Hi guys I've been lurking around this sub for a while but just know I can understand that my problem is I don't even know what to do when I realize a girl is flirting with me.

I used to do ok with girls when I was younger, I had my first kiss st arround 12, but It seems like since that time (I'm 19 now) I haven't learned anything about it at all.

When I was 13 I had to move to a bigger city and it had a huge impact in my life. I went from being that kid in school that everyone wants to be around, to a 'country guy with a weird accent. People didn't liked me cause I was different. I had a good self-esteem but when I went to my new school some guys were jealous at me and liked to make fun of me or talk bad about me in front of girls. I was told a lot of things that had a huge impact in my mental health leading me to depression and anxiety that I still have to deal to this day. I was told a lot of mean things and only today I can see that even tough at that time it didn't affected me, it kinda grew on me.

Now I'm in college and sex is becoming a normal thing to talk about and I don't even know how to approach a girl who is clearly flirting with me. Something in my mind tells me that I can't handle it cause... I don't know.

But I kinda see what happened with me... while every guy was going out, practicing their game I was hiding my self with either games or weed cause the real world was too painful for me. I didn't used to be shy now I tell often that I'm too quiet. I think my personality has changed and I can't go back to who I was. But I don't want to be that person anymore.

I have some female friends, I'm someone I would consider 'easy to talking to but when it comes to making the move I just don't know what to do.

For example: there have being situations where I would hang out with a couple of friends and another girl. We would have some nice initial conversation than I would get quiet and stuck in "I don't know what to do here" even tought we were alone in a living room. It happened twice with different people .

Another situation: I was at friends house who is a veteran in college (he is 2 years ahead of me) and there was this girl that is exactly my type, just about to finish graduation. I started a conversation with her, she even got up to come close to me so we could talk better, she shit tested me, which I did okay. She even put her hands on my leg while we we're talking. After that I just don't know what to do, I don't knew what to say so she got bored and just leaves the party. A similar situation happened under similar conditions

Another situation happened 3 weeks ago. This girl that Is just gorgeous and I always wanted to talk to ran up to me at a party and said "Can you help me? I'm lost" and we had a little talk I gave her some directions and she left cause I did nothin and she got bored

So yeah, what can I do to improve my game and finally made the move.

I need your help reddit