Phoning instead of texting

recyclablebantha · 2015-07-22T03:00:41+00:00

Hot girls are inundated with texts/social media messages/online dating messages/etc etc etc, and calling is a good way to differentiate yourself from those masses. You show her that you want her enough to risk a phone call, where most guys hide behind a text.

This is hardly representative of the general female populace. Calling is more confident but so is the Apocalypse Opener. There's a time and place for different approaches. That doesn't mean that everyone should always lead with a phone call in every situation. Leading with a text is always safer AND will not lower your chances.

It's much easier to convey your personality over the phone.

True.

Let's face it, if you text her, it's a pretty low commitment for her.

This is a generalization. If you're a "pretty low commitment for her," then something went wrong in your initial meeting or something just didn't line up. If you make a good impression, she'll be excited to communicate with you. Period.

It's totally dependent on the mood she's in when she sees it, and you know that women's emotions are generally unpredictable.

When you establish more command over yourself, make better impressions when you meet a girl, and number close girls that you really feel a mutual thing with, then you won't be dealing with "unpredictable" girls. You'll be screening them out. You're doing it wrong if you number close a girl who would be this way.

A text can easily be taken out of context.

That's why you stick to logistics with initial texts. You only run into this problem if you try to "game her" over text. That's not what texting is for.

The downside of the phone is that more often than not, from what I've found, they don't answer. So what I do is I call, if no answer, I skip the voicemail, call one more time, and if still no reply, then I'll text.

You could try this way, but keep in mind that you don't lose ground by opening with a text, but you might lose ground if you call her at an awkward time.

Anyone else experimented with this and how has it worked for you?

I have always used both phone calls and texts and lately with the busy girls I date lately, they are simply easier to communicate with over text during the day. I'm not overly attached to any particular method: I only care what works and what is convenient for them.

MGHOW_ATL · 2015-07-22T13:44:59+00:00

They never answer and it will go to vm, which she won't check anyway. Best bet these days is the damnable texting.

Disclosure -- old school phone guy here, adapt or die

Revuction · 2015-07-21T23:38:41+00:00

While it's true that texts are easy to misconstrue, you evade this problem by keeping your points short and to the point. Say hello in the first text, and arrange the date in the second.

You don't need to convey your personality because you've already done so; in the conversation, however brief, you had before you got her number. If she's attracted to you and wants more, she'll go for it whether you text or call.

Ask yourself this: Which approach is assuming attraction, and which one is trying to garner it?

Wecanbefriendsnow · 2015-07-21T22:16:12+00:00

What year is it?

I only answer the phone if it's work or a friend has asked if they can call.

If she likes you then she will respond.

By calling she may feel pressured and go out when she doesn't want to. Costing you money and time when she flakes later on.

myriad_truths · 2015-07-21T20:01:19+00:00

I'm interested in people's take on this. Texting has been enough for me so far, but a lot of the older people (30+) at work insist that talking to her on the phone to set a date will increase attraction much faster. What's you guys' take on this?

heretogetbetter · 2015-07-22T02:53:22+00:00

I love texting! Texting is so much fun and you know a girl has seen a text whereas if you call she probably won't answer. My only exception to this is to text her telling you that you are going to call and then call. Calling twice then sending her a text is inundating her and in my opinion looks needy. This day and age everyone texts. And if she likes you she will respond to a text.

Title	Phoning instead of texting
Author	PUA_101
Upvotes	5
Comments	9
Date	July 21, 2015 7:24 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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