Inner Game Help

2013-01-01T01:55:49+00:00

One of my friends looks like a model,however the other guy is not that attractive looking

When I read this, I have to question if you're truly understanding inner game. Having a great inner game is entirely inconsequential of being attractive. Even models may have no confidence, low self-esteem, etc.

Inner game is about being happy with yourself inconsequential of others. But it seems here you're more commenting about specifically AA than general inner game issues. The best advice on this front is to dive in the deep end. You're not going to get over approaching women by sitting at the bar watching your mates do their thing.

You can look at it as what's the worst thing that could happen. She flat out rejects you. Then think, so what? Why care about getting rejected by one girl. There are plenty of others (better) out there just waiting to be hit on by you.

You can also look at it as what's going to happen if you don't approach her. You should be having fun inconsequential of whether or not you get with a girl any given night, but will you look back retrospectively and be annoyed at yourself for wasting a potential opportunity? Most likely. Are you going to let your anxiety bring up that feeling of regret time and time over? (There was a wonderful video about this a while back, detailing a theoretical situation of what could happen if a guy approached a girl at a train stop. I can't seem to find it now, but if I come across it later I'll let you know.) Found it!

VZPurp · 2013-01-01T03:00:11+00:00

Go solo. It's easier when you don't have your friends as a crutch.

TheAtomicOption · 2013-01-02T07:44:36+00:00

PUAnick does a good job of pointing out the correct definition of inner game.

Speaking to a girl when you haven't ever done it can be a big step. Any time you have serious trouble try scaling back a bit. Go for a walk at the mall or some other crowded place. Your goal is to smile at any woman who makes eye contact. Hot, average, fat doesn't matter. Keep walking so it doesn't get weird or escalate to something you're not comfortable with.

Then when you're comfortable doing that, see if you can hold eye contact and smile until she looks away. Do this all the time. See if you can do it 50 times so you're absolutely comfortable looking at and smiling at a woman before you add things one at a time like saying "hi" as you pass and eventually working up to full interactions.

Your goal isn't to meet one woman yet. Your goal is to practice the first step on as many women as possible so that you become comfortable with it.

Title	Inner Game Help
Author	Guerro22
Upvotes	0
Comments	3
Date	January 1, 2013 1:03 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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