Huge setback

recyclablebanthas · 2022-10-22T03:57:48+00:00

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incognito3107 · 2022-10-22T06:56:08+00:00

Sometimes the mood is just bad. It's perfectly normal. Accept it and don't push through. Use your feelings to figure out proper circumstances for yourself. Also, there is no such thing as getting girls for anyone. You can set proper vibe, you can be a good ice-breaker, but everyone needs to put game on their own. You are not some circus monkey.

OpenHeight6562 · 2022-10-22T16:46:29+00:00

There are these 2 girls, I smile and walk towards them and before I say anything she shows me the middle finger and waves me to go away.

Man, I wonder if these kinds of rejections (game or no game! I don't think it matters) are way more common than we realise as most people aren't likely to admit such rejections maybe

But I had one last weekend where I 'met eyes' with a cute girl twice, so I figured i'd approach her. I said 'hi' and then she looked at me and said 'you were good where you were over there. Go away!' lol.

It stings man. It hurt my confidence pretty bad too, but i'm over it now haha

2022-10-22T14:35:31+00:00

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2022-10-22T19:23:55+00:00

Sorry that happened and it’s not as unusual as you think. I’m going to put this out there and I really don’t give af about being called a “incel” or whatever. A lot of women today are assholes. Social media has turned them into vapid, self absorbed, pretentious, narcissists. When you approach next time, prepare for the worst possible outcome. When you condition yourself to expect a poor outcome, nothing a woman says, or does will surprise you, except if she’s actually nice.

Spiritual_Low8248 · 2022-10-22T22:38:59+00:00

Go out alone or only with people you are super comfortable with and get you confidence back. Only hang out with reliable wingmen. That new guys was a sponge who was using you. Fuck him and erase him from your mind. Only hang out with reliable wingmen. Negative people will bring you down unless you're 100 percent bulletproof. Stay away from sponges.

Delicatestatesmen · 2022-10-23T00:34:54+00:00

Listen man, you ant no pussy delivery service. Next time look at him and say if u want girls come open with me otherwise i’m not your girl errand boy.

john_0284 · 2022-10-23T13:58:02+00:00

Ever had a bad day at work? What did you do? Woke up & got back at it again right? Apply that same mentality here, just keep going. Next time you go out go w/ the intention of just having fun w/ friends. Go catch the Yankee game, UFC fight or football game at a popular sports bar. If that’s not your scene then get a Halloween costume & go out clubbing w the whole Halloween vibe. Whatever u do do it w/ the intent to have a good time. Go w/ people who feed off of your good vibes & vice versa. Leave all the negative/ dull dudes at home. All you need is one fun night out and you are right back in the game.

recyclablebanthas · 2022-10-24T17:13:39+00:00

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So my friends and I went to the club last week and I used a lot of the PUA strategies which worked really well. I just walked up to girls without hesitation and started talking about funny things, got multiple numbers and IGs, it was a really fun experience.

Which strategies did you use that worked well? Kindly don't spare the newbs this kind of information.

2

So this weekend we went again but it really didn't go well. First of all, I ate something bad and felt a bit nauseous, not a great start but okay. Then this new guy came with who said "I heard you are a pro, please get us girls."

For some reason this made me kinda nervous. Previously I wouldn't really care, just walk up to people because I felt like it. This time I think I was scared to get rejected in front of them. The longer you wait the more your confidence slowly fades away.

Couple things here:

You have to do this for YOURSELF. Not as a performance for someone else. Not on command for someone like this.
Real life has its own flow. Going with it means that you're not going to be doing it on someone else's schedule, according to their expectations. At their best, someone with good game will be striking when the iron is hot, and that's not always on command.
Trying to do it for that guy, was totally why your inner game got fucked up. Suddenly you weren't in the moment. You were in your head, afraid of losing out on this status of "pro" that someone tossed out there.

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So I didn't really do much the whole time until the end of the night, my friends stand around like jabronis, the new guy is very clearly not having fun, he just wants to get girls.

Reasons it's often better to game alone:

If your friends stand around like jabronis and don't help.
If they aren't bringing fun to the table because they're so consumed with getting girls that they kill their own chances.
- His mindset is a party killer.
- Having him around is going to be terrible for your own mindset. Someone like that is often going to be saying things that harm good mindsets.
- They are also often the kind of person who will monkey wrench a guy out of spike if they're having a bad night.

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There are these 2 girls, I smile and walk towards them and before I say anything she shows me the middle finger and waves me to go away. I have never seen someone react like this. If someone is not interested I get it but she looked at me only for 2 seconds.

Could have been a million things going on here. You supplied almost no information.

What were they doing when you walked up? Where were they?
Was there any non-verbal communication going on with them before you walked up? Were you exchanging any looks, facial expressions, or gestures before you walked up?
What vibe were your friends creating? If they were stinking up the place with bad attitude, it could have been bad PR for you.
- Sometimes people will shut you down just by association with people they've pegged as lame.
- It wouldn't have helped you that the guy's bad mindset was fucking with your mindset. That means it could have been leaking into your actions and words in ways you might not have realized at the time.

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Suddenly fear, uncertainty and doubt crept into my head. Was I not good enough?

No one is really going to be able to say for sure what went wrong unless they were there. Like seriously, we're talking about social interactions here. Social interactions involve a variety of variables. You've mentioned very little about the total situation.

But based on what you've said, the best guess is probably FUD and lame expectations you allowed that guy to imprint onto you.

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At the end a lot of girls left the club and were looking around for fun people, some of them looked at me too but I was paralyzed, I couldn't talk to them.

I mean, sometimes when things have gone that far downhill, it's best to just bail and cut your losses.

And next time you go, make absolutely sure you don't go with that guy.

I'd honestly suggest you don't go with your Jabroni friends either.

Title	Huge setback
Author	7fec01e2
Upvotes	4
Comments	16
Date	October 22, 2022 2:26 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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