Hi! Just a very quick field report: was dancing with a girl in a club, getting closer and closer, just having a good time. I felt a bit uncomfortable as I was trying to escalate (maybe fear of rejection, lack of confidence or just shyness, I don't know), but I decided I won't pussy out so I went in for the kiss.

She dodged it.

I didn't succeed but it was a good experience overall. I knew what was going on, she knew what was going on, she just probably didn't feel like it. The main point I want to make is that it wasn't awkward at all. Up until now I always waited until I was sure, leading to some moments where retrospectively I could have went for something and I didn't. I thought I would cringe from a rejection like this, but the thing is, regret is much worse.

I'm saying this for those who have a problem with this part, not only approach approach approach, as is the motto of this sub (maybe after "don't shit where you eat"), but don't forget to escalate escalate and close close, too. Regret is worse than rejection with these two, too.

In the end it was getting late and I had to be somewhere in the morning, so I went home and she stayed with some friends. I don't think I'll pursue her, as I'm fairly busy nowadays, but I'm sure we'll meet again sometime.

So, point is, regret is worse than rejection not only in the case of approach, but at any stage.