Im someone who's had his on off moments with women, never on bad terms with anyone etc. But I realize my assertiveness is shit and altho it has marginally improved it is nowhere near where it should be. I grew up in a culture being taught touching a girl was like rape, and it wasn't til later where you get accustomed to friendly touches.

Anyways, I went clubbing tn after months of just working, and before I could approach this girl I saw someone else did and was succeeding very well. Something just got triggered inside me in the worst way and I found it better to leave. I just want to know if someone has felt that, if they relate and how they have overcome/succeeded. It's a fine balance bc in clubs you can be more assertive whereas other places maybe not, and at this point I don't want to waste my youth not knowing. M23 btw. Just want someone to talk to like a big brother that I didn't have.