I don't know what to type since it's my first time posting on here, but I wanted to share that everything sort of clicked tonight (and in hindsight it has clicked multiple times previously but now I have the experience to say what works and doesn't I guess). Talk about a guy who had effectively shut himself off from romance to focus on work the past 3 months, I go on a spontaneous boys outing tonight, and in addition to having fun, end up having a very nice evening with a beautiful and intelligent girl that I can confidently say shares personality capabilities and interests.

How did this happen? Well like the best of things: when I wasn't looking for it. Just struck up a conversation, teasing, her initiating conversation, and then dancing etc. It wasn't like the girl had low self confidence or wasn't being approached by other guys. It just happened.

Now this is a singular example, but basically to sum up the many articles, posts, psychology studies, it boils down to this: if you focus on your life and health, the only thing left is just to be ballsy and friendly (remember the ballsy bit) with light teasing. Most of the time the other person is simply waiting for you to make your move.

I can break down detailed steps, background, interactions and power dynamics etc (both online and irl) , if people are interested, but that would be a separate post. Just wanted to share some positivity with the community and thank you all for having me. World is your oyster. Ciao.