Is she really too busy?

axe122 · 2019-09-29T12:35:02+00:00

Sorry to hear you were cheated on I would need more details but I could almost predict if you told me about your ex, you were probly always the one texting her doing all the work , you were probly the only one making sacrifices to see her like if you had work the next day or were dead tired you’ll suck it up to hang with her but not the other way around? If this is the case she was staying with you until she met someone new who kept her interest. It sucks but she wasn’t a good girl anyway if she cheats a lot of girls will do tho same thing but won’t cheat, have you ever seen a friend get dumped and his ex is in a relationship working a week? She may not have cheated but she met someone new and was done with the guy a long time ago, she just didn’t wanna be alone and was waiting for someone new to come along. Many girls do this until you change your behaviors and start acting more assertive and dominant then you will be their best option and because they can’t have their way with you they will always be chasing you for your attention instead of the other way around. It took me till about 30 to really grasp this mentality and the now I pick and choose which girl I want as a gf if any of them instead of before I’d be happy to be picked and would be fearful of losing them cuz it took so long to find a girl that I’d end up chasing her away without even realizing it.

Drebodollaz · 2019-09-29T19:57:40+00:00

They’re never too busy.

IKarlloos · 2019-09-29T10:25:58+00:00

my bad then...

axe122 · 2019-09-29T11:56:22+00:00

She’s very low interest. Girls will always make time for romance sex love and a guy they are interested in. I don’t have a ton of info but if you didn’t kiss her and then were chasing her you probly turned her off.

axe122 · 2019-09-29T12:07:05+00:00

Also if she’s older than you she’s got a lot more experience with guys and women don’t like to be chased or see neediness in a guy it turns them off like crazy. If you didn’t kiss her it probly read as low confidence or lack of interest on your part and then when you kept asking her out you were obviously interested so she just read it as lack of confidence. The only thing I could say is try one more time after a few weeks but be more aggressive, instead of writing a nice formal invitation for drinks or food write something more like “hey serious question I gotta ask you and I need a serious answer!” If she she responds you know she’s probly a 5 outa 10 interest she might just say “what’s the question “ you can try being a little more aggressive like “when are you bringing your sexy little ass over for drinks and food”or whatever you wanna do, at this point it probly won’t work and that’s a hail Mary but if you keep doing what your doing you’ll keep getting the same results. You’ll prolly be better off moving on getting some new girls and when she sees you with new girls she’ll want you again. Your younger than her she probly thought you were cute and high value when you were with your ex cuz why else would you have a girl if you weren’t high value male? Younger girls will tolerate a guy who texts them all day and who chases them way more than a girl who’s in her mid - late 20s, I believe that’s one of the main reasons girls date guy older than them they don’t want to teach a man how to be a man, they just want you to know what to do and how to handle them,keep their attention and not come off as desperate and needy. Good luck man I’m not saying this to discourage you, I’m saying this cuz it’s most likely the truth if a girl cancels a date but doesn’t offer a date to reschedule she’s not really busy she just doesn’t wanna waist her time. I don’t want you to waste your time getting hung up on someone who’s not interested, a lot of guys get fixated on a girl and waste a ton of opportunities because the girl they really like keeps saying she’s busy and they are waiting for her to be free. She’s just tying to not hurt your feelings cuz she probly likes you as a friend or thinks you were sweet but didn’t spark attraction with her or displayed needy behavior and it turned her off. Don’t get hung up o.n this girl your young move on and fuck new girls, she’ll come back around.

axe122 · 2019-09-29T12:27:18+00:00

If I said cry I meant chase you probly chased the new girl without realizing it. It can be subtle most guys don’t even think they were doing it but if your reaching out to her everyday texting her even if she’s responding she will slowly lose interest because she already knows she has you and unless she really wants you physically she doesn’t have to sleep with you to get your attention. She has to feel like she earned you for you to have value in her eyes.

axe122 · 2019-09-29T12:55:41+00:00

Yeah read the book how to be a 3% man by Corey Wayne will explain a lot to you! It really helped me I’m the beginning of my journey get a basic grasp on what women actually respond to. You don’t have to be a dick to them I treat them great but my ex was a former beauty queen and I was the one who ended the relationship cuz she was a bad communicator and I didn’t feel she was valuing my time. 5 years ago I woulda stayed with a girl I wasn’t even that interested in physically but liked her cuz she liked me. Basically you gotta be non reactive to everything and not put up with any bullshit when she gets jealous and all that you end it and move on cuz you respect yourself and value yourself more than you value her. It’s not easy to get this mindset but once you start practicing certain new behaviors and realize they actually work it’s really not that hard to adapt your current personality to them. Most of it is just don’t let the girl push you around, don’t try and seek her approval or be a pleaser and don’t chase her.

optimal981 · 2019-09-29T09:58:49+00:00

She’s your ex for a reason, even if she was trying to meet up with you, you shouldn’t be thinking/spending so much time with her, you do you brother

Is she really too busy?

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Title	Is she really too busy?
Author	IKarlloos
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Comments	31
Date	September 29, 2019 9:35 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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