I'm not fully comfortable with my sexuality/masculinity?

KaryotypicalAnomaly · 2015-06-27T22:18:27+00:00

how do I get over this?

Your coming from a place of need, which is inherently unattractive. Your putting the girls you approach on a pedestal, so don't be shocked when they look down on you.

When you approach a girl, don't think of it as, "what can I do/say to get her in bed with me!". That's how desperate men think, and nobody likes a needy man. Instead, think of it as, "I'm offering this random girl a chance to have fun with a charming guy."

You have to offer her something, and make her realize that if she doesn't take it, it's her loss, not yours. There's a billion other girls just like her, your not going to run out of girls to approach anytime soon. Nothing turns on a girl more than a man who knows his own value.

Also, stop thinking that you don't have a right to be sexual with girls. If you like a girl, go ahead and look at her tits. Put your arm around her and flirt. Stop seeking approval for going after what you want.

ThrowawayPUA · 2015-06-27T22:57:35+00:00

You need more sexual confidence. This is totally separate from confidence. Confidence helps you approach. Sexual confidence helps you escalate and seduce.

You might like this video from the 21 Convention by Daniel Rose about sexual confidence.

KaryotypicalAnomaly · 2015-06-27T22:32:47+00:00

I dealt with the same issue for a large part of my teenage life. Not just trying to seduce, just in general conversation. Your goal shouldn't be seduction.

Better yourself in every way that you can possibly see. Lift. Have conversations with females you are not attracted to in order to get rid of that gendershock that most males in this day are plagued with. Don't be afraid of rejection. If it happens, OH WELL. Learned experience for the next time.

Their act of hating men is an act to attract weak males that only want to serve. Any couple, whether it be for marriage or a one night hookup, should be based on the fact that you make each other better. If you want to full on court her, be confident. If you want to screw her once and be done, be confident.

You also don't know her past experiences. You don't NEED to know her past experiences with men that cause this hate. Just be the absolute best you can. Build something positive.

Your voice change happens from being nervous, and it just compounds when it happens. Don't focus on it. Keep rolling, she will forget. If you don't bring attention to it, she won't either. If it does, laugh it off. If you are just feeling froggy, tell her it only happens around attractive women.

M3_Drifter · 2015-06-28T00:19:57+00:00

You lack self-esteem. The fastest way to get over it is to tell that nagging voice to get the fuck out of your life. Of course, it won't do that, so you do the adult thing and ignore it. Then you go talk to those women. Because you don't let that spineless chump in your ear tell you what to do. You're a man and you do whatever the fuck you want.

Of course, you are probably not going to fuck them. But that's not the goal, right? The goal is to ignore the voice and approach these women anyway.

When you can do that, THEN you can make a new goal, which might be fucking one, or just getting their number.

Title	I'm not fully comfortable with my sexuality/masculinity?
Author	aneurysm-p
Upvotes	12
Comments	5
Date	June 27, 2015 9:56 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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