Title really says it all.

There seems to be a recurring theme in the advice in this subreddit, in which even the slightest disrespect from a woman, even in the very early stages of a relationship is grounds for immediately torpedoing the relationship. I disagree with this take.

There are almost no women out there who will simply treat you with respect just because you are a person. Indeed, most women have, even at a young age, been badly burned by men who confuse politeness and respect for sexual interest. Furthermore, any beautiful woman has been showered with so much attention that it is only to be expected that she will take it, and those who give it for granted. Add to that a noxious form of modern feminism whereby any decent treatment of a man by a woman can be excused as "male entitlement" and you have a recipe for a degree of callousness towards men by women.

If you have not done anything to show that you deserve respect than you cannot expect to receive it. This actually is male entitlement, women are well aware that until a personal relationship is formed they are generally treated as objects. Approaching, getting a number or even getting agreement to a date do not qualify as things worthy of respect.

I am not arguing against setting boundaries, nor am I arguing for letting women walk all over you. I am saying that if you are limiting your dating pool to sweet, respectful, kind, innocent and beautiful women, then you had better go join the Mormon church and be in it to get married because you will not find that shit. If however you put up with some nonsense at the start you may find a sweet, kind and caring woman, who was just late to a date or got anxious about going out with you because you come off like a player.

From a game theory perspective the exercise of a nuclear option "ie cut all contact" serves you no benefit. Far better to continue to try and if she is actually horrible, hit it and quit it, or, and more likely, you find that she is erratic and neurotic because the modern world is completely fucking insane, but is very capable of respect and loyalty after a reasonable investment from you.

You are not entitled to anything from anyone, and acting like you are is not helping you get laid. Don't confuse having self respect for protecting a fragile ego. You will not fucking die if a woman flakes on you one time, or is late sometimes. You are not perfect, and if you expect her to forgive and accept you you have to extend the same courtesy. Eventually you're gonna expect this girl to swallow your cum, it's up to you to lead and create a frame where you both are important enough to each other to forgive.