I am 22 m college student who never had girlfriend and having trouble to find one. I consider myself in a harmful mindset which does not allow me to get a gf but don't know any cure for that. The problem is I can't find a girl is suitable for me. I am not too picky about the looks. I want someone to relate to, having similar interests, humour, view of life. I want someone that I can like in a romantic way but I can't find. I had very few attempts to made a gf. While everything going ok, I flaked every time because I thought this is not the one that I am looking.

I feel like I am chasing something that is impossible. To find the one, I have to search for it but I am not searching either. I lost my faith I guess. This is my 5th year in college. A lot of pressure of my friends on me to "why you are still single?" and 5 years of failure make me depressed.

I am doing ok in my life but this problem keep bothering me. Any advice on how to change my mindset?