PUA_101 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
15	Law of Attraction etc	PUA_101	/r/seduction	11/08/15 07:34 PM
13	Daygame: how to quickly get into state and be social!	PUA_101	/r/seduction	13/10/15 10:52 PM
8	Direct sexual openers	PUA_101	/r/seduction	02/07/15 04:24 AM
5	Phoning instead of texting	PUA_101	/r/seduction	21/07/15 07:24 PM
4	The Brad Pitt test	PUA_101	/r/seduction	28/07/15 04:05 AM
3	Creating a culture of no excuses	PUA_101	/r/seduction	14/07/15 02:19 AM
2	Distancing yourself from the "pickup mindset"	PUA_101	/r/seduction	21/10/15 07:17 AM
2	Is social media making you socially retarded?	PUA_101	/r/seduction	28/11/15 02:57 AM
1	Content Hiatus	PUA_101	/r/seduction	23/08/15 07:07 PM

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1	29/M Totally content with my life is holding me back? First off a similar thing happened to me, it's not that unique expect possible for the length of time since the relationship, but even then I bet there's a lot of guys with similar stories. The deeper the wound, the more universal as they say. Only you can decide what you want. Fuck what your parents or society thinks. Do you want to put your penis in a warm body that you can sleep with and have fun with, or are you content with jerking off with hand cream? I'm not even saying this as a joke, if…	/r/seduction	21/10/15 07:29 AM
6	Going home with girls, but it's not leading to sex. Are you giving up after you hear "I can't do this?" From my experience a girl you just met that day will usually say something to that effect. They don't want to feel like they're easy, they want to feel like they were just "taken." Try this, when you hear her say that, smile and look her in the eye and say "that's perfectly fine." (and mean it. This is also a last minute shit test to see if you really are the non-needy guy you've been portraying yourself as all night. Since you really ARE that …	/r/seduction	17/10/15 05:27 PM
0	How to deal with the voice in your head that says that no one could be interested in you? Try tapping http://eft.mercola.com/	/r/seduction	17/10/15 08:09 AM
1	I am either super happy or super sad. No middle ground. This old guy needs your help. Am I too fucked ? First of all man, good for you for taking steps to improve your life. What you're doing isn't easy and it speaks volumes about your character that you are giving this a go. I do have to take exception to your description of yourself as "old," as I am also 30 turning 31 in 2 weeks :P. When you are 55, then maybe you can call yourself old. The main thing is to just accept who you are and where you're at, be realistic about it and realize that you have probably a decade and a half or more of bad ha…	/r/seduction	15/10/15 06:15 AM
1	This guy is fucking amazing. He's like the embodiment of crack cocaine and awesomeness. I love Sasha, so legendary!	/r/seduction	12/10/15 01:06 AM
7	Self-improvement slump I was in a similar situation, I was in my late 20's before I realized I needed to make a change. Best kick in the ass I can think of is that your life is probably anywhere from 1/3 to 1/2 over and if you're not going to make a change now, do you think it's going to get easier or harder to do so as time goes on? Put the past behind you, it doesn't matter and it doesn't serve you one iota to give it any attention. You're different now, that's all that matters. Girls like guys in their 30's, but th…	/r/seduction	07/08/15 04:13 PM
2	should i lower my standards ? My strong advice to you would be to try to find a mentor, or if you can't find one, at least get a good wing. There are lots of forums online where you can meet people, such as Simple Pickup and RSD inner circle on facebook. It's tough going it alone all the time because it's hard to critique yourself, and you keep making the same mistakes over and over. A wing, even if their game sucks, will usually at least be able to notice things that you can do better. At the very least, I think you need to…	/r/seduction	07/08/15 03:09 AM
1	What about drugs? You need to take the long-term view of working on YOURSELF, becoming a better person with an interesting and rewarding lifestyle, a social person at your core (ie in any situation), and someone who loves themselves for their own sake. Now ask yourself, will taking drugs help or hinder this progress?	/r/seduction	05/08/15 03:58 PM
1	The Brad Pitt test What I mean is your ego will always be trying to convince you that you did everything right, and it was the girl's fault that the interaction failed. Kill that son of a bitch right now. Always look for something you could have done better.	/r/seduction	04/08/15 01:57 PM
3	I dont understand The best reason I can think of is that a girl's attraction for a guy is not a binary yes or no, it can wax and wane depending on his current behavioral cues and/or her current mental/emotional state. Guys have a hard time understanding this because we see a girl and pretty much know instantly whether we want her or not. Since it's not terribly hard for a guy to fake being cool, the shit tests are an unconscious effort to make sure the guy is "sexworthy." It stems from evolution, women are the ga…	/r/seduction	04/08/15 02:23 AM
2	Importance of having a nice place all to myself As with anything else it will only affect your game if you let it. Don't get self conscious or insecure about it, if the girl wants to come back with you she will. I'd say the more important question is, if you can afford a better place, why are you living where you are? You may have a perfectly good reason and if so, that's totally your decision. But if you'd PERSONALLY be happier in a nice place, I'd say go ahead and get one. This should be about YOU, remember game is about improving yourself …	/r/seduction	01/08/15 04:40 PM
1	The Brad Pitt test Then that means she wasn't that into you and didn't want to hurt your feelings/ego. Which most likely means you didn't do enough to generate attraction, but it could also mean one of a thousand and one things didn't work in your favor that were totally out of your control. But when you're trying to learn it's best to never give yourself the benefit of the doubt and always look for something that you could've done better.	/r/seduction	31/07/15 11:41 PM
1	I need help with my confidence in new situations. "How do I prepare for any situation anytime?" You don't. "How do I become the guy that always says the right thing and makes the right decisions?" You don't. Look man, you're never going to be perfect. But it's true that you can get better and better, and eventually you will be "good enough in the vast majority of scenarios" (although there is always room for improvement no matter who you are). "But where do I start?" You already did ;) Making the first approach. Now get out there and do it over…	/r/seduction	31/07/15 04:21 AM
1	I just don't get it sometimes Dude, I'm going to be blunt, but you've absolutely got to stop being so negative or you'll drive yourself crazy. I've been through that cycle before and I know when you're in that headspace, the last thing you want to hear is to just snap out of it. But that's pretty much the only option because if you don't, no one else is going to do it for you. It sounds like you're doing a lot of things right and to be real, a month without getting laid is NOTHING. There are literally thousands of guys out t…	/r/seduction	28/07/15 04:27 PM
2	Bad at flirting, need advice / help. When you were in first grade and you liked a girl, you pulled her hair. It's the same principle only in a more adult manner. You've got to push and pull with a smile on your face. Pressure on, pressure off. It's hard to do when you're in your head and not used to talking to girls. Get out there and interact with hundreds of girls until you get comfortable talking with them. When you aren't in your head and you're talking to a cute girl, it just comes naturally. It's the perfectly natural result …	/r/seduction	24/07/15 11:12 PM
44	Last night I got the truth handed to me, that I have little to no game It sounds like you have a pretty good grasp of what you need to do, it's just a matter of taking action. I sat around for months watching youtube videos working myself up to do that "perfect, rejection-free approach." Guess what, I wish I hadn't wasted that time. After a while you realize that the only way to learn game, is to just fing approach. It's scary as f at first. But there's no way around it. It will probably be awkward at first, but you may also surprise yourself. Either way it doesn't…	/r/seduction	22/07/15 03:20 PM
1	At what point can you stop playing text games, being seductive and all the other stuff If you're wondering at which point you can start being beta and still have her attracted to you, the answer is never. Sorry to be so blunt, but it's reality. Pickup is about transforming your personality in the long-term (while using a few "training wheels" in the short term to help you "fake it till you make it"). It's not about faking it for as little time as possible until the girl falls for you, at which point you can breath a sigh of relief and go back to your beta self. I'm sorry if I misr…	/r/seduction	20/07/15 04:40 AM
3	My first approach in a long time. Yeah man you nailed it, it's just practice. When you don't approach often you get in the scarcity mentality of oh my god, I'd better do this one right cause it's the only chance I have! Which is the WORST mindset you can have in approaching or anything really in pickup. Get in the habit of going out often and approaching like a machine. You'll still have awkward moments from time to time, it happens to the best of us, but it won't happen very often and when it does, you honestly won't give a shi…	/r/seduction	17/07/15 05:25 PM
1	From your hobbies, which one helped your game the most and how? Not really a hobby but if you're looking for a job that could help you immensely, you may want to try sales. I've found that the parallels between sales and pickup are eerily similar. If you're young and inexperienced (or even if you're not), there are companies that operate in most larger cities like Kirby vacuums, Saladmaster cookware, or Cutco knives and they will basically hire anyone. It's not for everybody but I worked for Kirby for a while and it was a great experience. It teaches you a t…	/r/seduction	14/07/15 05:01 PM
1	Is it easier to pickup 18-20 year old girls when you are older? I do meditate, I met her at a street art festival, and both sober.	/r/seduction	11/07/15 04:13 AM
4	Is it easier to pickup 18-20 year old girls when you are older? It's no easier or harder than any other pickup. As Einstein said, there is no right or wrong, but thinking makes it so. If you think that you are too old for a girl, she will pick up on that insecurity and then it will fall into the "creepy old man" category. I'm 30 years old and last night I bedded an 18 year old on a day 2. On the initial approach she looked pretty young so I asked "How old are you?" and she said 18. We got to talking about the Chinese zodiac and turns out we're both rats, so …	/r/seduction	11/07/15 02:50 AM
2	The 'hey what's up?' barrier Yeah, if what's on your mind is the Garfield comic strip, absolutely talk about it! Girls don't converse like guys do. Guys talk about things logically, as in what's the point/utility of this subject. Girls talk about things for the emotional experience they create. The subject matter matters far less than the subcommunication that they're getting from you. You're a MAN and you're in your own reality (frame) and the job of the masculine is to suck the feminine in to your reality. Girls want to g…	/r/seduction	09/07/15 04:30 PM
2	The 'hey what's up?' barrier Like anything else this is a skill that only comes with practice. Being able to flow freely in a conversation is tough if you're not used to doing it. When you start out the best thing to do is just talk about whatever's on your mind, and don't try to censor yourself. Be genuinely passionate about the things you talk about, even if that voice in your head tells you it's a boring subject. Another great thing to do is be genuinely curious about the girl. It may seem interview mode at first, but li…	/r/seduction	09/07/15 12:21 AM
1	"What if she thinks I'm weird?" - stop giving a fuck I call it the main paradox of game, but really it applies to everything in life. The more you want/need it, the harder it is to get. It's hard to really buy into not giving a fuck when you're new, because a huge part of you is needy. In my view when you get over that neediness, game becomes SO much easier.	/r/seduction	24/06/15 01:37 AM
5	Does anyone else feel good when actively flirting with women, but when you don't have anyone to talk to for a couple of days, feel anxious/stuck in a rut? It happens to me to and I feel like that anxiety is the brain's way of telling you to take action! I'm more and more realizing the importance of going out virtually everyday, even if to do just one or two approaches, especially when you're new. That's if you want to get good really fast. You can still get good just going out on the weekends but since you will have to go through that "warmup" phase your progress will be slower IMO.	/r/seduction	23/06/15 04:06 AM
1	I need help making a change Hey man it's awesome that you're committed to changing your life, we've all been at that point where we know a change needs to be made and keeping that fire under your ass will be essential for lifting yourself out of this. Honestly, I think you're being too down on yourself. It sounds from your post like you have a lot going for you. I know it's easy for me to say all this but a, we've all been there and b, you came here for advice right? I'm just telling it like I see it. Just try to be gratef…	/r/seduction	22/06/15 05:31 AM
1	Entering Relationship - Advice Request Is an exclusive relationship what you want? If so, I would say go for it but proceed with caution and keep up your social skills regardless. You never know how long this relationship is going to last and in case it doesn't work out you want to be sharp and ready to pick up where you left off when it's over. That being said, I would recommend giving it some serious thought before looking for an exclusive LTR after your experience. I know it's tempting but given what you've told us it seems you're…	/r/seduction	19/06/15 04:34 PM