I am by no means a seddit expert. In the last month my greatest results were a #-close and some Tinder conversations. But my inner game has changed a lot and I notice it in my interactions. This is what changed for me, maybe it can help you.
From all the reading and experience that I have had so far the key to seduction is complete and utter confidence. It has to be present for any of the other techniques to work. Carefully controlled as to not extend into douchiness or assholeishness confidence is the secret weapon. Now this is probably the hardest thing to just "gain" for awkward guys or inexperienced guys because well that's exactly what they don't have. For me every time I did make a move it was a weak and a desperate attempt. No girl is going to like that and so I never had any success. I attributed it to my self-confidence and as a result my problem got worse.
Best advice anyone gives seems to be just to break through the wall with sheer practice and numbers. That takes a lot of guts to just start jumping after every opportunity you see. I tried that and went to a mall and just tried to pick up some chicks. I ended up embarrassing myself in front of my best friend after 3 attempts and didn't try again for months. The thing is Perfect practice makes perfect not just lots of practice. If you go out and miss 300 tennis serves you are only reinforcing a bad serve (tennis player best analogy I had). You need to look at your form and adjust into a serve that gets in then practice.
Key part: The issue is not a lack of confidence problem. It’s not that you don’t know how to be confident. It is a focus on FEAR problem. Whenever you see that HB10 your heart leaps into your throat thinking about how you might fuck up any situation with her. And that isn't your fault or her fault, it's just how your brain is wired right now. The effort you need to make is changing that reaction using imagery and belief. What has been helping me is constant and regular imagery. When I find myself in a free moment I close my eyes and picture a pickup situation. I see the girl at the bookstore, the beautiful babe at the beach, whatever situation. And I picture what I want to be like in that situation, a funny interesting guy who knows just what to say. You may do this already, but the KEY part of doing this imagery is feeling belief. You need to feel like “Wow I really can do that”. Picture it over and over again and say “I will be like that. I will do that.” Realize that it is just as easy in your little scenario as in real life. If you really do go up to that girl and smile at her and talk to her you will get her interest. Women are attracted to men who are confident and comfortable in themselves. You don’t have to have a six pack, you just need to be so comfortable in your skin that she wants to feel it.
Here Tony Robbins describes this process of dealing with FEAR in pursuing goals but I think it applies here for seduction as well. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zoN0D337GaA
P.s. : First time poster, long timer lurker (1 year). I read through the post guide and don't think I screwed anything up. If I did, just msg me and I'll do my best to correct it.
Edit: Well downvoted from the start. Wish I at least had some discussion with the downvote.
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