In my past i was really needy, got nervous, bottled up my feelings and lied to myself and to others just to get women to like me.

The last few years i worked a lot on myself, but really only for women. I made a lot of progress, but it was tough as nails to get where i am now.

Last year i was beginning on working on being more honest, and that did the trick. But it was a rocky but exciting road slowly getting more honest, and the women in my life just loved it. all my insecurities were met with a warm embrace, if i was just being honest.

So now i met a girl, went on a few dates, i felt like a natural, afterall i learnt a lot about what women like and combined my honesty, it was just easy. I escalated just naturally. When there was resistance, i was bold. We kissed, she liked it. the next step would be inviting her over to my house. You know what im talking about. Smooth sailing. from here.

But i cant really imagine being in a relationship with her. I told her exactly that. She is a good person and deserves honesty. In my past i would have lied to her and to myself, just for sex, but i realised, that i no longer need external validation. The need is simply gone. Being honest did the trick for me. Afterall i want a healthy relationship with a girl i truly like, and i wont settle for less, afterall i am happy just by myself. It took a long time to get here, but it was worth it. my past self would have killed me for passing off sex. But isnt passing of sex for your true and honest values the most attractive thing a man can do?😉 I used to pass sex off in the past, but that came from insecurity. Now its different.

Cheers