I need some advice on unlocking the potential I know I have.

Pit_Sweat · 2014-01-29T17:03:57+00:00

You just have to get past the good looks. You are (whether consciously or subconsciously) putting these girls on a pedestal, therefore you place a lot more pressure on yourself to perform, and that's where you come off as anxious and creepy (because you are).

There's really no better advice than to "just stop caring." There is no system override to get over it. Practice makes perfect. The more time you spend talking to pretty girls, the less you will be intimidated by their looks. Yes, you will mess up a lot at the beginning, but things will pick up.

One trick that I've used in the past is to pretend that the girl is my sister's best friend. A little creepy considering my sister is 15, but it works. That way, she's "off limits," but I'm still allowed to flirt with her and talk to her right? This takes the pressure off of me since I "know" I can't get with her anyway. But once I feel myself getting comfortable in the conversation and I sense that she's attracted to me, I turn the crutch off and it's on from there. Hope that made sense.

Alphadestrious · 2014-01-30T03:35:13+00:00

No fap, cold showers, meditation, intermittent fasting

Bukowsko · 2014-01-29T23:17:38+00:00

Spend more time talking to attractive girls you don't plan on having any relationship with as practice. Know deep down that you're a witty man who is worth getting to know. Talk to the girls you are attracted to like you would any other person, and talk to all people with the same respect and kindness you would with that/those woman/women you're after.(without ever being a pushover, you say what the fuck you feel is appropriate).

eyesofsaturn · 2014-01-30T00:35:08+00:00

Slowly condition yourself to talk with girls. Try starting out by asking something really pointless that most women will respond to, like "where's _?" even or "What time is it?", then work your way up to adding "how are you?" to that, and eventually, showing interest with "You're cute, so I thought I'd come over and meet you. How are you? I'm _," etc. You have to break your anxiety.

Mr-E-Relevont · 2014-01-30T10:59:31+00:00

rather than ceasing to give a fuck, which is very useful, try to mute the self dialogue that dwells on which people you find attractive. just treat everyone the same, it's very becoming.

lItsAutomaticl · 2014-01-30T13:43:35+00:00

I've been not looking at them as hot girls, but potential connections. Focus on them as people; look at an attractive girl and think to yourself "I wonder what she's all about", and then find an excuse to talk to her so you can find out. This connection is what drives hookups as well as marriages.

Shit helps me a lot.

2014-01-30T19:55:14+00:00

Here's the most important thing anyone will ever tell you about super hot girls:

If "normal" girls are finding you attractive and fun, then the Mecha-Hotties will too. They're just less likely to show it as obviously, and they'll make you jump through more hoops. This doesn't mean that they aren't interested.

Stone foxes get hit on all the time and don't feel that they need to go out on a limb for a guy, even if he is attractive enough and they like his personality. Don't get discouraged and press on. If you're getting positive attention from a lot of 7's but you're getting blown out by 9's, the problem is likely all in your head.

Title	I need some advice on unlocking the potential I know I have.
Author	ROSSIUS
Upvotes	13
Comments	10
Date	January 29, 2014 4:48 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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