Interactions always awkward at first.

SedditJM · 2014-12-01T17:55:07+00:00

I think that this is an instance of temporary sticking, not a systematic failure.

You're 2 weeks clean from opiates- it's going to take some time to get back to a baseline brain chemistry and start really feeling normal. Part of that is learning to function within this different state of consciousness. It's actually not that different from someone weaning themselves of f using alcohol regularly when approaching except... Y'know... You're dealing with narcotics rehabilitation.

Which brings me to my second point. That's fucking amazing man, good on you. You have every right to feel great about yourself, so give it some time for this to set in. I would expect that as you settle into your life change you will gain back your lost confidence plus more for having accomplished such a task. Game as much as you feel comfortable with but allow yourself some leeway in terms of expectations for the time being.

jibdaddy · 2014-12-01T17:55:36+00:00

I see myself as very similar to you. I consider myself funny and outgoing, but unless I'm drunk and in a comfortable setting I have a hard time conveying that right away. In my experience, I've found being with a good mix of some of your closer friends along with new people makes it easier to express your social competence. And then as the night goes on it becomes easier to isolate a girl in conversation show your value. This probably isn't much help since I struggle in the same way, but best of luck! And I hope new comments can help us both!

WhosCountin · 2014-12-01T21:31:01+00:00

Yep, when I was doing opiates in highschool I managed to go from being a virgin to banging some other guy's girlfriend in less than a week because I saw her at a coffee shop and just walked up and started messing with her book or something.

I had a friend who shot himself in the head because of a terrible opiate addiction, so needless to say, they're not something I ever touch anymore.

I think the takeaway from the drugged up success is that being an idiot is fine a lot of the time. Being on drugs definitely doesn't make people more clever, it just makes them more willing to be idiots, which can be fun and entertaining. Obviously past a point that doesn't work (like with total drunken retards), but if you're willing to just say and do whatever you want, it'll probably go better than you think. I still haven't been able to totally embody this mindset, but just try to remember that the drugs didn't make you social, they just took away the barrier of self-doubt that prevents you from being your social self - if that makes sense.

Plus, as another poster mentioned, your brain chemistry has some healing to do which isn't going to help things. The fact that you're quitting this shit is way more important than anything, and everything else will get better and better as time goes on. It's so easy to let drugs take away your inhibitions and anxieties, but they end up taking EVERYTHING away. A few more years on opiates and I'd bet the social boost would be overshadowed by being totally fried.

Title	Interactions always awkward at first.
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Date	December 1, 2014 4:47 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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