I need help

Vijchti · 2011-01-31T05:10:31+00:00

I can't even begin to tell you how many girls I slept with -- and only slept with -- when I was younger. How frustrated and stupid I was...

I'm not going to give you any advice on what to do other than this: make a move, any move, and let her reject you if that's what needs to happen.

Because here's the alternative: you will hate yourself for lusting after a girl that you never do anything with. She will move on to someone else, probably because of your lack of balls, and you'll be jealous but you'll never tell her. You'll become jaded and passive-aggressive, you'll entertain thoughts of finally telling her how you feel, but the time for telling her will have passed.

So do yourself a favor and end it right now. Either kiss her and get on with it or forget her and move to someone else. You really don't have anything to lose since it's not her you're losing, just that vagina between your legs.

ThrowawayPUA · 2011-01-31T06:53:17+00:00

..i really dont want to lose her as a friend.

That is the risk you have to take, to get the girl. Only a chump would avoid the risk of "losing" the girl, despite the rewards of getting her. That is "scarcity mentality," it kills your game and puts you in the Friend Zone all by yourself. There are millions of women on this planet, but you like this one. There are plenty of women out there that you've never met and might love even more.

2011-01-31T04:57:33+00:00

You have fallen hard dude. Seems like you are pretty much friend-zoned. The only thing I can think of is to get physical with her the next time you are at a party together.

btw this post seems like something more appropriate to /r/dating_advice

Good luck bro.

wowitsazeppelin · 2011-01-31T05:16:15+00:00

The fact that you've slept in her bed is a good sign. Usually 'just friends' don't do that. I've got plenty of female friends and I've never slept in their bed without hooking up with them eventually.

I suggest you both get drunk and try to make a move. If she turns you down, blame it on the alcohol. At least then you'll know how she really feels. If it works out, congrats!

It might be slightly manipulative, but it gives you an easy out and avoids you spilling your guts (which you absolutely DO NOT want to do).

Delightful_White · 2011-02-01T03:53:54+00:00

This is cancer

Title	I need help
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	0
Comments	5
Date	January 31, 2011 3:31 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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