn’t know she had a boyfriend at the time and then after I did, I never initiated. Sometimes these things can be a learni…
/r/seduction02/11/22 03:15 AM
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1 I guess I didn’t mind that we were going slow since he’d just broken up with his ex a month before we met This is a common marker for someone who's looking for casual. Being on the rebound and all that. 2 and I honestly wasn’t ready to just jump into a relationship since I’ve never dated. I mean, it seems like things have been moving glacially slow so I guess that's gone well enough to your specifications. But for perspective, a lot of guys, even ones that are interested in a relationship, may…
/r/seduction01/11/22 04:32 PM
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screw that. comfort is not our issue. approach approach approach Building comfort is literally one of the pillars of seduction. You're in the wrong subreddit with this trash
/r/seduction01/11/22 04:28 PM
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Never saw any decent PUA do any of the points you mentioned. which shitty youtubers are u following lol. A lot of them are often thought of as decent until they make the news though. Julien Blanc was not bad. Had a lot of good advice about being direct, etc. And then he got himself banned from a few countries for being an idiot. John Mulvehill seemed solid until he was charged with sexual assault and kidnapping. Again, obvious in retrospect that they weren't good. But a lot of them aren't obviou…
/r/seduction01/11/22 04:22 PM
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PSA: This isn't a joke subreddit. So, all you guys dropping in with a quip that doesn't take the topic seriously, are risking a ban. 1 And he as honest as possible. Do you tell her directly that you want to smash or get a relationship? Do you tell her you want to get a fuck buddy? Doesn't matter what everyone here wants. What matters is what you want. Are you looking for something casual or a relationship? A.) If you're looking for something casual, James Marshall gives a good talk on how to set…
/r/seduction01/11/22 03:52 PM
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1 We met on bumble. He said he was open to anything, I said I didn’t want anything casual. You were pretty clear about what you wanted. He gave you a really wishy-washy answer of the sort given by people who want casual but don't want to rock the boat when they realize the other person may not want it. People like that will try to keep things going as long as possible even though they realize on some level that the other person doesn't want casual, for a variety of reasons: They may hold beliefs…
/r/seduction01/11/22 03:48 PM
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1 First off, it's important to realize that the audience of people you've posed this question to, are often coming from a place with a lot of baggage. That's going to bias the results you get. 2 I’ve (24f) been seeing a guy (22m) for a couple months. We haven’t really been clear with our intentions or feelings, really only talked about what we were looking for when we first met. Can you clarify this? What did you both say you were looking for when you first met? (In as close to exact wording as …
/r/seduction01/11/22 11:00 AM
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1 Firstly, you need an actual post. Read the Rules for this subreddit. The requirements for posting are listed there. 2 Secondly, related to the first point, you told us nothing about her or the situation. She might have moved on if she was interested. Maybe not. We aren't psychics And there are a lot of moving parts in any social interaction between two people. The only way you can find out the answer to this question is by just contacting her again and asking her if she wants to hang out, and …
/r/seduction01/11/22 08:00 AM
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1 I'm a big believer of AMS's saying "She either likes what she sees or she doesn't" and I basically just say that I find her attractive and ask for her number. Couple things right off. A.) Let's define our terms. What is seduction really? It's a form of social interaction between two people. To successfully navigate this social interaction, you need social skills. Appearance is not social skills. Period. B.) When you walk up to someone, there was something going on in their life. There were thi…
/r/seduction31/10/22 04:20 PM
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Just like the title says. I know I have to put a bio to get more likes, but every time I tried to write about myself I start to cringe. Now I have " I love cooking and movies ❤️" I really liked it, but now I feel its so cringe. Advices please Look, what are we really talking about in this subreddit? Seduction. What is seduction? It's a form of social in-person interaction which leads to sex or a relationship. If you want to tweak your online dating profiles, there are other subreddits for that. …
/r/seduction31/10/22 11:30 AM
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Not sure how many others have reached this conclusion but at this age, 31 almost being 32 I've realized I am just not what women find attractive regardless of how much I improve my life in any way The very minimum bar you must meet for inclusion on this subreddit is posting something that will help someone get laid or land a relationship. You're showing up with the opposite. A negative attitude that would ruin anyone's chances, including yours if you continue to cling to it. You're in the wrong …
/r/seduction31/10/22 10:39 AM
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1 Never met her in my life. Well, shit like that usually doesn't happen out of nowhere, which means one of a few possibilities. You were at a party with a really lame, trashy crowd. You were gaming unintentionally poorly and making things awkward. Either of those could account for why someone would randomly be an asshole. And why others would go along with it. ​ 2 I think she's friends with the girl I was talking with. This was likely part of the context that flew under your radar. Because, agai…
/r/seduction30/10/22 04:23 PM
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Best ways to put yourself in a position where we got to hers after a date since I don’t have my own place yet. Accept that the fact you don't have your own place is going to screen some girls out. That said, if she has her own place and things are going well, then you'll end up there if it's clear that your place isn't as suitable. That could be the case if: Your place is further away than hers. If you live with your folks, they're out in the suburbs, you're gaming in downtown, and she lives clo…
/r/seduction30/10/22 04:12 PM
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*1" Both in person and went to a first date. I'm looking for something serious if she'll reciprocate. The important thing is to have the patience to get to know her before you make a judgment call on her. It's pretty common for guys to fall for a girl a little too fast and then end up fantasizing that she is things that she is not. 2 I feel it's time to show even more I care, but I might be clumsy when it comes to showing affection. What do you mean by this? Can you give specific examples? Other…
/r/seduction30/10/22 03:58 PM
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1 I find that when I’m talking to friends and people in general my humor is mostly dad jokes, plus unintentional or situational stuff. Be what you are and own that shit. 2 What type of humor would women find most attractive? There's no universal answer. The key principles are: You don't need to make someone laugh to get laid. The important thing is that you know how to navigate the social interactions with a woman to get to sex or a relationship. That doesn't require a specific kind of humor. It…
/r/seduction30/10/22 03:50 PM
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This sub is pathetic 😂😂 You guys could report this stuff that doesn't belong here. Otherwise you're kind of part of the problem.
/r/seduction30/10/22 03:44 PM
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1 how do I get better at texting The important thing to remember is this: if you can't navigate and in person social interaction with a woman, then nothing's going to happen no matter how good you texted. 2 Just got a girls number that's seems really interested in me, I'm ok person.... If you're okay in person, then that's great. That's the most important part. 3 ....but in text messages I suck at conversation, hi whats up, how are you doing, etc is all I got, how do I start a conversation that'…
/r/seduction30/10/22 03:43 PM
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Is this a red flag in some of your experiences? I've heard that some women on dating apps specifically ask for this in order to get a free meal. It's neither here nor there. It's about what kind of interaction you want to have. Going out to dinner with someone is when you're going to find out whether they expect you to pay for everything or whether they'll go dutch. And no, you don't have to pay. Just know that you're going to screen some girls out If they're looking for a guy who pays for every…
/r/seduction30/10/22 03:37 PM
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I’ve been doing the whole dinner/drink thing and then going for a nice walk so we can chat/flirt a little more. The important thing to keep in mind is that you don't know the person you're meeting up with. So it can be helpful to have something casual and open-ended to start off with. Something that could be short if it's not going well but could be extended if everyone's happy with it. That's why something like meeting for coffee or drinks/cocktails works pretty well. Everybody can hit the esca…
/r/seduction30/10/22 03:35 PM
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1 I feel like I can't find anyone that meets my standards..... It is pretty common for people to set their standards so high because they're afraid of getting hurt and making standards really high means that you don't let anyone get close enough to hurt you. 2 Here is my criteria: Introverted (had an extroverted ex - not doing that shit ever again). These terms themselves don't really mean too much because most people are on a continuum: they are a mix of the two. But out of curiosity, what do y…
/r/seduction30/10/22 03:22 PM
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1 Have you ever managed to succeed with someone who wasn't initially interested in you? This is a misnomer. A misunderstanding of what's going on under the hood. The reality is that we really don't know what's going on inside of someone's head. Sometimes people play it cool when they're really interested. Sometimes people are being polite when they really aren't interested. The reasons why I don't matter, but the point is, it's hard to tell sometimes what's going on under the hood, just by looki…
/r/seduction30/10/22 03:09 PM
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1 I was at a party and talking with some people. A girl randomly walked up to me and said my jacket looks like shit while I was having a conversation with another girl. Can you clarify: Had you met this girl before? Had you interacted with her at the party before this? Was she friends with the girl that you were talking to? What was going on before that? Had you met the girl you were talking to before that? 2 I literally had no idea what to say.... There was nothing to say. Why should you have t…
/r/seduction30/10/22 03:00 PM
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Yeah, comments like that are out of line and don't belong here.
/r/seduction30/10/22 02:52 PM
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1 What are some hobbies you do that makes you interesting? People find different things interesting. If you try and chase some universal notion of being interesting, then you're going to unintentionally turn yourself into someone who's trying too hard, which will put out a vibe that won't reflect well on you. 2 me: bachata dancing, gyming and going to a lot of sporting/music events. The point of hobbies is that they are often a good component of one's social life. Which is important because: Hum…
/r/seduction26/10/22 11:04 PM
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I'm 22, talking to this girl nowadays and the the talk goes well, we found common topics to be interested in and let the conversation flow. Talking how? In person or over an app? I'd like to be able to say slightly more affectionate/ cute things but when it comes to this, I got no clue on how to keep the balance and not sound too pushy/ lame. Have you actually met her in person or not? In any case there's no reason you need to be texting/speaking to her in a particularly affectionate or cute way…
/r/seduction26/10/22 02:51 PM
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1 So my friends and I went to the club last week and I used a lot of the PUA strategies which worked really well. I just walked up to girls without hesitation and started talking about funny things, got multiple numbers and IGs, it was a really fun experience. Which strategies did you use that worked well? Kindly don't spare the newbs this kind of information. ​ 2 So this weekend we went again but it really didn't go well. First of all, I ate something bad and felt a bit nauseous, not a great st…
/r/seduction24/10/22 05:13 PM
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....sounds like a bitter femcel lol. Post history confirms Kindly read Rule 4. If you have a point, you can make it politely. Or make it in another subreddit. Temporary 7 day ban.
/r/seduction24/10/22 04:56 PM
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Yea looks matter a ton. Don’t listen to people talking about “game”. This is literally a subreddit about game. Also, 6 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 7. Kindly read the rules for this subreddit before commenting again.
/r/seduction24/10/22 04:50 PM
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One could start this way..... Although it could easily turn into a series of excuses to not go. Sometimes it's best to just rip the Band-Aid off. These events might seem daunting in the imagination, but they are literally designed around strangers meeting strangers.
/r/seduction24/10/22 06:39 AM
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1 How long can you maintain a casual relationship before she pressures for commitment or leaves? Couple things here: You're talking about a casual thing, Which by definition, is not long-term. Trying to maintain it long-term is paradoxical. A lot of it involves things that one or both parties might be doing which may unintentionally lead to matters becoming confused. 2 I recently got out of a 5 year relationship (really should have only lasted 2), which means I started romantically pursuing wome…
/r/seduction23/10/22 11:37 AM
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1 I feel you bro, my best friend is also a huge player and i get dissapointed whenever he goes on talking about his "expeditions". Sometimes he even mocks me for being boring and less skilled in flirting & hooking up with girls. Slowly I'm letting him go. Need my mental-peace. Social skills can be learned and developed. Someone like that friend, is someone that you can learn from. Even if you choose not to hang out with him anymore, file away the things you've seen him pull off, in your memory. …
/r/seduction23/10/22 11:01 AM
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1 My friend and I went to a club, just an hour before closing. He started talking to this girl and after 15 minutes of talking, she hooked in his car and went home with him. There are so many factors in a social interaction. But rest assured, there's a lot going on besides the talking. Especially at a club, where it's often very hard to hear people. Body language Facial expressions Gestures Eye contact It's possible that the interaction with that girl started well before he actually started talk…
/r/seduction23/10/22 10:57 AM
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1 How do I manage loneliness better so that it doesn’t disrupt my life? It's unfortunate but much of the seduction community is so focused on the part about getting laid that they neglect looking at their lives in a holistic way. Life isn't just about sex, obviously. And if you neglect too many of those other things, you're going to have a bad time. In this case, the thing you might be neglecting is the development and maintenance of a healthy social life. That's really the only way to deal with…
/r/seduction23/10/22 05:38 AM
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1 I’m tired and getting broke of buys drinks to girls who have interest. Yeah, you don't need to buy drinks for girls. The truth is that whichever way you go about it, it will determine what kind of women you attract. Some will be turned off by a guy trying to buy them drinks. Some will be turned off if you don't buy them drinks. So the question you have to ask yourself is, what kind of person do you want to attract? 2 What tips/advice do you bars/clubs for an avg looking dude who gets numbers b…
/r/seduction23/10/22 02:25 AM
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1 .... then you have the person who is sitting on the sofa who wants to come out and play but is racked by anxiety..... This sort of issue isn't going to be solved by having stories to tell people. If you don't address the anxiety, it will keep hounding you. 2 Not "depressed" sad, but boring sad... I... dive into absurd scenarios and assumptions and cocky-funny responses/statements like: Her: hey, sorry I got late in traffic Me: thats good, gave me enough time to chat with the bartender Note: be…
/r/seduction19/10/22 03:11 PM
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1 Hey y’all what are some fun things to talk about w women if you meet them at bars or are on a date w them? By your own admission later on in the thread, you acknowledge that starting off with small talk as a gateway to better conversation, is helpful. To further build on that, everyone's favorite topic is themselves. If you want the most fun topic for a person, follow up on what they've said, with an eye towards their emotions (how they felt about something), or their motivations (why they did…
/r/seduction19/10/22 01:57 PM
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Hi! While it’s totally ok not to appreciate someone’s words, you are imposing on someone’s right to speech. Who are you to tell another what they cannot say? You're in the wrong sub with this argument. Freedom of speech comes with responsibilities like not inciting violence.
/r/seduction19/10/22 01:53 PM
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1 If a girl shuts down all ur kino advances does that mean just mean she doesn't find you physically attractive enough? There is no one answer for this kind of question. In general it means one of a two things: You pushed too hard and screwed yourself out of whatever chance you had. She wasn't interested. 2 met up with a girl.... How did you meet this girl? 3 ....and felt like she had her guard up the whole time even when I brought it down with jokes push pull every time I tried kino she absolut…
/r/seduction19/10/22 01:38 PM
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1 At this stage of my improvement, I've developed a good flair to talking to girls when they're mutuals..... What do you mean by mutuals? This is a bit vague. 2 ....and do better than a good chunk of my social circle when it comes to seduction via texting. It bears repeating that texting is really for logistics. We've said that for more than a decade here at this subreddit. The real process of social interaction happens when you have all the channels of communication at your disposal, including …
/r/seduction19/10/22 01:30 PM
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Its not just this, its a general case of being low energy. How do I retain the "fun, high energy vibes" and not drone off into awkward smiling, mid30s, friendzoned phase. Can you specify what you mean by low energy? Fun, high energy vibes are not something anyone is required to maintain unless they're dealing with someone who's a child. They're going to be natural lulls and highs of energy in any interactions you have with someone over a period of time. They're going to be periods of silence whe…
/r/seduction19/10/22 01:19 PM
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1 I have two sisters, one of which I’m extremely close to. I guess this has been good from a “women are just normal people” sense, so I don’t really have an issue making female friends.... A lot of the guys come in here don't even have this basic level of social ability with women or people in general. And the problem with that is that it's essential before you can move on to the next things like escalation. 2 However, because we aren’t Alabama siblings, this has helped me ZERO with escalation/f…
/r/seduction18/10/22 11:25 PM
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I'd ask you to communicate more clearly. I will say again, no one who knows what they're doing, spends time in jail for starting conversations with people. If you do, then something has gone wrong. Julien Blanc got himself banned from a few countries for being an idiot. He didn't know what he was doing. Sometimes people with issues still have the sales skills to sell people on the idea of buying workshops from them, which is a shame.
/r/seduction18/10/22 10:52 PM
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Yea i feel it. After i spent the night in jail from cold approaching too much. I decided to take a long break. Maybe i’ll pick it up again one of these dam days Yeah, you're not doing pickup if you land in jail. You're being socially awkward and need to seriously fix whatever you're doing. Guys who know what they're doing aren't going to face jail time for simply starting conversations.
/r/seduction18/10/22 01:36 PM
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1 Look man I don’t even do none of that shit really anymore. If you want help then you're going to have to be more specific than this. This is really vague. It's like walking into a mechanic shop without your car and telling them that it won't start, then asking them to fix your car. You didn't specify where you were when this was happening. Or what people were doing when you walk up. Context matters. We're talking about complicated social interactions and you're going to leave out this much of …
/r/seduction18/10/22 01:31 PM
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Can someone please help me out? Dude, you're talking about a venue organized around sitting and watching a movie. It's already rude to talk on the phone. And you want to interrupt someone watching a movie to meet a stranger? EDIT: You just posted something asking who the hell Sauron is on a Lord of the Rings subreddit. Take the trolling elsewhere
/r/seduction18/10/22 01:14 PM
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You realize that you're a few years late to this thread? 1 Going to a college and hanging around for the sole purpose of meeting young women...... It is ridiculously easy to find social events to meet people at post-college. I provided a long list of things that many people, including college students attend when they want to meet people. If you like drinking, you can go to one of the ones that's organized at a bar. If you like hiking there are plenty of events for that. There's no reason not to…
/r/seduction18/10/22 03:02 AM
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Im currently in Bangkok and my Tinder isnt working as good as Im expecting. I would love to get some tips on how and where to appeoach girls in Bangkok. There's no reason that you shouldn't be planning a social life for yourself while traveling. Where are you staying? If you're at a hostel, they often have events organized through the hostel. Do a search on Facebook for Bangkok and then look through the groups and events in the search results. It should be pretty easy to find something going on.…
/r/seduction18/10/22 02:47 AM
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1 Please read the rules before commenting and posting again. You're required to have body text with a summary of the content of any linked content. The post must stand on its own. 2 Also, it's problematic to link to other subreddits because it tends to lead to cross traffic, leading to flame wars. 3 The strategy you're mentioning is new, but it is potentially problematic. The reason why straight women like to go to gay clubs is because the environment's more relaxed there. They can go dancing bu…
/r/seduction17/10/22 11:27 PM
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One issue is that moderating for Discord is an order of magnitude more difficult than moderating Reddit is. The idea was floated years back when we had a much bigger mod team and it was shot down even back then.
/r/seduction17/10/22 04:48 PM
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Looks are 80% of attraction. No one truly believes looks don't matter... That's a really long comment that basically boils down to you didn't read the rules.
/r/seduction17/10/22 03:01 AM
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Blame society and feminism. Women literally have witch hunts on social media for unattractive men approaching them or cancelling men for sexualising them. It's pretty clear based on the videos that guys who are socially awkward get those videos made about them. Guys who know what they're doing, don't get videos made about them because they're not creepy. Blaming it on feminism is where we have to draw the line. Keep the culture war out of here.
/r/seduction17/10/22 02:58 AM
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Wear some gold chains, get some dreads, say some mumble rapper shit and watch girls cream themselves. It ain’t hard man. You're in the wrong sub
/r/seduction17/10/22 02:56 AM
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no you can’t conjure attraction with “game” being interesting, nice, good personality will always lose out to the hot rich guy looks > personality 5-day temporary ban for breaking Rule 7
/r/seduction17/10/22 02:54 AM
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Seduction won't work if you don't meet a minimum looks and height level required You clearly didn't read the rules. This comment breaks Rule 7. But a look at your comment history shows that you seem to like trolling. So you're in the wrong sub.
/r/seduction17/10/22 02:52 AM
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Looks are more important than people are willing to admit 5-day temporary ban for breaking Rule 7. Read the rules before commenting and posting again.
/r/seduction17/10/22 02:50 AM
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1 - Being physically attractive is the most important factor. The truth hurts. You're in the wrong sub.
/r/seduction17/10/22 02:47 AM
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Don't take advice from women. Temporary 5-day ban for breaking Rule #5. Please read the rules before commenting or posting after the ban lifts.
/r/seduction17/10/22 02:41 AM
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1 Her reasoning was a little unclear. I mean, we are talking about an emotional thing. It's really hard for most people to articulate in logical terms, what is going on inside of them emotionally. Us men are notoriously bad at it, at least stereotypically. But even women suffer from this. It's a human issue. 2 She said “I can’t give you what you want” in terms of how much time we would spend together and said she might stop responding at some point due to mental health concerns, or something alo…
/r/seduction17/10/22 02:38 AM
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1 The issue with this kind of thread about hot takes is: regardless of intention, when you ask a group of people with varying degrees of ability with their hot takes are, you're going to end up with no small amount of cringe and bottled up frustration among the answers that actually makes sense. Which means that regardless of intentions, this kind of thread becomes a shit post/circle jerk. Which are not allowed here. 2 EDIT: You're in the wrong subreddit If you came here to complain about the im…
/r/seduction17/10/22 02:29 AM
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1 I've been of the mindset that women generally don't like to be approached in the gym. I take lifting very seriously and tend to zone in as well so I wouldn't necessarily want to be bothered. The reality is this: the issue is complicated and people often over-simplify it. A lot of socially awkward guys try to approach girls anywhere, including the gym, and make it awkward. The common response to this is easily people over simplifying and saying you just shouldn't approach at the gym. The realit…
/r/seduction16/10/22 11:01 PM
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That was a thing here as well. It got dropped before I arrived 8+ years ago. Looking into that but also we all on the team are doing this part time while we have full-time (or more) commitments on our time.
/r/seduction16/10/22 10:51 PM
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Advocating for violence is unacceptable on this platform as a whole. The notion of freedom of speech does not give cover to inciting violence.
/r/seduction16/10/22 02:59 PM
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Yes I am You're in the wrong sub
/r/seduction16/10/22 02:58 PM
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Idk about pair bonding but I don’t think any man is comfortable dating a girl knowing she had 100 dicks in her Slut-shaming isn't allowed here.
/r/seduction16/10/22 02:43 PM
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“If I broke into your house and raped and murdered every single occupant, would I be a mere murderer or a serial killer?” Way out of line. Reddit is clamping down on things lately so this kind of joking isn't going to fly.
/r/seduction16/10/22 02:08 PM
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nigga get off reddit & start approaching you sound like a whiny 50 year old trad wife lmao Way out of line. You're in the wrong sub
/r/seduction16/10/22 02:03 PM
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Build your brand fool 5-day temporary ban for breaking rule 4
/r/seduction16/10/22 02:03 PM
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Yep. I'll edit that into the part about body text being needed. And I've spoken to the guy you're referring to.
/r/seduction16/10/22 06:24 AM
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You deleted/removed the comment from your profile that I quoted when you got the temporary ban. I'm not interested in playing games or private messaging with you. Especially not given your recent behavior. So I will reply here to you, quoting your comment again to answer your question as to where you slut-shamed. So you'd rather a women whose been pumped and dumped by 100 men before you, who couldn't lock down any guy... This was how you portrayed a sexually active woman.
/r/seduction15/10/22 12:54 PM
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Nope. Its not a red flag. You will be treated as a queen. A women of God.and pure soul. 5-day temporary ban for breaking Rule 6.
/r/seduction15/10/22 12:41 PM
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1 The bar any post needs to meet for inclusion here is that it has two offer information which would help someone get laid or start a relationship. An insecure post asking if your virginity will turn someone off, does not meet this bar. 2 Anyone who came here to pass judgment on OP based on her virginity, slut shame anyone for being active sexually, or carry on about religion, you came to the wrong place and you'll all be getting hit with temporary bans. These people especially, need to read the…
/r/seduction15/10/22 12:37 PM
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1 So I'm a 23 (24 in Nov) year old virgin woman. I want to know if my virginity would be a turn off or a red flag for any men I date in the future. Overall, there is no single answer for this. Some people will see it as a red flag and others won't care. All of this is overlooking the fact that you are far more than simply a virginity status. The way you make the other person feel is going to be a much bigger factor for how someone reacts to your virginity status. If you get along really great an…
/r/seduction15/10/22 12:32 PM
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So you'd rather a women whose been pumped and dumped by 100 men before you, who couldn't lock down any guy... Slut shaming is not allowed. Someone else pointed out you were doing this and gaslit them, which is also not allowed. 5 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 6 and Rule 4.
/r/seduction15/10/22 12:06 PM
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1 Second date - initially goes well but at the club she gets drunk as hell and starts grinding on other dudes Side note: A club is a terrible place for a date. It's a place built for scattering attention and encouraging people to circulate around instead of hanging out one-on-one. 2 I wasn’t even mad lol - just kinda sad cause to me it implies some kind of deeply held insecurity about who she is. I was trying to go home and she ran after me and started apologizing profusely and started hugging m…
/r/seduction15/10/22 01:00 AM
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1 Three years ago this guy cheated with me (he was in a relationship) we slept together once. How did you find out he was in a relationship before? 2 And then a year later he tried to sleep with me again but I didn't sleep with him because I didn't know if he was in a relationship or not. So, you want a relationship? Or just don't want to be the Other Girl? Either way, the guy was dishonest. So, that should be automatic elimination from consideration. Someone who's going to be deceptive is not a…
/r/seduction12/10/22 10:57 PM
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1 I hear a few statements from my friends that I have a pretty expressionless face.... You shouldn't have to change anything about yourself, but at the same time you should be aware of what your resting face looks like. You might spend time looking in the mirror when you brush your teeth. Just goof around with your facial expressions. You should have a feel for what your face looks like. 2 and at the same time a lot of friends say I also appear to be 'already in a relationship' This shouldn't re…
/r/seduction12/10/22 09:26 AM
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1 for example in salsa bars/clubs, if you wanted to dance with a variety of people how do you switch [or make the other person switch] without hurting the originals feelings? You're worried about nothing. It's par for course that people swap partners all the time at a salsa event. 2 just saying "let's switch partners" might be a bit abrupt, where they may be less likely to interact with you again after that It's pretty much expected that you're going to dance a song with someone and circulate in…
/r/seduction12/10/22 09:21 AM
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1 "Men fall in love with what they see and women fall in love with what they hear. That's why men lie and women use makeup". How true is that? A lot of people fall in love with what they see, hear, or whatever reminds them of someone from their past they have baggage with. An emotionally distant parent. The one that got away. A dysfunctional exe that left a mark. It's not just sight. It's not just sound. Anyone saying that is being poetic at best and oversimplifying and inaccurate at worst. 2 An…
/r/seduction11/10/22 04:11 PM
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1 TLDR: I finally got physical intimacy with a woman and I want more. But this time with real girls. I am going to practice seduction as a full time job now as I realized I love physical intimacy and only I can make it happen, girls are not gonna fall in my lap. It's good to realize what you want. However, the facts of this situation make its value less applicable to others outside of you. Like it was clearly an important moment for you, but not necessarily the moment others need. 2 This one day…
/r/seduction11/10/22 04:05 PM
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Everywhere I go females be swerving and not being receptive to me. Can you describe what is happening, exactly? Where have you been approaching? What are people typically doing when you walk up? What kind of opener do you use? What is a common response to it? How do you segue from the opener to conversation? What do you talk about in conversation? What's your typical number close and how do you decide when to use it? 2 Where should I go to get females receptive to me? There's no magical place wh…
/r/seduction11/10/22 09:04 AM
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1 Think I've imbibed the the hows and whats of what to say to a girl to start, carry, intensify and close a conversation. It took a lot of reading and self-meditation, but I'm there. Just have to check in here. Need to make sure that you are not overlooking some basic fundamentals here because it almost comes off like you have been reading something that says there are specific things to say. The actual fundamentals of social interaction are: Active listening. There's another person on the other…
/r/seduction10/10/22 12:23 PM
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The problem is, is that this sub says only personality and confidence matters. I would suggest that you do the very basic amount of reading before participating in this subreddit. That would involve reading the Rules and the Pinned Post about the Updated Rules. On that thread, someone even asks for clarification about the stance the mods take on "looks." That clarification is here. Looks are part of it, but not really the part that we have the most control over and anyway, "game" can override an…
/r/seduction10/10/22 12:07 PM
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Couple things here: Your overall stance is not controversial. You're stating a fundamental position of this subreddit and it's already outlined in the rules and in the Pinned Post about the Updated Rules. But the way we deal with incels is to report their post and comments to the moderators who clean it up. What we don't do is break Rule 7 by instigating a flame war. Please make sure you read the rules of this subreddit, including the updated rules in the pinned post.
/r/seduction10/10/22 12:00 PM
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Bar games to play with chicks your trying to hookup with. At the end of the day we are talking about seduction which is a form of social interaction, which requires social skills to navigate successfully. As interesting and fun as bar games can be, they are supplemental at best. Your bread and butter is going to be things like active listening, good follow-up on what people have said, and observation skills. I wouldn't get too caught up in the games because it might lead to accidentally coming o…
/r/seduction10/10/22 03:53 AM
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1 I (24m) am still patiently waiting to find a woman who seems to really like me. The big problem here is that if you have a poor mindset with low self-esteem, you will suffer from two conditions: You will be unable to recognize when someone is interested in the early stages of meeting and getting to know someone. You will turn off everyone who meets you, reinforcing the first problem. 2 It’s soo disappointing.... There's no two ways about it. The dating pool can really suck. It actually sucks b…
/r/seduction10/10/22 02:43 AM
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Shiii can i have a turn?? /s Please see Rule 4 for the subreddit
/r/seduction10/10/22 02:19 AM
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1 What’s the major difference between guys that can attract women and guys that cannot attract any woman no matter what they do? Couple things: A: Mindset/Attitude Some people will be up for it and some won't, but mindset will turn everyone off even if they start off interested. But mindset is a difficult thing to address sometimes. Mindset just describes the way you think about the world and it will affect everything you do. If you have a poor mindset, you'll walk around assuming you're unattra…
/r/seduction10/10/22 12:01 AM
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I was just using a metaphor, let's not overthink it lol. Steamroller = come on too strong
/r/seduction09/10/22 11:33 PM
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1 What do you do if they don’t like you getting close besides just leaving ? To add to what the Rock is saying here, A lot of what constitutes seduction is really just interacting with people and observing who reacts positively. It's not about making something happen. So, there's nothing to "do" if someone isn't liking you getting close. It's part of the screening process which tells you to move on. The misconception here is that seduction is about making someone like you, which is a myth perpet…
/r/seduction09/10/22 10:49 AM
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1 It's been asked before I'm sure, but how do I get out of my head when I get rejected, or an imagined rejection...... The way we look at things matters a lot. If you lose a friend because of a transgression, that will hurt. But you're talking here about someone not being interested in you. Before you even know them. So, we know a few things to be true: You weren't compatible. You didn't lose someone you had a connection with. Events revealed that this person was not what you thought or hoped. Y…
/r/seduction09/10/22 08:41 AM
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1 Best compliments to give during making out/sex So, there's not a lot of context here, but there's no need for compliments during making an insects. When you're making out or having sex with someone, you're in the moment and that moment is physically based. It's not like you're having a lecture or a conversation. Words are not really needed. In this context, moans and groans can often be pretty good compliments. 2 I’m mostly a quiet dude. Working on being better. It's good to be better at commu…
/r/seduction09/10/22 08:29 AM
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yet the predominant advice is to march up to strange women and use lines they read on the internet with the goal of sex. It is really common advice although I think there's some nuance here. Most people who know better are not really advising this. A lot of people who stand to make money from coaching and workshops do push this terrible advice. A lot of people who are overwhelmed by the perceived enormity of the task of actually self-improving, often seek shortcuts The idea of being able to brut…
/r/seduction09/10/22 03:35 AM
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1 Why can’t you just tell me general? Milton Keynes then. It's a lot easier if I can give you examples using the specific place. Basically there are a couple things you can do: If you're in a city with a college, and you're attending it, then you could check out the clubs and groups that are meeting there on a regular basis and sample one until you find one you like. You can also look on social media apps, like Facebook and do a search with the city plus a hobby / interest / activity. It's impor…
/r/seduction08/10/22 11:44 AM
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I have moved several times during my life and recreated my social circles from scratch each time. (And at the same time, found or created dating pools for myself.) I'm looking for an area name I can search under. Then I'll share what I come up with.
/r/seduction08/10/22 09:23 AM
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Problem is my current life doesn’t have me meeting new people full stop, let alone meeting women.... What city are you in?
/r/seduction08/10/22 05:23 AM
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Escort sites 5 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4: keep it on topic. And to be clear, the topic was where to meet people. Not how to pay for a social interaction.
/r/seduction08/10/22 05:21 AM
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can you ask out or hook up with people from partner dance classes without making things awkward? There are a couple of important principles here: If you are building up your basic social skills and dance classes are one of your primary social circles, then focus on using it to keep your social skills in practice, rather than trying to date a lot of people from there. (You could date people from there but maybe don't try and go for high volume if you are building up your social skills.) Overall, …
/r/seduction08/10/22 05:19 AM
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1 I went from wanting to self improve and learn about game to chasing validation and sex I'm not sure how to turn things around. Once I got a few lays off Tinder I just have been relying on Tinder to get leads and forgot about cold approaching. I mean haven't you kind of started to answer your own question here? You went from going out in socializing to meet people, to doing it straight through apps. Of course you're going to end up feeling rusty dealing with people in real life. And above all, …
/r/seduction08/10/22 02:06 AM
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1 So first of all the reason why game and pick up will never work and it cannot work is because it is not an honest signal.... so an example would be let’s say there’s a homeless guy and somehow he sneaks into a party and he takes some really really cool drug that makes him act like the coolest guy .... OP, I recommend you consider forgetting about game for the time being. There are things you could be addressing that would make things much easier for you. You might strongly consider therapy to …
/r/seduction05/10/22 11:30 PM
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You can literally Google "good first dates in __" and insert your new city. You could also PM me and I might be able to suggest some places based on how I search.
/r/seduction05/10/22 09:10 AM
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1 I was dating a girl who was telling me how good her ex was in bed, how big he was and how he made her squirt and they did BDSM and stuff. Couple things: Everyone has their baggage. She was showing hers. A lot of people are immature. She was showing her immaturity. It is really shitty form to compare exes like that. When we date people, we have a choice between staying with someone we want to be with and continuing to date someone we really don't want to be with (probably because we're lonely).…
/r/seduction04/10/22 11:04 AM
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How to get out of your head? One of the easier ways to do it is to literally push your focus outside of your mind. Scan the area around you and really plug into what's going on. What are people doing around you? What are they saying? What's going on? Bring your attention to the sensations in your body. Your feet touching the ground. Every part of your body. Take a deep breath and let it out. Shifting the focus of your thoughts somewhere else is key. Anything to root you in the moment or where yo…
/r/seduction03/10/22 07:47 AM
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This post went a bit off the rails and turned into a flame war. So it had to be locked down. That said, I’ll add a pinned comment as far as what scholarship there appears to be on this topic, as well as some not-to-distant history in the seduction community. 1 I had seen some studies floating around about oxytocin and pair bonding in humans. But one has to read the fine print to see that much of what’s out there doesn’t have data on this in humans. Instead, they repeatedly refer to other animals…
/r/seduction02/10/22 03:58 PM
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For 1 please just look for the other comments I've given, kinda tired of trying to explain the situations Look, I'm happy to offer an opinion. I've come up from being a really awkward geek who suffered from panic attacks and social anxiety, to figuring a fair amount of this out. But as a mod, I have too much on my plate to go sifting through every comment. Plus, I didn't see the details I asked for elsewhere in the thread.
/r/seduction01/10/22 06:27 PM
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1 Thanks for 1 and 2, but I don’t think there are any more opportunities for social interactions than my day to day ones, and these parties. Making time for a regular social event held by a group (like a club at your school), would be the kind of thing I'm talking about. 2 Like for example I’d get to class early, some people at my table are there, and I ask them about hw or what they’re up to and the conversation builds from there I guess? But it’s just talking about the day to day or how annoyi…
/r/seduction01/10/22 06:23 PM
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1 ....how would a man build attraction with a woman? This is a bit of a misunderstanding. Let's back up. Two people meet. They have an interaction and things happen inside of both of them. Much of what happens inside of each person involves things that the other person has no control over. Things like past trauma or preferences that developed over time based on one's life experiences. The end result is that a lot of attraction is the result of someone simply encountering someone else who fits th…
/r/seduction01/10/22 03:31 AM
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Most helpful comment right here. The guy was trolling and you piled on. Neither of you seem to have any consideration for the rules of this subreddit. You're in the wrong place.
/r/seduction29/09/22 11:11 PM
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You talk like a fag and your shits all retarded Completely out of line. Clearly you didn't read the rules of conduct for this sub. You're in the wrong place.
/r/seduction29/09/22 11:09 PM
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What are these ways you're describing? I'm not sure I get why you want me to explain to you things that you have been basically just complaining about. Isn't the more pressing question how we fix the problem?
/r/seduction28/09/22 11:25 PM
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Temporary 5-day ban for basically trying to kick off a flame war.
/r/seduction28/09/22 10:58 PM
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Isn't that what women want? The issue is that our culture isn't passing on the basic social skills that men need to successfully navigate social interactions to get to things they want like sex or relationships. Instead many guys are graduating high school without any clue about how to proceed in these areas and are instead conducting themselves in ways that lead to a lot of frustration and failure. We solve this by making up for the lack of social skills by building them up.
/r/seduction28/09/22 10:53 PM
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5 day temporary ban. This isn't a comedy subreddit.
/r/seduction28/09/22 10:49 PM
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Back straight, squat down, thighs parallel to the floor look up, find your grip, and lift that heffalump 5 day temporary ban. This isn't a comedy subreddit.
/r/seduction28/09/22 10:49 PM
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1 Please read the rules before commenting or posting again. Rule #7 covers assumptions based on a physical appearance. Posts or comments based on those kinds of assumptions, belong in another subreddit. 2 Do people usually pair up of equal physical attractiveness? Let's back up the train here. So you get a group of people in a room and ask them who their 10 are. You're not going to reach consensus. One person's 10 is going to be another person 7 or 6. What's true is that people have different pr…
/r/seduction28/09/22 07:11 AM
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I only recently have gotten closer to her If you haven't really interacted with her much, it might almost be like meeting her recently, in terms of dating. That can work... Give it a try! Review what I said in my first comment about the basics of good conversation and you'll be fine.
/r/seduction28/09/22 03:10 AM
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I would say a big thing would be to keep an eye on whether any patterns start emerging in the people you get involved with. And if you don't like those patterns, just consider what you're putting out into the world because it affects what you get back.
/r/seduction27/09/22 11:26 PM
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1 This girl has been teasing me about meeting up saying stuff like “you could be with me, but…” Yesterday I sent her a text saying so are we going to see each other today, she ignored it all night, and this morning sends a message really early saying “tell me why i just woke up.” She sounds like an immature child. 2 I don’t understand this type of behavior, we couldn’t get off each other last time we met, we kissed, albeit a bit late into the date, and have more or less been texting each other n…
/r/seduction27/09/22 01:38 PM
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1 How do you deal with someone who's being cold and closed off? You know those women who are clearly at least somewhat interested but give you very little to work with and reply with few words and all that - do you bother with them? And if so how do you open them up? You can't make anyone open up. Whatever they're offering is what they're capable of or what they want to offer. If they're incapable of offering more, then therapy is going to be required for them to open up. If they just don't care…
/r/seduction27/09/22 01:27 PM
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From nobody to high status, what's the path? Status varies according to what social circles one is talking about and what once personal values are. There's enough variety between what different social circles value that the idea of giving a simple answer to this question is kind of impossible. High status to hippies in a commune is going to be wildly different from status on Wall Street. So that depends on what circles you are in and what values you have.
/r/seduction27/09/22 01:21 PM
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1 You've dropped this really long post, a rant really, which you had to know was incendiary, and which of course started a flame war, apparently attracting people from other subreddits. That breaks Rule #6. And then of course you were participating in the flame war, which involved you breaking Rule #4 a number of times. Temporary 10-day ban. Kindly read the rules before posting or commenting again after the ban resolves. And I'd recommend avoiding wild hyperbole like this in the future as well. …
/r/seduction26/09/22 03:25 PM
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what kind of social events are you talking about? The guy's post is being taken down because he's off base on a lot, but social events are a really efficient way to meet new people on a regular basis and should definitely be part of anyone's arsenal.
/r/seduction26/09/22 03:08 PM
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Go to r/dating with your bullshit. Read the Rules, especially Rule #4: If you have a point to make, you can make it in a civil way. 5 day temporary ban.
/r/seduction26/09/22 03:05 PM
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Being who you are today isn't going to work. You need... To read the Rules before posting. Specifically Rule #7, which covers assumptions about physical appearance, etc. If you're here to rant about those things, do it in another subreddit. Temporary 5-day ban.
/r/seduction26/09/22 09:51 AM
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1 I have a tremendous fear of getting rejected. Much of it is in how you view it. I'll give an example. If you go to a store looking for a specific thing, say a specific kind of shoes, and the store doesn't have it, it's disappointing. But at the end of the day, you're just going to check other stores until you find what you are looking for. It's not a reflection of you that they don't have what you want. It isn't a knock on them, either. 2 So much so that I rarely ever ask girls out. It is a bl…
/r/seduction26/09/22 08:15 AM
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1 Are compliments on the street an ioi? It's not worth your time to obsess over whether this thing or that thing is an IOI. Once you get into that way of thinking, then you are going to be missing targets because you'll be busy processing whether you should talk to someone while the moment passes you. And it's all pointless because the only way you can really find out if someone is interested, is buy directly interacting with them. Which you are not going to do if you're busy weighing whether so…
/r/seduction25/09/22 01:43 PM
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How was this uncivil? Sex isn’t part of seduction? Actually I think that message was a misfire. However, this subreddit is really more focused on everything leading up to the bedroom. The actual details of the bedroom would belong in /r/sex, while details for relationship stuff would be in the relationship subreddit.
/r/seduction25/09/22 12:57 PM
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Gaze shift from face to chest, what does it mean? It's less helpful to break things down this specifically and more helpful to actually interact with people directly instead of trying to look for the Rosetta Stone in everything people do. It can too easily turn into a way to give yourself an excuse to not do anything. So many things could be good, bad, or nothing at all and you won't have any idea until you get in there and interact directly.
/r/seduction25/09/22 12:37 PM
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It's crazy how every time there's a post related to looks.... Everyone needs to be reading the Rules for the subreddit specifically Rule 7, which explains that posts about looks mattering or not mattering are not allowed. This kind of post belongs elsewhere. End of story. EDIT: This comment is locked because me explaining the rules (which you should have already done) is not an invitation to debate about you think the rules should be.
/r/seduction25/09/22 12:50 AM
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Read both books. Neither of them made me witty. Books or coaches don't make anyone witty. But let's back the train up. Seduction is a form of social interaction. It requires social skills to navigate interactions to get to sex or a relationship. Calibration is one of the chief social skills. It requires: Active listening. Information is power. When people are talking you should be getting 100% of your brain power to listening to them, not planning what you'll say next as they speak. Good follow-…
/r/seduction24/09/22 02:16 AM
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Re: your reply bragging about your lay count....TL;DR
/r/seduction21/09/22 12:36 PM
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You might try the male grooming subreddit
/r/seduction21/09/22 06:04 AM
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1 Dozens of matches on apps. First off, online dating apps should be supplementary at best. You should have a social life as the primary way that you meet new people. Having a good social life is not only necessary for basic personal maintenance because it provides a way to meet and maintain friends. It should also be exposing you to plenty of new people on a regular basis. If your social life is not doing this, then we need to see what adjustments you can make to get your social life there. Esp…
/r/seduction21/09/22 03:15 AM
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1 It seems that a lot of people didn't bother reading the rules before commenting. One of the common off topic responses involves the over generalization that no one should ever date anyone at work. This is false. It's perfectly fine to date people no matter where you're meeting them. What is inadvisable is trying to build your social skills up from zero at the workplace. If you already know what you're doing and you can be careful and level-headed about it, it's perfectly fine to date coworkers…
/r/seduction20/09/22 11:44 AM
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Should I Join A Church Group Just For The Purpose Of Meeting Women? The whole idea of joining groups to meet people is that you're choosing groups you like, which also happen to be groups where you could meet women. You have to be honest with yourself about it, rather than cynically choosing something just for the girls. It'll be fake if you do that and you'll be unintentionally screening for girls you don't fit with, when you could be screening for girls you have better common ground with. It c…
/r/seduction19/09/22 05:48 AM
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I pretty much only get a chance at fat women online. How do I upgrade? Dating apps often go through boom and bust. In a given region. Sometimes it's important to realize that online dating methods should always be supplementary at best compared to a social life that exposes you to new people on a regular basis. Long story short: you upgrade by giving yourself better options in real life. There are too many factors out of your control when it comes to apps.
/r/seduction19/09/22 02:31 AM
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Would being "just friends" with girls increase your chances of hook ups and relationships? With the specific girls one is friends with? No. But the capability of making friends has a lot of overlap with the skill set of seduction in general. The missing piece usually lacked by people who get stuck at the friends stage on a regular basis is having the balls to make a move within the first couple weeks of knowing someone. And by "making a move" that just means two things: Inviting a girl to hang o…
/r/seduction18/09/22 11:31 PM
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1 What is a good response to "You could be my son" when approaching an older women than me? It's important to realize that if someone isn't into it, no response to a one-liner is going to change their mind. And sometimes that's what these one-liners reveal: what they already have decided. 2 However, one sentence I'm always getting is "You could be my son" or "You are as old as my son". The only response I had come up with was a "And you could be my stepmom" joke yesterday. Let's flip this around…
/r/seduction18/09/22 06:29 AM
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1 My wingman heads to the toilet as soon as we get into a club Field Report then comes out like a changed person: burst in big laughs for the smallest idiotic and senseless thing, looks and sounds like a complete fool altogether and becomes cringe and annoying with the women.... Like another guy said, it's either drugs or he's going into the bathroom to psyche himself up and put on a different persona. But whatever is happening in the bathroom, that's really not the point, is it? ​ 2 ....to such…
/r/seduction18/09/22 03:32 AM
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Send me a DM if you want, that's absolutely fine.
/r/seduction18/09/22 02:27 AM
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1 Decent social life of mostly men. /u/HumblyEgotistical What do you actually do when you're with these people? I assume they are friends but honestly I can't tell because you leave out so much information with every answer it just creates more questions. If you're like this in real life, it might be part of the problem. Human interaction is a two way street, man. If you aren't giving people enough to work with and then you're just busting out with what you want right away (like asking for a num…
/r/seduction18/09/22 01:54 AM
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Next time just report trolls and walk away. Stop engaging them and contributing to flame wars.
/r/seduction17/09/22 07:01 PM
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Wow, this is so wrong in so many ways! So report this stuff if you see it. Don't engage.
/r/seduction17/09/22 06:59 PM
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He said he's from Vietnam so it could very well be an ESL mistake. But I still await an answer from him. We can really only base our feedback to him off of what he says. And as it seems he is no longer involved in the thread, it could be a dead thread at this point.
/r/seduction17/09/22 02:22 PM
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Aknowledge the importance of looks next time. If you cannot bother to read the rules or read someone's response and prefer to disregard evidence when provided, then you need to find another subreddit. I've been as polite as I'm going to be. Temporary 5-day ban for repeatedly breaking Rule 7 despite warnings.
/r/seduction17/09/22 01:07 PM
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1 I get more and more depressed with every approach. The regular pickup advice is to keep approaching and first approaches don’t even count, but somehow creeping out 100s of random women in the span of a month just doesn’t feel right in my gut. Sometimes our guts can be right. The problem is that that doesn't actually help much in terms of what to do about it. 2 Any advice on how to improve social skills and become advanced enough to do cold approach the right way? One thing to reinforce here is…
/r/seduction17/09/22 12:49 PM
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Look at #6 in my comment above. It covers the reasons why, basically.
/r/seduction17/09/22 07:29 AM
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Please call them out in the comments so we can downvote them. Just to be clear, moderators handle these kinds of things. If there's someone coming in about never approaching, just report them. What you're doing here is basically calling for a flame war, which is not allowed. (Rule 6) Please read the rules before commenting or posting again.
/r/seduction16/09/22 05:11 AM
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It was unintentional on your part, but the way "cold approach" was defined in your post, lumped too many things together. Which led to a flame war over semantics. Flame wars are against the rules.
/r/seduction16/09/22 02:50 AM
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1 But I seriously have no idea what should I do when a girl is staring at me. Some "out of my league" girls are also keeps staring and I feel somehow uncomfortable. Having low self-esteem leaves a mark that can take years to go away. It may never completely go away. The upside is that you can reduce the effect to a small noise that resides in the back of your head. But the downside for now is that low confidence is something that you'll need to overcome. 2 Logically, it's not a question of not k…
/r/seduction15/09/22 06:32 AM
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1 So i met this girl a month ago, we had 4 dates and haven’t even kissed yet. There are a lot of variables when it comes to dating and in just this first sentence, you have glossed over a lot of important details. Can you elaborate: Have you tried to escalate? What did that look like? How did it go? Overall, you don't have to justify not having kissed her, but can you explain why? Has it been your preference to not try to kiss her yet, or has it been a problem of getting from Point A to Point B?…
/r/seduction12/09/22 09:50 AM
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But whenever I am in a social setting, girls always come up to me, strike a conversation and then ask why I don’t talk a lot or why am I so `quiet’. Look, if they say this, then: They're curious about you. And you're being quiet. It's not complicated. You've left out a ton of information though: Where are these social settings? And who is there? What is going on? What are people in this setting doing? Are these girls even people you find interesting? Why do you think you're not talking much? How…
/r/seduction11/09/22 10:25 AM
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acting aloof is a good way to build desire in a high smv woman.... A few things to unpack here: 1 Acting aloof, bring mysterious, etc., is about control of information. Information about who someone is, is being held back. This can have a few effects: Because information is being withheld, the guy can broaden his appeal, as he may become a blank slate of sorts for the girl to project their fantasies of the ideal guy onto. The girl will essentially game themselves. This blank slate can allow a du…
/r/seduction11/09/22 09:21 AM
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1 So, if you have some questions about a woman’s perspective on love, sex, dating, and relationships, I think I can help out (other women might want to answer too) This falls into the definition of an AMA, which is prohibited unless you've gone through the mods first. Please read the rules for the subreddit it before commenting and posting again. 2 Off-hand, you're welcome to comment in threads that you happen to be reading although I would recommend you keep the focus of your content away from …
/r/seduction11/09/22 03:01 AM
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Please read the rules before commenting and posting again on this sub. Especially Rule 5. If you have a point to make about the content someone has dropped in a comment, then you discuss that. Ad hominem attacks are changing the subject and really not allowed. 5-day temporary ban.
/r/seduction11/09/22 02:55 AM
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Please read the rules before commenting and posting again on this sub. Especially Rule 5. If you have a point to make about the content someone has dropped in a comment, then you discuss that. Ad hominem attacks are changing the subject and really not allowed. 5-day temporary ban.
/r/seduction11/09/22 02:54 AM
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Please read the rules before commenting and posting again on this sub. Especially Rule 5. If you have a point to make about the content someone has dropped in a comment, then you discuss that. Ad hominem attacks are changing the subject and really not allowed. 5-day temporary ban.
/r/seduction11/09/22 02:52 AM
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My wife completely ignores me. I resent women who look at me as nothing more than free money. It has been this way since I last went on a date 20 years ago. This thread is closed but as a side note, you might think about why you married someone that you resent who ignores you and has treated you as nothing more than free money since the beginning, apparently. And if it's really that bad, then clearly you should be divorced.
/r/seduction11/09/22 02:51 AM
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Nope, I'd rather listen to the fisherman than the fish Please read the rules before commenting and posting again on this sub. Especially Rule 5. If you have a point to make about the content someone has dropped in a comment, then you discuss that. Ad hominem attacks are changing the subject and really not allowed. 5-day temporary ban.
/r/seduction11/09/22 02:48 AM
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As someone who has been married for 7 years, wink wink, sure, hun ;) I'm just joking dude. Jesus women are fucking operated from a sense of humor. I swear. Your initial comment reads as serious. Nothing indicates sarcasm or "joking." And you were flat out telling her she was lying when she said what she was here for. To then pivot and say you were joking when someone points out the obvious, that people's marriages are different, is not constructive. And basically breaking Rule 4. 5 day temporary…
/r/seduction11/09/22 02:44 AM
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Please read the rules before commenting or posting again. Particularly Rule 5. Criticking advice on its own merits is the point of discourse. Not ad hominem attacks which don't even address the actual content. Temporary 3 day ban for breaking Rule 5.
/r/seduction11/09/22 02:37 AM
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1 I just moved to Japan. My social life is restricted to about 5 foreigners I meet once or twice a week. Just to let you know, I am a South African guy of Indian descent. The girl I was referring to is a black South African lady who is 34. You probably have a lot of options you aren't tapping into. Are you near an actual city or in the countryside? Also, I have met a lot of people from SA who have moved to Asia. Even one friend who's Indian South African like yourself. It's definitely much rough…
/r/seduction09/09/22 03:47 PM
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Kindly read Rule 7, and the rest of the rules, before posting or commenting again.
/r/seduction09/09/22 11:49 AM
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What in the actual creepy fuck is this sub? A sub where socially awkward guys try to figure out how to people. If you're here to shame them for trying to learn that, find another sub.
/r/seduction09/09/22 08:34 AM
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After the first kiss on a date I [m] get mostly the same reaction from [f]. Common reactions are “you surprised me with that” “that felt overwhelming” “did not expect this” Where is this coming from? Is it a sign I need to work on calibration or are these normal reactions. It's a definite sign that you need to work on calibration. The last two in particular should definitely never be happening. Can you give an example scenario of when you got one of these, particularly one of the last two?
/r/seduction08/09/22 10:57 AM
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1 /u/RCK147 Please refrain from link mentioning other subreddits. It has a way of starting flame wars. Flame wars are not allowed, obviously. 2 Y'all need to be confident... I feel many of the things men here are stressing over are things I personally don’t even care about. Please see Rule 5: advice needs to be specific and actionable. If it's too general, it won't be helpful. Telling people they need to just be themselves or just be more confident is something people hear everyday and it honest…
/r/seduction08/09/22 10:49 AM
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1 // “Don’t be afraid to get physical” god don’t do this, but I also hate getting touched so it definitely could just be me 🤷‍♀️ There's often a lot of nuance lost in these posts if they're too short, unfortunately. The idea of calibration is an important one in seduction. The idea of making adjustments to what one is doing based on what the other person in the interaction is doing. It also involves making sure one is aware of what the other person wants and is not going against that. If someone…
/r/seduction08/09/22 08:35 AM
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1 What should I Google? I tried googling PUA communities and forums and all are from the 2010’s. It's a tough call. In order to know what to search on Google, you almost have to have been around for over 10 years. And a lot of might require going through archive.org because a lot of old posts and things have actually been taken down so the only way you can find them is to know they existed in the first place, and then you go looking in the archives. That might be a future project for the sidebar…
/r/seduction07/09/22 01:50 PM
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7 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4. If you have a point to make, you can make it constructively or you can find another subreddit. Kindly read the rules before posting/commenting next time.
/r/seduction07/09/22 01:23 PM
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1 So I found pickup when I was 16. Started with the book, 'The Game', and then YouTube and IRL practice. That worked wonders, and I slept with several women till 21. Not an uncommon pattern. If you already had enough of a foundation beforehand, that can certainly be enough to get you started. 2 Then I had a FWB situation stop, and while I never approached anyone at school or work, there was this one girl in college that was cute as a button, so on the last day I decided to fuck it all and ask he…
/r/seduction07/09/22 01:21 PM
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1 I have been talking to a lady for a few months. We are both expats from South Africa and moved to Asia. We live in the same country but a five hour train ride from each other. I once invited her for drinks in SA and she declined though she also does not drink. So you live 5 hours away from her now? How far away did you live from her in SA and why did you invite her for drinks when she doesn't drink? Or if she said she doesn't drink, is there any reason why you didn't pivot to another activity?…
/r/seduction07/09/22 01:05 PM
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1 i understand, i forgot to mention it because, i'm French but, yeah some people dosen't live where there born, i live in France, Aquitaine, i think it's not necessary to give more détails because i want to start meeting online. Sorry, I intended to answer this but life got busy. The reason I asked is because you can find places to meet people, if you simply do a search with the city you live in + an activity or hobby. Like Bordeaux hiking or Bordeaux argentine tango. (You might also do some sea…
/r/seduction07/09/22 02:30 AM
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What's your unpopular opinion about women? Read the Rules and the pinned post about the Updated Rules before posting or commenting at this sub. A Citing the post about the Updated Rules, the guiding principal to post or comment here is: Does this help someone get laid or land a relationship? No, opinion polling does not. Especially when you're polling a very specific audience of men who are often here because they are lonely and/or frustrated because they haven't developed the social skills to n…
/r/seduction06/09/22 11:16 PM
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I would say I’m average attractiveness with confidence but apparently I try too much. What does my friend mean by “stop trying”? Could you elaborate on the context in which your friend is telling you that you try too much? Was it a particular situation or is it a regular occurrence that he says this? Can you give an example of when he said this? Can you explain any reasoning that he may have given for having said this?
/r/seduction06/09/22 08:19 AM
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What is a fast way to determine wether a target is seducible or not? It's not like a video game. There are no shortcuts. If one lacks confidence or their attention is turned inward instead of towards the people they're interacting with, then all of this will seem like a lot of frustrating alchemy and magic. The real barrier here is not the lack of a shortcut. If you know what you're doing, then the process doesn't take too long.
/r/seduction06/09/22 05:13 AM
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1 What’s the point in working on yourself if you have women dating guys that don’t? No one is in a perfect state. We are all working on something. A lot of people are working on something in their own lives and it's just their current lot in life that they will be attracted to people who are at the same level of mess that they are at. That includes women. 2 Why work so hard for a woman that denies your advances when she prefers to date some guy that has no stable job. Smokes weed and always doin…
/r/seduction06/09/22 03:40 AM
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1 Thank you for the answer but my doubts were relative to “text game” these days until we can met. I know that my life just continues and I’m making plans, working out and everything. My life will not be interrupted by this girl, I’m just interested in making a little place in it for her. I mean, obviously if you see potential for a serious relationship, then it would end up being a little bit more than just a little place. ;) 2 We texted today a few messages until night when we talked more flui…
/r/seduction06/09/22 02:22 AM
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1 I thought her “way of flirting” was much more detached/less warm than mine and we had a few comments about that but as the “days” were evolving she started to be a little bit more warm and caring with me. This is a standard progression when people are getting more intimate emotionally. Most people don't just open up immediately and that's healthy. Or understandable at least since it doesn't make sense to invest easily in someone you don't know yet. 2 I believe that I’m overthinking a little bi…
/r/seduction05/09/22 11:23 PM
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1 I am just curious what most of you guys want In your dating life these days Gentle reminder that an important focus of this subreddit is not public polling, but rather sorting out what you want and learning how to get it. 2 Would you prefer a relationship right now or just banging random chicks ? This kind of thing also tends to invite the most non-constructive discourse as people inevitably start arguing about why their subjective taste is the only one anyone should have. If nothing else, thi…
/r/seduction05/09/22 05:18 AM
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Talk about anything but try to keep the conversation about her as she doesn’t know you yet so she doesn’t really care about you. After a few minutes tell her “You seem cool. Let’s exchange numbers and see if we click more” Just to add to this: Having an overall focus on the general situation and experience that you're both sharing at that moment, is helpful. Because something was going on before you walked up and said hello and it can often provide a lot of fodder for conversation. Guys just get…
/r/seduction05/09/22 12:01 AM
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/u/Long-Review-1861 /u/traybro 1 There's been research in this area that backs up what you're saying. ...when an individual choses to engage in casual sex, breaking bond after bond with each new sexual partner, the brain forms a new synaptic map of one-night –stands. This pattern becomes the “new normal” for the individual. When and if the individual later desires to find a more permanent partner, the brain mapping will have to be overcome, making a permanent bond more difficult to achieve. Ofte…
/r/seduction04/09/22 01:45 AM
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1 I've noticed girls that say they" don't do this sort of thing " will be the ones feeling it the most and they always end up breaking these " rules." What's the reasoning ? Okay, think this through. We know that women get slut shamed for sex. For men, "scoring" with a new girl is more often than not, reaffirming for their manhood. We also know that most people like sex. That's it. Most people want to do it. Men don't suffer the same cultural consequences for it that women do. 2 It's not some ru…
/r/seduction04/09/22 01:28 AM
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1 It feels great that I went from being an incel to having options and getting sex but I feel like at first I was very interesting in the game aspect and wanted to self improve. Now I'm just chasing sex on Tinder because it's working for me. Yeah, this is not uncommon. Bill Burr had a classic bit that touched on the same subject from a slightly different angle. His focus is on how male celebrities often have difficulty dealing with the temptations of having a lot of options with women because ou…
/r/seduction31/08/22 04:33 PM
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I’m being honest I really don’t want to do it. Just being real here, therapy is not easy. But it helps.
/r/seduction31/08/22 04:04 PM
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1 My brothers life is so much better than mine..... My parents went out of country for one month these past 20 days have been the longest they have ever gone away. Especially since recently I asked him to not let them sleep over since it bothers me having strangers in the house. Hold up. His life isn't better than yours in the housing category. Not if you're both living with your folks. 2 Also, you are being unreasonable to demand they not sleep over. Let's be real, it's not about "strangers in …
/r/seduction31/08/22 10:11 AM
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1 Best ways to turn casual conversation over text into flirting? If you're meeting over an app, then you just need to set up that first meet. That's where the real flirting will happen, if you get along. If this is someone you already know, then again, the real stuff happens in person. 2 I know that in IRL conversation, you’re supposed to keep eye contact longer than usual, make her laugh, etc to turn a conversation from casual to flirting.... One does not simply turn things flirting with a form…
/r/seduction31/08/22 08:53 AM
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1 What do you say when a girls asks you about your previous relationships/experience and your a virgin? Odds are, you're not going to be able to fake it 100%, if you're a virgin. So, lying would just serve to highlight that you're low confidence. Which shouldn't be the case! Everyone starts off as virgins. It is what it is. And life is funny in all its twists and turns. Some people just end up not having sex for a time. Just fucking own it. 2 What do you do if you are a virgin? Should you lie an…
/r/seduction31/08/22 06:37 AM
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1 I can make friends easy but I don’t want girls to think of me that way. Like someone else already said, being able to make friends is a huge chunk of what you need for seduction. 2 I’ve never talked to anyone in a seductive manner it’s a foreign language to me. The misconception here is that the missing piece is talking sexually. Escalation is physical, not verbal. It involves being comfortable with physical touch and knowing how to do it in a calibrated way so that you don't come off as too a…
/r/seduction31/08/22 03:24 AM
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It's difficult to say what you could do to meet people where you live without knowing at least the general area where you live. If you're comfortable sharing that, then comment to say where you live. Or you could PM me and I'll share some ideas.
/r/seduction30/08/22 02:36 AM
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Can you message /r/seduction directly, with a link to the post?
/r/seduction29/08/22 10:47 PM
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1 Yh but then after that they wanna see you again, how do you remember all they shit they’ve said n etc When you're in a mode of going for more notches like OP was (is?), it's not necessarily a priority to see them again. And sometimes just being in that mindset means your actions and word choice will all be coming off in a way that encourages girls who want an ONS. Or that screens out girls who want more than an ONS. 2 I remember 1 girl always ate bananas, then another girl said I had a banana …
/r/seduction28/08/22 10:47 PM
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1 Im not trying to stroke my own ego but many times I try and wingman my friends I find that the girls are more interested talking to me then my friends and I really try to sell them but I’m not sure. Can you elaborate: What are you typically doing when you try to sell them? How good are your friends on their own at getting what they're after in dating/seduction, etc? What else are you typically doing when you try to wing? 2 I know that partially it’s based on how well they are talking about the…
/r/seduction28/08/22 02:06 AM
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In the end, obviously you have to take any of this feedback on the forum with a grain of salt. Some stuff will resonate with you and other stuff will not. That said, here's my two cents. 1 I am a late 20s guy who never had much struggle attracting girls (ltr and ons) but still I am unsatisfied and feel like I have issues. I often meet girls who I am not that attracted/ dont see as a future prospect for various reasons but I still meet with them/ have sex and meet more often. If you're not attrac…
/r/seduction27/08/22 07:34 AM
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1 Guys who are successful with women, how long do you wait until you kiss a girl on a date? I wonder if you guys wait for the end of the date to kiss her, or you do it in the middle of it etc... There is no way to predict how long one waits before it's the right time to go in for a kiss. That's like asking, "When do I hit the ball back?" in tennis. That's impossible to tell. You have to watch the other player and see when they hit the ball your way. Then you know where you have to go on the cour…
/r/seduction25/08/22 06:28 AM
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1 Is not having a presence on social media a handicap in today's dating? Long Answer: When we talk about seduction or dating, the skill sets in question are social skills. Whether you meet people in real life or are meeting someone after setting something up online, it's inescapable that you need to be capable of successfully navigating a social interaction in person if you want to get laid or land a relationship. That's it. Social media stuff? All of that basically involves marketing skills. Ca…
/r/seduction25/08/22 06:18 AM
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/u/kylomorales My own two cents. 1 The comments are overwhelmingly negative, calling cold approaches entitled and saying that they are deeply on the defensive and distrusting and if you really must, to come, say your piece, leave your number instead of taking hers and then going away. Right. That kind of thread is an emotional reaction to the awful approaches perpetrated by socially awkward or sometimes predatory guys. 2 The problem is that we've seen in real life that women don't mind being app…
/r/seduction23/08/22 10:57 AM
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Linking to other subreddits is a good way to start a flame war. Which I understand wasn't your intention, but it's still against the rules. The title alone will attract such things, not to mention the direct link to a particular thread. What we usually see is people will end up traveling back and forth between the two subs, sometimes for weeks to come. So, please try to avoid this in the future.
/r/seduction23/08/22 10:55 AM
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Sure thing Biden You've been all over this subreddit for the last couple of months insulting people and engaging in flame wars. This constitutes multiple violations of the rules here, which you clearly didn't read. This kind of behavior is not welcome here.
/r/seduction23/08/22 01:31 AM
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Someone else had a question not too unlike your own. Please see the clarification on this. (Also, don't take it personally, but I'm redacting your comment to avoid a flame war.)
/r/seduction23/08/22 01:04 AM
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I find that a date or approaching women can leave me really drained because I feel that I have to be ‘on’ the whole time. Can you elaborate on what you define as being "on" all the time? What does this mean exactly for you? What behaviors? What kind of conversation? What benchmarks?
/r/seduction21/08/22 03:38 AM
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1 If women love sex , why do they make it hard to get ? People, barring the asexual people or those with sexual trauma, do like sex. 2 Ok cool so why do I feel like I be jumping through hoops to get sex ? People like to buy things but there's a process to it. Can't just walk up to someone on the street and expect them to fork over money to a stranger. People aren't even ready or completely sold when they walk into a store, either. Same with sex. There's a social process to it. It only feels like…
/r/seduction20/08/22 07:22 PM
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1 If women don’t have sex with random people, need an emotional connection… People have sex and when they do, sometimes they want an emotional connection with it and sometimes they don't. 2 So on my last post, if you look at all the responses , many seem to point that women unlike men need an emotional connection to want to sleep with a guy, they need to get to know him etc which is completely fine ! Let's back the train up a bit. There is no barrier to entry before people can post opinions on t…
/r/seduction20/08/22 07:08 PM
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6 Having the ability to be vicious and ruthless is just as important as having empathy and kindness. Weaponizing any of this is just one philosophy. And a consequence of it is that one will attract others who subscribe to that philosophy, while repelling others who don't. I've been on both sides of the road for this one. And honestly, I've liked it better after I started screening out people who feel the need to be ruthless towards people around them. Don't have any patience for it in my life re…
/r/seduction20/08/22 03:18 PM
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1 So if we answer the question what kind of man is going to initiate a relationship? James Marshall gave a great talk on how to establish multiple relationships. Basically good practices for spinning plates right. During that talk he says: " ....the point of this lifestyle is that it means that when you choose a girl to be with long-term it will be that it will be a choice out of the available spread of what was what you've been experimenting with..." [Source] "You will end up in monogamous rela…
/r/seduction20/08/22 03:18 PM
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1 But I have to ask, what kind of man seeks to settle down and have a long term relationship with one woman? I find this to be an interesting question. Shouldn't someone be free to pursue what they want? I've run into plenty of women who have no interest in settling down ever. I've never once thought, what kind of woman doesn't want to settle down and have a long-term relationship with one man? It is what it is. People seek what they want and that's it. I've gone through phases in life where I'v…
/r/seduction17/08/22 01:42 PM
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All I wanted to tell people was to be confident and have an open mindset. Nothing wrong with that..... Humans are just lame and messy sometimes in our communications. Patience can be a virtue.
/r/seduction17/08/22 08:29 AM
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1 .....a man initiating a relationship since that is an indicator of lower value. Why insist on behaving in a way that is unattractive to most women? It's often not what one does, but how they do it. Someone could do something as simple as say hello and screw up their chances because of how they deliver it. Simply initiating the conversation about wanting a relationship can go either way. If someone has no spine about it or comes off low confidence, then that'll reflect poorly on them. Initiatin…
/r/seduction16/08/22 05:05 PM
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I want a boyfriend but guys generally just stare at me and don’t approach me and the few ones that approach me tend to do or say inappropriate stuff (harassment etc). You might try taking some dance classes. Social partner dancing scenes can be an interesting way to meet people and it provides an easy way to strike up conversation and meet people in general. If I ever pull a guy I’m attracted to then he just wants to hookup but I want a boyfriend. Idk what to do? Help! Esp if this guy has other …
/r/seduction16/08/22 04:48 PM
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1 either that or they don't really care. Not hating just stating facts. Most dudes don't get looks very often, let alone compliments or flirting. Mindset affects a LOT. If one goes into a social interaction with the wrong mindset, they won't even notice when someone is flirting with them and may even miss certain compliments. They certainly wouldn't notice when someone is checking them out. I've seen guys with really good looks not realize when a girl was pretty much asking them out. On that sam…
/r/seduction16/08/22 03:45 PM
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1 Shouldnt you discard what doesnt work and embrace what works? Sure 2 Why insist on doing something that reduces your chances of success? Clarify what you mean? 3 Also its not some and some its most... Again, this is vague. Clarify what you mean? 4 I dont think you should avoid or cut interaction from people who see the world in a negative way. You can use the ones who would otherwise use you... Garbage in, garbage out. If one hangs with negative, manipulative people all the time, it's like cra…
/r/seduction16/08/22 03:11 PM
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1 I’m currently a software engineer at a top tech firm. Total compensation is over 200k. I’ve noticed my income hasn’t really done anything. I’m 23 year old virgin and never had gf. My friend explained that it only helps when you get older. Let's pack the train up here. What is seduction really? It's a form of social interaction which requires social skills. Your post is about money. Money is not a social skill. Money does not navigate through social interactions for you. 2 Your friend simply la…
/r/seduction16/08/22 02:55 PM
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1 At the end of the day I’m trying to play the numbers game , if I’m at a spot and I approach a girl , we have a good interaction and I get the number , she goes back to her friends and I go back to mine , can I approach other girls while she still there ? Something that will help your case here's if: You are conducting your social life in a way that your interactions with people at the venue don't consist of you simply moving from one girl to the next. Maybe you have something that you're doing…
/r/seduction16/08/22 02:33 PM
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1 I think all men should have that "player" or "ladies man" mindset all the time. The main issue right up front is that these terms you've started off with, have different meanings for everybody. And when confronted with those terms, people have a reaction immediately. If that reaction is negative, then they will immediately close off to whatever else you're saying after that because they've already come to a decision. This is just human nature and trying to argue that it shouldn't be, is a wast…
/r/seduction16/08/22 02:25 PM
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1 They will get to the point of basically acting just like y’all are in a relationship. Consistent sex, dates, cuddling, staying over multiple times a week, initiating all of the texts/calls - having a blast together and even confiding personal things in you being very open and vulnerable. This kind of thing is a common pattern for most people. Even people who are looking for something casual will unintentionally lapse into this kind of behavior because it's part of our culture. So many people r…
/r/seduction16/08/22 01:51 PM
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Never initiate commitment Most women are grossed out by it. Some women like it. Others don't. What matters is what kind of relationship a person wants. Let her come to you. Again, it depends on what kind of situation a person wants to be in. Letting her come to you can work. It will screen out those who don't want to start off that way. Which is fine if that's what one wants. Others prefer someone to take initiative and come to them in that way. I've seen it work perfectly fine either way. also …
/r/seduction16/08/22 01:41 PM
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on a genetic level The point is that you seem fixated on genes when there's a huge difference between genes and gene expression. Genes don't equal destiny. There is a ton of genetic code that doesn't even get expressed even though it's in there. There's stuff that doesn't express itself except in certain situations. It's the whole nature versus nurture thing. They BOTH play a role in ways we barely understand. So, fixating on genes alone is basically ignoring half the picture.
/r/seduction15/08/22 10:59 PM
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The reason we have sex or we were encoded to have sex was to bare offspring to keep the species alive. There are plenty of people out there who have sex for other reasons. Subconsciously, women lose favor with the opposite sex when child bearing is over for many reasons. I know plenty of people who have no interest in having children. This logic would not work for them. Can’t have children, typically have lower libido, menopause, and their beauty begins to wilt like a flower.... I don't know how…
/r/seduction15/08/22 02:27 AM
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This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities. Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: How do I approach? How do I get a number? How do I talk to girls at college? How/When do I kiss a girl? Does this really work? As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical li…
/r/seduction14/08/22 10:46 PM
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1 I don’t think the points your making are mutually exclusive to what I’m saying. I was responding to this part from you: //The solution here isn’t to stop being friends with women entirely. The solution is for you to stop seeing women as literally only opportunities for sex and romance and see them as equals to you like you would see a man. With the overall point being that male culture hasn't been encouraging them to develop emotional intelligence and resultingly, the ability to develop and ma…
/r/seduction14/08/22 02:42 AM
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1 Got in a conversation on a third date where she started talking about therapy and how she goes and I wanted to add that I too go but resisted because I didn’t want to sound like I’m weak but at the same time wanted to connect with her. See, this is a common issue we men struggle with. There's this idea that we must always present an image of someone who knows what they're doing and/or has it together. But ultimately this mindset is unhelpful and sometimes makes us ironically more fragile becau…
/r/seduction14/08/22 02:10 AM
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If 99% of dudes aren't approaching at all, then how are all these people getting together? 🤔 First off, a lot of dudes definitely don't know what they're doing when it comes to seduction, dating, or relationships, but "99%" is a made up statistic. Secondly, the notion of "cold approach" is kind of misunderstood. The whole idea is that you're starting a conversation with a stranger. Meeting strangers can happen in so many situations beyond a dude going to a mall or downtown and spending the after…
/r/seduction14/08/22 01:59 AM
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Keeping in mind you wont see the girl a second time I mean, the issue here is that not every person is the same and not everyone gets off on the same stuff. The notion of getting feedback about what she likes would make sense if you were seeing her again. But you're not, so any feedback would be limited in utility. You want some general rules of thumb, here you go: A In general, start off light and slow before turning up the intensity and speed. Lighter touches, slower movements, etc. Don't go i…
/r/seduction14/08/22 01:26 AM
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1 I had a guy friend of 2 years who talked to me everyday and hungout with me a lot .He asked me out and I turned him down. He said he was okay with continuing to be friends. A.) Hold up, let's look at how boys are growing up. We give each other shit all the time. Guy friends will frequently tease each other for shit, even shit that happened or was disclosed in private. So, boys often grow up into men who learn that their guard has to be up at all times, even among friends. There's a reason we h…
/r/seduction14/08/22 01:09 AM
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1 The solution here isn’t to stop being friends with women entirely..... The larger issue is twofold: A Boys are often discouraged from developing emotional intelligence as they grow up. Boys often give their friends shit for anything. Teasing can be cutting and it's constant. It's not uncommon for boys to tease each other in public for something that happened or that was disclosed in private. So friendships often stay superficial for boys. And they often aren't spaces where one can completely o…
/r/seduction14/08/22 12:53 AM
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1 It should feel easy. You shouldn’t be guessing. If two people are attracted to each other and talk, it should show. Or at least slip through. And you’ll be seducing eachother. It’s a team effort. Yes.... But also.... If someone does not have the fundamentals down then all of this will be out of reach due to constant second guessing, not knowing how to open, not having the confidence to make moves, not being able to calibrate properly, etc. 2 If you always find yourself guessing, then it’s prob…
/r/seduction13/08/22 05:18 PM
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1 These sorts of girls go on 'girls nights' - essentially nights out that I am not invited to even though we are in an exclusive relationship. It is pretty important for each person to have their own friends even if they are in an exclusive situation. 2 During these nights out - mostly at clubs - the girls have fun - guys approach them a lot, they converse with guys, often go to their tables and enjoy drinks with them. This is probably a little bit more on the sketchy side, to be honest. Because…
/r/seduction13/08/22 04:58 AM
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I want to know how you guys go about trying to talk to a girl whose being boring and dry, like when your trying to start a conversation and she's just giving you one word answers People often shift into one word answers when they have no interest in speaking to the other person. It's a polite way of trying to end the conversation by not feeding it. You've not said anything about what your opener or overall approaches look like, so it's difficult to say what's going on until we know how it all st…
/r/seduction13/08/22 02:53 AM
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I've been doing pick-up for a year now and if there's one consistent thing I've noticed, it's that older women (30 and up) seem to be more pleasant to talk to. There are a lot of things going on in social interactions. But in particular, our attitude and mindset going into any interaction will heavily bias the kind of results we get. Certain kinds of personalities and temperaments are going to react more positively towards particular personalities and temperaments. And vice versa. Easy example: …
/r/seduction13/08/22 02:51 AM
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I'm trying to get social experience! What does your social life look like?
/r/seduction12/08/22 03:36 PM
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Because I didn’t ask “what things are there to do in my area”. I’ve lived here most of my life Fair enough I know how to figure this out, there’s nothing for a guy without friends to do I've lived in a few different places and countries and remade my social circle in each place. It could very well be that you don't have any options left. But unless you've actually remade your social circle multiple times, there are possibly things that you aren't aware of. Bars and the like are not even options …
/r/seduction11/08/22 09:15 AM
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I mean, why ask if you've decided and refuse to even entertain letting someone else take a look?
/r/seduction11/08/22 07:09 AM
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I mean I already know, there’s bars and that’s literally it. I’ve tried going alone plenty, it’s awful. Humor me.... Or don't. Maybe there's more somewhere in the area that a Google search can uncover.
/r/seduction11/08/22 06:51 AM
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I’m in a town of under 50k, those like aren’t a thing here. PM me with your town/city and I'll see what's there in terms of social things. Never know until you look.
/r/seduction11/08/22 06:48 AM
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1 Hey I usually have situation when I cold approach a woman and it turns out she is a minor.... I know situations like this are hard to avoid but what are ways we can limit them? A.) Cold approach is simply starting a conversation with a stranger. If you're doing anything where a mom would say, "She's just a kid!" then you're taking it too far, way too fast in that initial meeting. Putting too many cards on the table, that fast, is going to come off desperate. B.) This situation is not hard to a…
/r/seduction08/08/22 05:05 PM
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1 I am 27 and have no friends. So much of what ails guys here, results from imbalances that come from not having a balanced life, including regularly socializing with friends. Wanting to text too much. Relying on the girl too much. Oversharing. Neediness in general. These issues can slowly fade if one has a good support network. 2 I get zero dating app matches. Dating apps are about online marketing, not social skills. I wouldn't fuss about this too much. 3 Never had a girlfriend. I can’t really…
/r/seduction08/08/22 05:00 PM
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1 I like saying things while making out and I really like women's tits over anything and wish if there were some ways that I could say to her to feel more good and excited about her chest. It's important to recognize what you like while at the same time, realizing that not everyone likes the same stuff. And on that note, not everyone is into talking during all this stuff. If you are, that's fine. But also, if the question is how to make HER feel better or more excited about her chest, the issue …
/r/seduction08/08/22 09:20 AM
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...women are past their sexual prime when they can’t have children. What is the utility in defining "sexual prime" according to child bearing capacity? Sexual pleasure is part of the sexual experience for men and women. And it's arguably part of any healthy relationship, as long as relationship participants may be in the relationship. It seems kind of sad to define sexual prime in a way that is so restrictive.
/r/seduction08/08/22 04:45 AM
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1 How to get over lost time? Honestly, with a lot of persistent thought loops like this, sooner or later, YOU have to make a choice to fight them. Anyone who allows these negative thought loops to play on repeat without challenging them, is going to struggle. Everyone needs to take a stand against this part of their own minds. Realize up front that a lot of things you hold as assumptions of truth, are only true because you are holding them to be so. Much of my response after this basically consi…
/r/seduction08/08/22 04:19 AM
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I'll comment here, what I commented on the other post exactly like this one about the same social skills post. 1 First of all, this post had to be taken down because calling out a specific subreddit is a good way to invoke a flame war. Which is disallowed. 2 I saw this post on r/socialskills... Access to the internet, and the ability to make a post or comment does not make anyone an expert on anything. So why should you care overly about someone posting their opinion about this? 3 ....where they…
/r/seduction07/08/22 09:22 AM
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1 First of all, this post had to be taken down because calling out a specific subreddit is a good way to invoke a flame war. Which is disallowed. 2 I saw this post on r/socialskills... Access to the internet, and the ability to make a post or comment does not make anyone an expert on anything. So why should you care overly about someone posting their opinion about this? 3 ....where they said it was bad to approach women on the street. What is cold approach, really? It's starting w conversation w…
/r/seduction07/08/22 09:19 AM
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This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different: A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept. If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it belongs in AskSeddit. No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you wa…
/r/seduction06/08/22 02:33 AM
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1 Has that era come to an end? Is the golden age over? It's super common among humans to look back on the past in this way. They even have a term for it: rosy retrospection. "Don't know what you got till it's gone." -Janis Joplin I've been in and out of this community for around 10 years myself. Maybe more. And I can clearly remember that the issues that plague this sub now, were present back then. This fact is why the rules for this subreddit took shape. Many of the current rules have been a re…
/r/seduction05/08/22 04:08 AM
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Just curious because it seems to always be a guy in the picture from what I come across. Insecurity is a problem anyone must learn to cope with. Anyone worth being with is likely to either have a past dating life or likely to be dating around when they meet you. That's just a fact of life. The issue isn't whether they're single, but whether one's ego can handle the thought that they weren't a virgin before they get in there. Of course, the problem with them being a virgin is that they'll likely …
/r/seduction04/08/22 04:27 PM
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Single as in not going on dates or entertaining any dude 2.) Unmarried or not involved in a stable sexual relationship. You may not want to date anyone who's dating around, but that doesn't change the definition of single. Not married. Not in a relationship. That's it. You might be screwing girls, but that wouldn't mean you're in a relationship.
/r/seduction04/08/22 04:22 PM
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Imagine u take it as an insult and blow it😁 It's super common for people to overlook signs of interest when they are insecure or low in self-esteeem I remember one of my best friends was chatting with a girl that he had a crush on. I watched and listen as he asked her what she was doing that weekend and she left the door open for him to ask her out, so obnoxiously that I, a complete idiot with women at the time, was dumbfounded when he unintentionally shut it down and walked off as she stood the…
/r/seduction04/08/22 11:14 AM
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What are some good non-sexual sexual words to throw in the conversation? Title does the job. Like non-sexual words that can be interpreted as sexual words in certain context. Advisory: Unless you're already at the point where you can basically get laid when you want to, there are other fundamental skills worth building up before playing around with something like this. Sexual word play is the kind of gamble that one plays with for fun when they're advanced. It's not foundational at all. Assuming…
/r/seduction04/08/22 11:09 AM
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What the fuck are you talking about .... Have you lost your mind? Please read Rule 4: keep it civil and on topic. If someone else is breaking it, report them and walk away. Please don't keep escalating. Temporary 3 day ban for breaking Rule 4.
/r/seduction03/08/22 11:04 PM
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Oh shut up Kindly read Rule 4. Anyone who has a point can make it without escalating or attacking. Men are allowed to have preferences too Everyone has preferences. Definitely. But bear in mind that those preferences differ. And differing preferences lead to differing opinions about what attractive is.
/r/seduction03/08/22 11:02 PM
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We're not supposed to deal in pirated materials on this sub. So you'll have to do your best to find the link using a search engine.
/r/seduction03/08/22 09:09 AM
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Boyo I am a woman. I said that above. I'm sorry, but it's on you to EDIT important information like this into your original post if you forgot it. Don't expect people to sift through all of the comments before they make their own. It's just not going to happen.
/r/seduction01/08/22 09:18 AM
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1 A lot of men have told me I look 16 when I’m 22. In what context have they told you this? Details matter. 2 My face doesn’t have much definition like it’s supposed to get in your 20s, so I look like I still have a baby face. How do I fix this? It'll happen. You'll look older with time. Don't rush it. 3 As well as clothing? Do you have a trusted friend or two you can go shopping with? A girlfriend? If not, there's nothing wrong with going to a used clothing chain like Buffalo Exchange and askin…
/r/seduction01/08/22 09:15 AM
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Seems like every few weeks someone feels like "this sub has turned into an incel sub." But incels were always attracted to this sub. They've never been accepted by the mods or the core audience, though. There was no golden age when incels weren't coming here.
/r/seduction31/07/22 11:01 PM
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Just a reminder, this sub is about seduction and self-improvement. Mods will handle incel posts and comments. Please report them if you really want to help. Posting an argument against incels is just going to risk turning into a flame war because people on the opposite side of the argument will be attracted to a post framed as an argument against what they believe. Which was already happening. And despite what you might want to believe, you're not going to convert many of these people. Flame war…
/r/seduction31/07/22 10:58 PM
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What differences are there between dating or hooking up when you are in your 20’s compared to when you are in your 30’s? And beyond your 30’s if there is any change in the dating scene? I mean, things are always changing. If you really want an answer that's meaningful to you, can you elaborate: What kind of differences are you really asking about here? And what prompted this whole line of questioning?
/r/seduction31/07/22 06:31 AM
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I dont wanna click with a girl who's hooking up Couple things here: A lot of people have sex at SOME point before they settle down. Make your peace with that. If you don't want to be with someone in that hookup culture, then stop picking people like that and/or stop pushing for sex early on.
/r/seduction30/07/22 12:37 AM
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1 Just had another ONS and I'm starting to doubt that the lifestyle is for me Nothing requires you to have one night stands. If you don't like that kind of experience, don't seek it. Trying for it anyway when you feel this way, is a great way to make yourself miserable. 2 I'm a 22 yo guy and I've been unsuccessful with women my whole life. Last year I promised that I would change that.... I've had sex with 5 women the last month (I know to some of you this is no big deal but for me it really is)…
/r/seduction30/07/22 12:30 AM
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Dude didn’t listen and another friend I met today told me the dude stole alcohol from people he just met. Yikes... I have known people like that and had to cut them off. I had a feeling that this guy was in that vein. Yeah, obviously enforcing boundaries with a dude like that really takes priority. People like that will drag down everyone around them before they hit bottom. Damn shame.
/r/seduction28/07/22 02:56 AM
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1 My wingman friend whose also a bouncer later told me that the dudes been kicked out of every single club in the city and got a cocaine addiction from his rich mates. Moral of the story is trying to help a friend horrible with game can cost you in the long run. You losing out on one girl, on one night, sucks. And his dishonest say of cutting you out just reeked of selfishness. But the difference is that you got to get back to your own life after that night. That guy is stuck with a life that's …
/r/seduction28/07/22 02:51 AM
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1 How to cultivate a powerful nonverbal presence I am above average in height, build, and facial aesthetics imo, but I have noticed that I lack presence compared to some men, even those that are not as physically gifted as me. A lot about nonverbal "presence" has little to do with physical appearance. Also, what constitutes "above average" is going to vary from person to person. There are women out there who will see you as way above average. And some who will see you as below average. ​ 2 I try…
/r/seduction27/07/22 03:21 PM
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1 As an introvert..... It's important to realize that these terms of extroversion and introversion were defined back before psychologists actually did hard research to back up their personality theories. And since then, we've discovered that introversion and extroversion can be pretty mutable/changeable aspects of our personalities. I myself tested as an introvert until 10th grade. But I had motivation to change and I shifted over a period of a few years, from introvert, to a mix of introvert an…
/r/seduction27/07/22 03:07 PM
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1 how do you go from casually chilling at your place to fucking without being awkward? The key here is: If she agreed to chill at your place alone with you, then that's a clue that she is likely down. Not 100% certain, but pretty likely. That said, having the confidence to just make a move is important. And equally important is paying attention to her responses to moves you're making. ​ 2 like the initial kiss to gauge interest how can you go about it without it being stiff or basically just awk…
/r/seduction27/07/22 02:51 PM
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1 A study of 65k+ women finds that "Attractiveness" is not a top 5 feature that women look for. Details matter. It was a survey. NOT the same thing as a study at all. ​ 2 Also, the reporting is shit in that article, and the survey was likely a bit shit based on what they said about it in the article. Which makes sense: making decent survey questions is FUCKING harder than it sounds. But if we really want to have a discussion about this survey, then let's look at what they were actually attemptin…
/r/seduction27/07/22 02:42 PM
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PSA: The thread appears to have missed the fact that OP said he's getting friend-zoned and doesn't know how to escalate physically. Yet most of the thread seemed focused on how to handle PR after sex. Please try to read more carefully and ask follow-up questions. 1 In being direct with your intentions what are best ways to get across that you are just trying to have sex? There's a lot of misunderstanding out there in terms of what being "direct" means. ​ 2 I get friend zoned a lot because I’m un…
/r/seduction27/07/22 02:01 PM
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1 What is the most polite and respectful way to tell other women you're dating that you are getting into a monogamous relationship with someone you met without completely burning the bridge? I guess it all depends on how you've been conducting things with these other girls. If you've been handling things well by keeping it casual: Not meeting her friends and/or integrating your friend groups. Not seeing any of these secondary girls more often than once every 8-9 days or so. Not engaging in PDAs …
/r/seduction27/07/22 01:45 PM
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1 There's this girl, she has a nice rich bf So she's unavailable, assuming that one is looking for something serious with a well-adjusted girl. Assuming at this point that the only thing you're considering is a fling, as the Other Guy, while she cheats. Him being rich or not, is wildly irrelevant. ​ 2 but she has a crush on a really handsome guy who's toxic.... So, she's also in a relationship with someone when she still wants to be dating around. Bit of a red flag, unless she's openly poly with…
/r/seduction27/07/22 01:36 PM
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When a college girl tells me she has no time and too much to do, absolute bullshit. I mean, sure, a person will make or find time if they're interested. The excuses are a social adaptation on the part of people trying to avoid the consequences of direct rejection. The fact is, some people don't handle direct rejection well and will respond by: Attempting to debate the rejector into feeling passion/emotions that they don't. Getting antagonistic due to frustration Making a scene in general There i…
/r/seduction27/07/22 01:27 PM
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This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different: A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept. If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it belongs in AskSeddit. No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you wa…
/r/seduction27/07/22 05:51 AM
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This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different: A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept. If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it belongs in AskSeddit. No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you wa…
/r/seduction27/07/22 03:06 AM
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Have any of you ever had strong feelings for a fat girl (not curvy fay just plain)? What would you tell a guy who caught feelings for one? Your feelings are your own. If you allow others to dictate to you what you should like, that's fake and weak, tbh. Not to mention, everyone's tastes vary. What you like, others might not like, and vice versa. So there will always be someone who poo poos your taste. You have to deal with that. It doesn't matter that others think about your tastes. It matters w…
/r/seduction25/07/22 04:28 AM
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You're talking to a girl you approached and her boyfriend appears. What do you do? I'm just wondering how you guys would handle this potentially awkward situation! The opening phases of any approach should be calibrated. Meaning: You shouldn't be physically escalating without some clear feedback from her that she probably won't be giving if she's got a BF coming soon. Rhetoric should not be sexual at this point either. It should be in the phase of getting to know her and reading the room, so to …
/r/seduction24/07/22 02:45 AM
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Next time you are in the city picking up lovely lil’ ladies.... I don’t care what dating coaches tell you, what you are doing is not considered normal. Rarely any dude goes onto the street, and approaches a handful of girls with the aim of hooking up with them. I mean, following through on desires to interact with women might not be normal, but it's not considered weird if a guy tries. Girls certainly feel a lot of attempts. Whether or not they're effective is another matter. The issue is that b…
/r/seduction23/07/22 01:33 PM
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This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different: A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept. If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it belongs in AskSeddit. No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you wa…
/r/seduction22/07/22 12:03 PM
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1 What does it mean if a woman touches your thighs / knee? It's important to get away from this idea that there's one answer for these kinds of questions. There's no substitute for paying close attention to the situation rather than assuming cookie cutter answers to these kinds of situations 2 I was out at a bar with some friends and we are drinking and having a good time. During the conversation my female friend who is sitting beside me puts her hand on my thigh / knee and let it stay there for…
/r/seduction22/07/22 06:34 AM
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1 What makes a guy boring and how do you avoid it? Boring is a matter of taste. So there's no way to completely avoid it: the feeling of being bored is something anyone, including you, will feel, and that's natural. Trying to be interesting to everyone often leads to desperate behavior. Which makes one unattractive. 2 i want girls to think i’m fun.... Opinions vary as to what "fun" is. And if you try to chase an image of being fun to everyone, you risk being unhappy. The thing to do is figure ou…
/r/seduction21/07/22 03:26 PM
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1 how do you game very attractive girls... If you get a group of people in a room and ask them who their 10s are, you won't get consensus. One person's 10 will be another person's 6 or 7. So, realize that "very attractive girls" is largely a road block of your own making here. The basics of how you game anyone, don't change. 2 .... in their mid-20s if you're 10+ years older? As for age, to each their own. Some people are attracted to those younger than themselves. Some people are attracted to th…
/r/seduction21/07/22 08:16 AM
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There are some frustrated guys who come here and say things like that. They don't speak for everyone in the sub. Plus, those guys aren't reading the rules like Rule 5, which says to keep discussion on the topics at hand, rather than changing the subject with ad hominem fallacies.
/r/seduction21/07/22 01:57 AM
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Just finished a 1hour phone convo, and she texts me and wants to call again bc she said she enjoyed it. What should I do? You haven't really said what you're after so it's a bit difficult to say what you ought to do.
/r/seduction21/07/22 01:31 AM
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Corrected it: there was one word missing
/r/seduction20/07/22 03:18 AM
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1 So, just starting out, it's important to find ways to tap into confidence so that you can actually get in there in the first place. So this is a very good first step. Before I get into your night out, it's important to discuss what the basics are. Let's back up and review some important concepts that can help you adapt on the fly and do well overall. A - Paying attention Seems simple, often isn't because we overthink things. But suffice to say, there's a lot going on all the time and much of i…
/r/seduction19/07/22 10:44 PM
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As a girl, I always air... Point of order: air -> err
/r/seduction19/07/22 12:43 PM
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This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different: A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept. If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it belongs in AskSeddit. No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you wa…
/r/seduction18/07/22 05:35 AM
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1 Guys don't put stock into dating apps. Like do it if you need to, but don’t hold out on it. No one should put all their eggs into one basket. Dating apps are perhaps best suited for a supplementary role in terms of meeting new people. But definitely don't rely on it. Meeting people in person is far better. 2 PSA: Just saw a barely 6 swiping left on dudes who are like 8's. This girl looked like she was touring with a carnival, and had the audacity to sweep left on seemingly put together kings. …
/r/seduction17/07/22 04:00 PM
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1 What's your method for screening? Just normal conversation.... I'm not blurting out, "Do you live at home?" Because that's weird. Instead, it's holding conversation about whatever topics happen to come up and listening for opportunities to segue into topics even mildly related to one's situation, like rent prices, roommates, family, etc. It could even involve something happening to one of your friends. Bringing up anything connected to those topics can open the door for someone to share someth…
/r/seduction16/07/22 01:22 AM
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1 I'm 26 years old and still live at home. I feel like being at home is holding me back from dating/hookups, as I don't really want to bring a girl back to my parents house. You can stack the deck in your favor if you are meeting people in places where their home will be closer than yours is. I used to do a fair amount of casual dating while still living at home and it was fine. Logistics were that we ended up at her place and I just screened for girls who had their own place. Done. 2 I have a d…
/r/seduction15/07/22 10:41 PM
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1 Currently this is my issue that I am too quiet when I meet friends.... Why do you think you're quiet? 2 .... or like talking about specific topics like politics, finance, and history etc. While it's important to know what you like, it's also important to know realize that conversation is a two-way street. When it's going well, it'll be a little bit like when a group of people do a Ouija board; "control" of the conversation will be more collaborative. But if one person is strong-arming the lens…
/r/seduction14/07/22 06:34 AM
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Yea unfortunately my summers are just working, working out and acting classes so I do have hella free time my phone usage increasesn Working out is important for your health but I realize it can be a little bit tricky trying to socialize there when everyone is focused on their workouts. You might make a practice of chit chatting with people who work at the gym on your way in and out. Not like to pick up on anyone but just to keep yourself warmed up socially. Do the people in your acting classes …
/r/seduction13/07/22 05:00 PM
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I’m in the gym six days a week I just never post cause I hate being that guy but maybe I should If you hate being that guy, then don't become that guy just to pursue girls. There are a lot of guys who've come here over the years and those who get on this path of changing who they are into being various things they hate, do end up hating themselves and often people in general because they end up feeling like it's all fake. When really the issue is that being something you're not attracts people y…
/r/seduction13/07/22 04:38 PM
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Good advice texting is my crutch I need to fix it The core issue when you're texting too much or too quickly is that you don't have a life or you're neglecting the life in front of you. When you don't have much going on, you literally have more time to sit there texting or waiting for texts.
/r/seduction13/07/22 04:34 PM
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This post had to be taken down but I'll add my two cents. 1 Hello Reddit I (20m)) work with this really attractive girl (19f) at work and it turns out she’s living at my apartment complex this semester at college right above my floor. Needless to say I’m taking the opportunity. I’ve got about a month until we both head to college ideally I’d like to be striking gold in the next week or so It's good to make moves sooner rather than later, generally speaking. 2 She’s receptive when she responds bu…
/r/seduction13/07/22 04:27 PM
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1 My question is will she actually end up hooking up/going out with the other guy or will she repeat the process and just keep flaking and flaking until she feels validated. People do like validation but let's think this through. Validation from knowing someone wants to go out with you is minimal at best. Versus the whole variety of good feelings one gets while dating. Endorphins from sex. Possible companionship, which can cancel out loneliness. Feeling understood if it's going really well. Vali…
/r/seduction13/07/22 04:01 PM
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The post definitely met requirements to stand on its own. The problem was that the landing page for your website has evolved into one that is a little too spammy. At least one of the ads on the side banner of that landing page even seems to run counter to the kind of stuff you actually post yourself.
/r/seduction13/07/22 03:46 PM
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This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different: A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept. If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it belongs in AskSeddit. No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you wa…
/r/seduction13/07/22 02:25 AM
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This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different: A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept. If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it belongs in AskSeddit. No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you wa…
/r/seduction12/07/22 07:20 PM
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This post is being taken down because it violates Rule #2: it lacks body text and/or doesn't stand on its own. No worries! As long as the post can stand on its own, you can resubmit it. Just remember, there are three options when submitting a post: Post, Image & Video, and Link. Re-post using the Post option and include the link to the video you want, in the body text.
/r/seduction12/07/22 04:11 PM
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This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different: A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept. If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it belongs in AskSeddit. No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you wa…
/r/seduction10/07/22 09:33 PM
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1 Explain how the attraction works? I dont know. I wake up one day and suddenly feel very attracted to someone I have never thought of that way before. It becomes a massive crush and when they turn me down its like I am torn apart. Unless you're asexual or sapiosexual, it's likely you are actually like most people. Most people know within a minute whether or not they are into someone. Likely including you. What's probably happening is that insecurity or fear are suppressing your awareness of you…
/r/seduction09/07/22 09:15 PM
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1 Anyways, last night we were sending some messages that turned a little sexual. She started saying that she prefers a guy with a regular sized penis (which I have), and how she doesn't like to be "split open". Borderline humble brag on her part here or certainly oversharing. It's not just guys who unintentionally wander into awkward conversation topics. It also bears mentioning that a lot of people have forgotten "how to people" during the pandemic. This isn't a thing you were supposed to fix. …
/r/seduction09/07/22 04:45 PM
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1 I recently met this woman when I was traveling in Europe and she specifically asked my friends to get my insta. When people are interested in one another, they will frequently do things like swap contact information. This is a very basic thing. Not unusual. 2 She then texted first and added me to her close friends list. Not exactly 100% familiar with the facets of Instagram but I don't know if this is a good or bad sign. You're looking for levels of significance that can't be determined by suc…
/r/seduction09/07/22 04:37 PM
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1 Many women tell me stuff like "too bad you're a player" or try to show me they got loads of options with guys too when I show them that I got options and some sexual experience. If you flaunt your options with girls, you will unintentionally turn it into an arms race. That shouldn't be surprising. Nothing in game requires you flaunt your options. The more you know what you're doing, the less it will actually appear as "game," and will instead be natural. 2 Yet any time I tried telling women th…
/r/seduction09/07/22 04:35 PM
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1 39 m talking to a 24f. Dating? You've gone well beyond talking. :P 2 We have went on probably 30 dates the last 4 months. Spent multiple days together go out together a lot. Sex for hours, met her friends and sister. It was honestly getting to the point of discussing exclusivity. However, couple red flags. Sounds like it's getting serious. At least for you. 3 She never pays or even offers to pay anything meals/drinks This indicates her values with regards to relationships and dating. She obvio…
/r/seduction09/07/22 04:23 PM
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1 What do I say back to a girl that comes up to me in a club/bar setting and tells me she likes my hair? You're running into the same problem created by people who go around "compliment opening" other people. You have two main choices with a compliment. Accept it or not. Accept: Say thanks, etc. Don't accept: Ignore, dismiss the compliment, etc. You can see the issue here. Neither one of these options leads anywhere. Which is why compliment openers are unintentionally advanced: you still have to…
/r/seduction09/07/22 04:00 PM
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I've heard firsthand from a guy that he had multiple friends in his frat who admitted to not washing their ass and dicks because they were afraid it would make them gay What in the actual fuck? Wow. SMH
/r/seduction09/07/22 03:37 PM
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1 So I just try to Google some basic things about seduction such as F-closes, field reports etc and I realised that most posts are from 8 to 10 years ago. What you're noticing is part of a natural trend with advice subreddits like this one. People come to a place and try to learn together. Some of them learn and become experts or at least improved over time. Their desire to be involved in that subreddit goes down when their primary motivation for going there disappears because they have learned …
/r/seduction09/07/22 03:21 PM
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This had to be taken down but I'll add my two cents as well. 1 First let's rewind a bit and review seduction basics. What is seduction, really? It's a form of social interaction that requires basic social skills to get good results. Social skills would include things like: confidence (for escalation and making moves in general), calibration (for knowing when and how to make moves), logistics (having or making the time and place for things to go down), etc. Side note: It bears stating that people…
/r/seduction09/07/22 03:02 PM
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This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different: A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept. If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it belongs in AskSeddit. No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you wa…
/r/seduction09/07/22 01:42 AM
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This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different: A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept. If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it belongs in AskSeddit. No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you wa…
/r/seduction08/07/22 09:39 PM
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This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different: A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept. If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it belongs in AskSeddit. No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you wa…
/r/seduction08/07/22 06:53 PM
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1 I'm 18 years old, speak 3 languages ​​in total, can kind of cook and am starting to learn piano, but I'd like to know if these "skills" are really important when it comes to picking up girls. Seduction is one form of social interaction. Social interactions require basic social skills like: Active listening Good follow-up on what people say in conversation. Confidence 2 And if not, what "skills" should I actually learn to make a good impression? If you are in the mindset of trying to make a goo…
/r/seduction06/07/22 09:50 PM
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Yeah I kinda agree she does show me qualities of being a house wife cooking, cleaning, doing anything I want outside and inside the bedroom. She's 24 and if this is happening in the US, the economy is so shit that anyone might see someone such as yourself, as an escape hatch But she's so young she may have no idea what she's really doing. And might not until after you have kids. Which is not ideal.
/r/seduction04/07/22 06:41 PM
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1 ....we often just make jokes about each other just for fun.... it’s funny but we make sure that nobody feels bad. So, this friend of mine ‘A’ (F) said to another friend of mine....now that I think about it, it was a very sensitive thing to target because if i was told this it would have hit my ego. Maybe, if your friends are going to target a sensitive area for FUN, then they aren't really making sure nobody feels bad. And maybe you might question whether or not you can do better than friends …
/r/seduction04/07/22 10:13 AM
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1 Any other women finding it a bit overwhelming? It is mostly guys here at this subreddit, but a lot of people do find it overwhelming at times. All the COVID lockdowns didn't help either. 2 I have had my profile up for only 24 hours and have had so many matches and messages…I’m getting totally swamped in it. Yeah, unfortunately, apps can be like that. There are a lot of lonely dudes out there and some of them can be desperate. 3 How do I week out the guys who are genuinely interested and read t…
/r/seduction01/07/22 07:27 AM
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Best to ask on dating_advice or another subreddit with more women in it. On the other hand, some of the options there can get pretty toxic.
/r/seduction01/07/22 06:47 AM
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1 What do you guys mean by : I never had trouble getting women? This is like asking, what do women mean when they say, "I have to go?" There are so many possible answers that the question becomes meaningless and not instructive of anything. 2 But I’ve heard several guys use that very sentence, do they mean they never got rejected? Flaked on ? Went through a dry spell ? Who knows? And what does this have to do with anything related to this subreddit?
/r/seduction01/07/22 06:39 AM
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1 Just got rejected for being incredible Spoiler: the words are not as important as the main idea, which is that someone has revealed it's not working for them. 2 Girls be really saying anything. Humans often don't understand themselves. That's why self-help coaches are a thing. Same with dating coaches for both men and women. When people don't understand themselves, they may end up wanting or not wanting something for reasons they don't understand. But there's a part of the brain whose job it i…
/r/seduction01/07/22 06:36 AM
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1 For context: Basically had a good time texting with a girl for 3 weeks and were close to meeting..... Honestly, if you don't line something like that up in a week or 2, the number is probably garbage. 2 At the same time I got the impression now that she's more attracted to the avoidant types of guys(I'm secure type of attachment) since she was more into me when I was not available so easily. This could mean that you were trying too hard. Or that she wasn't into you that way and that simply rev…
/r/seduction01/07/22 06:31 AM
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1 Dating app experience is trash so far and getting shadow-banned, no likes etc, I’m stuck in an empty school for the summer with no car, no social circle as I’m in a new environment... Being stuck in a college area during summer can suck sometimes because it can feel like it's deserted. However, being in a new environment is not the issue so much as not realizing what opportunities you have to meet people where you are. I have been in your position before and there might not be much you can do …
/r/seduction01/07/22 06:20 AM
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My bad. Sorry for the lack of context. I meant smoking weed, as it is (as far as I've seen) also a common hookup "protocol" for people who don't drink alcohol. Doesn't change much. If anything it's way less common as anything even mildly related to the first meetup. Getting drinks is a normal thing. Weed is usually a little more like something people might suggest only after they've gotten to know someone. Especially in the US, since it's not technically legal across the whole country yet Are yo…
/r/seduction30/06/22 11:10 PM
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Kindly don't feed this stuff. Report and don't engage. Otherwise it's even more for mods to clean up.
/r/seduction30/06/22 10:59 PM
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Sounds good, I'll keep doing things like that then. Seems like I should really focus on leaving my house and going places mostly.... Getting out and around people is a pretty important first step. If the only time you go out to be around people is when you're doing pickup/cold approach, that's going to make it harder. and not worry about the additional pressure of trying to meet women I mean, women are going to be around everywhere. And the value of going to these kind of mixer events/public eve…
/r/seduction30/06/22 02:43 AM
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1 I did also go to an event last weekend, the hindu temple I go to had a mini festival to celebrate the groundbreaking for the new temple. Managed to talk to a few people there as well. Felt a little out of place at first since I was one of the few non-Indians there, but I had a good time and there was free food This would be a pretty good first step, I would say. Meeting new people is usually going to feel that way. Like you're out of place. It's a strange fucking experience. And it's easy to f…
/r/seduction30/06/22 02:20 AM
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1 So I am attracted to people. It’s just that by the time I’m attracted to them they only see me as a friend. What am I supposed to do other than try to fake it early on ? When you say you are not attracted to them but then you are later, can you describe what the change is like when you finally feel attracted? 2 I know I can hug others but every time I have tried I have been turned away. That just kills confidence and I try to fake it but some things you can’t fake. I'm not saying you should tr…
/r/seduction30/06/22 02:11 AM
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I went to a bar with a friend last week, that’s one thing I guess It's something. But you do realize that you and I have discussed actions you could be taking that aren't precisely cold approach and would help you safely build your confidence and comfort to where you could cold approach if you wanted to later, right? So, where were you on that stuff? Doing a Google or Facebook search to look for groups holding events is not hard. I mean, it might seem like a big huge unknown. But these things re…
/r/seduction30/06/22 01:55 AM
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If you want to post a link to an article in the future, then you need to include some kind of summary, perhaps with bullet points. Just posting a link to the article isn't enough. That does also need to be a clear connection between the content and seduction. (Granted, an examination of what it's like for women is often instructive because it can help with the development of social skills like calibration/empathy.)
/r/seduction30/06/22 01:41 AM
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Most of the hookups or casual encounters, starts on a dating app with "Let's have a drink / joint and see where it goes", Or in a bar/nightclub after few drinks. This scenario you're describing needs new framing. Your assumptions don't cover everything. Hookups or casual encounters starting on a dating app often start with some form of short and easy meetup to get a feel for the person and make sure that both parties are human, etc. That short and easy meetup can range from what you described (d…
/r/seduction30/06/22 12:14 AM
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Is cold approach really the best way for most guys to meet women? It feels like a lot of the conventional advice on here doesn't really apply to me You know you had some more unconventional advice given to you the last time you asked the same question a few weeks ago. Not to give you a hard time, but where are you on all of that we spoke about the last time we talked? The whole "getting outside and touching grass while being social" thing? Like going out and being social for something other than…
/r/seduction29/06/22 11:01 AM
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1 Therapists just told me when I went into my romantic struggles, that some people never do find anyone and I’m not broken, I just need to accept a bachelor life. Jesus Christ. They said what? For real? They said that? I'm wondering what kind of certifications they had, that these guys had for them to give such shitty advice. Like seriously, way for them to avoid the issue altogether. Those were not great therapists. There are ones out there that would do their jobs. 2 My motivation to flirt and…
/r/seduction29/06/22 10:11 AM
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1 So first things first the reason why it’s sometimes a few months is because I am broken. I rarely am attracted to a girl right off the bat like I should be. I have tried therapy for years with no results. Do you have any idea what kind of therapy you have tried? 2 Because of this any flirting I do comes across as scripted or more friendly than sexual. I don't get what your motivation is to flirt if you're not attracted to them until you've known them a while first. Because of my inability and …
/r/seduction29/06/22 05:25 AM
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Just going to add some additional information. 1 If you want to seem attractive, pick up an instrument and start a band Being in a band can help with your confidence and can definitely expose you to a lot of people socially. But if you have no social skills to start, then you might not get so much out of the experience in the way of getting laid. I have definitely seen a number of people here posting about having troubles with game even though they're in a band. 2 I guess that can be said about …
/r/seduction29/06/22 04:38 AM
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1 How to tell a girl I've been friends with for years that I like them? So let's back to train up here and really think about this. You have known this girl for years. When you met her, she was either up for it or she wasn't. What happened from there is that you haven't made a move for years. And that does a couple of things. It demonstrates lack of confidence. Which is a turn-off. Which in turn leads to any feelings or passion that was there, to dissipate. If this girl often shares her dating l…
/r/seduction29/06/22 03:58 AM
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1 Sometimes girls (usually ones who get hit on a lot) call out the negging/teasing. How do you respond? RSD Tyler had a video back in the day where he went over the idea that, if one really has their game down, they won't come off like they're gaming. Consider events like what you describe, as a sign that there's growth you could be making. Because you don't HAVE to be experiencing this. ​ 2 For example, met this girl (fit/good-looking) on the street, and during an otherwise pretty normal conver…
/r/seduction29/06/22 02:06 AM
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Just a couple notes for people who came to this thread and felt overwhelmed. There's an old Richard La Ruina video on Night Game where he goes over a useful concept called "Forcing IOIs," that can make the numbers game more efficient. Bear in mind that this requires a basic level of confidence and attention skills to pull off. But it involves the following: You do something that incites a reaction from people in the area. Could be dancing in a goofy way if you're at a club. Walking by high fivin…
/r/seduction29/06/22 01:48 AM
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1 Met at all sorts of places, football games, parties, climbing gyms, trivia bar nights, clubs etc. What I say heavily depends on where I’m at. At the gym I’ll chat about a climbing route for example. Say I chat and flirt with a girl at a football game, I’d ask “I’m going to x for food after, want to join?” Making conversation or adapting it to the situation, is a good thing. As for the "going to x for food after" comment, a LOT would depend on what the interaction actually went like before that…
/r/seduction29/06/22 01:30 AM
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1 What backlash should I expect because of my relationship? 26-year-old male dating 19-year-old female. In your twenties, dating another adult. No issues there. I've seen 12 year age gaps or more. It's something that really depends on whether the interaction is perceived as predatory. Which is not precisely about age. It's about the power dynamic in the relationship. 2 We both work in the film industry and met on set. We kinda had a crazy first meeting. I'll leave it at that. This is my first ev…
/r/seduction28/06/22 03:23 AM
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Rule 8: AMAs not approved by mods are subject to immediate deletion. Please read the rules before commenting and posting next time. It doesn't mean you can't provide help. There's plenty that you can provide people outside the context of an AMA. You could also have posted your advice on a particular step or point that you highlighted in this thread, as an ordinary post.
/r/seduction28/06/22 12:28 AM
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That's just my style, but my intention is to genuinely help people. It used to be my style as well. I'd take it pretty far. The mods back then actually also had a talk with me about it. The argument they made was, we have no idea when someone will react emotionally to the wording in the tough love and then skate right on past whatever our point actually was. Because it'll happen. You certainly saw that reaction in plenty of other people besides the one you were actually commenting to. Those peop…
/r/seduction27/06/22 11:50 PM
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1 Girl told me she likes my company and that she loves me then stopped responding I mean, actions speak louder than words. If she stopped responding, then something wasn't working for her. 2 I didn't say it back i just sent a funny meme back cause it was after like 2 days we started talking... After two days? She said she loved you? RED FLAG!!! But also, she was screening you to see if you were at that level too. You basically avoided the question. She's not a goldfish. It was obvious to her tha…
/r/seduction27/06/22 05:03 PM
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There's no mind hack or anything to make the process easier, you're just being a pussy. Realize that the comment has been deleted for your privacy, but also, Rule 4: Keep it civil. EDIT: On further review, the temp ban was lifted because the person you were interacting with wasn't offended. But I'd still call this a warning. Tough love like this can backfire and alienate people you might otherwise help and it'll happen more often than you might think.
/r/seduction27/06/22 04:30 PM
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1 I feel bad for judging the relationship "value" of a woman based on how many partners she's had, but I can't seem to reconcile with the fact that anything over 3 sexual partners is a no-go for me when it comes to a serious relationship, and try as I might, I can't seem to find the root of my belief. It's not a logical thing. It's often based in something like fear of not measuring up or fear or not being able to "hold onto her." I dated a girl who actually had a problem with my experience, bec…
/r/seduction27/06/22 04:29 PM
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I asked out 100 girls for a test once. I had one hundred rejections. Come on now, if we're going to discuss this, we need to know what we're actually talking about for this to be productive: Where were you meeting these girls? What were you actually saying? Like as close to word for word, if you can remember. What sorts of reactions did you actually get? What sorts of things did the girls say and do, exactly? You mentioned that you had a connection with these girls beforehand: How long were you …
/r/seduction27/06/22 03:25 PM
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My bad I clicked "hide" so it seemed like the post was hidden. You could probably only see it because you're a moderator. That probably only hides it for you? A post will be marked with some red text (that only moderators can see) saying it was removed, if moderators remove it. It has been marked as visible every time I've looked at it. So I think we're good.
/r/seduction27/06/22 10:12 AM
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I don't get how that explains why you deleted my post.... No one deleted anything. What are you talking about? I do not advice anyone how to impress people. Not sure what this pertains to.
/r/seduction27/06/22 09:58 AM
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1 Girls who flex about stuff other guys are providing them Sometimes I come across these girls who will flex about stuff others are doing for them like "I'm going on a yacht tomorrow" / "This guy wants to do a photo shoot with me" In what context are you coming across these girls? Are we talking about things they say during a first date, over text on a dating app before you have even met, or something else? 2 Also, can you be more specific about the yacht thing? A lot of us guys have been on yac…
/r/seduction27/06/22 03:25 AM
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Just a couple of notes about how basic seduction skills apply to the subject of this post: 1 Actually being an interesting person What is interesting can often vary from person to person. And making a story about yourself compelling to whoever you haven't in front of you, is advanced. But one thing that everyone finds interesting is themselves. That being the case, the basic go-to topic you can safely tap into when you meet anyone is getting them to talk about themselves, or talking about whatev…
/r/seduction27/06/22 03:15 AM
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Some notes on the prerequisite skills required to pull off what OP posted about here: 1 Ok so even though it doesn’t really matter exactly what you say on a cold approach When we say "it doesn't really matter," the point is not to worry about some exact script. You're dealing with a person and real life situations don't follow a plan. So, calibration (the ability to make adjustments in social situations) is a really important basic seduction skill that comes into play here. Calibration basically…
/r/seduction24/06/22 02:27 AM
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1 I like that. u tell me im not gettin laid tonight... You shouldn't be worried about this anyway. People aren't going to blurt this kind of thing out randomly. They might say something like that further into the date after things have physically escalated. But in that case it often indicates that she just needs to chill a bit, so if you can handle that, she'll often come around a little later. 2 I've personally had a number of women say that sex wasn't happening after we ended up someplace alon…
/r/seduction21/06/22 11:26 PM
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I had never encountered it until I was 35. Then I moved to another country .... Out of curiosity, what country are you from and what country did you move to?
/r/seduction21/06/22 11:11 PM
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1 I think something that perhaps goes unexplained is the fact that the guy should have standards too and shouldn't be trying to get numbers from every single girl they talk to. Like sometimes you might see a girl that looks attractive but then after you speak to her for a few minutes, you realize she's lame. In that case, there's no need to ask for a phone number because why would you want it? On the other hand, you might have a conversation with someone and things just really click. In this cas…
/r/seduction21/06/22 10:37 AM
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1 I got 5 numbers from 5 different girls. While we were a little drunk, I hit it off with them well. I went to follow up with them next day, and it turned out 3 of the girls blocked my number before I could even reach out, and the other two never responded. We all have moments like this in life, where a reality check hits us square between the eyes. The main point that should not be ignored here is that regardless of what you thought, it did not go well with any of those girls. If it did, then n…
/r/seduction21/06/22 06:18 AM
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Im just curious how many of those guys claiming "I can get numbers whenever I want" actually have 90\100 numbers to approach ratio. Guys who know what they're doing, don't need to do a hundred approaches. They will need fewer approaches but most approaches will end with a number that actually goes somewhere. It adds up pretty fast. Even if you only meet a couple girls a week, if you are handling your business right, it doesn't take long to have a regular rotation of 7 to 8 girls that you're seei…
/r/seduction21/06/22 04:13 AM
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1 How many approaches it takes to get a number\equivalent Couple things: If you have good game, you can do five approaches and end up with four to five numbers that are worth your time. If you have shitty game, you can go out and do a hundred approaches and end up with a bunch of garbage numbers, none of which are even worth your time. So, simply asking how many approaches it takes to get a number, is not a helpful framing. It doesn't take much to get a number. What's necessary is the social ski…
/r/seduction21/06/22 04:08 AM
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Social study, how does everyone keep out of the friend zone? I’m interested in how everyone keeps out of the friend zone…. Everyone has their own personal tastes. So as a baseline, some people are going to be into you and some won't be. From there, if you have good game AND they were into you, then you won't screw it up. And no friendzone. But if you screw it up OR they weren't into you to begin with, then they won't be interested in more. They may not even be up for friendship. A lot of this is…
/r/seduction20/06/22 05:16 AM
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That said, I'll throw in a response as well. 1 I have no problem getting hinge dates but I’m having trouble getting second dates. Second dates don't happen because of how things go up to and including the first date. This post glosses over almost everything that happens during your first date. What you presented here is the equivalent of a man walking into a mechanic's shop, telling him that his car won't start, and asking him to fix it, but the car is a couple miles away. 2 If you really want p…
/r/seduction19/06/22 12:37 AM
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This post was taken down because it breaks Rule 7: No beginner topics. Getting past the first date would qualify as beginner. You might post this at AskSeddit.
/r/seduction19/06/22 12:05 AM
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1 The rule is they offer but you pay. Different people have different preferences. Some women prefer men to pay. Some don't. What matters is which kind of dynamic you want. But there isn't a universal rule here. In fact, my own preference is to screen OUT women who want the guy to pay for everything. To each their own. 2 I dont like this dynamic of everything is 50/50. Interesting. That's fine, but why don't you like that dynamic? 3 Unless it's a relationship and both earn the same amount. If on…
/r/seduction18/06/22 11:46 PM
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So how should I start so that I am not driving an F1 car directly Bear in mind, some people like this approach. They consider it more masculine or alpha. Which is fine if it works for them. Not begrudging anyone for whom that works. But it's not for everyone and that's fine, too. Not everyone learns the same way. Anyway, to answer your question, I will start by suggesting a way to frame your goals here. Meeting new people can be stressful. How can one normalize this so they can focus on leveling…
/r/seduction15/06/22 05:27 AM
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What's a good response to 'when was the last time you had sex?' Short answer: It's none of her business, at least not in the context of someone you recently met. But of course, this doesn't address her desire to know that question. And maybe that's the point you're overlooking here: why should you be concerned about meeting the needs of an insecure person who feels the need to ask a question like this? You can't fix their insecurity. This is someone you should be screening out, not attempting to…
/r/seduction15/06/22 03:29 AM
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I just don’t have much of a social life right now It's really not that complicated to build one for yourself, and it has nothing to do with what other people have said on this thread. Go to Facebook Do a search for the name of your city + an activity/hobby/interest Go to the events and groups tabs in the search results. Look for recurring events and then sample a few every week. Try new things. Get outside your comfort zone. I've used this method to basically recreate the kind of social exposure…
/r/seduction15/06/22 03:23 AM
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1 No replies on dating apps, what should I do? Let's back the train up. Seduction is a form of social interaction. It requires social skills. You navigate social interactions to get to sex or a relationship. Dating apps. They require marketing skills to curate an effective profile. And sometimes advanced social skills to navigate text interactions without the visual information you'd have in person. You could have the marketing skills down to make an effective profile, and that wouldn't translat…
/r/seduction15/06/22 03:20 AM
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1 I am in a dilemma whether to go to bars or to clubs for the game. Let's back the train up a bit. What is "game" talking about, really? It's about navigating social interactions to get to sex or a relationship. This requires at least a basic foundation of social skills. If you don't already have these, then going to a bar or club and trying to level up there is kind of like putting yourself behind the wheel of an F1 formula racer and trying to take a lap at full speed. People can do it. But the…
/r/seduction15/06/22 03:14 AM
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1 I hate to admit it but I'm jealous of my friend who doesn't seem to struggle at all It's good to stay in touch with your feelings. Otherwise they gain more power over you. The truth is, if you were to actually walk a mile in your friend's shoes or [EDIT] he were to share his failures or difficulties with you, you would have the opportunity to gain insight into the things he actually does struggle with. It's guaranteed, everyone struggles with something. No one is perfect. 2 Yes I know , I need…
/r/seduction14/06/22 08:18 AM
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1 New city and unprepared enjoying myself at the bar when this 9/10 milf comes up to me and starts chatting. So she opened you, which is fine. But it's good to take note of patterns. 2 We end up going to my room and I told her I don’t have condoms so if we want to fuck we will have to go to get some. Point of order here: you should always have logistics like this taken care of beforehand. 3 .... tell her I want to go get a condom. She gets offended saying she has no std never hooks up this is th…
/r/seduction14/06/22 07:53 AM
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1 how do I keep girls I meet in club interested First off, there's a bit of a mindset issue embedded in this very question. You shouldn't have to "keep" someone interested. The reality is: Some people are initially going to be interested, and some won't be. Among those who are initially interested, it's possible for you to drop the ball. For example, lack of confidence can convince someone that they were wrong to be interested. 2 Recently started going to clubs and talking to girls. Realize that…
/r/seduction14/06/22 01:55 AM
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1 I went out to meet a girl tonight at a bar and when I get there she's with a bunch of friends and coworkers. She did not give me a heads up about this. I gave her the benefit of the doubt that maybe she just met them while she was out, but she told she carpooled and they all planned it. It's a little odd that you didn't give you a heads up. But it's also not the end of the world. And it had the potential to give you a ton of data on her while you figure out whether you're actually up for it or…
/r/seduction11/06/22 05:31 PM
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She said she wasn't interested at first. Right. She was describing her internal thoughts. Not actions. That's not the same thing at all as the second thing she described, which was someone using their actions to communicate that they aren't interested. The difference between internal thoughts and actions is very clear. You can perceive one and you can't perceive the other. No one is expecting you to be psychic.
/r/seduction11/06/22 01:35 AM
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// At first, I was not interested, Right. This was internal. It wasn't something she communicated to him. It was just what she thought privately at first. Then you said // Who in his right mind would continue being flirty when she isn’t responsive and seem bothered? Here, she's talking about an actual external interaction. Like the guy having made moves and the girl externally not being responsive and showing that it bothers her. You can surely tell the difference between her describing her priv…
/r/seduction11/06/22 01:22 AM
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Literally doesn't matter. Men like women who don't like them, as well. Tale as old as time. People want what they haven't got.
/r/seduction11/06/22 12:58 AM
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[Hmmm wonder why!?] Kindly don't be a creep, man.
/r/seduction11/06/22 12:36 AM
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1 She just sent me a picture of my profile she saw on hinge and I’m astounded at how many likes and matches she has! 100 likes and 88 messages. So you didn't even mention what her actual message was. Or did she just cryptically send you a picture with nothing else? 2 What the actual fuck 🤣 how do I respond to the message in a cool calm collected manner? The bulk of this is really about your emotional reaction to her profile. As for ways you could deal with it: A.) Dealing with your reaction to h…
/r/seduction11/06/22 12:31 AM
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1 I was definitely scared. I wanted to talk to them or even just look at them better but I didn’t want social rejection. I had the same "don’t look, just keep walking" thought occurring in my head. I guess I had an irrational fear he’d beat me up if I looked at him but that translated to "don’t look at the girls or they’ll know you like them and judge you" or something like that. I know now they probably didn’t give a shit about me but in the moment it felt like they all had me on their minds. I…
/r/seduction10/06/22 08:27 AM
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If you are willing to invest anywhere from $300-$600, do a photoshoot. Ideally 6 outfits in 6 different locations/sets. The focus at this subreddit is in developing social skills which people will need when they're in person, dealing with someone right in front of them. Post about marketing skills are a little more appropriate in one of the other subreddits, like perhaps the specifically OLD focused ones. Even if someone does develop better marketing skills, that doesn't automatically translate …
/r/seduction10/06/22 05:02 AM
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It’s like I purposely cockblock myself. It's important to realize that humans can logically know things, but we are all emotional as well. This kind of self-sabotage is something that anyone may suffer before they gain enough self-awareness to engage in the kind of self-care that helps overcome the underlying issues before we reach this kind of situation. 2 I walked past a group of hot girls at the gym today they moved aside for me and I could feel their eyes on me. I couldn’t even hold eye cont…
/r/seduction10/06/22 05:00 AM
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1 I've always found the interest in him pretty weird. I don't find him from a dudes perspective super attractive or charming in the first place, but I barely keep up with celebs. Attraction is subjective. If you get a group of people in a room and ask them who their 10s are, you won't get consensus. One person's 10 can be another person's 7 or 6. Which is a long way of saying, tastes vary and there's a lot we won't "get" about what other people like. I mean, there was a dude on here a few days a…
/r/seduction09/06/22 10:19 AM
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Hmmm might workout in the next thing I go to since it's a drama. I think if you pay attention during any kind of play or performance, then there's something you could comment on that's noteworthy. It's a matter of taking note of things that stand out. It's a different way of looking at things, honestly.
/r/seduction09/06/22 05:16 AM
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1 I came to this sub so I could learn how to flirt and carry a conversation with guys. Get their number, make myself more attractive despite my physical appearance, all I’ve found are some pretty shallow guys who think women are as shallow as they are. It’s incredibly interesting to see how many guys think about hook-ups and dating culture. The funny thing is, you're not actually going to see much as much about the culture you're speaking of from the guys in the subreddit. Most of the guys who f…
/r/seduction09/06/22 05:06 AM
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1 Flirting blueprint This is a different topic than the one you end up really asking about in your actual post. But the basic idea is that learning is being playful with someone, which requires a couple things: Not taking yourself or anything else, too seriously. Looking for the funny things in life. Simply making an effort to look at the world through this lens can make a big difference. 2 Once I approach a girl, how do I lead the conversation to getting her number? Well, let's not put the cart…
/r/seduction09/06/22 04:59 AM
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The reason why I'm asking is probably pretty obvious: I'm extremely needy myself and can't seem to find a way to reduce that neediness To add to what Coco said, one of the best ways to combat neediness is by knowing in your bones that you have options. Because neediness is often born of fear of lack of options or fear that one cannot find anyone else. Like when you've met someone and you're scared of screwing it up because this one feels special in some way, and it seems difficult you'll ever fi…
/r/seduction09/06/22 03:17 AM
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Mind if I tag you? You're more than welcome to.
/r/seduction08/06/22 07:12 AM
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These events are more like plays or performances. Perhaps there's something specific you could refer to from the play or performance in your opener. Something notable that happened. Something cool, etc.
/r/seduction08/06/22 07:12 AM
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1 I know about the abundance mindset, I know better is out there for me out there It's easy to know this logically. But if you do not have a social life which exposes you to new people on a regular basis, it will be difficult to impossible for you to actually feel this in your bones, which is a whole different matter. What does your social life look like? How are you meeting new people? And how often? 2 but I really can't help myself with this one in particular. We had a fling but She's only vie…
/r/seduction08/06/22 01:07 AM
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1 Hmmm. It should be what exactly, because when I think establish a connection, I feel like I get stuck with one person and it's like an all or nothing game. "Establishing a connection" might be unhelpful phrasing. It's about digging into who the person is and getting at at least a little of what makes them tick. You save yourself a little time if you can establish what kind of person they are, so you can find out if they're the kind of person you actually want to be around. It's not about being…
/r/seduction08/06/22 12:42 AM
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1 So I've been cold calling for a bit now and I'm generally able to number close quite well now..... most of the girls who I number closed do not respond or ghost after a bit. These kinds of results indicate that you're definitely dropping the ball in some way during the initial interaction. And as a result, you're getting a number from someone who doesn't really want to see you again because the interaction put them off. 2 What you've effectively done here is like unintentionally walking into a…
/r/seduction08/06/22 12:07 AM
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1 No nonsense. I can't seem to go anywhere and tell anyone I am a cop, without making him shitting himself and that would be the end of it. There's a lot of of awareness that being around the police has some potential downfalls. Because they're aware of the law in a way that many people aren't. And that can lead to issues where people are unknowingly exposing themselves to criminal and civil penalties they don't foresee, after interacting with a police officer. Which can make it hard for some pe…
/r/seduction08/06/22 12:00 AM
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1 This sub has become skeezes trying to be disgusting in public places.... This sub has always attracted newbs with underdeveloped social skills who end up doing or wanting to do inappropriate things in public. That's a lack of calibration, the ability to read the room and adjust based on how people are reacting to you. Not everyone has developed this ability. Adding to the problem is that there are coaches out there who take advantage of lonely dudes and sell them services while teaching them t…
/r/seduction07/06/22 11:31 PM
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1 I've been under the impression (and this is just what I got from my own observations) that very often getting a girl is less about impressing her and more about just not dropping the ball. Not dropping the ball: definitely. Not trying to impress: also true. 2 And the way guys usually drop the ball(incl. me) is that they tend to overthink and stress out, becomming unauthentic; or that they try too hard to push things forward, killing any sense of intrigue or tension. I'd say that being inauthen…
/r/seduction06/06/22 04:46 PM
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People who are naturals don't use techniques The difference would be that they may use techniques but don't realize what they're doing or how it's working. Which means they get into trouble later, often after a long-term relationship that goes south. And they come out the other end not knowing how to people anymore. And I think most of the techniques can be harmful, actually. It really depends on what techniques we're talking about. The stuff that OP referred to, if followed while not working on…
/r/seduction06/06/22 03:55 PM
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1 No the methods are way more sophisticated today, but you still feel like a robot using them. I would contend that a lot of pickup coaches package these things as more complicated so that they can be gatekeepers that lonely guys have to/want to pay to learn from. It's part of the business model. It's funny because people keep trying to reinvent the wheel and make everything seem more sophisticated or complicated than it really is. But at the end of the day, if you feel like a robot using his te…
/r/seduction06/06/22 05:14 AM
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1 I've been studying game since I was 14. For over 10 years I studied every line, technique or mindset there is. The thing is, it was all just a compensation for my low self-worth. Framing is very important in a discussion like this because it can highlight what kinds of actions you may be able to take to improve the situation. If your framing is that you've studied every line, technique, or mindset that there is, and you're still having a terrible time, then you have nowhere left to go except, …
/r/seduction06/06/22 04:59 AM
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1 Mark Manson says that such women have 1. Low values. 2. Low self-awareness 3. Low self-esteem. If you're going to cite an author, then you really need to provide an actual citation. That way we all know what we're talking about. This is especially important because people can read the same thing and come to different conclusions, some of which can be unhelpful and even incorrect compared to what the author intended. 2 But I've found majority of the women to be this way. What am I doing wrong? …
/r/seduction06/06/22 01:40 AM
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1 This really dawned on me today as I signed up on some dating apps after a hiatus for a bit -- it feels like there's a really noticeable drought since the pandemic kicked off. If you do some digging for a few minutes on Google, it's easy to find articles that started coming out during the pandemic, about how people feel like they've forgotten how to socialize. Like this one. Basically, a lot of people have been socially isolated since the pandemic started and have forgotten how to interact soci…
/r/seduction06/06/22 12:56 AM
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1 really like spending time with this girl but I don't want a serious relationship right now. what do I do This is only complicated because emotions make it so. There's a lot that goes through our minds at a time like this. We don't want to hurt anybody. We want to keep having fun. And so on. All very human things. I would recommend you listen to some of this video of James Marshall, on the subject of how to give what he calls the Talk: When you lay out that you're only available for something c…
/r/seduction06/06/22 12:42 AM
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1 A lot of these posts fall under two categories: Posts from people expressing legit concerns over getting aggressive and/or manipulative sales pitches from coaches offering products and services which cost a lot of money. Posts from people who spent a lot of money on products and services which didn't leave them any better on the other end of the process. Like those really expensive boot camps where coaches are pushing cold approach to hard cases with little to no foundation in basic social ski…
/r/seduction06/06/22 12:33 AM
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1 But here’s a different situation, I was hooking up with this girl a few months ago, we had good chemistry, sex was good, we’d eat delicious food or play videogames afterwards, it was the perfect FWB situation, legit no feelings involved Then she stopped replying me, she just left me on seen one day and didn’t reply Just out of curiosity, what was the actual understanding between the two of you about what was going on? Did you guys actually have a moment when you laid all of that out in plain t…
/r/seduction06/06/22 12:20 AM
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I always here people say get a coach as usually it is a solid investment.... I've been here for years and this is far from something people "always" say. Most of the posts on this sub about coaches are people complaining about having gotten ripped off. That's not to say that some people can't get good things out of a life/dating coach. But it's not accurate to say that there's some common adage here that people need to invest in a coach.
/r/seduction05/06/22 04:30 AM
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Find places where people are more receptive to communication. // such as where? If you really want to build your confidence up and build a good foundation, then go to places where people are literally expecting to meet new people. Go to a social media platform like Facebook and search for a hobby/interest/activity + [some variation of NYC] or your borough. Look through the groups or events tabs. Look through the regularly scheduled events. Go to two or three a week. Try new things. Some really g…
/r/seduction03/06/22 08:08 AM
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a good response for “how many girls have you said that to?” Context does matter: What did you actually say before you got that response? Prevention is better than treatment after the fact.
/r/seduction02/06/22 04:39 AM
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Guys don't really care about emotionally mature women. Have you never overheard guys say they were tired of dealing with vapid and immature girls? Emotional maturity is one of many traits that any person, male or female, may find attractive. It tends to be valued more the older someone gets, as well. People get tired of dealing with bullshit. Generalizing to entire populations doesn't work well much of the time.
/r/seduction01/06/22 11:58 PM
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I'm assuming that you're talking about this part: 1 It's really common for people in long-term relationships to end up socially isolated. Then when everything falls apart, it's often harder on both of them because they forgot how to socialize with new people on a regular basis. But this can be an easy fix. If so, the fix is related to plugging yourself back into a social life like I alluded to earlier in the comment. An easy way of doing this is simply doing a search on a social media platform l…
/r/seduction01/06/22 02:54 AM
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Please read the rules before posting or commenting. Unauthorized AMAs aren't allowed (Rule 8). Commenting on threads would be fine though!
/r/seduction30/05/22 08:30 AM
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If you don’t have a social circle, get one. It’s the easiest path to women. There's a lot of confusion about what "social circle," means in practice. A.) Arguably, the most practical definition of this phrase in the context of this subreddit, is the practice of creating a social life that exposes one to plenty of new people on a regular basis. This is something someone does when they: Meet a lot of people doing club promotions. Look for publicly posted events on social media and get a rotation o…
/r/seduction30/05/22 07:18 AM
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EDIT: Voice to text went wonky. Fixed it. 1 So I've cold approached very very few times in my life. There's a lot that's misunderstood about cold approach. What is it really? It's starting a conversation with a stranger. There are so many situations where you will do that, that are outside of what we consider to be a stereotypical cold approach. 2 The question is, what kind of social life do you have right now? We often overlook how our social lives expose us to people on a regular basis when we…
/r/seduction30/05/22 05:14 AM
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OP read like a troll. That said, many of you need to read Rule 6. Focus on the practical consequences and keep your moral judgements out of this subreddit. If someone is looking to cheat or sleep with a cheater, the main concern for discourse on this subreddit is that it's consensual. Of course, being with cheaters often has consequences because they're often manipulative and bring drama. We can and should advise on others on this. But it's up to them whether they try and it's not on anyone here…
/r/seduction28/05/22 12:14 PM
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PSA: 1.) Entirely too many of you guys responded to a question by thirstily asking a complete stranger out. WTF, guys. Have some self-respect. 2.) And next time try to consider different angles of the potential issue. So many posts on here from guys lacking the confidence to make moves. And yet no one here considered the possibility that this very common issue was behind what she was describing, even when it fit the situation. Instead the rest of the thread that didn't drool over OP, was blaming…
/r/seduction27/05/22 06:12 PM
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I decided to try out Bumble a few weeks ago and I've talked to a lot of guys on there but they never ask me out and act like they have nothing to say? Sometimes I think I'm talking to robots. Is this normal? It's common. A lot of guys suffer from one of two misconceptions. They are afraid of coming off creepy and think they need to "build connection" by basically being a pen pal. Those are the guys who never suggest meeting up. Or they think they need to make a move quickly to "escalate" over te…
/r/seduction27/05/22 05:54 PM
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I do not know what this cat was on about: 1 Men and women have little in common. Never read Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, I guess. There's a lot to the human condition that's shared. 2 Why most men think they'll find a woman to play dungeons and dragons with is hilarious and couldn't be further from the truth. I've seen this happen quite a lot. If someone is screening for it, they can find it. If one assumes it doesn't exist and they're screening for people they don't get along with, then it'll b…
/r/seduction27/05/22 05:50 PM
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God you're stupid... 5 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4: Keep it Civil and On Topic
/r/seduction27/05/22 05:34 PM
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1 Upon reflection, nearly all of my most enjoyable dates have been with plainer looking girls...even the sex has been better, despite my lesser attraction to them. Everyone has different tastes. If you get a group of people in a room and ask them their "10s," you won't get consensus. One person's 10 will be another person's 7 or 6. Plain to you could be hot to someone else. And vice versa. And a girl you consider hot? Someone is going to consider her "plain." 2 Almost every conventionally very a…
/r/seduction27/05/22 05:31 PM
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1 Is it stupid to not know how attractive i am ? (guy) It's not about being smart or stupid. It's a matter of emotions. With a topic like this, it boils down to confidence and insecurity. You can be plenty book smart and not feel that you are attractive even if others think you are. It's not an understanding gap. 2 Im having some issues undestanding how good looking or attractive i am and im sceptical about some girl friends (gf of my close friends) i have that said im hot and thought i was a pl…
/r/seduction27/05/22 09:17 AM
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Girls aren’t like guys. We’re blatant and direct, but they’re very indirect and subtle and that’s expressed to the n’th degree when it comes to dating. I would simply add that one of the major issues here is that guys are often too much in their heads. Which means: Their attention is off the girl and they're missing information Those monkey voices in their heads are talking themselves out of believing what they see. Really, if a girl is touching a guy, putting energy into the interaction, etc., …
/r/seduction27/05/22 05:25 AM
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1 Do women 25-35 really find older men 40-50 attractive? There's no way to generalize to an entire population like this. It's like asking if all kids 10-18 like apples. I mean some do, but others don't. It's the same with whether a particular population finds older men attractive. If you actually spend time listening to women, you will find that there's no consensus on this. Some women are up for it and others aren't. 2 If so what signs would you look for? The idea of looking for signs the way y…
/r/seduction27/05/22 04:58 AM
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1 It seems that some of us have different goals. There's nothing wrong with wanting something long-term or casual. 2 I feel like most steps of dating you have to be inauthentic. Don't text too much don't be clingy don't show too much interest. What if I genuinely want to text a lot and lay out all my cards? What if I want to express my genuine desires? I don't want to hide who I am, and it seems like most dating advice is being someone who you're not. All of these behaviors are symptoms of the i…
/r/seduction26/05/22 02:59 AM
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I didn't provide context so that I can get every possible advice I can get For future reference, dating situations are really complex so if you do not give details it's like someone walking into a mechanic shop without their car and asking them to help with a car problem when their car is 5 miles up the road and all they can do is describe that it doesn't start. There are literally so many issues that might be the problem, but none of it helps if it's not tailored to your specific situation.
/r/seduction26/05/22 02:33 AM
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1 "what are your intentions with me" Is this a trick question question? Or something? No. It's not. Although humans are strange creatures at times and we often need to try something on/test it out to see how we really feel about it. That's why we need to date. To find out if someone fits or not. Sometimes asking questions like what she asked is part of the process for some people. 2 I answered completely honest and I wanted a relationship with her and 2 days later I'm ghosted Realize that anythi…
/r/seduction26/05/22 02:24 AM
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Absolutely nothing.... This is a troll that posts to several different subreddits about this. Just report them. Don't feed the troll.
/r/seduction26/05/22 02:17 AM
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some of the things I got out of it is that being straightforward on tinder, That's the thing though, that bit that he has a picture of, is after he had already navigated the opening phases and had had sex in person. He might be direct in that exchange in the picture, but this is after they'd already had sex. Things can be a little more out in the open sometimes after that. None of it represents anything that would be very helpful for someone at the beginning of the process.
/r/seduction25/05/22 03:29 AM
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I get that women find him attractive but you don't see any other celeb go through so many famous women. The only way we could know the answer to these questions is if we could observe him in action, and could have directly seen what he has been doing over a period of the last few years. We would have to see what's going on when the cameras aren't rolling, when the paparazzi isn't there to see, when he's not on various talk shows or at other public appearances. All we can do in the absence of the…
/r/seduction25/05/22 03:22 AM
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Here is the text of the post, quoted for posterity: I want to show you guys sex and dating from my perspective as a young male. If you want to see photos of how I look go through my post history. This is really meant more as observations I have found over time; since I have noticed that out of every guy I have talked to my age, I seem to have the most experience with sex. For some background: Growing up and in high school, I was very timid with girls. I had sex 2 times before college started; bo…
/r/seduction25/05/22 02:42 AM
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The guy has some solid advice on here I can quote his post in a reply to my pinned comment. But look closely at the wording There's actually no details about how he actually did anything. Example: He mentioned that he learned how to cold approach from his dad but didn't mention what his dad taught him. It's a story about some cool experiences and his perspective on things but no actual actionable advice.
/r/seduction25/05/22 02:40 AM
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I want to show you guys sex and dating from my perspective as a young male. The format here is focused on practical, actionable advice. Everything here that would be of interest to newbs, is left vague. Which breaks Rule 5, which covers too-general advice. Which turns this thread into more of an AMA of sorts. Which kind of starts veering into breaking Rule 8. If you want to break something down in another post about what your dad passed on to you about cold approach, etc... that could be pretty …
/r/seduction24/05/22 03:48 PM
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Yet I see my women friends with 4 lazy car selfies getting 400 matches Let's back the train up here. What is seduction? It's a form of social interaction. It requires social skills to navigate the social interactions in person to get somewhere. Apps are basically online marketing. Not quite the same thing. Someone with good social skills might not have good online marketing skills and would see poor results on apps even if they can score in person well enough. Someone with poor social skills but…
/r/seduction22/05/22 11:37 PM
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1 They all lasted multiple months. Lots of sex and very affectionate - girls are acting very into it. but then I realized none of them ever really ask me a single question about me or how I feel about anything? Dating is a learning process. The results we get are a consequence of many things, some of which we have control over. Part of that is that the overall approach we have will attract some women while necessarily repelling others. So if we notice a pattern in the women we date, it's time to…
/r/seduction22/05/22 11:24 PM
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1 A guy is going around trying to chat up girls sitting by themselves. Even if you look occupied or you're on a silent floor, he will come up and ask what you study, tell you he is a commerce student, and eventually ask you out for a drink. It should be pretty obvious if it happens. He has done this with 4 people I know in a short span of time, which makes us all think he does it frequently. His behaviour is predatory and unacceptable. Please be wary! We have to think this through. People meet e…
/r/seduction22/05/22 01:28 PM
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1 Is a woman's romantic interest much less stable than a man's romantic interest? This isn't something that can be generalized. Some men's interest is fickle. Same with women. Sometimes the problem is not fickleness, but lack of understanding of the opposite sex. If you have a misconception about someone, whenever their real self contradicts that misconception, it will be jarring. It's easy to see someone as fickle if you don't see them as who they really are. 2 I've had women who were obviously…
/r/seduction22/05/22 01:09 PM
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I usually open with a, hey how are you or asking about her day but, but it sounds really weak and boring Stop second guessing yourself. Small talk is fine. The question is how you follow up on the answers you get. You ask how her day was. She answers. You pick something out in her answer and follow up on it. That's it. Boring is when she responds to you asking her how her day was, and you answer with something generic as if you didn't catch what she said. You don't need some long script. You sho…
/r/seduction22/05/22 11:50 AM
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1 .... for those of you who have mastered your game.... I think an important point here is that no one really masters game. It's a journey, not a destination. Life changes and there's always something to work on. 2 and have lots of success with women. what are the sacrifices you make for that lifestyle? Are there any downsides? You shouldn't have to make sacrifices in terms of compromising who you are. 3 That said, one sacrifice anyone will make is that choosing to pursue a particular goal often…
/r/seduction19/05/22 03:57 AM
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I don't like to dance really tho, gonna find something else Note: a lot of people don't like dancing because it's intimidating and we really don't have a culture that encourages or supports men picking up this skill. Which is the same because there's so much crossover between the skills you pick up dancing and seduction. But all the same, consider it something more advanced to maybe consider later.
/r/seduction18/05/22 04:41 PM
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1 In most of the very high value male, james bond movies, he never had a social sercle, and I wanna know where the importance of social circles comes in? James Bond is a fictional character. Real operatives don't work like that. So, there's little to apply to real life there. That said, the man travels a lot and often knows a fair number of people wherever he goes. He has contacts in a lot of places. Although in the movie, a lot of his mystery and appeal typically comes from two things: His impl…
/r/seduction18/05/22 09:16 AM
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1 yes kinda. To me it seems other people always knew what the social rules were but for me i had to learn them. I mean, we all start out that way. We all have to learn these things. That's what the whole process of socialization is. That process kind of never stops. We saw during the pandemic that a lot of people had difficulties being social again after being isolated for however many months. 2 Sometimes that is just too exhausting for me..... sometimes that i cant grasp what is expected from m…
/r/seduction18/05/22 04:12 AM
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1 Ok, so I should focus on just getting out there and not concern myself with trying to approach just yet? Do you remember when I said seduction is a form of social interaction? Forget all the fancy terminology of pickup artistry. Starting a conversation with anyone IS a form of approaching. You're approaching when you chat up the cashier at a grocery store. 2 I hope I can find social events that appeal to me.... This part right here is the beginning of an excuse. It's going to be very easy for …
/r/seduction18/05/22 04:00 AM
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Idk wtf happened to this community Rants are forbidden in the rules.... I saw a post where a someone calling a woman curvy on a dating app led to a discussion of how men are predatory. If people are going off the rails in a discussion, then report it to the mods if you haven't already.
/r/seduction18/05/22 03:03 AM
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1 One thing that just came to my mind is that it's be the initial stages of game that give me the most trouble Let's back the train up here. What is seduction really? It's a form of social interaction. Social interactions require social skills. You level up your social skills by using them. And this uncomfortable situation of socializing with people can be made normal by placing yourself in safe and comfortable situations where you're meeting new people on a regular basis. If you address these t…
/r/seduction18/05/22 02:58 AM
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Every time I've tried I've always reverted back to the same. Very naturally I gravitate to more cynical lines of thinking Look, cut yourself some slack on this. It's a very human thing, what you're going through. What I would say is that it takes some level of frustration and anger at your current situation, combined with the insight to direct that frustration toward the negative self-talk, And to start debating those monkey voices that plague us all. Perhaps you're not there yet. Only you can s…
/r/seduction18/05/22 02:34 AM
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1 Any attractive girl wants a normal, social, extroverted guy with a lot of friends who goes out often. So you get a group of people in a room and ask them who their 10s are. You won't get consensus. One person's 10 would be another person's 6 or 7. Personal taste is subjective. So what you find attractive is not going to be the same as what other people find attractive. There are attractive people who are nothing like what you just described. Your statement about "any attractive girl," doesn't …
/r/seduction18/05/22 12:01 AM
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Glad if any of it helped! 1 The reason because i am into fitness is because it got me out of a very bad state of mind. Adding fitness to your life can be an important step. 2 It started with the gym and it slowly became a hobby of mine..... Women are the least of my concern while I am doing the activities i enjoy. It's good to have things that are just for you. 3 I started as social outcast..... knowing I've achieved objectives that the majority of the population has not, gives me a great sense …
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:19 AM
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1 As for social events I go to the blues jams at a local bar sometimes and play bass but it's all old guys. You may recall that in that longer conversation I'm referring to, I mentioned sampling a variety of different kinds of events which would expose you to a variety of people, including new women, on a regular basis. What you're describing is finding a comfort zone and settling into a pattern that is unhelpful, given your stated goals of wanting to develop your social skills and get better da…
/r/seduction17/05/22 04:23 AM
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1 Kind of curious where everyone stands. The focus of this subreddit is more about how to date and building up social skills and some advanced things that people are up for. Not so much public polling. 2 Guys and girls any age, Is it worth telling your partner your “body count” number? Or is it better to keep that to yourself. What really matters is what your answer to this question is. Do you want a relationship where this information is shared mutually? If so then this should be one of the thi…
/r/seduction17/05/22 04:15 AM
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A little bit but it doesn't feel like it's making a difference. The closest thing to approaching I've done is making small talk with the cute cashier I often see working at my local grocery store, but to do daygame for real seems lightyears away still. That's not AT ALL what I was talking about. You and I had a long exchange about social events to build up your social skills. Do you remember that? And have you made any headway on that? Because occasionally talking to the cashier is not at all in…
/r/seduction17/05/22 03:20 AM
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So the real problem is something else? People have their own personal taste. Some people would have been into you before you got into lifting. Some are into what you present now. The real question might be, have you started doing those social things we've discussed a few times now, which would help you build up your social skills/inner game?
/r/seduction17/05/22 03:10 AM
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OP posted about a text exchange that occurred after a date that didn't fly well. I might be missing something, but no one followed up with him for details about the date to see what he could be doing better. Instead, the responses and bulk of the threads seem to be based on responding to someone letting them know they aren't interested. And while dealing with rejection is important, there are so many things that could be going wrong during OPs dates and no one shined a light on that.
/r/seduction17/05/22 03:03 AM
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1 Girl sent me a friend-zone text. How was my response? Would like to know for learning purposes. The important thing to realize about getting "friend-zoned" is that people aren't so much doing it as a tactic, as one person is finding out that their interest is not reciprocated. It's one person finding out the reality that the other person is just not into them. It's not a game. ​ 2 I made a previous post and was thoroughly critiqued. I’m still a work in progress and am learning about attraction…
/r/seduction17/05/22 02:59 AM
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I think losers who don't fuck shouldn't be offering an opinion 5 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4: Keep it Civil and On Topic. If you have a point to make, you can do it without insulting people. Kindly read the rules before commenting or posting again.
/r/seduction17/05/22 02:48 AM
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1 Date ideas for a guy that isn't really social? Just to clarify, what do you actually mean by "not social?" Is this the way you've been in all social situations since you have been a kid? Even in grade school or kindergarten? ​ 2 Basically the title. I cant really take a girl home for a date (would be super weird for a first date anyway). Besides your personal discomfort, what makes your home off-limits? ​ 3 And i dont think something like going out for coffee is so much fun neither. Look, here…
/r/seduction17/05/22 02:46 AM
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cool , bring her to autism spectrum disorder therapy sessions/seminars , i think that would fit your style pal. You have been all over this subreddit insulting people. Another 5 days added to the temporary ban. If I see much more of this, it's just going to be a permanent ban. If you can't be bothered to read the rules, you don't belong here.
/r/seduction17/05/22 02:24 AM
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1 To preface, I've lost a lot of weight, also gained a lot of muscles(I'm at that point where girls would say "thats too much for me"). Let's back the train up a bit. What is game, really? It's a form of social interaction. Social interactions require social skills to navigate an exchange between two people. So to be absolutely clear, none of what you've talked about in this preface, is game. Losing weight is great for you. Gaining muscle is fine if that's what you're into. Although if you bulke…
/r/seduction17/05/22 02:21 AM
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See Rule 7: No Beginner Topics or Assumptions Based on Physical Appearance/Limitations How much someone is built, falls under this category. This whole debate never goes anywhere. Looks are just one of many factors and people have different tastes in what they like, so trying to "optimize" to be attractive to everyone isn't going to work. The thing that leads to some confusion, is that improving one's fitness can help with confidence, which is an important part of inner game. It's not the muscle…
/r/seduction17/05/22 02:11 AM
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cucks like you.... 5 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4: Keep it Civil and On Topic. If you have a point to make, you can make it without resorting to insults. Please read the rules before commenting or posting in the future.
/r/seduction17/05/22 01:55 AM
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1 So me and my mates went to an event where we met some girls. I was trying to talk to one girl and my other friend was speaking to another girl. We both thought we hit it off. I spoke to my girl afterwards and asked her out for drinks. She agreed but said she would bring friends and then said "why don't you bring yours?" There are no guarantees in life and sometimes people want the comfort of a more group hang outs before they do one on one. ​ 2 Do I just assume she has no interest in me? Hopef…
/r/seduction16/05/22 03:18 AM
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Can someone chime in on this- Might be a cultural thing? Europe seems more liberal sexually James Marshall noted in one of his talks about the principles of seduction, that places colonized by the British tend to have a more awkward relationship with dating and personal space in general. Australia, UK, the US, Canada, etc. Related to this, is the fact that a lot of places in the world outside of those UK influenced countries, have a different culture when it comes to basic things like personal s…
/r/seduction16/05/22 02:31 AM
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Idk I'm a woman and from America. I am telling you as a non feminist woman.... Sarge345 was talking about how it can be different in other parts of the world NOT the US. So, Americans offering opinions about what it's like with girls from the US, in the US, isn't relevant.
/r/seduction16/05/22 02:09 AM
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1 do girls know they're being approached? Let's back up a bit. What is "approaching?" It's starting a conversation with a stranger. Sometimes we cloak all of this in so much terminology that it is easy to lose sight of the fact that we're just talking about using social skills. ​ 2 I'm in Athens, Greece. 2 days ago at around 11am at the train station I asked a girl innocently for directions at the train station.. She lent in and rubbed my arm a little bit as giving me advice on my phone. So what…
/r/seduction16/05/22 02:01 AM
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To add to this line of discussion, the whole idea of maintaining the chase of it all, certainly has power, but it's very specific. Keeping up the chase can augment attraction, but since it's not based on who you are as a person, it's based on maintaining the whole vibe of the situation. It often requires being mysterious or doing push-pull tactics that maintain a certain distance and stand in the way of intimacy and clear communication that is part of healthy relationships. This strategy is not …
/r/seduction12/05/22 02:35 AM
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1 Some people say “it’s a shit test” and other people say “just be honest and clear”. Which is it? It's important to realize that there's always going to be a wide range of opinions on questions like this on a public forum. Of course there's going to be a difference of opinions. It's not like clicking that button to subscribe to a subreddit makes someone an expert on the topic. 2 Personally, I am actually looking for a relationship. I like getting to know people well, I enjoy long-term stuff. I …
/r/seduction12/05/22 02:25 AM
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1 See, I never have I ever went out with my friends to find a girl. If we go to bar or a club, we hang out, chit chat and have some fun. Only two girlfriends I've had have been either from school or a hobby. So, how the hell do I break through this near-to-dead-end? Aren't you kind of hitting on the answer here but then talking yourself out of it? But maybe I'm getting ahead of myself: let's back the train up a bit. You mentioned the idea of cold approaching, with a wing. This is a typical kind …
/r/seduction12/05/22 02:14 AM
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Lol, every time I’ve tried therapy I’ve been told “sucks but some people are meant to be alone” Multiple licensed professional therapists told you that "it" sucks and some people are just supposed to be alone? That doesn't sound like the approach they ought to have. Therapists are supposed to be there to help. At a minimum, they ought to have worked with you to develop better social skills.
/r/seduction11/05/22 11:24 PM
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If that Facebook group is part of a sales funnel, then I can't say with certainty that it would be allowed. We have had complaints before about such things.
/r/seduction11/05/22 04:12 AM
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1 Yeah I like that one too, but do you do that for going out for drinks/food too? Like you’re going to go by yourself regardless type shiii I've also used the kind of phrasing he mentioned, a lot. And yeah it is a pretty effective approach to just plan to go somewhere for food or drink that you actually enjoy going to, even if you're by yourself. Like a place that would be a treat for you. 2 Or sometimes I would have a social thing that I would go to on Saturdays that I really enjoy. Like if I d…
/r/seduction10/05/22 06:46 AM
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1 Will having a lot of sex make me happier? Meeting once sexual desires is arguably important for happiness. At least if that's something that's important to you. That said, sex does not solve all problems. And if you get sex but don't address other issues you may have, you can still end up as miserable as before. 2 But if I do get more sex, will it make me happier? I haven’t had any in 2 years, and I want to get back into things but I want to ask the experienced guys on here if getting laid a l…
/r/seduction10/05/22 06:37 AM
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Girl I'm trying to seduce tells me she's a "fuckgirl"....we've hooked up already but I'm started to develop feelings.... Basically, like someone said, if someone warns you about themselves, listen to them. As far as trying to change her into a prospect for a serious relationship, if that's what you're thinking about, I would recommend against it. People generally only change if they decide to, not because of someone else.
/r/seduction10/05/22 04:44 AM
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I really don't get what the difference is between friends with benefits and being together. It might seem like a thin line but the basic idea is that this is someone you find sexually attractive and get along with, but not someone you want to settle down with. But some people may not be wired that way. And to the degree that people may be wired this way, it can be difficult to perceive this distinction unless one has interacted with enough people. Also, mainstream dating culture doesn't exactly …
/r/seduction10/05/22 12:38 AM
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1 bars I would argue are easier since I can drink beforehand… Bars can be easy if you're comfortable there, sure! 2 The trade-off with drinking is that it may help with anxiety, but it will dull your observation skills, which are necessary for good calibration during a social interaction. 3 Like it or not, if you limit yourself to bars, then you are confining yourself to a certain kind of person and an interaction. Which you may get tired of at some point. Finding casual sex in a bar is a lot ea…
/r/seduction09/05/22 03:40 PM
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1 Is anybody on here an attractive person but doesn’t realise it.... Let's back the train up here a moment. If you get a group of people in a room and ask them who their 10s are, you're not going to get consensus. One man's 10 is going to be another man's 7 or 6. A lot is subjective and boils down to personal taste. So yeah, a lot of people on here are attractive to someone and don't realize it. And the problem is that if you have low confidence, that is a self-perpetuating, self-fulfilling prop…
/r/seduction09/05/22 03:33 PM
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1 Why does every girl seem to be with a guy at bars? It is valid to feel this way. Most of us here have felt this way at some point. 2 It's a very common issue for guys to graduate high school with very little understanding of how all this works. We're left trying to figure it out afterwards. One part of this knowledge gap is that we don't do enough to develop our social skills or maintain them. And the common perception of how a man is "supposed to" do his thing, creates a very narrow space to …
/r/seduction09/05/22 03:24 PM
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1 Am I the only men who gets turn off when you haven't mention anything about hooking up or sex and she says she's not looking for sex or hookups? What you're describing is a perfectly valid reaction to this kind of situation. As for what's going on, I guess it all depends on context. You haven't said when these kinds of things are happening. But even if it's a complete non-sequitur, it's still not bad to know where she stands. And if you are looking for those things, then clear communication wi…
/r/seduction09/05/22 05:10 AM
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Honestly, your date is going to be a better opinion about what's good. Whatever is going on during the date should be a collaboration between you two guys. Think of it like a Venn diagram where you're looking for the intersection of what you both like. Which basically means, you're not going to get the answer you're looking for here specifically from random strangers on the internet. You're better off doing what one guy suggested and going to some sort of place that has board games to choose fro…
/r/seduction09/05/22 03:23 AM
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EDIT: Formatting You want a relationship-oriented bio, not something that can make her think you’re a fuckboy. PSA: A lot of things can work, including this. But most choices have the side effect of screening others out while selecting others. If one actually wants a relationship, then having a relationship oriented bio is basically advertising according to what you are actually putting on the table. If one is not looking for a relationship and represents themselves as putting a relationship on …
/r/seduction09/05/22 02:43 AM
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Let’s say I’m good looking, fit , make six figs and not socially awkward. Not socially awkward is an asset. As for the other things, consider what seduction is: It's a form of social interaction. Social interactions require basic social skills. Physical appearance has an effect but It can't navigate the social interactions for you. Neither does being fit. Neither does having money. And worse, if you make money a big selling point when you try to date and you don't have basic social skills down, …
/r/seduction07/05/22 10:12 AM
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1 As a guy, I'm always expected to pay for dinner and other stuff on dates. That's just your perception and it's valid, but that's not what everyone thinks. I've pretty much never paid for first dates: it's always been Dutch. Some people buy into the idea that a man should pay for everything, and some don't. If you want to be with someone who expects that, then adopt that as a practice. If you want someone different, then you adopt a different practice and people who require a man to pay will sc…
/r/seduction07/05/22 08:15 AM
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1 I have cold approached around 60-70 girls in the last month at Uni. From that I got around 5-6 numbers, 2 dates and 1 lay/hookup. This has crushed my self esteem.... If you took someone who's trying to learn how to drive, put them behind the wheel of an F1 formula racer, and tell them to take a lap around at top speed, that's not going to go well. That's basically what you did. The fact that you managed to get laid once is actually a lot better than a lot of beginners are doing. Cold approach …
/r/seduction07/05/22 07:58 AM
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1 I’ve probably done around 250 approaches now. I got evaluated by a coach who said my fundamentals are good and I am at an intermediate level, but just need to more experience to get to the advanced level. Let's break this down: What is seduction, really? It's a form of social interaction. Social interactions require basic social skills. Basic social skills includes not just the ability to confidently communicate and potentially escalate, but the ability to effectively calibrate. The metaphor h…
/r/seduction07/05/22 05:01 AM
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was telling me I give off "Player vibes" Yea so have y’all been told you come across as a player? Context and details matter. It could be a compliment or it could mean you need to calibrate your approach. But generally speaking, if you really know what you're doing then you shouldn't be on anyone's radar. Impossible to say for sure without knowing more. What was the context: Who said it? When? Where? What was happening at the time? What had someone said just before that?
/r/seduction07/05/22 04:24 AM
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PSA: Getting some kind of beverage is a good flexible meetup. Whether it's coffee or a bar, the point is: It's open ended. You have an escape hatch if things aren't going well. If things are going well, it's not difficult to transition to other activities or places. And overall, do what you like when it comes to paying or not paying. But it is a choice. Nothing wrong with going dutch with a stranger you just met. So, to those saying it's a scam to get 2 free dinners if she asks to bring a friend…
/r/seduction07/05/22 04:21 AM
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1 The first thing to get out of the way upfront is this: If you jump to conclusions about things not working out too early, your internal reaction to this can lead to the unintentional adoption of behavior which can cause things to fail, even if they were not already. Another thing to keep in mind is that a date is similar to a job interview in some ways. The fact that it's happening at all means you usually have a chance. If you nail the interview, you get the job. Sometimes job interviews end …
/r/seduction07/05/22 03:50 AM
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1 Please see Rule 2: Posts must stand on their own Including 1 word in the body text might barely pay lip service to the rule, but the post doesn't stand on its own. AT ALL. There needs to be an actual post. One word doesn't cut it. 2 In your experience what are the things that you did that made girls chase you Thanks What is seduction, really? It's a form of social interaction, which requires social skills and is a two way exchange. It's a team sport, where both parties contribute to the result…
/r/seduction04/05/22 02:17 AM
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1 Every girl I meet has at least 5 guys they're talking to and have even more behind them. How exactly do I stand out from the crowd.... Everyone has their personal taste. If you get a group of men or women into a room and ask them who their "10s" are, you won't get consensus. One person's 10 will be another person's 7 or 6. So it doesn't matter how many guys are talking to a girl: if someone is focused on a serious relationship, they'll just choose one and focus on them. And there's no way to p…
/r/seduction04/05/22 02:04 AM
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Been trying to improve my look after a breakup been out of the game for a while and cant seem to catch anyone's eye. The issue is not a knowledge gap. It's a confidence issue. This is a common trope after a breakup. Confidence is generally at an all time low at times like these. And the problem is that low confidence has two nasty effects: It makes one unable to recognize when people might be into them. It makes one speak and act in ways that will turn off many people who would otherwise be into…
/r/seduction02/05/22 05:13 AM
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It's not what women like, it's what they respond to.... Listen to every woman and she'll say she's attracted to hot tall guys with a lot of money and big dicks. Then you enter the real world and you see that same woman with a pudgy bald guy who drives a toyota and she seems deliriously happy with him. ​ As a man, I don't I could tell you what I find physically attractive in a woman. I thought I knew when I was younger, I had this vision of what I liked in a woman, I could tell you everything I f…
/r/seduction02/05/22 05:07 AM
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A girl told me last night when I asked this question. In her words verbatim “urmm to be honest you kinda have to be a dickhead to stand a chance. Maybe just a tiny bit of a dickhead” Two caveats in asking most people their opinion of what constitutes "attractiveness": Each person has their own personal taste Most people lack the self-awareness and/or insight to realize that their personal taste doesn't constitute a general rule for all others of their gender. She basically just told you that she…
/r/seduction02/05/22 05:02 AM
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1 How can an average female date an attractive male? Someone “out of my league”? If you get a group of people in a room and ask them who their "10s" are, you won't get consensus. One person's 10 will be another person's 7 or 6. What constitutes, "average female attractiveness," is going to vary across the dudes you're going to encounter. ​ 2 I genuinely need actual advice cause I feel my confidence is failing me. Confidence is the issue here. Your own assessment of your own attractiveness is goi…
/r/seduction02/05/22 04:36 AM
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Most of the post was solid, except the ending broke Rule #3 (check the sidebar) when you were soliciting people to direct message you. Blatant sales funneling isn't allowed.
/r/seduction02/05/22 04:19 AM
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1 How do you fuck people you're not very attracted to? Everyone has their own personal taste in who they're attracted to. Forcing yourself to have sex with people you're not attracted to, presumably for validation, is a really weak position to approach all this from. It leads to a lot of self-loathing to override your own personal taste in this way. It's dysfunctional and unhealthy emotionally. ​ 2 My dick won't even get hard unless I'm thinking about or with someone I'm pretty attracted to. Rig…
/r/seduction02/05/22 04:11 AM
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People have basically already addressed this. But to recap: if someone has zero interest, there's no way to change that. Seduction is not magic.
/r/seduction30/04/22 08:17 AM
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What was the breaking point that made you change? There wasn't just one. I had a breaking point in facing up to the monkeys in my head after I had fallen into a deep depression. I started arguing with the depressing shit my monkeys were going on non-stop about, because I was pissed off and tired of my own mind doing that shit to me. I suffered from social anxiety at one point that was so bad I was physically paralyzed in public places. I realized that there were thoughts that were preceding my p…
/r/seduction30/04/22 03:31 AM
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So this post had to be taken down because it is breaking Rule 1: Post in AskSeddit about specific situations or people, not Seddit. ​ That said, any conversations you're having on this thread can still continue, and I'll add my two cents to it. ​ 1 Said she likes me but isn't ready to date Bottom line: Look at actions, not specific words. If someone really WANTS something or someone, they won't be coming up with barriers. They'll work to overcome barriers. That's it. All the rest is just superfi…
/r/seduction30/04/22 03:24 AM
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1 It seems I really have been overthinking this whole thing the entire time. With the past few posts I've made on here I've been talking in circles. Many of us have been there, man. I definitely was, for years. I looked for every excuse in the book not to take action. I used to annoy a lot of people endlessly with my questions about whether they thought a girl was into me or not, when at least some of them were, and I was busy questioning it to death and letting the moments pass. I even destroye…
/r/seduction29/04/22 02:46 AM
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1 So I should just go and put myself out there regardless of all these lingering questions in my head? Exactly. Those monkeys in our heads never go away. At least not without a lot of work. All you're doing now is playing whack-a-mole, right? If you address one concern then the monkeys come up with another one. It'll never end and it'll keep you from doing anything. 2 What's the best way to deal with hesitancy/approach anxiety? This is the insidiousness of the negative self-talk problem. The mon…
/r/seduction29/04/22 12:29 AM
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1 Wdym by point 3. If you mean by "plowing forward too fast isn't direct" If you've done the reading on this topic then you've likely encountered the two concepts of escalation and calibration. Escalation being how someone engages in physical touch starting off non-sexually but eventually leading up to a more sexual vibe and the bedroom presumably. Calibration is being plugged into the situation and able to make adjustments according to the feedback the girl is giving. It's knowing how to make m…
/r/seduction29/04/22 12:20 AM
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1 My open with complimenting their clothes. So let's start off with a basic principle: information is power. Opening based on clothes is certainly an option, but not the only one. One has to be observant. David Wygant has a good video on using observation to come up with an opener. I recommend checking it out. The basic idea is that there's a lot you can be referencing in an opener. Much of it can lead directly into conversation. ​ 2 Afterwards I ask about logistics like they are from chicago or…
/r/seduction28/04/22 05:18 PM
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There are a lot of easy to find resources, though it's admittedly tricky to sort through the chaff at times. A lot of salesmen out there looking to profit on lonely dudes. On the subject of Mark Manson, his archive is online and much of it if free. David Wygant is one of the old school dudes. He's got a decent YouTube channel.
/r/seduction28/04/22 04:41 PM
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1 "Pretty good, I got some work done and hung out with friends...." Small talk topics are FINE. Great actually. They're gateways to more. In this case, you were on the cusp of getting into some good information about her that would have been instructive. If you stopped at this point, then you're fucking killing me because you had two good options staring you right in the face. A.) She mentioned she got work done. What was the work? This would provide some insight into what she's about. B.) She s…
/r/seduction28/04/22 04:34 PM
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1 I recently started using dating apps. I get a few likes/matches. I usually introduce myself and ask them how they are doing but after a few messages the conversation gets dull and eventually we stop texting. I don’t even get a chance to ask her out. So, in the rush that some were in to offer their takes on conversation IRL, the context of this being text exchanges on dating apps, is important because things work differently there. In order to diagnose what needs adjustments, you need to elabor…
/r/seduction28/04/22 03:53 PM
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I don't think there's any way to unlink a link someone posted in their comment? If there was I would have done that rather than taking them down, for sure. The sticky at the top was because a lot of people were link mentioning and I didn't have time to notify every single person, and I needed something that would inform anybody new who happened to come. But next time I suppose it's not a big deal to include an unlinked mention of some kind like you did. :)
/r/seduction28/04/22 01:56 AM
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Let's back the train up a bit here. I literally just told you all that link mentioning directly leads to flame wars, which are expressly forbidden. It doesn't matter if something is a so-called top thread if it's over that line. And there are a lot of fires to put out when you're on the mod team. Like people who post weird spam at a dizzying rate. If you all want to restore things in the way that you just did, then that's great, though.
/r/seduction28/04/22 01:49 AM
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1 How do you handle being caught daytime sarging and called out for it? Here's the deal: if you're handling things well, then there will be nothing for you to be called out for. If you're doing something and it strikes someone is creepy or out of place, then that's an issue that's going to affect your results and it would have affected your results whether or not someone called you out for it. 2 I know managing your reputation when daygaming isn’t a popular topic to discuss on this sub.... I'm n…
/r/seduction28/04/22 01:17 AM
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1 After posting a few threads and receiving some advice I'm putting together some semblance of a plan to improve my results in that department. While Rome wasn't built in a day, it has been some time since you posted those threads if I am recalling correctly. On one hand, you've definitely been waiting a long time and thinking, perhaps too much. On the other hand, maybe this is just part of the process. This shit isn't easy, and if you've been socially isolated for a while, I guess the prospect …
/r/seduction28/04/22 12:59 AM
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1 I often see a lot of guys get "friend zoned" if they don't have sex by the 3rd or 4th date. Like a woman's attraction will drop if they don't bang within a certain amount of time. There's a lot to unpack about what's going on there. Calibration is an essential component of game which basically means being plugged into the situation so that one can make adjustments under fire. It's knowing when to back off or when to hit the gas. It's knowing how to make moves. Or not, as the case may be. A lot…
/r/seduction28/04/22 12:32 AM
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PSA: Everyone needs to refrain from link-mentioning other subs. That can notify people at those subs, which can bring them here and start flame wars. Which are not allowed. If you must cite another subreddit, just don't link-mention them.
/r/seduction28/04/22 12:08 AM
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Please do not link mention other subs like this. They can be notified and flame wars can follow (which aren't allowed).
/r/seduction27/04/22 11:53 PM
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1 So pretty much all the guys around me are in long-term relationships..... I seriously doubt any of them ever visited anything game/pua/pickup related website, let alone actually getting involved in those stuff. So first of all, your personal sample size isn't statistically significant in terms of data collection. The handful of people that you know doesn't constitute something you can generalize to the overall populace. Also, you're assuming that none of them has game. But what is game really?…
/r/seduction27/04/22 12:56 AM
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5-day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4: Keep it civil and on topic. Memes are not on topic.
/r/seduction27/04/22 12:48 AM
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1 Is it all a numbers game in the end of the day. There's a common misconception that if you just do approaches over and over again, you will magically get better. But practice makes habit. If you don't know what you're doing when you go in, repeatedly approaching will ingrain bad habits. 2 My approaches are not the best, but I'm not interested in researching a bunch on cold approaches. You haven't really said anything about what your approaches are like so I'm not sure what you expect in terms …
/r/seduction27/04/22 12:45 AM
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1. There's a huge misconception about what flirting is. Some in the seduction community would say that It only qualifies as flirting if you've gotten sexual in some way. Actually, flirting is just be playful. That's it. Not taking yourself or the situation seriously. 2 Touching on the arm isn’t flirting, unless you are deliberately caressing her arm. Any kind of touch or physical contact falls under the category of physical escalation. Any of that gives her a chance to respond and give you feedb…
/r/seduction27/04/22 12:38 AM
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1 I (24 M) was in a relationship with a girl (24 F) (very average looking) few years back, we broke up... Breakups happen but they're usually not fun. 2 We just started talking a few month back. I came to know that she has a crazy crush on a guy (20 M) who lives in the UK now (She is in Pakistan) doesn't give her enough attention and ruins her mental health everytime she talks to him but she keeps going to him. There's some stuff to unpack here: You can choose who you spend your thoughts and emo…
/r/seduction27/04/22 12:22 AM
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1 I had a date yesterday and based on how it went I'm sure to have sex on the 2nd one. Lots of making out and such. Problem is she's chubby and isn't really my type physically. Then you need to have a serious talk with yourself about why you would be so desperate as to compromise your standards and sleep with someone that you don't actually find attractive. 2 I was initially just looking for an easy lay but after she told me I was her first kiss and first ever date I felt a pang of guilt. I thin…
/r/seduction27/04/22 12:11 AM
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1 How do you deal with the fact that you blew it with the really cool girl? Our minds are tricky things sometimes. There's this thing we all have where voices can tell us unhelpful or even negative things. We all get unhelpful trains of thought that make repeat runs through our heads. Psychologists have a term for this which they call negative self-talk. 2 Met a really cool and beautiful girl at work that I rarely cross paths with, got her out on a date, and became an awkward mess. Something kin…
/r/seduction26/04/22 11:57 PM
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PSA: Just a reminder to everyone about Rule 5: Avoid Common Off-topic Subjects. This includes the notion of "don't shit where you eat." It's not where you game, but how.
/r/seduction26/04/22 11:07 PM
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It's not always easy to be present all the time. Our minds often want to drift back to old habits. So go easy on yourself if it's not something you can just flip on like a switch. It does take a little work. I'd say a manageable goal is to work on checking in with yourself about where your mind is. Active listening is a journey, more than a destination.
/r/seduction26/04/22 07:58 AM
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1 Do guys find women who are too available/eager unappealing? There's no way to generalize and answer for all men. The question of attraction to personal taste and everyone's personal neuroses or "emotional damage." There are some people, both male and female, who are more attracted to the thrill of the chase. This can certainly be used to score a fling or other short-term thing but it doesn't usually "tend" to be associated with the profile of someone who's in it for the long haul. Someone who …
/r/seduction26/04/22 05:55 AM
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Can u provide evidence of treating women like objects in this subreddit? You claim its something thats done on a regular basis and thus shouldnt be so hard to find right? A lot of the noobs to come here or frustrated because of poor results or complete lack of results they've been experiencing for years at a time. Some are even virgins, sometimes kissless virgins. People in that state of mind are going to be more concerned with their own problems in dating than they will be with whatever problem…
/r/seduction26/04/22 02:44 AM
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Temporary 5-day ban for breaking Rule 4: Keep it Civil and On Topic. Trolling someone in response to being asked a direct question is not civil or on topic. Next time just answer a question instead of diverting repeatedly and insulting the other party. It wouldn't have been hard to just link to a few posts here where dudes are objectifying women.
/r/seduction26/04/22 12:04 AM
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1 No matter the talking, personal connecting, flirting, makeouts, future plans made.... if I didn't make something happen with that girl the night I met her in night game.... my texts are never getting answered the next day, lol. Bottom line, if the girl doesn't answer texts the next day, then you weren't connecting. If you had then she'd answer texts. There's something up with your way of doing things but it's impossible to say exactly, since your post only lists the results. It's like walking …
/r/seduction25/04/22 11:45 PM
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1 When I talk to people for a relatively long time, they often don't call me back or just disappear. This often happens when one has unintentionally bowled someone else over or accidentally took over the conversation. 2 I was showing her photos of my trips but somehow she ended up trapped next to the wall and me blabbering on about myself trying to impress her with my hobbies Yeah, that was definitely a mistake happening in real time. That often makes it worse but if you can take a second and st…
/r/seduction25/04/22 08:27 AM
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All good advice and in theory I knew some of this but it's really hard to put all of this in practice. It can be. But not if we distill it into the basics, which are: active listening and good follow-up. 1.) Active Listening: when someone is talking, bring your focus completely on them. You should not be thinking about what you're going to say next when they are talking, because information is power and if you are thinking about your next move when they're talking, then a percentage of your brai…
/r/seduction25/04/22 08:20 AM
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That's me. I thought I would get some attention but got nothing. Girls and female friends I was talking to showed no interest. Let's back the train up. Seduction is a form of social interaction. You need basic social skills to navigate a social interaction. Fitness is important because it can show how well you value yourself. Some value fitness more highly and will click better with like-minded people. (But this varies.) Fitness, muscle tone, etc, do not automatically impart basic social skills.…
/r/seduction25/04/22 05:25 AM
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1 People say.... Who says this? Different people say slightly different things. If you really want constructive feedback, cite specifically next time, who said it and link to something. A website or list what page in the book or whatever. If you're talking about the "method" pitched by David DeAngelo, then say so and link to something he wrote about it so you can reduce the number of trolls coming in just making fun of the post because they don't know the method you're talking about. 2 ...cocky-…
/r/seduction23/04/22 08:09 PM
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1 He’s not even attractive, average at best. If you get a group of people in a room and ask them to rate who their 10s are, it's impossible to get consensus. One person's 10 will be another person's 7 or 6. So realize that your assessment of his attractiveness isn't relevant. 2 ....he somehow makes them obsessed with him..... You are keying in on the end result of the girls pursuing him. But there's a whole process happening inside these girls, which your acquaintance has NO control over. He's n…
/r/seduction23/04/22 03:57 AM
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Kindly follow Rule 4: Keep it Civil and On Topic
/r/seduction22/04/22 05:35 AM
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Please follow Rule 4: Keep it Civil and On Topic!
/r/seduction22/04/22 05:33 AM
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Thank you for the link. Unfortunately archive.org has not the deleted videos available.. I have literally found a number of RSD videos archived from YouTube. At least some of them are in there.
/r/seduction21/04/22 12:03 AM
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1 .... made my intentions of taking her for a date after talking. It seems like you went further in your own mind than just a date. Seems like you've imagined a lot more with this girl. Which is a problem because you didn't know her then and you really don't know her now, yet you've built up all this stuff on your head about her. The reality is different and you're not accepting it. 2 She then told me she was only into muscualr sportive type of guys since she is well built aswell( why even like …
/r/seduction21/04/22 12:00 AM
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You can search for some of these things on Archive.org, but Julien got himself banned from the UK, Singapore, and Australia after running around grabbing women while yelling, "Pikachu." Not exactly the best example to follow.
/r/seduction20/04/22 03:54 PM
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1 AS an ongoing seducer I always warm up and go and give compliments to girls like for example "hi there are just you and I have to tell that you look very sweet and after that I'm maybe they do you a lot of compliments like this" or " you didn't expect that right right?" and sometimes you're the one I'm very authentic about myself is say: "you like you are going shopping or seem like you just went from the work" And often times the conversation is getting stuck like she is just answering my que…
/r/seduction20/04/22 03:49 PM
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I do. But she doesn't want to. Look, this is simple. If you want an open relationship but she doesn't, then your options are: 1.) Deceive her and do it anyway. Which has some consequences: You risk the marriage blowing up. You'll stand a fair chance of over-complicating your life. You've already told her that you want an open relationship. If you then start pursuing that even though she doesn't want one too, of course she's going to figure out what's going on sooner or later. You've already play…
/r/seduction20/04/22 03:41 PM
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1 I had a very low self esteem for a long time (years/decade). So I never actually believe that a girl actually wants me. But, I'm really good at masking it. Have trained myself to do it and excel in other parts of life. Girls don't see me as a dating material. First up, if you actually don't believe any girl actually wants you, you can't hide that. It will come out in everything from your body language to your word choice. This does not mean you can't change it. It just means that if you don't …
/r/seduction20/04/22 03:11 PM
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Friendzone is a myth, buddy.... The friendzone refers to unrequited love or passion: when one person feels those things and the other doesn't. Those things are real so kindly stop gaslighting. Please see #3 on the Pinned Post about the Updated Rules. The issue is not the term but how some guys deal with the situation. That is most definitely unhealthy and unhelpful.
/r/seduction20/04/22 01:32 PM
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1 A lot of you didn't bother to read the rules before commenting, clearly. Many of you broke Rule 7: No assumptions based on physical appearance/limitations. Many of you also broke Rule 5: Too-general advice and other vague answers doesn't belong here. Stuff like, get gud, be attractive, and other such lines don't help, they just waste everyone's time because they're not actionable. If OP didn't specify enough to give specific advice, then you need to ask questions to get at what's going on 2 Ad…
/r/seduction20/04/22 01:12 PM
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1 What is the fastest way for guys to get better with women? The unfortunate reality is that boys grow up in a culture that does not do a good job of passing down to them good basic social skills. The end result is that guys end up graduating high school with little to no idea about how to navigate social situations to get laid or land a relationship. But it's not alchemy. There are some basic principles. 2 IS it learning how to tell funny jokes, getting alot of money, getting famous, getting ta…
/r/seduction20/04/22 12:56 PM
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I have a bit of trouble letting lose on the dancefloor, feel like people are staring etc.. I used to be the same way. It's one reason why I forced myself to take dance classes a while back. It just sampled a bunch of them. Hip hop for club dancing vocabulary. (A lot of it is transferable to whatever kind of club you're in honestly.) A variety of social partner dances just because. One of the funny things I discovered after taking dance classes: most people in a club have no fucking idea what the…
/r/seduction19/04/22 02:29 PM
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How do you get a guy to put his arm around you when you're sitting on the couch next to each other? At the end of the day, one can't make someone do something. They'll do it if they already want to and they're given an opportunity and/or encouraged to do so. So like others said, you could do something cheesy like say you're cold. Or you could just scoot in closer.
/r/seduction19/04/22 11:26 AM
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1 So I decided to go out the club alone because none of my friends wanted to join me. I got so much stuck in my head that I couldn't do any proper approaches. Going to the club alone can be great fun if you can get yourself into the fun mindset. It's helpful if you can actually find enjoyment in dancing since so much of the club is organized around it. RSD Tyler put out a video back in the day that explained how it helps your game tremendously if you are on the same wavelength with people. That …
/r/seduction19/04/22 05:41 AM
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1 I think "game" has hurt me more than it has ever helped me. It's just a bunch of needy behaviors/tricks to attempt to make women like you. It seems like its constantly reinforcing the idea that you're not good enough. To add to it someone else said, there's definitely more than one philosophy behind game so there's different kinds of "game." 2 As the title says, a lot of "game" is teaching you that you're not good enough and you can use these tricks to suddenly be attractive. You can definitel…
/r/seduction19/04/22 05:29 AM
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Is it appropriate to hug the girl on the first date when you first meet? There's no one size fits all for these kinds of questions. You have to pay attention to feedback you're getting from the person question in order to figure out what they're okay with. Which means it's best to start off with levels of touch that are completely non-sexual in nature. Like handshakes, high fives, fist bumps, sidearm jabs, etc. What will happen is, if the girl is down and you start off with those light levels of…
/r/seduction19/04/22 02:51 AM
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1 I understand it is kind of unavoidable... what really sets my game below optimal is, that i want to skip it ASAP.... ...i don't really like the whole dynamic of controlling the flow of info, being aware of body language all the time, constantly reading and writing information into someone else, A lot of people define game differently. There are different philosophies and styles out there. It seems you've chosen a way of gaming which takes a lot more energy than other ways might. You haven't sa…
/r/seduction19/04/22 12:48 AM
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1 Yeah but you're a woman, you don't really know any of this from a male perspective. Well, I do and they are correct. Learning dance is great for dudes needing to learn calibration, which in turn is vital for any escalation. Been in dance communities for years now and false accusations are not really a thing. If a dude is going to dance classes and groping women, then he gets 86'ed. As long as someone has common sense, there's no issue. 2 Also, I've looked all over this thread and you're all ov…
/r/seduction18/04/22 08:22 AM
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TL;DR: I have literally remade my social circles from scratch and have contacts and friends on several continents as a result. Skip to #4 for the steps, or read the whole damn thing about how I arrived at the process. 1 I'd like some advice from people who have actually built themselves a social circle. I've rebuilt my own social circle multiple times following big life changes like moving to different cities or countries. I'll lay it out what I did to accomplish this in bold below. I'll also ge…
/r/seduction18/04/22 02:52 AM
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I think it’s safe to say she now knows this is a date haha To be fair, she already knew what she wanted it to be, the difference is, you didn't know and now you do. It's good that you clarified it for yourself, but realize that it probably wasn't necessary in that she still would have wanted what she wanted whether or not you knew that was what she wanted. ;) Meeting later just maybe makes it more clear to both people. A lot of seduction consists of finding out what the other party wants and try…
/r/seduction17/04/22 04:44 AM
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The thing is.... even with the closest of my friends; when I tell them I got laid or bagged that hot girl they just become cold and distant. What exactly are you saying and what exactly is their response, typically? There are a few possibilities in going on here but the details are absent from your post.
/r/seduction17/04/22 04:39 AM
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1 I think I have around 1000 approaches, this is my success ratio: 50 number closes (5%) 10 dates (1%) 2 f-closes (0.2%) When you have established better social skills, you can do better with fewer approaches. 2 Hi, you look beautiful. /Thanks/ The missed opportunity of canned openers is that they aren't taking into consideration anything that was happening with the person you just walked up to. The right opener would allow you to make a pretty quick connection, meaning that your opener can and …
/r/seduction17/04/22 03:20 AM
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1 However, I want to stop online dating and meet girls in person. No one starts out being a social butterfly. Most people need their alone time. None of that's strange. 2 You could go out to a bar and effectively throw yourself in the deep end by trying to establish a social life for yourself that way amidst all that chaos. But it would be the equivalent of taking someone who doesn't know how to drive and throwing them behind the wheel of an F1 formula racer and asking them to do their best to t…
/r/seduction17/04/22 02:57 AM
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1 Like all the guys that I know that are good with women they either have rich parents or have become fitness, lifestyle or dating coaches or coast by in a low stress job they dont care about. The human mind is a funny thing. It's super common for it to arrive at a conclusion or a guess about that's going on, but then the fact that they're focused on that thing, means their attentional resources will be spent mainly on that thing, and attention won't be leftover for other things which might cont…
/r/seduction17/04/22 02:48 AM
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I don't take anything seriously in life but I'm not someone who gets very rowdy and silly, even at parties when I'm intoxicated. So why go to things where the energy is not something you like? ...it's as if they've switched off 3/4 of their brain.... life is pretty fucked and people want to let loose and that's their idea of it. You understand it but it's not your thing. That's fine! But then why hang out in that environment? There are others. And you're handicapping yourself like crazy to be th…
/r/seduction17/04/22 02:33 AM
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This post breaches Rule 7: Regarding Physical Appearance. Please read the Rules and the Pinned Post on the Updated Rules in full before commenting or posting again.
/r/seduction17/04/22 02:28 AM
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1 Please read the Rules and the Pinned Post on the Updated Rules. There is a minimum bar any post needs to meet, that is explained in the Pinned Post. "Does this post help get someone laid or land a relationship?" The answer to this post does not meet that minimum bar. 2 Guys who used to be rejected by women but worked on themselves and now are successful, do you feel little disgusted by the change in behaviour of women? If one has truly worked on themselves, part of that is realizing that socia…
/r/seduction17/04/22 02:26 AM
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I’m not bro. She is def into me. We been flirting it just hasn’t been established that it’s a date You don't establish it's a date with WORDS. It's actions. We've all heard of physical escalation. It starts off small with touch that's not even sexual at all in any way. Like stuff you might do normally with dudes. High fives, fist bumps, side arm jabs, handshakes. It would be ridiculous to ask permission for the kinds of things in this category. You just go in halfway for a high five or whatever …
/r/seduction17/04/22 02:18 AM
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1 How do you defuse people who call you a creep for dating younger women? Why is there so much hate.... Please read the Rules and the Pinned Post on the Updated Rules. In the Pinned Post, in particular, it is clearly established what the minimum bar is for posting here. Do the answers to this discussion help get someone laid or land a relationship? Not really. 2 Some people are just not going to like the same things or people. People usually lack the insight as to why so asking why is pointless.…
/r/seduction17/04/22 02:03 AM
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And that is an instant ban. Not sure why you thought spamming something like that was the answer in this thread.
/r/seduction17/04/22 01:52 AM
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Those who suffer from the Spotlight effect have shame around what they are doing..... This topic gets hit on every few hours lately. You might look through some recent posts that are related to this topic, like this one.
/r/seduction15/04/22 05:52 PM
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This is a kind of PSA because this topic hasn't made into the wiki yet and it's important. 1 Its why its best not to ever read situations when it comes to girls and sex. No one should be disputing the importance of calibration while escalating. It's the difference between crashing and bringing in the plane in for a landing. So we should make the distinction here between the very necessary practice of observing and paying attention to the situation, versus trying to over-analyze. Men need to be i…
/r/seduction15/04/22 05:17 AM
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1 So I've hooked up with this girl 2 times a few months ago after which we stopped due to her going through a bad phase. Can you explain what exactly you mean by a "bad phase? If it was better enough to make things stop, then it's a little important to be skipping over. 2 We still kept in touch and I hit her up again for a date and we're going out tonight. It's always good to remain on good terms if you can. Sometimes you're able to hit people up for the down the road and sometimes they may even…
/r/seduction15/04/22 05:06 AM
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1 This has been on my mind for a while & today i was like " let's discuss with some people who may know the stuff , maybe i can understand what's going on." Just realize that a forum like this is going to attract people who are looking for answers, and much of the general audience may not actually have much insight and may only offer frustration or anger. 2 i'm a 22 year old man living in middle east , always had many friends so i usually go out 4-5 times a week during night & day . Depending on…
/r/seduction15/04/22 03:42 AM
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This topic gets hit on every few days. You might look through some recent posts that are related to this topic, like this one
/r/seduction15/04/22 03:22 AM
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This topic gets hit on every few days. You might look through some recent posts that are related to this topic, like this one
/r/seduction15/04/22 03:22 AM
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1 She works at a local grocery store. You could say I'm a regular and we made eye contact a few times. On my last visit I walked pass her and said goodbye, she smiled and said have a nice day. I decided to grow a pair and walk back in the grocery store and talked with her. We talked about college and work for a bit and then some guy wanted to check out his groceries so I got her Instagram real quick before leaving, didn't want to interrupt her work. Doesn't sound too bad: definitely a good first…
/r/seduction14/04/22 02:17 PM
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Good luck! Let me know if you have any questions and I'll let you know if I can answer them.
/r/seduction14/04/22 02:08 PM
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Socially we have been programmed to think of the idea of flirting with women as predatory behavior..... Something men get short changed on as we grow up: We have to live up to such a narrow and demanding definition of "manhood." Throughout the process of growing into men, we often end up graduating high school with little clue about how to navigate social situations to get laid or land a relationship. Why is that? It's not magic. The problem is that part of growing into a man involves discouragi…
/r/seduction14/04/22 05:37 AM
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1 Cold approach and got her Instagram, left me on seen for a week. So assuming that you actually want help here and you're not just venting which is technically not allowed here..... Just this one sentence has left out a mountain full of data that anyone would need to get a read on what's going wrong so you can make adjustments to get better results. What you've unintentionally done here is become focused on the results, when the results appear because of everything that happened before. Where a…
/r/seduction14/04/22 03:54 AM
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Please try to avoid link mentioning other subreddits. Sometimes people at the other subreddits get notified and it can kick off flame wars.
/r/seduction14/04/22 03:44 AM
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Cold approach and got her Instagram, left me on seen for a week. Please review the Rules and the Pinned Post on the Updated Rules in full. Post asking for advice about specific people or situations belong in /r/AskSeddit. That said, don't sweat it: even though this post had to be taken down, it won't be locked, so you can still continue any conversation you have got going on in the comments.
/r/seduction14/04/22 03:44 AM
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Having lots of sex with a bunch of different women is actually overrated as fuck. This is a matter of personal taste. Some people don't like to have sex with a bunch of different women. And that's fine. Some people do. And that's fine, too. The moment you're crossing over into what others need to do or what they ought to think about a particular thing, it's breaching Rule 6. Please read the Rules and the Pinned Post on the Updated Rules in full before commenting or posting again.
/r/seduction14/04/22 02:03 AM
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Please see the Pinned Post on the Updated Rules in full before commenting or posting again. At the very beginning of that pinned post, it lays out that the minimum requirement any post has to meet is whether it helps someone get laid or land a relationship. (Whatever they happen to be looking for.) The purpose of this post was sparking a debate and possibly inviting a flame war, which is specifically against the rules.
/r/seduction14/04/22 01:59 AM
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This post had to be taken down because it breaches Rule 7: regarding posts about physical limitations, etc. This has been covered over and over again for years now. Here's a good summary from years ago when this dialogue played out in the past. Please read the Rules and the Pinned Post on the Updated Rules in full before commenting or posting again.
/r/seduction14/04/22 01:54 AM
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1 I am female, 29, and I have heard more than once that men should not be vulnerable in front of women..... I have to wonder if you haven't been paying attention? Think about phrases like, "be a man," "don't be a pussy," "grow a pair," "man up," "boys don't cry," etc. Surely you've heard these being used. Rhetoric like that is the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the pressure that men are under to fulfill what often feels like a very narrow definition of what constitutes "manhood." It's commo…
/r/seduction14/04/22 12:03 AM
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1 This kind of public polling falls outside the scope of this subreddit The line in the sand here is explained in the Pinned Post on the Updated Rules. "Does answering this poll help someone get laid or land a relationship" No, it does not. 2 However, the thread will not be locked as of now because there are some discussions happening here that it seems some people need to be having. Just keep it clean, everyone.
/r/seduction13/04/22 11:39 PM
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1 We frequently take down rant posts or posts focused on complaining. Like this one. The focus here is on tips or tricks or advice on game. 2 There's also unfortunately a lot of information passed around in the seduction community which is contradictory. Like everyone agrees that calibration is important but then there's a lot of advice out there that goes against calibration, like people saying that you should just do whatever you want and self amuse. 3 And sometimes when someone's favorite pet…
/r/seduction13/04/22 08:27 AM
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1 Some of my friends found out I've been banging her and they've been busting me about it, saying that I'm wrong for it and all this stuff. This subreddit is more based around the process of either getting laid or landing a relationship. You've already done that, no problem. Dealing with your friends or looking for people to agree with you against them, is outside the scope of this subreddit. ​ 2 But yeah, keep this stuff low next time. You didn't provide any details about how they found out, bu…
/r/seduction13/04/22 04:03 AM
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The problem is even though I match with tens, I have no idea what to say to these women. Really no clue whatsoever. The premise of this post seems to be based on troubles you're having with dating apps. What are you doing in real life to meet people? Social skills need to be built up in regular in person human interactions. If you aren't interacting with new people, men and women, on a regular basis, then you're handicapping yourself. (A lot of coaches like David Wygant advocate getting out ther…
/r/seduction13/04/22 03:57 AM
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1 Men reach their maximal sexual market potentital later in life - while they are still fertile and has acumulated a lot of resources.... This argument is based around money. Seduction is a kind of social interaction that requires social skills. Money may provide some opportunities, but is not a social skill. ​ 2 Girls reach the their maximum sexual market potentital early in life.... and as they go older, they lose their value. People are really into cougars, milfs, and even gilfs have a follow…
/r/seduction13/04/22 03:42 AM
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I will just specify that I never said anything about money. From your post: Men reach their maximal sexual market potentital later in life..... acumulated a lot of resources - that is why there are rich older guys fucking and marrying top models. You didn't say money, but you talked about "accumulation of resources" and "rich guys." And you got into several flame wars on this thread over people CORRECTLY talking about the importance money has in your whole thesis. This is a warning: if you can't…
/r/seduction13/04/22 03:02 AM
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Men are also the number one threat to men. Sure. But I responded with that Louis CK bit because it directly applied to the Margaret Atwood quote above, the topic of which was contrasting the difference between male and female experiences. You might ask yourself why your response was to ignore this contrast and change the subject to male relations with other men. It is possible to examine these contrasts. It doesn't mean men are bad. It means our experiences are DIFFERENT from what women experien…
/r/seduction13/04/22 02:46 AM
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1 I have heard from a number of my friends(tall, white, goodlooking guys) that it is incredibly easy to fuck thai girls over there? PSA: You can definitely get some advantages if you come off as exotic in some way too the demographics of people you are dealing with, but at the end of the day you still need at least a little basic game and a grasp of logistics to bring the plane in for a landing. 2.) Things to Keep in Mind about Getting Laid Abroad What do I mean about logistics and basic game? A…
/r/seduction13/04/22 12:39 AM
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Point of order: Party HOSTEL. Not hotel. One of the points behind them is that they're supposed to be a lower cost alternative to hotels. Upsides: lower cost, and if you pick the right ones, they can be great for socializing. Downsides: The private bedrooms tend to cost more and sleeping in the so-called dorm rooms means you're sharing a room with four to six people and you're often going to have stories to tell, not all of them glamorous. Spoiler alert: Drunk people do stupid things and they te…
/r/seduction13/04/22 12:01 AM
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You literally just posted about this topic a few days ago. People at that thread already gave you a variety of answers, many of them explaining that no one has a utopia. This isn't the place to spam the same topic over and over just because you didn't like the response you got last time and/or you're looking for a rubber stamp to disregard what women are going through. It sucks for men. It sucks for women in different ways. That's it.
/r/seduction12/04/22 04:17 PM
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From your perspective, would you have any views on what might cause someone to go down "the wrong path" or what sort of intentions/mindsets are important to retain as someone gets more involved? People will generally drift towards movements which speak to their anger and frustration, the longer they've been in that state themselves. On the other hand, a lot of people, when presented with an explanation for the situation which is more positive and not based on fear and anger, as well as solutions…
/r/seduction11/04/22 11:50 PM
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If you need a maid, getting one to clean your place on a sporadic basis doesn't cost much. It's not a great sign if someone you're involved with on a casual basis ends up cleaning your place. It means that your place is probably disgusting. Which could also throw a wrench in the works if you are really wanting to maintain multiple casual entanglements at the same time. Also, this specific topic of trying to manipulate women into doing housework, has nothing to do with Seddit.
/r/seduction11/04/22 11:41 PM
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1 When I say, "lack of attention," I'm referring to the need to pay attention to feedback one is getting in an interaction. In a situation where things are physically escalating, the girl is going to react in certain ways, verbally and non-verbally. Non-verbally: Like twitches, flinching away, leaning in, and so on. Verbally: various words, phrases, or even just sounds. Sometimes guys get so focused on the fact that a girl is in front of them but they don't actually pay attention to the girl the…
/r/seduction11/04/22 04:09 PM
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Seduction, pickup and game has got a bad rep over the years, especially with its associations with sexism, objectification, womanising and things like the red pill movement etc. There still remains a heavy red pill-based pickup community. There's a lot of frustration out there among men and red pill speaks to it while offering ideas which are (unfortunately) attractive to some guys. ​ That being said, a huge quantity of posts on this subreddit stem from a genuine desire for self improvement, dis…
/r/seduction11/04/22 01:09 PM
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What kind of things do women go through? Not a woman, but back before I figured myself and game out a little better, I always got along better with girls than guys, so I had a lot of female friends from an early age. I made a habit of being a fly on the wall during girl talk sessions. Just silently observing. I continued this habit from middle school through the early years of college. Hanging out with girls as often as I did, especially while being just friends, was perhaps frustrating at times…
/r/seduction11/04/22 12:55 PM
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....never shit where you eat This comment breaches Rule 5: Avoid Common Off-Topic Subjects. Variations on the following are unhelpful to constructive dialogue: "Don't shit where you eat." The issue is not where you game, but how. Point of order: Please read the Rules and the Pinned Post on the Updated Rules in full before commenting or posting again.
/r/seduction11/04/22 12:39 PM
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Louis CK has a pretty hilarious bit on this. ....the courage it takes for a woman to say yes is beyond anything I can imagine.... men (are) the number one threat to women globally.....
/r/seduction11/04/22 11:17 AM
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1 Except, women continue to be the gatekeepers of sex even after securing the relationship. This is a trope for a reason: Mainstream culture doesn't do a good job of passing down to boys all the information they need to become men who know how to date effectively and maintain relationships, etc. So it shouldn't be any surprise when that men often have little clue how to get casual sex when they're up for that as single dudes, or how to not end up in relationships where they're off-balance, the b…
/r/seduction11/04/22 11:09 AM
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Newsflash, you are too fat. You are not curvy, or BBW, or fluffy. You're goddamn fat. Put down the fucking biscuits. This is a breach of Rule 4: Keep It Civil and On Topic. 5 day temporary ban, as a warning.
/r/seduction11/04/22 10:45 AM
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The salsa demographic is typically in the 20s-30s age group. Mostly 20s. High energy movement in the dance encourages this. It also tends to encourage fitter people because if you're not in some kind of shape, you can't keep up with some songs. The older demographics tend towards ballroom. Like 35-60-ish. And of course, college dance clubs throw everything off because there tends to be a group of college-age kids involved in all the dances as long as there's a club for it at a local college/univ…
/r/seduction11/04/22 08:29 AM
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This post and the previous one had to be taken down because they concern a specific situation. And they're both really more shit posts then anything else. Not leaving someone a cringe note in their laundry, taped to their underwear, is something anyone with a grasp of basics who is studying game at all, would not be doing. Please read the Rules and the Pinned Post on the Updated Rules in full before commenting or posting again. The line here is more fully explained in the Pinned Post: Ask yourse…
/r/seduction11/04/22 03:15 AM
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This is not the venue for shit-posting poll questions/data mining queries. You're welcome to try AskReddit.
/r/seduction11/04/22 12:17 AM
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1 Has anyone else gone through this? Plenty of people here have gone through this. It's also just a matter of differing priorities. Some people never want to settle down or don't want to settle down now. Those people won't see casual sex as empty. And that's okay. Some people want an LTR and so casual sex will be empty to them. And that's okay too. 2 Just a reminder to everyone here to remember Rule #6. Judgement based on whether one wants casual sex or an LTR, isn't allowed here.
/r/seduction10/04/22 02:22 PM
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1 Just for context my friends aren't exactly miss America.... If you get a bunch of people into a room And ask them who their 10s are, One person's 10 will be another person's 6 or 7. Consensus can't really be reached because attraction and attractiveness are subjective. Everyone has their personal tastes. Which is all to say that your own assessment of their attractiveness does not reflect on how other people might view them. 2 I see good looking doctors, professionals, lawyers and what not hit…
/r/seduction10/04/22 09:13 AM
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And that’s a great talking point I never knew it was from Argentina and about the tango dancers lol. Read up on it before using it in conversation ;) I think it’s starting to click on how I can make deeper connections and not have to rely on the usual “what’s ur major” type questions. Never overlook the utility of small talk like asking about their major at some point though. The problem with small talk is arguably not the small talk itself, but that people don't have good follow up. Someone say…
/r/seduction10/04/22 01:59 AM
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1 Also what that video you linked, I actually did this today without realizing. I was in my writing class and I’ve noticed for the past few weeks this girl always has a Yerba mate in her hands. That's an Argentinian drink too so you could have asked if she's ever been there or if she's from there. A lot of tango dancers drink it as well so there were a lot of directions you could have gone with it. 2 So I said “do you have an unlimited supply of those drinks?” and I proceeded to have like a 3 mi…
/r/seduction09/04/22 09:12 AM
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Also do you think I’ll get some kind of cold approach reputation, there’s about 40k students at my college but I was still worried about this lol. Cold approach, at its heart, is simply starting a conversation with a stranger. You wouldn't get a bad reputation for that. People get bad reputations if they: Push things aggressively without any apparent concern for the feedback the girl is giving during the interaction. Push even after the girl has made it clear she's not interested. Do a bunch of …
/r/seduction09/04/22 09:04 AM
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.... the girl was wearing shorts in cold weather. so what i said was " i saw you from over there, and i told myself theres no way youre not cold". The cool thing about approaches like these is that it doesn't really require a lot of work but you get a pretty good response right up front as to whether she's interested. Some people are going to be, some won't.
/r/seduction09/04/22 09:00 AM
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1 I literally fled the country to restart my life and haven’t dated anyone since.... That sounds like an awful situation and I'm sorry it happened to you. Please bear in mind though that unstable people like your ex do have tails that you can identify if you know what to look for. If I may ask, how were things in the beginning with this person? Didn't they start off more happy and light before things took a turn for the worst? Usually abusive cycles start off innocently enough but there are stil…
/r/seduction09/04/22 08:47 AM
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1 Honestly, not really. Can you clarify what you mean? Not really, what exactly? 2 She seemed a bit more forward and compliant than usual. When I suggested leaving, she put up no objections and just followed me out. What I'm suggesting to you is that there are signs you missed. Noting that a girl is simply going along with things in the way that you've mentioned does not mean you've screened them for the kind of instability that led to your situation. To figure out what you might have missed, we…
/r/seduction09/04/22 08:38 AM
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Hey! I'm Hailey and I'm 26 years old petite redhead from US Texas. I love to sex and I really enjoy making you cum 😉I'm looking for a faithful and trustworthy sugar guy that i can trust💝💞 Definitely the wrong subreddit for this
/r/seduction09/04/22 08:32 AM
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Long story short is that I pulled a girl from a club last year and we slept together. All seemed normal/consensual until the the next day she texted me claiming not to remember anything accused me of drugging and raping her. There are no guarantees in life but if you really examine what the whole lead up to that encounter was like, how she acted, and things she said (including word choice), then you can likely identify red flags to look out for. Would it be fair to say that, in retrospect, you r…
/r/seduction08/04/22 05:26 AM
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1 Im 26 (M), she like 10 years older (like 36). She's the gym receptionist, she works there. I mean, you could go there if you want to, if she's willing. 2 What's the best way to proceed here? Here's the thing, you're dealing with someone who has to be friendly for living. So there's always going to be some white noise in a situation like this. If you were going to go about it, the best way would be to do something that's open-ended and could be taken either way without being pushy. Like bringin…
/r/seduction08/04/22 01:45 AM
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1 Totally not the right venue for this question at all. It has nothing to do with this subreddit. To top it off, you presented yourself as both 14 and 18 years old and essentially trolled many of the people who came to this thread. That's a permanent ban. 2 my partner loved tongue kisses and i like them but not too much..... i mostly do it for him. If it bothers you this much, then you're looking at a mismatch. Also it doesn't even matter what other guys think. What matters is what your partner …
/r/seduction08/04/22 01:19 AM
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This sub needs to be abandoned and we need to make a new sub where this type of shit isn’t tolerated.... It already isn't tolerated. People report it and it gets taken down. The only way to preemptively prevent all of this would be to create barriers to entry so high that new people would NOT be able to post. People would have to wait until their accounts were several months old and they've gathered few thousand positive karma. Forget measure we would also need to require moderator approval for …
/r/seduction08/04/22 01:16 AM
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1 By close I meant number. How often do numbers go anywhere? How far are thrse numbers going? If there's an issue there, then it probably tracks back to something in that first meeting that's not going so well but could be adjusted. 2 And my opener is usually, “excuse me… I just saw you walk past me and I thought you looked cute so I had to come and say hi” then I ask for their name and a little bit about themselves. There are a couple missed opportunities here: Anytime you walk up to someone, t…
/r/seduction08/04/22 01:00 AM
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1 The three largest age groups by usage are: 18-24 - 17.4% 25-34 - 25.4% 35-44 - 18.5% Source 2 But if you can take what I've suggested and apply it to Instagram or TikTok, then feel free. The more platforms you check, the better.
/r/seduction07/04/22 07:33 AM
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Which part exactly? I covered a lot of ground. EDIT: If you're talking about fighting the negative voices, it's not easy. It's a 24/7 thing at first. It basically involves: Trying to pay more attention to your thoughts Checking in with yourself throughout the day. Trying to catch yourself when one of these negative trains of thoughts gets going. It's important to start noticing how often this is happening in the background of your own mind. When one of these negative trains of thought gets going…
/r/seduction07/04/22 04:39 AM
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I have considered that but since I’m not in college myself, how does that work? Do college dance classes allow non-college students? It wouldn't take much to sign up for a one credit dance class. I have known a lot of people who've done that. You don't need to be a full time student. Also, the cost is economically sound for the number of lessons you get in that period of time. Which area do you live in? I'm sure you can look up the university/college website yourself though.
/r/seduction07/04/22 03:11 AM
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I would like to branch out to meeting girls during the day and unfortunately I’m not into any social activities because most of hobbies are individual in their nature. There are plenty of groups out there holding a lot of different kinds of events. It's not too hard to find them. Go to Facebook Do a search for [your city] + [a hobby/interest/activity] Browse the Events & Groups tabs Go sample events, preferably regularly recurring events Some good things to try might include: Board game nights H…
/r/seduction07/04/22 03:09 AM
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1 Do you think direct approach is better or should I also try to aim for natural conversation. These two aren't mutually exclusive. Natural conversation isn't inherently "indirect." Approaches are often framed as direct if the guy says or does something that he thinks directly establishes his "intent." The issue most guys have in establishing intent, is failure to physically escalate or "pull the trigger" in a calibrated way. Women are usually very sensitive to what's going on around them. They'…
/r/seduction07/04/22 03:02 AM
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To elaborate on what CompetitionFair7686 said.... 1 Attraction is a black box in many ways. When someone sees or meets a new person, a lot goes on inside them that people on the outside won't see. Among those things that happens in that black box, is some sort of emotional and physical reaction that results in someone feeling passion, love, friendship, or nothing, etc. People often know within a short amount of time if they're up for it with someone. They'll have piqued interest or not, before t…
/r/seduction06/04/22 03:25 PM
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1 How to tell if a girl is with a date at a bar or club? What mightymite88 said. You go in there. Interact with her. She'll let you know. ​ 2 What do you guys do if you see a girl alone at a bar or club? Honestly, cruising for girls that are alone at a bar or club, might feel easier, but the notion that these girls are ideal to approach, is fear based. For real, dealing with girls in groups is often easier in many ways. And girls in pairs are sometimes easier because they're out there with fewer…
/r/seduction06/04/22 03:04 PM
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1 This girl I've been chatting with, I kinda shot my shot and told her she was cute, she said, "damn idk how to respond, but thank you..." Here's the thing. When we start out, we often don't know what the hell we're doing. So sometimes that leads to just taking shots in the dark. Like telling her you think she's cute. But think about that really. Where did that get you? It got awkward fast. What response did that really leave for her? Nothing. She had the choice of either ignoring it or saying t…
/r/seduction06/04/22 02:47 PM
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You must stand on guard, any time you hear any negative or critical self talk, you must pick those out of your brain like weeds from a garden, since the weeds will eventually overtake the fruit. I would add to this: it's perhaps not so much to only pick out negative self-talk, but to do one's best to fact check that stuff. Some negative stuff might actually involve stuff one needs to improve on. Other negative stuff might be over the top and irrational. The latter needs to be rooted out for sure…
/r/seduction06/04/22 02:40 PM
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1 For every girl you get lucky with, do y'all get rejected by a shit ton? To add some nuance to Norwegiandoggo's answer: When many of us start out, we get rejected a shit ton, especially when we have no clue what we're doing. Then we start figuring stuff out and the rejection rate goes down if calibration is one of the things the guy figures out. This doesn't completely eliminate rejection, but it does make one more efficient. It's like getting better at recognizing who's up for it among all the…
/r/seduction06/04/22 02:27 PM
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1 Generally speaking, you're better off spending that kind of money on: A therapist over time Getting out of the house and building up your social skills by finding social groups to hang with on a regular basis. (Plenty of them post events on FB. Not hard to find.) ​ 2 I called a dating coach program and after speaking on the phone for like 30 minutes asking me personal questions it turned out that the program costs 8 thousand dollars and is a 3 day workshop. Of course, what you experienced ther…
/r/seduction06/04/22 02:48 AM
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A big example is in how calibration is treated on this forum. Like the whole idea of making adjustments under fire during a set with a girl, has been acknowledged as important since before Mystery Method. Guys on this subreddit can talk about calibration using seduction terminology, while making it clear they are men, and people here are fine with it. But I've seen guys here break out the pitchforks and torches if someone identifies themselves as a girl and speaks about calibration in layman ter…
/r/seduction06/04/22 02:44 AM
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If you spend a little time browsing the wretched bog of femaledatingstrategy Kindly refrain from link mentioning other subreddits, especially ones like this one. It can notify people other there and lead to flame wars.
/r/seduction06/04/22 02:32 AM
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Constructive and actionable advice would involve debunking the specific piece of advice you think is bad. It's more instructive to evaluate advice on its own merits, rather than engaging in ad hominem fallacies, which is unintentionally changing the subject. So..... Point of Order: This post breaches Rule 5: Avoid Common Off-Topic Subjects - i.e. the whole "Don't ask a fish" thing. Too often on this subreddit, people stop their analysis of advice on the basis of whether OP has a vagina. Meanwhil…
/r/seduction06/04/22 02:19 AM
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1 I am currently in college, but it’s a commuter school and very hard to make friends in. I’ve made a few acquaintances, but after the semester ends, we usually never talk again. Based on everything you've said, is it fair to say that your view of new people is colored by the experiences you've had with your roommate and the others you went to elementary school through high school with? Your roommate is fake and others he continues to keep in contact with have different values than you. So, if y…
/r/seduction06/04/22 02:03 AM
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1 For example, my roommate, who I’ve known since elementary. He’s been a good friend and we used to hangout in the same group of people a lot. That group kind of disowned me as a friend specifically for trying to ask that we do better in our lives(less drugs, more education, etc). I can relate to that. It's very understandable. And pretty common to have these kinds of groups of friends from elementary through high school, I think. A lot of people who never go on to college often fall into less t…
/r/seduction05/04/22 04:38 PM
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1 My biggest problem is that most people just annoy me. Imo, most people are just fake af, and really dumb. I don’t like dumb people and I just can’t be around most people often All I can say to this is, if you actually dig into most people well enough, you can find something human and relatable about many of them. Although if you've been hanging around or stuck around certain circles of people.... some circles do end up with more fake people than others. It might be good to try different circle…
/r/seduction05/04/22 04:10 PM
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I got good results, but I also got not good results. One chick on a date even said "all you're doing is negging me." This is definitely points to a good point: a lot of things can work. There is not one path to getting results. But the key is: What kind of people are you attracting into your life and what sorts of interactions and relationships are you encouraging? A lot of dudes resort to negative tactics and then complain about the women they date, never once considering that they're unintenti…
/r/seduction05/04/22 04:03 PM
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1 I feel that recently having began this lifestyle it has caused me to look at interactions with women in a different way. My first relationship I was very genuine, very open, and very honest. Almost always trying to qualify myself to my SO because I felt that that was how you were supposed to win girls over. Our relationship lasted 4 years. In general, if you're looking for a healthy relationship, good communication is important. Maybe not 100% honesty, which often involves volunteering a fuck …
/r/seduction05/04/22 04:00 PM
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1 I invited her to walk my dogs with me today (: she said she’d love too haha And you act like you bring nothing to the table. It sounds like you interact well, and you might like your own space, but it's not like you're a complete shut-in. You have dogs, you go outside, and you even attend parties occasionally. ​ 2 The hanging out with people is somewhat a personal choice, but also a lack of social skills as well. I just don’t get invited many places tbh. I mean like I said, I rarely ever get a…
/r/seduction05/04/22 03:20 PM
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1 I'm a guy, and when I'm rejected, it's like my brain craves to know what went wrong. This is understandable, though for you to get the "answer" you are after: Sometimes nothing went "wrong" and two otherwise cool people just didn't click. Sometimes the other party lacks either the self-awareness, articulateness, or willingness to explain what didn't work for them. ​ 2 If you're not much more than strangers, then expecting someone to open up about their reasons, if they even know them, is setti…
/r/seduction05/04/22 03:16 PM
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What’s a line that always gets you replies in the DM If you've handled your initial meeting well enough, then you'll have good material for your first texts to someone. That material will usually be specific to the context of that initial meeting. And since those can vary wildly, so will the best opening texts. It's not about the line. You could have a ho-hum "line" and she'll go with it if she was interested after initially meeting you. This whole post was unintentionally taking the focus off o…
/r/seduction05/04/22 02:58 PM
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Best replies to those girls who doesn't follow you back... Share some quirky or witty replies to give to girls who doesn't follow you back This subreddit is more focused on in-person techniques, not social media marketing. Chasing likes and follows on social media is not "seduction." You want to get laid in person, focus on in-person techniques.
/r/seduction05/04/22 02:51 PM
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This sub got posted to..... Kindly refrain from mention linking other subreddits like that. It can notify people there and incite a flame war.
/r/seduction05/04/22 02:26 PM
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Joined this sub seeing lots of good advice being given but over time there's so many people asking dumb questions or even just straight up telling us a story about how they got ghosted with no lesson to be learned whatsoever. You've read the rules, right? So report posts that break Rule 1.
/r/seduction05/04/22 02:24 PM
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This ---- breaks Rule 5: Avoid Common Off-Topic Subjects - i.e. the whole "Don't ask a fish" thing. Constructive and actionable advice would involve debunking a specific piece of advice you think is lacking, and evaluating that advice on its own merits, not engaging in ad hominem fallacies. Please read the Rules and the Pinned Post on the Updated Rules before commenting or posting again.
/r/seduction05/04/22 02:12 PM
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1 I get along with just about everyone.... Which denotes some level of social skills at least. 2 .... but I tend to just not hangout with anybody. I never really get invited anywhere. At the same time though, I never invite anyone to anything either. Sounds like personal choice rather than lack of social abilities? Is that fair to say? 3 If I want to see a movie, I’d rather just buy the ticket by myself and then go, rather then asking other people to go with me. This doesn't sound strange. Movie…
/r/seduction05/04/22 11:57 AM
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1 7 years seperated from my wife 30M and have no idea how to date That shit can be rough, man. No one except you knows exactly how rough. But serious relationships can sometimes leave a mark that takes years to recover from. It's worth acknowledging that. Try to take small victories where you can. 2 So I've been married for 7 years and I have no idea on how or where or anything on how to date anymore I've been domesticated and trying to figure out how to even look what apps to use how to approac…
/r/seduction04/04/22 10:41 AM
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1 I had caught feelings for a guy I study with ( I'll refer to him as lucky ). The issue was he had an girlfriend... I accidently ran into his girlfriend.... we just instantly clicked If I am being honest we are very alike in personality and we have been hanging out everyday since and I feel like we are beginning to build a very good friendship. ..... she got onto the topic off that they wanted a threesome and she gets to pick who and she very obviously was making it clear it was me I would trea…
/r/seduction04/04/22 04:17 AM
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Temporary 3-day ban for breaking Rule 4: Keep It Civil and On Topic. Kicking off a really long tangent of sarcastic jokes is way off topic. This is not the venue for that.
/r/seduction03/04/22 05:25 PM
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1 I've made out with the girl twice on two nights at a club. She's leaving in 15 days. The first kiss was really good, I was actually quite taken aback by it. Never kissed a stranger who shared that much sexual chemistry on the first go. I mean, that's what dating and such is for: to basically try people out and see if you fit in some way. You're going to find people that you have good sexual chemistry with. That's just the way it works. 2 We both acknowledged that we were really good kissers th…
/r/seduction03/04/22 05:23 PM
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it's too perfect. looks way too unnatural. i get that it's a style thing for blacks... This is not the venue for racism.
/r/seduction03/04/22 01:44 AM
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PSA: We cannot lose sight of the fact that seduction is a form of in-person social interaction. All these technological tools and apps are great for meeting people and setting up logistics, but game still happens in person. If one really wants to focus on a social media marketing campaign, that's an optional thing and a different thing from actual seduction. And a different subreddit, really. Let's not lose the forest for the trees here
/r/seduction03/04/22 01:40 AM
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1 how to attract girls if you don't have social media? What is seduction? It's a form of social interaction. In person. It's not marketing. Which is what social media is. 2 I got a really good girl through my instagram story back in 2018-19 when I was actively doing a lot of stuff. If you didn't have game in person, this would have been impossible. Technology might be a way to meet people but sooner or later, you have to bring the plane in for a landing in person. That can't be done over social …
/r/seduction03/04/22 01:35 AM
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I mean, obviously that's a bit ridiculous. But that commercial was pitched towards common human fears. That's why they made it that way. This is just something that you'll have to talk with yourself about. We all have irrational fears like these. Honestly, there's no reason why anyone's numbers have to come up at all. Of course, use protection, especially in the early going. And if you're really concerned, there are easy ways to screen out people you think might be risks of exposure to STDs. Lik…
/r/seduction02/04/22 08:01 AM
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1 So this summer I am going to europe. I am M18 hispanic. I wanna get laid but I dont know if Tinder works there. The apps can be pretty hit or miss they're just like in the States. But that doesn't matter because there are plenty of better ways. Honestly most of the best options aren't going to have time for the dating apps because they'll just be out at various social events mixing with people, socializing, etc. 2 What places do you guys recommend? Can you say where you're going? Depending on …
/r/seduction02/04/22 06:46 AM
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1 what's the number that just seems to be to much? On top of this, you're really asking the wrong question. It's perfectly valid to screen potential dating candidates according to their value systems. For example if someone is looking for a serious relationship, then it makes sense to screen out people who are looking for casual flings. 2 But the whole idea of screening people out for simply having a sexual past, is insecurity. This is a human emotion that everybody deals with. And the problem i…
/r/seduction02/04/22 06:35 AM
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Point of order: Please read the Rules and the Pinned Post on the Updated Rules before commenting or posting again. Specifically, Rule 6 regarding moral judgements not being allowed here. OP and a lot of people on this thread were also breaking this rule and may consider this a warning.
/r/seduction02/04/22 06:29 AM
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You've been pretending to be a guy in some posts and a girl in others. All to kick off long ass flame wars about nothing. We're done here.
/r/seduction02/04/22 03:54 AM
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Point of order: Please read the Rules and the Pinned Post on the Updated Rules before commenting or posting again. Specifically, Rule 7 regarding physical appearances and limitations.
/r/seduction02/04/22 03:40 AM
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1 Height insecurity in college This is the key point here. Insecurity. It's something that all humans have to deal with at some point or another. It's an emotion that is just a part of being human. We all have to deal with the negative voices in our heads that tell us shitty things about ourselves. All of us. And here's the worst part perhaps. Listening to this voice too much has the side effect of lowering your confidence and having low confidence is going to make you unattractive, even if the …
/r/seduction02/04/22 03:35 AM
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1 Anyone else here get shamed for dating women younger than them? Sometimes people shame others for doing what you're doing. Usually they're projecting their own issues onto the situation. Like they're having trouble in their own dating lives or something to that effect. 2 Im 32 and I usually date women aged 22-27. Absolutely nothing wrong with this. Consenting adults and all that. If everyone's up for it then there's no issue. 3 My sister thinks I'm some sort of cradle snatcher and my friends f…
/r/seduction01/04/22 04:40 PM
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1 After days of small talk I asked for her number, she agreed and been chatting but not so much as in person (Just gym stuff) so idk much about her What exactly have you been texting? What kind of small talk, exactly? Details matter. Any bit you can remember gives a better read on exactly what needs to be done. 2 Small talk is fine but also constitutes missed opportunity after missed opportunity if you're not following up on what she says. Without knowing what small talk you've had going on, it'…
/r/seduction01/04/22 04:22 PM
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1 Im 22, shes like 35 If you're asking for feedback, we need context. How did you meet her? How did you end up on this date? Who set it up? Who asked who out? What do you know about her already? 2 Idk where to go on a date with her nor what to do, Im lost Answer the above questions and maybe we can give you more specific answers.
/r/seduction01/04/22 10:10 AM
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PSA: If you came here to shame someone for dating other consensual adults because of your own preconceived notions of which adult age groups should be dating each other, then you're in the wrong sub-reddit
/r/seduction01/04/22 04:32 AM
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Did anyone get more attention from women after getting bald? Different people have different preferences. There's no way to predict what people will be into before you interact with them. The issue is that we all have that nagging voice in the back of our heads that tells us negative things about ourselves. And if we listen to that voice too much, then we start walking around with less confidence and that lack of confidence can be unattractive. Lack of confidence can even turn someone off who ha…
/r/seduction01/04/22 04:31 AM
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1 I have been doing this for six months now. Going out in the streets and hoping I would be able to stop and start a conversation with a girl. But I just can't. Anxiety can be a very powerful emotion. It can affect one over the course of one's whole life. In fact, even coaches say no one ever really gets over it. It's part of the human condition, so setting your expectations to having to get over anxiety, is unrealistic and impossible. No one does it. 2 I am not sure what's wrong with me. Everyo…
/r/seduction31/03/22 05:13 AM
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1 Like the title says, I'm a 45M coming out of a 15 year marriage. It's been 15 years of marriage with the past 5-6 years being a loveless marriage... To the point where I'm almost too shy now to approach women. First off, realize that 15 years of all that, is going to leave a mark. It'll take some time to process it fully. It could be that you'll miss her in ways even if things were shitty by the end. And it should not be understated that spending that long with things being that bad for the la…
/r/seduction31/03/22 02:48 AM
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The context is unclear here. Are you talking about DMing someone that you have actually met in real life? Or randos that you actually don't know?
/r/seduction31/03/22 02:26 AM
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Next time you see something that blatantly breaks this subreddit's rules, kindly report the post and any other comments on the post that violate the rules. (In this case, see Rule 5: Avoid Common Off-Topic Subjects; "Don't ask a fish." Report, don't engage in flame wars, which is also against the rules.
/r/seduction31/03/22 02:17 AM
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Temporary 3 day ban for breaking Rule 5: Avoid Common Off-Topic Subjects. Please read the Rules and the Pinned Post on the Updated Rules before commenting or posting again.
/r/seduction31/03/22 02:03 AM
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This post breaks Rule 5: Avoid Common Off-Topic Subjects - i.e. the whole "Don't ask a fish" thing. Constructive and actionable advice would involve debunking a specific piece of advice you think is lacking, and evaluating that advice on its own merits, not engaging in ad hominem fallacies. Please read the Rules and the Pinned Post on the Updated Rules before commenting or posting again. Temporary 3 day ban
/r/seduction31/03/22 01:54 AM
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1 I am at the point where it's very hard for me to be in a relationship now. Btw I did pick up for 10 years ever since I was 14 years old. I did it for almost as long as many of the so-called "advanced" in the industry. I think these adverse effects should be also discussed. These adverse effects frequently come up. I've seen a lot of guys come and go at this sub. And what you describe is definitely a common issue in the seduction community. There are a few different aspects to this issue: Boys …
/r/seduction30/03/22 03:52 AM
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If you don't care about how she feels and what she thinks about you, then you need to get the fuck away from her. I've noticed a number of flame wars kicking off on a number of posts on different subreddits, including this one. You're bringing up good points but the bedside manner is antagonistic, which means the good advice is useless because the other people involved become predictably defensive when insulted and the conversation goes off the rails. Temporary 3 day ban for breaking Rule 4: Kee…
/r/seduction30/03/22 02:32 AM
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1 Yes I get u, see I actually don't use dating apps. I appreciate you clarifying this point. 2 My main issue is girls will actually take interest to me irl , get my insta or number but they'll be extremely boring over text and at that point I'm not even interested anymore , like literally I hate it I'll just lose internet so quick If we're talking about the opening phases of dating here, if you've had that good first interaction and swapped contact information, then the next step is to set up a …
/r/seduction30/03/22 01:29 AM
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If that's the case then you might also read through my other reply on this thread. I spend a little more time breaking down the situation and asking some questions because there's some information that would be helpful to know in order to give you suggestions.
/r/seduction30/03/22 01:00 AM
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1 I've had this issue where girls fr have no game . And it feels like I'm stuck tryna carry the conversation with an idiot. How come it feel like dudes gotta have all this game... can just sit and look pretty and get people doing everything for them. Like yea this is over text but how tf am I supposed to build rapport 🤦‍♂️ Let's back the train up here. You're frustrated, apparently with attempts to set up a meet in real life over a dating app. Right? This is a really complex situation here: The …
/r/seduction30/03/22 12:46 AM
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1 Yea I've had many situation where it was made pretty clear that they're into me What signs are you seeing in these kinds of situations? 2 It's so weird but it feels like they start the conversation with me, and hit me up and still expect me to do more work in the conversation,??? What exactly are they saying? Also, the whole point of texting over these apps is not to have a conversation. You have maybe a couple messages back and forth to establish that you're both actually human and then you p…
/r/seduction30/03/22 12:30 AM
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PSA: If anyone came to this subreddit to rant about how they don't think women need social skills/game, or to complain about everything in the dating world being lopsided in favor of women, then point blank: you're in the wrong sub. This is a sub for people who are trying to work on their social skills, not wallow in frustration and anger.
/r/seduction30/03/22 12:26 AM
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1 ....only ever had one actual girlfriend in my life.... and a few..... hookups from tinder. I first kissed a girl at 19 ...got laid for the first time at 21. I'm a 26 year old guy... So at 26, you've had a girlfriend, managed to match up with people on tinder and meet up with them and even sleep with some of them. You lost your virginity at 21. While not early, this is still not terrible. All of which means that you've certainly figured out how social interactions work, well enough to get laid …
/r/seduction29/03/22 09:22 AM
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1 I’ve just had a girl (who I’ve been flirting with) shyly confess to me that she slept with a guy this week but was thinking about me during her sex. She said she doesn’t like him in that way and it was causal. This girl could have simply made moves on you and dropped the other guy once she realized she was interested in you. Instead, she overshared. Which then led to her having to explain that she doesn't really like him even though she just swapped bodily fluids with him. All of which can be …
/r/seduction29/03/22 08:29 AM
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1 I used to have severe oneitis (being infatuated with one girl and not caring about anyone else) with one girl that didn't like me back. Let's break down the problem here. If you're after a serious relationship, then forming attachments is not a problem. However, investing in someone emotionally before you really know them is a pretty common mistake. Processing the end of a relationship or sometimes the end of the possibility of a relationship, can be similar to the process of processing grief,…
/r/seduction29/03/22 08:22 AM
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**1*** What are some good questions to ask a girl to make her curious about me and to pave way for further conversation. Let's back the train up here a bit. If you really think about it, people like talking about themselves. What's more, a lot of people out there really aren't that good at listening, so a lot of people go for long periods of time without anyone ever really asking them about themselves. You've probably noticed this yourself. It's easy to go for long periods of time without anyone…
/r/seduction28/03/22 02:19 AM
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I would post a picture, I’m just not really comfortable doing that. Not really allowed at this sub either, so you're good there.
/r/seduction28/03/22 12:46 AM
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1 I have seen this phenomena of girls going cold, making excuses to maintain distance and disappearing many times. If this is a pattern, then it's important to realize that everyone has slightly different ones and each of us is half of the equation. We all do something that helps lead to the results we get. We screen and choose the people we end up with. And screen out many others, some of whom we may not even realize we're screening out. The way we conduct ourselves while dating has a lot of po…
/r/seduction27/03/22 02:00 AM
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Then you broke the rule about giving too general advice. Please try to be more specific next time and give actionable advice. Simple phrases like what you posted are of little worth, similar to 'just be yourself." Plus, the word choice had more than one interpretation, one of which being the suggestion that OP have sex with this other guy to establish dominance. Which people suggest frequently enough here as a joke.
/r/seduction27/03/22 01:27 AM
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1 Yeah that's correct, not really expecting to meet women doing those two things. Not engaging women in person has been something ingrained in my mind for over a decade so it's been difficult to reprogram my mind in that respect. It's good that you are aware of this. How did this happen? Was it like one of those unintentional things that parents or family transmitted? 2 I can see why I only relied on apps in the past; it was less daunting to me to talk to girls that way, and communicating via te…
/r/seduction25/03/22 04:59 PM
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Mileage may vary. You can only find out in the moment on a case by case basis.
/r/seduction25/03/22 08:14 AM
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It's over now. And kindly Just report something like this in the future instead of engaging. Engaging just adds more to the mess that has to be cleaned up later by mods.
/r/seduction25/03/22 03:00 AM
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PSA: Please check out the pinned post about the updated rules. There's a basic bar that any post needs to meet to be posted here. And that is, "Does this post help someone get laid or land a relationship or whatever they're looking for in dating?" A shitpost where everyone's swapping what they think are unpopular opinions, while interesting, does not meet this basic requirement.
/r/seduction25/03/22 02:35 AM
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This post violates Rule 7, and had to be taken down. Please read the rules before posting or commenting again. If you really need to have this conversation, there are other venues for it. It's been done to death here.
/r/seduction25/03/22 02:25 AM
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Well I forgot to mention we only speak very little of each others’ language and we were relying on good pantomime and Google translate early in the night You need to accept in situations like that, that a language barrier is something you need to screen out in the beginning. TOO many things can go wrong when you can't understand each other properly. Way too many things.
/r/seduction25/03/22 02:23 AM
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I have a giant cock and make half a million a year and have traveled to most countries around the world shitbag . All you have done is trash talk online . Beat it loser . Yeah, you're in the wrong sub. You should beat it instead.
/r/seduction25/03/22 02:19 AM
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This post violates Rule 5: Common Off-Topic Subjects: "Don't shit where you eat." The issue is not where you game, but how. Kindly read the rules before posting next time.
/r/seduction25/03/22 02:09 AM
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This is more in the wheelhouse of/r/sex You might repost it there
/r/seduction24/03/22 08:19 AM
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1 Why I feel so nervous while talking to girls and run out of words to say? This is a natural thing that honestly anyone can find themselves struggling with. It's really common because people usually go into their own heads and get focused on fear and anxiety about what to say. Which is ironic, because the solution is to focus on the other person more. Active listening: information is power and it's ridiculous how few people actually listen fully to the people they're talking to. As opposed to p…
/r/seduction24/03/22 05:22 AM
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Exactly. Men don’t come here for advice. They cone here to complain about women and hear the echo chamber of incels support them. This subreddit exists for men who want to improve themselves. Not for those looking for a rubber stamp for their reluctance to accept that they even have work to do. Incels like OP generally get banned here unless they are willing to engage in constructive discourse and attempt to improve their situation.
/r/seduction24/03/22 12:20 AM
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No I'm not. I'm setting the record straight on your stupid bird brain. You're in the wrong subreddit. You're not setting any records straight on anything except a sad sack attitude that your refuse to change. Antagonizing others won't solve your own issues. Find another sub
/r/seduction24/03/22 12:16 AM
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I've been watching a soap opera placed in the old New Spain in the 1700's and I've analyzed how different relationships..... Back the train up. A soap opera is fiction written by screenwriters. Full stop. "Analyzing" fiction is not how you get actual data about much beyond the modern screenwriters' views. You'd have to go to primary sources at a minimum. Which means reading a lot of Spanish in letters and books written in the 1700s.
/r/seduction24/03/22 12:00 AM
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1 You've come to a subreddit focused on self improvement with a rant based on your framing of a situation which places all control and blame for your circumstances onto people outside of yourself. This is not the venue for rants. Nor is it a place where it's acceptable to avoid and ignore what you personally could be doing to improve the situation. 2 And another dead horse people keep beating, is with regard to online dating. It is ridiculous to compare social interactions mediated through unkno…
/r/seduction23/03/22 11:50 PM
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Looks matter. That’s why it’s called rules 1&2. Please read the rules for this subreddit and the pinned post at the top before posting or commenting again.
/r/seduction23/03/22 08:26 AM
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If you came here to rant about looks being everything, you're in the wrong sub.
/r/seduction23/03/22 08:21 AM
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This subject is covered in Rule 7. And in more detail in the pinned post about the updated rules for anyone who needs more details. Please refer to the Rules for this sub and the pinned post before posting again. You're definitely in the wrong sub if you came here to rant about looks being the main thing and have been reporting people who actually point out that there's more to the picture. Find another sub if that's the hill you're dying on here.
/r/seduction23/03/22 08:17 AM
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1 I’m reading some of these forums about how a man shouldn’t approach a women anywhere apparently. You can find people who say anything on the internet. That doesn't mean it's inherently correct just because you can find someone saying it on the internet. 2 where the hell is a man supposed to ever approach a woman.... You can approach women in many situations as long as you know what you're doing. The problem is that our culture does not exactly transmit good social skills to men most of the tim…
/r/seduction23/03/22 07:11 AM
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Appreciate the honesty, cause everybody will sit here and blame the man and his approach..... Let's break this down. What is seduction really? It's a kind of social interaction. Social interactions require social skills. Whether or not someone finds a guy attractive does not mean that guy has the ability to navigate social situations successfully. I know majority of the times it all came down to his attractiveness. Nothing more, nothing less. I'm going to urge you to read the rules, specifically…
/r/seduction23/03/22 07:03 AM
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That all sounds like it could be a good start. But seeing as how you posted about wanting to meet women, it doesn't sound like anything you're doing right now really hits the spot?
/r/seduction22/03/22 04:44 PM
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1 Yeah it doesn’t affect what someone was going to do anyway, unless they have a guilty conscience Not what I'm talking about at all. In practical terms, sometimes other people are in a position to affect your logistics. That's just life. So being super obvious to her is fine, but sometimes it isn't smart to broadcast to everyone in the area that one is running game. 2 As far as seduction goes having people say it to you, as annoying as it is, can make you appear more attractive in her eyes if y…
/r/seduction22/03/22 04:34 PM
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I've been told this by several people, some of which have crushes on the girl I'm with. It's like the most cringe-inducing thing to hear. It's super common. But if we're on the subject of seduction, then the only thing that really matters is what the interactions are like between you and the girl herself. I suppose this might be reason to pay attention to this where it might impact logistics. People like this could potentially monkey wrench your efforts. It's one reason why it's a good idea to b…
/r/seduction22/03/22 07:45 AM
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1 I do think my social skills kinda got worse over time. Even though I didn't peak in high school overall I feel like socially I kinda peaked in high school, at least so far in my life. This is a pretty common experience people have. 2 That said back then I was much more ignorant about a lot of things but aspects of my social life were better just because it was interacting with more people in general. This is also pretty common. Everyone's on the same schedule back in high school and before tha…
/r/seduction22/03/22 05:39 AM
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1 Does this mean she’s not interested in me and the one who was interested was her friend? Please double check the rules. Post about specific situations or specific people belong on AskSeddit, not Seddit. (Rule 1) 2 EDIT: Pic of the friend Posting a pic like this is completely unnecessary and a potential doxxing risk, breaks Reddit wide rules. Just serving a warning this time but please don't do it again.
/r/seduction22/03/22 05:31 AM
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what the actual fuck that’s greed she can’t possibly love me First off, these kinds of posts belong in AskSeddit, not Seddit (Rule 1). Please read the rules before posting or commenting more. Secondly, dating is a process of elimination. Everyone has their personal tastes and preferences. They're not going to line up all the time. That's not greed. It's just a mismatch.
/r/seduction22/03/22 02:07 AM
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1 I've personally used this way to rebuild my social circles from scratch multiple times during the course of my life. If you have any questions about it as you are trying it, just message me. 2 Creating a social life, goes way beyond seduction. I'm talking about something important for your emotional health. Humans are social creatures and when we don't have a regular social life, it's really difficult to develop our social skills. It can even affect us emotionally over time. (That's why solita…
/r/seduction22/03/22 01:55 AM
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This sounds like good advice but I'm still a bit apprehensive about following it. This would be a natural feeling to have. Meeting new people is odd and strange to be honest, especially at first. But it is something that can be normalized, especially in comfortable and casual situations like events where everyone there is already expecting to meet new people. I'm almost certain that if I go to any group relating to my interests it'll just turn out to be a complete sausage fest. Nowhere in there …
/r/seduction22/03/22 01:19 AM
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You got to build up your basic social skills so that you can start to figure out what's going on. Active listening is incredibly important. Information is power and social interactions are a two-way street, transmitting and receiving. If you're not fully receiving what people are transmitting, then you are putting yourself at a disadvantage right up front. Good follow-up: responding to what people have just said, which you will know if you were actively listening, is a really powerful tool in co…
/r/seduction22/03/22 12:54 AM
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So basically I'll only get good at that when I'm like 30 and the pool has shrunk even more? Great This kind of negative attitude is actually something that would make you more unattractive to people. The pool isn't something that just magically gets smaller all the time. You can be in your late twenties and still be dating people in college if you want because there are people who are into that. You can be in your 30s and well beyond and still be dating people in their twenties. I've seen plenty…
/r/seduction22/03/22 12:47 AM
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I mean when I was in college I would try to talk to girls before class and stuff like that but they never really seemed interested at all. So there was something going on there which you didn't understand. A lot of us here start out that way, needing to level up our social skills. Part of the problem is that, before one has gained insight into what's going on and how it works, it often seems like alchemy or randomness when it's not. But I saw other guys do the same thing sometimes and they would…
/r/seduction22/03/22 12:45 AM
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1 Is it feasible to meet women in this day and age without using apps? Short answer: Yes. 2 Longer answer: It involves creating a social life for yourself that exposes you to new people on a regular basis. This is easier than you might think. Think back to high school or college if you want to that. The situation in both cases involves a bunch of people all going to the same place at roughly the same time. It just increases the likelihood of meeting someone and meeting someone who has similar in…
/r/seduction22/03/22 12:42 AM
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Social media performs 2 functions in this space. Self-marketing A point of contact / a way to be communicated with. Seduction is ultimately an in-person social interaction which requires basic social skills. And while having a point of contact is certainly practical and valuable, all the marketing in the world can't compensate for not being able to navigate the social interaction in person. Having a kind of marketing campaign could be helpful, but it requires energy, expertise, upkeep, and manag…
/r/seduction22/03/22 12:25 AM
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1 I just started a tinder..... I match with about the hottest chick.... she asks for my IG... Instantly stopped messaging and a few hours later unmatched. This illustrates one of the major issues with online dating. It's a black box. You can't see who you're interacting with. It's impossible to really know how an interaction went wrong because half the equation is unknown to us. When we are interacting in person, there is at least enough data available in their behavior and words that one can co…
/r/seduction22/03/22 12:11 AM
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My issue is that a lot of rookies are going to read this and use it as an excuse to not escalate. That's not a good thing for this sub. I would agree that it would be bad if noobs took it as an excuse to not escalate. I think the main point of this post is calibration though, which is a slightly different angle of what is often the same issue. A lot of guys here tend to have one of two issues: they either calibrate and don't escalate or they escalate without proper calibration. I'll edit somethi…
/r/seduction21/03/22 12:18 PM
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What did OP do to help the team? I mean, even if he is looking for a serious relationship and wanted to take his time, it does seem as if he was questioning himself a little too much and dragging things out a bit. But there's not much point in us speculating further unless OP wants to post later asking how he could have brought the plane in for a landing earlier.
/r/seduction21/03/22 12:06 PM
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Fuck the guy, establish dominance. 2 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4: Keep it Civil and On Topic. Also, this isn't a joke subreddit.
/r/seduction21/03/22 02:10 AM
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I read this in the book.... Next time, if you want to quote a book, cite specific page/chapter so everyone knows what we're talking about.
/r/seduction21/03/22 02:08 AM
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Don’t take advice from women in their 30s. Please read the rules before posting and commenting next time. 5 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 5. Next time if you have something specific to critique about the advice, feel free to chime in. Ad hominem fallacies don't count.
/r/seduction21/03/22 02:06 AM
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Any advice? Please check the rules before posting again. Rule 1: Post in AskSeddit about Specific situations or people. That's the seduction advice subreddit, not Seddit. That said, I'll add a response even though it had to be taken down. ​ 1 Yesterday in the library I approached a group composer by two girls, both very cute, and a guy, that were studying togheter. Before the approach I think I could tell that the girls were interested because they were watching me studying and doing eye contact…
/r/seduction21/03/22 02:03 AM
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We try, though we're human. Glad if anything here helped! ​ 1 I think that in the moment I was too focused on getting action, mostly due to some past experiences where I was more laid back and things slipped away. Any guy here who has achieved success in dating will have a number of cringey stories of times they fucked up. I can think of a number of times where I even unintentionally turned down sex without realizing it. Part of the process is definitely going to extremes and finding a balance. …
/r/seduction21/03/22 01:50 AM
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If you want to repost this with specific, actionable advice for newbs who want to get better inner game and defeat their inner pity, then go ahead. Without that though, this post breaks Rule 2 (doesn't stand on its own) and Rule 5 (too vague/too general).
/r/seduction21/03/22 01:43 AM
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Please see Rule 4: Keep it Civil and ON TOPIC. Look, it's easy to get frustrated in all this. Most of us have been there. But there's something to be learned from posts like this if one is not distracted by one's frustration. ANY girl who is down to have sex, will do something to help make it happen as long as the guy isn't fucking up his end. That is a tip because it's super common for guys to grow up thinking nothing happens unless they do everything to make it happen. Which is false.
/r/seduction21/03/22 01:28 AM
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Women that wanna fuck won’t be shy or subtle about it. A lot of them are brutally honest and have no time to beat around the bush!! Two key things here that should NOT be overlooked: 1.) Seduction is a team sport. If the girl is down, she will be a willing accomplice and will help make things happen in some way. Even if we're talking about the most passive appearing person, they've got to at least go along with everything. But any woman will actively do something to help sex happen unless the gu…
/r/seduction21/03/22 01:25 AM
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1 I imagine doing this and it seems awkward just visualizing. So you're just poking in and out touching, sounds like something a weirdo would do. I assume this happens over hours or however long you hang out but still. You owe it to yourself to go back and read #2 again. It starts off light and small. And in case it wasn't clear, you're better off starting off as nonsexually as possible. Like things you might do around the guys without getting accused of hitting on them. The point is to be comfo…
/r/seduction20/03/22 04:49 PM
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The pop culture topic is not the point. What do you have to say about active listening, good follow-up, and responding with an eye towards emotions and motivations? Also the main issue here is your focus on relating every topic back to whether you specifically like it. You have repeatedly framed it as if communication and connection relies on everyone having the same interests, but that's not how it works. Communication and connection with other people is about finding out what makes them tick.
/r/seduction20/03/22 02:58 AM
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1 You didn't actually respond to the first point, which did give practical advice about communication. The part about actively listening, following up well on what you hear, and following up with an ear towards getting at their emotions and motivations. 2 If you choose to maintain a hard line stance that everything you like is awesome while everything else sucks, you're also just going to have a bad time and you might as well go live in the woods by yourself.
/r/seduction20/03/22 02:50 AM
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1 I'm 35. I have had great trouble socializing with people because I have nothing to talk with them about. Interacting with people is not really about you coming up with topics. It's about: Listening actively to the people around you. And following up on things people say. The only thing you really need is enough to get them to say something you can follow up on. That could be some BS small talk topic. If they're already talking about something they're really into, then they're making it ridicul…
/r/seduction20/03/22 02:31 AM
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I don't get matches on OLD anymore.... A lot of people don't get matches on OLD. The algorithms are geared to push people to pay for things to increase their visibility and matches. That doesn't matter because all of that nonsense was only ever supplementary to meeting people in real life
/r/seduction20/03/22 02:07 AM
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Lol not even being left on read so far In person! Social media is fine as a means to communicate after you meet someone. It's not the best way to meet new people. Text and such strip away too much information that would be present in real time, in person. You're immediately placing yourself at a disadvantage. Just go meet people in person. If you're not sure how, then go search on FB: the city you're in + some interest, activity, or hobby. Look at the groups and events in the search results. Fin…
/r/seduction20/03/22 02:05 AM
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1 Is it worth chasing after women within 1K plus followers if you don't have a solid Instagram presence? Let's back the train up here. You're in Seddit. The focus here is about seduction. What is seduction really? It's a form of social interaction. Social interactions require social skills which are generally practiced in person. There are certainly a lot of technological tools we have for communication but at the end of the day, seduction really happens in person. Not over the internet. 2 Just …
/r/seduction20/03/22 02:00 AM
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1 What about just for normal dating. When you're already in the car with her or near your car. Do you say lets go head back and fuck. Physical escalation is an important part of the interaction. Coming right out and saying it is basically demonstrating that you don't know how to navigate that process. It's basically like taking the cake out of the oven too early because you don't have the patience to let it finish baking. 2 I feel like just touching and escalating like that can be risky given me…
/r/seduction19/03/22 06:57 PM
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You picked a fight with the guy and then called him out via Username Mention to fan the flames. I pointed it out, and your attitude doesn't indicate to me a constructive approach, so you're in the wrong sub.
/r/seduction19/03/22 06:47 PM
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1.) PSA: If you came here to pass moral judgements on people for where they choose to try to have sex, you're in the wrong sub. (See Rule 6) And if you came here to insult people, you're in the wrong sub. (Rule 2) A lot of people who piled on this post didn't bother to read the rules or the pinned post at the top of the sub concerning the Updated Rules. And as a result, a few people were served warnings in the form of temporary bans. Please read the rules and the pinned post about the Updated Ru…
/r/seduction19/03/22 06:45 PM
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A person who goes on a toilet to have sex with a nice young woman THE FIRST TIME does not deserve better. 5 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4: Keep it Civil and On Topic. And also, this is not the place for judgement.
/r/seduction19/03/22 06:17 PM
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They should have fucked in front of everybody, yes you are right what's with the shaming let's stop it 5 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4: Keep it Civil and On Topic.
/r/seduction19/03/22 06:16 PM
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1 How do you guys usually actually initiate the sex? It's not about the initiation, so much as the whole process leading up to it. If you're handling everything well then the girl's actually an accomplice. Meaning that she'll be helping make shit happen and what you have to do is mostly not fuck it up. 2 Do you say something like lets go fuck, how about this bathroom over here, or my car? There's no prescribed line here. Mileage varies according to the situation. It's more about the escalation a…
/r/seduction19/03/22 06:15 PM
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Sounds like something you saw in a movie 😂😂 ole lying ass 5 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4: Keep it Civil and On Topic.
/r/seduction19/03/22 06:05 PM
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You’re incredibly stupid, use protection when you fuck, do not reproduce 5 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4: Keep it Civil and On Topic.
/r/seduction19/03/22 06:05 PM
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Kindly remember Rule 4: Keep it Civil and On Topic. Picking fights with people doesn't qualify as on topic, and starting flame wars in general isn't allowed. You don't need to Username mention to call someone out. If you have a point that you can constructively make, then make it and move on.
/r/seduction19/03/22 05:58 PM
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1 I have picked up quite a few girls now and then. I usually have conversation with them for a few minutes...... all of the girls don't respond to my text after I get back home with their numbers. Point blank: If you're meeting girls, actually connecting with them, and nothing is going wrong when you text them, then they should be responding to a text afterwards. A 100% failure rate indicates there's something wrong with your approach. But your description of the actual first interaction is so s…
/r/seduction19/03/22 01:33 AM
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What happens between 'hi' and getting their contact info? Let's back the train up here. You're making this WAY too complicated. Cut yourself some slack, no one expects you to reinvent the wheel here. What is seduction, really? It's a form of social interaction. Social interactions are two-way exchanges of communication. They require social skills. There's nothing magical that happens between "hi" and getting their contact information. But part of the issue is that you're actually into them befor…
/r/seduction18/03/22 02:23 AM
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1 first date, is talking friendly but not flirty a bad idea? The basic issue seems to be asking how to escalate beyond being platonic, right? Well, the difference between being platonic and being something more, whether that's casual sex or a relationship, involves physical escalation at some point. Physical escalation is a completely different thing from talking. It involves touch. 2 So I did a couple of first dates in tinder. I always end up treating them like we were friends. Easy to talk, de…
/r/seduction18/03/22 01:53 AM
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Obviously not toward her but like if a dog is barking at you and you kick it.... I could list off a number of rules that you've broken with this post but considering you didn't seem to put the basic effort in to read the Rules or check out the Pinned Post at the top of the sub, I think I'd be wasting my time.
/r/seduction18/03/22 12:37 AM
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I would mention that this post breaks a number of Rules but clearly if you didn't bother to put the effort to read the Rules or the Pinned Post the top of the sub about the Updated Rules, then it's probably a waste of time to point that out to you guys. That's pretty much an instant ban for you OP, and a few guys who jumped in on the thread cheering you on.
/r/seduction18/03/22 12:32 AM
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This post violates Rule 7 regarding physical appearance. Kindly read the rules and pinned post at the top of the sub next time, before posting or commenting. If you cannot bother to do this minimum amount of work, then you're in the wrong sub.
/r/seduction18/03/22 12:29 AM
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Does being viewed as "relationship material" mean that they don't see you as a sexy being? Why can't It Be both? That's not the question though. Of course sex is an important part of any relationship. But the approach to finding someone for a solid relationship is going to be at least a little different from the approach one would take to finding casual sex partners because those are two different sets of people who are often going to be turned off by each other.
/r/seduction18/03/22 12:21 AM
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First off, this isn't really the place for attempts at public polling. If you were going to do this, at least do it in a more heavily trafficked sub so that your data set isn't tremendously biased and skewed. Just curious. It seems like a good strategy to keep them around Dating someone who wants something different is a great recipe to needlessly complicate your life. Do you want to be living in a soap opera? Because telling someone you're offering what you don't want to give, is a great way to…
/r/seduction18/03/22 12:07 AM
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Temporary 5-day ban for breaking Rule 6. Please read the pinned post about the updated rules before posting again. Rants are specifically forbidden. This post failed to meet the basic benchmark necessary for posting to the sub. It has nothing to do with helping someone get laid or land a relationship. It's also not practical because the behavior you've described is something characteristic of humans in general.
/r/seduction17/03/22 11:55 PM
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Please check the rules before posting: Rule #1 = Post in AskSeddit about a Specific Situations or People, not Seddit. Feel free to repost this in /r/askseddit though!
/r/seduction17/03/22 02:46 AM
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Firstly, a lot of dudes who came to this thread need to read the Rules, specifically, Rule 5 about advice that's too general or vague. Telling a girl that it's "simple" or something like that, does not answer the question. We all know that men go to workshops and bootcamps to figure out dating, but we all realize that women pay to attend their own dating workshops, right? And just a thought: if you can't see past your own experience and accept that others, including a fair number of women, are h…
/r/seduction17/03/22 02:44 AM
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1 See Rule 5, regarding judging people for looking for casual sex or LTRs: If people want to deal with 2-3 minimum, that's fine. If someone wants to date people one at a time, that's fine too. This is not the place to judge the goals people choose for themselves. ​ 2 On the subject of relying on dating multiple women to have a sense of abundance: It often plays into the definition of manhood that says a man is only worth something if he is constantly able to get with new women all the time. That…
/r/seduction17/03/22 02:30 AM
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1 [23M] How to make up for crucial social milestones I missed out on during my youth? You are framing this situation in a certain way. This isn't a lifestyle question. It's an inner game question. As to how you can make up for the past, you can only really focus on the present. If you are busy worrying about what happened or didn't happen in the past, then you are taking precious mental and emotional resources away from yourself in the present. Which ironically makes it more likely your present …
/r/seduction17/03/22 02:16 AM
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Dude, don't dox. Not allowed. Temporary 5 day ban. Only warning.
/r/seduction17/03/22 12:10 AM
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There are people out there who've compiled statistics from the FBI and Department of Justice, among other sources. They've gathered data regarding sexual assault, including data regarding people who've reported it, people who haven't, and their reasons in either case. So maybe instead of getting antagonistic, next time you could do a simple Google search. Give someone the benefit of the doubt. Us men did not have to deal with this shit in the same way that women do at all. We can generally freel…
/r/seduction16/03/22 11:56 PM
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The whole premise of this subreddit is not built around online dating, but rather, in person interaction. There's a reason for that. Online dating your supplementary at best. If you treat it as the only way that you meet new people/women, you're going to have a bad time. The idea that you're letting a lack of matches on a commercial dating platform get you down indicates a very basic, fundamental issue here. Creating a social life that exposes us to new people on a regular basis is something mos…
/r/seduction16/03/22 11:49 PM
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you can nut inside a woman and run away That was my favorite game in preschool. Temporary 5-day ban for breaking Rule 4: Keep It Civil and On Topic
/r/seduction16/03/22 11:41 PM
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Just don't, race mixing is bad. There's no reason you should even be thinking about having intercorse with such a woman. In fact, genetically and evolutionarily speaking, you shouldn't find them attractive at all.... You're in the wrong sub
/r/seduction16/03/22 11:17 PM
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Just blackface That's a ban
/r/seduction16/03/22 11:16 PM
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Probably, yes. I mean, if she's not friend material or someone to date, then there's no point wasting your energy.
/r/seduction16/03/22 09:43 AM
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1 Easier for me how so? You just can't make two people fit when they don't. In fact, trying to force something in that situation is often a living hell even if it does "work." So knowing that someone is not into it should actually be a load off and make it easier to let go. You only have something to work with if it's mutual. Unless you think it's somehow a turn on or some kind of great situation to be involved with someone who doesn't want to be around you? That sounds like an awful time. 2 The…
/r/seduction16/03/22 07:18 AM
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1 .... she didn't want to see him anymore because she just isn't feeling it. She then mentions he didn't kiss her. I secretly thought "I'm willing to bet if this guy kissed you, it would have steered things in a more romantic direction..... There's absolutely no way to predict this. You could get all the way through a kiss or even sex and only find out later that your incompatible. If a woman is interested, she'll overlook it when a guy doesn't physically escalate to a kiss in two dates. 2 On th…
/r/seduction16/03/22 01:20 AM
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Do you think women are aware of the skill set guys have to have to be successful at dating? Please see the pinned post at the top of the sub. It states that one of the primary bars any post must meet is whether or not it's relevant to the question of: "Does this help someone get laid or land a relationship?" Whether or not women are aware that social skills are necessary for successful dating, does not have any impact on whether a guy has those skills or not.
/r/seduction16/03/22 01:14 AM
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1 Today I lost my V-card to a super hot(9+) girl who mocked my inexperience. I mean, she did sleep with you. That's the important thing to take away from this. The fact that she did this even though she was mocking you, shows how words often don't match actions. 2 I dont know if I should be happy or sad about it Human interactions are often a mixed bag. 3 She found me via a mutual friend. We basically got some cider and had sex. She is super super hot(easily the hottest girl I’ve ever talked to)…
/r/seduction15/03/22 10:29 AM
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I never got to show her the vid cuz I deleted it cuz it had her talking and she did not even want to check Well anyway, that's just the way it goes sometimes. But it's important to remember that oftentimes, when someone is this quick to find something wrong enough to end things, then they are often acting on feelings they have already but don't understand yet. Which is a long way of saying, if it was this easy for it to be over, then she wasn't into it on some level. Which should make it easier …
/r/seduction15/03/22 10:20 AM
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1 I thought about giving her a mean look and saying something like "you'll need to buy me new pants" or something more aggressive like "Now when you got my pants wet imma get yours wet too" but that would be stupid haha Some things that might be helpful for coming up with better banter: Do whatever you can to get into a mindset of just soaking in the fun energy around you and getting into a fun mood. If you catch yourself getting frustrated or annoyed, that's going to be like kryptonite for good…
/r/seduction14/03/22 04:11 PM
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Glad if it was helpful, but it's a little sad that you deleted the post because it can be helpful for others to see that others are going through similar issues.
/r/seduction14/03/22 10:21 AM
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1 ....but I feel like she's too innocent and young Then you should follow your gut. Never do anything you're not comfortable with. You shouldn't have to ask people about this? 2 This 19yr old wants to get at me And to be absolutely clear to everyone here: 18 and over is legal and not everyone is dating for a relationship. Placing judgment on consenting adults is not welcome here. Judging people for pursuing casual sex is also not welcome here. To each their own and if you can't handle that, find…
/r/seduction14/03/22 03:17 AM
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“Why are you apologizing to her? It does nothing to help the situation! My pants are still wet and her drink is still spilled! Here, let me buy you a new drink. My name is dametime…” Point of order, reacting to someone spilling a drink on you by buying them a drink, is needlessly supplicating. Especially when there's a joke right there about reframing the situation as if she were botching the delivery of a drink to you.
/r/seduction14/03/22 03:13 AM
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1 .....at the club....At one moment the hottest girl from that group spilled a drink on my leg. I got annoyed immediately but I saw that as a perfect opportunity to initiate a contact with her. I mean sure, there was something to work with there, but what were you actually thinking about doing/saying? ​ 2 So I wanted to tease her about spilling the drink on me when my buddies approached her and started APOLOGIZING TO HER. I was like "wtf why tf would you apologize to her if she spilled a drink o…
/r/seduction14/03/22 03:10 AM
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You should just talk to women. Fix that lol. It doesn't seem that way to me. Tbh it sounds like this post is about making excuses and complaining. Your just trying to pity yourself even further. You basically showed up to troll OP. He came for advice and you offered nothing actionable. Then you insulted him after dragging out a useless tangent of a conversation. 5 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4. Kindly read the rules before posting or commenting again.
/r/seduction14/03/22 02:54 AM
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1 I'm a 25yo virgin and neither my job or my hobbies have girls around and I didn't go to college. There's a lot about college that leads to meeting new people. The circumstances involve a bunch of people of the same age all gathering in roughly the same place at roughly the same times. A lot of that can be duplicated if you know how. A great way can be to simply do a search on FB for groups that hold regular events. Just type in your city + some topic, interest, or hobby. There are a ton of opt…
/r/seduction14/03/22 02:48 AM
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Look, it's a basic question. You got feedback from people on this thread. You can choose to follow it or not. But this post does not fall under the category of the more advanced things this sub is supposed to be focused on. Basic questions are for AskSeddit.
/r/seduction14/03/22 02:08 AM
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Your post was based on false assumptions about attraction which make the entire thing fall under the category of a basic question. Such questions belong in AskSeddit. Not Seddit. Please read the rules next time before you post.
/r/seduction14/03/22 01:57 AM
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How can I be more alluring to men as a quiet girl? This assumes men don't like quiet girls. Which is false. The issue here is one we all have a problem with sooner or later: negative self-talk. You know, that voice that pops up in your head and tells you negative things? That inner voice has a tendency to focus on certain things and blow them out of proportion. Which is how you end up thinking that men only like outgoing girls. Don't get me wrong, sooner or later, you need to interact with someo…
/r/seduction14/03/22 01:37 AM
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Let's back the train up here. This is seduction we're talking about. Seduction is a form of social interaction. It requires social skills, yahda yahda. Which means, it's not where you meet people, but how you interact with them that determines finding people interested in casual sex. It's a screening process regardless of where you meet anyone. If you wanted to stack the deck a little and you like dancing + loud music, then hit clubs. Although that's a little advanced because it requires on-poin…
/r/seduction14/03/22 01:32 AM
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Stay mad. Its the truth if they decide to have sex consensually its at nobody’s expense. They both agreed to it. Again fuck off 5 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4: Keep it Civil and on Topic
/r/seduction12/03/22 11:33 AM
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Well if complaining about it on reddit doesn't help I might have to go the way of Chloroform rag and duct tape. And that's a ban
/r/seduction12/03/22 11:31 AM
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1 After a certain number of women, it just becomes so meaningless, it feels samey and bland, it feels like there's no excitement. This feeling is common if one has fallen into a pattern of pursuing things they don't actually want. It's also common for men to define their manhood according to their ability to keep meeting and hooking up with new girls. What's lost in the shuffle here is the fact that it's a slightly different process pursuing a relationship, as opposed to pursuing casual sex, whi…
/r/seduction12/03/22 07:38 AM
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You just didn't have the skillset / knowledge to move it into a romantic direction so she forever moved on. It's absolutely true that a lack of game can screw things up for a guy in situations where the girl happened to be up for it. And it's tricky because without the ability to read minds, it's sometimes hard to tell when someone is up for it without good game. The misconception is that game creates attraction. It doesn't. Not everyone has the same tastes, or is attracted to the same people. A…
/r/seduction12/03/22 07:01 AM
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1 So my question is, once emotions get involved, how do y’all personally keep things exactly where they are? The issue here is that if the emotions have already gotten involved, then it's already too late. 2 How do you say “sorry you’re starting to fall in love but I just want to keep fucking, and nothing more”? It's in the approach from the start. There's a pretty prominent coach from a few years back named James Marshall who put out an excellent video on dating multiple people at once. In that…
/r/seduction12/03/22 03:58 AM
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1 Context: It's loud and most likely I won't be able to hear what she is saying. Look, these places are loud and chaotic. And they're also quite obviously organized around dancing and enjoying music. Which means they're heavily focused on nonverbal communication. Which means no one's expecting you to open interactions verbally. And it's kind of awkward if you try, like walking up to people at a LAN party and taking off their headphones to try and talk to them while they're in the middle of a mat…
/r/seduction12/03/22 03:33 AM
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1 Hey everyone so I recently moved to a new city, I have no friends here and I really miss my old social life. Most of my time is spent either at work or at home This has been a pretty common state of affairs for many people dating back decades. 2 I don’t go to college and I got no hobbies I can do right now. I’ve hung out with some dudes at work but it didn’t happen again. I’m wondering how could I meet new people or a date? There are a lot of ways if we sit back and think about it. But they do…
/r/seduction10/03/22 05:15 AM
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I don’t think many guys understand what women truly desire. Women are inferior to men. Make her your bitch. Tell her to shut the fuck up. Slap her. Spit on her. Pull her hair. Make her feel completely helpless. You're in the wrong sub
/r/seduction10/03/22 12:44 AM
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... how to actually be a good partner.... It is valid enough to pursue casual sex in a consensual situation though. ....women are talked about effectively as holes....Talk of body counts Definitely happens. And it's not constructive. There was a separation about 8 years ago between the red pill community and this one, back when the red pill subs got quarantined. But a lot of them and a lot of other frustrated dudes still come here periodically. They often don't read the rules and get banned, to …
/r/seduction10/03/22 12:34 AM
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I do need to work on my social skills. I have been told I'm charming but that's only if I'm in the right mood. But what have they said that indicated to you people think you're a player? Sometimes I just don't know how to progress the conversation and I end up just talking abut the weather or some shit. Small talk is a perfectly natural place to start. In fact, it's a great place to start. The key is really not so much what topics to try for, but how to follow up on her responses to small talk. …
/r/seduction10/03/22 12:00 AM
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In the future, posts like this belong on AskSeddit, not Seddit. (See Rule #1) But also consider: 1 So, there is this 8/10 girl that ghosted on me in august 2021, after we set a date. Context matters and you've given none about what constitutes some of the most important parts of your interaction with this girl. It's common for dudes coming here looking for advice too simply supply the results but nothing that led up to those results. Without the lead-up, it's going to be a bunch of people making…
/r/seduction09/03/22 11:53 PM
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Wait did I tell u part of the reason she stopped talking to me is also because when she was getting ready to leave i was replying to a snap my sister sent me and it turned into a video and in the video it recorded her voice since my phone was broken and when I went to show her she refused to see it and it was literally a vid of my face Sounds like a dumb situation. ....and during that time I apologized to her but she thought I was taking a vid of her putting on her pants. People can be emotional…
/r/seduction09/03/22 04:28 PM
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Effects of Porn and Masturbation on Approaching Girls. You're asking a scientific question on a forum of people who aren't scientists. You're going to have to read up on the scientific research yourself, unfortunately.
/r/seduction09/03/22 04:22 PM
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1 How do I stop girls from assuming I'm just a player? There's often a misconception that there's some sort of one-size-fits-all game that one has to learn and then all women are similarly unlocked. In reality, different things work for different people. That's why some people who might seem to lack game still get laid, even if on an inconsistent basis. And on this note, The things that attract people seeking casual sex are often different from the things that attract well-adjusted people who wa…
/r/seduction09/03/22 04:14 AM
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1 I (23m) spotted a beautiful girl (20f) in college campus, I sat next to her then we started talking. For future reference, if you're going to ask questions about what went wrong or how to proceed, you need to actually say what you actually did. Seduction is a two-way interaction and you skated right over details about what you actually said or did specifically. Details matter and it's impossible to really tell whether this person was truly boring or just put off by your opener or something els…
/r/seduction09/03/22 12:36 AM
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1 Let me explain what I mean. When I approach or ask a girl personal questions. Things like work, family, age, whether she has kids...I tend to keep my voice down in public so others won't hear. For these kinds of questions, if you're just meeting her, then hitting on small talk topics first and getting too deeper topics through good follow-up questions is a better way to get personal because it won't feel invasive. If you just segue straight into personal questions, that can risk putting people…
/r/seduction09/03/22 12:11 AM
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We've all read the rules, right? Posts regarding specific situations or specific people belong on AskSeddit, not Seddit. That's Rule #1.
/r/seduction08/03/22 04:13 PM
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1 I don’t use Instagram and I haven’t for about 7-8 years now. I honestly think it’s the worst social media for mental health with TikTok in close competition. None of it is necessary, per se. But some form of social media account/presence is basically modern cultures new version of having a phone number. It's not important that you post regularly or keep up with the Kardashians or whatever. What's important is that you have an account that stands as a point of contact. I know a lot of people wh…
/r/seduction08/03/22 04:07 PM
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1 I (23m) spotted a beautiful girl (20f) in college campus, I sat next to her then we started talking. What was your opener? How did the interaction start off exactly? What exactly did you say and how exactly did she respond? 2 She does nothing besides doing college stuff and hanging out with friends. No future visions, plans, hobbies, ambitions, original opinions about whatever, nothing that I could pull a longer conversation out of. You can turn any small talk topic into something more with go…
/r/seduction08/03/22 08:16 AM
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1 Why do beautiful women go for obese, ugly, butch lesbians? The issue here is that attraction is subjective. If you get a group of people in a room and ask them who their 10s are, one person's 10 is going to be another person's 7 or 6. Whoever people go for, they find that person attractive in some way, even if other people disagree. 2 It’s strange cause the average man, average height, and in shape has trouble. But the manly lesbian doesn’t have to be in shape.... It's strange because you're w…
/r/seduction07/03/22 03:34 PM
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Three girls, I go for the hottest one (9+/10), tall, black hair and dress. Small point of order, everyone's personal taste is subjective, so the "hottest one" is going to vary for different people. But it's still a great achievement to step up to someone you personally find so attractive. Slaying your own inner dragons there! No small feat at all.
/r/seduction07/03/22 05:28 AM
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noooooo women do not seek sex.... deformed man here, i have had the cops called on me 3 separate times for trying to talk to women. Get real. This is not the first time you've posted here simply to vent about your situation while remaining unwilling or unable to work on things that could change your situation. You're in the wrong sub. Your situation does not apply to everyone else.
/r/seduction06/03/22 09:25 AM
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Kindly report them and don't engage next time.
/r/seduction06/03/22 01:38 AM
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Temporary 5 day ban for breaking Rule 5. See the pinned comment for more information
/r/seduction06/03/22 01:37 AM
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1 Never take dating advice from women Women are notoriously terrible at giving dating advice to men. Rule 5 exists for a reason. People who lack self-awareness and insight give bad advice. A In women, that can often take the form of: Girls saying they like nice guys. Telling spineless dudes to never change and that they'll just find someone eventually. And so on. We've heard it all. B In men, that can take the form of: Dudes telling men with absolutely no social skill foundation to go do 100 app…
/r/seduction06/03/22 01:34 AM
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Look I fucking hate women at this point. It can be frustrating when society doesn't do a great job of passing on basic social skills to men. It really does a shitty job of it. But why are you here? This is the seduction subreddit. Not the women hating subreddit. The rules expressly forbid rants. And everything here is geared towards improving oneself to meet one's dating goals, whether that's finding a serious relationship or casual sex. Kindly ask yourself what you really wanted to accomplish h…
/r/seduction05/03/22 03:10 PM
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1 Some countries (like mine) are still half closed.... Which country? (If you want to say?) 2 and masking and everyone is super apprehensive to strangers and nobody wants interaction it seems. It can be easy for a negative thoughts to run a while in our heads and create a narrative before we realize what has happened. But the truth remains that humans are social creatures and ultimately do want interaction and connection. There's certainly might be some fear and other things in the mix now but i…
/r/seduction05/03/22 12:37 AM
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Kindly refrain from linked mentions of other subreddits. It can notify people at those subs and lead to flame wars.
/r/seduction04/03/22 05:19 AM
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1 To add to what OP said, those posts from guys who have come to dump on any notion of improvement, are expressly forbidden. They don't belong here. But to dive into this a bit..... 2 It's a reality that activity on many advice subreddits is going to be affected by two particular groups of people: Newbs who come here wanting to learn and then prematurely decide they have figured out more of the picture than they actually have. (See: The Dunning Kruger Effect) People who have given up and are ven…
/r/seduction04/03/22 05:18 AM
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I got -70 karma for mentioning these points on that EXACT post just for criticizing someone about cold approach being creepy, it’s sad seeing them turn this place into what is now It's just a sad fact of the current day that at any given time, one can be downvoted into oblivion for simply pointing out common sense, because humans are emotional and it is a really chaotic time in history right now where everything is kind of upside down for a lot of people. Tangent: I think we kind of take for gra…
/r/seduction04/03/22 03:33 AM
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1 It’s weird because I am the person who is the most spontaneous, the most forward driving..... Perhaps my version of fun is talking about our goals......Not everyone wants to think about the future, but that’s all I do and I love it. So let's rewind. You previously said: ...other guys will swoop right in and with extremely minimal effort (literally just grabs the girl off the her feet and kisses her) will get her interest and they will hook up later. What those guys are doing is something I've …
/r/seduction04/03/22 02:44 AM
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Also what are some clothing’s I should post on my snap story that show a high value lifestyle or an abundance mindset Gonna be real: I don't worry about any of that. Why? Real connection (whether for a relationship or casual sex) happens in person, not remotely. Chasing likes or approval one social media is not necessary and risks coming off as try hard, no matter how one tries to frame it. Honestly, social media is really like a new, glorified version of a telephone number. Great for keeping in…
/r/seduction03/03/22 08:14 AM
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Ignore? Ask yourself why she's worth all this energy you're putting into it. I mean, you could block but it seems just a bit petty and over the top. Removing might be fine but again all of this is way more thought than you need to be putting into anything.
/r/seduction03/03/22 12:40 AM
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1 Feeling high value but not seeing the results First off, the concept of "value" is not helpful really. What people value varies between each person. It's subjective. High value to one person can be really low value to another. Seduction: what is it really? It's a form of social interaction. Which means the determining factor for getting successful results requires having basic social skills. Some subjective notion of what you consider value, says nothing about the skills necessary for anyone t…
/r/seduction03/03/22 12:24 AM
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1 What is it with girls when they see other women are interested in you, they become super interested? This is a pretty common human thing: to want what others have, to reaffirm their perceived value by struggling to get something, or to want something it appears others want. If you think about it, it's not really that strange. 2 Like a very handsome coworker of mine, he slept with 3 girls so far at work, and seems like all women at work are all over him now. It may seem that way but it may not …
/r/seduction03/03/22 12:08 AM
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1 I'll hear people casually mention 'so I met them at a party, one thing led to another and half an hour later I was raw dogging her in an alleyway'. Something like this could happen although The more likely scenario is that it generally takes more than half an hour. One night stands are a thing though, and you likely know this. 2 Maybe not always that intense, but it seems like sex is something that should naturally proceed attraction between two people - for many people it does, but it never j…
/r/seduction03/03/22 12:00 AM
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1 I know this is a very stupid thought, but it's how I honestly feel sometimes. I mean, what you're feeling is normal. Doesn't mean it reflects what's really happening: the mind can distort our perception of reality when we get preoccupied with something, especially if we aren't having a good time. 2 Oops didn't kiss her long enough for emotions to develop, so now she's gone. Bottom line, someone is either up for it or they aren't. There are no tricks or special behaviors inherently needed for t…
/r/seduction02/03/22 11:51 PM
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1 How would you compliment an older woman? Compliments are not really that necessary in basic conversation. Active listening and good follow-up are more important than trying to come up with some sort of optimal complement. 2 I feel like calling an older woman cute sounds off. How would you compliment a older woman in an cold approach? Complimenting in cold approach is optional, not necessary. If you're going to do it then you need something more than a simple adjective. If you're going to bothe…
/r/seduction02/03/22 11:26 PM
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1 why not just hire an escort? If you really want to, then do it. It can demystify things a bit, especially if one is a virgin. It's not a healthy habit in the long term. 2 I mean you guys are trying to make a science out of women who are ASEXUAL. Saying women are asexual makes about as much sense as saying all men are asexual. 3 Escorts exist because..... Escorts exist because people are willing to pay for sex. And people like to get money. That's it. Not complicated. 4 Only other way is tricke…
/r/seduction02/03/22 11:12 PM
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1 Can u elaborate more on part 2 I’m confused. You know there's some sort of red number or something on an app when there are unread messages. Sometimes people just like to clear that out. It doesn't mean anything. 2 Also it’s on Snapchat by the way and it was on deliverd for basically 2 weeks and she saw I did not watch her snap story on the 13 day so she went to the message I sent read it. You're wasting an awful lot of energy thinking about all this. And making it far more complicated than it…
/r/seduction02/03/22 11:03 PM
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Pull out your dick Quick way to a ban right there.
/r/seduction02/03/22 05:42 AM
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1 I don’t know how to talk and what should I do during the car ride? This is a common issue, to think that one has to think of a "good" thing to talk about in ordet to justify talking at all. But realize this: most people ultimately like talking about themselves. So it's the easiest thing to go to in conversation. We don't need to reinvent the wheel. Just ask normal bullshit/casual/small talk questions about how things have been going. Really listen to what she says. Take it in instead of thinki…
/r/seduction02/03/22 05:41 AM
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1 I think point 3 is the most concise answer, fair enough i agree with, lying is tiresome for most, pretending and wearing masks all the time, but it is honestly much easier than having actual social skills, Well, let's not downplay it so much. Putting on masks and pretending to be someone else is a social skill. But yeah, it's not sustainable. It's tiresome and can be exhausting over time. ​ 2 To the people that lying comes very easy it might be a more efficient idea than actually being interes…
/r/seduction02/03/22 03:39 AM
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Do women treat men with no confidence like shit in general? People with no confidence generally make people uncomfortable because they can tell they are uncomfortable with themselves and often require constant reassurance about basic things that everyone else is learning to cope with themselves. We barely have enough energy to take care of ourselves, so being around someone who sucks up the energy in the room is exhausting. That leads to no/low confidence people generally being avoided by others…
/r/seduction02/03/22 03:11 AM
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1 well if a girl was a total newbie in astrology i could very easily portray myself as an awesome specialist, scholar of such topic..... Making conversation well does not require knowing more about a particular thing than someone else. One could easily "seduce" someone by getting them to talk about something they know a lot about. In fact, it's often easier if the guy gets the girl talking about herself. If the guy is trying to take over or dominate the conversation, too easily comes off as inse…
/r/seduction02/03/22 02:56 AM
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i was just trying to see if the seduction community thought about the topic Again, read the pinned post at the top of the sub and the Rules. This topic has been beaten to death. It's a dead horse at this point.
/r/seduction02/03/22 02:34 AM
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1 Also what should i do if a girl ghosted me be leaving me on deliverd for 13 days I mean, your answering your own question there aren't you? Anyone who's ghosting you and not reading your message for almost 2 weeks clearly doesn't prioritize you. The thing to do is move on. There's no connection there. The misconception about game among noobs is that it's about making anyone feel something. It's really more about learning how to stay out of your own way so that you have the best chance of conne…
/r/seduction02/03/22 12:20 AM
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So signalling this stuff>actually being said stuff, Its more important to look rich than actually being rich? Appearing well spoken than actually being? Read what the guy said again. He didn't say anything about signaling. He said "knowing how to talk to people." Meaning actually being well spoken. There's no way to "appear" well spoken. You have either built up those skills or you haven't.
/r/seduction02/03/22 12:05 AM
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Please read the rules and the pinned post before posting or commenting. It addresses looks. Also, seduction is a form of social interaction. Which means it requires social skills. Money isn't going to navigate a social interaction for you. Having status doesn't mean one knows how to successfully navigate a social interaction either. So you're barking up the wrong tree with the whole post.
/r/seduction02/03/22 12:00 AM
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1 Should I follow this girl on Instagram? So I(M29) met this girl(F29) in my CrossFit class and we have been talking at the beginning and ending of every class for a couple of months now. She even asked if I wanted to partner up for a partner WOD. I am having trouble figuring out if she is interested in me. If she's been talking with you at the beginning and end of every class, that's not a bad sign. The bad sign here is that you've been doing nothing for a couple of months. There's no magic tri…
/r/seduction28/02/22 02:26 AM
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Let's be real here, you didn't read the rules before posting. Kindly read the pinned post about the updated rules and the rules themselves next time because they address this very issue.
/r/seduction28/02/22 02:16 AM
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1 Cold Approaching is most of the time extremely ineffective One of the dirty little secrets in the seduction community is that pickup coaches often push cold approaching as an initial technique because it's very difficult to get successful results without having your basic foundational social skills down already.... Which means a lot of guys fail at it and stay dependent on paying coaches for more services to help them improve. 2 I dont see why guys on this sub push it so hard. A lot of it is a…
/r/seduction26/02/22 04:36 PM
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Ok so how do I move on from this In terms of what? In terms of the girl, obviously you let that go. And have a long talk with yourself about how, "When the girl is down, she's down." This shit doesn't require magic. People know pretty quickly if they're feeling it. It shouldn't require games to get in there. If she's down, she'll be a willing accomplice in making shit happen.
/r/seduction26/02/22 01:06 AM
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I don't know about books but Matthew Hussey has a pretty decent channel.
/r/seduction25/02/22 05:09 AM
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Is doing that too much kind of cucky? Whatever you like, as long as we're in a situation with consenting adults. Your own personal tastes are your own and you don't have to ask permission to have them.
/r/seduction25/02/22 04:48 AM
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I've seen so many "woe is me" posts in the last few days claiming if you arent a Roman statue you have no chance... Those posts violate Rule 7. The response should be to report those posts. Not debate them. Please see the pinned post at the top of the subreddit on the updated rules. This debate was tired YEARS ago. This isn't the place for more "looks matter/looks don't matter" debate posts.
/r/seduction25/02/22 02:55 AM
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1 I would walk up & ask her name & after getting her name id say .. “you’re cute where’s your bf at?” She’s either gonna say “at work” at home” or “at school” .. then thats when i’d usually say “tell’em he’s a lucky man because you’re beautiful, nice meeting you” & go about your day. But if she says “i don’t have a bf” then that was the green light to ask for her number. So it usually went something like “i don’t have a bf” then I’d say “really? i find that hard to believe cuz you’re beautiful. …
/r/seduction25/02/22 02:49 AM
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Sorry, I don't speak coon. Have a nice day. And that's a permanent ban
/r/seduction25/02/22 02:20 AM
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1 Firstly, please read the pinned post about the Updated rules for the sub: When evaluating if a post is appropriate, the golden rule is to ask yourself: "Does this post help someone get laid or land a relationship?" A rant, does not meet this minimum bar. ​ 2 Unpopular opinion: This subreddit teaches 'fake' methods for desperate & insecure guys. Newbs come here. And the Dunning Kruger Effect is a thing, meaning that they're likely to quickly think they know more than they do and then decide the…
/r/seduction25/02/22 02:12 AM
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1 I am a college student, 5’10 245lbs and a virgin So right off, let's tackle some basic truths: A lot of men graduate high school without having picked up basic social skills. It's not really our fault. It's the way society works. Manhood is just defined in such a way that boys end up developing a lot of unhelpful ideas and unintentionally neglecting important areas. Having gotten to college as a virgin, it makes things doubly difficult because we would like to partake in dating but really have…
/r/seduction24/02/22 03:17 AM
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On being nervous; this sub loves to talk about importance of never feeling nervous, but industry giants like Mark Manson and Mystery will openly admit to being nervous during approaches. So which is it? Couple things: It's impossible to have a constructive conversation about this unless you're citing all your sources. None of the coaches who know what they're doing say that it's "important to never feel nervous." On the other hand, a lot of newbs come here looking for advice and end up giving ad…
/r/seduction24/02/22 02:54 AM
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To add to what OP said here: No one is having a great time dating. Men are assumed to be the ones in the driver's seat as the ones expected to approach. But most of us graduate high school without the basic social skills needed to do this successfully. Society is not great at passing on effective social skills to men. Instead, we fumble about trying to figure it out ourselves. Women are assumed to have a ton of choice because dudes come to them. But just as men aren't attracted to every woman th…
/r/seduction24/02/22 02:43 AM
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But the straw that broke the camels back was about to arrive. As we were walking to the bar to grab drinks, we kept playing the guessing game about each other. We landed on religion, and I correctly guessed she was religious, and what branch. She asked if I was, and I answered no.... The conversation didn't flow as easy, she seemed like she was kind of in her phone, she wasn't really looking at me as much. The signs of interest had been lost. Dating is always a process of elimination. It was at …
/r/seduction24/02/22 12:00 AM
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1 It drives me how wild how society raises men to be soft, but craves men with edge. Society has basically spent all these years trying to cram you to being a people pleaser, but its appealing to almost no body. Let's think about the stereotypical man's man here. Culture plays out in movies and on TV shows so let's draw from actors who play prominent characters in various forms of media. Hugh Jackman Ryan Gosling Robert Downey Jr. Zac Efron Henry Cavill Tom Cruise And so on. Now what kinds of tr…
/r/seduction23/02/22 04:14 PM
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1 ..... he "claimed" her for himself and doesnt "allow" me to to go out with her. Of course, you cannot own a person and this guy cannot make you do anything. The real issue is perhaps that you don't want to risk whatever connection or friendship you have with this guy? 2 I followed her on instagram and she followed me back and keeps liking my posts. She added me to her close friends on instagram and she definitely wants to go out with me. Yesterday he messaged why I followed her, that he is sho…
/r/seduction23/02/22 04:52 AM
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Being hot includes: Hygiene. Dressing with style, accessories, body hair, haircut and/or beard, tattoos and/or piercings if that’s your thing. Body language. Voice. Couple notes in no particular order: Hygiene is more of a compulsory thing. A bare minimum. Part of taking care of yourself. Dressing with "style" can be subjective. In general, clothes that fit are great. But as to the fashion style, there is plenty of room to maneuver. It can be instructive to get the opinions of women working at a…
/r/seduction23/02/22 04:13 AM
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We did not have sex. We just made out and i fingerd her we were close to sex but she said “I should not” I guess this only emphasizes further the lack of compatibility on any level if you didn't make it to full-on sex. Believe it or not, it's possible to make it pretty far with there being incompatibilities that even stifle the possibility of casual sex, let alone anything further. I've even seen that from the guys perspective before. I knew a guy who got so wrapped up in the game of it all that…
/r/seduction23/02/22 12:34 AM
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1 So for the future should i not try too make a move like that again cuz could have that given the impression I only want sex? Various actions that are typical of someone seeking casual sex, can repel relationship seekers or affect the chances for a relationship. It's just something to be aware of. It's not that there's one path to take. It's about evaluating the person in front of you as you make your way through that first date/meet and reacting according to how the chemistry is shaking out. S…
/r/seduction22/02/22 12:35 AM
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1 Also I told her I wanted to see her again and that I had a good time but she got me on delivered so idk what to say to her Doesn't change anything I already commented. If she's not answering, that's it. There's no magic thing to say to change her. Sounds like it was a proper fling. Sometimes flings run their course after one night. It happens. 2 If your goal is a relationship at some point, it's going to help to not start off things the same way one might with a fling. There's a certain way ab…
/r/seduction21/02/22 04:45 PM
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1 Obviously highly subjective, but is it harder for a guy in this age range to date women in their early 20s? It is if you aren't creating a social life for yourself and then assume that your college social life was a function of age, rather than circumstances that one could deliberately reproduce. 2 There are plenty of other factors to consider, but wanted to know whether it gets harder as you reach your 30s. Generally speaking, if one is pessimistic and hasn't figured any of this out, everythi…
/r/seduction21/02/22 04:20 PM
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1 Casual and if I mess with her then relationship It's obviously fine to pursue casual sex. It's also fine to pursue relationships. But it often leads to a lot of unnecessary drama and complications if one pursues a relationship with someone who is casual sex material, and vice versa. So it's generally a good idea to have your head on straight as far as what you actually want before you go into situations because one sets the tone of the interaction with the way they conduct themselves in the ea…
/r/seduction20/02/22 02:43 AM
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1 You make a good point, just the other day I was talking to someone and I wasn’t attracted to them until they became attracted to me, it was like a light switch first they weren’t interested then they were. Couple things here: What actually kicked off interest in them? It shouldn't simply be them being attracted. By itself, that shouldn't change anything. They wouldn't have suddenly become attracted. What actually happens is that it can take a while for their interest to become clear to us as w…
/r/seduction20/02/22 01:55 AM
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I can respond to whatever I want. You have no right to keep me from it. What you were doing was kicking off and participating a flame war, which breaks Rule 6. Temporary 5 day ban
/r/seduction20/02/22 01:24 AM
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I’m 23M. Me and this girl met up for ice cream, and ended up at my place for a hookup about an hour later. Everything seemed fine, then when she got back home, she blocked me on everything. Could be a million different things, but it wasn't random. There was just something going on with her that she didn't feel like sharing. It happens. Some likely candidates: Too insecure to handle the fact you didn't finish. Cheating on someone and covering her tracks. Conservative and felt bad about doing the…
/r/seduction20/02/22 01:15 AM
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1 I don’t know why I got downvoted, I was giving my honest opinion as a woman.... Unfortunately, there are some angry, frustrated dudes around here who see red when a comment includes that phrase. They like to go on about "not asking a fish how to fish," etc. It's nonsense because any advice should be evaluated without getting hung up on where it's coming from. We had to add a rule against this stuff because people were derailing entire threads over whether the person talking had a vagina or not…
/r/seduction20/02/22 01:09 AM
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.....she does not like to do one night stands cuz they are meaningless and she likes to build more of a emotional connection..... What are you actually looking for, a relationship or something casual? You left that out and it's actually key information.
/r/seduction20/02/22 12:57 AM
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Wait i did not rape her Look up the definition of the word you were using. Hook up = fucking/having sex. So if you're saying you hooked up, it's confusing when you also say she didn't want to have sex. Next time just be more careful with word choice, is all.
/r/seduction20/02/22 12:55 AM
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5 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4 and 6. This isn't the place for rants. Next time please read the pinned post about the updated rules.
/r/seduction20/02/22 12:45 AM
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1 That’s a really good point, so everything that I have done so far has been documented on my profile. For future reference though a lot of us don't always have time to go rooting around through your profile. Especially moderators. So communicating well is helpful here. Even just a basic summary, kind of like what you started to do later in this comment. 2 To me a cold approach is being able to go up and talk to someone while being able to make a positive impact on their day, and have it be good…
/r/seduction19/02/22 12:18 AM
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1 I honestly have no idea what the actual term to describe the women referred to in the title, but they usually have long nails, big earrings (like Saweetie or Cardi B). In my area most of the girls are Black, Middle Eastern and Russian and basically all have this exact same look. As long as you know what you're into, doesn't really matter what name you give it. An important thing to consider going forward though, is that if you haven't actually dated these women before, then you may well find o…
/r/seduction19/02/22 12:02 AM
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Which means he didn't screen for legit chemistry like I was suggesting. He was so hard up for validation that he only went there specifically because he knew he could. It's a sad, desperate place to be in, where one can't turn someone down because they need the temporary high they'd get by hooking up with a new partner.
/r/seduction17/02/22 04:27 PM
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I noticed women don’t like me for being rational and understanding. What are you literally saying or doing that they don't like?
/r/seduction17/02/22 08:20 AM
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If you ain’t want to have sex why get head from her? Sometimes a person may discover that the chemistry isn't there during the early stages, enough to know it's time to hit that eject button. This can happen for many reasons. I knew a guy who thought the girl was hot but then she went buzzsaw on his cock when she gave him head. It was so bad he went limp. He should have declined sex at that point but he didn't know any better. I knew another guy who pulled off some pretty good game and was patti…
/r/seduction17/02/22 08:14 AM
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It's the truth tough. You don't ask a fish how to fish. Read the rules. Specifically Rule 5. Having actual discourse about the merits of various advice is welcome. Changing the subject to an off topic subject and then creating a flame war with people is not. We want people to have the best information and that comes from discourse that stays on topic, not something that goes off on tangents based on someone simply declaring advice as good or bad depending on who said it. And also, 5-day temporar…
/r/seduction17/02/22 04:13 AM
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.... there’s a convention on this subreddit that women can’t give good dating advice. Kindly check the rules. Rule 5 specifically forbids off topic things like changing the subject to the person giving advice. Which is what people are doing when they trot out the tired old "asking a fish to fish thing." So report it if you see it because it is against the rules. If people are coming here to get the best information then staying on topic means discussing the advice for its own merits, not going o…
/r/seduction17/02/22 04:09 AM
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1 Legality of cold approaches What is a cold approach, really? We're talking about starting a conversation with a stranger. That. is. legal. That said, not everyone has the same understanding of what "cold approach" means and some people unintentionally do end up harassing people while trying to "build up" their social skills. ​ 2 My friend told me what I’m doing is being creepy and it’s only a matter of time until I land in jail for harassment charges. Well, that's the crux of the matter, isn't…
/r/seduction17/02/22 02:57 AM
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how do you become funny and witty? people think i am funny, but it’s usually when im not trying I think a lot of it involves paying attention. If you're actively engaged and paying attention to the current moment, you're more likely to notice something funny or interesting or be in a position to make connections other people won't be, because realistically, most people don't really pay attention.
/r/seduction17/02/22 02:32 AM
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1 I'm a 22 year old man who has never had a girlfriend or sex. Zero intimacy. Aside from being a statistical anomaly, The human mind is a funny thing. There are well-known limitations and bugs in the way it works and processes information. Some of these limitations are called cognitive biases. They are NECESSARY because there's a limited amount of brain power and processing available but a whole shit ton of data out there to be both observed and processed. So cognitive biases are little shortcut…
/r/seduction17/02/22 02:30 AM
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/r/seduction16/02/22 07:02 AM
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1 Let’s say that you’re not ‘sure’ if you’re on a date or just a meet up, testing the waters so to speak, and another girl comes up to you asking for your number, would it be a bad thing to take the number, if you find her attractive? Is this a theoretical or did it really happen? If it really happened, can you elaborate: What were you doing exactly with the other girl when the second one came up? How did the girl open conversation? What did she talk about with you before she asked for your numb…
/r/seduction16/02/22 06:58 AM
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1 Being straight up at the airport. Here's the thing: Humans are social creatures. Social interactions have a certain process to them, whether or not we understand it at first or not. What you're talking about doing here is not being straight, but trying to skip over huge sections of the process, into something that's really quite physically intimate. 2 I have a long layover at LAX coming up and it got me thinking. If you just straight up asked some girls at the airport after some minor conversa…
/r/seduction16/02/22 03:07 AM
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This belongs in /r/askseddit as it is asking advice for a specific situation / girl This will stay in spam filter, please repost in the AskSeddit subreddit.(Not askREDDIT, but askSEDDIT) Please read RULES & GUIDELINES. This post is answered by many SIDEBAR guides. I would also recommend reading 10-20 of the top posts on Seddit: FOUND HERE Also, don't worry about it! You didn't do anything wrong since you didn't know
/r/seduction16/02/22 02:23 AM
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1 Why can't I build the confidence to approach a woman i find attractive. I know I can but then I get in my own head and end up demolishing that confidence how do you guys remove that feeling.... It sounds like you're trying to "build up the confidence" Only at that moment. Nope. This kind of thing is something you need to be working on well before you actually have the woman in front of you. Trying to do it when the woman is in front of you is like throwing a 5 year old boy who doesn't know how…
/r/seduction16/02/22 02:04 AM
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1 Fast forward to college: I came to a top public school in LA, and was rife with a bad case of oneitis - to the point where I virtually fell in love with this one girl. We got close, I was basically just considered a friend for not showing any indications of interest, but I caught hella strong feelings. I decided that, in order to build up some courage and confidence - I’d tell her what I felt. I basically told her I loved her, and said some super cringey and romantic stuff which in hindsight I…
/r/seduction16/02/22 12:37 AM
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1 So went out w/ this college chick who I met at a bar. Lots of chemistry, we hooked up. A few days went by and I text her. She responds very distantly..... What exactly did you text her? How exactly did she respond? How many days did you wait before you texted back? 2 I followed up to see if she wanted to hang out again. But then I got no response (been over a day). What exactly did you text this time? 3 What gives? How do I play this from here? Give a call one and then give up forever? I would…
/r/seduction16/02/22 12:16 AM
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1 Should you tell girls about your other female friends? Off-hand, doing something like this specifically for some sort of strategic value only would possibly come off stilted and weird. And could easily backfire. It's better to just follow normal conversation flow. Like you talk to her about basic things: the so-called small talk. But you have to actively listen to her when she's talking. Then follow up on what she actually just said. Pick something out from her response and ask about that spec…
/r/seduction15/02/22 11:21 PM
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1 The woman, herself tells her friend to back off, and that we're having a conversation. But in similar situations in future, how do you guys recommend dealing with such characters? To summarize the thread here, you don't need deal with other dudes. The girl will do it herself. In fact, her doing so is a pretty good sign. If she does not do so, then she's not up for it.
/r/seduction15/02/22 03:54 PM
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1 What went down was that I noticed her paying extra attention to me and always told me good bye whenever I was about to leave work. So I gave her my number and starter chatting with her. Just the basic openers like "hey this is the guy from work". She asked basic get to know you question like are you single? How long was it since you were in a relationship? Blah blah. So, right off the top, there are some basic red flags: A.) When people are getting to know each other, the very basic assumption…
/r/seduction15/02/22 01:59 AM
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I, personally, don’t have the energy or time to focus on my STEM degree, sleep well, hang out with friends, go to my chess club, exercise, and eat well. You ultimately have control over your own schedule. There are certain things that you certainly have to do in terms of academic responsibilities but there's some leeway. You seem to be implying that you don't have time to do all those things: so which of the things you listed there do you actually do?
/r/seduction13/02/22 11:53 PM
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1 David buss says that in his book written together he has another woman identified 237 reasons why a woman has sex with men while men for 4 reasons have sex with women. We're dealing with evolutionary psychology here, which is a scientific discussion that's pretty complicated. There's a constant dialogue that occurs as peer review occurs and people check each other's work. And one of the issues with evolutionary psychology is that it is a proposal he has made which is based on things we cannot …
/r/seduction13/02/22 11:49 PM
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1 I started talking with this girl from work but after few weeks later I lost interest since she tried to play mind games with me which I wasn't in the mood for. This is perfectly valid and sometimes we need to follow our gut instincts. However, you've left out quite a lot of information that's important. What exactly went down when you "started talking with this girlfriend work?" What exactly did you say? How, in general, were you starting conversations? Like what sorts of topics were you discu…
/r/seduction13/02/22 11:36 PM
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Dude, doing all of those things would take years to achieve, and not something the average college kid could do. I've rebuilt my own social circles repeatedly at this point. It just takes finding social groups that post their meets online. There are so many that do this, based on a variety of different interests and activities. Average college kids have options for this staring them right in the face every time they step on campus: college clubs and student groups. And it's not really any harder…
/r/seduction13/02/22 11:12 PM
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This falls under Rule #6: We don't judge people for seeking whatever it is they're seeking. If someone wants to try to be the other guy/girl, we might advise them on: How to do it And possible repercussions But judging their goal as "right" or "wrong" is out of bounds for this sub. Have that conversation somewhere else.
/r/seduction13/02/22 04:43 PM
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1 talking about “pair bonding” and how having a high body count increases the chance of cheating and not being able to bond or sometning. they have cited scientific studies too. I think there's something to the idea that it's harder to settle down if one is used to being in free circulation, as it were. Especially when someone has first figured out how easy it is to date. The prospect of settling down can seem difficult when the world seems to be one's oyster and there always seems to be someone…
/r/seduction12/02/22 04:07 AM
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1 What are some small baby steps I can use to change that? I have my financial game down, working it and going to the gym 3 times a week. Work at home, so I really don’t know where to game/ how . I have been going to book stores and new places The first thing to realize is that seduction is a form of social interaction, which requires social skills. It's not money. It's not physical fitness. You have to build up a social skill set. This might seem daunting but luckily it's a pretty simple matter…
/r/seduction12/02/22 03:51 AM
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1 hmm interesting thanks for the clarity. on the last part, i get this weird sick feeling in my stomach when a girl tells me her body count and it’s like kinda a lot (for an 18-19 year old imo) On this topic, why is this subject even coming up? Everyone has a past. If you don't want to get into yours, don't bring it up with other people. I'd advise you to consider screening out people who are focused on bringing up body count specifically because preoccupation with someone else's "number" is bor…
/r/seduction12/02/22 03:33 AM
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1 how does one go about finding girls that are “wife material” Long story short, you obviously have to meet people. That means you have to create a social life for yourself. That means finding gatherings of people that would put you into contact with new people. The good news is that there are a lot of groups that meet regularly and post their events publicly online for people who want to join up. 2 im a freshmen at college and came in as a virgin. i discovered self improvement during quarantine…
/r/seduction12/02/22 03:17 AM
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1 I dated an objective 9/10 girl for a year and now don't feel I'll ever get a girl that hot again. I'm not sure if you're ready for this advice yet, given the title of your post. But attraction is the funny thing in humans. If you gather a group of people into a room and ask them to rate their 10s, it'll be impossible to get consensus on who should be a 10. One person's 10 will be another person's 6 or 7. Attraction is subjective. So while this girl might be a 9 out of 10 for you, that is not o…
/r/seduction11/02/22 12:27 PM
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/u/ThenBenefit: My video is not about learning about how well Ferguson does with women..... That didn't relate at all with the reason the video was taken down. It was two-fold: You are using an artificial situation to try and prove techniques in the real world. Watching this guy navigate the banter in a PR meet is not the same as watching someone in an interaction that's not so contrived. It would be like comparing a hired gun's friendliness to that same girl being friendly outside of a work sit…
/r/seduction10/02/22 12:45 PM
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1 Roommates are having loud sex and I can’t get a girlfriend to save my life. How do I cope? Well first off, if you live there too, then it's not out of line for you to kindly ask them to keep it down. (They might not even realize how loud they're being.) Keeping things quieter is just basic common courtesy for people who share a living space. 2 It bothers me every time it happens because I can’t attract women. What do I do with myself so I stop feeling bitter and salty? The main way you're goin…
/r/seduction10/02/22 05:25 AM
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How good are you at passing shit tests? We all realize that actors and actresses go on shows like that one to promote themselves and they are in PR mode, right? They're going to go along with whatever the host says and attempted to be playful so their public image is good. It also helps them promote whatever their latest movie or thing is. EDIT: So there's a lot of white noise in trying to gauge how well Ferguson actually does with women in this kind of artificial situation. We would need real f…
/r/seduction10/02/22 12:54 AM
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Since i have a girlfriend I feel less motivation to touch a person and can't go further since i don't need any personal connection 🤠 Let's review: You have a girlfriend. Being with her makes you not want or need to go further with other girls. Perhaps if you ought to explain your motivation for wanting to force yourself to do something you yourself say you don't want or need to do?
/r/seduction10/02/22 12:38 AM
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1 I "joked" about dating her and she said "I don't date colleagues". It might seem like this is a way to check her buying temperature or something, but it's not. Joking about dating is essentially putting the cart before the horse. It's like a salesman joking, "So how do you want to pay for this?" before the customer prospect has even had a chance to find out if they're really down. The way to find out if she's down is to just suggest meeting up. 2 Today I found out she was coming to the city I …
/r/seduction09/02/22 11:50 PM
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Temporary 4 day ban for breaking Rule 5
/r/seduction09/02/22 11:35 PM
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1 Hey everyone, long story short I matched with this girl on Saturday and she came over and we hooked up within an hour. While we were having sex she pressured me into taking off the condom and I foolishly agreed. So it's important to take stock of a couple possibilities: It can often be a welcome change of pace when a girl is opening the way this quickly. When it comes to sex without a condom, it generally feels better for most people, so did it really require "pressure?" At the very least, cou…
/r/seduction09/02/22 04:11 PM
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1 We don’t want to game for our entire lives, do we? At some point I need to pull out, get married and build a family. The first thing to realize is no matter what way you game, you affect what kind of people you're attracting into your life. And frequently, it's like a mirror: If you're distrustful, it's more likely you'll act in a way that repels trustworthy people and attracts people one probably shouldn't trust. If one wants casual sex, one will attract like-minded people and repel those see…
/r/seduction07/02/22 12:56 PM
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Temporary 5-day ban for breaking Rule 4 & 6. Keep it civil and on topic, and no judging people for wanting either casual sex or LTRs.
/r/seduction07/02/22 12:42 PM
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1 Long story short. Im part of a friend group (late 20's) where a few years ago, I introduced 3 of my buddies to 7 women and we've all been very close since - two of them are now dating. I'm known in the group for having a colorful dating life. the women always ask about my dating. and I always respond humbled and low key (I don't ever like to come across as too sexual or serial dater-ish). Exactly how or in what way is your dating life known as "colorful?" What sort of details do they have? Wha…
/r/seduction07/02/22 05:04 AM
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Does the sub take any stance on misogyny? If guys are trying to date women, it is a losing proposition to hate people that one is then trying to spend time with. It leads to either repelling good people with the bad attitude, or attracting the worst people who only confirm one's negative assumptions. Which leads to a self-destructive downward spiral. Basically, the overall stance from the mod team is that misogyny is not constructive. For example, recent posts about guys struggling to come to te…
/r/seduction06/02/22 11:37 PM
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Although nothing is wrong with calling someone cute or beautiful, I hear that it gets pretty boring and tedious to hear, especially for a girl who maybe constantly hears it. So I wanted to update my vocabulary, and add more words that can invoke some emotions or flattery. Focusing on conversation skills has more utility than trying to figure out a special word / compliment to give someone. For a compliment to land, it needs to be more than a one-word adjective. It needs to be something with some…
/r/seduction06/02/22 04:27 PM
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1 Just something I've noticed. It's important to note that each individual's experiences are impacted by a myriad of factors that lead to vastly different results. So what you see doesn't necessarily reflect a general rule for everyone. And the conclusions you reach may not take into account factors you're not aware of. 2 For the last couple girls I've been talking to, all signs pointed to everything going well. But then I have one moment where I'm not really locked in and butter smooth and it s…
/r/seduction06/02/22 01:49 AM
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1 1st meet of a woman from a dating app last night. Went out for drinks. Everything was going well, was getting IOIs, arm touching, laughs etc After about 30 minutes and 2 drinks I step away to use the restroom. When I come back there's another woman in my seat. It's a friend that happened to have stopped in same place by chance and they started chatting...... This morning date girl sent me a message about how it was "weak of you to walk off pouting. I wish you would have stayed because I had fu…
/r/seduction04/02/22 07:37 PM
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1 Last time I cold approached 30 girls on the college campus and got turned down by all. This doesn't give much detail. Where are you typically approaching them? What kind of opener do you use? / How do you start conversations? **What are you talking about with them? How do you come up with openers? How do you come up with conversation topics or things to say? At what point are you getting turned down and for what exactly are you getting turned down? 2 I am a college student I am have been going…
/r/seduction04/02/22 07:16 PM
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Both seem to have a reputation of hurting a man's ability to feel real sex. Which do you personal think is a worse demon? Taken to excess, they're both tools of an escapist to avoid dealing with real issues they need to be dealing with. The issue is not porn or weed themselves, but people over-self-medicating (with porn or weed) because they lack guidance or insight on how to address their lack of ability to navigate social situations to get things they'd like, like sex, friends, or a relationsh…
/r/seduction04/02/22 03:22 AM
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1 I’m 23 talking to girls my age. I have to have personality right, be happy charming happy go lucky.... So I focus on myself and my own grind, but then I have no time to do fun things, I have no energy to always be happy go lucky.... Work life balance is definitely important. And it's common to swing between extremes before one figures out their path. This part kind of transcends "seduction." It's about you taking care of you. 2 If I love them and try to take care of them and make their lives e…
/r/seduction03/02/22 07:53 AM
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Wtf are you on you dumb bitch, any man in his 40s-50s who’s right in his head won’t be looking for an 18 year old. Tf is wrong w you. Just cause you’re 18 don’t meant shit you fuckhead. You're not only breaking Rule 4 aggressively, but so judging people for being consenting adults. You're in the wrong sub.
/r/seduction01/02/22 03:14 PM
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Women are low, unreliable creatures anyways. They are beneath us. Why should we fear them? They're literally just a hole for your dick to get off in. You're in the wrong sub
/r/seduction01/02/22 03:12 PM
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You were here a few weeks ago posting about carrying money as if it was game, and now this. You're in the wrong sub.
/r/seduction01/02/22 02:56 PM
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Who the fuck are you, bitch? Go back to your kitchen. You're in the wrong sub
/r/seduction01/02/22 02:48 PM
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get fucked you cunt..... 5 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4: Keep it civil and on topic
/r/seduction01/02/22 02:41 PM
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Predator 5 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4
/r/seduction01/02/22 02:37 PM
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STOP TRYING TO UNDERSTAND WOMEN! This is literally the basis for foundational things like calibration. And you've been picking fights/arguments. You're in the wrong sub.
/r/seduction01/02/22 02:30 PM
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Temporary ban for breaking Rule 4
/r/seduction01/02/22 02:23 PM
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A gazelle can’t teach a lion how to hunt. 4 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 5. If someone's advice doesn't work, then that's the topic, not what's between their legs.
/r/seduction01/02/22 02:17 PM
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1 Best course of action when she ask your P-size or a pic of it Is this a theoretical? Because girls don't generally ask this. This isn't worth worrying about because it doesn't come up. If this is something you encountered, what was the conversation before that? What had you said before she asked? (Hint: You shouldn't ever encounter questions about your size unless you blunder into the topic.) 2 Pull back and say no? Girls don't ask this when things are heating up so there wouldn't be a scenari…
/r/seduction26/01/22 11:13 PM
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Is it safe to text a deez nuts joke to a girl im interested in.. You're looking for a rubber stamp here but honestly the only person whose opinion matters is hers. And you're not going to know her opinion until you try the joke on her. Is it really worth it to you to risk blowing up your chances over a joke? If it is, then feel free to self-amuse here. And let's be real here, you have come to a forum of mostly guys who I'm trying to figure out how to date successfully, and you're asking them the…
/r/seduction26/01/22 12:29 AM
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I have never been able to make friends easily or join groups. I don’t know why.... It's actually pretty common for people to go through extraverted or introverted stages in life. It's often less of an identity trait, so much as a state of being that's contingent upon the conditions in one's life up to that point. I've known people who were the life of the party until they moved to a place where they didn't know anybody and they realized afterwards that they'd forgotten how to actually meet peopl…
/r/seduction25/01/22 07:15 AM
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I haven’t been on a date since 2014. I have zero friends or hobbies or really any interest in hobbies Look this is a simple kind of formula here. If you want to have dates, then you need a way to meet people. Dating apps are all good and well but can be wildly unpredictable and should not be the primary source for anyone to meet anyone. Seeing as how apps cannot really solve this problem, you need a way, in real life, to encounter people in a way that's comfortable, preferably for everyone invol…
/r/seduction25/01/22 07:12 AM
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1 Not dirty talking but let's say we've just kissed and the writing on the walls says we're probably going to have sex that night, what the fuck do I talk about? I don't just want to keep asking dumb questions about her adventures travelling through taiwan or her favourite tv shows.... .... a conversation can't just be 100% innuendos... Seems that the entire thread skated past answering your very basic question and more or less told you in a variety of ways that knowing how to hold a basic conve…
/r/seduction24/01/22 11:37 PM
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I posted something yesterday to help newbies telling them to avoid women's advice on large subreddits like if it's the black death. I'll make this extra clear; you didn't read the rules before posting. Rule 5 specifically says it's off topic to change the subject from the actual advice being discussed, to the identity of someone involved in the conversation. We're here to discuss information and advice on its own merits. If you can't handle that, then take your culture war elsewhere.
/r/seduction19/01/22 03:03 PM
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I always thought texting between dates was a no-no. How else would someone maintain contact? There's no need to complicate this stuff. Texting after a date to say you had a good time (if you actually did), it's just common sense. Texting to set up the next meet is also pretty important. Didn’t wanna look needy. There's no codex out there with such hardline rules as "don't engage in basic communication." The idea is to maintain a life for yourself so that you have better things to do than sit on …
/r/seduction18/01/22 11:33 PM
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I kissed her and we basically did all kind of stuff a couple usually does. Today I suddenly received text from her stated that her life is rn chaotic and just we better just be friends, and all kind of bullshit. One thing that's important to keep in mind here, is that people often either don't understand their feelings or don't want to share them. So the stated reasons in a situation like this are often not worth trying to analyze. The important thing in this kind of situation is the overall poi…
/r/seduction16/01/22 11:12 PM
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The post wasn’t removed As this situation involved a specific situation, you might repost it in AskSeddit, which is where those posts go....
/r/seduction16/01/22 11:01 PM
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I WANT to make the first move but I just don’t know where fit the line “hey plz shove your ***k down my throat” in a casual conversation ): Couple things here: There's an inherent problem in posing this kind of question to a form of people who are here because they have problems dating and/or having sex. So, due to the frustration resulting from this, a lot of the guys here are going to answer that the best course of action would be to just say what you want to do sexually and some blunt way, wh…
/r/seduction15/01/22 12:09 PM
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1 My ex wife was abusive as hell and a prude so I think my perspective is skewed. I was under the notion that women give head only cuz their guy likes it. Is this true, or is it also that many women enjoy giving head? There are both men and women who enjoy giving oral sex to their partners. It may possibly boil down to how much the other person enjoys giving another person pleasure. Unfortunately, when a relationship has gone downhill, either or both partners may lose the desire to give their pa…
/r/seduction15/01/22 12:02 PM
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1 Therapy is something that anyone can benefit from. Even Style, the guy who wrote the Game, has said that he massively benefited from going to therapy. I say this because everything in your post indicates a huge inner game issue with your self-confidence which cannot be solved by going to a forum populated with a lot of people who also have similar inner game issues. Coming here it's not a substitute for therapy. If you want to start working on this issue and make some real progress, PM me and …
/r/seduction12/01/22 02:29 AM
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Narcissist 5-day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4: Keep it simple and on topic. If you have something to discuss, you can do it without insulting or labeling.
/r/seduction10/01/22 12:08 AM
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Something like this definitely fits more in a sub like r/sex. You might try re-posting there.
/r/seduction08/01/22 01:51 AM
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Try chloroform 5-day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4: keep it civil and on topic
/r/seduction06/01/22 07:12 AM
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This is such a stupid response - it's sad reddit is so low iq Temporary 4-day for breaking Rule 4: keep it civil and on topic. Please read the rules next time before posting or commenting.
/r/seduction04/01/22 08:15 AM
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1 What is your opinion on this tactic? Seduction is a kind of social skill. It requires a foundation of basic social skills before one can see reliably positive results. Money is a thing. It does not navigate a social interaction for you. Flashing it around can certainly help in screening for people who care about money. But then you may end up with gold diggers, or worse, people who are better at social interactions than you, who may manipulate you to get at your money in a way that wouldn't be…
/r/seduction04/01/22 08:13 AM
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I do...but it's a made up word with no real definition At this point you're just trolling them because you refuse to look up the definition of a colloquial word. Temporary 5-day ban for breaking Rule 4 & Rule 6.
/r/seduction02/01/22 12:23 PM
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If you're good looking, girls will show sympathy and wanna bounce on your schlong. If you're ugly, just stay home and rot ngl. Temporary 5-day ban for repeated comments which make assumptions on the limitations of physical appearance. Please read the rules again before posting.
/r/seduction02/01/22 12:20 PM
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Long story short..I had a same night lay and ended up catching genital herps ( common std) I went to my doctor and he gave me antiviral medicine to heal my outbreak.The more research I do the hard it is to accept that it’s a lifetime disease. A lot of people have some form of herpes so don't be too hard on yourself. But it can have an impact on a woman's risk for cervical cancer so you should definitely avoid being quite as free about casual sex as you might have been in the past because you oug…
/r/seduction02/01/22 12:17 PM
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1 It's common where a guy will go out with a woman for 3 dates, and if nothing sexual happens, she gives him the boot even though she was originally really interested in him. Let's back the train up here and establish a couple things: Social interactions are complicated and often difficult to get a grasp on as far as what's happening. It can take years to get a basic understanding. The preconceptions and mindsets that people bring into social interactions have a way of influencing or biasing the…
/r/seduction02/01/22 11:50 AM
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Slut Did you not read the rules before commenting? Find another sub.
/r/seduction02/01/22 08:53 AM
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The penalty for doxxing is a permanent ban.
/r/seduction02/01/22 08:44 AM
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Temporary 5 day ban for breaking Rule 4: Keep it on topic and civil. Also, educate yourself on sexuality before you try to give a hot take next time.
/r/seduction02/01/22 08:43 AM
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1 So I went back to work selling cars at my old dealership and there’s a 23 year old sales girl that is pretty new into the business. I mean, you can go there, but unless you're certain that you're capable of screening for unstable or crazy people, it's a nasty risk to poach from coworkers. 2 I’m 24, divorced with two kids. Not looking for a serious relationship or anything and she broke up with her bf 4 months ago, also not looking for anything serious. We hit it off instantly and talk a lot at…
/r/seduction31/12/21 03:37 AM
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1 a) chasing someone real hard till you get 'em, knowing that it's gonna take another dude a whole lot of determination to snatch them from ya. Plus, harder battle = sweeter victory Let's unpack this: When someone is attracted, it won't take any effort: it won't take chasing real hard. When one is chasing someone like this, it involves putting in a lot of effort to basically artificially manufacture something that's not really there. Which means, paradoxically, if you are having to work really h…
/r/seduction31/12/21 03:11 AM
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1 Sound stupid but, is there a way to tell? You can observe signs that someone might be interested, but there's a long way between interested and willing to go home with someone. There are no shortcuts. You have to go through social interactions to screen people out. Everyone does. 2 I get short glances, women will dance near me and not seem to mind I’m there dancing. Gaming at a club can be really difficult to pin down in terms of a good mindset. But in general, the rather lukewarm results you'…
/r/seduction31/12/21 12:28 AM
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PhahahaHahaha alpha male = bigger than you. Get a job, cuck clown. Temporary 5-day ban for breaking Rule 4
/r/seduction27/12/21 02:29 AM
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Grab him and headbutt him. Should knock him out in one blow. Check YouTube for an instruction manual how to achieve a full KO Temporary 4 day ban for breaking Rule 4
/r/seduction27/12/21 02:28 AM
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If he hides behind your GF, whisper into your GF's ears "I have a gun". Temporary 5-day ban for breaking Rule 4
/r/seduction27/12/21 02:27 AM
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Temporary 4-day ban for breaking Rule 4
/r/seduction27/12/21 02:26 AM
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Just compare dick size. Temporary 4-day ban for breaking Rule 4
/r/seduction27/12/21 02:25 AM
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Suck his dick 5 day ban for breaking Rule 4
/r/seduction27/12/21 02:25 AM
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Temporary 4-day ban for breaking Rule 4
/r/seduction27/12/21 02:23 AM
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Assert your dominance by seducing the alpha male in front of your gf Temporary 3-day ban for breaking Rule 4. This isn't a place for s*** posts.
/r/seduction27/12/21 02:22 AM
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1 Gf and I were talking about relationships in general, where we discussed what if we had met a year earlier. She answered, relationship wasn't possible because she was looking for something without emotions and that phase worked really well for her(with a mild laugh). Which I found a bit weird, not the phase but the giggle after that. There's nothing weird about people going through a casual phase for whatever reason. Men do it and so do women. It's a human thing. 2 Also, it's not the first tim…
/r/seduction27/12/21 02:18 AM
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Of course it depends on the context but in your experience what's a solid way of escalating to either precipitate physical intimacy or test whether they're interested, that's as least likely to make them uncomfortable as possible? 1 There are a whole host of easy things to do which can elicit a response from a girl that tells you where she's at. Most of these are overlooked by people who are trying to build up their skills. A.) Low intensity, non-sexual or friendly behaviors which nonetheless pe…
/r/seduction27/12/21 12:15 AM
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5 day temporary ban for breaking Rule 4
/r/seduction26/12/21 11:31 PM
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Just exposing your hypocrisy. Have a nice day. Kindly observe Rule 4: Keep it civil and on topic. The topic is generally whatever OP posted about but it's never supposed to be scoring zingers on people.
/r/seduction23/12/21 12:50 PM
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The title of this post was about one thing. The thumbnail pic was about another thing. The content about the actual post was all tease for a video. This post had to be taken down because of Rule 2: posts must stand on their own and not simply be marketing tease for people to click through to a link.
/r/seduction15/12/21 11:04 PM
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1 I think most women don't like being approached especially by ugly/average guys since it's a norm for them to get hit on alot. Some things to unpack here. It's tone deaf/awkward approaches that women don't like. Interacting with women in a socially aware way is fine. There's no objective scale of attractiveness. If you get a group of people in a room, one person's 10 will be another person's 7 or 6. So your assessment of ugly or average might pertain to you but won't pertain to every other peop…
/r/seduction15/12/21 04:25 PM
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1 I have kinda of a different hurdle, my thing is I can initiate a conversation with anyone I don't know if I'm seductive by nature or what. But girls just happen to make things easier for me. It's not magic. Some people just have a basic foundation of social skills. A lot of guys here don't. We are all on our own journeys, just a different points along the road. 2 I have been single for about 4/5 months now Meaning that you have been in a relationship? And it ended 4-5 months ago? If so, how di…
/r/seduction15/12/21 01:51 AM
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1 I understood what you meant but do I just blatantly ask her if you wanna go to hotel? If things are going well and heating up, then the natural flow of things will lead to one of you suggesting to go somewhere private. As for how things ought to be phrased, there is no real one size fits all solution. But in general, being too blunt about matters can be a turn off. For some reason, innuendo tends to be more of a turn-on then coming right out and saying something blatantly sexual. It's not real…
/r/seduction15/12/21 01:45 AM
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1 It's well known that desperation is a massive turnoff for most women.... ..... yet it I know guys who overwhelm women with attention and affection and if anything the women become more attached to them more quickly. There are a couple of things going on here. A lot of things "work" in seduction. We can observe that easily. Different people swear by different methods which can be completely different. And a lot of people get laid without being part of the seduction community at all. Some people…
/r/seduction15/12/21 01:23 AM
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I’m being greedy here, I need a dating life too at least. Now that I think about it my high school life was better with no logistical issues. I wasn't suggesting that you need to give up a dating life. I was recommending that you not divide your attention between college life (including your love life) and some form of full-time work, if you can help it. Having a love life is a good thing
/r/seduction14/12/21 07:22 AM
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1 i had no other option, money constraints Well, sometimes that's just the way it is and we all do the best with what we have. 2 can you tell me what to say in these type of situations because in that sense I messed up my last date and would keep doing that in the future. I elaborated on that in my last comment. I'm assuming that you read it by now. 3 I’m asking my friends if they’ve an empty room or one which they could spare for few hours. I would suggest you not do this. You don't want to rel…
/r/seduction14/12/21 07:07 AM
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I want to move out and make some quick bucks but it’s almost impossible. I mean, you are in college, right? So focus on that because your performance in college can affect your options afterwards. So why split your attention when there's already so much to do? There will be plenty of time to make money later after you graduate. Have the full college experience while you can.
/r/seduction14/12/21 06:59 AM
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You may have noticed that the updated rules for posting thread which you are quoting from, starts off with the basic barrier to entry for posts: Does this post get someone later help them start a relationship? So does mewing, which looks like Blue Steel cosplay, get someone into the bedroom? Does it help someone navigate social interactions to sex or relationship? No, because it's overthinking one aspect of appearance. Just because you think something is new doesn't mean that it's an exception t…
/r/seduction14/12/21 03:32 AM
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1 Guys I live in a dorm and unfortunately share it 4 other dudes. Yeah they don’t usually leave the dorm and the dorm room ain’t that clean either. Yeah, you really weren't thinking this through and are now learning a hard lesson in logistics. 2 If I want to pull my date what place should I take her to? I was thinking about hotel but not are they only costly, I was unable to think of any way to convince her to go along with me. Look, if the girl is down, then a hotel is feasible. It's not like y…
/r/seduction14/12/21 12:40 AM
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Note: Telling a full time college student that they need to squeeze more time out of their likely sleep deprived schedule to make enough to afford a housing in what is likely a really fucked up, overpriced US housing market, is not legitimate advice. Please try to be less tone deaf.
/r/seduction14/12/21 12:28 AM
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Hey so I was trying to flirt with a black woman in front of the grocery store and when I asked for her number, she threatened to pull a gun on me. Let's do an autopsy here: What was your opener? What exactly was her response in actions or words, to your opener? What did you talk about after the opener? How did you come up with the content for this conversation? What were you doing that constituted trying to flirt? What did you say and do exactly just before she threatened to pull a gun on you?
/r/seduction14/12/21 12:25 AM
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1 Is it worth it trying to get a girl to change some of her ways for you? Not a matter of "worth it" or not. It's a matter of "not possible to change someone." She can change if she wants to. You can't do that for her. 2 What I mean is, let’s say for example this girl that you possibly might want to be in a relationship with uses social media a lot, and she constantly posts selfies and gets DMs/attention from other men. So she seeks attention from social media. Possibly insecure. If so, you can'…
/r/seduction11/12/21 05:11 PM
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There are a handful of socially unadjusted weirdos who do actually harass girls via cold approach...... These guys do weird shit like try to follow girls to their car, offer girls a ride in their car, yell at girls who ignore them and just generally make them feel unsafe and uncomfortable. To add to what you've said here: This is a great example of what I was talking about when I mentioned that some guys aren't at a base level to get much out of cold approaching as a "beginner" technique. For so…
/r/seduction11/12/21 10:37 AM
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I pose to you that your baggage with the "pickup artist" terminology is a limitation. The guy didn't say he had baggage with the term. He said the term has strong associations with it. As in the public image of that term is negative. Being aware of that is just being socially aware.
/r/seduction10/12/21 03:41 PM
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Note: this topic often features a lot of white noise. Some people mistakenly conflate all cold approaches with the segment of guys who miss social cues (or disregard them), come on too strong, and harass strangers. And some guys with a good foundation of social skills, are just close enough to solving their game issues that some cold approaching can bring it together for them. And some guys out there are at such a low level that asking them to start off at cold approaching is like asking someone…
/r/seduction10/12/21 03:37 PM
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1 So my friend and I were talking about girls and he told me that I need to treat girls a bit “harsher” and to stop being so kind and genuine all the time. It's important to realize that a lot of people, including anyone here, is going to present a view with a certain bias. Your friend is walking a path that he needs to walk and it may not be the same one that you need to walk. But there's more than one way to pick up on a girl. Some of which do not require treating girls harshly. 2 I told him t…
/r/seduction08/12/21 12:36 PM
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1 One thing to keep in mind is that the audience for this subreddit is here precisely because they don't have the answers to a lot of the questions being asked here, like this one. So a lot of your answers are going to be pretty hit or miss, as most people here are still trying to figure things out. That having been said.... 2 Is it all through dating apps? Short answer: no. 3 Longer answer: Let's back the train up first and ask ourselves, what is seduction really? It is a form of social interac…
/r/seduction07/12/21 04:45 AM
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1 I'll try to provide more context tomorrow. If you can do so, then I'll happily provide some feedback to your specific situation. 2 Look, I know you're trying to help here, but you could have done so without deleting the main post. Sorry if I inadvertently broke one of the rules of the sub. That's just it, you didn't read the rules before you posted. Posts based on complaining fail the basic test of what posts need to be on this subreddit. If the post isn't geared towards something that helps p…
/r/seduction07/12/21 03:16 AM
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1 I am 23 years old and have been pondering this the last week or so. I've been getting some flakes and I attribute this to the lack of rapport with women I meet. What is actually happening here? What is happening before they flake? How are you meeting them? How are the opening interactions going? What exactly is being said or texted? How far are you getting before they flake? Are you setting up a date with them before they disappear? Are you meeting people in real life or only online? 2 In my a…
/r/seduction07/12/21 12:40 AM
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1 .....women for being so fucking demanding when it comes to how you perform over a goddamned smartphone. Let's back the train way up here. What is seduction really? It's a form of social interaction. That requires in-person social skills. It's not about smartphone interactions. If you handle business in person well enough then the smartphone communications are a very minor part of all this. If you do not have a foundation of social skills built up already though, then every part of this is goin…
/r/seduction07/12/21 12:35 AM
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5 day ban for breaking Rule 4: keep it civil and on topic.
/r/seduction07/12/21 12:26 AM
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5 day ban for breaking Rule 4: keep it civil and on topic.
/r/seduction07/12/21 12:26 AM
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You need to read the Updated Rules and Posting Guidelines. This post fails to meet the very basic benchmark of: Does this post help someone get laid or find a relationship? Complaining does not accomplish these things. Nor does making excuses for why you can't or don't want to try dating anyone in a huge city with millions of people.
/r/seduction07/12/21 12:23 AM
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not everyone gets to fuck ten women before they're 18.... Please read the rules in the sidebar. This thread was made by someone who gets to the point of having sex with the girls he dates before things to wrong. The guy you were replying to was responding to someone at that point. It might not apply to you, but YOU aren't the one who made this threads. It is severely off topic to waltz into the thread with a diatribe like this.
/r/seduction04/12/21 03:18 AM
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I am a magnet for women...... Seduction is, like any social interaction, a fairly complex thing with a lot of moving parts. To sum up the whole beginning part of this process with only six words is leaving out a lot of information. It's possible that there are mistakes being made even at this stage that are snowballing on you later. So can you lay out the basics of what you do and how it generally goes when you are in this role of woman magnet? Where are you meeting them? How are you opening the…
/r/seduction04/12/21 03:11 AM
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There are a lot of posts people make about a specific situation or person, but they are subject to deletion because it's against the rules.
/r/seduction03/12/21 10:24 AM
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I don’t really want to bring up race here.... Please read the rules before posting again. Check out the Updated Rules post pinned to the top of the subreddit. Things like race or height are basically settled issues at this subreddit, which is focused on self improvement of things you can change, like inner game, which can compensate for much.
/r/seduction01/12/21 11:19 PM
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1 I was badly shamed and sometimes even criticized /reprimanded for liking girls too much (liking them romantically) when i was of a young age, like school kid (because of religious / social norms) This kind of thing can definitely cast a shadow. And the unfortunate thing is that it can color how you view all social interactions. Because this kind of culture often leads to a distorted view of social interactions between men and women. Which can make it difficult for men to interact with women in…
/r/seduction01/12/21 03:32 AM
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1 I just cold approached a women working in the museum. She was reading one of the exhibits and looked very relaxed so I figured I had some time to make a move.... You had observed relevant information that gave you more than enough to go on in starting a conversation. 2 I was very nervous as I had very little to go off that she would be interested in being approached. But insecurity is an asshole in the back of all of our minds. And even though you had more than enough to start a conversation, …
/r/seduction30/11/21 11:59 PM
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The purpose of the post was to ask for advice on how to not get discouraged when feeling that your looks are holding you back Then for future reference, you could have led with your actual point instead of phrasing it in a way that breaks the rules.
/r/seduction30/11/21 10:57 PM
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1 they have lots of issues and cling on rapidly and I feel bad.. This indicates to me that these girls have issues that repulse you a little bit. Is that fair to say? Like you don't consider these issues to be a good thing and would prefer not being around them, right? And you don't like it when people cling, right? And perhaps you feel bad because you know they're desperate? 2 but the sex is always amazing and I go back for it The flip side of this is that when you choose to keep having physica…
/r/seduction30/11/21 03:06 PM
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This kind of question actually belongs in /r/AskSeddit and you should post it there, but I'll throw in my two cents. 1 I am soo bad at making conversation and I have no clue where to start. This is a side effect of being consumed by your own thoughts rather than actively listening to the other person. He only need simple topics like your basic small talk. Like how's your day going, and BS like that. Active listening means you'll be listening to their response rather than thinking about what to s…
/r/seduction30/11/21 03:01 PM
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You've been posting repeatedly about specific situations and that belongs on /r/AskSeddit. Please check the rules and the updated rules post to pinned to the top of the sub.
/r/seduction30/11/21 02:55 PM
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Please read the rules before posting. And also the Updated Rules post. The whole looks matter/don't matter "debate" is over and done on this subreddit. They matter and they don't. BOTH. Now do you want to sit there and whine about the things you can't control? Because if so, this is the wrong sub. This sub isn't here to rubber stamp a fixation on looks. It's here to support people who want to focus on things that are very attainable, such as improvement in inner game, which can compensate for lo…
/r/seduction30/11/21 12:54 PM
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I know there plenty post about getting laid but how about tactics or ways of doin this? Wrong subreddit
/r/seduction30/11/21 12:36 PM
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1 You are right that seduction at its core is how one conducts themselves socially. If I were to summarize social skills, I would call it the ability to tune into the interactions you're having with people around you. Because when we get right down to it, the signals people are sending out are meant to be obvious and are not really that hard to notice. The problem is really that wicked into our heads and are so wrapped up in whatever is on our mind, that we are taking processing power away from …
/r/seduction30/11/21 07:35 AM
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1 I have been in this sub and other subs regarding dating, and seduction. Ive seen enough to avoid common pitfalls other guys get when dating or approaching.. This sub was what inspired me to.... get off my ass be productive lose weight have better grades to be a better man, but also to be attractive to women. Let's back the train up here. What is seduction really? It's a form of social interaction. It requires a foundation of social skills in order to get good results. None of the things you ju…
/r/seduction30/11/21 05:57 AM
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That said, you have to make sure that you don't consider any relationship a finish line. You have to keep taking care of yourself. That means: Continuing to maintain a social life even after you're in a relationship, rather than becoming isolated to where the your SO is your entire social life. Taking care of your physical health. Letting onesself go after getting into a long-term relationship is a cliche. There's a common trope in mainstream culture that "till death do us part," means that love…
/r/seduction30/11/21 05:50 AM
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How to keep a relationship interesting? Honestly, this subreddit is not geared towards relationships. It's geared towards people who lack social skills and are trying to figure out how to get started dating, getting laid, or starting a relationship. Once you get to the point of being in a relationship, you're better off searching for advice in the relationships subreddit. Most of the audience here has little to no experience with relationships, let alone healthy ones.
/r/seduction30/11/21 05:47 AM
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While this topic was too basic and had to be taken down, this thread got way out of hand: One had to scroll at least halfway down the thread before they could get to anyone actually on topic. If you came to an advice subreddit to shitpost, you're in the wrong place.
/r/seduction30/11/21 12:29 AM
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1 I go to a lot of drum and bass clubs and sometimes girls will start backing their ass on me but I'm not sure if it's on purpose or just because the club is packed even though they usually have enough space to not do it. Situations vary so there's really no one-size-fits-all solution for this. But I will say that if you haven't made eye contact and had some non-verbal interactions with this these girls first, then there's not really much to work with here, despite the physical contact. 2 When g…
/r/seduction30/11/21 12:13 AM
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Idk why no one is actually being helpful when it's a genuine question Seriously, report people trolling like that next time
/r/seduction29/11/21 11:41 PM
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1 I’m in my mid twenties..... Wasted my prime with one girl. Your college years aren't the prime years. Anything up to the age of 40 can be your prime if you play your cards right. Honestly, I know a guy in his 50s who has no desire to settle down and is still dating around. He has more fun dating than a lot of people I know who are in their college years. 2 I just realized I missed my prime years in college with dating one girl throughout. There's a reason why high school and college are often …
/r/seduction29/11/21 05:18 AM
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2 day ban for breaking Rule 4: stay civil and on topic.
/r/seduction29/11/21 04:54 AM
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Please stop mentioning other subreddits this way. Sometimes people at those subreddits get notifications and you can kick off a flame war that way, which is not allowed.
/r/seduction29/11/21 04:49 AM
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2 day ban for breaking Rule 4: stay civil and on topic.
/r/seduction29/11/21 04:47 AM
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2 day ban for breaking Rule 4: Stay civil and on topic.
/r/seduction29/11/21 04:46 AM
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Comparing personal tastes has no value in any individual's attempts to date people or get laid, etc. Except possibly to highlight that taste is subjective and people get worked up over people they rate as "10s" when others have less problem with the same women because they haven't placed them on such a high pedestal.
/r/seduction28/11/21 02:51 AM
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What I'm going to add is similar to what the therapist said, only framed a little differently and with some sources backing things up. 1 What would you do if you're dating a girl and she starts to play like a psychoanalyst on you Firstly, there's this assumption that game can in some way change what people are doing. It really can't. Most of what you can really do is live your values and enforce your own boundaries in many cases. 2 Like she just starts revealing your hidden emotions and your tra…
/r/seduction26/11/21 05:10 AM
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And now 3 days back I got out of my relationship ( long strings of problems ) but how do I tell her that I’m single now , without coming off as needy . We don’t really talk or text each other as much Perhaps your assumption here is that she'll judge you negatively for reaching out to her because your relationship ended. But if you really think about it, this would only apply if she were emotionally invested. If she wants the casual thing you're looking for, then it won't matter to her at all tha…
/r/seduction25/11/21 04:50 AM
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1 I’m very direct with my approach and I tell her she’s beautiful.... I'm going to go on a limb here and assume that you don't want to stick your dick in crazy and don't want to get involved with people who suck. You have standards beyond someone's appearance: because your time is worth something, right? So the idea that you're being "direct" is kind of getting ahead of yourself. 2 so she knows why I’m approaching her..... Couple things here: If you want to present yourself as thinking with your…
/r/seduction22/11/21 12:54 AM
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Temporary 5-day ban for breaking Rule 4: keep it civil and on topic. You have instead gone on the attack and created a flame war over someone asking you a basic run-of-the-mill self-improvement question on a subreddit geared towards self-improvement.
/r/seduction22/11/21 12:40 AM
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